To hide a little warning note to MIL when she comes to babysit tomorrow?

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Wheresmygalaxy Fri 08-Feb-13 21:49:37

Tomorrow will be the 3rd time MIL has come to babysit for us since our son was born, hes 7 months.

The 1st time dp and I went to ikea and when we returned she was prattling on and on about applying for child tax credits, all about how wonderful sil is eligible for them but doesnt claim - good for her, thought it was an odd topic but she is odd smile

so the next time she babysit upon our return she was now gabbering on about which local hospital is the best to go to, she didnt like the one i gave birth in and made it well known that it wasnt as good as the 1 her friends daughter went to, so again im thinking what on earth is she on about. Then after she had gone i opened a drawer in my bedside table only to find my next hospital appt check up letter was in there and it was clearly obvious that she had gone through it while i was out. I find this just really odd i know shes really nosey but to go through of all the things in the house my bedside drawer i just found weird. She has mentioned other things that have made me think how does she even know that but having put 2 and 2 together its clear shes snooping around while were out. I love her for coming to babysit, shes giving up her time but that doesnt mean come in and go through my things does it!

I mentioned it to DP nad he said yep she always used to do it to him and his sister growing up and in fact continued to clean their rooms up until the ages of 21 and 24 when they finally left home (believe me ive shared my views on that alone since i found out hmm ).

so aibu to write a note something along the lines of "get out you nosey old cow" on a piece of paper. or something a bit more dramatic like some retirement home brochures with her name at the top grin

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 21:51:28

Well you could, or you could just say "By the way, I noticed that you have been through my private correspondence. Please dont do that again"

fuzzywuzzy Fri 08-Feb-13 21:53:03

Move your personal stuff to a locked cupboard or something for when she's over to babysit.

Totally do the note thing, if she says anything look shocked at her and say 'You've been going thro my things?!' shock

maddening Fri 08-Feb-13 21:53:26

Ooooh yes - am sure the mn hive mind can help compose just the right note too!

SuffolkNWhat Fri 08-Feb-13 21:53:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Fri 08-Feb-13 21:53:52

Yes, OP, do THAT. She will not be able to say a word and, if by some chance she's telephathic and wasn't snooping, she'll never be any the wiser. grin

maddening Fri 08-Feb-13 21:53:54

Leave sexy pics of dh?

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 21:54:14

However.....if you do decide to go down the passive aggressive route, I suggest you type out a letter and leave it in your husbands drawer telling him that he has congenital syphilis which means he was born with it and therefore his mother needs to be tested ASAP.

SilverClementine Fri 08-Feb-13 21:55:21

Do it! YNBU at all, she is! How dare she go through all your stuff like that, what a huge invasion of privacy! I think you've got exactly the right idea how to handle it, go for it! smile

myalias Fri 08-Feb-13 21:55:45

Put a note in all your drawers with the message 'You are currently being watched on our hidden camera'

CabbageLeaves Fri 08-Feb-13 21:55:46

Yeuch. My mum does this (or did until dementia struck). I felt invaded. I gave up keeping anything in downstairs areas but would often come home to find kids downstairs and her wandering upstairs.

SanityClause Fri 08-Feb-13 21:56:56

Get a lockable filing cabinet/ desk/ drawer?

But as there isn't time, just pop a note at the top of the drawer with a smiley face, saying "Hello MIL'sname!"

If she doesn't go in the drawer, no harm done. If she does, it's not rude, but lets her know you know what she's been doing.

SilverClementine Fri 08-Feb-13 21:57:13

Loving the syphalis and massive strap on ideas btw, excellent ideas!

AgentZigzag Fri 08-Feb-13 21:57:27

The rooting around is a bit stalkerish in itself, but it's the fact that she has to communicate it to you that makes it a bit creepy to me.

If you're doing it to find out private things about a person, you don't go and tell them you've done it because most people know it's totally out of order to do that.

So either she doesn't know she's being out of order and thinks she has a right to nose about your things, or she likes knowing you know she's looking through your private letters, possibly because she sees you not pulling her up on it as you saying it's OK?

Either way I would say something outright, she's not going to take the hint from a sarky letter I don't think.

sixlostmonkeys Fri 08-Feb-13 21:57:50

I like the hidden camera idea

Bluemonkeyspots Fri 08-Feb-13 21:59:01

Write a note to dh explaining that you can't put up with his secret gay lifestyle anymore and you are leaving to live with your friend until he sorts himself out and comes out to his family.

ArtemisiaGentileschisThumb Fri 08-Feb-13 21:59:31

What suffolk said grin

tinkerbelle31 Fri 08-Feb-13 22:00:06

oh yes yes! have a drawer of pure filth porn mags, lube, strap on's the works and then pretty pretty please come back and tell us nosey bitches concerned people how you got on

Tortington Fri 08-Feb-13 22:04:39

the sensible grown up thing to do is have a conversation and ask her to stop

i am more of a passive aggressive type person when it comes to confrontation, so i think post it notes in every drawer is a fabulous idea,

they should read
"i can tell when you have been looking through my things. please stop"

then she can't mention it ever without admitting snooping, and you've told her nicely to fuck off.

its perfect

Wheresmygalaxy Fri 08-Feb-13 22:05:49

well as for sexy pics of dp i have some of him in speedos on holiday once but they're really only for bribing purposes when i really really want something.

and im afraid my budget wont push to purchasing a drawer full lube and massive dildo's, so im stuck with 2 options

a. the note and an open dirty nappy courtesy of ds to scare her away

b. staying up most of the night learning how to use photoshop. so i can copy a picture of dp's face onto someone having sex with a horse. Then leaving a camera out to film her when she sees it.

stifnstav Fri 08-Feb-13 22:08:05

You need to do lines so she can't miss the fucker!

Mil you snooping old witch.
Mil you snooping old witch.
Mil you snooping old witch.

Ten times on a piece of paper in every single place she shouldn't be. The snooping witch!

One word 'mousetrap'! grin

Well ok, maybe not, but I'm sure I read on here once about printing off the visa application forms to emigrate to Australia etc, filling them in, and leaving them the drawer. Been trying to get my friend to do it for years, as her MIL does the same!

TeamEdward Fri 08-Feb-13 22:09:52

Photoshop.
The sleepless night will be worth it.

Wheresmygalaxy Fri 08-Feb-13 22:11:14

MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain

You win!!

I love it, its easy, i can print them off for free and it will certainly get the message as there is no way she would let her darling 36 year old son leave the city let alone the uk.

Im printing off info right now!!!

morethanpotatoprints Fri 08-Feb-13 22:11:40

I was ready to blast you as I thought it was another thread complaining of a mil, who babysits. (mine doesn't live near enough).

This is awful behaviour, but I would leave something she'd be shocked about and maybe not bother again.
Why not hide, file in a safe everything personal. In your drawers put a naughty mag or two. Another drawer some hand cuffs, whip and loob. The list is endless and well worth the investment.
Lord knows what topic on conversation she will find when you return grin

LiveItUp Fri 08-Feb-13 22:11:45

Your option b! Then post her reaction here for us to enjoy too grin

Wheresmygalaxy Fri 08-Feb-13 22:11:50

teamedward

I think i shall, just for my own amusement if nothing else grin

ROTFLOL! I so wish I could claim it was my idea, but credit must go to a poster whose name I never took in from here a long long time ago! grin

LilQueenie Fri 08-Feb-13 22:14:09

Oh you have to leave a note planning her murder and get one of those teddy cams to film it. Then if she really gets to you put it on youtube and make it go viral. Yes I can be an evil bitch. I value privacy. And next time say no to her babysitting, dont leave her alone in your house.

sydlexic Fri 08-Feb-13 22:16:03

When I was 15 I thought DM was opening my mail, so I sent a letter to myself that contained a note saying nosey old bag. I got grounded which I don't think is fair as it must have been true.

Afrodizzywonders Fri 08-Feb-13 22:16:40

Do what bogeyface said!!!!

