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to have left him

(240 Posts)
kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 11:42:40

I've just been in a bar after a horrible argument with DH. Saw a nice bloke at the bar so I sat down, took off my ring and tried my luck.

Then my DH came over. He's had a bad time of it. He then started talking about the crop in the field and the fact that we've got 4 hungry children that need feeding.

I know we've had some bad times and some sad times but still.

So should I have left him or should I stand by my man grin

riveroise Wed 20-Feb-13 11:46:47

I would ask him to beg your pardon, and remind him that you never promised him a rose garden.

Lovelygoldboots Wed 20-Feb-13 11:46:54

Your marriage sounds normal. You give very little info. You were unreasonable to try and cop off.

Lovelygoldboots Wed 20-Feb-13 11:48:26

blush. Doh!

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 11:58:41

My husband has gone and left. He always knew that he was going so he decided to call our DS Sue. I was a bit worried about this but DH says he has his reasons.

Should I change DS's name?

chocoluvva Wed 20-Feb-13 12:00:29

How about Peggy?

He's planning to leave you, calling your boy sue is a classic sign

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 12:03:26

Feel free to add your own ideas grin

I work in garage downtown. We like shining up our cars. Should I stick to the girls who come round here or should I go with my mother's advice?

Whocansay Wed 20-Feb-13 12:04:43

When my dh left, at first I was alone, I was pertried - but then I thought, I will survive.

You could stand by your man, or fight for the right to party.

FloatyFlo Wed 20-Feb-13 12:05:49

Whaaa? I'm missing something aren't I?

chocoluvva Wed 20-Feb-13 12:05:55

Now that it's the 21st century, do you think that working 9-5 is an acceptable way to make a living?

(Sorry, I'm trying, but my repertoire is very limited.)

Hesterton Wed 20-Feb-13 12:07:53

Bloody hell, I'd be looking for a d-i-v-o-r-c-e.

Do you work 9 till 5 OP?
You should give him 2 arms to cling to and something warm to come to.

I think you should give up work and commit solely to him after all he's just a man

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 12:09:13

You don't want to work 9 -5.

I think there's only one way of life. My father used to tell me that as went up to the hills and looked down on the city smog below.

Whocansay Wed 20-Feb-13 12:09:33

You must remember that the winner takes it all. Apparently.

MrsKwazii Wed 20-Feb-13 12:10:49

Well, you've got to know when to hold then, know when to fold them. Sounds like you're walking the line.

Whocansay Wed 20-Feb-13 12:11:17

I thought there was one way of life and that's your own?

chocoluvva Wed 20-Feb-13 12:11:52

Oh, smog. Not a burning ring of fire?

MrsKwazii Wed 20-Feb-13 12:12:04

I have to add though, that it sounds like you've really picked a fine time to leave him wink

MrsKwazii Wed 20-Feb-13 12:13:35

I think if it makes your brown eyes blue, you know whether you needed to leave.

Lucille is that you?

Branleuse Wed 20-Feb-13 12:13:58

What about your children, Do they like playing house, or do they not wanna?

Hang around for a while OP, it'll be raining men soon.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 12:15:08

Hallulah smile

SonOfAradia Wed 20-Feb-13 12:17:13

I think you should bear in mind that wives should always be lovers, too, and run to his arms when he comes home to you.

chocoluvva Wed 20-Feb-13 12:17:14

Yes, you need to wash that man right out of your hair.

Did you break his throne and cut his hair?

Branleuse Wed 20-Feb-13 12:18:13

How are you planning on leaving?

Nipping out the back jack? Making a new plan Stan? Being coy Roy? Hopping on the bus Gus (my personal choice as less discussion)? Dropping off the key Lee?

13Iggis Wed 20-Feb-13 12:18:41

You're a fool if you think it's over, it's just begun.

Let love lift you up where you belong, there ain't no mountain high enough or river wide enough to keep him from you, you're an uptown girl who's going downtown where the lights are brighter but you know that tonight you'll be sleeping on a bed of roses whilst he sleeps on a bed of nails.

zukiecat Wed 20-Feb-13 12:23:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

chocoluvva Wed 20-Feb-13 12:25:21

Use the country roads to take you home to the place you know best.

