To not want to bloody try it?!

(70 Posts)

My nan makes a vat of soup every week for her and my grandad. She is trying to convince me that I should have a bowl for lunch.
I do not like a single ingredient of the soup. I am old enough to know when I do not like the taste of something.
Apparently I'm being childish because I do not want any fucking soup.

Why oh why must usually sensible adults, when confronted by another sensible adult who doesn't like something, feel the need to persuade them that they do not know their own mouth?!

YANBU! You are old enough to know that, if you don't like any of the ingredients, you are not going to enjoy the combination. My mum does this to people, and it feels like she thinks of you as a silly child who has no idea about anything. Grrr!

NellysKnickers Wed 06-Feb-13 12:18:22

Just try some, poor old Nan grin

valiumredhead Wed 06-Feb-13 12:19:58

YABU and childish to not even try it.

chocoluvva Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:10

It won't hurt you to try some. You never know, it might be nice and if it isn't. well. you'll have treid it once and won't need to again.

MarilynValentine Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:51

Pretend to take a little sip with a cheery, resolute expression on your face.

Then, pretend to violently retch and run to their loo. Spend upwards of five minutes retching and groaning.

Then pop out and brightly say, told you! grin

chocoluvva Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:53

Oooh - sorry for the typos blush

SweetSeraphim Wed 06-Feb-13 12:21:11

It's not childish to not try it! She doesn't like it... one of the advantages of being an adult!

I would try it however, but then I am a bit of a pleaser.

valiumredhead Wed 06-Feb-13 12:22:16

If she hasn't tried it how on earth would she know she doesn't like it?

JohnBender88 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:22:29

It must be a grandparent thing. My Granda wouldn't stop offering my cousin an almond cake even though she has a nut allergy.

My Grandmother sat at her own kitchen table, and ate a fruit salad that she utterly despises because her mother told her to.

She was 73 at the time and my great GM was 90!

YANBU to say no!

SweetSeraphim Wed 06-Feb-13 12:23:34

Ok - I don't like fish. And I don't like soup. So if someone made me fish soup, I would KNOW I wasn't going to like it.

Boomerwang Wed 06-Feb-13 12:24:15

My mum was like this. I do not like bolognese. Never have, never will. Yet every single time she'd make it she expected me to eat it. Of course, I didn't, and she thought I was just being childish. This lasted til about the age of 24.

Also, every time I ate mussels I'd puke them right back up and then fall into a deep sleep for hours. This happened about three times before I figured out that maybe I'm allergic to them or intolerant in some way. Each time mussels were on the menu my mother would say that now that I was older, I wouldn't be sick, as it was just a child thing. Each time I got suckered in and puked my guts up. My mum said 'oh well maybe you had a bad one'

MaxPepsi Wed 06-Feb-13 12:24:25

How do you know you don't like it unless you actually try it?

Ingredients taste differently in soup and when mixed with other things.

Celery? I hate the stuff, but give it to me in soup and it's delicious!

valiumredhead Wed 06-Feb-13 12:27:06

Exactly Max

LimburgseVlaai Wed 06-Feb-13 12:27:35

YANBU. I hate it when people say to me "Oh but you MUST try this" or "You MUST see that". No I don't! I'm not a child, I know what I do and don't like, and no I don't want to try it. What are you supposed to do - try a spoonful and then say "No I don't like it"? She will be even more offended then.

My in-laws are like that with alcohol: "Are you sure you don't want a G&T? No? A sherry? No? Oh go on! Just have a slurp!" (usually said before noon or before a car journey)

Viviennemary Wed 06-Feb-13 12:28:33

Just try some. You might even like it. If you don't well at least you tried. But I draw the line at fish soup. I know I wouldn't like it. so maybe you've got a point!

I hate the "how do you know unless you try" saying.

It doesnt matter whether she would taste it and love it or not. She is an adult. If she doesnt want it she doesnt want it.

Taffeta Wed 06-Feb-13 12:29:33

Try it. Tell her you're sure it's great but it's to for you. Then she will stop nagging you and you'll stop being irritated.

Dig your heels in and keep refusing and you'll keep being annoyed.

