Poxy Cocktail Sausages

(97 Posts)
Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 19:38:56

Was at a Childs Birthday party with my ds, We don't eat sausages purely because they are full of utter crap, At the buffet my ds doesn't even go to pick up a sausage as we never eat them so fills plate up with other things but some other Mums at the party question me so I explained we don't eat them, Unbeknown to me whilst my ds is in the other room another mum says to him 'Quick don't tell your mum but I've got a sausage for you', and hands one to him. AIBU to watch to question her on this when I see her next and/or punch her in the face

YABU

But then, you know that.

idshagphilspencer Sat 16-Feb-13 19:40:58

Oh unclench ffs

gordyslovesheep Sat 16-Feb-13 19:41:11

yabu and a bit deranged

HollyBerryBush Sat 16-Feb-13 19:42:07

Please punch her - I'd love to read the DM headlines on that story when you get convicted of assault.

Bubblegum78 Sat 16-Feb-13 19:43:52

I would explain why you don't eat certain things (not that you have to) tell her it is your choice what your child eats, not hers so butt out!

For the record not all sausages are full of crap, there are some amazingly high quality sausages, usually from local butches so it pays to shop around.

I'm happy to pay anywhere up to £10 for a couple of high quality sausages from my local butcher and the same goes for all my meat.

But if you really don't like them, that's up to you. x

TWinklyLittleStar Sat 16-Feb-13 19:44:18

She WBU to deliberately go behind your back and give your kid something you don't want him to eat. However YAOverreacting a bit.

BabyRoger Sat 16-Feb-13 19:44:33

Some mums really 'questioned' you as to why you didn't put one particular item from a buffet on your plate? How weird.

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Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 16-Feb-13 19:45:06

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catgirl1976 Sat 16-Feb-13 19:45:17

It was probably horse grin

HollyBerryBush Sat 16-Feb-13 19:46:36

Were you doing that loud parnting thing? the "LOOK! Tristram, WE don't eat So WE? no WE dont, because they are full of COWS UDDERS'.

Sometimes I think I must just meet vanilla people, my life is just never this exciting. No one has ever questioned me over a sausage >arf arf<

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Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 16-Feb-13 19:46:42

£10 for two sausages??

hollly grin

GloryWhole Sat 16-Feb-13 19:47:29

Smash her in the face with a saveloy.

The sneaky sausage loving cunt.

Am furious on your behalf.

I personally wouldn't give a crap what was on anyone's plate. What a strange thing to do. the phrase get a life comes to mind. I'd assume at any party kids would pick what they liked and leave what they didn't

The other parents that is not you

Floggingmolly Sat 16-Feb-13 19:49:46

Why don't you just avoid parties in future? Would you seriously "question her on this next time you see her"?

Meglet Sat 16-Feb-13 19:49:52

yabu. It's a party.

I'm as fussy as they come (organic, free range meat etc) but the kids can eat whatever the hell they like at a party.

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 19:50:32

How funny that people don't believe me! I explained we don't eat sausages and yes they did ask, nothing precious about not eating cheap cocktail sausages full of rubbish!

I had some fabulous sausages the other day. 90% pork, 10% of combined apple, salt and pepper. No bread, or shite at all. Sadly they were £6.50 for 10 so I shan't be having them again for a while, but bloody lovely they were...

<misses point of thread, wanders off again>

BambieO Sat 16-Feb-13 19:53:32

glory that actually made me LOL

GloriaPritchett Sat 16-Feb-13 19:53:43

Would you eat the dear ones full of rubbish then?

I hope everything else on the table was handreared in a patch tended by fairies and elves, harvested by virgins and cooked by a unicorn.

Maryz Sat 16-Feb-13 19:57:48

It depends.

If he is under a year and/or he is a vegetarian, then being cross is reasonable.

If he is 18 you are a tad OTT.

In either case, however, punching her in the fact is a teeny little bit of an over-reaction.

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HollyBerryBush Sat 16-Feb-13 20:01:53

Gotta be a joke in there about unicorns in sausages but I can't quite get to the point of it yet

OddBoots Sat 16-Feb-13 20:02:16

I understand your food choices for your son (assuming he is very young) and it wasn't right of someone to go behind your back to give him some.

