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Aibu to take a risk and stick with my gut feelings?

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DH have fallen in love with a house. We have put in an offer which has been accepted and we are now going through all rhe builders checks and legal checks. I should point out we live in NZ so a bit different to UK.

The house we love is a bit unusual. Its was designed by an architect who lived in it for 20 years and is now in need of a bit of love and care. Its also in a slightly odd position as its sits in the middle of a small woodland.

Its also on stilts (not unusual in this part of the world) and is built into the rock in places.

My parents have now made it clear they are not happy about us buying this place. They are worried about maintainance and re-sale value. We are having structural engineers and builders check it out. We know the roof will need some repair in the near future (although is fine at the mo).

I just feel like everyone thinks we are rather nutty for buying this property. But we really have considered it carefully and do not want to sell it in the near future - i want my kids to grow up there. I know it needs maintainance - we are prepared for that.

I should point out that my parents have not seen the house in reality - they are going by photos and google earth. My friends also think we are slightly odd - but admit its in a nice location.

Has anyone else taken a bit of risk when buying their dream home. Did it work out in the end. I am worried that maybe I should be listening to people - but then I dont want to own a conventional house when we are lucky enough to have the opportunity to own something a bit different,

MooseBeTimeForCoffee Wed 13-Feb-13 18:03:37

Sounds fab. After all, it's not your parents living in it, is it? If you understand work needs doing and are happy and have the means to pay for it then its not their problem!

Any pics?

BonzoDooDah Wed 13-Feb-13 18:05:21

Sounds like a dream house to me. And it's you buying it not your parents so say to them - we love it and hopefully you will come to do so too.

Go for it - sounds like a great chance to live somewhere special. (And what's teh utterly worst that can happen? ALL the survey people are wrong?? not likely) Good luck!

BonzoDooDah Wed 13-Feb-13 18:05:46

And yes - pics?? - sounds fab! <<v jealous>>

lollilou Wed 13-Feb-13 18:06:33

It sounds amazing. Go with your instincts, it sounds like you love it and are prepared to do work on it so I say yanbu.
Would also love to see pics.

Lamazeroo Wed 13-Feb-13 18:08:12

Are your parents Kiwis or Brits? I can imagine that if they're British then iti might be a bit strange and out of their realm of experience and knowledge. I'd go for it, sounds brilliant!

madonnawhore Wed 13-Feb-13 18:08:15

Sounds gorgeous. I know New Zealand well and can imagine just the sort of house you mean.

Anyway, isn't it much easier to get planning permission and build what you like in NZ? I thought you didn't have to jump through hoops like you do in the UK to put on extensions or even knock the whole lot down and start again.

If you like it, buy it. The land alone will hold its resale value.

MammaTJ Wed 13-Feb-13 18:08:50

Sounds lovely, though we can't possibly judge without seeing pics. <hint, hint>

Sits in my suburban semi and dreams of a house on stilts in the middle of a wood.

You are SO not being unreasonable!

CheerfulYank Wed 13-Feb-13 18:13:55

I want to see too!

My parents moved my brother and me into a decrepit log cabin that had been empty for 25 years and had no running water or electricity at the time. Everyone told them they were insane, but it is gorgeous now, and was a lovely place to grow up. smile

wonkylegs Wed 13-Feb-13 18:15:18

Sounds cool although possibly daunting if your of a more conservative nature.
I grew up in two cool & different houses - I think it helped my siblings and I shape our creative sides (we all work in creative industries & I am an architect)
If you have your eyes open to the possible challenges that it might have I don't see the problem. Houses like this only don't work for people who expect to live in them like regular houses.
Hope it all works out I'm jealous I'm house hunting at the moment and can't find a plot to build on or a house I can work with in the area we need to be in sad

I really want to see it now.

Yanbu. I'm very jealous

I think you should ignore the parents and do what feels right to you. We live on a 128 year old iron tug. Used to be steam powered but now has a lovely old diesel engine in her. She has been our cruising home for the last 16 years and in that time she has used up all our money and all of our time BUT we have had a fantastic life living aboard and have spent up to 10 months of the year out at anchor in some of the most beautiful places in the country. I don't regret a minute of it even though she is now a bit too much for us to manage and we will be downsizing to a narrow boat. Only the increasing problems associated with getting older have persuaded us to change her for something smaller and confined to the canals.

Buy your house, enjoy living in it and have fun!

You will not regret the things you do, only the things you did not do.

Beaverfeaver Wed 13-Feb-13 18:33:07

We took a risk by buying a small 2 bed detached house which has a huge protected tree growing just 2 inches from the wall.

But we loved the house.

