AIBU to want my newborn to stay a newborn? Do you feel the same intense love for your child at every stage?

(114 Posts)
Pinkflipflop Fri 08-Feb-13 19:30:03

My ds is only 8 days and even though he's my first and it's a steep learning curve, I'm totally in love with my little bundle of cuddles.

I keep looking (and gazing) at him and loving everything about him and just wishing he could stay a newborn for ever!

So many people keep saying to me "pink, enjoy your little baby as they grow up so fast", I know this sounds really bizarre but it makes me feel a little sad when they say this. It's almost as if those days when your child is a tiny baby is the only stage to enjoy.

Does this make any sense?

I'm 33 and previously the least maternal person you could imagine, but I can't believe how my son has made me feel.

catgirl1976 Fri 08-Feb-13 19:31:37

DS is 14 months

I know it's impossible to believe but they get better everyday and you love them more

Congratulations on your lovely new baby smile

CloudsAndTrees Fri 08-Feb-13 19:32:59

It makes perfect sense!

But you will love every change in him just as much, you really will.

envy I do wish I could go back to those days and be a bit better at it. I was a wreck with DS1. sad It feels like yesterday that we brought DS1 home in his car seat and just stared at him thinking 'now what'?

DSs are 13 and 11 now and I am proud of them both, and they will always be my babies.

KB02 Fri 08-Feb-13 19:36:06

congratulations, having a newborn's a gorgeous and joyful time. My little boy is 10 months and I feel the same every day. I have to keep reminding myself to take at least one picture each day and plenty of videos.

Jules666 Fri 08-Feb-13 19:36:28

Ahh that's so sweet. The feelings don't change as they get older. The love you feel for your baby is the same love you feel for your toddler, then you're pre-schooler, then your boy. It doesn't diminish.

My 2 boys are now 8 & 10 and I still look at them and think how much I love them.

Enjoy this stage but don't worry as there's plenty of other stages to enjoy.

And congrats btw.

Fightlikeagirl Fri 08-Feb-13 19:36:53

My sons are 8 and 6 and I literally fall in love with them again everyday.
As they grow up there are different challenges but it is so lovely to see their personalities appear and realise they are real people! Amazing!
Congratulations on your baby.

numbum Fri 08-Feb-13 19:37:31

Mine are 6 and 8 now. I always say 'I wish they could stay at this stage forever', although I have to say that's wearing off a bit now!

I guess if I could choose then we'd go back to them being 4 and 6 when they were both still quite compliant sweet

Enjoy your baby, they grow way too quickly (God I sound like my mother)

Annunziata Fri 08-Feb-13 19:37:40

Congratulations!

My first baby is 23 soon, and god I love every bit of him and we have so much fun, but there's something so special about a newborn.

KatyTheCleaningLady Fri 08-Feb-13 19:38:16

It's like they keep getting better and you think "OK. Now you're perfect. Stop growing because it can't get any better than this!"

MolotovCocktail Fri 08-Feb-13 19:39:28

It's totally normal!

I felt exactly the same as you and was genuinely quite sad when my DD1 outgrew her baby stage. It didn't help that I wanted another baby very soon after she was born and then it took 2 years to conceive DD2.

I have to say that whilst the newborn stage is divine, I currently adore the age of my DD1: she's just 4yo and I've never known such love. She actively gives love; kisses me; cuddles me; shows me that she wants me. Its beyond amazing grin

I wish someone would have told me how awesome this age is when I was all meloncholic when she was around 18/19/20mo.

Having each girl (DD2 is 10mo) makes me appreciate the other more
... I can't explain it more than that (hope I'm making sense!)

cardibach Fri 08-Feb-13 19:41:10

My little baby is 17 (years) now. You do have the same strength of feeling for tehm at every stage - it is different, but not in quantity! THey do grow up fast though, and the thought that she will leave home in 18 months is frankly terrifying!

Oh my god, seriously - if you love him this much now you have no idea how much more you will love him when he starts giggling or throwing his arms around you to give you the squeeziest hug ever. Or the first time that he toddles up to you smiling at nursery and proudly showing you his first painting. Or when he recites a line from his first school nativity.

Seriously you have no idea yet but you will just love him so much MORE!!! smile

When people say about making the most of the baby stage because they grow so fast it had nothing to do with love - they are talking about developmental stages. Ie newborn snuggles are lovely. But they don't last long! Toddler cuddles are equally lovely - that stage is yet to come.

You have nothing to worry about, but you have it all to look forward to.

smile

Theas18 Fri 08-Feb-13 19:42:24

The love gets stronger as they get bigger.yes even for exasperating teens, and when they are nearly grown ups themselves it's fantastic!