HappySunflower Fri 08-Feb-13 22:17:06

Oh, please please please post an update after tomorrow night!

oldraver Fri 08-Feb-13 22:19:49

My Mum and Grandma were snoopers... I once caught my GM as I had to pass through the dining room were we were babysitting to get to the loo and she was so engrossed in looking through letters she didnt notice me. She later told my Mum some info from my Uncles solicitor (going though divorce) saying she just happened to see a letter "lying there open"...well it was after she had rooted through a pile first. My Mum used to snoop as well and go though all my letters and even up until recently would shift things around on my brothers desk (in my house) and lift up stuff on my notice board. I tell her loudly now not to be nosy. It drives me to distraction

Anyway....I would write out lots of DONT SNOOP notes and put them everywhere

ihearsounds Fri 08-Feb-13 22:20:24

You should leave pics of him shagging a horse, while eating a burger with a tesco bag in the shot smile

Wheresmygalaxy Fri 08-Feb-13 22:21:44

sydlexic very clever of you, but so obviously true smile

Yes i will, I have just printed off a load of info on emigrating to australia and even printed an application form for bbc show "wanted down under" with a post it note written on the top to dp, i've filled these in can you sign them so i can post them, and have you got round to telling your mum yet as they may need to film her for the show.

Too evil????

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 22:23:44

Not at all!

Just make sure that DP is on side to tell her that it was a set up because you thought she was nosing and that she isnt to do it again.

Euphemia Fri 08-Feb-13 22:23:46

Oh oh oh you're sooo bad! Do it! I can't wait for the update!

quoteunquote Fri 08-Feb-13 22:25:28

Get loads of fetish gear,sex toys, lube and vibrators, fill the bedroom drawers, take what look like kinky pictures random body creases, print them out leave in the cupboards.

I bet she will stop looking.

sittinginthesun Fri 08-Feb-13 22:25:53

My boss used to do this. I now make sure that I have an opened packet of Tampax at the top of every drawer.

BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems Fri 08-Feb-13 22:27:09

Put a notes in your top drawer:YOU
Middle drawer:NOSY
Bottom drawer:BITCH
Then you will also know if she looks in every drawer or just some of them.

Coconutty Fri 08-Feb-13 22:28:03

Also print out an application form for the Jeremy Kyle show. Make sure it's the episode who ma baby Dada? Mention your lap dancing and colourful past. She won't be able to resist asking you about it

Wheresmygalaxy Fri 08-Feb-13 22:33:12

haha i love the jeremy kyle show idea now too, i promise if she doesnt mention the australia thing i shall do that next time, and i will most certainly let you all know what happens tomorrow evening.

Thankyou! knew i'd get some good ideas on here smile

pluCaChange Fri 08-Feb-13 22:35:57

My neighbour has done the washing up while babysitting, even though there were just a few things (and the dishwasher was going with the other stuff). It made me very uncomfortable, wondering whether she had "found" anything else to do. Even that is hard to bear, and, luckily, I can distance myself: it's a lot harder with an avowed snoop to whom you're related!

RattyRoland Fri 08-Feb-13 22:37:15

How about you print off some posters/flyers for fetish clubs and leave them in the drawers grin or swingers clubs?

DonderandBlitzen Fri 08-Feb-13 22:37:16

It's annoying if she is snooping, although her talking about SIL not claiming tax credits and the hospital where you had your son not being good enough doesn't demonstrate she was snooping does it? Definitely do the note thing. I'd probably go down the "Hallo Doreen" note in every drawer route.

DonderandBlitzen Fri 08-Feb-13 22:38:24

Obviously that won't work if her name isn't Doreen though.

timidviper Fri 08-Feb-13 22:38:26

When DH and I lived "darn sarf" we used to have to visit for weekends and often suspected MIL had gone through our stuff but as we were in their house we never liked to sayanything.

Fast forward years and years, we had family round to visit, DS had snuck off to his room but she hadn't noticed. He said he heard the door go to his sister's room and thought DD had also snuck away until MIL, not noticing him, crept into his room! She was right in the room before she noticed him and got such a fright! It has amused us for years.

Every time they visit, when she says she is going to the bathroom, I say sweetly "No problem, you know where everything is" Passive aggressive or what?! grin

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 22:38:42

You could combine the two. Apply to JK "How do I tell my mother I am leaving the country?"

grin

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 22:39:09

ooh, no better than that "My mothers snooping is making me emigrate" grin

FlorriesDragons Fri 08-Feb-13 22:39:34

Syd That's hilarious - I'm actually crying. DH is asking what's so funny but I can't actually speak in order to tell him.

These ideas are fab! grin

Wouldn't be relevant though if it had happened to me as I would have immediately made clear my displeasure on her rooting through my stuff.

Wheresmygalaxy Fri 08-Feb-13 22:40:54

bogeyface grin grin grin

devonsmummy Fri 08-Feb-13 22:47:27

Marking my place for tomorrow's update!

Marking my spot to find out what happens grin

shesariver Fri 08-Feb-13 23:31:15

You could combine the two. Apply to JK "How do I tell my mother I am leaving the country?"

Inspired grin

JingleMum Fri 08-Feb-13 23:36:07

OP, I'm crying at your photoshop/horse shagging option!!! Hahahaha!!!

You have to update us tomorrow.

Ooh for extra belt-and-braces surety you could do the old spy trick of taping a hair to the door/drawer so it breaks when opened.

.....yeah, I'm marking my place. grin

LemonBreeland Fri 08-Feb-13 23:43:54

Love the added extra of a post it t your dh. I think it would be great if you didn't tell him so he looks completely incredulous when mil asks him about moving down under.

PoppyWearer Fri 08-Feb-13 23:48:52

Marking my place too!

Might try the immigration forms for when DMIL comes to babysit next. I'm sure she does the same!

TweedSlacks Fri 08-Feb-13 23:52:32

Confirmation letter from the Euromillions Lottery that you ID has been recieved and the winning monies will be deposited in your nominated bank account tis week?

carabos Fri 08-Feb-13 23:55:34

You could try something a bit "woo". Clear out all the drawers and cupboards from places she shouldnt be looking (not kitchen or anywhere she might legitimately need to look) into boxes and put them in the garage or somewhere she won't go. If she's a snooper (and by definition nosy), she won't be able to resist mentioning it.

When she does mention it, say "what on earth makes you say that?" . Then she will have to show you, at which point you ask "but why were you looking in that drawer?" and persist with it until she squirms. She won't do it again.

manicbmc Fri 08-Feb-13 23:58:00

Information about having a sex change?

ZenNudist Fri 08-Feb-13 23:58:26

Hehe loving the idea that she'll be banging on about you not emigrating. Except assuming she snoops then immediately drops hints in response to her snooping what will you say!?

Marking my place to see what happens!

LittleChimneyDroppings Sat 09-Feb-13 00:10:49

Hide your letters and leave a big turd in the drawer. only joking, don't really do that grin

Marking place to see what happens! -remind me not to piss you lot of either!

MortifiedAdams Sat 09-Feb-13 00:14:02

This is brilliant!! I love it!

Angelico Sat 09-Feb-13 00:19:39

Brilliant thread lol grin And some inspired ideas, you fiendish vipers! grin

DeepRedBetty Sat 09-Feb-13 00:25:11

very nosey about what she's going to say placemarking

Bogeyface Sat 09-Feb-13 00:27:26

Seriously though, what do you plan to do if she goes on about emigrating and you both have absolute proof of her snooping?

You have to say something.

Waiting to see the response. Very inspired suggestions.

timidviper Sat 09-Feb-13 00:46:47

Bogeyface Could just say "What an odd question? Whatever made you ask that?" and smile sweetly

Bogeyface Sat 09-Feb-13 00:51:17

That would be good timid grin but I think that the OP and her DP need to be on the same page so that when it comes out (as it will) that she has been snooping, they both know what to do/say.

Its no good laying a trap and her falling into it if they just let her go!

manicbmc Sat 09-Feb-13 00:52:07

They could just look at her like she is a mad woman for even suggesting the matter?

Deny all knowledge etc and then she really has to fess up to being an old snoop.

*I am adding this to all posts, Tipsy Disclaimer.

DameFanny Sat 09-Feb-13 01:07:34

I am so watching this thread for developments. Loving your work people grin

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 09-Feb-13 01:07:52

I hate snoops and I'm marking my place as well.

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Sat 09-Feb-13 01:11:25

PlusCaChange - what a strange reaction to someone doing a bit of washing up for you hmm The normal and rational response is to be appreciative! Doing a few dishes does not equal snooping!

Greensleeves Sat 09-Feb-13 01:15:58

Buy a gigantic rubber dildo and write her name on it in permanent marker.

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes Sat 09-Feb-13 01:21:21

Blatent place marking grin

frustratedashell Sat 09-Feb-13 01:24:43

Cant wait to hear the outcome of this!!

Bogeyface Sat 09-Feb-13 01:26:34

pluscachange I am with MyHead on this one. If I use a cup when I am babysitting or using someones kitchen and they are not there (as happened at work today) then I wash it and wash whatever else is there too, surely it's rude not to? I would rather do something that they thought I didnt need to do than be thought of as someone who would only do the bare minimum. I think it was a kind thing for them to do, and if I knew you had said that of me then I wouldnt babysit for you again!

