To have sold my husband's wedding ring?

(43 Posts)
Treaclesmart Wed 06-Feb-13 14:38:04

Not sure if I've just done something terrible. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and he has never worn his wedding ring for the one reason that it was too big (we went ring shopping on a hot day and i think his finger must have swollen up). He has been talking for ages about getting it changed but hasn't done anything about it, and the one time he was serious about doing it about 2 years ago he couldn't find it anywhere.
Anyway I just thought with it being valentines day next week i'd hunt it out and get it resized for him. So at considerable difficulty I tracked it down and went to the jewellers this morning. Howvere when I was there I saw some lovey titanium rings which were much more him than the big chunky gold thing he'd never really liked, and only bought because he was hot and bothered and wanted to get out of the shop. They had the right size then and there so no faffing about getting it sent away. Decided to buy one - all well and good - but then decided he didn't need to have 2 rings so called into the cash for gold shop on my way home and sold his original one (and have made myself a tenner profit!)
I don't think he'll mind. i think he'll really like his new ring and appreciate having one that fits and the thought and all, and also as we are totally skint he'll like that I haven't bankrupted myself. But feeling a bit off about selling the ring we said our vows with. Have I done something terrible???

rubyslippers Wed 06-Feb-13 14:39:33

i wouldn't have done it as it would have sentimental value even if he didn't wear it

is your DH sentimental?

PandaOnAPushBike Wed 06-Feb-13 14:41:20

I wouldn't have done it without checking first. I rarely wear my wedding ring as it's too big now but I'd be gutted if my husband sold it.

YANBU - if it was that sentimental to him he would have had it re-sized 4 years ago.

meditrina Wed 06-Feb-13 14:42:27

The only opinion that matters is that if DH. You'll have to ask him.

In the meantime, you might want to go back to the shop and see if you can recover the ring just in case.

Titanium can't be resized so if he changes now you are a bit buggered. I can't believe with gold prices where they are you only got a tenner profit changing gold for titanium.

I wouldn't have done this without talking to him. I hope he's OK with this.

Cluffyfunt Wed 06-Feb-13 14:42:54

Yes ywbu!

Why didn't you ask him first?

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Wed 06-Feb-13 14:42:55

I don't think that men are that sentimental.

Just say that you changed it for a better, more suitable one.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Wed 06-Feb-13 14:43:00

Buying him a new ring - fine, tho' he may just not want to wear rings - but selling his original ring without his say-so? I think that's BU.

twofingerstoGideon Wed 06-Feb-13 14:43:56

YABU going into a Cash for Gold shop. They give a crap rate for gold. Next time, try your local bullion dealer.

EuroShagmore Wed 06-Feb-13 14:43:57

I think YABU. The ring is a symbol of the marriage, worn or not. I don't wear mine all the time but I would be very upset if somebody sold it.

ENormaSnob Wed 06-Feb-13 14:44:04

I don't think he'll be that bothered or surely he'd have sorted the original one out so it fit?

aldiwhore Wed 06-Feb-13 14:44:20

YABU to have not asked your DH first, that is a tad disrespectful, I'd go batshit crazy if DH did this to one of my rings (whether I wore it or not).

YANBU to exchange a never worn ring for one he may wear, I'm just uncomfortable with the lack of permission.

My DH has a titanium wedding ring and he loathes jewellery but finds the titanium one very comfy.

StuntGirl Wed 06-Feb-13 14:44:48

It wasn't yours to sell. Yes ywbu.

Facebaffle Wed 06-Feb-13 14:45:39

YANBU - he might as well be wearing a ring he likes and is more suited to him grin

MegaClutterSlut Wed 06-Feb-13 14:47:03

YABU, I don't think you would like it if your DH sold any of your jewellery that doesn't fit/ you didn't wear, especially your wedding ring. Mine is too tight but I will never ever sell mine

milbracat Wed 06-Feb-13 14:49:16

YABU. Technically, it was not your ring to sell apart from any sentimental value he might have had. This sort of presumption is not IMO healthy in a relationship.

EuroShagmore Wed 06-Feb-13 14:52:33

In your shoes I would be running back to the gold dealer to try to buy it back asap.

OwlLady Wed 06-Feb-13 14:52:37

if you are religious (which i am not) your local vicar will bless your rings in church from what i believe

MistyB Wed 06-Feb-13 14:55:04

I think it is a lovely idea. (Fingers crossed your DH does too!!)

nefertarii Wed 06-Feb-13 14:57:03

Yabu. Of course because its not your ring so technically theft.

I also can't believe you are considering this a 'present' and consider you have made profit.

Whether he will be bothered, I don't know. I know dh would be pissed off that I had taken something of his and sold it, replaced with something cheaper and kept the difference without even consulting him.

nickelbabe Wed 06-Feb-13 14:57:07

you shouldn't have sold it.