Do enjoy this stage though because Year 9 maths Homework is no fun and neither is standing on the sidelines freezing your butt off watching junior footy every Saturday. wink They don't tell you that at ante-natal. grin

elliejjtiny Fri 08-Feb-13 19:43:48

Congratulations. I thought like that when my DS1 was born. But there are so many lovely stages to come, first smile, crawling, walking, talking. My boys are 6, 4 and 2 now and each stage so far has been amazing.

I loved the newborn days with ds1, hated them with dts. But either way, things get so much more exciting when they're a bit older. You've got first smile, first laugh, first words to look forward to. Ds1 is 5 and so gentle and caring. Ds2 is 2 and has a perfect sense of comic timing. dd, also 2, is the bounciest child you could meet. All these parts of their personalities that you can't see at 8 days old.

Enjoy this time, but look forward to discovering with him who your ds is, it's a lovely journey (once you adjust to the lack of sleep).

socharlottet Fri 08-Feb-13 19:45:00

No you love them more each day.I remember 18 years ago looking at my newborn firstborn and thinking I really must enjoy this time.When he is 18 I will be wishing for this time back.But NO.Every stage is better than the last.They do more things , get more interesting, make you even more proud.

Chubfuddler Fri 08-Feb-13 19:46:22

Honestly it just gets better. The things 2,3,4,5,6 year olds say (and older no doubt but I haven't got there yet) are bloody hilarious, and sometimes incredibly profound. Just wait until the first time your baby properly puckers up and kisses you. Or says I love you. Or reads to you.

Newborns are wonderful but mostly to me because they're a miraculous little bundle of potential. Just wait until you start to see all that potential coming into being. It is amazing.

StrawberryMojito Fri 08-Feb-13 19:46:43

My DS is 16 months. Although I loved him intensely, the first 3 months were so hard. He screamed constantly, so unhappy etc. No matter how many tantrums he has (which he doesn't very often), every day is easier and more fun.

chandellina Fri 08-Feb-13 19:48:06

Congratulations, I think you may be riding the hormonal wave but yes be assured it only gets better. Just think of how exciting it is to see their personality emerge. My four year old is such an individual now, so sure of who he is, while I am loving watching my 13 month old find her way in herself and our family. She gives wonderful cuddles and wants to be part of everything. Enjoy it all.

catgirl1976 Fri 08-Feb-13 19:48:16

It's like they keep getting better and you think "OK. Now you're perfect. Stop growing because it can't get any better than this!"

^^This

And somehow, they do get better and better. It's amazing

You have so many lovely firsts to come and each one will make your heart burst smile

sad Strawberry sounds like my DS1. OMG the screaming. sad

He's 13 now and generally quite lovely. smile

Arcticwaffle Fri 08-Feb-13 19:52:05

I do think there is something very special about newborns, I've had 3 and the newborn stage sticks out as particularly nice. If I could I'd have kept one as newborn for ever.

I think many of us do have stages of having children we prefer to other stages. I would have happily lived without ever experiencing pregnancy or childbirth.
I feel very fond of my older 2 now, they are 12 and 11, they are at a very lovely stage, but I keep hearing how hellish teenagers are so I assume it goes all downhill from here.

Toddlers and preschoolers may be very cute and all that, on a good day, but the newborn stage and the 10-12 stage are the ones I have enjoyed the most so far.

Pigsmummy Fri 08-Feb-13 19:55:04

My DD is 15 weeks today and I am totally smitten still, just relax and enjoy! Congratulations x

maleview70 Fri 08-Feb-13 19:58:09

no. They become a pain in the arse when they hit about 12 and this lasts for a few years before they become semi normal again.

YABalittleU. Of course that first rush of newborn love is amazing. But children just get better, they really do. And at every stage, you will only be able to imagine them being exactly where they are now. You'll remember that there was a baby stage, and your child was cute and adorable then. But somehow it won't seem like it was your DS, because he's only ever been who he currently is, is that makes any sense! grin

You just wait until he becomes an actual person, with his own thoughts, likes, dislikes, opinions, character traits - all of them awesome and his very own. You'll fall more in love with him every day.

bumbez Fri 08-Feb-13 20:07:45

I remember that feeling when dd was 12 weeks, so lovely I wanted her to stay like it. She will be 10 in April, such a lovely age, we go shopping and she loves to watch Miranda with me. She has a Wonderfull wit that gives me belly laughs. I have so far loved all the stages . Enjoy your newborn op and congratulations but it just gets better smile

VivaLeBeaver Fri 08-Feb-13 20:08:20

DD is 11 and I think don't change now you're perfect. grin

MrsHoarder Fri 08-Feb-13 20:12:40

8 months ago I was crying because I couldn't see any way for tiny perfect ds to change that wouldn't make him wise. But you know what this afternoon we were sat together and we had Milky snuggles then we cuddling and tickling and squeeing. Its sooo much better once they start reacting, even if quiet snuggles get shorter and for sleeper times.

