To think it is kind of smug when people say

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AThousandNamesNoneOfThemMyOwn Wed 13-Feb-13 23:33:36

(Re their babies) "he just eats whatever we eat"

Don't know why. It sort of says "we're so chilled-out, we make our child fit in with our life, we cook from scratch every night,, our DC isn't fussy with food"

All my friends seem to say this and I'm not really sure why it grates. Maybe because DS (9 mths) only 'eats what we eat' part of the time, because we are busy and disorganised and sometimes only manage a pizza delivery or Indian takeaway or just toast. And because DS is going through a ridiculously fussy phase. It just isn't always practical.

Mine does. Won't bloody sleep, though. Ever. Does that make you feel better? grin It's mainly luck so if they are gloating about that, it's a bit silly.

TheMightyLois Wed 13-Feb-13 23:35:26

It might be true though. They might only eat fish fingers and jam.

squeakytoy Wed 13-Feb-13 23:36:26

Well my parents probably said it.. because I had that choice or starve... grin

There was no pandering in my house!

WickWackThurso Wed 13-Feb-13 23:36:42

Our dds are only offered what we eat - doesn't in any way indicate that they ingest it though!

cheddarcheeselover Wed 13-Feb-13 23:37:18

I say that, but I absolutely promise I'm not being smug, I say it when a new parent seems to be getting really rather stressed about what they should be feeding their baby and when, I try to say it in a don't worry, just give them a bit from your plate and see what happens way...

Sirzy Wed 13-Feb-13 23:39:02

Same MrsTerryPrachett.

Ds is 3 and unless I know he really doesn't like something he eats the same as me. It's the way I have always done it and it works and saves he having to cook multiple meals.

SashaSashays Wed 13-Feb-13 23:39:48

It depends, I say this, I said it when I had babies.

It wasn't in accordance with you're definition though, I was politely saying, "cook different dinners, fuck that".

Our reality of this is that all of us ate fish fingers, peas and smilies or something similar. Once DC's were on solids and had moved on from the jars (yes I'm on of those) they had whatever we had, but 99% of the time it was not from scratch. I don't cook from scratch.

Just be equally arsey, "DS has much broader tastes than us, so we prepare him special dinners, elbow deep in quinoa last night <snobby laugh>".

ReindeerBollocks Wed 13-Feb-13 23:41:07

My DD did this and I mentioned it to everyone

DS on the other hand has been a battle since day dot. That child just has no interest in food.

It's not normally bragging, but if you have a child who doesn't eat it can sometimes feel that way.

coldcupoftea Wed 13-Feb-13 23:44:19

It sounds smug to you, because it is a sore point so you may be a bit oversensitive.

I may be guilty of saying this to people- only to point out that I fed PFB DD1 lovingly prepared home made baby meals, only using toddler pasta, baby stock cubes etc, slavishly following the Annabel Karmel book, and she is now a complete fusspot.

DD2 just got food plonked in front of her, chopped up a bit if she was lucky (while I was busy cajoling/spoon feeding toddler DD1) and she has always eaten anything and everything.

thebody Wed 13-Feb-13 23:45:26

Ah well.. My kids were all bloody fussy eaters but are now normal eating slim adults and teens.

It's no indication of how they will eat as adults really is it.

All bollocks.

TallyGrenshall Wed 13-Feb-13 23:46:30

I used to say this but DS has now decided that he doesn't like meat so I have a choice of cooking him something different or watching him pick around the meat in a cottage pie for half an hour again

PurpleStorm Wed 13-Feb-13 23:49:23

Well, DS gets offered whatever we eat. He doesn't always eat it though. It's especially disheartening when he refuses to even taste it.

I've been trying to get DS trying what we eat, but with an egg allergy it's proving tricky.

aldiwhore Wed 13-Feb-13 23:53:37

I think the use of the word smug is overused.

Saying that, YANBU to feel bloody annoyed.

I felt bloody annoyed at anyone who found any part of parenting easy that I found extremely complex and bloody tough!