Taffeta Wed 06-Feb-13 12:29:41

It's not for you

CinnabarRed Wed 06-Feb-13 12:32:47

Anyone else desperate to know what soup it is? I can't imagine a soup where I hated every single ingredient! grin


Maryz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:33:29

My dd's favourite saying when she was little was "I don't like it, what is it?"

Just taste the bloody stuff. Then you can tell them with honesty that you have tasted it and don't like it. Full stop.

fluffyraggies Wed 06-Feb-13 12:33:57

I nag my kids to try something once and i won't ask again. Until they are 12/13 that is. The idea is that you teach kids that it doesn't hurt to try. Plus it's helpful if you're cooking for a family that they all have an accepting pallet and wont just eat chicken nuggets till they're 10, like my nephew.

Once your an adult however, you don't have to try anything to please anyone. 'Specially if you're darn sure you wont like it.

BubaMarra Wed 06-Feb-13 12:34:15

Oh, it's not only a grandparent thing! I get that all the time and it's not like I am a picky eater. It usually gets worse if I'm on a diet. Come on take some cake, it won't hurt your diet! As I know how annoying that is, I am really trying to be nice to other people wrt to food. I offer, but don't push and really don't expect people to explain themselves if they refuse.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Wed 06-Feb-13 12:37:01

I'm going to break the trend and say YABU, unless it's so bad you can't eat it without gagging then just eat it.

You eat something you don't particularly like, but it makes your nan and grandad happy.

Is it so bad to put yourself out a bit to make someone else happy?

FelicityWasCold Wed 06-Feb-13 12:38:13

This moral high ground of you're a terrible person if you won't even try it is just bollocks. You know your own mind, if you don't want it don't eat it.

I mean apply the logic to anything apart from food and it's easy to see the stupidity of it. If you don't like to wear red (for example), you are not morally obliged to try on every red jumper in the shops, because some of them might be cut differently/a different shade and you might like it this time...

Just humour the poor old girl, have a spoonful and then say you don't like it!!

What soup is it?

I tell my DS he has to try it before he decided he doesn't like it smile

ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath Wed 06-Feb-13 12:39:35

YANBU I would never ever eat carrot and coriander soup, I hate both of the integral ingredients so think it's safe to assume I wouldn't like it. I hate being told to try something when I know I don't like it, there's never a good outcome.

Sounds like your nan has been watching Mrs Doyle in Father Ted OP grin

oldraver Wed 06-Feb-13 12:39:38

Why should she have to taste it, if she has said she doesn't want to, that should be enough reason and should be respected rather than having it forced on her

When you say a vat of soup do you mean its there to be eaten all week ? as that would be enough to put me off

garlicblocks Wed 06-Feb-13 12:41:11

Erm, if nan and granddad were so keen to satisfy OP at lunchtime, they'd be happy to give her something she does like! This is all about being in charge of her tastes. They'll only be 'happy' if she puts herself through an unpleasant (to her) experience on their say-so. Not nice!

Having said that, I'll try anything unless I already know it makes me sick. And if I don't like it, I bloody well say so!

ResponsibleAdult Wed 06-Feb-13 12:41:19

Maybe your Gran doesn't like you !!!!!

FloatyBeatie Wed 06-Feb-13 12:41:36

I thought this was going to be a thread about green eggs and ham. ("That Nan-I-am, that Nan-I-am, I do not like that Nan-I-am.")

garlicblocks Wed 06-Feb-13 12:42:15

ItsOkay grin g'wan g'wan g'wan!

JenaiMorris Wed 06-Feb-13 12:43:06

How can you not like a single ingredient in a soup?

Not saying you're U, just wondering really. What's in it? confused

garlicblocks Wed 06-Feb-13 12:43:57

I think she was exclusing the water, Jennai wink

fluffyraggies Wed 06-Feb-13 12:46:39

AND - personally speaking, as an adult if i've been pushed and cajolled (sp?) into something the chances are i'm not going to like it.

I really cant picture the OP, after all this, to sip the soup and then feel an all consuming urge to drink the lot as it's so tasty!

It's going to be a case of <sip> ''no, sorry'' which may be more hurtful to the GPs than not trying?

ENormaSnob Wed 06-Feb-13 12:46:41

As an adult, if I don't want to try something then I wont.