DianaTrent Sat 09-Feb-13 01:29:22

What about a jack in the box style booby trap? Plastic spider on a spring? Glitter bomb? food colouring?

MariusEarlobe Sat 09-Feb-13 01:29:38

Shameless marking of place

Marking place just read thread to dp and he was giggling so have marked place not for me but for dp cos im not nosy oh no not me

LastDadStanding Sat 09-Feb-13 01:31:35

grin

SoggySummer Sat 09-Feb-13 01:34:54

Ooooh you could have so much fun with publisher creating all kinds of leaflets tonight ready to place in any drawer she may go snooping in.

Some suggestions of what you could create......

A Leaflet

"What to do now you are expecting sextuplets"

An invitation to an Orgy dated and timed for when she baby sitting - Dont forget to slap some details across the front - Anal Sex special - dont forget your strap on and lube ....

A thank you card from Janet and Roy thanking you both for a great afternoon/evening of group sex and no need for your DH to be embarrassed about his premature ejaculation/nob size/loose anus

MalibuStac Sat 09-Feb-13 01:39:31

Need to see what happens (shamelessly marling place)

MrsBonkers Sat 09-Feb-13 02:05:35

lurking....

yelpol Sat 09-Feb-13 02:05:41

OP, you have to update us tomorrow, am dying to hear the outcome! grin

giraffesCantEatNHSPotatoes Sat 09-Feb-13 02:14:39

love this thread

MmeLindor Sat 09-Feb-13 03:04:52

Lurking too

I would leave a note saying "next time I catch you snooping I am leaving pictures of DH masturbating"

Astelia Sat 09-Feb-13 03:13:12

Lurking too, looking forward to update!

AndFanjoWasHisNameO Sat 09-Feb-13 03:21:23

You have to do a new one of these ideas each time she babysits from now on grin she'll eventually combust twig she's been clocked well and truly!

CadleCrap Sat 09-Feb-13 03:36:44

Another nosey lurker

CheerfulYank Sat 09-Feb-13 03:36:46

Ooohhhhhh I want to know smile

GiraffesEatPineapples Sat 09-Feb-13 03:40:19

lurking... ps Giraffes our names are weirdly similar!

KiwiJude Sat 09-Feb-13 03:41:01

Another nosey marker smile

Bearandcub Sat 09-Feb-13 04:46:33

SoggySummer, I LOVE the Janet and Roy thank you note idea - genius.

pluscachange, can I have the number of your babysitter please? I'd love that.

scratchandsniff Sat 09-Feb-13 04:46:46

Thisvis great - also marking place.

Chottie Sat 09-Feb-13 05:00:57

I have laughed so much and am marking my place not that I am nosey

Alligatorpie Sat 09-Feb-13 05:27:27

My ex and I used to rent a house a from his crazy dad, so he had keys. One day he came over and we were talking about something, and he mentioned the amount I had I my savings account. I was shocked that he was so spot on. Later I realized he had been snooping through my mail when we weren't home.

One day ex was away for the weekend and I was home alone, ( i guess he thought i had gone away too) it was morning, i was in bed and I heard noises. Then I saw the bedroom door handle open. I screamed as he opened the door, he scurried out of the house pronto and to my knowledge he never snooped again.

Bastard. Did I mention his crazy dad was one of the reasons we broke up?

trixymalixy Sat 09-Feb-13 05:38:29

Marking my place too!

Imaginethat Sat 09-Feb-13 06:10:19

My mother did this. She also listened in on phone conversations through another receiver. And she would start conversations on whatever she'd found it. I guess it was her way of trying to find out about us without resorting to normal conversation, something that she never could manage. Also she was obsessed with finding out people's "secrets", their weak points, then relaying the information to anyone who would listen. I think it gave her a sense of power and control.

MapofTassie Sat 09-Feb-13 06:15:10

Another nosey lurker!

grin

C0smos Sat 09-Feb-13 06:28:02

Great thread - marking my place

<adds thread to watch list>

I'd have to put a mousetrap under some paper, can't stand snoopy-fuckery!

GoSuckEggs Sat 09-Feb-13 06:40:44

I might also be marking my place! some of these suggetions have been great!

Not marking my place at all, oh no...

FruOla Sat 09-Feb-13 07:07:21

The snooping would drive me mad and I think your emigrating to Australia/Wanted Down Under idea is absolutely inspired; it's something that she's not going to be able to resist confronting you about grin

TroublesomeEx Sat 09-Feb-13 07:07:35

Not marking my place either, nor nuffink.

IceNoSlice Sat 09-Feb-13 07:12:20

Genius!

NoraSpect Sat 09-Feb-13 07:21:03

This is hilarious! Can't wait to see what happens grin

AlanMoore Sat 09-Feb-13 07:22:52

I'd have gone apeshit and would definitely be putting a rubber snake or something for her to find. Make her pay!

Too funny smile

DreamingOfTheMaldives Sat 09-Feb-13 07:42:56

Marking my place so I can hear what happened with the nosey old bat!

TheCunnyFuntIsAGrittersWife Sat 09-Feb-13 07:43:19

Shamelessly marking my place grin

elfycat Sat 09-Feb-13 07:44:56

My mother caught my sister going through some paperwork about their investments and was furious about it. Sister and her DH are all about who had what money (better now).

My parents now keep everything locked in a filing cabinet and have hidden the key. I help Mum compose all of her letters so sometimes I do get to read confidential paperwork. But I never listento it.

I wish anyone who wants to read our paperwork good luck, as the drawer is usually jammed shut with too much stuff.

Marcheline Sat 09-Feb-13 07:47:11

Placemarking.

I may have missed it, but when is MIL due to babysit next?

Marcheline Sat 09-Feb-13 07:48:16

blush it is actually the first word of the OP.

<bangs head on desk>

Eebahgum Sat 09-Feb-13 07:51:56

Can't wait to hear what happens. X

essexgirl31 Sat 09-Feb-13 07:56:42

Marking my place.

Marking my placegrin
Fwiw i think the photoshop horse/sex/tesco carrier idea was brillsmile

DeafLeopard Sat 09-Feb-13 08:07:05

Don't get too drunk tonight OP you need to be able to update us all straight away grin

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Sat 09-Feb-13 08:07:27

OP - You are a genius grin

Can't wait to hear what the nosey cow says!

ivykaty44 Sat 09-Feb-13 08:14:08

I liked the idea about nursing home leaflets with mil name on the top, make sure you get a good home and a bad home then write on top if she. Snoops on the bad home

MsAkimbo Sat 09-Feb-13 08:20:03

Another lurker! Good luck OP!

PeppermintCreams Sat 09-Feb-13 08:25:46

Unscrew one of the drawers so it falls apart on her toe when she opens it, and hide the screwdrivers so she can't fix it, and she'll have to explain what happened.

Sheepasaurus Sat 09-Feb-13 08:31:01

Placemarking smile

hopenglory Sat 09-Feb-13 08:31:31

How about a copy of th Karma Sutra with a note on it to your DH - " here's the present for your mother" which will keep her on her toes every birthday and Christmas going forwards,and unable to say anything about it

Sailormercury Sat 09-Feb-13 08:33:18

Dignitas leaflet with her name written on?

extracrunchy Sat 09-Feb-13 08:34:31

Oh my god I can not wait to see what happens!!

GoSuckEggs Sat 09-Feb-13 08:39:15

love PeppermitCreams idea!

FruOla Sat 09-Feb-13 08:44:49

Although the sex related or booby trap ideas are hilarious, she might be too embarrassed to mention anything to do with the sex related ideas and the booby traps she might not bother to mention at all - even a broken drawer!

But something as drastic as emigrating to Australia is so plausible it will be eating her up inside - she's bound to mention it grin

OrangeLily Sat 09-Feb-13 08:46:22

Love the Australia idea and the nursing home. If you both have a bedside cabinet could you put the nursing home leaflet in DH's and Australia in yours???

cheeseandpineapple Sat 09-Feb-13 08:48:25

Emigration papers is genius!

But OP, so that you can stay well and truly on the moral high ground, I would have them in the drawer of your bedside table, complete in part but without your names, or print off this document

www.immi.gov.au/living-in-australia/settle-in-australia/beginning-life/_pdf/eng.pdf

with a post it note on it saying "check requirements for citizenship test"

And then if she confronts you, you can be completely appalled and say you printed off for a friend who is thinking about emigrating and asked you for some help with the paperwork and how bloody dare she go through your private matters etc etc

So put enough in your drawer to get her rattled and suspicious but without it looking like you are deliberately scamming her...

