To hate reading DS bedtimes stories!

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Dollyboo Sun 10-Feb-13 19:33:40

I bloody hate it. Just want him in bed so I can relax and have me time!

MrsMushroom Sun 10-Feb-13 19:37:27

Yanbu. Some people here will flame you....but it's just not something everyone enjoys. I don't enjoy it...I HATE rhyming books more than any other.

Fecking witch and chips and stupid Gruffalo.

Having said that, I'm careful not to show that I hate it and I help things by insisting on no more than 2 books.

magimedi Sun 10-Feb-13 19:38:53

YABVU

Bedtime stories really, really help to instill a love of reading & are a lovely memory for your DCs to have.

II am in my late 50's & still remember & treasure my father reading to me most nights.

InNeedOfBrandy Sun 10-Feb-13 19:39:48

YANBU and yes you'll be flamed.

I do it because I have to not because I like doing it and I have complete control over what book grin I read.

MrsMushroom Sun 10-Feb-13 19:40:06

Magimedi I am sure she knows what they instill...but she doesn't like doing it. That's not unreasonable. I know very well what they instill but still get irritated by the whole thing.

MrsMushroom Sun 10-Feb-13 19:41:07

It's like crafting with your kids...some parents love it...I do...others can't stand it. You don't HAVE to love ALL aspects of parenting. That's impossible.

Clandy Sun 10-Feb-13 19:41:22

Your not being unreasonable to hate it, as long as you do it and appear to love it for your sons sake then it doesn't matter if you love or hate it!

Cortana Sun 10-Feb-13 19:42:04

YANBU to hate it. Glad you're doing it though. grin

Just think about when they love books so much that they go to bed early to read there, DS is like that now and we get many a peaceful evening due to his love of books. Worth it in the end.

I've had spells of not liking it (when they wouldn't listen to anything except Thomas the Tank Engine for months on end for example). Now I'm really enjoying it again (they are 7 and 9 now so the books are far better.

magimedi Sun 10-Feb-13 19:43:50

I think that it is a 'bounden duty' to read a bedtime story to your DCs. It's part & parcel of being a parent.

missmapp Sun 10-Feb-13 19:44:09

I generally really enjoy reading the dcs books at bedtime, but blinking Ninja meerkats ( ds1's current book of choice) is really testing my patience!!

LadyKinbote Sun 10-Feb-13 19:44:12

How old is he? The books definitely get better as they get older.

Dollyboo Sun 10-Feb-13 19:44:34

Wow! I wasn't expecting others to also dislike it. I do read them but try get away with it if I can. It just seems to drag the whole bedtime routine out. Fwiw I never had stories read to me as a child! Or a kids and cuddle come to think of it! I am very involved in DS life in every other way but hate this reading at night!

ewaczarlie Sun 10-Feb-13 19:45:12

All depends on the night but sometimes I agree and sometimes I don't. We're getting into longer books now which is better than the rhyming ones! But ds interrupts constantly to ask qs (not about story!).
But love it or hate it we all know how improtant it is for our dc so along with many other things we do for them we just get on with it smile

Zappo Sun 10-Feb-13 19:45:30

Ah see I love this bit because you get to lie down next to them so it's more relaxing than chasing them round the house playing monsters or whatever. It's a nice bit of 1:1 time at the end of the day and you know that soon you'll get a sit down.

Much more pleasant than the cajoling them constantly to get undressed/ clean teeth/ get upstairs, excuses, procrastination and endless requests that goes on and on in the half hour before. (that I hate!)

God I love reading to my children but of course YANBU to hate it. We all like/dislike different aspects of parenting. I loathe cooking with my children, I do it anyway but I get no pleasure from it. Each to their own.

Dollyboo Sun 10-Feb-13 19:45:34

Lady- DS is 5. I also dislike cartoons/ kids programmes. Fortunately DH doesn't!

Nagoo Sun 10-Feb-13 19:46:29

Start earlier? I run the bath at 6pm with the aim of closing the door at 7.15 ish.