That said, it's also basic manners not to insult the food that other people have served and eaten so if you told her that you don't eat them "because they are full of utter crap" then you were very rude and probably got her heckles up.

feralgirl Sat 16-Feb-13 20:03:00

Hmmm, I thought the whole point of children's parties was suspending the rules and allowing them to stuff themselves full of all the crap they wouldn't normally get at home, coz it tastes nice and parties are supposed to be fun. I wouldn't normally allow DS to eat three servings of popcorn but I'd have spoiled his fun this morning if I'd taken it away from him. Every once in a while, it's OK.

That said, we did have veggy hotdogs at this morning's do though...

belfastbigmillie Sat 16-Feb-13 20:04:48

even crap sausages taste lovely

YABU op - even if they were udders and ears that won't do you any more harm than 'good' sausages

feralgirl Sat 16-Feb-13 20:04:55

"If he is under a year and/or he is a vegetarian, then being cross is reasonable."

Or Muslim or Jewish?

Lol at Holly

Mums 'question you' about what your son is eating at a party?

How strange.

DesiderataHollow Sat 16-Feb-13 20:05:43

Because party food is well known for it's healthy and non-crap filledness.
Good grief.

Who would even care what what was on someone else's plate....

What happens when wee Tristram goes off to parties on his own in a couple of years then?

gordyslovesheep Sat 16-Feb-13 20:05:59

cocktail sausages are made in factories you know...

I eat mine with frozen mash grin

I'm with Maryz.

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 20:07:35

Ds is 5, Sausages are the only thing I wouldn't like him to eat, I would never be rude and say they are full of rubbish to the party host, nor would I interfere in what anyone else's child was eating and secretly give them food they weren't allowed

How did you find out exactly what the other Mum said to your DS while covertly passing him the sausage?

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 20:12:30

He came and told me! That lady said to me 'Quick I've got a sausage but don't tell your Mum' I'm not joking it may sound petty but I am still furious!

Did he eat it?

jinsymaw Sat 16-Feb-13 20:20:42

whoa, whoa can't believe what I'm reading ! If child's Mum has said no, or passed down to child that they don't want sausages! Then other Mums should respect her views! You don't go behind the Mum's back and say "have a sausage" as if the child is suffering and starving! I llike sausages but, they are full of shit and not the best source of protein!

GloryWhole Sat 16-Feb-13 20:26:05

whoa, whoa

Very apt jinsymaw, considering the poxy cocktail sausages were probably full of horse's hooves.

GogoGobo Sat 16-Feb-13 20:26:57

YABU and you sound really rude to pass comment on someone else's party food. Just dreadful. Hope the host didn't have to hear about your foul manners shock. I imagine the other mum was just making mischief in view of your twatish comments!

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 20:32:30

Hahaha I don't have foul manners! I just don't like my son eating sausages! No twatish comments here either!

Did he eat the sausage then?

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 20:36:27

No thankfully but the other Mum kept looking to see where I was in the hope I'd leave the room! Didn't say anything there as didn't want to cause a fuss at the party

Oh. So he didn't eat it anyway? No harm done then-I assume he knows not to eat sausages if you don't allow it.

OMG I am sat here weeping tears of pure rage for you op. That other mum's behaviour was just discusting.
I'd punch her in the face with a sausage, see how she likes them apples -sausages--

Arf at Gordy grin.

jinsymaw Sat 16-Feb-13 20:42:41

glorywhole! Neigh, neigh and thrice I say Neigh. Today I am eating only couscous and tofu, gag, wretch! Bums to that, when little uns want drive thru, then I gorge on big Mac Meal! I'm only human!

GogoGobo Sat 16-Feb-13 20:46:10

I find it quite bizzare that mums would question you on what your 5 yr old put on his plate! I was at a party once and the 80 yr old Grandma offered a 2 yr old a custard cream and the way the mum reacted made me cringe! WE DON'T EAT FOOD LIKE THAT BECAUSE........ It is all so uneccessary, explanations about your quirks and preferences.

RedHotRudieParts Sat 16-Feb-13 20:52:17

You need to remove the pineapple lodged in your arse op.

Pandemoniaa Sat 16-Feb-13 20:52:51

It was U to try and trick your child into a forbidden sausage but I can't help thinking that unless your child is vegetarian or has allergies, there are worse things in life than the ingestion of the occasional bit of party food. Seems like an awful lot of angst over a sausage, tbh.

