My name is NOT Julie...

(146 Posts)
ApplyYourself Fri 22-Feb-13 17:53:28

So I am reasonably friendly with a mum at the school. Our DC are both 6 and we have known each other for 16 or so months. Our kids play together in the holidays, do a club together and have tea etc, so a fair amount of contact.

I'm called Julia. She has always, ALWAYS called me Julie. I have corrected her twice over the months. Nicely but emphatically. The first time she said it I smiled and said ' It's Julia or Jules, either of those is fine, ' and the second time I just said ' Eeek! I don't like Julie.. it's julia! ' again with a smile. I have also corrected her son in front of her when he has said it.

She is the sort who use your name A LOT. And still she says Julie.

So.. would this irritate you? Annoy you? Not bother you?

It annoys the FUCK out of me grin

Yep that would boil my piss. Especially as you've corrected her.

Your thread title make me think of this though grin

Not bother me. I have a name that people constantly mispronounce. I don't particularly like the mispronunciation but figure it is pretty tiny in the scheme of things and roll with it. People don't do it on purpose. I generally only correct if it is important or people ask.

There's a bloke at work with me who does the same thing to me.

He keeps saying it and I keep saying "no it's Julia" AND HE DOESN'T FUCKING LISTEN and he says my name over and over and over like he's making a point.

I feel your pain.

ShatnersBassoon Fri 22-Feb-13 17:58:45

I have a name that is often misheard or misremembered. I don't get wound up by it, and usually don't correct people in case I embarrass them. I can live with it.

I only correct those that I want to make feel stupid grin

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord Fri 22-Feb-13 18:00:26

It would annoy me.

People often say my name wrong its similar to a much more boring name.

It irritates the hell out of me.

ApplyYourself Fri 22-Feb-13 18:01:29

But is the name Julia so difficult to hear? It's completely different to julie- especially when you have corrected the person several times.

Heh heh re deaf granny

I'm Julie. Most people in work either call me Julia or Ciara hmm meh

ImNotaPheasantPlucker Fri 22-Feb-13 18:02:21

I know someone who repeatedly calls me Ruth - nowhere near my name! I don't know where she got that from. It makes me smile inside every time.

thebody Fri 22-Feb-13 18:03:28

You know my ds had a girlfriend called Kathy. His ex was Katie and I managed to get her name wrong all the time.

She was katie( oops) kitty Karen and more weirdly catriona...

Sometimes it becomes a habit... But it must have annoyed the hell out if her as she dumped him and in the row told my ds that I was a bitch who did it on purpose!!! Felt so awful.

FelicityWasCold Fri 22-Feb-13 18:03:57

It would wind me up! Just ask her <politely> why she does it?

SoleSource Fri 22-Feb-13 18:06:01

You Ali G's wom innit?

ChasedByBees Fri 22-Feb-13 18:06:30

I'm a Julie that gets called Julia. It's a whole extra syllable. I don't get it. It's mildly irritating but yes, to be continually called it would bug me.

ShatnersBassoon Fri 22-Feb-13 18:09:29

My name isn't complicated, isn't very uncommon and I speak clearly. Still people get it wrong. I can't get cross about it, it's an innocent mistake by those cloth eared fools

FakePlasticLobsters Fri 22-Feb-13 18:09:33

I quite often get Jessie or Josey. Neither of which are my name, but are closer to it that Lauren, which is what one customer at work insists on calling me.

It doesn't bother me with acquaintances, but a friend should get it right.

BellaVita Fri 22-Feb-13 18:13:06

Is that you JULES??? <peers through the screen> grin

BellaVita Fri 22-Feb-13 18:13:58

and it would irritate the hell out of me.

MrsBertMacklin Fri 22-Feb-13 18:20:03

Can you do the same thing back? Bloke at work constantly got my surname slightly wrong, so I started calling him Jason instead of Justin. It did the trick.

thewhistler Fri 22-Feb-13 18:20:43

Call her by a name that is slightly wrong and see if she notices?

PatienceALittleThin Fri 22-Feb-13 18:21:50

Maybe her brain is sadistic like mine. My friend's son is called Benjamin. I've known him since he was born. I know his name. But for some reason, much to my embarassment, whenever I ask her how he's doing my brain takes it upon itself to delete Benjamin and insert Samuel instead. They're not even similar confusedblush

redlac Fri 22-Feb-13 18:22:32

I'm a Julie who gets called Julia occasionally. Only annoys me when please write hi Julia when replying to my emails - FFS my email address is Julie.redlac, my signature says Julie Redlac and I sign off Best wishes Julie

Folk are just weird

DublinMammy Fri 22-Feb-13 18:24:35

Would get right on my tits, especially having corrected her twice. I would keep correcting her until she gets it right, perhaps in an ever-less jokey way?

amillionyears Fri 22-Feb-13 18:25:05

Do you think she can help it?
Does she get other people's names wrong as well?

Perhaps she knows another Julie?