Pigsmummy Fri 08-Feb-13 20:13:23

I love this thread! (reading whilst stroking my DD's cheek as she is teething). Soooooo lovely

katiecubs Fri 08-Feb-13 20:15:58

Oh gosh please don't worry it only gets SOOOO much better!!!

MrsLouisTheroux Fri 08-Feb-13 20:17:23

I have loved very single stage just as much. smile

Peevish Fri 08-Feb-13 20:23:40

I think the reason people say that is to reassure you that if you are finding the newborn stage difficult (as many people do - the rush of love is not always immediate, and, with or without it, the early days can be gruelling!), that it will pass quickly. I think many people, myself included, wish we had been able to enjoy the first couple of months more - it was a blind blur of exhaustion, panic and mourning my pre-baby self in my case.

I look back at my ten-month-old's newborn photos, and realise how sweet he was, and wish I'd spent more time just admiring him, without all the worry.

NeverFullyDressedWithoutAScarf Fri 08-Feb-13 20:25:27

Mine are 5 and 4 and I am genuinely more crazy about them every day. I remember being told to enjoy the baby stage and, although I loved them both so much that it almost hurt, feeling as you do - almost sad that everyone seemed to think this was the 'best bit' and I was too tired to appreciate it!

It really does get better and better, and part if the joy of it is the way you all grow together over the years. You will be no more the person you are today in a year than your lovely boy will be the person he is. I had never really understood that before having the girls but it is amazing to feel your own family unit growing.

BarbJohnson5 Fri 08-Feb-13 20:30:44

Yes, it is a feeling you'll have for some time. I suppose we all have to accept that they'll grow up. I still feel sad every time i think about how much my children are growing and sometimes i can't believe they're 24 and 18! My youngest turns 3 tomorrow and i DON'T want her to grow up. She is still and will always be my baby.

Sugarice Fri 08-Feb-13 20:39:36

You'll never lose that buzz of maternal love when you see your children even when they're older.

Ds1 has just turned up after missing my calls wondering where he was. He walked in with a smile and ' I just got your text,sorry' and I was just thrilled he was home safe.

They never stop being your baby, ever!

minouminou Fri 08-Feb-13 20:57:56

The love just grows and grows.
Congratulations.

PastaB Fri 08-Feb-13 21:00:55

There is something delightful about every age. I do miss my newborn but the 14 month old who has replaced her is amazing. I adore her.

stopgap Fri 08-Feb-13 21:02:46

I hated the newborn stage (silent reflux) and am a little envious of those that get to enjoy it. In any case, my son is now 18 months and I adore every single minute of his company, even the emergent flailing and growling smile

LittlePicnic Fri 08-Feb-13 21:05:34

YANBU- I wish I could just freeze time or go back to when DC1 was newborn - she's three now. I can't believe four YEARS have passed since I was pregnant with her. I wish she and DC2 were still tiny newborns who couldn't do much but lie down looking beautiful!

Believeitornot Fri 08-Feb-13 21:06:10

Yes I love them at every stage so far (oldest is 3.4).

But there's something so wonderful about a cuddly newborn <jealous>

However my dd (14 months) and ds are both amazing. Them growing up - I try and savour as much as I can because one day they won't be young, innocent and full of fun!

PenelopePisstop Fri 08-Feb-13 21:11:22

That overwhelming love for newborn is so fantastic but that feeling comes often over the years. My DS is 19 and I feel just the same now.

I think it just gets better, I feel so proud of how he has turned out. I often look at him and think Wow he is my son - how the hell did I manage that! He's handsome, charming, witty, clever, an absolute delight.

rollmopses Fri 08-Feb-13 21:11:41

It just gets bigger and better. Every day.
You love your DC more that you ever thought you are capable of loving anyone and your love just grows with them.
It's wonderful. smile

PlinkyLove Fri 08-Feb-13 21:12:51

I remember thinking about PFB that she just became more and more beautiful. She is 9 now and probably my best friend. She is great. I also have a 2 year old DS. We are in love. I dunno. It shifts and changes all the time. Love it all and make the best of it. How gorgeous to have these amazing people in our lives.

CoffeeChocolateWine Fri 08-Feb-13 21:13:26

It's definitely not the only stage to enjoy so don't worry about that. In fact, if I'm honest, the newborn stage is that stage I've enjoyed least in hindsight even though I loved it (most of the time!) at the time!