Both boys ate what we ate, except when they didn't, and then, they ate what we had and what we knew they'd like! smile

vvviola Wed 13-Feb-13 23:58:46

Exactly what SashaSashays says. I'm far too lazy to cook more than one meal. We all eat mostly the same. I've been exceedingly lucky that DD1 aged 5 will literally try anything. Her sister at 18 months is a little more difficult but will usually eat most of it.

I had to tweak the whole family way of eating when DD2 was diagnosed with food allergies, but it was still easier for me to do that than to start cooking separate meals.

I do think it's more about what your (as in the general "you") sore points are. When people talk about their 4 month olds sleeping through the night I sometimes feel they are being smug even though they are just stating facts 18 months without more than 4 hours sleep in a row can make you slightly touchy

TroublesomeEx Thu 14-Feb-13 00:01:46

Sometimes it's just true.

Mine did eat whatever we ate. And still do.

Why is that smug? It's just a fact.

MortifiedAdams Thu 14-Feb-13 00:02:55

Dd eats what we eat. However, 60% of her meals in the week are at CMs (where, coincidentally, she eats whatever the dish of the day is).

At home, if I have a sandwich or omelette for lunch, so does she. If I have a very rare Mcdonalds, she gets a portion of nuggets. If we go out to Nandos she has a bit off each of mine and dhs plates. If I make an evening meal.I keep a bit for her for the next day if I know I have her at home. Her favourite is chilli and rice and I usually just do a jar one.

So she doesn eat what we eat but I dont think we are smug about it (or have anything to be smug about).

MerryCouthyMows Thu 14-Feb-13 00:25:12

grin At 'he eats what we eat'.

In my house, it's now the opposite way around - more often than not, WE eat what HE can eat.

Mostly because he has severe allergies, and the whole household's diet has changed to accommodate that.

So he DOES eat what we eat, but only because we aren't eating something he can't eat!

I always assume they mean they eat spaghetti hoops and chicken nuggets every night or similar.

Don't think small children could cope with my chilli habit grin

MrsKeithRichards Thu 14-Feb-13 09:00:56

Ds 2 is 9m and demolished a (homemade) chicken tikka curry. Ds 1 is 7, said it was too hot for him!

It's not smug, it's the way we are. Ds2' s weaning forced me to get more organised again and we're all eating better.

FergusSingsTheBlues Thu 14-Feb-13 09:03:16

I think it sounds smug when people boast about their kids going through from day 1. We all have our sensitive points....and, yes, our son does eat what we eat (biscuits, crumpets, chicken kievs..... Guid scottish diet)

valiumredhead Thu 14-Feb-13 09:03:31

It was fact in our case not smug. Sounds like you are over sensitive OP because you are eating pizzas wink

Softlysoftly Thu 14-Feb-13 09:08:44

I say it but I'm like you op 99% 50% of the time she has the same meals, except on our crap food days when she just can't do she gets a jar or something just for her.

But can I really be arsed to say all that when talking about babies is dull enough?

Oh I think some people are smug about it. No doubt. Not all though.

StripeyBear Thu 14-Feb-13 09:12:19

I don't understand why your baby can't eat pizza or indian takeaway (take the heat out with some extra yoghurt) with you? I mean it's only bread topped with cheese, isn't it?

Small children and babies don't need to eat different things from their parents, and at 9 months breastmilk is the most important part of the diet anyway. Food's just for fun until their one! It doesn't really matter whether they eat it or not. They are not going to starve themselves, and if you're running around making separate food, I think you're only making a lot of unnecessary hassle for yourself.

If you're bf-ing, you've already introduced your baby to the flavours/tastes you like - I think the important thing is to enjoy food yourself and for family mealtimes to be relaxed and enjoyable ocassions. If your children see you enjoying food, they are far more likely to do the same.

(Waits for someone to come along and tell me I am unbearably smug again).

My DSs eat what we eat, even takeaway curries, pizza, and DH even gave them doner kebab the other day (bit hmm about that, I'll admit!)

Bunnyjo Thu 14-Feb-13 09:21:45

Our DC both ate/eat the same as us and, yes, I did prepare meals from scratch every night...

But DD didn't sleep through until she was 3 and DS, now 20mth, doesn't sleep longer than 3 hours without waking!