StillStuck Sun 10-Feb-13 19:46:35

Yanbu.
And I say that as someone who personally finds that one of my favourite bits of parenting. I love reading stories to ds and would (and do) happily sit for hours going through stories. There are some stories I definitely prefer reading to others though!

But everyone is going to have their bits of parenting they love and other parts that are more of an effort. I am absolutely rubbish at arts and crafts, I do try and we do drawing etc but that is definitely my weak spot. Luckily his nursery are amazing in terms of the variety of crafts they do and the effort and imagination they put into it so I figure that compensates a bit.

I do think reading is important though, but so clearly do you or you wouldn't have persevered despite not liking it.

Reading doesn't just have to be at bedtime though

I hate children's TV and films. Just about all of them. I can't even make a pretence of enjoying them, I just dial out and read or something. Even if I stare at the screen nothing much goes in. DH doesn't mind so much.

foslady Sun 10-Feb-13 19:48:35

I miss it now......and so nights I was so exhausted reading, but it was 'our' thing.

I still insist on reading bedtime stories at Christmas and get all the oldies out (grinch, Jesus's Birthday Party, Mogs Christmas......and do the voices blush

Pozzled Sun 10-Feb-13 19:49:01

What a shame... Are there really NO children's books out there that you could enjoy sharing? Or is it just the timing- if the bedtime routine is hard going then I can understand it feeling like just one more thing to get through. Do you enjoy sharing books at other times? Do you enjoy reading yourself?

I won't flame you, but as a yr 6 teacher I do believe that developing a love of reading makes a real difference to kids' achievement. It doesn't have to be done through bedtime stories, you can find other ways and other times... If you don't enjoy it, your DCs will notice and you don't want to teach them that reading is a chore.

poachedeggs Sun 10-Feb-13 19:49:41

Dolly I feel the same way but have persuaded DS to try chapter books and it's much better. We've done a few Dahl books (Marvellous Medicine, Twits, BFG, Chocolate Factory) and we both enjoy those.

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Sun 10-Feb-13 19:49:42

I'm not overly keen, especially as now it's lots of words and few pictures. I've never been good at reading aloud so we are now outside my comfort zone. But! It's starting to pay off, DD is now reading proper books, on her own and really loves reading. No one read to me when I was small and I never had a love of books. But YANBU to dislike reading if its not your 'thing'.

amck5700 Sun 10-Feb-13 19:53:17

We went to an event at school where the teacher was giving the results of a long range study into reading ability. Kids that are read to as babies onwards immediately jump up to 2 years ahead of their peers in reading ability when they learn to read themselves........and no matter how clever the child and how much work people put in, the not read to children never catch up. This study followed children up to age 15 or 16.

That said, you are not unreasonable to dislike it but very reasonable to do it anyway smile

I went through stages of disliking it depending on how tired I was and my OH did it in turns if he was about. It is definitely worth it - since about 5/6 my boys have read their own bedtime stories as their reading was so good and they didn't see it as a chore. My view is put the time in now and you can get out of it all the sooner!

littlewhitebag Sun 10-Feb-13 19:54:16

I always hated reading out loud to my kids. For me reading is a private thing. Fortunately DH loves reading out loud - read all the Harry P books out to my DD2 and would take Flower Fairy books away in his briefcase to read over the phone if he wasn't home at night.

LadyInPink Sun 10-Feb-13 20:00:45

amck5700 - I would have to respectively disagree. I have read to DD since birth and love to do so but she is not interested in reading herself and although reads well is not ahead by any significance but more middle of the road. I think perhaps i read too well to her so she just would rather listen.

Her friend whose mother has never read to her is ahead by 6 years (they are both 8) so how does one figure that?

I hated it too and rarely did it, that was what DH was for!
He read to them every night until they were over 10. I only did it if he wasn't around - I could cope with that.