Good luck with whatever you do, but hope you can nip this snooping, it's completely crap.

Katz Sat 09-Feb-13 08:51:59

Marking a spot, really want to know the outcome too!

Love all the ideas on this thread and I can't wait for an update!

HermioneE Sat 09-Feb-13 08:57:30

Place marking.

I would be googling booby traps to try and find something that makes a massive, massive mess. Glitter/confetti would be good for going everywhere and meaning she has to spend ages clearing up.

TweedSlacks Sat 09-Feb-13 09:01:01

^^^^^^^^^^
Then taking the fuse out the hoover so she either pickes them all up by hand ,
or is forced to leave them all there

I've only just seen this thread!

Loving the photoshop ideas!

Haha, good luck!--hope you don't rely on her babysitting again!--

I love all these ideas. I would go mad if I thought any of the grandparents were snooping.

Jules666 Sat 09-Feb-13 09:09:40

Place marking as well!

Place marking. Can't wait to find out what happens smile

HermioneE Sat 09-Feb-13 09:16:54

grin grin Tweed

<whistles>
<marks place>
<leaves>

pinksomething Sat 09-Feb-13 09:29:05

Can't wait to find out what happens! I love the glitter idea too grin

TheTroubleWithTribbles Sat 09-Feb-13 09:34:59

Place marking

Cortana Sat 09-Feb-13 09:39:50

Shameless place marking. grin

TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon Sat 09-Feb-13 09:47:03

Shamelessly marking place.

Some genius ideas on here, can't wait for update OP, hope you nail the snooping cow get the situation sorted.

JeezyOrangePips Sat 09-Feb-13 09:48:48

Its going to be so disappointing if she doesn't snoop

GoSuckEggs Sat 09-Feb-13 09:50:44

I would be googling booby traps to try and find something that makes a massive, massive mess. Glitter/confetti would be good for going everywhere and meaning she has to spend ages clearing up.

^^^^^^
Then taking the fuse out the hoover so she either pickes them all up by hand ,
or is forced to leave them all there

briliant!

wonderstuff Sat 09-Feb-13 09:55:02

Marking place, genius!

MerryCouthyMows Sat 09-Feb-13 09:56:44

I hate nosy buggers. I can't wait to find out what she says!

And the person who wrote the letter to themselves, that was inspired. grin

FruOla Sat 09-Feb-13 10:00:41

The thing is, if the OP does something that strikes at her MIL's dignity, like embarrassing sex stuff or exploding glittery stuff, it probably won't have a huge impact - after all, it's not exactly dignified to be rootling around in other people's drawers anyway, so clearly the woman has no shame!

I think the OP has absolutely nailed it with doing something that's going to strike at MIL's soul - emigrating to Australia. After all, the OP did say "there is no way she would let her darling 36 year old son leave the city let alone the uk."

grin

Arithmeticulous Sat 09-Feb-13 10:02:16

Use licked down hair sellotape to create seals on doors and drawers so you know which obese she's opened.

Arithmeticulous Sat 09-Feb-13 10:03:20

*ones

HecateWhoopass Sat 09-Feb-13 10:03:23

oh come on, please update grin

FruOla Sat 09-Feb-13 10:04:29

Hec - the babysitting MIL is coming tonight ... we're going to have to wait until tomorrow!

MardyBraWouldDoEddieRedmayne Sat 09-Feb-13 10:04:40

Is there any sort of booby trap which would leave permanent ink on her?

FruOla Sat 09-Feb-13 10:05:56

Why did I put 'babysitting'? I meant to say 'nosy' blush grin

GroupieGirl Sat 09-Feb-13 10:06:44

Brilliant!

(I think the nursing home/dignitas is my favourite)!

ZillionChocolate Sat 09-Feb-13 10:08:07

I think whilst it's not the most entertaining, cheeseandpineapple's idea is best.

Jojobump1986 Sat 09-Feb-13 10:16:38

How about some information about houses for sale or jobs available in Australia? Maybe schools so it looks like you're thinking ahead? Lots of different pieces of information to go in different drawers. She might not happen to check in the one drawer you did hide something in! Definitely spread the evidence around. I agree though, don't write your names on anything so you've got the 'helping out a friend' defence!

Kittenkatzen Sat 09-Feb-13 10:17:37

Blatant place marking grin

i'd be slightly concerned though that it will just make her sneakier - she'll stop mentioning what she finds but will keep on snooping

What cheeseandpineapple said is genius.

HecateWhoopass Sat 09-Feb-13 10:27:20

oh. blush

I was really overeager grin

mumofapirate Sat 09-Feb-13 10:29:17

My mum does this it drives me insane! marking my place and getting some tips wink

badtemperedaldbitch Sat 09-Feb-13 10:30:10

We wenton holidays and asked our neighbours to feed the animals. Three weeks after we returned he brought back a tool head borrowed. He said 'i knew you wouldn't mind me using it'

Indeed we wouldn't have minded him borrowing a specific tool except

1 it was not out, on view or even remotely accessible.....It was under the stairs.....you know right in the very, very back.....we would have had to empty the cupboard to find it

2 it was a garage related item so he should have been looking in there not under the stairs

3 he is a prison officer! And I'd have thought he had a higher moral code than that. I'm not bashing his job, but I just trusted him because of his job. Iykwim

shrinkingnora Sat 09-Feb-13 10:31:34

Brilliant. Can't wait for the update grin

headlesslambrini Sat 09-Feb-13 10:31:35

marking place for the update!!

ScrambledSmegs Sat 09-Feb-13 10:47:15

I <3 this thread. Good choice OP, MIL will definitely comment on emigration to Oz! Is your DH in on it?

mrsscoob Sat 09-Feb-13 10:56:50

Too late now I know but next time leave something on the draw so you know it's been opened and looked through, something like a small piece of thread or hair that she wouldn't notice but you would if it had been moved! That way youll know shes been snooping, even if she doesnt say anything. Also can't wait for update!

Goldmandra Sat 09-Feb-13 11:04:30

Blatant place marking as I am looking forward to hearing how long the MIL manages to hold out before asking about their plans grin

OP make sure your DH's phone is switched off in case she goes into meltdown and decides to interrupt your evening. You can head her off on your own phone.

Glitter bombs and fuseless hoover is just genius. You must do this grin

<marks place for Sunday morning treat>

SparklyAntlersInMyDecorating Sat 09-Feb-13 11:13:29

Could you nip to the travel agents and get a couple of travel brochures for Australia and leave them on the side somewhere?

Might be a nice subliminal precursor.

GetOrf Sat 09-Feb-13 11:13:41

Haha this is the second brilliant thread about cheeky fuckers I have read today.

I LOVE some of these suggestions.

CunfuddledAlways Sat 09-Feb-13 11:20:09

lurking-

LilQueenie Sat 09-Feb-13 11:31:45

just marking my place. Might have a run in with my own MIL today...oh wait no I wont. Apparanltly she never sees me even when staring right at me inches away.

WakeyCakey Sat 09-Feb-13 11:31:58

I have just read the whole thread and am dying of laughter!
Marking my place for tomorrow mornings update.

I it bad that part if me wants MIL to be a snooper so I can do these things to her wink

IceNoSlice Sat 09-Feb-13 12:03:02

GetOrf I think we're reading the same two threads (dance class?)
MN is brilliant sometimes. But it does mean I've got naff all done today so far!

ZillionChocolate Sat 09-Feb-13 12:05:12

No to the travel brochures, if they're somewhere she might legitimately see them that would give her an excuse!

DonderandBlitzen Sat 09-Feb-13 12:11:01

Off to hunt for the dance class thread. Might be back to ask where it is if i don't find it

Buzzardbird Sat 09-Feb-13 12:17:34

Can't wait for update!

Please dismantle the drawer! Imagine her sheer panic! grin

revolvenotevolve Sat 09-Feb-13 12:36:40

This is gold !! marking place - good luck op!!

Lepreporn Sat 09-Feb-13 12:41:58

Blatantly marking my place. Oz idea is fantastic.
It's only since joining mumsnet that I realise how lucky I am to have a lovely MIL. smile

SlightlyConfusedAlwaysMad Sat 09-Feb-13 12:51:37

Also marking my place can't wait for tomorrow's update

hermioneweasley Sat 09-Feb-13 12:55:41

Looking forward to the update. I like the emigration idea, combined with a thread or hair so you know she's seen it and it's eating her up!

lashingsofbingeinghere Sat 09-Feb-13 13:08:33

It struck me that an important document/file relating to a secret surprise for MIL's birthday/Christmas/wedding anniversary etc might be just the thing.