Casmama Fri 22-Feb-13 18:25:19

I would correct her, every time and see what happens first either she gets it right or gives up. Just repeat Juli-a every time as if you were speaking to a small child learning to talk and if you feel like it chuckle and say we will get it right eventually.

Bluelightsandsirens Fri 22-Feb-13 18:26:19

It would really annoy me.

I have a Bernard at work that I always call Dennis - don't ask me why and I really wish I didn't do it but I do.

MammaTJ Fri 22-Feb-13 18:26:38

My name is Tracey. I go to college once a week. I am in the second year. My DD is in the first year. There is one other second year. He always calls me Stacey. Every time he calls me it, my DD nearly wets herself laughing!

Everyone else calls me Tracey (apart from DD), they use my name a lot. Why can he not get it?

YANBU!!

cookielove Fri 22-Feb-13 18:27:05

Totally annoying! !!

My work colleagues has a similar problem with some of our parents (nursery) she is Amanda and is always introduced at that, she has been called several times now Mandy. Makes her cross, she's to polite to say anything though!!

3monkeys3 Fri 22-Feb-13 18:27:09

I have this with my sister in law. She has pretty much always called me by the wrong shortening of my name (she uses another, similar, accepted shortening). She has been told many times, once quite angrily during a row about something else. Her dc now use it too sigh. I just let her get on with it these days.

weegiemum Fri 22-Feb-13 18:27:35

I'm Susan and much of my family and acquaintances call me sue. I hate it. My name is Susan! So yanbu to insist on being called your name!

However it does get wearing and tbh I've stopped telling my dad. He's never going to remember!!

Naoko Fri 22-Feb-13 18:28:14

Stop responding to it. Just pretend you can't hear her. Yeah, it's passive aggressive and rude, but I give it an hour before she gets it right and never does it again.

I have an Irish name, and in the 25 years I have lived in the UK not one person has ever managed to say my name right. It took my SIL 13 years to actually spell it right (and that was after a lot of reminders). I've given up. If it really bothers you just correct her every single time she says your name, and do it with an air of exasperation. If I were you though I'd let it go. Life's too short.

WorraLiberty Fri 22-Feb-13 18:29:15

My neighbour and I have very similar names...there's only one letter difference at the end.

She calls me by her name and I call her by mine! grin

toffeelolly Fri 22-Feb-13 18:30:11

My name is julie, get called julia sometime's or julieanne but does not bother me . wink

I had this at work. My name is Juliette but my manager insisted on calling me Julie even when I said it was either Juliette or Jules but she knew better. Trouble was all the other staff called me Julie too because of her, to the point that when I took over her job because she was fired for being an incompetent fool the other staff were shocked to find that my name was not julie.

twentythirteen Fri 22-Feb-13 18:31:39

I can't stand any attempts to alter my name. I also however have a hard time remembering names and often get names mixed up. Maybe she struggles? I'd go on the charm offensive and start using comedy (if you want to keep her as a friend) to repeatedly correct her until she learns.

I have a double barrel name that people shorten when its not supposed to be shortened.

And DD2 is called Sophia. But everyone, HV, MWs, even my mother (at first) call her Sophie. angry

SpicyPear Fri 22-Feb-13 18:32:17

I can see it's annoying but if you get a wrong name stuck it can be very hard to shake it!

kim147 Fri 22-Feb-13 18:32:55

At least you know the first names. I only know the surnames when I do supply at a school I've been at for ages - it's hard to learn peoples first names when they don't tell you.

It's in Susie's class - who's Susie confused

katieelh Fri 22-Feb-13 18:33:40

This is so weird, there was a childminder at my sons preschool who used to call me Julie but my name isn't even similar, it's Katie. The first few times she said it I was confused, I thought maybe I had misheard then I told her actually its not Julie it's Katie, 'oh' she said 'sorry' but do you know what, the next time I saw her, she called me Julie again! I was so uncomfortable I answered to it and even now years later when I see her out walking the dog, she sometimes shouts over 'hi Julie' bless my children they are soooo confused.

TheBuskersDog Fri 22-Feb-13 18:35:03

BunnyLebowski, that is a particular favourite YBF clip in our house and that was my first thought too.

HappyHippyChick Fri 22-Feb-13 18:35:55

I'm a Julia as well my dh nan has called me Julie for nearly 20 years and despite being corrected (not by me!) many times she still gets it wrong. Ditto my best friends mum who I've known for over 30 years!

Ridiculously that doesn't bother me, but the example in the op would get right on my tits!

LadyFlumpalot Fri 22-Feb-13 18:36:31

My old next door neighbour used to call me Penny. All the time. It's near-ish my name (Jenny). I gave up in the end and would even sign her Xmas card with "Penny"

everlong Fri 22-Feb-13 18:36:54

My name has a S in it and people pronounce it Z. I've explained it but people don't listen.

Sort of get used to it after a bit.

I agree though Julia is nicer than Julie.

AyeOopMoose Fri 22-Feb-13 18:37:23

My DM's neighbour calls her a name that isn't remotely like her actual name.

She has sent Christmas cards with her actual name in and the neighbour's husband calls my DM the correct name (and has done so in a conversation in front of his wife where she has called DM the other name).