I bet there was a time when you let him know what was really going on below but I can guess you never show that to him now do ya?

Sunnywithshowers Wed 20-Feb-13 12:29:56

Jolene, Jolene, Jolene... I'm begging of you please don't take my man

UnrequitedSkink Wed 20-Feb-13 12:32:56

You know if you go all that will be left is a band of gold. All that's left of those dreams you hold.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 12:35:14

I do realise that if I leave him now, I'll take away the biggest part of him.

Inertia Wed 20-Feb-13 12:36:39

Speaking from your DH's point of view- I just can't look, it's killing me, and taking control- jealousy, turning saints into the sea.

chocoluvva Wed 20-Feb-13 12:36:52

Yes, he'll have an achey-breaky heart while you're in West Virginia.

Sunnywithshowers Wed 20-Feb-13 12:39:26

Is he showing you R E S P E C T?

IneedAgoldenNickname Wed 20-Feb-13 12:43:55

Would he walk 500 miles, and then 500 more yo fall down at your door?

Talk to us OP, we can help.
Did he take a whole lot of loving for a hand full of nothing?
Are you all cried out?

Dawndonna Wed 20-Feb-13 12:49:57

I think this thread may well have been started by a Red Hot Chilli Peppers fan!
wink

SoleSource England Wed 20-Feb-13 12:51:32

Him coming back to you is against all.odds, it's the chance you gotta take.

BalloonSlayer Wed 20-Feb-13 12:54:05

You need to ask him whose bed have his boots been under

You see, that's what comes from getting married in a hurry - in a fever, hotter than a pepper sprout. You'll end up in Jackson, ever since the fire went out.

Oh, while you're there, give my love to Rose.

Cassarick Wed 20-Feb-13 13:08:40

I'd go and ask Sylvia's Mother if I was you. She's good at passing on messages.

I'd drive West to Salt Lake City if i were you. Fill up the car first - those Econoline's just drink petrol.

SoleSource England Wed 20-Feb-13 13:14:10

To have left him you must have been thinking that this love is just too hard. Everytime you have turned the deck you were given the lowest card and doors began to close, years ago on the love that never grows.

Dawndonna Wed 20-Feb-13 13:15:51

Sounds like you have a bad desire.

Xiaoxiong Wed 20-Feb-13 13:17:57

There's no one to blame. You're leaving, things will never be the same again.

It's the final countdown OP.

Bonnefoi Wed 20-Feb-13 13:18:25

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger...maybe you'll...
Stand a little taller...and it doesn't mean you're lonely when your alone. Just saying. wink

Really think how you approach this OP otherwise You'll be on your own, pretending he's beside you, it will all

coldethyl Wed 20-Feb-13 13:22:07

It depends on his behaviour. Did he promise love beneath the haloed moon? Dare you drown your sorrows in the warm glow of (his) wine? Are silver threads and golden needles the only option to mend that heart of yours?

I take it he can't buy your love with money and you don't want a lonely mansion with a tear in every room.

Bugger bugger posted too soon.
It will all be in your mind, you'll be talking to yourself and not to him

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 13:25:26

I'm sure the sun will come out.
Tomorrow.

Bet your bottom dollar!

That's the spirit OP

SoleSource England Wed 20-Feb-13 13:27:24

Does he sip his coffee whilst you drink your tea, playing it cool. Was it getting kinda late and were you wonderingif he would stay.

coldethyl Wed 20-Feb-13 13:28:12

Don't push him too far - he'll do something you both regret, and you'll end up walking these hills in a long black veil, visiting his grave while the night winds wail.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 13:30:44

It all started on a hot summer night when the beach was burning.

Everyone needs a bosom for a pillow, you can use mine, very unmumsnetty, but everyone needs a bosom

Hey lady, you lady, cursing at your life
You're a discontented mother and a regimented wife
I've no doubt you dream about the things you'll never do
But, I wish someone had talked to me
Like I wanna talk to you.....