So personally I find the parents that say 'Oohh my DC slept through at 6wk' smug.

dashoflime Thu 14-Feb-13 09:25:18

Yeah, I never get that either. Do those people not have salt in their food? Or spices?
I'll occassionally give DS (7ms) something off my plate but it's rare Im eating anything suitable.
That's why he has jars.

BartletForTeamGB Thu 14-Feb-13 09:27:16

I'm not sure why you see it as smug. DS from 6 months has always had what we have. I've had to try hard though to persuade my PIL that he really does though and that he doesn't need bland food. Sometimes eating what we eat involves eating curry and naan bread, sometimes (particularly as I have been vomiting throughout this pregnancy) we all have fish fingers for tea. It really is just the easier and lazier option to only cook one meal!

BartletForTeamGB Thu 14-Feb-13 09:28:22

"Do those people not have salt in their food? Or spices? "

Why can't children have spices?! What do you think children in India eat?!

I don't cook with salt anyway, so if I want salt with something, I add it at the table. (I love very salty chips!)

maddening Thu 14-Feb-13 09:30:04

But that is what we do - well ds eats what dh eats as I am veggie (which results in ds being overly interested in my food as it is different.

He and df had prawn biyriani (sp?) Last night, he eats all sorts - sometimes note sometimes less.

We did just do solids from 6mths so no purees as in blw and followed the rule of trusting his appetite (am a fussy eater with ibs so really wanted to set him up as a non fussy eater). And df makes all evening meals from scratch.

But I would never be smug about our parenting - he doesn't sleep through yet at 2 - he has turned our lives upside down and I am exhausted - just lucky the eating bit is going ok (and there's always time hey!) If you asked me to sum up having a baby I would say relentless but worth it smile I wouldn't harp on about him being a good eater.

StripeyBear Thu 14-Feb-13 09:31:54

Salt isn't especially good for anyone Dashoflime

When cooking for a baby I am just a little more careful. I wouldn't normally use stock cubes or add salt to vegetables, for example, anyway. If others really want more salt, they can always add it at the table. Being mindful of salt content is certainly a lot less trouble than making an entirely separate meal.

Spices aren't an issue - herbs and spices add lots of flavour - or do you mean as in spicy-hot? I will sometimes make a separate stir fry with less chilli - you can often cool things down with yoghurt - so a spoon of chill con carne mixed with yoghurt and rice - much easier than a separate meal and perfectly nutritious.

I wouldn't give a child a jar at all - most of them aren't especially nice.

KenLeeeeeee Thu 14-Feb-13 09:35:51

I say it, and it is true - but only because there is no bloody way I am organised enough to cook dinner for the kids, then dinner for me and DH and something else for the baby (9 months old). He usually naps while the bigger kids are having their dinner, so he has a small helping of whatever me and DH eat later on.

dashoflime Thu 14-Feb-13 09:36:56

Ah Yoghurt, That explains a lot. Why didn't I think of that?

I don't tend to use salt in cooking either but Im mindfull it will be in packet food and takeaways.

BartletForTeamGB Thu 14-Feb-13 09:38:12

I've always figured that DS gets so little salt at home that it doesn't matter if he does have an occasional salty meal, like if we are at a restaurant.

GingerPCatt Thu 14-Feb-13 09:38:25

My toddler eats what we eat. He's not a big eater so it's just easier to make dinner and give him some if ours. And im way to lazy to cook two meals. I'm not bothered by sugar or salt since most of what I cook is homemade since I like to cook and its healthier and cheaper. I don't judge though, my best friend cooks just for her DS. Whatever works for you I think.

SelfRighteousPrissyPants Thu 14-Feb-13 09:41:10

YABU I'm not smug I'm too lazy to cook more than one meal wink

GadaboutTheGreat Thu 14-Feb-13 09:46:36

Not smug, just getting on with life. Who has time to make seperate dinners when you have toddler & baby?
Why don't you batch cook a load of stews, pasta, pie etc and freeze half, so you can just reheat it when you're short of time. Then you can all eat the same meal knowing it's fine for baby too.

I say it too. We have only tweaked our diet to make it a little healthier for us all, so they genuinely do eat what we eat!