Imagine her finding a fat envelope with "Operation MIL's Special Surprise" and stuffed with travel / hotel / restaurant / jewellery etc porn. Cover it with a light dusting of talc or face powder so you can see if it's been handled.

Perfect your best blank stare when she begins hinting at what you have planned for her. (Don't tell DH so he doesn't have to pretend anything.)

Make sure you destroy the evidence!

bran Sat 09-Feb-13 13:42:24

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Cuddlyrunner Sat 09-Feb-13 13:50:33

looking forward to the update

MrsPennyapple Sat 09-Feb-13 13:53:57

Dignitas brochure made me snort laughing!

If you want to catch her at it, or just shit her up a bit, you could set off in the car, park round the corner and pop back for something you've "forgotten."

I think you need something that will leave definite evidence that she has snooped, so the glitter bomb and fuseless hoover is genius. Shame you can't get hold of some of that dye they put in the money boxes that Securicor etc collect. Would be ace to come back and find her face covered in permanent blue ink!

MadamFolly Sat 09-Feb-13 13:56:49

Place marking grin

perplexedpirate Sat 09-Feb-13 14:02:35

Place marking, you bunch of evil genii.

bran Sat 09-Feb-13 14:08:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PoppyAmex Sat 09-Feb-13 14:12:36

I bet MIL won't be able to help herself and will come up with a bizarre excuse:
"I was looking for a muslin for DS in your night table and found this..." grin

Can't wait for update.

Vodkapleasenurse Sat 09-Feb-13 14:17:05

I'm not marking my place honest wink this thread is so funny, can't wait for an update.

Chiggers Sat 09-Feb-13 14:18:37

Get a basque, whip, handcuffs and lay them on the bed ready for use. If/when she goes into your room she'll wonder exactly what you get up to.

OR

You could stick a pot-it note in every drawer saying "I know you're snooping MIL" and see how she takes that wink.

LemonBreeland Sat 09-Feb-13 14:26:18

bran that is appalling that the persons DH was annoyed at her. I'd be furious if my DH didn't back me up by saying that she shoouldn't have been snooping in the first place.

ohforfoxsake Sat 09-Feb-13 14:32:07

Lurking

I love the glitter/hoover combo idea grin

I am also unashamedly marking my place ;) I'd also throw leaflets for various extreme lifestyle choices into various draws, like a leaflet about membership to an 'extreme' religion or cult that requires big changes and lack of family contact, information on becoming a fruitarian, greenpeace volunteer leaflets for those wishing to go on one of their virtually life-long projects in the jungle, etc.

manicbmc Sat 09-Feb-13 14:41:31

Get a copy of this book and leave it in a drawer. grin

motherinlawsmanual.com/

MooseBeTimeForCoffee Sat 09-Feb-13 14:41:47

Shameless place marking smile

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 09-Feb-13 14:57:41

If you do the travel brochure thing you eed the emigration info in your drawer the travel brochures in dh's drawer and dot the housing/school other essential Australia info in other drawers ones she as apsolutly no legit reason to go in

And also make sure everything she could feasibly need is on show and near to hand and point it out to her so she can't say "I was looking for xyz in this drawer"

Op I think you are a better person than me,I get so cross at people snooping and not respecting either my home or my privacy by doing so that if she were my family member she would never set foot in my home again. I don't expect to have to hide personal stuff in my own home,if I leave a letter on the kitchen side I expect nobody other than the person its addressed to to read it,I've once thrown a boyfriend out of my house for reading my mail and never spoke to him again. But I'm harsh.

delilahlilah Sat 09-Feb-13 15:20:51

Crying laughing at this thread. Brilliant ideas. the marbles and the glitter are too funny! Can't wait for the update OP.

Whydobabiescry Sat 09-Feb-13 15:21:38

What time is the babysitting? I'll b back to see the update smile

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sat 09-Feb-13 15:28:02

What about a jack in the box style booby trap? Plastic spider on a spring? Glitter bomb? food colouring? this was exactly what I was thinking then someone had the fuseless hoover idea... genius

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sat 09-Feb-13 15:30:12

loving the marbles idea grin and loosening the drawer front so it falls off when pulled open... imagine the panic.

flamingtoaster Sat 09-Feb-13 15:32:10

I'd leave a half written note to a friend in a drawer along the lines of ...

"Yes it was a shock to find out I'm having quads so soon after DS but DH says not to worry as MIL is an absolute saint and will want to come over to do a couple of night shifts every week."

Love to see her bring that into the conversation!

WannabeWilloughby Sat 09-Feb-13 15:40:45

A letter to perfect sil (the one who doesn't claim the tax credits) saying you disapprove massively of the affair but you will help organise the DNA test if it helps her to know who her DC's father is.

I would just address it by first name so u can easily pass it off as a letter to a friend!! x

Lotkinsgonecurly Sat 09-Feb-13 15:42:52

Loving flaming toadts suggestion! !!!

I am shaking with laughter (baby asleep!) at the glitter bomb idea grin

grin @ Wannabe

Can't wait to hear what happens!

FlouncingMintyy Sat 09-Feb-13 15:55:21

also place marking

PipkinsPal Sat 09-Feb-13 16:05:51

My sister has a nosey MIL. When she went on holiday she hid her rampant rabbit just in case it was found. My sister forgot all about it until a few months later when she had a problem with her heating and my BF was in the attic carrying out a repair. With that, a pinkish implement bounced down the stairs. He had found the rampant rabbit! My sister went even pinker. So if you do hide stuff, remember where you have put it. I think the message in the drawer or the porn is a good idea though.

<shameless nosy parker place marker>

RibenaFiend Sat 09-Feb-13 16:39:33

Spring snakes! Like the ones inside a can when we were very young!

Load a drawer with squished spring snakes and when she comes a-snooping... BOOM!!!

unashamed place marking

DrRanj Sat 09-Feb-13 16:47:59

Marking place!blush Still think the pics of dh shagging a horse is the best idea though! grin

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn Sat 09-Feb-13 16:53:32

<whistles nonchalantly>

Arithmeticulous Sat 09-Feb-13 16:56:40

I have it

balance a full bucket of water on your bedroom door

Or a packet of flour - I'm still pondering which would be best grin

EyesCrossedLegsAkimbo Sat 09-Feb-13 16:56:44

I think the OP should print this thread off - after posting

The web cams are in place and working well wink

Then leave it in her bedside drawer <evil>

kalidanger Sat 09-Feb-13 16:59:55

<marksplace>

Glitter is genius. We all know you can never get rid if it. Shamefaced MIL covered in sparkles, trying to brazen it out grin

QOD Sat 09-Feb-13 17:03:49

C'mon!

ledkr Sat 09-Feb-13 17:05:48

A colleague used to check my box file at work when I wasn't there. It contained all my personal work stuff. One night I filled it with the tiny circles out of the hole punch. They were all over Te floor when I came on shift after him grin

Hoping op updates soon wink
Like the bucket of water idea too grin

NoWuckingFurries Sat 09-Feb-13 17:07:10

<marking place> grin

BluelightsAndSirens Sat 09-Feb-13 17:08:09

I love flamings idea grin

doctorhamster Sat 09-Feb-13 17:22:54

Shamelessly place marking

cocolepew Sat 09-Feb-13 17:23:05

My MIL came into my flat when me and DH were on holiday and rearranged everything. All my furniture, took everything out of the cupboards and put them in different ones, moved my double bed even hmm and left my pill on the pillow. Rearranged pictures, my clothes drawers and wardrobe.

She threw away a ton of paperwork related to my mortgage etc because "DH's name wasn't on it so it couldn't have been important". I bought the flat before I met him, that's why his name wasn't on it

TattyDevine Sat 09-Feb-13 17:29:17

It'll take you more than most the night to learn photoshop luv grin

HyvaPaiva Sat 09-Feb-13 17:33:34

If you do any of the above suggestions - and all are genius - you should set up a webcam or other video. Even if your MIL doesn't let on you'll still have the satisfaction of seeing her reaction as it happened. You don't have to upload the video and share it with us or anything... wink grin

Inertia Sat 09-Feb-13 17:37:48

Coco- that's awful!I hope DH told her off!

Wheresmygalaxy- Do you keep documents anywhere else? Just thinking that you might need to split the documents between your bedside table and e.g. the desk, in case she has thought better of going into your room. Guess it'd have to be different surprises though, so you know where she's been.