I've been to paradise but I've never been to me.

13Iggis Wed 20-Feb-13 13:42:20

I know that nothing stays the same, but if you're willing to play the game it will be coming around again.

Dawndonna Wed 20-Feb-13 13:44:45

No use reading Emily Dickinson whilst he reads Robert Frost.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 13:46:09

Ooh - I love that song.

So I guess it's goodbye to love, he never cared if I should live or die..

SoleSource England Wed 20-Feb-13 13:48:31

Where do you go from here? He said he'd take you thrugh the years, so tell me where do you go from here?

13Iggis Wed 20-Feb-13 13:53:04

The miracle of love will take away your pain, when it comes your way again.

Higgledyhouse Wed 20-Feb-13 13:53:13

Well I've had it!....... I'm pulling out of here to win!

zukiecat Wed 20-Feb-13 13:57:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

13Iggis Wed 20-Feb-13 13:58:49

Be careful you don't get outed OP - your DH is so vain, he probably thinks this thread is about him smile

Just tell him you don't wanna play house.

Inertia Wed 20-Feb-13 14:03:34

Come on pilgrim, you know he loves you!

DontmindifIdo Wed 20-Feb-13 14:04:29

I think you should tell him your give a damn is busted

DontmindifIdo Wed 20-Feb-13 14:05:17

Although if you're going through hell, keep on going

NinaHeart Wed 20-Feb-13 14:06:25

I think you should just remember you're a Womble.

DontmindifIdo Wed 20-Feb-13 14:11:26

or it could be you just need to remember what it was like when you were first together why don't you try to spice things up again, and go back to how you were when you were dating, tell him:

Just because we are married
Don't mean we can't slip around
So let's walk out through the moonlight
And lay the blanket on the ground wink

ChewinTheFat Wed 20-Feb-13 14:15:25

You can't hide those lying eyes, and your pain us a thin disguise op.

Remember girls just want to have fun!

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 14:15:28

Ahh, those good old days.

We were on the beach. He showed up splashing around. If you ask him, he thinks he saved my life because I nearly drowned.

SoleSource England Wed 20-Feb-13 14:19:26

Love was just a moment, no matter where the wind blows, love comes and goes wothout warning. Do you see his shadow is he behind you? Has he come to find you?

Whocansay Wed 20-Feb-13 14:25:06

Every breath you take, he'll be watching you...

Well, Kim if you go round painting up your lips and rolling and curling your tinted hair....

But when you're finding out when to hold 'em, and when to fold 'em don't give him your bottle. He'll drink your last swallow and bum a cigarette shock.

That's not something my Lyin' Eyes would want to see.

Antipag Wed 20-Feb-13 14:37:19

Seems to me your boots were made for walking, and that's just what they'll do.

I just hope that one of these days those boots don't walk over you.

maddening Wed 20-Feb-13 14:46:08

He's messing you round, round, round like a record baby.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 14:50:57

Looks like it will be another suitcase in another hall.
Another picture on another wall.

13Iggis Wed 20-Feb-13 14:59:53

Well, wherever you lay your hat that's your home.

montmartre Wed 20-Feb-13 15:02:00

Have you packed your case? Checked your face? You'll look a little bit older, you'll look a little bit colder. With one deep breath, one big step, you'll move a little bit closer, a little bit closer.

MrsKwazii Wed 20-Feb-13 15:02:31

What will you do though when the new wears off from your crystal chandeliers?

KRITIQ Wed 20-Feb-13 16:06:05

It's too late, baby, now it's too late
Though you really did try to make it
Something inside has died and you can't hide
And you just can't fake it

Lucille, get your arse back home wink

ChairmanWow Wed 20-Feb-13 16:29:53

He used to bring you roses
You wish he would again
Oh, but that was on the outside
And things were different then sad

Dawndonna Wed 20-Feb-13 16:32:16

So we change partners,
Time to change partners
You must change Partners,
Again

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 17:04:19

I think he's lost that loving feeling

madamehooch Wed 20-Feb-13 17:15:21

Time for that D.I.V.O.R.C.E and for you and little J.O.E to go your own way. I know that you love them both and that it will be pure H.E.L.L for you but, hey, if nice bloke at bar is fit enough, just dig out that blanket on the groundwink

TheFallenNinja Wed 20-Feb-13 17:18:10

Check your car. You've picked a fine time to leave him loose wheel.

mrsbunnylove Wed 20-Feb-13 18:41:50

oh, lucille, did you have to do that to him? at a time like this? he'll never shut up about it.

i know how it is, though. my husband has a woman on the side - a real stunner. he talks about her in his sleep - makes me cry, it does - he's always calling her name...

