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To get my belly button pierced at nearly 40?

(54 Posts)
Alphabetsy Sat 23-Feb-13 21:36:58

After a lot of hard work finally got my flat tummy back 3 years after youngest dc. Now heading towards by 40th b'day and want to do something different. Always been quite conservative - no tatoos or crazy hair styles. DH turned his nose right up at the suggestion saying 'you're 40 not 20'!! Should I do it anyway? Like to wear bikinis on hol and in pool etc.
Ps is it painful and prone to infection if done properly and how long to heal?

mummywizz Sat 23-Feb-13 21:38:23

Please don't, I think it looks horrible if you're 20 too.

howdoo Sat 23-Feb-13 21:39:22

I think you should do it! You can always take it out again.

Personally I would never do it, as my belly button went farking weird after my pregnancies and I can never wear a bikini again because of it...

mermaidbutmytailfelloff Sat 23-Feb-13 21:40:50

I did. I now have several holes in my ears too and two tattoos....and I had none before I was 40

MrsPennyapple Sat 23-Feb-13 21:44:07

Yes, it is painful to have pierced, as it goes through quite a lot of flesh compared to other piercings. Mine did also take a long time to heal. IIRC it's ten weeks until you can change the jewellery, but mine was not totally healed by then. It's not prone to infection, it's easy enough to keep clean, but it's also very easy to catch on clothes / bedding, or in the shower. I only kept mine about a year, as I just found it too annoying catching on things all the time.

Whilst I would say it's up to you, if you like how it looks and you want it doing, who's to say you shouldn't? I'd also have to say honestly, with the benefit of hindsight I wouldn't get it done.

WishIdbeenatigermum Sat 23-Feb-13 21:45:56

Go for it! I surprised DD14, by saying go for it. It's the perfect piercing as you never have to show it, unlike a tattoo you can 'disappear' it if you wish.
And congrats on having the tummy for it. grin

apostropheuse Sat 23-Feb-13 21:46:57

YANBU to do it if YOU want it. It's your body and you can do what you like with it.

I think they're horrible though - especially on middle-aged women.

Sorry!

changeforthebetter Sat 23-Feb-13 21:53:48

Aww,do it! I had my belly button pierced when I was 30 and it looked great. I took it out when pg with DD1. It healed up (and I can't imagine crop tops now but yay to you with a flat stomach!) I think they look great. Your H might just be pigeonholing you too quickly into "safe mum" mode?

TraineeBabyCatcher Sat 23-Feb-13 21:56:26

Personally I don't like any belly button piercings but age shouldn't stop you doing it if you fancy it.
I've just decided to get my ears pierced now I just have to pluck up the courage to go get them done.

changeforthebetter Sat 23-Feb-13 21:56:35

It didn't hurt btw. Look, I would rather chew my arm off than have a a tattoo but each to their own. I don't look down on people with tattoos. Besides, a belly button piercing is not exactly public for the majority of the year n the UK grin

livinginwonderland Sat 23-Feb-13 21:58:16

do it! i got mine done two years ago. it was painful for about two seconds while it was done and it was tender for a couple of days, but after that, it's fine if you get it done properly, at a proper studio.

HeathRobinson Sat 23-Feb-13 21:59:00

Why not? smile
I've just had my ears repierced and I'm a good deal older than you.

MrsPoglesWood Sat 23-Feb-13 21:59:12

I had mine done when I was mid 30s and I still love it now I'm mid 40s. It really didn't hurt at all and I'm the world's biggest wuss! Didn't take too long to heal and didn't get infected. The only odd thing is that it did used to get very sensitive for a day or so when I was on my period but the paperwork they gave me did explain that might happen. Am on Cerazette now and don't have periods anymore so no more senstivity. Go for it! If you don't like it you can always take it out.

WorraLiberty England Sat 23-Feb-13 22:02:00

I think they can look nice on the right person usually young people

But never on a saggy belly button.

Even the slimmest of people can have droopy/saggy belly buttons like mine and I don't think they suit a piercing.

YANBU at any age to consider this <sniffs>

bedmonster Sat 23-Feb-13 22:03:17

Well, you are damn right to be proud of getting your tummy to a stage you are pleased with, many of us know how tough it can be, so a huge well done for that.
However, my personal opinion is that it looks a bit mutton dressed as lamb, sorry!!

But then, they aren't permanent like tattoos so if you do get it done, you will be able to remove it when you see your reflection! grin sorry, am in a silly mood, please don't take offence.