I've not forgotten ds1's 5th birthday. Our next door neighbour had to stay with her child (who she moved further down the table away from the very nice, locally sourced, not at all fucking crap sausages made from pigs whose names we knew) lest the poor girl be tainted by my irresponsible catering.

The loudly shrieked words "No, No, No Persephone! Don't touch any of those horrid iced biscuits because we've got lovely, lovely tofu and brussel tops for tea" are still, 27 years later, remembered fondly and trotted out as a classic example of helicopter parenting.

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 20:53:03

We don't eat sausages, it's not quirky, unecessary and there was no fuss made! Just another mum taking upon herself to try and make my ds eat one which annoyed me!

Would that be on a cocktail stick with a lump of cheese Red?

But he didn't eat it Popsie. When you start leaving your DS at parties you won't know what he's eaten.

HappySunflower Sat 16-Feb-13 20:57:22

Is there anything else you don't let him eat?

jinsymaw Sat 16-Feb-13 20:57:57

I think what it comes down to is that the cheeky mare (like it GloryWhole? sorry me new mate!) did not have the authority, power to give a child who has no resonsibility to let another person give food in such a devious way, against the rules of the parent!

No sausage authority. wink

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:00:10

OMG he may die from sausage poisoning, I would get an ace lawyer on board to get as much compo as possible. Alternatively you could just be normal and move on.

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:00:41

Control freak or what?

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:01:08

Thank you jinsymaw that is what is annoying me!

myfirstkitchen Sat 16-Feb-13 21:02:37

Forget it. In about 15 years he will be doing worse at parties. Might even be going up his nose.

RedHotRudieParts Sat 16-Feb-13 21:02:41

Yes sparkling, for extra pricklness and that expression the cat adopts when a thermometer is shoved up its arse.

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:03:37

How very dare she jinsy, just an ordinary mum at a party, she should seek written permission to even approach PFB. Sue her arse.

HyvaPaiva Sat 16-Feb-13 21:03:40

The secrecy and the 'don't tell your mum' would make me so angry, I don't care about the party food though. Cocktail sausages aren't 'poxy' or the source of your upset. So YANBU about her behaviour, but YABU to make it sausage-based rage.

Also, to the poster who pays £10 for two sausages: grin

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:04:37

myfirstkitchen is right.

shock at sausages going up the nose.

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:06:46

FFS it's life its not as if its illicit bum sex with a minor, its a pigging sausage roll. I bloody despair of the the UK, we are sad.

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:07:06

That would hurt!

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:09:48

Wow PessaryPam you are gross! Not funny in the slightest!

So Popsie how are you going to get over this and put it behind you?

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PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:12:34

Counseling for at least 10 years may do it.

GazpachoSoup Sat 16-Feb-13 21:13:35

Not read the other poss, so apologies - although going by the OP it's opinions you're after.
Can I just say, how OLD is your ds?
Is he old enough to decide he actually wants to try one of those sausages himself?!
Because, by the sounds of your original post, you say YOU say you don't eat those crappy, full of garbage things. Not your ds.
If he wants to try it, then surely that's up to him? He's his own person when it comes to food. Should you be foisting your tastes and ideals onto him?
If he turned round and said "bleeee, yuck!" then you'd have a point. He doesn't want the crap.
If it's a case of you saying that we "don't eat that" then that's different. YABU.
Let your child make up their mind what they do and don't want to eat.

NynaevesSister Sat 16-Feb-13 21:14:17

Oh come on! Of course OP is right to be peeved at another mother acting that way. It was out of order.

I mean who on earth does that with another persons child, even if you don't agree with it. For crying out loud she just said no to a sausage not all the party type food.

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:20:53

There could be a claim there Nyan?

'When sorry isn't enough'. Pessary. sad Where there's blame there's a claim.

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:29:35

Ha ha that is the modern way, sue their arses. You know it makes (financial) sense. So glad I am old and we were more rational 20-15 years ago. Before anyone says I always thought Jimmy Savile was a bad man so we weren't living in denial.

myfirstkitchen Sat 16-Feb-13 21:29:51

Sparkling - sausages in everywhere. Not just a cocktail one too.

PessaryPam Sat 16-Feb-13 21:30:50

Are you not sure it may have been horse? Or maybe even dog?