SoleSource England Wed 20-Feb-13 19:23:35

So sorry he left you just whenyou needed him most.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 19:24:33

I've just realised it's the end of the world.
As I know it.
But I feel fine smile

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 20-Feb-13 19:28:43

But,

To knw know know him,is to love love love him.

13Iggis Wed 20-Feb-13 20:10:07

Too much too little too late to try again

Fool, I think it's over.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 20:18:38

I'm feeling alone and life is making me lonely.

Where should I go?

froufroututu Wed 20-Feb-13 20:22:26

Isn't that four hundred children?

apostropheuse Wed 20-Feb-13 20:22:33

It seems to me that you could say...

I've loved, I've laughed and cried
I've had my fill, my share of losing
And now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing
To think I did all that
And may I say, not in a shy way,
"Oh, no, oh, no, not me, I did it my way!

littlestressy Wed 20-Feb-13 20:26:30

Have you asked him if he likes drinking pina coladas, taking walks in the rain?

KRITIQ Wed 20-Feb-13 20:26:36

You got a fast car
But is it fast enough so you can fly away
You gotta make a decision
You leave tonight or live and die this way

Whocansay Wed 20-Feb-13 20:32:09

I hope to fuck you're name's not Delilah. If so, you're in for a hell of night, with lots of laughing. Beware of your ex with a knife in his hand, because you'll feel no more.

Cailinsalach Wed 20-Feb-13 20:39:34

You will never get over him
Till he gets out from being under her

(LTB)

Dont close the coffin lid till you kiss your lover goodbye

Mandy2003 Wed 20-Feb-13 20:45:30

Did he See the Want To in Your Eyes?

Whocansay Wed 20-Feb-13 20:53:08

Keep on running, keep on hiding.

fluffiphlox Wed 20-Feb-13 21:02:51

I feel your pain. I'm torn between two lovers, to one I am a lover, to the other I'm a wife

fluffiphlox Wed 20-Feb-13 21:03:25

Or something.

ArtemisiaGentileschisThumb Wed 20-Feb-13 21:08:35

You've got to hold on to what you've got, it doesn't make a difference if you make it or not. You've got each other and that's a lot, for love you should give it a shot.

Dawndonna Wed 20-Feb-13 21:12:22

Look around you, all you see are sympathetic eyes.

Is he young? Tell him there's a place he can go when he's short on his dough.

I'm sure he'll find many ways to have a good time.

KRITIQ Wed 20-Feb-13 21:26:51

You've already said ‘Goodbye’.
Since you've got to go
Oh you had better go now.
Go now. Go now. Go now

motherinferior Wed 20-Feb-13 21:33:23

Sometimes it's hard to be a woman.

Oh, someday he'll yearn cause his heart's gonna burn. For that old familiar glow
He'll be burned out on, smoke out.
And come back to you I know.

Amykins Wed 20-Feb-13 22:08:14

Didn't you almost have it all?

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:09:33

Well, the show must go on.

Amykins Wed 20-Feb-13 22:11:06

He can't get used to losing you no matter what you try to do, he's gonna spend his whole life through .... Loving you.

Sunnywithshowers Wed 20-Feb-13 22:16:53

Hasn't he sent you a message in a bottle?

But if you give a little love, take a little love and be prepared to forsake a little love
When the sun comes shining through
You'll know what to do.

(if anyone on this thread is under 30 I will be most surprised)...

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:20:49

What's love got to do with it?