Lived here 3 years now and the tree hasn't grown much. It's a very slow growing species.

Can't remove it because its protected and if we did it would cause more damage to the house

ArtyFartyQueen Wed 13-Feb-13 18:40:40

It sounds wonderful! Are your parents looking at it from their point if view or yours? They might be at a different stage of their life so would consider it risky and top troublesome but for you and your family it could be perfect! I second pics too - it sounds amazing!

ReluctantMother Wed 13-Feb-13 18:42:20

Sounds magical! You will regret it if you don't take the risk.

Wow - thanks everyone. Sitting here on the verge of tears. Buying house is so stressfull and emotive.
Cuttingpicasso - your lifestyle sounds fab! Bit nervous to post pics as the estate agent details do make it look like a wooded shack in the woods smile

badguider Wed 13-Feb-13 18:58:45

Sounds great. My parents grew up in old cold houses before central heating and they brought us up in and now live in a new build - they can't understand why DH and u want have chosen old houses or that they're now far more comfortable than when they were young.

CloudsAndTrees Wed 13-Feb-13 19:00:23

If you have strong gut feelings about it, then follow them! Mine have never let me down.

Who cares if it's a shack in the wood, or a lean to, or a tent. It's your dream home, presumably you can afford it and you're clearly realistic about maintenance.

Unless they're buying it for you it's none of your parents business so I'd be politely thanking them for their advice but telling them you'll be doing as you and dh see fit.

californiaburrito Wed 13-Feb-13 19:03:51

That house is amazing!

Do it!
Do it!

It looks amazing! If you can afford it - and any poss long term maintenance then go for it!

Phone not letting me see properly but from what I can see that looks amazing smile

CheerfulYank Wed 13-Feb-13 19:10:40

Ooh, that's cool! Do it smile

tompuss Wed 13-Feb-13 19:15:05

OP you do realise that, having seen this, we are ALL coming to yours now! Just fab, Do it!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Wed 13-Feb-13 19:15:10

Do it do it do it
That house is amazing

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Wed 13-Feb-13 19:16:44

And if it was mine there us now way I'd ever sell, so no need to worry about resale value

ipswichwitch Wed 13-Feb-13 19:19:21

Buy it! Buy it! But it! Buy it!!!
Cos if you don't I'll be in the next flight to NZ with a briefcase of cash <Wales up from daydream in which I actually have more than two pennies to rub together to buy fab house with>

ipswichwitch Wed 13-Feb-13 19:20:01

Wakes up not Wales up ffs

Maryz Wed 13-Feb-13 19:20:08

How long are you intending to stay there?

We bought a house that was (and is) very different. We knew it would be expensive to keep up and to heat, and that resale might be difficult. But we intended to stay until the kids leave home, and we have been here almost 20 years now.

We have never regretted it (though sometimes people who visit us still think we are mad).

I think if you are going to want to resell in a couple of years it's a dodgy choice. If you intend to stay a while, and can take your time to fix any problems, then go for it.

aldiwhore Wed 13-Feb-13 19:22:46

I completely love it, it has so much potential .... I would be tempted to paint it bright colours though. (and get rid of the curtains!)

Do it. smile It's a place you can really make your own.

aldiwhore Wed 13-Feb-13 19:23:37

maryz I want to see your house now!

CloudsAndTrees Wed 13-Feb-13 19:24:28

It looks amazing!

Spinaroo Wed 13-Feb-13 19:24:32

Agree it looks amazing. I don't think you will regret it

Maryz Wed 13-Feb-13 19:25:39

Mine isn't unlke that. Without the trees and the steep roof!

It also has one window held together with duct tape while we save to replace them.

TwoPoundCharityShopShoes Wed 13-Feb-13 19:26:54

Wowee! Its amazing tell everyone else to shut up

thanks everyone - got to take kids to school - really appreciate all your thoughts

stifnstav Wed 13-Feb-13 19:29:59

Buy it, for the love of god, buy it!

LiveItUp Wed 13-Feb-13 19:30:17

Wow - looks amazing. Buy it and let us know when the house warming is...grin.

We've always stuck our neck out on properties and only once did it not work out well - and that was due to shite neighbours. You don't get too many of those in the middle of woods!

That's a gorgeous house. envy. I hope you'll be very happy there.

Lyrasilvertongued Wed 13-Feb-13 19:35:37

Wow...envy that house is amazing! Go for it.

Cherriesarelovely Wed 13-Feb-13 19:36:24

It looks bloody amazing. Dream house. I would buy it imediately!!!!!

thegreylady Wed 13-Feb-13 19:38:40

What a wonderful house do buy it smile

ReluctantMother Wed 13-Feb-13 19:39:00

Wow! Do it!