Habanada Sun 10-Feb-13 20:01:02

What age did you all START reading bedtime stories to your DC?

My girl is 16mo and I read her books when I can but I don't feel there's time as part of bedtime at the moment because everything takes so blooming long, we only have 30 mins to do bath, dry, dress, milk, bed. Also I worry that rather than wind her down it will actually wind her up.

But I WANT to do it and know how important it is.

Started at about 6 months, but he didn't show any real interest till about 18 months. Habenada - is there any reason why you can't extend the bedtime routine to say 45 mins?

BlackholesAndRevelations Sun 10-Feb-13 20:09:14

It is very important and very precious one-to-one time. Undoubtedly it's good for their development. I'm glad you're still doing it even though you don't like it ; I was upset when I asked for a show of hands and less than half of the children in my class (year 1) had bedtime stories.

I was just thinking the same thing hab my DD is the same age and we read a lot in the day but I'm scared of effing up the bedtime routine by incorporating a story! But I should...but she's only just starting to sleep...aww I'm so confused

amck5700 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:10:45

Lady - I am quoting the research that was given to us by the school and have no reason to disbelieve it - apart from the fact that my boys were more than 2 years ahead of their peers, then my experience fits the research. My two sons still read 2 or 3 novels a week each at age 12 and 11.

Habanada - I really can't remember an exact age - seems like it was always smile I can however remember reading to my eldest before his brother was born and there are only 13 months between them.

amck5700 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:13:48

I don't think it necessarily has to be at bedtime though if you already have a sucessful routine.

My OH was a sahd and he always had a story time in the afternoon too. I think it is good for boys in particular to have a male read to them sometimes to show that "real men" read books too grin

JKSLtd Sun 10-Feb-13 20:14:42

There are undoubtedly days/evenings when I could do without the story reading, and the repetitive nature/choice can grind you down, but the enjoyment the DC get from it (aside from the wholesome literacy benefits!) more than outweighs it.
Some nights it might be that I insist on a shorter book, or skim some sections to shorten the time, and there are some nights when I say no story if we're all tired, grumpy, late, etc.

It does get better though honestly. DS1 is 6.5 now and I have encouraged him to get into more interesting books, currently just started Beast Quest (maybe a bit old for a 5 year old just yet) which has 60 books in the series and are worth a read.
Also good were the Enid Blyton Faraway Tree/Wishing Chair sets.
Once you've moved on from Duck In the Truck, again, it is much more enjoyable to cuddle up and get into a proper story, so stick with it smile

P.S. I hate pushing DC in a swing, does that make me a bad parent?! wink

We've had spells in the last couple of years when we've stopped bothering so much, I do hear both of mine read at night, but haven't always read back to them every single night, but we do try and do it as often as we can still at 9 and 7, I've mad a big effort again in the last 6 months and it really is good for their vocabulary and understanding.

KellyElly Sun 10-Feb-13 20:14:58

I enjoy it at weekends when I'm more relaxed and time isn't as rushed but during the working week it can feel like a bit of a chore. When DD is older and doesn't have to get to bed so early and the bedtime routine isn't so rushed I'll enjoy it more.

JKSLtd Sun 10-Feb-13 20:15:41

Oh and DD is 21 months now, she loves to pick a book and we chat about the pictures in it.
Admittedly she has a wider range to choose from with 2 older brothers than DS1 did at that age.

Sirzy Sun 10-Feb-13 20:16:18

I love bedtime stories, even better now DS (3) is old enough for us to talk about the book and read it together.