ResponsibleAdult Wed 06-Feb-13 12:49:57

OP, if she does it every week, surely she doesn't like you.
Take the hint, visit fortnightly, take your own soup.
Off now to heat huge vat of soup, will lots of things in, some of which I don't like individually but great together (like coriander, barf)

I'm with the 'Just try it' gang here.
My mum HATES vegetables - I mean all of them.
But whe will eat them in a soup if the soup is blended.
You might just surprise yourself. And if not, you've lost nothing.

Maryz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:54:04

Ah, but carrot and coriander soup doesn't taste at all like carrots, or coriander for that matter, ItsOkay.

So what's in the soup?

Taffeta Wed 06-Feb-13 12:56:00

I would be less than keen to taste cabbage and chickpea soup, if indeed, someone was insane enough to make that combo.

But I would try it, just to check. [greedy]

DreamingOfTheMaldives Wed 06-Feb-13 13:00:08

YABU. Just try the soup, until you try it you don't know if you don't like it. I don't mind people having a couple of likes or dislikes but if you don't like a single ingredient of the soup, then maybe you are being picky. Picky adults really get my goat! (I know I am probably being UR for this alone but I can't help it.)

I am 33 years old but I still try things occasionally that I have never previously liked because our taste buds change. I never used to like wine, olives, blue cheese but I do now (well, just beginning to like a bit of blue cheese)

Would it really hurt you to keep your gran happy by trying some of her soup. You can then just politely say, "I'm not keen on it, sorry."

fluffyraggies Wed 06-Feb-13 13:04:37

hellsbells i read that as
My mum HATES vegetarians,
But will eat them in a soup if the soup is blended.


garlicblocks Wed 06-Feb-13 13:14:39

Vegetarians would be a good, safe meat. If they'd never eaten meat, they'd be kosher, too, wouldn't they? Yum yum wink

ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath Wed 06-Feb-13 13:24:19

Tuck in garlic (an ideal addition as well as nn), I've been a veggie since the age of 4 grin

Maryz I am not having that! I can sniff out coriander at 100 paces envy <-- bleurgh face

catladycourtney1 Wed 06-Feb-13 13:29:02

As long as you've explained that you don't like the ingredients and it's not because it looks like vom of anything to do with them, then YA absolutely NBU. My mum went through a phase of growing her own veg and making soup with it, and while I liked some of the veg itself, I just couldn't bring myself to ever try the soup. Although, I'm not big on soup anyway, I only do cup-a-soup smile

complexnumber Wed 06-Feb-13 13:29:28

Once MIL chased DH round the kitchen with a broad bean and forced it in his mouth. I don't think she believes no is a complete sentence

ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath Wed 06-Feb-13 13:30:43

grin grin grin complex

LOL at vegetarians!!!!
Cheered me up no end today!

Bunbaker Wed 06-Feb-13 13:38:36

"Anyone else desperate to know what soup it is? I can't imagine a soup where I hated every single ingredient!"

Yes. What is in the soup that is so vile?

pinkyredrose Wed 06-Feb-13 14:09:02

Things taste different in soup though . I hate asparagus but asparagus soup is yummy .

I have always said free-range vegetarians are the most ethical choice for meat.

I think it is like gin and tonic. I hate gin. Don't tell MNHQ. I hate tonic. I luffs me a gin and tonic.

Eat the soup.

LimburgseVlaai Wed 06-Feb-13 14:44:04

Hmmmm, deep thought: if a veg patch is fertilised with bone meal, would the veg then be suitable for vegetarians?

HecateWhoopass Wed 06-Feb-13 14:47:41

It's probably one of those weird 'reject my food reject my love' things grin.

And you don't know that you won't like it. Foods can combine and create a flavour that is totally different from the individual ingredients.

That said - you are under no obligation to try something if you don't want to.

THAT said - grin - if you try and and say sorry, don't like it. Then at least she'll stop going on at you.

Or she'll complain about wasted food and you'll be forced to hold her down in the pot until the bubbles stop. wink

chocoluvva Wed 06-Feb-13 14:50:13

Maybe OP's nan thinks her soup is nutritious - which it probably is.