FeijoaVodkaAndCheezels Wed 13-Feb-13 19:39:16

I miss NZ houses sooo much and hate living in a little grey house that looks just like all the other little grey houses everywhere.

Do it I say!

Another vote for buy it! it will be utterly fabulous when you've given it TLC smile


could you put PV panels on it and generate your own electricity?

and it's near to a beach (even more envy )

magimedi Wed 13-Feb-13 19:58:24

Please send me your email, address & phone numbers (mobile & land line) asap so I can book in for a visit!!

It's amazing & you should go for it & WTF are you worried about what your parents say?

cookielove Wed 13-Feb-13 20:02:46

love it smile do it grin

Osmiornica Wed 13-Feb-13 20:05:35

It's you who's going to be living there not your parents or anyone else.

I think it looks fab! I love the views out of the windows - would love to live near woodland.

BlackholesAndRevelations Wed 13-Feb-13 20:08:33

That's an awesome house. Your children will love growing up in a real tree house! smile

MrsCR Wed 13-Feb-13 20:15:24

love it! Do it! You're the one who is living there, not them!

McNewPants2013 Wed 13-Feb-13 20:22:49

That house is cool

SCOTCHandWRY Wed 13-Feb-13 20:52:44

Love the pics ! Buy it buy it gringringrin

It doesn't matter what friends or family think! You will be living there, go with your gut, we did, bought a hideously badly converted building on a great open site, lots of building work and stress for sure, but we ended up with a large family home on half acre, something we never could have afforded any other way - everyone thought we were stupid to buy it at the time!

LocoParentis Wed 13-Feb-13 22:15:31

It looks great, follow your gut feelings and go for it. Otherwise you'll always look back and think we could have been living in that great house

Buy it, ditch the curtains, enjoy. Your families and friends have no soul!

maddening Wed 13-Feb-13 23:22:12

Poa <faints>

Do it - it's like your own mini grand designs!

maddening Wed 13-Feb-13 23:23:34

In a wood, near the sea in new zealand - you will have a wonderful life there.

It's fantastic! When can we come grin

dayshiftdoris Thu 14-Feb-13 00:27:16

Wow... not only is it unique but its now in a state where you can add value and really make it your own.

I want to live there

MusicalEndorphins Thu 14-Feb-13 00:45:00

I like it, looks so serene.

Pandemoniaa Thu 14-Feb-13 00:53:22

That house is fantastic. Buy it this very minute and don't listen to anyone who says otherwise! I'd love to live there.

Oh I love Plimmerton ! (was brought up on Kapiti coast, now live in Wellington) the beach is amazing, so close to town but far enough away to have the country feel. Have a couple of friends who live there, love going and visiting.
House look lovely.

Bogeyface Thu 14-Feb-13 01:16:44

Honestly? I dont like it! Far too many louvre doors and the kitchen is too small for me, but that doesnt matter.

I am not going to be living in it and you are. So you can safely disregard what I am saying about it, just as you can disregard what your parents are saying. The day they are paying for it and living in it is the day they get to have a say!

I hope you enjoy your new home smile

SomethingOnce Thu 14-Feb-13 01:28:30

YANBU, it's fantastic and you will be as happy as Ewoks!

MammaTJ Thu 14-Feb-13 01:42:54

That look amazing!! Do it!

Jojobump1986 Thu 14-Feb-13 01:52:44

Don't do it OP. You don't want to live there really. Now, where did I put my lottery ticket & how does one go about transporting an entire house half way round the world? wink

<Jealous> envy

Iteotwawki Thu 14-Feb-13 02:09:16

Definitely listen to your instincts and if you love the house, go for it. Everyone said we were mad when we bought our section (no experience of house renovating before let alone building) but we went with what we wanted.

My only thought on looking at those pics (aside from the obvious new carpets, lick of paint etc) is that that much wood will take serious maintenance. I have friends who have less than half that much cedar cladding and it needs restaining at least every 2 years. Takes a long time and will be fairly expensive unless you do it yourselves (you'll need some serious ladders!). (Also near sea and in the relatively harsh NZ sun).

However if you've had your offer accepted it's a bit late, you can't back out! Unless you've put some conditions on it (which I imagine you did given you mention building surveys) anyway.

Looks like a fab place to bring up kids smile

Iteotwawki Thu 14-Feb-13 02:11:16

Oh and I wouldn't worry about resale value. Real estate in NZ is slowly improving but if you're staying there long term the resale value isn't important.

KeatsiePie Thu 14-Feb-13 09:23:33

Seriously jealous. That house is AMAZING. Incredibly beautiful! You're going to love it so much.