Wolfiefan Sat 23-Feb-13 22:04:39

I'm with Worra. I wouldn't but that's because if I bent over my tummy would swallow a piercing. If you have a lovely flat tum then what's the issue. My sis had hers done and she looks lovely in a bikini.

FannyBazaar Sat 23-Feb-13 22:08:27

I was over 40 when I had mine done! It bloody hurt, somehow I was just expecting some initial pain and then no more. I wouldn't do it again shock. What I wasn't prepared for was missing baths while it healed, which can be slow. Mine took about 4 months to heal, it would settle down then get a bit inflamed if I wore clothes that rode up over it. With the colder weather I found that skirts and tights combinations were tricky to wear at first and lacy/fish net tights can catch on it.

LHW123 Sat 23-Feb-13 22:10:45

hi there

my advice would be to not get pierced.

a nice flat stomach is good enough in itself !

I just think that belly button piercings are really dated now - very early 1990's.

(I had mine done 3 times, so i'm not against it per se, I just think it would make you look quite dated and naff now).

Leave your stomach as it is - a flat (unpierced stomach is timeless !

JeffFaFa Sat 23-Feb-13 22:13:30

I had mine done as a teen it hurt, it got a little infected but was sorted relatively easily, the hole ripped in pregnancy though and i now have a big scar through my belly button never to be shown again sad

discobeaver Sat 23-Feb-13 22:14:34

I think your DH may be feeling a bit insecure about your lovely flat tummy and now you want to put something sparkly in it and other men might see it. And like it.
If you fancy doing it then get it done. It's your tummy!

Flisspaps Sat 23-Feb-13 22:28:17

MIL had hers done, I think when she was 40.

Each to their own wink

Do it! grin I think it looks fab, and your age doesn't have anything to do with it.....if you're thin enough that you can see the stud, then do it. It's not just for people who have totally flat tummies.

ILikeBirds Sun 24-Feb-13 15:36:43

I had mine done 14 years ago (saying that makes me feel old). In contrast to others, I'd say it's the least painful piercing I've ever had, didn't hurt at all and was only tender if I caught it on clothing in the initial healing period.

Go for it if you want it, you can always take it out again. Just find a decent piercer to do it.

PessaryPam Sun 24-Feb-13 15:53:07

I know someone who did this at your age and then their marriage fell apart. I think it is a symptom of something deeper going on.

fluffyraggies England Sun 24-Feb-13 16:02:33

I had a friend do this when she was 39, and with an average sort of tummy, neither fat nor flat. She had allot or trouble with it. She seemed to spend more time 'dealing' with the darn thing (cant wear this 'cos it's tender again etc) than enjoying it.

Personally i think it's looks a bit ''i'm so young'', a little WAG, and yes, a bit dated now.

I didn't think any the less of my friend for getting it done. She's taken it out now. I think it was a rebellion against the big *four 0*looming.

hermioneweasley Sun 24-Feb-13 16:11:21

I had mine done in my 20s so still have it now I am middle aged.
they are prone to infection, and being wonky. My GP was surprised that I had one and had never had to see her due to infection as she sees so many. I washed mine in salt water twice a day for 6 weeks afterwards which was time consuming.

Pain - I was so high on adrenaline that I didn't feel a thing. But they are actually coring out flesh so I imagine it has the potential to be painful!

ENormaSnob Sun 24-Feb-13 16:13:55

I think they look very dated now.

And tbh, I don't think it's a great look for a 40 year old.

But, if it makes you happy and you like it then that's all that matters.

LouiseFisher Sun 24-Feb-13 16:15:11

Go for it! it will look fabulous and make you happy!

gingeme Sun 24-Feb-13 16:15:20

Go for It. As long as you Go to a reputable studio (better if its been recomended) do the after care exactly as your told who cares about your age. Life begins at 40 grin. I have many tattoos and with the money I got for my 40th I had a full back piece done and am still adding to It at the age of 42 smile

FellatioNels0n Sun 24-Feb-13 16:15:58

Yes. Unless you are Madonna. And even then it's probably best not to.

ImNotaPheasantPlucker Sun 24-Feb-13 16:19:24

I was 40ish when I had mine done and felt such a rebel after being such a good girl for all those years! Ten years later and I hardly notice it's there

LayMizzRarb Sun 24-Feb-13 17:47:30

Your body. Your choice. End of.

perplexedpirate Sun 24-Feb-13 17:50:06

Go for it. It would only be unreasonable to pierce someone else's naval for your birthday.
Unless you are, of course, a piercist.
smile

FellatioNels0n Sun 24-Feb-13 17:51:19

Your body. You choice. End of.