PiedWagtail Wed 20-Feb-13 22:21:19

Is he slipping through your fingers? And you feel you never can say goodbye? Well, you know what to do - tie a yellow ribbon round that old oak tree!

Break it to him gently. Let him down the easy way. Make him feel you still love him, even if it's just for one more day.

PiedWagtail Wed 20-Feb-13 22:25:38

Yeah - take it Day by Day. Don't let the sun go down on you!

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:25:48

He's been killing me softly with his love.

Fleecyslippers Wed 20-Feb-13 22:26:05

I don't know why you're leaving,
Or where you're gonna go?
I guess you got a reason
But he just won't wanna know sad

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 22:27:26

Shame. Shame. Shame. He's got to get a J.O.B.

He's off to Amarillo, clutching a soggy pillow cause he's been weeping like a willow, but there's some woman called Marie waiting for him.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:28:26

I said that living with him was bringing me down
That I would never be free
When he was around

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 22:28:49

And then you should say a little prayer. Before you put on your make up.

Fleecyslippers Wed 20-Feb-13 22:29:09

You gonna have to get used to not living next door to Alice.

Antipag Wed 20-Feb-13 22:29:43

Why does he build you up buttercup baby? Just to let you down and mess you around, and worst of all, he never calls babe when he says he will, but you love him still.

PiedWagtail Wed 20-Feb-13 22:31:34

Just remember that you're gorgeous, and tomorrow is a brand new day.

The truth about love is it's nasty and salty, it's the regret in the morning, it's smelling of armpits

KRITIQ Wed 20-Feb-13 22:32:39

Go away, little girl
Call it a day, little girl
Oh, please, go away, little girl
Before he begs you to stay
Go away

(Nods with SGB, packs away tartan scarf grin)

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 22:33:48

What I want to know is who left the cake out in the rain? Because if it was you, you are being very unreasonable.

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:35:39

Ah, those were the days, my friend
I'd thought they'd never end.

WMDinthekitchen Wed 20-Feb-13 22:37:36

Were you working as a waitress in that cocktail bar, you wild thing? Put on your poker face and live your life. Don't let things get toxic...

blackcats73 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:37:59

Leave op.

You need to broaden your horizons.

There's a club that I like to go to meet someone who really loves you. But I go on my own and leave on my own and I go home and I cry and I want to die.

....maybe stay

guffaw Wed 20-Feb-13 22:40:51

op - you took your ring off and tried your luck?? shock its a wicked game you play

BookieMonster Wed 20-Feb-13 22:40:53

Better run, girl, you're much too young girl to be putting up with this forever.
Who's going to drive you home tonight?

LizzieVereker Wed 20-Feb-13 22:42:05

Oh Ruby. (aka Kim147).
DON'T take your love to town.
In fact, for Godsakes, turn around.

Wants4 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:42:46

LTB.
Theres a club if you'd like to go....you could meet someone who REALLY loves you. So you go and you stand on your own....and you leave on your own....and you go home, and you cry and you want to die.
Sorry blackcats, can't paraphrase Morrissey/Marr.

guffaw Wed 20-Feb-13 22:42:48

you're b b b baaad to the bone

Zavi Wed 20-Feb-13 22:44:23

I've really enjoyed this thread today.

The prize for the best response goes to one of the very first posters on this thread (its about the third response) - the lovely lovelygoldboots

It's accompanied by a little blush, when she realised what she'd done.

Have a look at her original response. It's a classic. grin

I have been killing myself laughing over that all day today.

Halo21 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:44:52

I would do anything for love......but I won't do that.

guffaw Wed 20-Feb-13 22:47:47

are you Mrs Jones, do you and the man in the bar have a thing going on?

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:47:51

He rang me
He said
You're once, twice, three times a lady

But I said
You'd better go now, go now
Go now

Once upon a time you was falling in love now you're only falling apart, there's nothing you can do its a total eclipse of the heart

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 22:49:38

He's obviously working his way back to you.

guffaw Wed 20-Feb-13 22:49:47

you'd better start making your mind up!

