to not like people drying their hands on my bath towel?

(83 Posts)
familyfun Tue 05-Feb-13 14:11:02

in our bathroom there is a hand towel hanging from a towel rail at the side of the sink. it is always clean, changed often.
the kids tend to dry their hands on their own bathtowels which hang on the other side of the room on the bottom rung of the heated rail so they can reach.
when ils come to visit, ive noticed after theyve been to the toilet and wsshed their hands, that there is a trail of water splashed across the bathroom to the bathtowels and my towel is wet and screwed up in the middle.
at first i thought the kids had made the mess but even when the kids havent been upstairs this still happens and the kids cant reach my bathtowel.
i make a point of telling them there is a clean hand towel hanging from the sink when they go up.
dp thinks it doesnt matter, their hands are clean and thinks even if they are using my towel it wont hurt me.
i am funny about things like that, i dont like to touch cups or cutlery or plates which people have used, so im not sure if its me being ott.
aibu to not like this so to remove my bathtowel when they come (and other visitors) so they cant use my towel?

Sugarice Tue 05-Feb-13 14:13:15

If removing your towel makes you less twitchy then put it elsewhere when you have visitors..

Sugarice Tue 05-Feb-13 14:15:37

I'm not fussy about these things so I think you are being unreasonable but I would imagine you would think I'm a bit of a slobby housekeeper if you came to my house.

Each to their own I say. wink

Well, yes you are a bit OTT to be honest but if it saves your nerves just make sure the towel is removed before guests come over.

SnakesheadFritillary Tue 05-Feb-13 14:20:08

I hate it when people have no hand towel in their bathrooms, and I really can't imagine why any guest would actively choose to dry their hands on something which has been all round their host's crevices rather than on a clean hand towel.

That said, a trail of water droplets in a bathroom and a damp patch on a towel is a long way from most people's definition of a 'mess', so you are probbly right when you suggest that you care more about this than the vast majority. Just move your towel.

familyfun Tue 05-Feb-13 14:24:34

i cant imagine why theyw ould want to use my towel either, when there is a small hand towel right next to them?
it doesnt bother me that there is a mess of water, im used to cleaning up after my dc and the house ie far ffrom perfect, but it makes me feel like my towel isnt clean for me and i need a new one. what if they havent washed their hands properly and then they are wiping their germs on my bath towel.
im going to move it.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 14:35:07

Sorry I think yabu. I have never encountered such weirdness about towels till I came on mn. I have never met anyone who has separate towels for people in their house. Everyone I know just have bathroom towels and you use the nearest one to you. All very strange to worry about bumbogies or whatever from people you are intimate with or squeezed out of your fandango.

familyfun Tue 05-Feb-13 14:39:34

4 people in house, 4 towels hanging ready to get dry on after a bath/shower.
1 handtowel but changed a lot.
dds both have exthma, dont have any products on their skin at bathtime, use lots of creams and i keep all their stuff separate.

calandarbear Tue 05-Feb-13 14:44:00

That would annoy me too OP.
I only leave a handtowel out and get a fresh clean bathtowel out of the airing cuboard just before a bath.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 14:45:34

Presumably you rub your towel on your skin and don't put it in your mouth or any other orifices? I'm sure our skin can cope with the odd germ on it. What do you think happens when your skin comes into contact with other stuff which isn't just clean for you? So weird - sorry.

MrsKoala - don't worry, I too am a complete heathen when it comes to towels. I just have a couple out...whoever has a bath shower uses them, they get hung back on the heated towel rail ready for the next victim person.

YouOldSlag Tue 05-Feb-13 14:49:14

I think you are a being OTT. The thing about not touching plates and cutlery that has been used is a bit OTT too.

diddl Tue 05-Feb-13 14:50:12

Rather their hands than their arsegrin

I think it´s odd of you-but if it bothers you that much, as others have said-put your towel elsewhere!

fromparistoberlin Tue 05-Feb-13 14:51:13

sweet jesus

<hits head on wall>

diddl Tue 05-Feb-13 14:51:45

Ooh-is there a towel heathen quiche?

