AIBU to bid up to £100 for a spare favourite toy?

(103 Posts)
NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 11:57:47

My 10mo ds has a discontinued cuddly toy that he needs to get to sleep. He sucks it so after 3 days it stinks to high heaven and needs decontamination washing. Wash day is a nightmare as he has to have at least one nap without it and it needs me with him for 40mins, while 2yo dd is plonked in front of Cbeebies.

In addition to trying every online shop, rl shop and the manufacturer for a spare, I have searched eBAY daily since May using 4 search terms and one has finally come up - start bid was 99p so I put on a safely high max bid of £30shock . Some bugger just outbid me! It originally cost less than a tenner new.

So, would ibu to increase my bid to £40? £60? £100?! If iabu, how much is your child's favourite/needed toy worth to you?

LittleChimneyDroppings Wed 06-Feb-13 12:00:23

Not that much, jeez. I may pay £20/£25 but it would pain me to go more than that.

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 12:02:03

I am soooo desperate. I think it might now be a collectors' item now as it's so rare. sad

snuffaluffagus Wed 06-Feb-13 12:02:31

Wait until the last minute to bid, that way it won't push the price up before that. Only you can know what it's worth to you! I'd say £30 would be my max but it's up to you!

OHforDUCKScake Wed 06-Feb-13 12:03:02

Someone has the same problem as you!

Its your money, bid as much as you like.

When does it end? Never bid until the end. It would still be 99p now if you hadnt. Now forsure it will get a huge price.

Have you tried Amazon?

YulaBaker Wed 06-Feb-13 12:03:13

What is it? A MNer might have one that they don't really care much for.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Wed 06-Feb-13 12:03:38

show us, we miight have one to send. i've got hundreds of the bloody things...

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Wed 06-Feb-13 12:03:50


FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:03:59

What you is it out of interest? Maybe we can find you one?

stormforce10 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:04:03

What is it OP. You never know someone may have one stuffed in a cupboard somewhere that they're willing to part with or sell you at a sensible price

Katz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:04:08

Put a plea on here with a photo and description, there's probably a mumsnetter with one on their toy box that's never played with who'll send it to you for the cost a postage, if it was one we have its yours.

Pandsbear Wed 06-Feb-13 12:04:41

Poor you I feel your pain (though never paid that much for a second version of the Most Loved Teddy). What is it -maybe someone on here has a spare one?

FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:04:54

X post

<<lines up huge soft toy collection>>

Pandsbear Wed 06-Feb-13 12:05:36

Lots of X-posts!

I sent a Much Loved but Lost soft to y to a MNer once. Complete with photos of him "having a bath" and having a lot of fun to explain why he had gone missing and arrived back home clean grin

FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:08:19

soup that's lovely smile

LittleBoxes Wed 06-Feb-13 12:09:27

Just to say, my dd had a favourite toy at that age, a cat. She was devoted to it, wouldn't let it out of her sight, it went to nursery every day with her, we were terrified of losing it.

Until the Christmas when she was two and a half, when she got a new one (also a cat) and immediately, and I mean immediately, ditched the old one. She is now 6 and the newer cat is the one she sleeps with every night. The old one is at the bottom of a box somewhere, totally ignored.

So what I'm saying is, don't assume the one he has at 10mo will be the 'forever' toy. So you might not want to spend £100 on a spare!

LittleChimneyDroppings Wed 06-Feb-13 12:10:04

Yeah what is it? Copy and paste the eBay pic. You never know, one of us might have one.

What is it? We may have one somewhere.

We've been contemplating buying another of LO's bedtime rabbit. It cost about £15 new, and is still available in loads of places, so we know we can rush out and buy one if needed. It hasn't been washed EVER. He is 9.5 months old!! I think I might buy another one next time I see one in a shop, just in case.

schoolgovernor Wed 06-Feb-13 12:10:24

Stop bidding. Google - free sniping software - and register a snipe bid.
I know some EBayer's hate this, but it does mean you keep your cards close to your chest and don't encourage other bidders.

aderynlas Wed 06-Feb-13 12:12:56

Thats really lovely soup, how kind of you. We had a lost little ted sat in our window for afew days no one claimed it. My dh took a photo and we put it in the local shop, about an hour later ted was reunited with his little owner smile

Scholes34 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:14:31

I think you need to concentrate on the going to sleep issues instead. Even if you pay £100 for a replacement, or a kind Mumsnetter sends you one for free, you can't guarantee your DS won't recognise it as a poor substitute. Soft toys seem to take on a personality of their own!