But for me, it's just got better and better. You fall in love with them on the first cuddle, you fall deeper when they give you their first smile, even deeper when you hear their first giggle, first babbles, first words, first steps...it goes on. Agree with the above, there have been so many times where I've thought "I want you to stay this age forever because you are perfect", but then they develop and grow even more and I think "this is my favourite stage yet". I'm excited to see what's next!

My babies as 4 (DS) and 6 months (DD). At the moment I'm looking at DD and thinking I love this age where she's babbling constantly and trying to crawl and smilling and giggling all the time and I don't want her to grow up. But then I look at DS and see the beautiful boy he's become and I feel excited about the little person DD will beome too. And I also look at DS and I love his stage too...the wonderful chats we have, his beautiful personality and sense of humour, watching him play, ride a bike, swim etc. My heart swells with love and pride! You will love every stage and you will fall even more in love with your lo...they truely are the most amazing people you will ever meet. Really excited for you...you have some amazing times lying ahead of you.

Congratulations and enjoy.

You will just love them more as they grow. There's something very special about a tiny newborn, they're right at the start of their lives but imagine that tiny baby you've got right now being able to smile, laugh, talk, give cuddles. There's nothing more wonderful than see your tiny baby grow into a little person. My eldest is only 2.8 and youngest 10 months and I adore them even more the older they get and the more I get to know them.

meltedcreditcard Fri 08-Feb-13 21:20:37

There's a song from Rock Nativity that gets me going all the time - unfortunately I cannot find it but it's called " I will watch you grow (my son)"

I gaze at my gorgeous boys and think it.

Every stage of their life is amazing (even although I have to look up at my eldest now) He gives amazing hugs!!

Still have their babygrows tho!!

ChasedByBees Fri 08-Feb-13 21:21:42

I remember DH saying as we left hospital, 'I just want DD to stay exactly like this always'.

In thoae early months, I used to stare and marvel at how beautiful she was and I thought she couldn't possibly be as cute when she had teeth and hair. She's now 12 months, has 4 teeth, beautiful hair with an amazing quiff and I look back at the photos of my gummy, baldy baby and smile, before thinking how she can't ever possibly be lovelier than she is right now. smile

It's amazing to be greeted when I come from home from work with a beaming smile and frantic waving. Every stage has been amazing and I'm so looking forward to her walking alongside me and telling me what she's thinking.

TroublesomeEx Fri 08-Feb-13 21:22:06

Mine are 14 and 6.

I am unbelievably in love and incredibly proud of both of them.

My 6 year old is a witty and charming delight. I could just burst with how perfect she is.

My 14 year old is at a friends for a sleepover tonight. Before he left he hugged me and said that having a hug with his mum is still one of his most favourite things.

They are my two favourite people in the world and I just love being with them.

Trust me, OP, what you feel for your son now is only the start of it. Enjoy.

TroublesomeEx Fri 08-Feb-13 21:23:10

I'm so looking forward to her walking alongside me and telling me what she's thinking.

Ah yes, the stream of consciousness of a young girl is a joy to behold. grin

LostInWales Fri 08-Feb-13 21:26:54

DS1 is 13 tomorrow and sometimes when I look at him I can see all of the 'hims' from newborn to toddler to boy and now nearly man. There isn't a day I haven't thought 'no, stop like this, you are perfect right now, exactly now' and every day he has proved me wrong. Don't wish away your snuggly newborn but just remember that one day your baby will still be your baby but he will be your height and give you hugs that make you so happy it's daft. <Thinks, 'don't change DS1, you are so perfect right now'>

(Although I had snuggles with my new baby nephew this week and oh boy he is perfection in a sqooshy little bundle, where's DH? It's not to late to have DC4...)

CoffeeChocolateWine Fri 08-Feb-13 21:30:24

Loving reading all these posts...making me feel quite emotional! Have an urge to go wake my DC up and give them a big squeezy cuddle smile

CoffeeChocolateWine Fri 08-Feb-13 21:30:48

I won't, obviously.

LostInWales Fri 08-Feb-13 21:33:22

Christ no! We love them, yes, but wake a sleeping child? Hell no grin.

Theas18 Fri 08-Feb-13 21:35:00

Talking of firsts the developmental firsts - sitting , walking, sleeping through are lovely and hugely proud making. However these are things that you/ your child does because they do - pretty much regardless of who they are, how you parent etc

However, the sort of amazing things that we aren't supposed to boast about on the net that are results of their free choice, how they grown under our care and guidence are the truely amazing bits !

RobinSparkles Fri 08-Feb-13 21:35:39

I think I may have been one of the ones to say this to you on one of your previous threads, Pink! blush grin

They are lovely as newborns because they're so tiny and scrunchy, they're lovely and portable and you can leave them there and they stay, they can't get up to mischief.