I can't believe someone actually typed that. That is one of those cliches I hear about on MN all the time, but I always thought it was a joke. Like plasma TVs and goats.

Why not smile

I pierced mine myself with a mattress needle and bonjela age 14 so it can't hurt that much grin - it did get infected though and I had to have it repierced several times hmm.

It never really worked for me as it didn't heal properly because that's exactly where I fold and it rubbed everytime I bent.

You can always just take it out if you decide you don't want it anymore.

FellatioNels0n Sun 24-Feb-13 18:05:13

Oh god that is bloody grim. Why do teenagers do this? confused It's not like you can't get it done relatively safely and painlessly on every high street, is it?

I had mine done but took it out when I was pregnant (would have kept it but kept forgetting to get a retainer).

It DOES hurt, and it is prone to infection, mine took about 3 months to heal properly. Going swimming in the end sorted it out (chlorine etc)

BelleDameSansMerci Sun 24-Feb-13 18:49:29

I had mine done when I was 38. It healed quite quickly and was fine right thought pregnancy, etc. Only change is that post pregnancy I needed a shorter bar.

Go for it.

BelleDameSansMerci Sun 24-Feb-13 18:49:47

Right through pregnancy...

buttercrumble Sun 24-Feb-13 18:51:28

Dont do it.......

znaika Sun 24-Feb-13 19:20:11

I'm with LHW- so 90s why would anyone do this nowadays? passe (can't do accents), naff and fundamentally uncool...Sorry- but you did ask!

ILikeBirds Sun 24-Feb-13 19:53:37

I am triple-y uncool

photo

grin

pinkyredrose Sun 24-Feb-13 19:57:28

Love your piercings ilikebirds !

OP go for it, it's your body you get to decorate it as you please.

SonOfAradia Sun 24-Feb-13 20:08:37

Do it!

Women with piercings are fab.

DW used to have a pierced clit (vertical bar) and it was great, apart from from the clacking on the teeth got a bit much after the first half hour.

FannyBazaar Sun 24-Feb-13 20:17:36

Oh no, now I'm wishing someone had told me it was uncool and so 90's before I had mine done grin. I think I'm past being cool so it kind of goes well with me.

As a matter of interest, what is cool these days that I could have done instead?

specialsubject Sun 24-Feb-13 20:22:26

up to you - but it's hardly 'different'.

Hullygully Sun 24-Feb-13 20:23:32

yuk yuk yuk yuk yuk

PuffPants Sun 24-Feb-13 20:29:30

If it makes you happy, do it!

Personally, I think it's gross and can't imagine anyone over the age of 20 doing it. But I think all piercings are grim outside of ears. I once knew a girl with a nose ring and it literally turned my stomach to see it.

SirBoobAlot Sun 24-Feb-13 20:34:36

Do it! Worst case scenario, you don't like it, you take it out.

I had mine one, miss it.

ThePinkOcelot Sun 24-Feb-13 20:36:25

Go for it! I got mine done again last year at the ripe old age of 43 (took first one out when pregnant with DD1 and couldn't get it back in). And if you've got the stomach for it, flaunt it!!

Fellatio - I know but I'd have to have waited an extra 2 years to have it done professionally (I think 16 is the legal age for piercings some are 18 I believe)

I really hope my dd doesn't do anything so silly!

CatelynStark Sun 24-Feb-13 21:00:26

I had mine done when I was 37 - I took the bar out after a couple of years because it kept catching on my belt buckle. Uck! I say go for it - why not? smile

MissBrown Sun 24-Feb-13 21:39:24

I am 35 and had mine done at 18. I wore it through 3 pg but I don't have it in now because my post 3 dc's is a bit porky. Not massive but enough to make it sore when bending over a lot.

I do, however, wear a nose stud, an upper ear stud and have a couple of tattoos (nothing visible). I am a teacher and no one takes any offence. I think I look funny without them! The kids like it and my colleagues don't ever mention it.

I definitely think you should have it done. You may not like it, but you can always remove it. You maybe left with a scar though. Mine didn't hurt a lot, I think they freeze-sprayed it, but it took ages to heal.

I might work on my tummy and try to wear it again, I still have some pretty jewellery for it. Good luck.

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