DeepRedBetty Sat 16-Feb-13 21:37:32

Popsie... it's Saturday Night in AIBU. So please don't expect more than the odd intelligent, considered response, in amongst all the wine fuelled jocularity.

Assuming you are for real, yanbu, it's not on to undermine parental choices with food, unless you are a professional with a child protection brief and the parental choice is something like starving a child to death because the parent believes it to be possessed by a demon.

jinsymaw Sat 16-Feb-13 21:40:34

In the name of JINSY! Can we just try and rationalise this situation! The OP, understandably doesnae like the ingredients of the usual, common bangar. Along comes interfereing Mumsy. Poor child isn't eating pigs whatever! Will offer it to child, tho I have no authority! I eat donner kebabs. So I have no fear in life but when it comes to my innards! but if someone went behind me back, regarding the kiddyminsters. Well I would have to get all medievial on their asses!

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:42:29

Thank you DeepRedBetty, It is real and I am more angry at the other Mum for secretly trying to give him it, we have never eaten sausages and ds is happy with that, I wasn't being precious!

Floggingmolly Sat 16-Feb-13 21:46:01

The other mum kept looking to see where you were in the hope you'd leave the room?????? Nobody in ther right mind would be that invested in making sure someone else's child ate a sausage! Are you a touch paranoid in other areas if your life too, op?

DeepRedBetty Sat 16-Feb-13 21:48:13

That's ok Popsie. I'm afraid I've started on the wine myself now... there must be a Silly Thread somewhere grin - coming?

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:49:11

No I'm not paranoid! Luckily another Mum said to her 'No you can't do that,he doesn't eat them'! She really wanted him to have it, I think she thought he has been missing out on these amazing bloody sausages!

mrsbunnylove Sat 16-Feb-13 21:53:45

i don't know why people do this. instead of just accepting that some people are particular about what they and their children eat, and leaving it at that, they have to stick their noses in and hand round the sausages.

Popsie3 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:58:21

smile DeepRedBetty

kinkyfuckery Sat 16-Feb-13 21:59:24

Oh FFS what bullshit. How would the other mum have even noticed your kiddo didn't have a sausage?? Why would not just assume he didn't like them??

bedmonster Sat 16-Feb-13 21:59:24

OP, I think you need to relax. It's a cocktail sausage. For what it's worth, I don't eat sausages. I don't know what's in them, don't really like the taste either. DP and DDs eat them, but I wouldn't buy cocktail ones at home cos they're cheap shite. But parties are all about stuff you wouldn't normally have at home - that's what makes them fun! I do think the woman was being disrespectful to go out of her way if you had made it clear you didn't want your DS eating them for her to go out of her way to sneakily give him one.

Bubblegum - what on earth is in your £10 for 2 sausages? GOLD?! What butchers do you go to? That would cost me £40 for sausages for one meal for my family! It's cheaper for us to buy fillet steaks for all of us!

Allalonenow Sat 16-Feb-13 22:03:07

Wait till your kiddie goes off to university and will eat kebabs and pot noodles by the bucket full. In the grand scheme of life, it is not important.
Have a wine or a bowl of icecream, and stop BU !!

RougePygmy Sat 16-Feb-13 22:46:23

At my sisters wedding buffet, being the classy bird she is (and i do love her to bits) they had full size sausages, cut down the middle, then mash piped down the split in the sausage. They were lush! Never seen that again since though!

And the only good cocktail sausage is one wearing a coat of bacon!

Not sure why or how anyone would bother noticing what others were putting on a plate at the buffet, unless a production was made of not choosing sausages!

bedmonster Sat 16-Feb-13 22:48:02

Rouge I'm having a hard time imagining that as anything other than cream eclairs!

RougePygmy Sat 16-Feb-13 22:56:08

Was a sausage and mash éclair!

FamiliesShareGerms Sat 16-Feb-13 23:00:08

But the whole point of party food is to be able to scoff "poxy cocktail sausages", isn't it?

It is completely off to give another kid food that you have already been told he can't eat, but unless you have a genuine reason (ie dietary or cultural) you should have raised it immediately or let it go. If you think that your son has been poisoned from ingesting a party sausage and it would be fair game to punch someone over it, you really need to get out more.

cozietoesie Sun 17-Feb-13 07:20:03

That sums it up cozie. grin

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