But, seriously with every stage that comes you will love him more and more. My eldest is five and I remember every stage that she's been through thinking, "I don't want this to end!" The same with DD2 too. Toddlers are just hillarious, seeing their awesome personalities shine through. I love watching DD2 copy things her big sister does and the way she babbles away like she's telling an epic tale, with hand gestures thrown in for good measure. She's almost 2 and does have words but mostly babbles, it's so cute.

Think about the first time you'll see your DS dance to music. You will laugh so much! DD2 is always dancing when she hears music, even if it's just me singing, it's wonderful. I remember when DD1 told her first joke at age 2 (why did the banana go to the doctors? Because he wasn't peeling well!) atrocious joke but we found it hillarious because of the fact that she told it and she'd obviously picked it up from somewhere (Gigglebiz).

Then when they start school you're amazed at how quickly they learn and how much they are like little sponges. I was so proud of DD when she sang on her own in the school play - I never imagined in a million years that she would. They amaze you every day!

RobinSparkles Fri 08-Feb-13 21:38:50

I must add that I can't promise that there won't be moments where you'll want to ring his neck but those moments pass quickly!

NumericalMum Fri 08-Feb-13 21:40:21

You are very lucky OP. I look back at the newborn stage with so much sadness. I hated every second of losing myself and gaining a baby who never, ever stopped crying thanks to undiagnosed dairy allergy.
I used to wish her back every day. Now she is nearly 5 and is the most awesome being ever! If you love this stage OP it only gets better and for that reason I am so jealous!

ratspeaker Fri 08-Feb-13 21:50:58

The love blossoms and grows as they get older.
Be sensible and dont try to control or put conditions on it, love them for who and what they are
Dont see leaving home or forming relationships as a rejection- see it as them moving to a different plane
let them grow, feel, believe

It will then turn into mobius strip, no ending or beginning

and on a Friday night when you are on 3rd glass of wine posting on MN you may get an unexpected kiss on the top of the head in passing

thegreylady Fri 08-Feb-13 21:53:22

Mine are adults now with dc of their own and my love and pride is as strong and deep as on the days they were born :-)

CoffeeChocolateWine Fri 08-Feb-13 21:56:11

Also loving reading the ones from people with teenage kids. I'm not going to wish away a single part of my kids growing up but so looking forward to going shopping with my DD and getting a big bear hug from my DS when he's 6 inches taller than me!

piratecat Fri 08-Feb-13 21:56:42

I can relate to the looking and gazing and finding it impossible to imagine them any bigger! The awe you feel that you have created this little being, and then the feeling of disbelief they will be a person!

I still sniff my dd's head now, and love to smooth her soft skin on her face (when she lets me) and she is ten. I feel sad she will be a grown up, i still can't imagine it, tho she is now so tall and developed and getting independent. I hope i can get my head round it!

Dinkyblu Fri 08-Feb-13 21:58:16

Ahhh, love this thread....

Yanbu ....I also had the same thoughts and now my dd is 18 months and is truly more amazing than ever....I am sure she will become even more amazing because she does everyday.

I used to get quite emotional at the thought to her getting bigger and growing up because as well as been my pfb she will also probably be my only child so I know I probably won't experience the joys of each stage again. However, I really have relished in and enjoyed every precious moment of been with her and watching her grow and develop. She is just wonderful and becomes more amazing everyday. I sometimes wish there was a pause button as time does seem to fly when you are having fun....but now I just appreciate each And every stage she is at.

Congratulations on your baby....just enjoy. They bring you so much happiness and it does just get better and better.

BeaWheesht Fri 08-Feb-13 22:00:13

I felt like this then when I had dc2 I panicked I wouldn't love them because there was just, no way, they could be as perfect and amazing and adorable and fascinating as dc1 but yep love them both entirely equally.

I used to wonder how people got on with their lives - I will admit I used to think they mustn't love their kids as much as I did - I used to think NO-ONE had ever loved their kid like I did and then I realised I was being a teensy weensy bit PFB.

louisianablue2000 Fri 08-Feb-13 22:00:23

I think people say it because so many people find the newborn stage with their first so difficult. You are hormonal and sleep deprived and you have no idea what to do with this screaming child and you think it is going to last forever. With later children (I have three) you do enjoy it so much more because frankly a newborn has pretty simple needs in comparison to an older child and it does go so so fast. My youngest is 5 months and they have gone in a flash. And he was a preemie so I had the newborn stage for longer. The first lots of clothes are packed away, ready to be passed on and it's very sad but wonderful at the same time because he's smiling and vocal and having fun with his sisters (no-one can make him laugh like the three year old) and beginning to move about. My friend's youngest is 18 months and toddling about and even though I've been through it before I can't hardly believe how quickly they change in that first year.