Can I join?

fromparistoberlin Tue 05-Feb-13 14:51:59

sorry, sorry

just remove bath towel when they visit

there there

MolehillAlchemy Tue 05-Feb-13 14:54:24

Ew. Keep those bath towels away from the possibly-not-very-clean-post-butt-wipe fingers! You might be drying your face on that bit next.

At the MIL's bathroom, there's a choice between the dusky, stiff hand towel with the ominous looking stains, or the even grubbier looking bath towel that still retains its original colour round the edges, but is grimly grey in the middle. I employ the wash n shake hands clean then wipe on trousers method.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 14:54:27

Betty, I refuse to believe I am a heathen when it comes to this. I have honestly never known people to be so neurotic about germs as on these boards. I just wonder how the human race has continued without all this obsession with sanitisation. Sure wash your hands and everything, but there seems to be really unhealthy attitude towards bodies, fluids, and functions about now and I fear we are moving so far away from realising we are just animals with washing machines! smile

No, I'm joking, I am no heathen either, I just have a relaxed attitude to these things. As my dear late mum used to say, life's too short to stuff a mushroom smile

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:01:05

Totally with you, OP. The thought of sharing towels make me heave (and I am a slattern).

HeyHeySaturday Tue 05-Feb-13 15:01:57

Pure madness this towel fixation IMO though I have a fairly cavalier attitude to germs etc. me, DH and the dc's are rarely ill and have no allergies or any such. I don't know if there's a link and if there is what causes what.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:02:05

And if anyone needs a quiche it's the towel freaks. (Sorry op) the rest of us are normal. NORMAL I say! grin

drjohnsonscat Tue 05-Feb-13 15:02:24

I don't understand the towel neurosis thing either wink. I can only assume some people use their bath towels for much more vigorous scrubbing and probing than I do. Mine just loosely drapes around my shoulders until I am dry and then I get dressed. Obviously doing it wrong.

But then I'm a person who goes to John Lewis, buys plates and doesn't wash them before using them which makes me a total freak on here.

what's all this about a quiche?? I love quiche but preferably with cheese and bacon on it.

I think I must have missed something?? Is it a bit like the pomme bears? smile

...and I don't dry myself with a towel, I use a towelling dressing gown much to my DH's horror. Just get out the bath and put my gown on - job's a good'un wink

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:07:15

Oh sweet jeebus drjohnson am I supposed to do that too? I was almost hunted down and tarred with a cross put on my virtual door, when I said that dh and I share a tooth brush and I don't clean my loo everyday.

YANBU. Why would anyone want to dry their hands on someone's bath towel (that has possibly already been used, and wiped their bum crack with?) rather than a clean hand towel???

Maybe make a cute sign to hang near the hand towel, and say it's there for the kids if anyone aks?

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:09:42

MrsKoala I am really not obsessed with germs. I HATE wet towels. I hate the feeling of a wet towel when I go to dry myself. And if people keep using my towel as a hand towel, it will not dry (our house is really cold and damp).

Also, sharing bath towels between families? GRIM. Just...blergh. That blows my mind.

Sod washing plates before I use people really do that!! Really??

DH sometimes uses my toothbrush and I don't clean my loo every day, just give it a squirt of bleach if anyone skids (not me) and give it a good scrub once a week.

Sugarice Tue 05-Feb-13 15:10:25

Betty me too, straight into my bathrobe and keep it on til I'm dry! wink

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:10:49

Sharing a toothbrush is also blergh. Come on. Do you really want bits of whatever your partner has been eating in your mouth?

I'll share one in an emergency, but as routine, it's just crying out for a gum infection.

It does annoy me when he uses it to be honest but it doesn't send me into a frenzy or anything...I just roll my eyes, tut and then shove it in me gob smile

I barely clean my loo once a week.....but I would NEVER share a toothbrush.