EyesCrossedLegsAkimbo Sat 09-Feb-13 17:38:10

cocolepew shock what did you do/say to her?

ToomuchWaternotWine Sat 09-Feb-13 17:38:10

Cocolepew shock shock shock I sincerely hope she was never allowed across your threshold again!!!

OP what have you decided on? Can't wait to hear!!

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes Sat 09-Feb-13 17:54:59

<Wanders in>

Oops, wrong thread...

wink

LittleChimneyDroppings Sat 09-Feb-13 17:58:15

Get a rape alarm and attach the string to the back of drawer, with the alarm secured underneath. And then when she pulls the drawer out, the cord will come out of the alarm, a high pitched siren will follow, and, well, job done. Set up a voice activated recorder in your room so you can hear all about it.
dont do it if she's got a dodgey ticker

MrsRoss26 Sat 09-Feb-13 17:59:40

cough desperate for resolution on this thread! grin

cocolepew Sat 09-Feb-13 18:00:49

She got a severe bollocking from DH then I paid her a visit....It got, erm, loud grin

TessTing123 Sat 09-Feb-13 18:08:33

Oh it was this one.

Nagoo Sat 09-Feb-13 18:29:28

great thread smile blatant place mark smile

MavisGrind Sat 09-Feb-13 18:32:55

yup, another place marker!

TidyDancer Sat 09-Feb-13 18:35:56

Waiting for later. grin

Bogeyface Sat 09-Feb-13 18:37:38

The rape alarm might not be such a good idea given that she is there to babysit!

SugarPasteGreyhound Sat 09-Feb-13 18:41:45

I'd love to suggest something evil but I am crap at stuff like this, so I am just place marking really grin

LittleChimneyDroppings Sat 09-Feb-13 18:43:34

The rape alarm might not be such a good idea given that she is there to babysit!

i wouldn't really do it. I'd be terrified in case the mil had a heart attack.

MoppingMummy Sat 09-Feb-13 19:01:54

Marking place too!

McNewPants2013 Sat 09-Feb-13 19:09:29

Not mark placing just want to wish the op a lovely night out

mrsscoob Sat 09-Feb-13 19:10:27

OP has been gone for ages. What if MIL found the brochures and has now kidnapped her shock

Marking placegrin

FadBook Sat 09-Feb-13 19:26:52

Lurking smile

ipswichwitch Sat 09-Feb-13 19:35:47

You could get one of those dye packs the banks and police use to help trace stolen/ransom money. Y'know, the ones that explode paint all over would be criminal. Just set it up in a drawer so when MIL opens it for a bit snoopery.... POOF!! A blue MIL!
There's no washing that stuff off so probably a big of an extreme suggestion and very evil smile

badtemperedaldbitch Sat 09-Feb-13 19:51:01

What if mil is on mn and has read this, and recognises herself......then sent the op to dignitas!

Faireenuff Sat 09-Feb-13 19:51:58

Crying with laughter at some of these. Evil brilliance with the glitter, Hoover and emigratation.

Itchywoolyjumper Sat 09-Feb-13 19:55:55

Loving this thread, the evil genus of the vipers' nest is an awe inspiring thing. I'm laughing away at the thought of OP's blue, glittery MIL desperately trying to fix a drawer grin

TheCunnyFuntIsAGrittersWife Sat 09-Feb-13 20:10:22

Remarking!

MammaTJ Sat 09-Feb-13 20:12:42

Can't wait for the update tomorrow!

Uppermid Sat 09-Feb-13 20:17:02

Not at all marking my place for update, oh no, not me!

twentythirteen Sat 09-Feb-13 20:17:33

I think that's hilarious, I'd definitely play with her!

twentythirteen Sat 09-Feb-13 20:19:14

mess, not play.

BatmanLovesVodkaAndCherryade Sat 09-Feb-13 20:21:43

Shamelessly marking place.

You lot have out evil geniused me - nothing to add grin

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 20:27:40

Shameless place marking grin

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Sat 09-Feb-13 20:28:09

Although, what a massive anti climax if MIL has not snooped on this occasion and says nothing?

SoggySummer Sat 09-Feb-13 20:33:10

I hope OP is off somewhere printy leaflets and booby trapping the place.

Hope you have a great night OP but please come back and update us.

IAmLouisWalsh Sat 09-Feb-13 20:40:39

Place marking......

My nana used to do this. She read my uncle's girlfriend's letters and then told us all what was in them. Nosy old besom.

LilQueenie Sat 09-Feb-13 20:44:17

did anyone catch what time OP was leaving and coming back? blush I keep refreshing!!

TricksyLaBOOshh Sat 09-Feb-13 20:50:11

Delurking for an update - good luck op.

NippyDrips Sat 09-Feb-13 20:54:29

You should use all of the above ideas on seperate drawers!

I wish I had asked for ideas when my bf had to leave her home with her baby cos of her cheating dp. You lot would of had some fab ideas I bet.

Oooooh is she snooping right now
<clutches self with glee at the thought of it happening RIGHT NOW!>

BonzoDooDah Sat 09-Feb-13 21:11:41

<< Opens thread door ... rummages around a bit then closes it quietly>>

marking place

TheCunnyFuntIsAGrittersWife Sat 09-Feb-13 21:12:34

Remarking again

SoYo Sat 09-Feb-13 21:24:20

Shameless place marking...suddenly my MIL doesn't look so bad but do quite wish I could use some of these!

BluelightsAndSirens Sat 09-Feb-13 21:29:23

You should print this thread out and leave it in the draw.

CadleCrap Sat 09-Feb-13 21:29:47

Coco shock

Did you do it, did she react?

Convert Sat 09-Feb-13 21:38:46

<waits patiently for OP to come home and update>

NeverBeenToMe Sat 09-Feb-13 21:46:22

Come on OP! smile

delilahlilah Sat 09-Feb-13 21:59:25

DS1 thinks I have completely lost the plot.... crying laughing blush

WeAreSix Sat 09-Feb-13 22:08:04

What if MIL snoops online too? And reads this thread!

Oops, I seem to have marked my place.

SuffolkNWhat Sat 09-Feb-13 22:08:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Do it, my mum snoops when she sits, she'll drop something into a conversation the next day and she would only know it as she's been checking my mail!

She looks at my calendar to, she saw 'hospital' once and demanded to know what was wrong with me.

LilQueenie Sat 09-Feb-13 22:15:22

mummytowillow love the id. I have a Willow too smile

elfycat Sat 09-Feb-13 22:16:49

DH and I think the fuseless vacuum is genius. My MIL is many things many, many things but she's not a snooper.

CadleCrap Sat 09-Feb-13 22:30:56

Where is the OP?

Does she not know that after 10pm is FAR too late to be out on a Saturday night when we are all being nosey waiting to give her support!

WannabeWilloughby Sat 09-Feb-13 22:31:32

Wish I was a fly on the wall!!!! Itching to know what's occurred xxx

minicreamegg Sat 09-Feb-13 22:49:38

Come on OP, my bed is calling grin

pluCaChange Sat 09-Feb-13 23:13:34

MyHeadWasIintheSandNowNot, apologies for my late rrply (it's rather a.long thread).

I meant that it was uncomfortable enough, having someone doing things in one's house (sorry, but the washing up did feel like interfering): actusl snooping is beyond the pale, and a MIL difficult yo distance oneself from.

smile

PoppyWearer Sat 09-Feb-13 23:17:13

I'm reckoning on an update tomorrow morning.

<lurks hopefully>

LilQueenie Sat 09-Feb-13 23:18:01

OP hope you are ok. You may be home now and either found evidence of snooping or not. What I hope has not happened is that your DH is arguing with you over this. Mummys boys bleurrgh!

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Sat 09-Feb-13 23:24:09

PlusCaChange - well, I often do things like the washing up or fold a pile of stuff out the dryer, or empty the dishwasher or whatever if I'm babysitting - most family/friends seem to appreciate it - I hope none of them are quietly seething about me interferring - I'm guessing not as it hasn't stopped them all asking! grin

Hopefully they're still out having a good time, or are at home having a good time wink a full report can wait until the morning smile

FrankWippery Sat 09-Feb-13 23:26:42

Marking spot. Dying to know how it's gone!

pluCaChange Sat 09-Feb-13 23:27:35

Oh, and Bogeyface and BeareithCub have also taken me to task over my ingratitude to washing-up neighbour/babysitter.

Maybe IABU on that, but I just don't like it.