We all find it funny now. It's gone too far for my DM to keep correcting her neighbour-who is a really lovely women.

HappyHippyChick Fri 22-Feb-13 18:37:26

Have you ever had a situation where you're aware you get someone's name wrong and try so conciously to get the right name you say the wrong one instead - every time! That's me that is!

Skimty Fri 22-Feb-13 18:38:03

Funny, Wanna, my DD is called Sophie and everyone calls her Sophia. Even the HV told ME that it was definitely Sophia because that's what she had written on her sheet!

ApplyYourself Fri 22-Feb-13 18:38:14

Glad i'm not the only one it would annoy.

I can't really correct her again, although I always correct her son when he is in my house in the vain hope it might trickle back to her.

She says my name during every conversation we have. i have never said hers. Some people just do this dont they?

Happiestinwellybobs Fri 22-Feb-13 18:39:56

I had this with one woman at my

grin Skimty.

I spelled it out to the HV and she still wrote sophie.

Isabeller Fri 22-Feb-13 18:41:17

Start calling her Julie (repeatedly)? grin

Happiestinwellybobs Fri 22-Feb-13 18:41:50

I had this with one woman at my old job. She consistently got my name wrong. I wasn't that fussed initially but it drive my friend mad and she would constantly correct her. In the end it did get to me a little so I started calling her Babs - her name was Barbara. Within a day she was calling me by my correct name smile

LineRunner Fri 22-Feb-13 18:41:51

Just keep saying, 'My name is Julia' until she gets it.

Dawndonna Fri 22-Feb-13 18:41:55

I'm Anna, not Anne. FFS Can't you read?
I always wait until the third time before I say that, though.

Mrsrobertduvall Fri 22-Feb-13 18:42:03

It would piss me off.
I have a very unusual name, so I appreciate it may take people a while to get it right.

I was introduced at a presentation once (in front of 500people) as Barbara.
Now my name does not begin with B. And does not contain one letter the same. Not even the same amount of syllables.

Dh couldn't say my name properly for about 10 years. He has given up and calls
Me wifey or by my maiden name, which is I suppose, a term of endearment in his little world.

andubelievedthat Fri 22-Feb-13 18:42:33

my fav uncle(sadly now dead) was uncle tony , at his funeral i found out his name was thomas?families ???my fella"s name is Steve, people often call him Dave , he doesn"t get it , nor i, he just shruggs and smiles .

meddie Fri 22-Feb-13 18:44:49

Another Julie here who gets called Julia and Juliette too. Despite the fact that I have been known as Jules for 40 years, introduce myself as Jules and sign everything as Jules. I feel your pain it is irritating.

tassisssss Fri 22-Feb-13 18:48:19

Oh yeah I feel your pain. I introduce myself as a poncey double barrelled name and people immediately call me just the first bit.

Or I send work emails all the time signed up Erica-Jane (not that but YKWIM) and they reply Hi Erica???

SecretNutellaFix Fri 22-Feb-13 18:49:48

It annoys the bejeesus out of me as I have a similar name.

GregBishopsBottomBitch Fri 22-Feb-13 18:50:55

I get called Lauren alot, its not my name, and kept getting called Clare, i dont bother correcting now.

JoandMax Fri 22-Feb-13 18:51:17

It is immensely irritating! I'm Joanna, yet frequently get called Joanne - even on official letters from doctors surgery, hospital. And on emails when my email clearly states my name plus I sign off using my name.

It's a subtle but very very big difference!

letdownafterletdown Fri 22-Feb-13 18:55:01

its better than been called me Julie !! x

Definite annoying. I've been in new job for three weeks, working with Julie and Julia and not got the muddled once, so I have NO sympathy!

It's confusing though, you start 'Jul...' and two people look up, 'Ja...' and you get me and James. I'm going by Bernard now.

Lovecat Fri 22-Feb-13 18:57:53

I have changed the names here as otherwise it will identify me instantly.

I used to work with a guy called Simon. I have no idea why, but he got stuck in my head as Ian. I had to mentally stop and check myself in every meeting and make sure I was calling him Simon.

Then, Christmas party, we were both on the same tube home, slightly pished, he decided to change trains to get nearer to his home (he lived further out than me on the main line) but as he got off there was an announcement that there wouldn't be any more trains through the station - he didn't hear and went wandering across the platform, I went to call him back.

Cue me calling "Ian! Ian! IAN!!! Christ, he's not listening to me, he's going to get stranded, why isn't he listening to me IAN! IAN! Oh fuck, his name's Simon... SIMON!!!"

Whole tube carriage collapsed laughing and he did turn around and make it back onto the train in time... blush

Inertia Fri 22-Feb-13 19:01:54

Very annoying. Maybe you should follow the lead of Trigger in OFAH and keep saying "Alright Dave ? " every time she does it, see if she gets the hint.

MagzFarqharson Fri 22-Feb-13 19:04:11

I'm in similar boat... name ending gets changed from 'a' to 'e', constantly... Just ignore people who call me by the wrong name.