However, I can understand the frustration, potty training is my parenting nemesis, I get all angryangryenvyenvyenvy when parents say their dc just refused nappies and took themselves off to the toilet at the age of 2. Especially when they appear to equate intelligence with bladder and bowel control as well! confusedhmm

MrsOakenshield Thu 14-Feb-13 09:49:07

I struggled with this as well. When I started weaning at 6 months I was still too chaotic and struggling to make any proper food for me and DH - but I didn't want to wean DD on a diet of over-salted ready meals either. Which is why I found BLW so difficult, and gave up in the end. So, I feel your pain.

But, DD is and always had been a fantastic sleeper. AHAHAHAHAHA!

Panzee Thu 14-Feb-13 09:50:04

My son used to eat what we ate, now he's 3 he eats sandwiches, sausages and pasta. So much for my weaning smuggery!

5madthings Thu 14-Feb-13 09:58:33

Oh dear i say this, well if people ask what my children eat i will say what we eat/whatever is offered because thats the way we have done it as i wont make more than one meal.

So yes curry, chilli, jambalaya etc included they eat the same as us. Dp made a lovely spicy sticky chicken dish the other day with rice and mango and all five liked it.
We use spices but never add salt to.cooking it can be added at the table if necessary and we use a low salt stock if i need to use stock but i always find it better to add wine instead ie shepards pie or casseroles etc

Fishandjam Thu 14-Feb-13 10:09:21

Hmm. Some people are smug about it. I can say that our DCs eat what we do (though I don't tend to say it IYSWIM), but I do adjust what I make for family meals so that I know it'll be appealing to them. So lots of spag bol, chilli made with baked beans, cottage pie, mild curry, fish fingers etc, rather than blow-yer-balls-off jerk pork or chicken jalfrezi. So no smuggery at this end!

TheMightyLois Thu 14-Feb-13 10:20:41

Ha, nice name Fishandjam wink

Fishandjam Thu 14-Feb-13 10:22:47

Why thank you themightylois! Yeah, we'd eat that too if the DCs wanted it grin

Floggingmolly Thu 14-Feb-13 10:28:10

It just means you're not feeding them special "baby" food, doesn't it? Even if you don't eat exactly the same meal at the same time, they eat the same broad range of food that the rest of the family eat.

ChestyLeRoux Thu 14-Feb-13 10:30:07

My mum and dad used to do the fancy thing of cooking different meals for everyone and me and my db were right pains in the arse.When I was in year 9 I went through a stage of only wanting marks and spencers chow mein ready meals and my mum bought them and now looking back I think wtf shock

As I have nowhere near the amount of money my parents have dds so if I have mcdonalds they have it.

Helltotheno Thu 14-Feb-13 10:34:01

Isn't it the timeframe though? With us, we never ate at the same time as the children when they were babies so it was kind of moot; different mealtimes are as much effort as different meals, even though they ate more or less the same type of stuff we did.

Now though, you bloody bet they eat the same as us! No separate meals here and no fussy eaters welcome ta muchly! If that makes us smug, so be it grin

amillionyears Thu 14-Feb-13 10:35:28

I think it depends who says it, and what else they say.

Often, yes just fact.

But there are some parents who will try and brag about anything and everything.
And if your child isnt eating, sleeping, burping etc etc, and theirs is, then it can grate.

phlebas Thu 14-Feb-13 10:35:34

ha! All my babies just ate what we ate until they were about 18 months old.

Now I have a 12yo who eats approximately three meals but would rather just eat cereal or plain pasta hmm a 6yo with massive food phobias who eats only shreddies, pasta & pesto and peanut butter sandwiches, a 3yo who is just normal fussy and a 20 month old who currently only eats baked beans & peas.

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Jayne266 Thu 14-Feb-13 18:32:45

My DS doesn't eat what I eat I make sure he eats better (or at least has a healthier choice)

ChristmasJubilee Thu 14-Feb-13 18:37:20

Ds3 (6) has always "just eaten what we eat". The only thing he doesn't like is celery. However it is only in the last year that he has slept through the night and even now it's hit or miss so you can't have everything. Also ds1 (17) has always been a fussy eater and still is!

whatsforyou Thu 14-Feb-13 18:49:47

My ds eats what we do and he sleeps through the night, nothing to do with anything I've done but he does. However I'll be as bloody smug about it as I want because I don't feel very smug when he has the screaming heebee jeebees and tantrums from hell every ten minutes every time we leave the house!