I have always been a book worm though which probably helps

usualsuspect Sun 10-Feb-13 20:17:44

I always hated it too. I did it but never enjoyed it much.

ceebeegeebies Sun 10-Feb-13 20:18:23

What age do you stop? I don't read to DS1 anymore as he is 6.5 and can read to himself - he tends to take a chapter book to bed and read a couple of chapters to himself before he goes to sleep...should I still be reading to him?

amck5700 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:20:37

See, now you are putting me to shame as I didn't read to mine at all once they were capable and interested enough to do it on their own. Got caught out when younger son was 6 or 7 when I was told what a wonderful vocabulary he had by the Head Teacher no less, what she found particularly amusing was that he could spell the words, knew what they meant and could use them in context........but had no idea how they were pronounced as he had never heard them spoken, only seen them written. blush He had therefore some interesting "rimes" in his poems!

bedmonster Sun 10-Feb-13 20:20:53

lwb your dh sounds very sweet!
Op, I love reading. To myself, in my head. I was never ever read to as a child yet have still managed to develop a huge passion for books.
We still read to all the dc individually most nights, Friday and Saturday nights they read to themselves in bed.
I hate reading to them, although I disguise it and they love having stories with me. I just cant help but think 'I could be doing x, y or z instead of this!'
Both the dds have a massive collection of stories and really love it as much as I do.
You can't love everything about raising children. But you're doing the right thing in any case.

Theicingontop Sun 10-Feb-13 20:21:15

I don't read my son illustrated children's books at bed time, it distracts him so it's something we save for the daytime. The sound of my voice sends him to sleep, not the story, I find.

Honestly, I tested the theory one night and read him the german dictionary. Worked like a charm. Since then I've just been reading him my books (ones without any sex or murder wink)

I'm currently reading myself him the His Dark Materials trilogy by Philip Pullman. He lasts about ten minutes, so I sit there and have a read myself for half hour.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sun 10-Feb-13 20:21:43

YABU

I love reading to my two, especially at bedtime when they are all calm and quiet.

BertieBotts Sun 10-Feb-13 20:24:36

Hab I started when I put DS in a bed, he was about 2.2. Before then I did read to him in the day.

I think I'll probably stop once he can read whole books himself & is happy to do that.

zzzzz Sun 10-Feb-13 20:24:36

Just read at a different time of day.

PrettyKitty1986 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:24:39

There are a lot of ridiculous replies IMO...'you don't have to like it as long as you do it' etc and how you must have a bedtime story to instil a love of reading.
My Dc are 5 and 2 and I can't remember the last time we had a 'bedtime' story...can't say I expect them to be scarred for life, nor turn to the past time of making book-bonfires when older because they missed out on such an essential experience.

blondefriend Sun 10-Feb-13 20:24:50

You definitely need to find books that you like too. I actually like the rhyming ones more than the others - Harry Maclary, Julia Donaldson, Dr Suess etc. But I'm not over keen on it either. I've read to my dd (just 4yr) since she was 2 months old and she loves books. However she doesn't really like reading when someone could read to her. She will even find older children to read to her - when camping she will bring some poor 7 year old back to the tent and bring them book after book until we rescue them. My ds has only just started liking being read to. He would just wander off or fidget.

My most hated parenting chore is "messy play". In fact I was going to start a thread about it tonight after yet another aaaahhhh experience this afternoon trying to find something for them to do on a rainy day. I get that they should do it but that's what I pay nursery for.

BertieBotts Sun 10-Feb-13 20:25:33

OP can DH do a bedtime story if you're not keen?

PatTheHammer Sun 10-Feb-13 20:25:50

Is there a time of day when you would be happier reading together? We don't read every night without fail as sometimes bedtime routines are disrupted for whatever reason.
Ds and I often cuddle up with a book in the afternoon before the school run and dd reads to me whilst I cook the tea. They are 4 and 6 now so I have started reading a few chapters from longer books to them most nights, they enjoy it and it makes it less of a chore than reading 2 or 3 shorter books to each of them.

usualsuspect Sun 10-Feb-13 20:26:59

I was never read to as a child, but loved books and reading.

Habanada Sun 10-Feb-13 20:27:48

We can't start earlier due to work, and we can't get her in bed later as then she wouldn't get enough sleep for the next day. It's hard balancing everything.