Dinkyblu Fri 08-Feb-13 22:00:38

ratspeaker - very well said smile

brummiegirl1 Fri 08-Feb-13 22:08:18

Enjoy him as it really goes so fast, i remember when my 7 month old was a newborn and i was worrying so much about him not being a newborn for long that i dont think i really allowed myself to enjoy that stage if that makes sense! Don't think it helps with hormones all over the place I was the same with my older son too. Every stage does bring something new though and it really is an amazing and lovely feeling to know that this little person is yours, congratulations.

DeafLeopard Fri 08-Feb-13 22:10:09

It definitely gets better. The other day 14yo DS wasn't well and took himself off to bed. I went to check on him and snuggled down with him, like I used to when he was a toddler at bedtime, stroking his hair and I wanted to sob with joy, as I was so overwhelmed at how much I love love love him.

JingleMum Fri 08-Feb-13 23:56:25

This thread has turned me into an emotional wreck! I'm now listening to martina mcbride - in my daughter's eyes. Sob!

You haven't experienced nothing yet, OP. it didn't click for me right away, and sometimes the terrible 2 stage was rough going, but she's 3 now and I love her more than anything or anyone on this planet, she is my life, her company is second to none, I love her so much it actually hurts sometimes. The heart is a muscle, it grows as the bond strengthens as time passes.

pigletmania Fri 08-Feb-13 23:58:35

My gorgeous ds has just turned 1 and I was packing away all his little newborn baby things and felt sad that I won't be doing this again. Ds is our last,we ave a dd 5

missingmumxox Sat 09-Feb-13 02:42:30

I remember that, I remeber saYING i WANT ANOTHER BABY NOW! when my twins where 3 days old!! it was overwelming the love, but truely I agree with the above, it just grows, grows but doesn't overwelm, I would still love another but I am 42 and they are 8, so baring accidents it won't happen.
I have loved every stage, but hated bits of things, what kept me going was the fact people said they grow so fast treasure it...they where not wrong, I would find I couldn't cope bits of a stage.
and sometimes it would be literally a few weeks of some kind of behaviour I couldn't seem to cope with...then they or I, never sure who would suddenly seem to change and it was great again.
a lady at work told me the golden age of her children was 9-13 Boys, they where independant but still wanted mum, I am finding 71/2 they are actually 8 now, great, independant but still need me...
hug your new born so much they are so prescious and will become more so.

CheerfulYank Sat 09-Feb-13 03:25:17

DS is 5 and a half now and I just love him so much. I sometimes just stare at him. blush Every stage is lovely. I'm having DC2 in May and am so excited to have a squishy newborn again. smile

Sheilathegreat Sat 09-Feb-13 03:52:40

These threads make me terribly sad and guilty. My love for my children feels so practical and perfunctory by comparison. I had a horrible newborn experience with DD and, although it was much easier with DS, it was still pretty fraught and difficult to enjoy. I love my kids to bits but it has grown over time and wasn't the thunder bolt others have.

JingleMum Sat 09-Feb-13 10:25:00

Sheila don't feel like that, so many women are/were in your position. It wasn't thunderbolts for me either, however, it was for some of my friends. I did not enjoy that newborn bit, it was excruciatingly difficult at times, and i can't ever remember gazing lovingly at my newborn. I felt like my life was upside down and i wasn't me. I loved 6-12 months, i disliked the terrible two phase in the toddler stage, but now DD is 3 and a half and it's fabulous. I've always loved her, but it seems to grow stronger everyday.

Eebahgum Sat 09-Feb-13 13:14:19

Thank you for starting this thread op. So many beautiful comments. My ds is 4.5 months & I love him immensely. I look forward to all the wonderful things that are to come, like the first time he squeezes to give me a proper hug & the first time he tries to say 'mummy' - but I think it's important not to spend too much time looking forward & just try to enjoy the days as they happen. The bit I love most at the moment is his giggles. I wish I could bottle the feeling it gives me - it's impossible to feel down when I hear it. X

Pinkflipflop Sat 09-Feb-13 14:11:01

Thank you for all the lovely comments on this thread, it has really helped me to know that 'the best is yet to come'.