Raising children is a lottery, it's just your luck what you get so make the most of the good stuff smile

DeWe Thu 14-Feb-13 19:10:26

DD1 ate what we ate at 9 months. At 12yo she's the faddiest child-only eats about 6-10 different things.

Dd2 was very faddy at 9 months. I think she was still steadfastly refusing solids. She didn't eat what we did for ages, probably about 18 months. She eats anything now age 9. grin

Fishandjam Thu 14-Feb-13 23:09:14

Actually, what really used to grind my nuts was mothers saying smugly " oh, we're doing baby led weaning". Generally as they looked pityingly at DS's pot of (<smug alert> lovingly homemade) puree. I'd loved to have given DS bits and bobs off my plate, it would have beaten having to mush everything. But he had the most ridiculously sensitive gag reflex; any lumps of anything and he'd chunder massively and projectilely (is that a word?). Which was not his fault, or mine. He couldn't cope with "solid" food until he was over 11 months. I just got very weary of well-meaning comments like "have you tried him with some cut up ripe banana?" Yeah, you try it; I'll just stand back while you reenact the Mr Creosote scene from Meaning Of Life.

dimdommilpot Thu 14-Feb-13 23:21:07

My friend gloats that her 2yr old doesnt tantrum! Shes a month younger than my dd who has been tantruming for months! I cannot bloody wait..

DD has always eaten what we, i was too lazy to make puree so just gave her what we were having from the start. She will literally eat anything i give her (touch wood) but boy can she through a wobbler!

Hamnpork Thu 14-Feb-13 23:29:23

My 2yo didn't tantrum either... Never did really. You might be in for a long wait.

specialknickers Thu 14-Feb-13 23:39:17

I say that. Not at all smug about it. I loathe cooking so will only prepare one meal - ds (3) is offered it and if he doesn't like it then I don't beat myself up. Kids are fussy eaters and theres no point pandering to them imho. He won't starve, breakfast is in 15 hours and I'm buggered if I'm going to start cooking something different for every member of the family.

Alligatorpie Thu 14-Feb-13 23:41:15

My seven year old didn't tantrum either...well she does now occasionally, having decided she is a teenager.

With dd1, i hand made organic purees, and she is now a fussy eater. She didn't sleep through the night till she was 4.

Dd2 eats what we eat.

Do i sound smug? I don't mean too, but it is so much easier to do BLW.

BreadForMyBREADGUN Thu 14-Feb-13 23:41:44

Tbh, I wish I'd known all of this when DS was tiny. I didn't have a clue about weaning and I should have just given him what I was eating. Baby #2 will hopefully be much less picky!

MummytoKatie Thu 14-Feb-13 23:50:37

We don't like spicy food and never cook with salt so dd has eaten what we eat from six months.

We do have to eat our carrots cut up into triangles though!

I say it, but definitely not being smug!

DD point blank refuses to be spoon fed. She has to use her hands so we just give her chunks of what we're eating.
It can actually be a pain sometimes depending on what we're eating! If it's a stew or casserole type dish I just have to take out chunks of meat and veg, soak some bread in the stew!

Yfronts Thu 14-Feb-13 23:55:47

Well mine does eat what we eat but it's because I'm too much of a cheap scape to buy jarred baby food and too lazy to cook a basic second meal. We tend to make curry's, lasagna, salad, fish dishes etc and I can't be bothered to offer alternatives.

Iaintdunnuffink Thu 14-Feb-13 23:56:46

If they make such a remark when they see a baby or toddler being fed purée , or having a different meal then yanbu. It would be smug to make a song and dance about it when not asked. If they're saying it as part of a general conversation then yabu, they have as much right as anyone to chip in about how they do things.

DD eats what we do - again, it's just a fact. Nothing to do with being smug but because she will chuck an absolute shit fit if she is given something different to everyone else and will point blank refuse to eat it. I do cook from scratch, but only because I enjoy it and find it to be cheaper.