So obviously I think YANBU, go for it!

firesidechat Thu 14-Feb-13 09:32:00

As someone who last bought a house purely because they fell in love with it, I would say go for it.

Our current house does meet all our needs, but in many ways it wasn't a sensible choice. It was built by the previous owner and is always described as "quirky" when we show friends round. It may be more difficult to sell than your average square box, but we all love it. It's the only house we've lived in that feels like a home, rather than just a roof over our heads. It's warm, cosy, friendly and has loads of "issues". I don't regret buying it at all.

FeistyLass Thu 14-Feb-13 09:41:41

Before I saw the pics, I was thinking 'it doesn't matter what your parents think especially when it's your dream home'.
Then I saw the photos and it's amazing. No wonder you've fallen in love with it. As long as all you're happy with all the structural checks definitely go for it. Who wants to live in a house the same as everyone else when you can live in a beautiful wooden home on stilts in the middle of a woodland?! I love the views from the windows (ugly curtains but that's easily solved!) and the external lines and internal spaces are stunning. Snap it up and I wish you much joy whilst living there.

WireCatWhore Thu 14-Feb-13 09:48:31

It's lovely. Sod what your parents think.

WhichIsBest Thu 14-Feb-13 09:58:08

I think it is really attractive, the way every window has a view of leaves from the trees. Lovely.

Some letters for you;
OMG and WOW!!!!
Looks fabulous!
You both love it so why are you listening to anyone else?
You will certainly regret it if you DON'T!

Einsty Thu 14-Feb-13 10:02:41

THAT is the kind of house I would love to bring my kids up in. It is idyllic. GO FOR IT!

Binkybix Thu 14-Feb-13 10:16:58

If you don't, I will! And I live in the UK.

Lavender my love...the house is indeed beautiful. I love the galley (kitchen to you landlubbers) and the location is to die for. I reckon you will be more than happy there...for many,many years.

ImperialBlether Sat 16-Feb-13 16:41:44

It's a gorgeous house; I don't know what your parents are on about. I'd love to see it after you've redecorated inside and got rid of those curtains!

MushroomSoup Sat 16-Feb-13 17:41:33

I think it's beautiful I love that massive room even though I don't know what it is and I'm not surprised you want it!

HollyBerryBush Sat 16-Feb-13 17:47:07

I just keep looking at all the wood and thinking - feck that for a varnishing job every year. The upkeep would be horrendous.

DesiderataHollow Sat 16-Feb-13 17:49:10

Do it!
I've just tried to pursuade OH to move to NZ and buy it if you don't want it blush

Rochellemaria Sat 16-Feb-13 17:57:22

It is a fab house-definitely go for it.If you dont you will forever be thinking of that house in the woods and nothing else will ever really come closesmile.

ILikeBirds Sat 16-Feb-13 18:00:35

Am i the only one who wants to know where the ladder on photo 10 goes?

It looks like it goes to a little cubby hole. Looks like an accident waiting to happen!

smellysocksandchickenpox Sat 16-Feb-13 18:22:51

it's bloody amazing!

maintainng a place like that would be a labour of love and so worth it!

simplesusan Sat 16-Feb-13 18:28:05

A house in a wood-wow!

It looks amazing, buy it!

NationalLottie Sat 16-Feb-13 19:29:34

Totally buy it! We designed & built out home. Everyone thought we were bonkers at the start, but worth it, so worth it.

RichardSimmonsTankTop Sat 16-Feb-13 19:39:46

It looks gorgeous, do it. And Plimmerton is a lovely wee town, so much on your doorstep and the beach is fantastic for kids.

thelittlestkiwi Sat 16-Feb-13 19:59:34

I think living in NZ requires something of a downgrading change in your attitudes to housing.

Most importantly, it's not a leaky! It's so different here, that I'd only pay attention to kiwi opinions. What do your kiwi pals think? I'd find it hard to buy something I couldn't sell because you don't know what the future holds. But if kiwi's like it, then there should be no problem.

There is nothing that would put me off it as long as you've had good building reports. It's just a wood kiwi house which is totally different to what Europeans expect. Is it cedar? They need oiling every ten years which is quite pricey so just make sure you budget for it. If you like it- go for it!

LessMissAbs Sat 16-Feb-13 20:04:06

Your parents? Seriously? Are they paying for it?

Your parents, who are unfamiliar I take it with the type of houses in the country you live in, who haven't even seen it? I'm really not sure why you would listen to your parents on this one!

I love it! Dh would have a heart attack f he had to maintain all that Deck and the wood siding.
We have a 25'x12' wood deck and it has taken us weeks to put it right we neglected it for a few years blush

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