We have our own towels here. 2 each. Even the baby has his own towels. Mostly because he might wee on it, and I might not notice - I don't want to risk wiping my face on the pissy bit.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:13:18

But that's my point mechanical, if you just have clean bath towels for everyone you won't use wet towels. Why won't you share towels with your family? What's grim about it?

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:16:17

Well, I do have clean bath towels for everyone! That's why no-one needs to share. And I have a hand towel, so no-one needs to wipe their wet hands on my towel.

It's just unnecessary to share towels. It's not a germ thing, it's just a heave thing. I don't want to sleep in a hotel that hasn't changed its sheets either, but I suppose that's also bonkers?

You can't really compare a hotel not changing its sheets to members of the same families sharing bath towels.

Mmmm, now wondering whether some MN'ers make their husbands bleach their bits before embarking on a bit of frollocking....maybe I am missing a trick here wink

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:22:30

Baby has his own towels because he has non bio detergent. Dh uses my tooth brush because his is always out of batteries, so we just have one now. And tbh I would eat food he had chewed and my mouth is in a lot more germy places so I just don't care.

Also think others are more intimate with their towels, I never dry my bum crack! I just spread the cheeks and give it a blast with the hair dryer. Not really! grin

I blow dry my pubes smile

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:25:29

Why, Betty? Skin cells is skin cells, after all.

Well, I dont particularly want to lay in a total strangers skin cells but hey, my DH and my DS.....I mean, it's not like me and DH don't share other bodily fluids!! Plus, laying next to each other all night, we are shedding skin in our sleep!!

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:28:40

I mean just 8 clean bath sheets ready for use. What if you want to shower more than once and your specially designated towel is still damp? And as Betty said the hotel thing is not the same, your family are not strangers. And if it's not a germ thing why does it make you heave? I don't understand how something which has touched my dc's or Dh's bodies then touching mine is disgusting? Sucking snot out of dc's noses and dabbing calamine on Dh's chicken poxes in his bum crack are things which make me all very unphased by towel sharing!

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:30:22

Please tell me you don't at the gym Betty?

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:31:42

You share bodily fluids with your husband? GRIM.

But if we have 8 clean bath towels, I don't know why we need to share.

How about mooncups? Can we share those too? It's only a bit of fanny blood! Don't be so precious!

I'm only larking, I'm only weird about towels. I just don't like the damp on them. And I would never shower twice a day! Who can be arsed with that?!

Pandemoniaa Tue 05-Feb-13 15:32:03

i am funny about things like that, i dont like to touch cups or cutlery or plates which people have used, so im not sure if its me being ott.

Yes, you are OTT but if it eases your anxiety, remove your bathtowel so that nobody else can use it.

Course I gives me a nice parting grin

You can borrow my mooncup if you want. I don't sterlise it though smile

Pandemoniaa Tue 05-Feb-13 15:33:40

Betty, I refuse to believe I am a heathen when it comes to this. I have honestly never known people to be so neurotic about germs as on these boards.

But I do agree with this, wholeheartedly!

Hasn't anyone raised poo germs on this thread yet? Only it's the next great inevitability when anything related to bathrooms is under discussion.

But surely if someone has just had a bath/shower they won't have poo on them??? So, no poo, no poo germs.

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:36:25

What if they had worms? Eh? And you didn't know? And then they crawled up your bum and you had worms too?

What if what if what is too short for what if's smile

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:37:12

Sorry mechanical, not being clearing mean they all look the same so get used, hung up, dried used again by a different person then all towels washed weekly. We often shower/bath 3 times a day -Morning once over, post work out, evening soak in the bath.

And if I didn't think moon cups were the grimmest invention ever then yes, I'd use someone else's, if it had been rinsed of course!

instantfamily Tue 05-Feb-13 15:38:34

Consider yourself lucky they wash their hands, OP grin

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:39:09

How infinite is womankind in its diversity. I will happily use a mooncup and certainly not declare it grim, yet I eschew the used towel.