Plus side is leftovers get frozen so on the days where DH and I eat later (he works late so I usually have my dinner with DD as she doesn't eat as well if I'm not eating too) there is a family dinner for her to have.

She slept through from five weeks - but also had severe reflux with projectile vomiting until she was 10 months, and still occasionally hurls at 16 months.

She's been having epic tantrums since she turned one, and when her nappy is wet she strips off her bottom half, removes it and waves it around. No matter where we are not helpful.

Add to that the fact that she was on a monitor from birth to ten months for being at a higher risk of SIDS.

I honestly believe that we all get a pretty fair share of easy and hard bits with our children - it's just which are which differ from child to child.

Mine eats and sleeps, which is my easy - but then I have my hard in that she also was the sickiest, most colicky baby I have ever come across and made mountains of laundry (think one outfit, one bib and two muslins for every single feed) and resulted in me spot cleaning the carpets on a daily basis, plus the monitor, tantrums etc.

So whilst you might feel some people are smug for stating facts that their children eat and/or sleep - bear in mind that there will be things they find incredibly difficult, just as you will find other things no bother at all.

I am not smug - but I am pleased that she eats and sleeps - because if she didn't on top of all the other stuff I'd be destroyed!

M0naLisa Fri 15-Feb-13 01:01:07

Our two boys aged 4 and 6 eat what we eat. I aint standing cooking 3 different meals, sod that. If we're having Chicken Dinner, everyones having it. grin

Either that or go without. grin

nailak Fri 15-Feb-13 01:34:17

my kids eat what we eat and if they dont eat it then they know where the fruit, yoghurt, bread and cereal is,

i am not faffing around making different meals! sod that!

from 6 months ds ate what we eat, without salt. i would take his portion out before adding salt.

Sleepybunny Fri 15-Feb-13 02:10:09

Well my DC ALWAYS eats what we eat. I don't know what the problem is.

I only eat skittles and kitkats

:-)

Boutdesouffle Fri 15-Feb-13 04:56:24

I agree OP, yes, ok, most people do feed their children the same as they eat, because I think we are all inherently lazy. But it IS smug to comment on this, because we don't all ALWAYS eat foods suitable for small children. So all you smugfucks stick to your sushi, curry and organic oompa loompa milk. I just don't want to eat like that ALL the time, sometimes I just want a creme egg, gin and a fag for dinner.

HollyMadison Fri 15-Feb-13 05:27:04

I find it smug too OP. But that's cos I have the hell of a fussy eater. Although in saying that, DS eats what we eat. It's just that he needs YouTube videos which I pause until he deigns to eat a mouthful...

HollyBerryBush Fri 15-Feb-13 06:25:09

A baby isn't born with a full set of taste buds. Bitter and sour don't form until about the time a baby gets mobile; this is throw back to poison - as in sharp tasting berries are likely to be poisonous.

Where as the sugar buds are formed, hence breast milk being very sweet.

So generally babies do eat anything you care to put infront of them becasue they can't taste it.

>useless fact of the day< brocolli contains traces of something I cant remember that is poisonous to small children (in large quantities hence most of them hating the stuff. normal children that is, mine quaffed brocolli by the bucket load. The brassica family of veg isn't particularly good for you, it upsets the thyroid.

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karatekimmi Fri 15-Feb-13 06:55:43

See I say this, but it's his decision. Little lord fontleroy gives death stares if you are eating and makes his way over to share! He really doesn't like it if he is eating something different so now we just share a plate of food (the same food on his plate doesn't have the same effect - he still feels like he is being done out of something!) It's not snug, it's just easier!!

We do have meals of fish fingers and other easy meals, but some stuff is cooked from scratch!

Matildaduck Fri 15-Feb-13 06:57:26

I think your sensitive. I had one who ate like a horse and one sparrow.

I wouldn't have been smug just making conversation.

Wishihadabs Fri 15-Feb-13 07:08:24

I think it depends on the age of the dcs. I can't stand children of more than 7ish being given nuggets and chips at 5pm . Then the adults eat properly at 830. Very weird and English. The diet of British teenagers is appalling and I think this plays a large role.IMO older children need to be part of family meals.