It was a win-win scenario really - I got rid of a large, unloved stuffed animal and gained a warm fuzzy feeling and a small child somewhere got his friend back.

ResponsibleAdult Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:05

Had similar prob with DS toy bear, promptly discontinued, nearly lost him in several occasions. When DD arrived DS chose a cuddly rabbit, we bought a spare rabbit and woukd switch them so one could be in the wash whilst the other was in use. As a preschooler she found the "secret" other one, announced she'd found Raddit's (ie rabbit) twin and insisted both stay out. She is now 11, they are still in her room.
Your son is young, will be distractable, bid as high as you can afford. If you get it, we'll done, if not find something similar and buy two. An heir and a spare almost

DumSpiroSpero Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:15

Having been through the trauma of my then 7yo DD's favourite bear going missing last year, I'm not sure I'd blame you for spending any amount of money tbh, assuming you can afford it.

Have a look at Goofbid, where you can set up for an automatic bid to go in about 7 seconds before the end of the auction.

CaptainNancy Wed 06-Feb-13 12:21:06

I had to order a spare from ebay US of my youungest's comforter- we had bought 2, but he lost one, flung from the buggy on a walk with grandparents.
He still chews it to death (4yo) and I'm so glad I replaced it... was more like £30 than £100 though!

What is it?

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 12:24:00

Soup and Ader, you are so lovely. I hope I'd do that for a lost toy too.

Ends in 90mins. Gah. Still not decided.

FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:24:46

Post link quick if we have one it's yours for free!

Post a link

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 12:28:01

I know, I know I should have waited until the last second to bid but I didn't want to risk missing this while trying to wrangle the dcs into the car or whatever.

Will try and get a pic if my phone lets me.

lunar1 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:28:02

What is it, if i have one you can have it

LittleBoxes Wed 06-Feb-13 12:28:47

Link! I bet someone's got one lurking somewhere.

ValiumQueen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:29:19

The anticipation is killing me...

Link to the eBay page?

FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:30:50

Or give title of eBay listing so can find it an link for you

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 12:32:56

Gah. Can't copy and paste on this phone. It's a Jellycat Chimboo dog, the small one (23cm). I bought the mouse version (for £8!) and that is occasionally deemed to be an acceptable substitute but rarely these days.

Anyone got one? You know how much I'm not really willing to pay! wink

Maryz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:37:08

Is this it?

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord Wed 06-Feb-13 12:38:32

Its not coming up for me post us the item number

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 12:39:49

Not quite Mary. Right make but that's the bigger one. We need the small one (23cm, not 35cm).

JollyRedGiant Wed 06-Feb-13 12:40:13
ValiumQueen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:41:04

The one Maryz linked to is 23cm

MaryZ's one is 23cm!

FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:41:30

Type in jellycat cuddly dog he is say on red background

TheMightyLois Wed 06-Feb-13 12:41:31

that link says that it's 23cm confused

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 12:41:57

If I give the item number is everyone going to bid to spite me? grin

FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:42:25

Yep mary saved you £20 I reckon

Nah, its not hard to see which one you've bid on. Theres only one at that price!

Maryz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:43:23

I now have on in my shopping cart for £9.99, so they are still selling it confused.

It is the small one, isn't it?

ValiumQueen Wed 06-Feb-13 12:43:27

I am tempted to buy a dozen and sell them on eBay.

Maryz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:44:45

Yup, what'll I do with mine?

Buy it and sell it to the op for £100 maybe grin

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 12:50:38

Sorry! Didn't read the description Maryz, only saw he pic which is of the bigger one. Argh, what to do, what to do...

Will try and ring them...

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:01:36

Oh ha bloody ha! grin

Now I'm really confused. The title says puppy, the text says horse, the photo is of the large version but the text says small/23cm. There is no phone number. Do I risk it for a biscuit?

Mayyzs one has the description This lovely little soft toy horse from the Jellycat range makes a perfect gift It's a dog, not a horse isn't it? I'd be a little worried about what may turn up!

xpost smile

OK, that website sets my alarm bells ringing. The links are all repeated at the foot of the page which doesn't look at all professional

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:06:08

Soup, I don't feel right about that site either. .

YulaBaker Wed 06-Feb-13 13:11:51
NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:16:43

Thanks Yula but don't want to risk it.