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:50:05

I know.
It's a tragedy

Fleecyslippers Wed 20-Feb-13 22:51:04

You will find him, you'll find him next to ME biscuit

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:52:17

I'm leaving on the midnight train to Georgia.

He's so vain, he probably thinks this thread is about him

KRITIQ Wed 20-Feb-13 22:52:40

Take nothing less than the supreme best
Do not obey for most people say 'cause you can past the test
So what we have to do is move on up and keep on wishing
Remember your dream is your only scheme so keep on pushing

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 22:53:48

Touch him in the morning. Then just walk away.

guffaw Wed 20-Feb-13 22:53:59

I bet he cant smile without you, cant laugh, cant sing, he'll find it hard to do anything

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 22:55:25

Poor sod. He heard it through the grapevine.

Hmm op but through it all
When there was doubt
You ate it up and spit it out
The record shows
You took the blows and did it your way

KRITIQ Wed 20-Feb-13 22:56:56

Hey woman, you got the blues, cos you aint got no one else to use.
There's an open road that leads nowhere, so just make some miles
Between here and there.

If he could find the words then I'm sure he would write it all down
If he could only find a voice He would speak
Oh it's there in his eyes so can't you see him tonight
C'mon and look at him and read 'em and weep

guffaw Wed 20-Feb-13 22:57:40

be careful, it sounds as though he's just like a pill, but instead of making you better, he's making you ill

kim147 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:58:29

He thinks nobody does it better
It makes him feel sad for the rest
No one does it half as good as him

Arrogant sod grin

PrincessFiorimonde Wed 20-Feb-13 22:58:58

Does Indiana want him?

<even if you don't>

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 22:59:51

Does what? Sign his name across your heart?

Aww but take a look at him now
There's just an empty space
sad

KRITIQ Wed 20-Feb-13 23:00:15

Mr. Big Stuff,
Who do you think you are?
Mr. Big Stuff,
You're never gonna get her love!

grin

someoftheabove Wed 20-Feb-13 23:03:11

Maybe you should try a blanket on the ground?

guffaw Wed 20-Feb-13 23:04:52

the thing is, he saw your face, in a crowded place, and doesn't know what to do, 'cos he'll never be with you

nkf Wed 20-Feb-13 23:05:45

I wonder are you really just a number in his little red book?

Yeah guffaw is right
His life is brilliant
His love is pure
But don't worry
He's got a plan

Sunnywithshowers Wed 20-Feb-13 23:09:15

Ask the doctor to take a picture, so you can look at him from inside as well

Have a little time to think it over, have a little room to work it out, have a little courage to call it off

SomeBear Wed 20-Feb-13 23:15:15

Have friends told you that you're crazy and you're wasting time with him? I bet right now you'd rather have a piece of him than all of nothing. Love is a game of chances, you need to take a chance with him.

Sunnywithshowers Wed 20-Feb-13 23:37:36

So the question is should you stay or should you go?

DId you say that you're his lover when the kid is not his son?

But don't look back in anger OP

(vain attempt to drag thread into at least the 90s)

monsterchild Thu 21-Feb-13 02:07:02

Don't let a rumor ruin your moonlight, OP!

MagzFarqharson Thu 21-Feb-13 02:17:33

Would you give us your finest hour - the one you spent watching him shower?

I think your right brain knows that it might be cheating.
Have you said it once before and does it bear repeating?

MercedesKing Thu 21-Feb-13 07:20:01

Agree with SonOfAradia, it is fine to have some tolerance for each other. smile

kim147 Thu 21-Feb-13 08:22:02

The problem is:

I don't know how to love him
What to do
How to move him

Why?

He's a man, He's just a man
and I've had so many men before grin

nkf Thu 21-Feb-13 08:58:43

Kim, I've said it before and no doubt I'll say it again - you should blame it on the boogie.

Sunnywithshowers Thu 21-Feb-13 13:21:44

Hmm... you done too much, much to young. Now you're married with a son when you could be coming home with me.

Hesterton Thu 21-Feb-13 13:39:33

For god's sake, delete your browsing history OP - he's so vain, I bet he'll think this thread is about him

(won't he
won't he)

BegoniaBampot Thu 21-Feb-13 13:58:51

If he comes back will you tie a yellow ribbon round the old oak tree?