<squirm>

fishcalledwonder Sat 09-Feb-13 23:28:42

Marking place. Come on OP!

pluCaChange Sat 09-Feb-13 23:31:02

BTW, aside from my squeamishness about the washing up, I really like the glitter hoover idea!

Wheresmygalaxy Sat 09-Feb-13 23:34:50

Hi, sorry ive not got time to read through all the replies as im out at the mo, just wanted to let you all know the forms have been planted in my bedside drawer all ready for her.

I know she wont be able to help herself having a peek when she puts ds to bed as he's still in our room, so im almost certain to expect something when we get back, i have the bbc show ones in my side and i picked up 2 estate agents forms today to make it look as if we were selling up, ive put these in dp's side. He has no clue! will deffo update tomorrow and promise not to get too drunk now, is it sad its my 1st night out in months and all i want to do it get home and see whats happening!

Sheepasaurus Sat 09-Feb-13 23:35:38

Still no update? Tsk!

Heeeheeeeeheeee galaxy well done!
Enjoy your night, but we WILL be expecting updates tomorrow
grin

ivykaty44 Sat 09-Feb-13 23:38:11

Have a great night out

LilQueenie Sat 09-Feb-13 23:45:29

enjoy your night. Hope all goes well tomorrow too. and a big big thank you for checking in. grin

SpringBulbs Sat 09-Feb-13 23:48:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bogeyface Sat 09-Feb-13 23:50:19

I really do think that you need to give your DH the heads up. It could all go very wrong, as it did for a previous poster if he doesnt know.

Haha! Amazing. Well played OP. Have a great evening and can't wait to hear about MILs reaction!

If you are going for the emigration option then pop a note in the draw with the forms that says, I can't bear your mother snooping any longer, I think we should get away as far as possible! wink

Love the plan, will be checking in the am to see how it went!

Unacceptable Sun 10-Feb-13 00:01:53

Is it so wrong that I am totally envious of this?

My babysitters are so dull!!

LittleChimneyDroppings Sun 10-Feb-13 00:03:49

Oooh, I love it. Looking forward to the update grin

SavoyCabbage Sun 10-Feb-13 00:10:38

grin

smilingthroughgrittedteeth Sun 10-Feb-13 00:13:40

I've just come back from babysitting (no snooping I promise) and was hoping for an update

ElectricSheep Sun 10-Feb-13 00:19:44

Wish I had a snooping MIL - it sounds such fun Can'y wait for the update grin

DizzyCow63 Sun 10-Feb-13 00:20:52

Hope you are having a lovely night OP but do hurry up and update us grin

louisianablue2000 Sun 10-Feb-13 00:24:21

Marking place for tomorrow. You lot are all so evil!

Jackz133 Sun 10-Feb-13 01:03:49

smile

OrangeLily Sun 10-Feb-13 01:22:23

Oh come on its after 1am and still no update?!?! Surely the OP isn't still out! Maybe her MIL has done something drastic grin

whethergirl Sun 10-Feb-13 01:25:09

brew

DeepRedBetty Sun 10-Feb-13 01:26:03

Off to bed placemarking for the morning. Hope you had a fantastic night out OP.

Homebird8 Sun 10-Feb-13 01:30:08

You will update won't you Galaxy? I'm watching.

BTW, being someone who emigrated to NZ, if I'd thought it would be this easy to tell the relies, I might have done it the same way. Perhaps you should go through with it! wink

KatieMiddleton Sun 10-Feb-13 01:55:35

This isn't just a shameless place marking it is but a helpful suggestion for next time...--it's not--

Marriage certificate or registry office papers if you're not up to the photoshopping. There's no way even the nosiest mil could resist mentioning it.

my MIL is so awful that DH is almost no-contact with her, but I wonder if a snooper isn't worse!

We're all going to be so disappointed when there's been no snooping and Galaxy's MIL has been a saintly babysitter.

NotMostPeople Sun 10-Feb-13 02:31:16

Love this, hope you have a great time.

IceNoSlice Sun 10-Feb-13 03:35:33

I agree with Bogeyface, I'd fill DH in if I were you. You son't want him to take her side or feel sorry for her, which he might do if he doesn't understand what is going on.

SlightlyConfusedAlwaysMad Sun 10-Feb-13 04:16:58

Hope you had a great time

whoopwhoopbib Sun 10-Feb-13 04:22:02

sorry just marking my place so I don't miss the update not too much pressure op

anonymosity Sun 10-Feb-13 04:30:33

"If you're reading this note - you shouldn't be doing it and you should be ashamed of yourself"

or just say "stop going through my stuff or stop coming round"

Tee2072 Sun 10-Feb-13 06:20:31

I am totally marking my place...

FruOla Sun 10-Feb-13 06:52:08

Another one who hopes that galaxy did tell her DH about it before they got home and shamelessly marking place

WannabeWilloughby Sun 10-Feb-13 06:52:18

Woke up and the first thing I did was check this!!!!!! Snooping MIL has taken over my life!! can't wait to hear what happened grin

SpecialAgentKat Sun 10-Feb-13 07:02:51

I am norty and must mark my place announce my OP's MIL-Like-Sneakery. blush

I've had this thread on 'watch' since the very start but didn't post. Waits to be taken out to stockades to have glitter and ink thrown at me

Shutupanddrive Sun 10-Feb-13 07:11:15

Anything? <nosey>

Untactfully marking place. Hope you had a nice night out OP. grin

AshokanFarewell Sun 10-Feb-13 07:36:23

Brilliant idea, I hope things went okay when you got home, can't wait for the update! smile

SugarPasteGreyhound Sun 10-Feb-13 07:48:47

Hope you had a fab night out!

Helpyourself Sun 10-Feb-13 07:50:30

Either MIL didn't snoop, or went postal and OP is engaged in a tense stand off with raving MIL, waving photocopies and sobbing, while the OP wails, 'it was a joke!'

TidyDancer Sun 10-Feb-13 07:51:56

Ooh you are naughty OP and I greatly admire you for it!

Can't wait for the update!

KittieCat Sun 10-Feb-13 07:59:43

Adding my keystrokes to those of the other place markers!

Hope you had a great night out.

TobyLerone Sun 10-Feb-13 08:08:18

Great thread. My MIL's MIL always snoops in her house, and she often complains about it, so I think I'm safe.

Did she snoop, OP?

Genius idea about the forms etc, btw.

Euphemia Sun 10-Feb-13 08:09:15

Okay, drumming fingers now.

Blackduck Sun 10-Feb-13 08:25:23

Funny thread grin marking ...

And waiting.......brew

Flisspaps Sun 10-Feb-13 08:33:28

<takes a seat>

Shamelessly marking my place too...

HellesBelles396 Sun 10-Feb-13 08:35:31

Ooh - I am so lucky to be single! Though a good friend does minor snooping (just lounge/kitchen/dining room).

And, yes, that was a pointless anecdote for the purpose of place-marking wink

devilcakes Sun 10-Feb-13 08:36:08

Wow just read entire thread and no update!! notnoseyme

RikersBeard Sun 10-Feb-13 08:36:19

Well?

fuckwittery Sun 10-Feb-13 08:37:41

Marking place!

Huffpot Sun 10-Feb-13 08:38:28

No update? sad
Am dying to know to know how it all went grin

specialknickers Sun 10-Feb-13 08:46:29

OP, pleeeeeeeeeeease tell us what happened... (Another shameless place marker)

msrisotto Sun 10-Feb-13 08:46:42

Place marking!

fuckingpamela Sun 10-Feb-13 08:47:19

What happened please ???

Wheresmygalaxy - WAKE UP!!!

dawntigga Sun 10-Feb-13 08:47:33

::whistles innocently::

WaitingForTheUpdateTiggaxx

zzzzz Sun 10-Feb-13 08:48:01

WAKE UP YOU DRUNK, we need to know

DuchessFanny Sun 10-Feb-13 08:51:20

I NEED TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED ... sorry for shouting ( esp. If you have a hangover !

CadleCrap Sun 10-Feb-13 08:55:31

Get up OP, I don't care what time you got home or how drunk you were- you have an international audience wanting to know whether your MIL went rooting around your drawers (phnarr).

Euphemia Sun 10-Feb-13 08:55:59

The update is going to be this, isn't it?