I can't believe the feeling I have already and how much, even after 9 days, I love being a mother! smile

BrianButterfield Sat 09-Feb-13 14:12:48

I've thought every age so far (ds is 18mo) is the absolute perfect age, and how could you ever want a child who was any other age? And you do feel the same about them the whole time, in fact the more you see them learn the more it grows in a way. Aww, precious newborns. Enjoy yours.

nickelbabe Sat 09-Feb-13 14:14:53

yeah grin

yanbu, but also yabu wink

DD is 14months and every day, she amazes me with what she can do!

every stage she's been through, I've been gobsmacked: "how did you learn to do that?!"
but it's amazing, it really is.

so, yes, enjoy your NB cuddles, and your not-quite-knowing-what-you're-doing, it won't last and you must savour it, but look forward to seeing each next stage too grin

nickel how can your DD be 14 months? shock She was only born a little while ago. <faints>

Thumbwitch Sat 09-Feb-13 14:21:27

YANBU at all - I know exactly how you feel! Every time your little baby grows out of a set of clothes, it's a little heart-tug (Ok that could just be me) - and DS2 is growing out of his so flipping fast, he's only 4mo and the 3-6m stuff is starting to look a wee bit tight already! - but really, you wouldn't want it any other way. Just enjoy every stage and take as many photos as you can! grin

Nickel, has it really been 14m?? I remember being on your live birth thread, can't believe it was over a year ago! shock

Thumbwitch Sat 09-Feb-13 14:28:09

Also, you wait until he starts to focus on you and smile when he sees you - you'll just be a puddle of gooiness! wink

nickelbabe Sat 09-Feb-13 14:28:52

PinkFlipFlop (and everyone else)

here - post a picture of your DC now!

nickelbabe Sat 09-Feb-13 14:29:05

Sparkling - i know! grinshock

nickelbabe Sat 09-Feb-13 14:29:31

Thumby - weird, isn't it! 1 year and 2 months!

Portofino Sat 09-Feb-13 14:53:39

Huh. This has just made me think of the "I'll Love You Forever" book <<sobs>>

nickelbabe Sat 09-Feb-13 15:12:33

<<sobs>>

<howls>

Rooneyisalwaysmoaning Sat 09-Feb-13 15:21:33

I have a 5wo here and I can hardly bear to think he is going to grow up, I want him to stay little for ever.

IAmLouisWalsh Sat 09-Feb-13 15:24:58

My baby is four and gives amazing little butterfly kisses.

My bigger baby is six and can wipe his own bum.

Every age has an advantage!

MamaBear17 Sat 09-Feb-13 15:29:11

Oh God you are just in for a world of amazement. My dd is 18 months and I can honestly say I fall in love with her all over again every single day. It doesnt stop being brilliant, even when they are drawing with wax crayon on your freshly painted walls. It genuinely does get even better but in a different way. Congratulations x

magimedi Sat 09-Feb-13 17:02:13

When my DS was a baby I thought I'd never be able to bear it when he grew up.

He's now 30 & I love him just as much & really, really like & respect him as a person.

(There are times, during teens when you may not like them very much!)

weegiemum Sat 09-Feb-13 17:12:57

I didn't much like the newborn stage, actually. Partly it was the pnd, but I also find it really boring! I loved them all, but I was glad it didn't last forever! Give me my big kids (13, 11, 9) anytime. Its currently really good fun. I don't miss the baby days muc at all.

ILoveFrogs Sat 09-Feb-13 17:37:22

My one and only DS has just turned three, I can honestly say that I love him more each day. I wasn't too keen on the baby stage but he is at such a lovely age just now, he is a little chatterbox and everything he says just makes me smile, it melts my heart when he asks for a cuddle and last week he told me he loved me, it was one of the best moments ever!

We are talking about trying for another but I really don't know if I have it in me to love another as much as I love DS (I know in reality I will though).

CoffeeChocolateWine Sat 09-Feb-13 17:48:46

ILoveFrogs I had those doubts when we were trying for another baby, but DD is 6 months now and DS is 4 and one of my favourite parts of being a mum is right now watching the most beautiful relationship forming between. It's so heart-warming...and yes you do feel exactly the same for DC2 as DC1.

LaQueen Sat 09-Feb-13 17:52:18

I had PND with DD1, so never experienced that rush of love when she was born, in fact it was 5 long, long months before I really felt any emotional bond with her.

But, it grew steadily, and I slowly but surely fell in love with her.

She's 10 next month, and I absolutely adore her, and can't bear to think that there will come a day, when she doesn't climb into bed for a cuddle at the weekends, and when she won't want me to tuck her up in bed at night [shakes head...hums tune to distract herself...]

orangeandlemons Sat 09-Feb-13 17:54:42

My eldest is 18. He's quite quite lovely in every way. I still feel overwhelmed with love whenever I see him. Intelligent, kind, loving, gentle....they just keep getting better....but I am very attached to newborn's. especially when you pick them up, and they stay curled up with their little foggy legs. Aaaah

orangeandlemons Sat 09-Feb-13 17:55:25

froggy legs!

