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To think that I'm not too thin at 5'7 and 9 stone 2?

(56 Posts)
dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 21:50:42

I have lost a couple of stone on the 5:2 diet. I feel good and very healthy. My family keep commenting that I am too thin and look ill now. I really don't think I do, but could be deluded. I've checked my BMI and it seems perfectly healthy. Does that weight sound ok for my height? I like being slim, but don't want to go too far.

LessMissAbs Fri 08-Feb-13 21:54:59

Perfectly normal. Unfortunately some people are so used to being slightly overweight and to seeing everyone else that shape, that they normal looks too thin to them.

manicinsomniac Brazil Fri 08-Feb-13 21:56:22

slim end of normal, I would have thought. sounds fine.

HollyBerryBush Fri 08-Feb-13 21:57:45

Im 5' 10" and spent years naturally at 9 4, looking back I did look anorexic, but those 3 inches make a lot of difference between you and I

MsVestibule Fri 08-Feb-13 21:57:52

A lifetime ago, I was 5'6 (well, I still am actually!) and exactly 9 stone 2. I had big boobs and a big belly even then, so far from waif like. Your BMI is 20, well within the healthy range.

Do you think you've lost a lot from your face? That can often make people look a bit drawn, so people think you look ill. But if you're happy with your weight and feel healthy, then don't worry about what other people think.

Just out of interest, how long did it take you to lose it? I'm now 11 stone 7 and can't stick to any diet/healthy eating plan!

mollysmum82 Fri 08-Feb-13 21:59:22

I wish I had this problem! I'm 5ft6 and just under 8 stone and people still say I have weight to lose. I think it depends on your frame/bone structure and muscle mass.

emsyj Fri 08-Feb-13 21:59:50

I think different people can look very different at the same weight and height. I look quite thin at 10 stone and I'm 5'7" but I am quite muscular and have a bony chest that you could play the xylophone on at 10 stone, whereas I have a friend who is an inch taller who looks quite healthy and normal at 9 stone. Tis just different for different people.

9 stone 2lb isn't an unhealthy weight for your height IMO. I tend to agree with LessMiss that being overweight is so normal these days that people who would 50 years ago have been considered quite an average size are now viewed as unusually thin.

gruffalocake Fri 08-Feb-13 22:01:01

I'm an inch taller and the same weight. I find under 9st is really the line between slim and thin looking for me but think everyone carries weight differently. In terms of health you are fine though!

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:02:10

I do have a naturally thin face and my upper body is very slim, whereas I carry my weight in my hips and legs. So maybe that's why.

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:03:05

My mum actually said that as I'm in my early 30s, being too thin will accentuate wrinkles. I don't actually have wrinkles! Cheers, mum!

pooka Fri 08-Feb-13 22:03:15

I'm 5'6. Anything under 9 and a half stone makes me look gaunt. Was 9 stone when I married (ran a few half marathons and lost a fair bit of weight) and 8'10 a few weeks later (gastric bug) and I looked too thin - could see all bones between neck/chest and quite prominent collar bones.

So much depends on body shape. I have quite solid bones and broad shoulders.

WorraLiberty England Fri 08-Feb-13 22:04:04

I think what happens is if people are used to seeing you a certain weight and then you lose lots, it's more the surprise element for them that makes them think you've lost too much.

Whereas if you asked a complete stranger, they would see you exactly as you are if that makes sense?

OxInABox Fri 08-Feb-13 22:04:07

MIL is 6st 6. SHE is too thin. Tell your family to STFU or GTFO.

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:04:38

I started trying to lose weight in August I think. So it has been fairly quick weight loss.

You sound fine and healthy. I am 5ft8 or 9 and 9st 1 and def not too thin. Ignore them and well done.

Sharpkat Fri 08-Feb-13 22:10:02

I am 5' 7" and 11st 3lb and everyone says I look anorexic. I just take after my dad and have a huge frame and massive bones. Think ring size U. I think I look healthy and my BMI is normal for frame size.