But then went on to give all 3 DDs names which could, and frequently ARE, abbrieviated in the same, extremely annoying way.... What AM I like?

KatieMiddleton Fri 22-Feb-13 19:04:54

Sooo annoying. I have a very bland, over-used 80s first name that occasionally gets spelt without the last letter and that's quite irritating.

I thought I gave my children fairly easy names. Ds is a shortened version of a longer name (think Josh instead of Joshua) he is often called "Joshua" even when everything including birth cert is clearly "Josh". I also get people who think they know better "oh but it must be Joshua". Really? You would think as his mother I might remember his name. hmm

My daughter has what I thought was a very well known, traditional Hebrew name. Nobody seems to have heard or it or be able to pronounce it. I fear I have inadvertently cursed her with a Julia/Julie name.

FIFIBEBE Fri 22-Feb-13 19:05:50

A work colleague keeps calling me the name of the person who she thinks ought to have got my job! It is nothing like my name.

porridgewithalmondmilk Fri 22-Feb-13 19:07:31

I had a 'friend' who did this to me, not with Julie/Julia but calling me a completely different name that just happened to be spelled in a similar way to mine, but pronounced completely differently.

I've stopped seeing her now as it drove me to distraction; it was not the only reason I cooled things off but it was one of many very inconsiderate things she did and I really felt "well, if you can't even be arsed getting my name right ...!"

ToomuchWaternotWine Fri 22-Feb-13 19:07:47

Yes that would piss me off too OP you are NBU. Correct her every time is the way to go.

carabos Fri 22-Feb-13 19:08:46

I'm another one with a double-barrelled name, which I never shorten myself - I don't need to because everyone else does it for me hmm.

I introduce myself as Fancy-Pants and the response is always either "hello Fancy, good to meet you" or, less often " hello Pants, good to meet you". I have given up fighting the force and now tend to use my initials grin.

Arithmeticulous Fri 22-Feb-13 19:09:07

I used to have some uni lectures with a guy that was called Stuart but looked like a Chris. Except after a while I could never remember if he was a Stuart that looked like a Chris, or a Chris that looked like a Stuart. Some people just look like they ought to be called something else grin

Having said that, I have frequently been called a name similar to mine (in that it has the some first 4 letters) - I just wouldn't answer now.

RealAleandOpenFires Fri 22-Feb-13 19:10:33

Slightly different...
Offical letters that have a mispelt version of my name. angry
Why do they do it?
Even after repeated attempts of informing them. Maybe, next it happens I should take an alphabet book to show them the difference between two letters?

BinksToEnlightenment Fri 22-Feb-13 19:35:52

YANBU

Another one here who gets called the wrong name.

limitedperiodonly Fri 22-Feb-13 19:36:12

I think it's either an attempt to be friendly or take you down a peg or two. You decide.

I used to work for someone called Colin who used to insist I called him Col. I couldn't. I wasn't brought up to do that. If someone called William liked Bill or Will, fine. But not Col which in an Essex accent comes out with the end of it swallowed.

He used to shorten my name, let's say Sue for Susan. I'd let it go. He used to call Gary Gowl, Deborah Debs, Caroline Cowl. Patrick liked being called Paa' so that was okay, but if it hadn't been that wouldn't have mattered. Everyone else in the office used the names that people liked rather than those we'd just chosen.

A really scary person who was above Col was called Roland. Funnily enough Col never used to call him Ro.

My sil has always called me Sue. I think she genuinely thinks it's friendlier and possibly it was a bit of needle with my mum lost in the mists of time. I let it go. I know that she's horrified at a teenage nickname for her which is really ugly (I have a long memory for her confession grin) but I wouldn't use it because she doesn't like it. Why oh why can't she do the same thing for me?

It's worse for my sister. sil calls her by a name that's an anglicised version of my sister's quite easily pronounced Catholic saint's name which is common in France and Ireland. It drives my sister potty. Not least because she doesn't particularly like her name but she doesn't want it changed either.

shockers Fri 22-Feb-13 19:40:53

In a class I worked in s few years ago, there was a little boy who looked like a 'George', don't ask me why! I tried so hard to concentrate and not call him George that I'd always end up saying it. The poor child never complained, but I felt awful. I can see his face now and the only name that springs to mind is...George.

limitedperiodonly Fri 22-Feb-13 19:41:08

My mum sometimes calls me Miguel. Or My Girl in an Essex accent grin

pepperrabbit Fri 22-Feb-13 19:41:48

There was an annoying (and senior) man at work who always called me Angela, my name begins with an A but that's as close as it gets.
After a while I took to calling him Mervyn, his name is Melvyn.
He soon stopped.

limitedperiodonly Fri 22-Feb-13 19:50:10

I worked with someone called Corinne that I thought was pronounced Corr-in. By the time I realised she preferred Corr-een we hated each other so I carried on.