Arsicles. eBay it is. NO-ONE IS ALLOWED TO BID [hard stare].

YulaBaker Wed 06-Feb-13 13:18:00

Good luck NEO!

Maryz Wed 06-Feb-13 13:22:54

You do realise that the law of inverse proportions applies - the more you pay for it, the less time he will stay interested.

So for a teener, he would love it for five years. For 50 quid, a year. And if you pay any more, he will lose interest in about 5 minutes grin

ihearttc Wed 06-Feb-13 13:25:49

Can someone post a link to the actual toy that the OP is looking for? Does the one you want have brown inside the ears as well?

I have one sitting here which looks exactly like that and its the 23cm version but its all one colour and doesn't have brown inside the ears.

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:26:08

Oh now I have cold feet. He's going to need fewer naps soon isn't he (so more time to get the hideously stinking skank dog washed). But he's starting at the CM and a spare would be useful and there's more chance of losing it (we normally don't let it out of the house!).

I know he should sleep without it but he was given it the day he was born (sentimental fool emoticon).

I was expecting a list of YABU but you have been so lovely and helpful. So what would you do now?

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:27:15

Thanks iheart but it does have the brown inside the ears. Anyone else?

HazelDormouse Wed 06-Feb-13 13:28:13

Have you had a look at the above website? Is that what you are referring to? It still seems to be in stock for £9.99.

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:29:14

Thanks Hazel but there was discussion of that site upthread. Didn't seem right.

StuntGirl Wed 06-Feb-13 13:30:46

Personally unless you can afford it (in which case why are you even asking? Just buy it.) I'd leave it. He'll get over it if he does lose it.

ihearttc Wed 06-Feb-13 13:31:43

I will check when DS2 wakes up from his nap...its definitely the same dog but I think the ears are the same colour as the rest of him. If I could work out how to post a picture Id take one for you.

He was premature and it was in his incubator with him but its been on a shelf since he came out of hospital (he is 2 now)...his toy of choice is a rather large stuffed Racoon which belongs to DS1 which he got from Hamleys 6 years ago. Absolutely no chance of finding a replacement for that unless by any chance anyone has got a WWF Racoon in a cupboard anywhere lol?!

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:35:23

iheart, there's a Jellycat range called Skiffles that you might have (I have learned a ridiculous amount about the subject in the last 10 months).

annach Wed 06-Feb-13 13:39:02

iheart, tell you who might have one: the WWF. We lost a very precious leopard which we couldn't find a replacement for, so rang WWF who told us it was discontinued but they had one on a shelf in the office and would post it to us for a donation, which they did. Worth a shot.

lovesmileandlaugh Wed 06-Feb-13 13:40:20

I think I would start bringing in new toys to bond with, rather than reinforcing that he 'can't' sleep without it. My PFB's favourite toy meant more to me than her with hindsight! I still have it and smile, she has little recollection other than knowing I said it was her favourite toy.

However, good luck!! I am hope you manage to get it!

almostanotherday Wed 06-Feb-13 13:40:33

Yes I would
Only trouble is that DH would not

ihearttc Wed 06-Feb-13 13:40:51

Lol...I did the same when I was searching for toy racoons! You'd be amazed at what came up!

Nope don't think its that looks exactly like your one whereas the Skiffles one looks slightly different.

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:42:24

Stuntgirl, yes and no to whether I can afford it. My overdraught has I have the money but need other stuff too, like a new freezer now the Ben & Jerrys is always slushy.

deleted203 Wed 06-Feb-13 13:43:44

I would pay almost anything, personally, to replace DS2s 'special' bear. He is part of the family, goes everywhere with him and I dread ever losing it. Can't imagine that a new one would really replace it, but they are discontinued anyway.

StuntGirl Wed 06-Feb-13 13:46:44

If you're going into your overdraft then you can't afford it. I would follow love's advice above.

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:46:47

DH's view (just asked!) is that the higher I bid, the more amusing this will be in a few years' time. grin

Word of warning - I bought a 2nd favorite teddy for my dd when she was in hospital and kept being sick on the original. She wouldn't entertain it for a second. Too shiny and new looking and didn't stink
Despite many washes it still gets rejected a year later.

SparkyUK Wed 06-Feb-13 13:47:36

Haven't read the thread, but we did the same, buying replacement fav plush toy for DS off ebay. The first one was not deemed acceptable, being a similar white rabbit but with a different facial expression. The second one was a large rather than a small (didn't realise there were different sizes until it arrived in the post - dog!) and this was acceptable.