However there is no joy in cajoling a 2.5 year old and fussiness is quite normal at that age, as is needing to be fed at an ungodly early hour.

Wishihadabs Fri 15-Feb-13 07:11:30

I think it depends on the age of the dcs. I can't stand children of more than 7ish being given nuggets and chips at 5pm . Then the adults eat properly at 830. Very weird and English. The diet of British teenagers is appalling and I think this plays a large role.IMO older children need to be part of family meals.

However there is no joy in cajoling a 2.5 year old and fussiness is quite normal at that age, as is needing to be fed at an ungodly early hour.

Wishihadabs Fri 15-Feb-13 07:16:03

I see your OP refers to babies (e.g.; under ones). I would just smile and wave, most 1 year old s will eat anything, most 2 year olds won't c'est L.A. vie

FadBook Fri 15-Feb-13 07:16:38

Karate - same here, dd would notice in a flash if we were eating something different to her and would see it as injustice!! She's only 18 months grin

I've used that line, I think most BLW people do as it is something we genuinely do. But I don't say it smugly, just that feeding a child doesn't have to be a big deal. It can be relaxed and doesn't mean you're cooking 5 different meals, mashing or puréeing food wink

There's a thread recently under weaning comparing how much babies/toddlers are eating and I've commented a few times that They're. All. Different!! Unless medically, they're not "thriving" then you don't need to worry about their food intake.

If I cook a bit extra i'll freeze it for my "nights off", ie a night off from dd and we have takeaway after she's gone to bed, the little meals in the freezer come in handy then! She is fond of a bit of dominoes though!!

The only thing I've changed is not adding salt to cooking (although I still use normal stock as the minute amount dd will get is fine) and having natural or Greek yoghurt in the fridge to 'tone down' anything maybe a bit too spicy, but she never seems that fussed about it being hot DP loves his madras grin

JugsMcGee Fri 15-Feb-13 07:28:29

I don't mention it unless someone asks me what he eats. We all have the same meal, but at nearly 2 he doesn't always eat it. I don't use salt in cooking. I usually just bung it all in the slow cooker in the morning. And yes if we're having a biscuit with a cup of tea then he can have a biscuit too.

We did blw because he refused to be spoon fed but shovelled it in with his hands.

Except Saturday night takeaway. We wait til he's in bed for that!

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 15-Feb-13 09:10:28

Ours eat what we eat, they don't like everything but I don't cook different food for them.

I hardly ever used jars, they are the most disgusting, bland, vile thing imaginable. And then people wonder why their 2 year olds won't eat anything - because they were weaned onto tasteless mush!

dashoflime Fri 15-Feb-13 09:33:10

See, I think mine likes it really bland though. He's used to milk, which is pretty bland itself, so I can understand it.

Fishandjam Fri 15-Feb-13 09:41:56

Alibaba, my DS was weaned onto mush (not tasteless, but nevertheless). He now at age 3 eats "adult" things olives, chorizo, Stilton and capers. But at age 2 he was fussy as you like. I suspect it has more to do with the fact that many 2 year olds ARE fussy - evolution giving them a healthy caution about unfamiliar (possibly poisonous) foods, perhaps? But maybe you disagree.

JugsMcGee Fri 15-Feb-13 09:57:55

Fishandjam I think it's a normal phase isn't it? DS has had mostly our meals but at nearly 2 he has days/weeks where he won't eat.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 15-Feb-13 10:06:35

Fish - yes fussiness is totally normal, but if you've introduced a range of flavours early on, in whatever format, then at least they are started on the right path.

dash - do you really just feed him jars? Why not mash up some of your food for him so that he can eat something that tastes real? Jars taste so artificial, and they are all really sweet, even the savoury ones.

We have never used a lot of salt in cooking, it isn't necessary if you have good quality ingredients. And there is nothing wrong with spices, heaven forbid that babies should taste something!

YANBU. I get quite ragey when people say 'Oh just eat with them, and they'll have what you're having surely?'

Er. No.

I have twins, so it's not down to superior/inferior parenting, they're just different. If DD wakes for lunch before DS it's a joy, I can pop her in the high chair, chat to her, make my own lunch and share it with her. No drama.