NathanDetroit Fri 22-Feb-13 19:51:53

I have a colleague called Caroline. We had a student for a while who'd call her Caro, Carol, Carolyn, Carolina. So annoying! One day I got so fed up I asked her why she called her the wrong name and she said, "Well, it's almost the same". Er, no it's not. It's not her flipping name! OP, maybe this lady is the same? V irritating.

MusicalEndorphins Fri 22-Feb-13 19:55:40

If course you can correct her again! With a big smile say
"Excuse me... but what did you call me?" Or "Excuse me, that isn't my name." then, "It is Juli a, with an a at the end. " Correct her every time she calls you Julie. I correct people who call me a short form of my name, for example "Patty" instead of Patricia".

Remember Minneli's song? "It's Liza with a Z not Lisa with an S that's Z not S, it's Liza."

HolidayArmadillo Fri 22-Feb-13 20:04:34

Are you me??? I repeatedly get emails to Julie, having signed previous responses 'Julia'. It's particularly infuriating as what it's really inferring is that I don't know how to spell my own name.

austenozzy Fri 22-Feb-13 20:15:10

I had a regular dog walking friend - although not really 'friend' per se, we just walked our dogs at the same time in the same park - and I called him Andy for two years. His name was Pete. Luckily he thought it was funny.

Only came to realise when I met a colleague of his (he was a doctor at a hospital next to this park) who also walked his dogs there, and we had a very confusing conversation about pete/andy and his airedale!

QuickLookBusy Fri 22-Feb-13 20:20:38

My friend's mum calls me Lucy.

My name isn't Lucy but she thinks I suit Lucy.confused

She's as mad as a box of frogs!

HecateWhoopass Fri 22-Feb-13 20:40:52

Why don't you just ask her why she always calls you Julie?

thegreylady Fri 22-Feb-13 20:47:17

My dd is Joanna.When she was young people often called her Joanne which neither of us likes at all.We used to chorus "A" when people said Joanne.
She has been Jo for years now but if I had wanted her to be Joanne I'd have called her Joanne.
I think most of the 'a' at the end names sound nicer that the 'e' version
Louisa-Louise
Anna - Anne
Maria - Marie
Susannah - Suzanne
Diana - Diane
I am sure many people feel the other way round but if the Joanne thing had occurred to me I would have gone for Harriet which was my second choice.

MadRambler Fri 22-Feb-13 21:11:00

I used to work with someone who said I didn't look like a Madeline so she would call me Tracey. Er ok then... And she did (I saved my breath).

booksandchoc Fri 22-Feb-13 21:16:45

I hate this, I get called Donna all the time, my name is Dawn! I've made that mistake with DD, she is consistently called Danielle. Her name is Daniella. Grrr. It makes me feel stabby!

CalamityJ Fri 22-Feb-13 21:24:25

My husband is not called Paul. The owner of our local car mechanic garage which we've been using for 3 years calls him Paul. I'm sure he used to know my DH's correct name but over the years has decided it's Paul. This is despite the fact my DH pays the bills using a credit/debit card with his full name on it. confused

My DH has given up correcting him & now I just tease him when he gets his car serviced! grin

HolidayArmadillo Fri 22-Feb-13 21:30:38

Our tenant insist on calling DH 'Mark', which although a perfectly nice name doesn't even share any letters with DH's actual name!

tigerdriverII Fri 22-Feb-13 21:38:02

A client once sent me an email where he got my name totally wrong in a funny way (let's say I'm called Cilla and he called me Silly, or Katy and he called me Cunty). He sent me a huge bunch of flowers to apologise. Only happened once, sadly.

KristinaM Fri 22-Feb-13 21:39:37

I used to work with a Dawn and a Don. These sound identical in our local accent. We called Dawn " prawn dawn " to distinguish her, but never stopped to wonder if she minded blush. I'm too embarssed to tell you what we did about Gerry ( short for Geraldine ) and Gerry ( short for Gerald ) ,who also worked there

CalamityJ Fri 22-Feb-13 21:42:56

Reading more of the posts it reminds me of an email I got before I went on maternity leave from a chap whose email was (example for confidentiality) William Bosworth <b.bosworth@etc.com> and he signed off the email Regards Dave.

I got that B could be Bill short for William but Dave?? I spoke to someone who's worked with him before & she said oh yeah he's called Bill, short for William but he calls himself Dave. Why?? If I'd not asked my colleague what should I have called him?? Well I'd have called him Dave because that's what he signed himself off with but it totally confused me & bearing in mind I was almost 38 weeks I thought I was going crazy!

There was also a chap at uni who introduced himself to me as Phil & my friend separately as Alex. I asked him what his name really was & what he wanted to be called & he was happy with either! I never did get to the bottom of it. We just ended up calling him Philalex.

mawbroon Fri 22-Feb-13 21:43:26

I'm a Julia and get annoyed if people call me Julie.

But worse is when people pronouce it JOOLya <aaargh>

AnastasiaGrey Fri 22-Feb-13 21:48:27

I'm Julia and have had the problem all my life. All my school certificates said Julie so my mum had to alter them. I find it most irritating as Julie and Julia are completely different as is Marie and Maria. Grrrhhh!

ravenAK Fri 22-Feb-13 21:56:48

I'm Caroline, almost always known as Carrie, but I also apparently answer to Cathy/Cara/Kelly/Kerry/Karen/Ciara/Carol/Corey.