Vive la difference (but don't use my towel)

Pandemoniaa Tue 05-Feb-13 15:39:11

I thought poo germs lurked in every bathroom just waiting to catch out the unwary who, quite reasonably, assumed that since they'd not come into contact with any poo, were safe.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:39:19

I'd never even heard of people getting worms before I came on mn.

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:40:42

I had worms as a child. Never forgotten it. sad

Well, I can honestly say I have never heard of someone getting worms from a towel, I sometimes share a toothbrush with DH, don't change towels daily and I can count on one hand the number of sick days I have had in the last 15 years......DH and DS also healthy as oxes so we are obviously doing something right.

Our immunity needs a certain amount of germs to be strong.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:42:53

Mevhanical - i just can' understand how you don't emerge from the cubicle covered in claret. But that's another thread!

sooperdooper Tue 05-Feb-13 15:43:34

This has never even occured to me, if there's a hand towel nearer the sink I'd use that, but whatever towel was there I'd use it

Hands, once washed, are clean, as are bodies, surely??

But - if you feel a bath towel is dirty once used once then only take one into the bathroom when you need it, then put it straight in the wash and don't leave it in the bathroom for someone to potentially dry their hands on, and only have a hand towel in the bathroom

sooperdooper Tue 05-Feb-13 15:45:24

Oh but I don't change towels daily, they get used, put on the raidiator to dry and used again, call me a scutter!!

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 15:46:26

Well, how do you know how you get worms, eh? Eh? How do you know if it was a towel worm or a sheet worm or some other sickly, germ-ridden thing?

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 15:47:35

Right that's it, I'm drying myself in margarine from now on to eliminate any risk of cross contamination.

Aniseeda Tue 05-Feb-13 16:16:33

This would annoy me too. Why would they do that when there is a hand towel right there??

I keep my lovely bathrobe on the back of my bedroom door and take it to the bathroom when I shower since discovering that DH and the children were all drying their hands on it when it was on the bathroom door as it was easier than using the hand towel. I am not confident that any of them (DH included!) wash their hands as thoroughly as I'd like so it did feel as if my bathrobe was muckier than I had been before getting into the shower! That said, they'd all been using the bathrobe for years before I caught DH in the act and I'd never come to any harm - it just felt icky from then on!

Hide your towel when they visit!

ApocalypseThen Tue 05-Feb-13 16:28:58

There's a chance they just see a row of towels and didn't notice the Designated Hand Towel.

LeeCoakley Tue 05-Feb-13 16:33:54

I've never noticed what I've dried my hands on in someone else's bathroom. If I see a towel then I will dry my hands on it. It would never enter my consciousness that I need to survey the whole bathroom and pick the right one.

I think the ILs are actually washing their undercarriages after using the toilet that's why they use the bath towel wink

TheCatIsEatingIt Tue 05-Feb-13 16:52:23

I was put off the sharing of towels when I saw a shit streak on XP's. He hadn't even put it to the wash, but hung it back up in the bathroom, where anyone could see. We didn't share, but I wouldn't have minded until that point; we always did when I was growing up.

DH is nice and clean, but we still have our own bath towels and a hand towel.

familyfun Tue 05-Feb-13 20:49:25

never even considered sharing a towel, yuk, anyway we all have baths showers in the evening and im not using a wet towel.
would never share a toothbrush, heave.
at someone else house i look for a hand towel, if there isnt one i shake my hands rather than use someones damp bath towel.

Yika Tue 05-Feb-13 20:56:44

I'm with you OP. if I don't see a clean hand towel at someones house I dry my hands on my clothes! I wouldn't dream of sharing towels even among family members. I also hate it if anyone uses a tea towel to dry their hands rather than the hand towel.

familyfun Tue 05-Feb-13 21:06:58

yes i put the tea towel at the back hook and the hand towel at the front so people automatically get the hand towel first in the kitchen.