You cannot win

selsigfach Fri 08-Feb-13 22:10:06

I'm 5'6" and 8st 7lbs. I'm slim but healthily so.
In my experience, it's always overweight people who tell me I'm too thin.

selsigfach Fri 08-Feb-13 22:11:07

I'm 5'6" and 8st 7lbs. I'm slim but healthily so.
In my experience, it's always overweight people who tell me I'm too thin.

I lost a couple of stone last year (hyperthyroid rather than dieting grin) which took me down to a few pounds lighter than you, and for a few months I would have comments literally every day from friends/family about how skinny I was. Eventually they stopped and I think they just got used to my new size (back my old size is how it feels to me). I rarely get comments from people now unless they haven't seen me for a while.

selsigfach Fri 08-Feb-13 22:12:50

Whoops, double post.
Yanbu!

BarredfromhavingStella Fri 08-Feb-13 22:18:56

My god I remember when those figures were my figure & am very envy

No it is not too thin, it is perfect & I very much wish my scales would show me that weight when I hop on sad

specialsubject Fri 08-Feb-13 22:27:21

wow. Same height as me and just under 3 stone lighter. I am a bit fat, but my target weight is more than what you started at.

just been watching Emilia Fox and thinking 'OMG, eat something'.

So I suppose you want to be thinner than me and not as skeletal as she is. Returning to normal eating will probably sort it.

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:27:45

Thanks all - seems fairly unanimous. Feel nicely normal now smile I really feel very healthy - but even dh was saying I was too thin and had no boobs anymore (that bit is true, sadly) so I was starting to worry.

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:28:27

I'm really not skeletal. I have 38 inch hips!

BIWI Cote D'Ivoire Fri 08-Feb-13 22:30:12

You are within the 'desirable' range according to the BMI calculations.

Sometimes, though, other people like to undermine us, because they are jealous or resentful. Could this be the case for you?

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:31:20

BIWI, yes, that could definitely be the case.

FedupofTurkey Fri 08-Feb-13 22:35:54

What is 5:2 diet?

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:37:13

See the threads on the 5:2 diet. Basically you eat normally 5 days a week and no more than 500 cals on the 2 'fast' days.

thefarmersintheden Fri 08-Feb-13 22:38:12

Just sounds like you carry your weight lower, which is easier to hide.

One of my friend has really delicate wrists, shoulders, face, waist etc and is v v chunky of hip, leg and thigh.

She looks incredibly slender in some clothes and very out of proportion in others.

My weight is much more in the face and tummy area which i think is harder ot hide.

CloudsAndTrees Fri 08-Feb-13 22:39:14

I'm 5'6 and I feel porky if I go over 9 stone. Your weight sounds fine to me.

People will be commenting just because you have lost the weight quite quickly and your appearance is new to them.

Whoknowswhocares Fri 08-Feb-13 22:43:41

I expect that they are concerned, especially about the 5:2 diet if they know you are doing that
I saw the program and think the science is sound, but many will not. Starving for two days out if seven will wave enormous big, red flags to a lot of people. They probably worry that you are developing eating issues

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:45:34

Yes, I agree there, Whoknows. A lot of people don't understand this way of eating. Ironically, I have fewer eating issues than I've ever had on a typical diet. Nothing is forbidden, so I don't crave anything. My appetite has just regulated itself naturally.

MerlotAndMe Fri 08-Feb-13 22:50:41

wish I had your body. You sound slim but not too thin. although i don't know, if I saw you I might reconsider. hard to know for sure. i'm 9 stone and only 5'2" and my top half is thin and my bottom half is normal.

IsabelleRinging Fri 08-Feb-13 22:52:39

I'm 5'7" too and weigh a stone more than you, I think you will be very slim at 9stone2lb but a healthy weight (I would love to lose a stone and when iI was the the same weight as you I was slim and fit and healthy). Ignore other people, they don't like people to change and probably feel threatened by your new figure.