Two of my friends are also Carolines, known respectively as Caro & Callie. This creates further confusion...

FellatioNels0n Fri 22-Feb-13 21:57:51

You see, this would be a deal breaker for me. I would not be able to get past it. No matter how nice she seemed, I would always wonder about the motives of someone either so self-absorbed or so dim that they could not get my name right after hearing it and being told it numerous times.

I'm not saying I'd flounce over it necessarily, but I'd always be wary about taking the friendship to anything beyond a casual level.

mrsjay Fri 22-Feb-13 22:17:25

somebody has called me theresa for 20 yrs My name is not theresa not even close grin I always correct her she always laughs and says But i have it stuck in my head now

My friend and old neighbour met a lovely man called 'Alex' DH always called him Tim. Repeated telling DH that wasn't his name didn't work. It was awful when our friend called him Tim too blush

mrsjay Fri 22-Feb-13 22:20:41

infact Im sure this person called me theresa at school she was a year or 2 below me but we now have DC the same age,

oldraver Fri 22-Feb-13 22:21:39

I would really irritate the hell out of me. A few years after leaving school someone new came to work at my place and decided my name was too long (everyone else managed ok with it) and would call me Lol or Loz. I said no my name is ...... and refused to engage with her when she used the silly shortened names. She soon got the message.

Is she usually ok with you ? I always think the constant use of your name in a sentence is really irritating anyway

mrsjay Fri 22-Feb-13 22:23:42

I once or twice called dd friends mum helen her name is lesley (eeejit)

MothershipG Fri 22-Feb-13 22:26:14

Call me what you like as long as you don't call me late for dinner... wink

I'm always rather pleased when people forget my name or get it wrong as it makes it easier for me to admit I've forgotten theirs as well!

TooManyDicksOnTheDancefloor Fri 22-Feb-13 22:37:37

My 11 week old dd is called Bronwen, pronounced BronWEN, not BronWIN. People ask her name, I say it and they repeat back to me 'BronWIN?' as if to make out I'm saying her name wrong! It makes me very stabby.

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub Fri 22-Feb-13 22:37:39

FIFIBELLE I think your colleague might be worthy of an MN Passive-Aggressive Medal.

Lovecat Fri 22-Feb-13 22:38:25

I've just remembered, I used to work with a guy called John. Only his initials on the system were WX. When we asked him why he went by John instead of William (his actual name), he said that on his first day in a branch office back in the late 50's, the manager had asked him his name, on hearing it said 'Oh no! We've already got one Willliam, it'll be too confusing to have two - you're John now!" And thus it was. We were all aghast that someone could arbitrarily change your name like that (and that he had just accepted it!). Weird thing was when I met him he was one of five 'John' s that worked in that office and it was very confusing trying to work out who people meant...

FunnysInLaJardin Fri 22-Feb-13 22:42:01

I am Abigail and people call me Annabel all the time. I correct them but really really CBA to get in a huff about it. Both names are quite nice!

Samnella Fri 22-Feb-13 22:49:36

Meh. Very few people say my name correctly though so I am used to it.

Lovescourgettes Fri 22-Feb-13 22:51:56

I am a Julia and believe me nothing matches the fury of a Julia who does not want to be called Julie, I mean it's not even an abbreviation of Julia .My particular annoyance is the pursed lips and raised eyebrows I get when I (politely) correct people... as if I am being a bit petty/ precious/pedantic!

HolidayArmadillo Fri 22-Feb-13 22:56:52

This reminds me of a woman (not a friend any longer) who repeatedly called me Julie, I called her on it every time and she rolled her eyes and huffily said 'its practically the same' I took to intoning 'A' after every time she said my name, but the only thing that worked was me starting to call her Mavis. Her name was Caroline.

BigYellowDigger Fri 22-Feb-13 22:58:02

OP I'm a Julie and several people insist on calling me Julia grin
I, too, correct them but to no avail (one of them is the admin support person who takes our meeting minutes so is supposed to be taking down correct info for the record!).
I just can't be bothered correcting them anymore as they are all people who then make me feel as if I'm the one being rude by mentioning it grrr. Who'd have thought such a simple name could be so confusing!

ApplyYourself Fri 22-Feb-13 23:48:58

Oh I shan't correct her again because I'd feel like a tool. And I've no intentions of being 'friends' with her.. We are ' friendly' but that's it. I've looked after her dogs at hers when she went away and we always get the boys together in the holidays every week etc... Our sons are best pals.

But still... It bugs me. And it bugs me because she says it every time we meet. I hear it at least five times a week.

If I think about WHY she does it... Hmmm. I'm going to go with ' a bit dim.' Despite her fully acknowledging it ( the second time I actually said I didn't like the name Julie ( apologies to any Julie's !! ) ) and actually saying ' call me Jules or Julia but please not Julie a ha ha ha ' she promptly called me Julie the next time she saw me.