If he had words to make a day for you, he'd sing you a morning golden and new

Goodtalkingtoo Thu 21-Feb-13 18:30:30

Just because you are married
Don't mean you can't muck around
Take that blanket from the bedroom
Place that blanket on the ground

Sunnywithshowers Thu 21-Feb-13 20:06:00

So, every day, you love him less and less?

It's clear to see that he's become obsessed.

FeistyLass Thu 21-Feb-13 20:56:02

Love, love changes everything . . .but OP he don't impress me much.

guffaw Thu 21-Feb-13 21:02:09

purleeze ..STOP!....in the name of love

But still he'd leap in front of a flying bullet for you ?

guffaw Thu 21-Feb-13 21:10:59

think it oh-oh-ver

Asamumnonsense Thu 21-Feb-13 21:20:50

There was a time when all you did was wish OP
You'd tell yourself this was love. It's not the way you hoped or how you planned.

WhereMyMilk Thu 21-Feb-13 21:33:36

What's the name of the game?

DoFuckOffDear Thu 21-Feb-13 21:42:52

He misjudged your limits
Pushed you too far
Took you for granted
He thought that you needed him more

13Iggis Thu 21-Feb-13 22:12:40

But who's sorry now?
The only way is UP, for you OP now.

babybarrister Colombia Thu 21-Feb-13 22:18:44

We've got nothing to be guilty of, oh no, our love can climb any mountain,

babybarrister Colombia Thu 21-Feb-13 22:20:50

Moving on the floor now you're a bird of paradise, cherry ice cream smile I suppose is very nice

the first cut is the deepest y'now

KRITIQ Thu 21-Feb-13 23:28:16

Now it cuts like a knife - yeah
But It feels so right

MamaOgg Fri 22-Feb-13 00:03:08

Why don't you try to rekindle the flame. Head off into a field with a nice blanket. Just because you are married don't mean you can't fool around.

OhMerGerd Fri 22-Feb-13 05:21:00

Gosh OP it's a toughie, I mean it sounds like you could be heading For a new place to dwell, it's down at the end of lonely street at heartbreak hotel. Because what you've got to ask yourself about this new chap is when you grow older, losing your hair , many years from now, will He still be sending you a valentine, birthday greetings, bottle of wine ...You don't want to end up like my mate Lisa , she was oh oh so bad, she did too much lying wasted too much time , now she's here a crying' and although she's been around the world, she can't find her baby.

TanteRose Fri 22-Feb-13 05:39:38

OP, you know the bar you went to - was it the Copa? the Copacabana? just north of Havana?

apparently music and passion are always in fashion there

Lola the showgirl will set you straight, she always says that if you are young and you have each other, you can't ask for more

Goodtalkingtoo Fri 22-Feb-13 10:01:53

Tell him it must have been cold there in your shadow, to never have had sunlight on his face, But that he let you shine, and walked that step behind but that he was the wind beneath your wings.

Tell him you found love, So don't fight it, life is a roller caster and you should ride it.

Tell him he's a star to you, but he stuck in a whole, And that you want him to get out and shine

If all that fails

Say go walk out the door don't turn around your not welcome here anymore

BegoniaBampot Fri 22-Feb-13 10:23:32

Tell him just to shuffle of to Buffalo!

kim147 Fri 22-Feb-13 10:38:53

See the thing is, there's someone else who's got in my head.

I walk alone at night, when everybody else is sleeping
I think of him and then I'm happy with the company I'm keeping
The city goes to bed and I can live inside my head

I think I'm pretty messed up about him.

13Iggis Fri 22-Feb-13 11:12:17

Come on now Kim,
you knew he was trouble when he walked in!

Sunnywithshowers Fri 22-Feb-13 13:58:15

Kim, it's your party and you can cry if you want to.

rainbowrainbowrainbow Fri 22-Feb-13 14:42:11

Kim can you just not get him out of your head?
Is his love all you think about?