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 22:54:17

There is a picture on my profile of me at 9 stone 10, so it is clear that I don't look skinny at all then.

EuroShagmore Fri 08-Feb-13 23:02:15

I'm 5'6 and consider my healthy range to be 9st-10st and my ideal weight now (at 37) to be 9'7. At 9st I start to look scrawny (boobs disappear!), at 10st I start to look podgy. So you sound about right to me. Low end of healthy I would say, which is consistent with a BMI of about 20.

bonkersLFDT20 Fri 08-Feb-13 23:06:25

I don't think you look too thin at all. Have you been exercising as you've lost the weight, because if not, maybe there's some sagginess (can't see any in your pic, but hard to see your face close up) which can make you look a bit haggard.

I am pretty much the same weight and height as you and people tend to regard me as very slim. Naked though, I have curves and fat and a bum and everything, just very slight ankles, wrists, slim face and barely any boobs. It gives me a very slim look.

I've been this weight all my adult life so I know it's right for me.

dontcallmehon Fri 08-Feb-13 23:08:33

Yes, I go to spin classes and do weights too. The only saggy bits are on my stomach because of pregnancy, but only a tummy tuck would sort that out and I don't care that much!

Cortana Fri 08-Feb-13 23:11:39

You look great! And your weight sounds fine too.

Like Bonkers and you I am pretty much the same height and weight. I have curves and a bum and rather chunky thighs to be honest. Just where I carry my weight, easy to hide and make me look slim.

Well done, by the way.

bonkersLFDT20 Fri 08-Feb-13 23:12:26

Well it all sounds great! Well done. I also have a wrinkly tummy which isn't going anywhere either. I run ALOT. I'm a woman who's had 2 kids and my body reflects this :-)

timidviper Fri 08-Feb-13 23:14:10

I think when people lose weight it takes the body a while to settle at its new weight, skin to tighten, everything to even out IYKWIM. Maybe you need to be at this weight for a while for your body to look really healthy and good.

OTOH, maybe they are jealous or insecure or just don't like any change

timidviper Fri 08-Feb-13 23:17:46

Sorry, just reread my post and I don't mean to imply you look saggy or unhealthy. I think sometimes even slim people need a while at a new weight to look really healthy at it.

I've just looked at your picture though and think you look great.

dimdommilpot Fri 08-Feb-13 23:26:16

I am 5ft 8inch and 9stone exactly and get a lot of comments about been too skinny. I dont think i am, though i will admit i have a very small waist and big knockers. i would like to tone up but cant be arsed. You dont sound too skinny!

TroublesomeEx Sat 09-Feb-13 07:44:45

I've just looked at your photo.

It's jealousy or something because you look lovely. smile

AlanMoore Sat 09-Feb-13 07:53:41

I think you're putting too much store on what others think - when I looked at your photo I had seen it before on a v similar thread? You know you're a healthy weight, if you are eating well and FEEL well maintaining it it doesn't matter what others say does it?

Though your H sounds charming...

exoticfruits Sat 09-Feb-13 08:05:22

It is fine. I got similar from my mother and had to get shirty and say 'well if I look scraggy I feel much healthier and I am not changing it'. She has stopped now- I didn't continue losing and have stayed the same for 3 years. I am much healthier and never even seem to get colds. Just ignore and they will get used to the 'new you'.

I am 5' 5" and 8 stone 12. I'm slim but def not skinny so similar size to you I'd think. I have quite a chubby tummy/thighs actually but dress accordingly. My neck/chest/shoulders are very delicate looking (v small boobs) - could this be the case with you?

Some people have occasionally said I look too thin, but I do think that so man eple are now overweight, even slightly, that we have lostsight of what is normal and healthy.

I was 8 stone 6 when I got married 2 years ago (due to nerves!) and I'd say I was at the lower end of what looked ok at that point.

PS. Sort your DH out! Mine loves my small boobs blush

hotdog74 Sat 09-Feb-13 08:43:49

I would say the slim end of normal but absolutely fine.