I'm like the DH further up who loves reading aloud, and I love doing accents. My fairy godmother is Welsh smile But yeah I don't want to faff up the routine at the moment. We made a New Years resolution to start doing it and we still haven't but DH hates reading to her so its really up to me to drive it I think.

numbum Sun 10-Feb-13 20:27:55

I love reading to my DC at bedtime but they now go to bed at different times so I end up spending an hour reading when I just want to sit and drink wine and MN get on with washing, ironing, cleaning etc. I still enjoy it but it is sometimes time consuming.

I did, however, hate imaginary play!

usualsuspect Sun 10-Feb-13 20:28:38

On the other hand I read to my DS every night and he never reads books.

I think it is good to carry on as long as you can - when I read to my two I stop at words that may be unfamiliar and ask if they know what they mean, they often don't. If they read the same books to themselves they would just read out the unfamiliar words and carry on (I interrupt their reading out loud for the same reason). It also leads to discussions about situations in real life which can be useful.

IAmLouisWalsh Sun 10-Feb-13 20:31:10

This is one of my favourite things about having children. We are onto chapter books now and DH is a bugger for reading on by several chapters so I lose the thread and have to nick the book to read it back for myself

amck5700 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:31:25

sometimes instead of a book I would just make up a story usually about the adventures of one of our pets and what they get up to when we are all asleep. If time was short, instead of a book or a story I would tell them the start of a story and tell them to shut their eyes and dream the ending smile No1 son at age 12 still asks for a dream at lights out time.

CarriMarie Sun 10-Feb-13 20:31:50

You could always do like a friend of mine, her DH worked away a lot (army) but before he left each time he recorded a few of their DSs favourite stories onto cassette tapes (going back a few years) so she never had to actually do the bedtime story routine. I think the idea eventually spread to granny and grandad adding extra stories to the collection.

It helps that my two are fairly close in age, go to bed at the same time and are generally happy to listen to the same books. We all pile into my bed every night for all of us to read one after the other then they go off to bed.

bedmonster Sun 10-Feb-13 20:32:42

prettykitty I agree that you dont have to have been read bedtime stories to enjoy reading as an adult. I wasn't and I love books. In fact, Dp was read to every night by his stepdad and while he still fondly remembers it, he doesn't read at all, other than to the dc. He did all the harry potter ones as just the titles bore me into a coma like state! But he would never go to a bookshop to choose anything, and he doesn't read anything else.
So his lovely literate start to life hasnt done much for him.

amck5700 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:33:58

No1 son at age 12 still asks for a dream at lights out time

Usually it consists of some building construction related task rather than being about hamsters in hot air balloons if that makes it any better smile

Midlifecrisisarefun Sun 10-Feb-13 20:55:10

Stories at bedtime used to wind up my DS, it re-charged his batteries! I did it during the day as a quiet time when it didn't matter if he needed to let off steam afterwards. A dinner, bath, bed, lights out...no fuss and little 'engagement' worked best for him. DS2 had stories at the same time as his older brother because they are close in age. They are prolific readers. DD rarely reads now but had stories at bedtime because it suited her. I struggled to get her 'into' books!

zeno Sun 10-Feb-13 20:57:33

Have you considered reading poems instead? I've gone from loathing story time to actively looking forward to it since introducing poems to the mix.

The Charles Causley poems are lovely for children, and they're short! Also Now We Are Six. Depending on energy levels etc we read anything from one to ten. Have also been doing some grown up type poems and been really surprised how much four year old dd likes them.

fuckwittery Sun 10-Feb-13 22:08:09

I don't mind reading a book with a good rhyme or decent plot.

However some truly crappy books have crept into the house. Currently DD is asking for these every night, Misty, Ellie, Sophie, Holly, Scarlett and Lucy the SOS Mermaids. All the girls have a different character imperfection that causes a mild disturbance in their mermaid lives, but its OK, with teamwork and remembering that friends always help each other out in tight spots, they get through it! Go Mermaids! They make me want to gouge my eyes out instead of reading the fucking things. Does not make for a peaceful bedtime story.

thesnootyfox Sun 10-Feb-13 22:27:18

I love reading bedtime stories to my children most of the time. I don't enjoy reading when ds1 (8) has faffed around and doesn't get into
bed until 9 p.m. By this time I'm tired and hungry and reading feels more of a chore than a pleasure.

EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy Sun 10-Feb-13 22:39:25

Habanada - IIWY I would prioritise a book over a daily bath. Children don't generally need a bath every night. Every two or three days is fine. And on bath nights I would put her to bed a bit later so she has a book. Doesn't need to be a long one.

Reading at bedtime is utterly sacred in our house. My dc are 7 and 5 and were read to at night from about 1yo. For both of them the first 'bedtime story' was The Going to Bed Book by Sandra Boynton. We did that for a few months and then began to vary.

My dc are growing up bilingual and English is the minority language, which makes it all the more vital that I read to them exclusively (or as near as dammit) in English and introduce them to all the authors and books they won't encounter through school/peers.

OP, YANBU to dislike it, because it'S the way you feel and you do read to your ds, but I have to say I can't understand what's not to like about it. Calm quiet times, good books (you can steer them away from the crap ones, and when they're very small the choice is entirely yours), closeness... I love it.

Clawdy Sun 10-Feb-13 22:44:00

When he is a teenager you will look back and think how lovely it would be to go back in time and be tucking him up with a story....smile

Apileofballyhoo Sun 10-Feb-13 22:48:28

YANBU. I used to hate it to, thinking I just wanted to get it over with and get DS off to sleep so I could have me time... But I just started telling him if he wants stories he has to go to bed earlier, and it's really working well, and I actually find storytime relaxing now!

Notcontent Sun 10-Feb-13 23:07:02

I have read to my dd since she was a little baby. I went through a stage when she was about 3 when I didn't always enjoy it because she used to choose really boring books, some of which were painful to read... But generally love it and most importantly my dd really loves it and I think it's hugely important.

Hab, same age DTs here. Have always read to them in some capacity, but the timings change a lot depending on what stage they're at/mood they're in.

At the moment what works well is reading 2 or 3 stories before their midday nap as a nice quite wind-down time from playing (on days they're not in nursery). Then nights when they go to bed all giggly and hyper we read to them, on nights when they just conk out I don't worry about it!

Interestingly one DT LOVES books already, and the other just loves them as hinges/weapons/frisbees...So I'm not getting too het up about it right now.

maninawomansworld Tue 12-Feb-13 09:22:51

Unfortunately it's a nessecary evil! I just want them in bed too but a story helps settle them. It is seriously wearing reagind the stame stupid nonsensical crap for the 6th time that week.
2 boys = 1 story each. If they want to listen to each others stories so they effectively get 2 each (while I only have to read twice) then fine.
I don't want to sit up there reading for hours when I've got a nice beer and a decent book waiting downstairs in front of the fire.

maninawomansworld Tue 12-Feb-13 09:23:47

Reading in the day - fine, reading books from school - fine. Just not at 8pm when I want to be doing something more interesting!

GrimmaTheNome Tue 12-Feb-13 09:32:03

Of course YANBU - especially if they're still at the stage where the books are really boring and they want the same one repeatedly. There were some I loathed.

But now I love reading to DD - still - at (wait for this...and don't panic, this is not obligatory, just something we enjoy!) 14! I've read through loads of my old favourite children's classics over the years and now we're onto Discworld, Hitchhikers etc. It really does get better when you get onto books you are fond of. smile

sheeplikessleep Tue 12-Feb-13 09:42:38

Would much rather be cuddling up to DS1 and DS2, laying down and reading a story together <lazy mum>, than the haring around and clearing up involved in messy play (which I hate!). I think in contrast to other activities, it's nicer because it's calmer and there are fewer arguments and they're both so cuddly by then.