"Oh we went out, had a nice time, came home, MIL never said anything, went to bed."

noviceoftheday Sun 10-Feb-13 08:57:43

Wake up OP! shameless marking of place

Flojobunny Sun 10-Feb-13 08:58:45

Euphemia I think u are right

HellesBelles396 Sun 10-Feb-13 09:03:13

or it'll be:
came home, mil kicked off and started crying when told why forms were there. dh furious that set a trap for mil. not speaking.

or, it'll be one of those annoying mn threads that do not update after the event... (keeping fingers crossed that op puts us out of our collective misery)

WannabeWilloughby Sun 10-Feb-13 09:08:07

If only we knew where she lived we could pop round and make some noise!!!! I am refreshing like a mad woman here! x

DeafLeopard Sun 10-Feb-13 09:10:45

Wakey wakey OP

Tee2072 Sun 10-Feb-13 09:12:02

I have a feeling the MIL will say nothing. Or, if she does, it still won't cure her snooping. She'll make it all about how dare they not tell her they were moving.

MrsPennyapple Sun 10-Feb-13 09:12:29

I imagine the MIL will manage to keep it to herself for a day or two before she admits she "knows". The update may come after a few days of MIL acting all hurt and hard-done-by whilst insisting that nothing's wrong.

lurkgrin

Still no update?!! Maybe it all went very badly!

DoctorAnge Sun 10-Feb-13 09:23:42

Oh no no update

Geordieminx Sun 10-Feb-13 09:25:12

Just read the whole thread.. Love it

picklechops Sun 10-Feb-13 09:26:04

First time place marking!

CheeryCherry Sun 10-Feb-13 09:30:45

This may drag on longer if mil was too shocked at the discovery....she ma

Jossysgiants Sun 10-Feb-13 09:30:45

Eagerly awaiting with meerkat-like expression.

I'm with euphemia nothing happened.

But I might in a few days. I wish this thing had an email alert option!

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn Sun 10-Feb-13 09:35:04

If she doesn't say anything/ you suspect no snooping, next time leave the forms in a prominent place (on the coffee table for example) but underneath a few other items.

<needs resolution>

TheCunnyFuntIsAGrittersWife Sun 10-Feb-13 09:36:29

<impatiently waiting>

Come on OP! I have to take DD to her cousins 4th birthday party at soft play today. I need cheering up!!

CheeryCherry Sun 10-Feb-13 09:36:44

Oops! She may be too shocked to mention it yet, may take a few days to come out....

HecateWhoopass Sun 10-Feb-13 09:37:20

I suspect the MIL will have said nothing. Perhaps she will be a little quiet.

It would be brilliant if she announced she'd decided to move to Australia*.

I'd go along with it until she moved wink

(I'm kidding. I don't seriously think that will happen)

ChocolatesSnowAngel Sun 10-Feb-13 09:48:51

Just read thread, bloody fantastic, loving the ideas. Come on OP get up and update!

AfternoonsandCoffeespoons Sun 10-Feb-13 09:56:58

just read this whole thread! Wake Up now OP! Neeeeed an update!

JingleMum Sun 10-Feb-13 09:59:15

Come oooooonnnn!!!

Surely MIL must have said something? If I were the snoopy MIL I couldn't have helped myself, you'd need to know immediately.

Wheresmygalaxy Sun 10-Feb-13 09:59:37

OK Sorry i was just reading through a couple of pages, i absolutely love the glitter bomb idea, if id of got that in time i could have set about reinacting art attack and making one.

As expected though yep she snooped, didnt even doubt her doing it to be honest, so she saw the papers in my side whilst putting ds to bed i guess.
She then went into the back bedroom which i use as my office when i work from home ( i know she went in there as i'd re-visited my 12 year old ghostbusting self and put talc on the carpet so i saw her shoe marks blush - is this just a tad too sad!!).

I dont know in which order she went but when we got in i could hardly contain myself walking through the door, she was sat very quietly on the couch, whilst i went to check on ds, dp rang her a taxi, she hardly said 2 words to us whilst waiting for the cab - it was then i knew she knew as normally i cant shut her up about what i was doing wrong somewere in my life. She did at 1 point tell me i looked like i had lost weight, then almost instantly told me it was probably those spanx things i buy, realised later she knew this as id left a pair on top in my underwear drawer [grim face].

To be honest i was a bit dissapointed with her reaction but thought well at least it may stop her snooping now. So fast forward to this morning and dp tells me while i was upstairs last night his mum was telling him how handy it was for her to live so close that she could come and babysit and had we ever thought of moving away. he just told her no and acted dumb - obviously would as he had no clue - so he asked why she would think that and had i ever mentioned moving away to her, i said no and also played dumb with him.

Then i also get a phone call off dp's uncle (mil's brother) who never ever calls, let alone at half 8 on a sunday morning asking can he come round later to see ds, i said yes well be in all day so call whenever, he said hed be up within the next hour or so. - To me this says it all, after ds was born we asked her politely not to smoke a few hours before visiting him in intensive care, instead she got really drunk, slagged us off to all her family saying she wasnt allowed to see the baby and sent her brother around to have a word with us. I guarantee this is what he is coming for, i would put money on it!

So i will update after he has been, its so nice being able to sit here on the moral highground and if thats what it is, being able to say well how would she know that if she wasnt going through our things.

p.s. I am saving the glitter bomb, and broken drawer for next time, i also have a cousin who works in a bank so will ask if she can get me 1 or 2 of those blue things.

The image of a blue glittery mil greeting us at the door will torture me until i do it! grin

Blatherskite Sun 10-Feb-13 10:05:18

Shamelessly marking place to see what the Brother says grin

Looks like MIL is going to be outed as a nosey parker to more people than was bargained for!

HellesBelles396 Sun 10-Feb-13 10:05:28

oh my word! have you spilled beans to dh?

do you have the name of a credible friend prepared for plausible deniability?

are you going to be hyper-shocked when you are told mil saw the info in your private drawers?

ps kudos on talc - loved that detail!

Pps dh's family sound totally dodgy - emigrate!

manicbmc Sun 10-Feb-13 10:06:40

Brilliant but sort of sad too really. I think a sit down and tell her not to snoop and then she won't find things she doesn't like is in order.

If you do do the glitter bomb, please put a pic up grin

Thanks for the update OP. It really serves her right.

HecateWhoopass Sun 10-Feb-13 10:08:50

I hope he's not going to try to defend her looking through your drawers.

Tell him everything!

I bet he makes excuses for her.

Ooh I love threads which keep on giving. I wonder whether there are any laws which could be engaged or faked about snooping - right to private life etc. Surely someone wiser that I could fake a document which could be left next time. Of course now she might snooping more now in case you are hiding something else.

Out of interest did you fill the forms in? Even better if you can claim that they are for a friend, then there is apparently no deception on your part and lots of egg on her face!

manicbmc Sun 10-Feb-13 10:11:07

Did you put her brother right over the visiting your baby incident? That is just bizarre. What a hateful woman!

Inaflap Sun 10-Feb-13 10:11:17

I think now you have to decide what tack to take. She's been caught red handed but what sort of utimatum do you take. Essentially you want the babysitting but without the snooping which is fairly major. Going through drawers is not on. You might have to let your hubby in on it because he might take exception to his mum being made a fool of particularly if he is put on the spot by unvle. He's not going to want to feel at a disadvantage in his own home and when people feel a lack of control they get angry so he might get annoyed with you when he discovers its been a cunning plan. (Bloody good cunning plan).

I don't think she will ever stop snooping. I think locking things up is the only way to go.

Good luck!

GetOrf Sun 10-Feb-13 10:12:17

Bloody hell OP. What on earth do you mean by a 'next time?'

Surely this means that she shouldn't be allowed in your house on her own again. Your DH might be ok to go along with her ghastly interfering ways, but why should you have your privacy invaded like this? Snooping like that is a reprehensible thing to do. She needs to be told. And how ridiculous sending her brother round to 'have words'.

I think free babysitting is not worth this aggro, tbh.

ChocolatesSnowAngel Sun 10-Feb-13 10:12:26

Oh my! Have you come clean to your DH yet?

Curiosity really did get this cat didn't it.

Do you think she will ever speak to you again?

Uppermid Sun 10-Feb-13 10:12:34

Agree you need to tell dh

AshokanFarewell Sun 10-Feb-13 10:12:36

She looked in your underwear drawer?! That is just weird. Maybe you should obtain some more unusual underwear for next time she visits. To be honest, though, I'd never leave her in my house alone after this. You have definite proof that she was snooping around.

I used to babysit for my neighbours and one time the toddler woke up and was thirsty. I felt awful just looking through their kitchen cupboards trying to find a baby cup!

Are you not going to tell your husband what's going on though?

RobinSparkles Sun 10-Feb-13 10:12:42

grin at all the people marking places! I bet nothing happened.

shameful attempt at marking own place.