Yadnbu I know exactly what you mean I remember sitting feeding my dd at 1 week old sobbing cos she'd never been a week old again! I love her more every day and as much as a newborn is amazing a toddler is a lot of fun gringrin

nickelbabe Sun 10-Feb-13 13:31:08

dd made me laugh at church today.
dh reached into his pocket toget his hanky, and blew his nose.

dd copied him completely from across the pew. she didn?t have a hanky but she put her hand to her nose, made a blowing noise with her hand and then wiped her face like her dad did grin

nickelbabe Sun 10-Feb-13 13:31:47

with her mouth, obviously, because she didn't know about the nose blow thing.

Yfronts Sun 10-Feb-13 13:51:12

I remember feeling the same but I can assure you that it's only the start of a very beautiful long and lovely journey with this little soul. Your baby will grow and grow and will get even more amazing with lots of stages to enjoy. Mine are 2, 5 and 10 and I feel so blessed.

Pinkflipflop Sun 10-Feb-13 19:57:04

I'm loving reading over all the answers and responses to this thread!

It's reassuring to know that the love only gets deeper! I guess its like other people's babies and toddlers, they are sweet but you don't really know love until you have your own.

AndFanjoWasHisNameO Sun 10-Feb-13 21:16:44

What a beautiful, soggy eyed thread envy ha knew you weren't vipers
Congratulations OP, it's mind blowing isn't it?! And yes, it just gets better and better-that's why we keep doing it. Each stage flies by, that's all I take from the saying.
My toddlers can't believe the size of clothes we're collecting for the imminent new baby and refuse to accept that they were that small not so long ago...

hamdangle Sun 10-Feb-13 21:48:15

I have 12 week old DS2 asleep on my tum now and 16 year

GrannyRatOnAScooter Sun 10-Feb-13 21:53:39

Ah OP I know exactly what you mean. I always tell my DS that the first happiest day of my life was the day he was born (the second and third being my wedding day and the birth of DD).

I was only telling 9 year old DS tonight about how special the time was when he was born, how I'd spend hours breastfeeding him and drinking in his smell and touching his skin. I told him about how every Wednesday at 10:10am for the first few months of his life, I'd wish I could go back to him being placed in my arms for the first time.

I absolutely feel this way about DD (6) too and she regularly asks me to tell her about the day she was born despite hearing it hundreds of times.

The good news OP is that the love gets stronger and deeper. I kiss my babies when they're asleep every night and I whisper how much I love them and asking God to bless them.

I do wish I could go back and do it all over again as I'd do things so differently but then I look at how lovely my DCs are and think that DH and I haven't done too bad of a job. As much as I'd love to go back, I am just as excited for the future - my boy doing his 11+ and going to secondary school and learning his instruments and my DD learning her times tables and going to brownie camp.

Enjoy this precious time but remember you have so many exciting times ahead smile

hamdangle Sun 10-Feb-13 21:55:40

I have 12 week old DS2 asleep on my tum now and 16 year old DS1 is upstairs playing on Facebook/twitter/whatever. I love them both in exactly the same way but when I lie in bed with DS2 looking into his eyes and singing to him while he coos I think this is the best feeling ever and it's such a shame that I don't have that any more with DS1 (mainly because doing that now would be very weird and probably get me on a register somewhere). Your love does grow but it also changes and develops. It's great that I have such a laugh with DS2 and I know we'll do loads of fun stuff this week because he's on half term from college but I still miss the times when I could cuddle him really tightly and just breathe in the smell of his hair.

Beamur Sun 10-Feb-13 21:57:06

Every age my DD has been so far has been my favourite. Love her to bits.

thebody Sun 10-Feb-13 21:57:13

Lovely post pink and congrats.

I love my 4 babies age 23 to 12 more every living day.

Maryz Sun 10-Feb-13 22:00:44

My oldest newborn is flat out on the sofa hungover asleep as we speak. My heart still melts when I see him sleeping even though he smells and has his feet on the sofa

The love never goes. It may have to change and stretch a bit, but it doesn't go.

Lovelygoldboots Sun 10-Feb-13 22:07:05

This is such a lovely post, congratulations. Mine are 10, 8 and 5. I love them so much I think my heart will burst. Thanks OP, just to type this out has made me happy. smile

VictorAndBarry Sun 10-Feb-13 23:29:06

DS is 19, DD 15, they are still amazing!

dollyindub Mon 11-Feb-13 02:00:28

My baby boy took me completely by surprise - had him at 44! He's 5 months old next week, my only child and I love him so much it scares me!

YADNBU!! I would love to have a pause button, especially as I bagged up (most of) his 0-3 month clothes for an expectant friend recently.

I won't be having any more babies and regret finding out so late in my fertile years how much I love being a mum (or I'd have a footie team) but am truly grateful to have had him to experience this amazing love.

dollyindub Mon 11-Feb-13 02:01:02

Oh, and massive congratulations btw!

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