HecateWhoopass Wed 06-Feb-13 14:51:09

oh, and I have on the cooker a huge pan of carrot, onion and celery soup that I have made today.

I HATE celery. Wouldn't eat it if you paid me. It's revolting.

But not in the soup. It tastes really nice.

I'll admit, it was a bit of a gamble. I didn't know if I was going to be able to eat it, but it was either that or throw it away. And I knew if I couldn't eat it, the dustbin I married would. grin

poozlepants Wed 06-Feb-13 14:51:41

I demand to know what is in the aforesaid hideous soup. Please.

steppemum Wed 06-Feb-13 15:00:07

tell us what is in the soup PLEEEEEEEEEESE grin

I am the wrong person to ask for this. I will eat anything at someone elses house, something to do with being a good guest that I can't shake off.

will even eat nuts on top of things (yuck yuck yuck)

But I would avoid broad beans unless it was a desperate situation!

CheerfulYank Wed 06-Feb-13 15:00:35

Me too!

G'wan g'wan g'wan! :D Tell us.

DontSweatTheSmallStuff Wed 06-Feb-13 15:10:38

OP has disappeared. She has tried it and has spend the last 3 hours with her head down the toilet


She refused so Nan took offence and added ScentedNappyHag an extra ingredient to make it more palatable.

HildaOgden Wed 06-Feb-13 16:39:33

Poor Nana sad.

I think, on the whole, that people should eat what they are offered if they have gone somewhere for a meal.(actual food allergies aside) I particularly despise whinyarses with masses of food issues who have to make a fucking melodrama out of every mealtime 'Ooh, I don't like this, and I don't like that, and my astrologer says I should only eat fish on a Tuesday, and have you got any obscure mineral water?'

Sorry, escaped for a sandwich coffee with a friend wink
I completely agree that if it was served to me as a meal, I should definitely try it before saying no, but this was my nan wanting to put some in a jar to take home and have for my lunch tomorrow grin I'd hate to waste it! She's not offended either, we get on brilliantly so this is mainly lighthearted smile
It's a vegetable soup- I hate peppers, onions and celery and they're the main bits in there envy
I'm not an irritating picky eater though, I'm happy to eat around things I really dislike and if it's the odd bit of carrot (which I'm not at all keen on) in a shepherds pie (for example) I'll happily eat it to be polite. But a soup made out of my worst food nightmares with nothing else to mask the taste? I think I should be allowed to pass grin

AllOutOfIdeas Wed 06-Feb-13 17:27:19

I don't know on this- if it was just veg i don't like i would try it just to keep nan happy.
On the other hand, dp does this to me with everything with chilies in. He knows i cannot handle chilies even if they have only been waved in the general direction of the pan, through the kitchen window.
My lips start burning and it hurts!

Every fucking time "just try this, its not hot. You will love it" no i won't!

andubelievedthat Wed 06-Feb-13 17:27:20

i cant imagine hating a soup i have not tried and coming onto a site for backup re not trying it ! if u are so convinced u do not like it , do not have any.

andu MN would be a very quiet place indeed if the only threads were ones of great important life issues... I'm not looking for 'back up', just curious to see whether other's would give in for a quiet life or stick to their guns smile

Antipag Wed 06-Feb-13 17:35:29

Personally I would try the soup (which I am imagining is tripe and vinegar soup at this point!) BUT, the OP is a grown woman, the issue isn't whether she might think the soup is the tastiest thing she has eaten in her life, if she isn't interested in finding out then why the hell should she have to.

That said, if you have been invited over for a meal, I personally think its a bit rude to not even give it a go.

Boomerwang Wed 06-Feb-13 21:31:55

It's the smell of some foods that makes me not want to try it, particularly soup. Especially if it's out of a can. They always smell of vomit.

Fresh soup, however, especially my mum's chinese chicken and mushroom soup, smells lovely.

I detest the smell of chantrelles but since they'd been freshly picked by the cook I deigned to taste the sauce made out of them... and found that it tasted as good as it smelled - like sick.

HildaOgden Wed 06-Feb-13 21:36:54

Nanas' soup sounds lovely.Although I am quite hungry at the moment smileo

Take it home and taste a spoonful,you can barf into your own loo discard it after that if it really is awful

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