Don't give up.

Sunnywithshowers Fri 22-Feb-13 17:23:39

She should be so lucky, lucky, lucky, lucky

SoleSource England Fri 22-Feb-13 17:26:01

Kim47 which song is the last one? smile

kim147 Fri 22-Feb-13 17:35:52

Solesource It's from Les Miserables. On my own

He's gone.

Heaven knows I'm miserable now

SoleSource England Fri 22-Feb-13 17:38:41

Oooh sad I will listen on Youtube. Thank you smile

celebmum Fri 22-Feb-13 17:42:53

cant believe no one has told you this OP... but..

near. far. wherever you are.. your heart will go on. and oooooooooonnnnnnnnn

(im under 30!grin )

So many times you said it was forever,
Now you know what loving him cost
No you're out here talking divorce
And you weren't even married
(Well yes you are but let's not let the truth get in the way)

Just tell him "Ya-Mo Be There!

OP, I think you should consider that you've got to say it, but it's hard for you: he's got you crying like you thought you would never be. Love is believing, but he let you down - how can you love him when he ain't around? You'll get through the morning, but he never calls.

Love should be everything or not at all. And it don't matter, whatever he do[es], you made a life out of loving him. Why does he have to be a heartbreaker? When you were being what he wants you to be?

Bloody men.

kim147 Fri 22-Feb-13 18:43:14

I've decided I'm going to wash that man right out of my hair, because love, love changes everything, But I don't know how to love him

I know there's a place for us, somewhere a place for us

<I love musicals grin >

Sunnywithshowers Fri 22-Feb-13 19:11:24

You will survive!

13Iggis Fri 22-Feb-13 19:13:29

But what if he asks you to come back and stay for good this time? Or says he can't live, if living is without you? Or that every day hurts (just a little bit more) more than he's been hurt before?

13Iggis Fri 22-Feb-13 19:14:50

Actually, I can see where the OP's dh is coming from - when you're in love with a beautiful woman, it's hard.

kim147 Fri 22-Feb-13 19:17:29

But he doesn't send me flowers anymore.

Does he love me, I want to know, How can I tell if he loves me so?

hippoCritt Fri 22-Feb-13 19:28:19

Hello, is it me you're looking for?

Carmody Fri 22-Feb-13 19:48:22

Kim, No more tears, enough is enough (I think it's going to rain today, anyway). Next time you see him, tell him: "You Were Only a Splinter in My Ass as I Slid Down the Bannister of Life. True!"

KRITIQ Fri 22-Feb-13 20:59:26

You can go your own way! You can call it another lonely day.

IfNotNowThenWhen Fri 22-Feb-13 21:08:07

Just don't come home from drinking
With lovin on your mind.

rainbowrainbowrainbow Fri 22-Feb-13 21:13:11

It's in his kiss x

LatteLady Fri 22-Feb-13 21:21:44

I suggest you start looking fr something in red, something that shocking and will turn someone's head...

13Iggis Fri 22-Feb-13 21:23:10

How can you be lovers if you can't be friends? How can you start over if the fighting never ends?

kim147 Fri 22-Feb-13 21:26:39

I just want him to fly me to the moon and let me play amongst the stars.

Now that he's gone,
All you've got left is a band of gold

Well you could look at the Clouds Across the Moon I suppose ?

guffaw Fri 22-Feb-13 22:15:15

I bet your nerves have gone to pieces, your hair is turning gray,
All you do is drink black coffee,
Since your man's gone away

Sunnywithshowers Fri 22-Feb-13 22:58:09

Could you give him just a little more time?

Jossysgiants Fri 22-Feb-13 23:13:39

I fear he is cheating on you Op.
Her beauty is beyond compare, with flaming locks of auburn hair.
I don't think you can compete with her.

When you are 24 hours from Tulsa remember the night has a thousand eyes.
But I suppose if you make loving fun you won't end up all cried out.

nkf Sun 24-Feb-13 22:18:08

I'm not sure you and this new guy want the same things. He's a rolling sotne and wherever he lays his hat, that's his home. Do you really want that, Kim?

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