If I'm trying to feed DS at the same time he screams the minute he's in the chair and not being given exactly what he wants at that particular moment. He won't eat egg (except eggy bread), pasta (except Ellas' toddler meals), most meat (ditto), most veg. Last week he went off fruit entirely. Occasionally bread, cheese, ricecakes, or any other safe food will be violently and suddenly rejected for no discernable reason.

We went out for lunch twice last weekend and he spent the first one pulling chicken out of his mouth and throwing it at the one vegetarian on the table, and the second he threw a spoon so hard it knocked over a full glass of water and soaked me and half the food.

Also, I don't want to eat my dinner at 5.00 pm, DH doesn't get home till 6.30 at the earliest. I like my food seasoned. Last night we had fillet steak, and I'm not wasting htat on a meat refuser. Tonight we're having carbonara, with salty bacon, pecorino, and semi-cooked eggs, they're not having that either!

People who just yabber on about how their child can catch, kill, gut and pluck eat a whole chicken at 7 months make me want to swear extensively.

Fillyjonk75 Fri 15-Feb-13 11:10:02

YABU. DD1 had a lot more jars as I wasn't as confident with cooking then, or thinking up ideas that could be pureed/mashed down for her. With DD2 I used to give her a few jars when we were out and about, but one time she got quite ill (spag bol sick all over the car - ugh) and just decided herself at 8/9 months that she wasn't going to touch another jar and only liked my cooking. So that was it, she had to have what we were having all the time.

MiaowTheCat Fri 15-Feb-13 13:39:23

She eats SOME of what we eat - but I'd really rather try to keep her away from the shitter elements of our diet and we don't tend to eat till she's in bed anyway... so I freeze portions of anything baby-suitable and use them at a later date - along with the odd jar for an easy life as well. And yes, I'm a slattern who didn't do BLW - my dogs are fat enough already among other reasons it wouldn't have worked for us.

As for eating with her - when I've tried that she's screamed blue murder at me having the cheek to eat anything and not give it to her! This is the bairn who even tried to scrounge everyone's lucozade when I was down the hospital for the GTT recently.

Oblomov Fri 15-Feb-13 13:49:16

Same as FolkGirl:
"Sometimes it's just true.

Mine did eat whatever we ate. And still do.

Why is that smug? It's just a fact. "

I have now resorted to complainig that because my kids eat literally everything, and are permanently ravenous, that they are costing me a fortune and eating me out of house and home.
Does that bother you aswell?

And I am smug. well not actually. Its just that thjey are just little blighters, who do so much wrong, are a pain in so many areas, food is the one area I can boast about. << Because believe me, I have little else to boast about>> wink

BarnYardCow Fri 15-Feb-13 14:02:52

Dd1 fussy as anything, Ds1 refused all fresh homemade baby foods, Ds2 ate pretty much anything if it was on daddy's plate, Dd2 will eat anything , if she wants to eat it, even wants frozen green beans from the freezer.They all eat what we eat, as we all have the same meal, unless it is eat what you want night, or they are ill.Generally, the last two are less fussy, as there wasn't time to hover over them as the first two!

nickelbabe Fri 15-Feb-13 14:09:44

DD eats basically what we eat.
but she also eats more frequently than we do, so she also eats some of her own stuff.

so,to that end, we have lots of things that are made just for her.
muffins are made and frozen and we don't eat those (well, unless i'm starving!)

nickelbabe Fri 15-Feb-13 14:23:44

having now read some other posts grin

dd doesn't sleep at all ever.
ever
we're just eating early lunch now.
I had a croissant because DD hasn't been persuaded to try them yet, she's eating a muffin (cheese and sweetcorn). we've both shared a kiwi and a stick of applewood smoked cheese.

i'm glad that i've insisted she's veggie, because she keeps feeding me. hmm

fragola Fri 15-Feb-13 14:27:19

YABU. My kids always have. Am I meant to make something up when someone asks in case I seem "smug"?!

AmberSocks Fri 15-Feb-13 14:36:20

my kids eat what we eat although they obviously have their likes and dislikes.they all sleep well too,but they are a bit feral. :-)

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