Yes, buy him a more suitable ring, but then go home and once you've presented him the new one, as k him if he'd like to sell the old one.

and cash for gold shops really don't give you a good price for your gold.

can you buy it back?

starfishmummy Wed 06-Feb-13 15:05:06

How would you like it if he took something of yours and sold it?
Yabvu. I hope he is more tolerant than I would be

shashep Wed 06-Feb-13 15:06:03

YABU - go straight back to the shop and get the ring back, then ask/decide at a later date.

diddl Wed 06-Feb-13 15:11:16

I think yabu.

Also, how did you know what size to get?´confused

NatashaBee Wed 06-Feb-13 15:14:21

I would be heartbroken if someone sold my wedding ring. It's irreplaceable, it's the ring I took my wedding vows with. Not to mention that it's not up to someone else to go selling my stuff! I would go back there and get it before it gets sold/melted down.

Juanca Wed 06-Feb-13 15:21:12

I know for a fact my husband wouldn't be bothered at all, but only you know what yours will say.

Oh good grief. Is this a reverse AIBU? If my husband sold my wedding ring without speaking to me first then said he was happy with his tenner profit then I'd stuff their new ring so far up their arse....

I think you have been VVVVU.

Treaclesmart Wed 06-Feb-13 15:32:40

It's alright, I've rung him and confessed all and he was really happy about it. I do agree with everyone who said it wasn't right though. I don't think I should have done it either, definitely a moment of madness. Anyway hopefully the new one will fit (the jeweller guessed 2 sizes smaller) and he will love it and wear it....and we didn't marry in a church so no blessings to worry about.
can sell his gold clubs next!!! ha ha . ..only joking!!!

sarahtigh Wed 06-Feb-13 15:39:16

any wedding ring is worth loads more than £10 in scrap value even 9 carat which is only about 25% gold is worth quite a lot as pure gold is worth more than £1000 an ounce (28 grammes) you were done by the cash for gold people unless you are joking with £10

bigpantspam Wed 06-Feb-13 15:39:57

If he had gold clubs I think I'd sell them too grin

nickelbabe Wed 06-Feb-13 15:52:48

sarah we're assuming she meant she got £10 more than she paid for the new ring.
we hope.

44SoStartingOver Wed 06-Feb-13 15:55:15

I have not had my engagement ring repaired since it was damaged 8 years ago. I would be appalled if dh sold it on my behalf.

we both have new wedding rings and so are not especially sentimental but i think

* you were cavalier with his possession
* you are robbed

hth

BrendaB85 Wed 06-Feb-13 15:55:45

Ask him how he would feel if you 'did'?? See how he reacts... If it's bad run to the shop and GET IT BACK!!!

diddl Wed 06-Feb-13 15:57:37

Yes, I think she wrote that the money she got paid for the new ring plus 10GBP extra.

I thought that titanium rings were a fair bit cheaper than gold though tbh.

Pickles101 Wed 06-Feb-13 16:01:22

Glad DH took it well! YWNBU because you obviously know your DH and that he wouldn't mind. Definitely a moment of madness though, I wouldn't do risk it myself grin

soontobeburns Wed 06-Feb-13 16:02:22

I took the OP saying £10 profit on what she orginally paid for the gold ring. Not the new Titanium one.

But anyway hard to say but I would say YANBU. Better to have one to be worn that sitting in a drawer.

diddl Wed 06-Feb-13 16:07:59

Ah yes, that makes more sense-got more money back than was paid originally.

I sold some gold recently & was astounded at what I got.

In fact when I said "really??" the chap looked again, said "oh yes you´re right" & gave me even more!

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Wed 06-Feb-13 16:08:44

Glad your DH is happy. I think selling the ring and getting one that he's more likely to wear is a good idea but I deffo would have checked first.

AdoraBell Wed 06-Feb-13 17:36:50

Some men are very sentimental. I would have asked first, hope he's okay with it.

ClippedPhoenix Wed 06-Feb-13 17:46:00

You know your DH better than anyone else so the fact that it all ended well says you did the right thing. Good for you.

He never wore it before so was hardly going to start now was he.

AdoraBell Wed 06-Feb-13 18:13:59

Took me so long to get and stay on line, so what I wrote was before the updateblush, glad your DH is happy.

And there goes my Internet again, dammit!

Sokmonsta Wed 06-Feb-13 20:45:48

I wouldn't do it. Our rings were bought the night before our wedding, whatever fitted in our size. Dh has told me he wants to replace my ring as it was a) cheap and b) after just two years is very battered. But the ring I wear is the one which actually symbolises the vows we made. I told him if he wants to change it then we have to have a church blessing to make it a legitimate wedding ring as opposed to just a ring.

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