However, I do hate it when we are running late and I want them bathed and they need to be asleep, because of school or whatever the next day. I deliberately make sure we've got enough time for a story or two.

Now if this was a thread on messy play / make believe / cooking ... I'd be with you grin

Cat98 Tue 12-Feb-13 09:45:08

Hmm, YANBU, though I love reading stores to ds, it's my favourite part of the day! However there are other things (craft, endless role play games) that I'm really not so hot on (fortunately dh is) so I can see where you're coming from!

dawntigga Tue 12-Feb-13 09:45:09

YANBU for not enjoying it but YWBU if you didn't do it. A love of reading gives a child escape and a life long way to learn.

ButYouKnowThatAlreadyTiggaxx

Kleinzeit Tue 12-Feb-13 09:46:52

YANBU especially when they want the same one over and over again. Even the best books lose their shine after a few dozen reps. It gets better when they get older and the books get more interesting, when you can do a chapter from a novel each night. And yes, by bedtime I can see you’d have lost patience for a chore. Actually if you really hate it can your DH do the bedtime story? You tuck them up, and then DH reads the stories to them in bed? My Dad used to read to us, and DH usually read to DS.

We still read to DS at 14 too. Fantasy stories, not really challenging adult type stuff. I’m reading him “Earthsea”, but “1984” DS reads for himself. My Dad remembers his father reading to the whole family in the 1940s, Dickens and suchlike, because not much other entertainment was available/affordable to them.

pirouette Tue 12-Feb-13 09:49:31

Last night and for the very first time, ds read me a story. He was so pleased with himself that he read it again, and again.
Yes, I felt crazy tired but it was one of those magic moments.

They soon grow up and then you will have all the me time you want.

SamSmalaidh Tue 12-Feb-13 09:49:56

God yes, I hate it too! I always try to steer DS towards the shorter books grin I am also very strict on just two stories and that's it, whereas DH will read endless books.

I actually find I can zone out while reading them and just think about something else...

Flobbadobs Tue 12-Feb-13 10:35:53

YANBU to not like it, I don't always, it depends on the book. Before DS grew out of it he was very into Dr Seuss books. The same one every night for a week, usually One fish two fish. That got a little tedious! DD is into Princess Poppy and Rainbow Magic which aren't much better but she is easier to settle after a couple of chapters.

fromparistoberlin Tue 12-Feb-13 10:51:55

its the timing, not the action

I feel sad as I actually miss my elder DS and bed time books are our time

but by 845pm when I have been up since 6am, tis hard

go to library and get loads of new books, and start earlier

skullcandy Tue 12-Feb-13 11:02:56

i started it properly when mine were 20mo and 4, we take it in turn to pick books, and we have about 50 to choose from, so its not very often we end up reading the same.

We have rhyming books, picture 'create a story' books, long books, short books. My saving grace is the fact that every 2 nights I get to choose the book.

My DS is far, far ahead as a reader, and occasionally i make HIM read the book to us all, or i read a page and he reads a page, lol.

I hate reading to them the rest of the day though, but i love that 10 mins snuggled altogether in bed at 7pm with a bedtime story.

skullcandy Tue 12-Feb-13 11:04:25

Oh, and our rules is 1 Book.

if its one of those 365 stories & poems books, then they get 1 story and 2 poems and thats IT.

MoominmammasHandbag Tue 12-Feb-13 12:54:11

Aw what a shame. I love reading to my kids but I am a bit limited in what I can do with them physically so reading s our lovely bonding time. I actually find it gets them in bed quicker; the threat of no time for a story makes them put a move on.
My eldest never had much interest in reading so on the advice of his teacher I read to him until he was 11 or 12. We went through most of the Harry Potters and loads of classics. It worked though, he is 20 now and reads for pleasure.
My youngest aged 6 is currently enjoying my old Wombles books ( boy were they ahead of their time), one chapter a night. He is drawing womble burrows and making womble inventions from rubbish ( totally unprompted). smile

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