I even sign off texts with ' Julia ' and if we speak on the phone I will say ' hi it's Julia ' ... But no... Nothing sinks in.

Oh god. It's bugging me so much that I'm going to give it one more shot! The kids are back at school next week and ill do it then

Yfronts Sat 23-Feb-13 00:05:31

just remind her every time

MyPetMonsterAndMe Sat 23-Feb-13 00:25:47

I am another Julia who hates being called Julie. It seems there are more of us out there then I realized.

It makes me so mad at work when I sign off 'Julia' and then get 'Thanks Julie' in return!

sashh Sat 23-Feb-13 05:42:19

Just call her by a totally different name, consistently. It usually gets the point across.

Longdistance Sat 23-Feb-13 06:26:50

Just adjust her name a little op, that might get on her nerves, and if she corrects you, airily say it's JULIA.

I'm Clara, I get....Claire, Carla, Cara, Lara, Sara, Zara...........I could go on, but I just ignore them, or casually say 'sorry, were you talking to me?'

roundtable Sat 23-Feb-13 06:49:00

When you write texts, put a capital A at the end of your name.

My adoption certificate has my name spelt wrong, I can't believe my parents didn't check it properly.

I didn't realise this until fairly recently when I had to dig it out for something, I think hen I got married. I want to scrub out the extra letter it really annoys me. However, everything else apart from my blasted doctors has the 'correct' spelling. I've corrected it time and time again but they don't seem to be able to sort it.

thelittlestkiwi Sat 23-Feb-13 06:55:30

My MOTHER gets my name wrong. She calls me by her sisters name or my cousins name as often as my own. She picked it FFS.

natsmum100 Sat 23-Feb-13 09:08:45

My name is NOT Susan.

Please tell my FIL.

skratta Sat 23-Feb-13 09:15:59

My name is NOT Suzanne. Or Suzette (wtf?). I am not Sue. I am SUSANNAH. Geddit? And my nickname is SUSIE. Sue, Anne, Sanna- seriously? I've told people that, sign off with that etc; but

skratta Sat 23-Feb-13 09:16:21

They still call me Susan.

What's her name? Can you alter it in some way?

Startail Sat 23-Feb-13 09:20:33

I'm dyslexic I fuck up names all the time.

They just don't get past the useless short term memory into the functioning bit of my brain.

I'm desperately trying to put names to faces at a couple of things I do and having huge difficulties as there are too many slightly bald men and women with mum bobs.

I've come to realise I lose the details in faces, just as I lose the letters in words. I also suspect DD1 has the same problem and it's part of why she finds making friends hard.

HollyBerryBush Sat 23-Feb-13 09:29:58

And the ones who persist with the funky spelling of a normal name - it's
Holly - not fecking Holli or Hollie, just plain old Holly.

Your name is your identity and if people CBA to learn it properly, then they are just R.U.D.E ! What they are actually saying is 'you are so inconsequential, I cant be bothered to learn your name'

I get the name extension all the time. It is not my name. My name isn't main stream. I chose a short version because mainly I CBA to go through the correct pronunciation and spelling of it endlessly. Just stop anglicising it!

melika Sat 23-Feb-13 09:36:18

YANBU, I get this with my SILs, one has a long russian name and always corrects me when I shorten it and the other tells me her name has an A on the end, but they always call me the shortened version of mine.. so I tell them MY name is MELIKA NOT MEL! Don't stand for it, Julia!!

ithaka Sat 23-Feb-13 09:47:01

YANBU it would annoy me.

To the poster much earlier in the thread who kept confusing her sons GF's name with his previous GF. My sister's MIL did this a few times when she and BIL were in the early stages of dating. My sis breezily responded 'please don't worry about getting my name wrong. My parents never bother to learn my boyfriend's names as I have so many' Snap.

cece Sat 23-Feb-13 09:48:25

I have an Aunty Julia. But everyone verbally calls her Julie, she is never called Julia. Only when writing it do they spell Julia and not Julie.

Strangely though it's not even her real name. I found out the other day that her realy name is Ethel!?

RobinSparkles Sat 23-Feb-13 09:57:14

You need to be more like my DD grin. She is Isabel but my friend's little boy kept calling her Annabel. Every time he said Annabel she corrected him nicely until on the hundredth time she ended up shouting "My name is ISABEL, ISABEL! I am NOT Annabel!" blush

I understand how annoying it is though. In High School I was called Michelle by my Maths teacher and Vicky by my physics teacher, for FIVE years. Neither is even close to my name!

TheEndTisHere Sat 23-Feb-13 10:00:50

I have a Celtic name that is spelt very differently to the English version.

80% of the time I fill a form out I get asked to check the spelling of my own name! I swear the next person who ask's if my name is spelt correctly will get my pregnant hormones in full force. I mean I know how to spell MY name!

OP I would call her on it every time surely she knows your name now.