However, word of warning. If you do get a spare, be careful not to to let DS see them both like I did. He then instead insisted on having both bunnies to bed every night. (sigh).

lovesmileandlaugh Wed 06-Feb-13 13:48:48

I like Mr Neoprene!

ChristianGreyIsAJackass Wed 06-Feb-13 13:49:25


My DS has a bunny, which is disgusting, stinky (even when freshly washed) totally discoloured but he loves him! I found a spare, i bought it, he doesnt like the spare, he wouldnt entertain it even at a young age.

New bunny sits unloved and pristine and old dogshit bunny remains safely in ds's bed!

Dont bother, you wont win!

Linoleic Wed 06-Feb-13 13:50:10

Could the seller have seen your max bid and got a friend to outbid you to push the price up? <disillusioned ebayer>

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 13:51:45

DD somehow had 7 spare bunnies (mainly due to a bout of gastroenteritis) and we kept them all on careful rotation but she's settled on one now so we'd better not lose it.

15 mins! What to do?!

FairyJen Wed 06-Feb-13 13:57:14

Anyone else now glued to eBay?

Just me??

lovesmileandlaugh Wed 06-Feb-13 13:57:59


sillymillyb Wed 06-Feb-13 14:01:34

I can't believe I'm place marking to see whether you win your bid on eBay grin

when my ds was born I bought 2 Teddies just incase.... I sleeo with one now, and ds sleeps with the other. neither of us like to swop!

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 14:01:54

I increased my bid. can't watch. someone tell me.

Did you get it OP?

fishybits Wed 06-Feb-13 14:02:58

2 months and 80 euros later we have three on rotation after too many traumatic hours howling whilst watching the wretched thing in the washing machine.

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 14:04:36

I won I won I won!!!! smile

Suppose I should go and pay attention to actual DS now who has been sitting in his own faeces while I faff about on eBay and Mumsnet (but it's all FOR HIM).

lovesmileandlaugh Wed 06-Feb-13 14:05:56

Oh I was gutted, I thought you were the other bidder! Just had to go get cup of tea and kitkat to cope!


sillymillyb Wed 06-Feb-13 14:07:08


can't believe this genuinely made me smile.... I need to get out more, I'm living far too vicariously! grin

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 14:15:53

Haha, you and me both. I am a nervous wreck.

I got it for £41 which is more than I wanted to spend but hey, less than I spent on the Steiff bear he couldn't care less about. He's going to hate this one too, isn't he? wink

Thanks all for keeping me company.

degutastic Wed 06-Feb-13 14:44:19

You know you're living vicariously through mn when you read to the end of the thread just to find out if the OP got it grin

Chandon Wed 06-Feb-13 14:52:53

Do not bid, STOP

Ime, babies and kids cannot be fooled by imposter bears, out of the crib they will be thrown!

It is pointless.

Just suffer the stink. Maybe put it on heating todry in between sucky episodes, so the smell des not develop too quickly.

imogengladhart Wed 06-Feb-13 15:56:13

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

bubby64 Wed 06-Feb-13 16:17:30

Hate to say this OP, but we had this problem years ago, and we ended up with 3 versions of one toy, which were rotated. We though DS didnt notice much, until one day, when he was about 4 he said "Oh good, its the 'real' Poohs turn to sleep wiith me!!"
Shows he had noticed all along!

Pictureperfect Wed 06-Feb-13 16:20:06

Jellycat are expensive to start with and go for crazy prices! A charity used the Dalmatians from the jellycat merry day range and they sell for so much more than they were sold by the company which is a real shame. People selling them on must be laughing though!

Glad you won it OP - hope your little boy accepts it. Maybe switch it while he's sleeping?

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 16:32:24

Good call to switch it while he's sleeping. It needs some serious washing and beating up first though!

I do feel ridiculous though but am now tempted to buy every new Jellycat toy that comes out and eBay them 5 years later. This will probably beat all my pension plans.

NeopreneMermaid Wed 06-Feb-13 19:48:46

I can't believe thisbhas happened the same day but DD has lost Bunny this evening (it's somewhere in the house) and we've had to offer one of the seven replacements. She saw the difference but accepted it was one of Bunny's sisters and has happily gone off to bed. I feel £41's worth of vindication.

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