Fanjounchained Sat 09-Feb-13 08:51:54

I've started the 5:2 diet but had a couple of false starts..trying to get back into it this week..I'm the same height as you and 10st 7.8lbs according to the scales this morning. My target weight is about 9st 7lbs. As others have said the people who are commenting are probably a couple of pounds over weight themselves. After DS1 I lost quite a bit and looking back at pics I think I look great, probably the happiest I've been in my adult life, but the amount of people who said to me I was looking thin was unbelievable...but that's because they were used to me looking a bit chubby !

As with most things what matters is how you think you look, whether we're talking about your weight, clothes, hair or make up. If you're happy then politely tell them to bugger off...

riverboat Sat 09-Feb-13 09:01:11

Interesting to read the different weights of people on this thread who are 5"6/5"7 (like me) and how certain people can be perceived as skinny at a higher weight than others with the same height.

I'm 5"7, and for as long as I can remember, whether I diet/exercise or not, I have weighed 10 stone and am size 10 on top and 12 on bottom. I think 9 stone 2 would probably be my 'dream' weight where I would have eliminated a lot of my flab without veering into 'skinny' territory. So YANBU! If you feel and look good and healthy you deserve a congratulations!

HermioneE Sat 09-Feb-13 09:10:26

You sound just like me (although not right now as am pg smile)

What's the rest of your family shaped like? My weight all goes on my thighs so if I dress right I look thinner than I actually am. The other women in the family are all a bit shorter and are all apple shapes carrying it on their boobs (ok envy there I admit) and stomachs, so it's much more obvious. It means I get a lot of 'oh you're so thin' because they're used to comparing based on those areas.

Ribeno Sat 09-Feb-13 09:21:56

What rude, nasty and unnecessary behaviour from your family! Ive had this a fair bit my own family too. At the weight I am now I still have to defend my self even though my sister is 5 ft 8 and a size 8 she doesnt look to thin as she has a very narrow frame.

I dont think you sound too thin. You are probably small but not model thin and models really dont eat unless they are very lucky/ genetics/small frame or super young.

I used to be 8 stone 2 at 5 ft 8 and I calorie counted/ really strictly controlled carbs and walked non stop so I know. Even then I couldnt fit in to a size 8!!! I looked ill and will admit it!!!

Im now 9 stone 1 or 2 pounds and am 5"8. im usually a size 12 and my wedding dress is size 14 to house my stomach! I have a wide ribcage and hence I look so boney on top.

Its so much more about weight. Its about your percentage of body fat, its about your frame size and for all I know you could have a large bust and not much fat anywhere else. Also how your weight is distributed.

Please dont worry. Its hard but instantly dismiss what they say or move on the conversation.

You are probably a lovely size.

pigletmania Sat 09-Feb-13 09:23:25

Your are slim

AwkwardSquad Sat 09-Feb-13 09:31:57

There's an age thing with weight too, I've found - I'm the same height as you and used to be under 9 stone in my teens and twenties. I looked fine. Skinny but fine. I've fluctuated since, and have recently lost about a stone and a half; I'm now 9 stone 7. This is fine for me - I'm in my forties and if I lose much more, I think I'll start to look haggard. As it is, it's showing on my face a bit - some lines are deeper than they were! I could do with tightening up my muscles now, rather than lose more weight.

PrettyKitty1986 Sat 09-Feb-13 09:37:13

It completely depends on the individual...although it 'sounds' fine to a lot of people who can't see you, maybe you do look too skinny.
At 5'5, I'm a size 8 at about 9.5 stone...if I get down to 9 then you can see ribs and collarbone and I generally look luge I need a good meal. But I have a friend who's only one inch shorter than me, yet is a curvy size 12 at 9.5 stone. Completely depends on your body shape.

dontcallmehon Sat 09-Feb-13 16:51:21

I'm only in my early 30s and don't think I look haggard. Mum was at it again today, saying her friend saw me and thought that I looked gaunt. She also added in the little gem that I use my straighteners too much and my hair looks dry sad

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