Hissy Sat 23-Feb-13 10:09:07

Get a sheet of address labels. Next time she calls you Julie, get a label, write My Name is JULIA on it and stick it to yourself, forehead might be an obvious place, tho perhaps a little OTT. grin

EnjoyResponsibly Sat 23-Feb-13 11:07:44

There were 3 of us in my class with the same name. So we were named by height, or rather by size. I will never forgive teacher for saddling me with the prefix "Big" as it lived with my sensitive teenage self for too many years.

I also hated the
Little version. She tweelly referred to herself as Little X in the third person especially when relaying a good test score. "Ooh
Little X got 98%".

Little twat.

DizzyPurple Sat 23-Feb-13 11:20:58

My friend has a new baby Orla. A neighbour saw her in the street and said "why did you call her Ola, after the one on Strictly?" My friend said her name is Orla NOT Ola. The neighbour was adamant she was Ola as another neighbour had told her so. My friend got a bit cross in the end and had to say "I am her Mother. I gave her the name Orla, I think I know better than x down the road!" The neighbour still didn't seem convinced!

charlottehere Sat 23-Feb-13 11:27:42

I also have an 'a' ending name which has a more common varient of ending in an 'e', I get called the wrong name all the time, don't like the name but often let it go. However in your situation I'd be fecked off. Is she a wind up merchant or thick? grin

I've got an awkward arsed name, and long ago gave up on everyone getting it right hmm

a mate though, I would expect to call me the right name, maybe next time say...do you know you keep saying my name wrong?

tharsheblows Sat 23-Feb-13 11:39:48

I had someone call me Molly for about a month. My name's nothing like Molly. I actually missed it afterwards, I quite like the name.

I am called a nickname from the time my mother was pregnant, my parents have never called me anything else ever and I find it hard to answer to my "real" name, too, because I forget it's my name.

Yohoahoy Sat 23-Feb-13 12:30:37

My name is extremely common, and there are hundreds of us about. It has 5 letters.

There is a less common version with one letter missing off the end. More often than not, I get it spelt the shorter way. have even had people insisting it should be spelt the shorter way. <boggle>

I must confess to a brain freeze several years ago. Met a woman at nursery called Rebecca. (Names changed btw). I called her Rachael. I continued to call her Rachael for an embarassingly long time because my brain seemed to freeze around - "Biblical name beginning with R - Rachael."

Managed to get it right eventually, and she was very nice about it!

Oh this would really annoy me.

I have an usual name that normally gets pronounced as 'Sara' by people that can't read it properly. I once pulled up a manager of mine in a big meeting about how he was saying it. Everyone looked at me like I was out of order but I didn't want to spend the rest of the time in that job being called something that wasn't my name!

oldraver Sat 23-Feb-13 12:55:05

Well if you think its just because she is a bit dim then I would think of way to have fun with it (if there isnt too much steam coming out of your ears), change her name she if she notices, write yourself a name tag (like a previous poster suggested) etc.

I would be worried if I had thought she was doing on purpose as changing someones name I would consider a bit of a put down

sorry - I have an 'unusual' name. Not usual.

I'm a Julie, and normally get called Jules by family which is fine...and some people call me Julie Wulie.....WHICH IS NOT BLOODY FINE angry .

Funnily enough, I was named after my grandmother, who was called Julia....

nickelbabe Sat 23-Feb-13 13:27:10

i am Andrea and have been called Anthea soooo many times.
[grr]

i just have to correct it - i always do it in a loud guffaw like the person's been a complete prat for getting it wrong.

WorriedMary Sat 23-Feb-13 13:27:15

People often get my name wrong and I get; Paula (misheard as this) Carly or Clara. I just find it embarrassing having to correct.

Once I tried to correct a women who decided my name was Chloe when I worked at a supermarket when I was 17. I corrected her but she carried on calling me Chloe. I just answered her she looked a right twat though when she called me Chloe to my manager. grin

Since getting married I am also blessed with a surname that is frequently mixed up with a more common surname.

OttilieKnackered Sat 23-Feb-13 13:36:17

My name is Alice and I quite often get called Alison.

Some people don't seem to believe it's not short for Alison. Even when I say 'Alice, as in wonderland'. Pretty sure it's never been called Alison in Wonderland. Grrrr.

MrsDeVere Sat 23-Feb-13 13:42:27

My DFIL called me Betty for 20 years.

My name is NOT Betty.

Cuddlyrunner Sat 23-Feb-13 16:11:30

I hate being called the wrong name! I hate most of all when people who don't know me call me the very shortened version of my name-THAT IS FOR INTIMATE FRIENDS AND FAMILY ONLY!!! Not you, Mr Bank Manager or you who I only work with occasionally. It literally makes me boil inside!

BellaVita Sat 23-Feb-13 16:22:32

I either get Angela, Angelique or Angeline or sometimes Ange (the last one does irritate me especially if they do not know me).

pleasestoptalking Sat 23-Feb-13 16:31:03

My sister in law pronounces and spells my name incorrectly. I've been married over 10 years now. I used to correct her but now I expect it. Doesn't bother me anymore and I've given up correcting her.

One day she might get it

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