IfYouCanMoveItItsNotBroken Tue 05-Feb-13 22:42:17

I must admit I did share towels until I had a urine infection last month. Desperate for a pee I barged into the bathroom whilst my partner showered. As I sat on the loo he finished his shower and asked me to hand him the towel. As I watched him scrub his underarm hair dry I thought "I really must stop sharing that towel." As I watched him scrunch it up and rumble about his danglies I thought "seriously, one towel each from now on". After then watching open mouthed while he rubbed vigourously the underside of his penis and what can only be described as digging between his legs to reach the back of his bollocks I could no longer contain myself and shouted "I dry my fucking face on that towel!" Apparently this is how men dry themselves. I confirmed with my brother, dad, step dad and brother in law. I now no longer leave any towels in the bathroom with the exception of a single hand towel. I would hate to think of an elderly great aunt drying her hands where bollocks had been violently scrubbed only hours before.

MrsKoala Tue 05-Feb-13 22:45:56

Ha! This is defo not the way dh dries himself. He drapes a towel over his shoulders and parades around naked, dripping water all over the house till dry.

mrsbunnylove Tue 05-Feb-13 22:53:48

put your bathtowels in a safe place.

hilarious grin

I've waited nearly 2 years for this subject to come up. Its a total utter mystery to me why people don't use the hand towel next to the sink, but actually turn round to look for a used bath towel. My DDs have actually said to their friends you need to use the handtowel, my Dad dries his bum on that bath towel, but then they are kids - what excuse do adults have?

If I have someone particularly thick laid back coming over, I remove all the towels and just leave the handtowel out.

I feel all odd now, I just HATE it when people do this. God I think I need a lie down shock

drjohnsonscat Wed 06-Feb-13 10:45:46

love this thread. Esp Ifyoucanmoveititsnotbroken's post. This is why I am not married grin

wanderingcloud Wed 06-Feb-13 11:02:28

IfYouCanMoveItItsNotBroken that is one of the funniest posts I've read!

Towel sharers here too... although I always have a clean one for myself and DH uses it after me :D

notso Wed 06-Feb-13 11:07:24

I cannot believe people care this much about towels!

OP you sound like a crazed Miss Marple tracing waterdrops to a towel, and do you mean that you have your own plate, cup and cutlery that no-one else can touch?
Get a cloakroom for goodness sake.

notso Wed 06-Feb-13 11:08:32

Or maybe an electric hand and body dryer.

IfYouCanMove - this is pretty much how I dry myself. Obviously, without the drying the penis bit. A good hard scrub and dry all over. I hate dripping water everywhere.

My OH walks around in his towels until he's dry, whereas I like to rub myself dry. That sounds so wrong.

IfYouCanMoveItItsNotBroken Wed 06-Feb-13 12:27:48

Don't get me wrong, I usually give myself a good dry, it's just not with the same violent fury my partner attacks his body! That level of aggression must lead to some degree of accidental insertion. And he puts on a blank face and says "but I'm clean". Doubt he would wager any money on his bumhole being spotless though. I couldn't shag him for a week after seeing that...

IloveJudgeJudy Wed 06-Feb-13 12:56:17

I agree with you, OP. We each have our own towels in this house. This started because of skin infections. I wouldn't dream of using anyone else's towel. Luckily, we have a downstairs loo so people don't need to go into our bathroom. I did ask DD if she would mind if people used her bath towel as a handtowel if they happened to use the DC's bathroom and she wouldn't like it. Luckily, in their bathroom the bath towels are on a drier above the radiator at the opposite end of the room from the handtowel which is on a handtowel ring right next to the sink.

I'm not houseproud by any means, but no one here shares towels and the handtowels/teatowels get changed every day.

digerd Wed 06-Feb-13 13:23:14

I first experienced this in Germany. Had visitors to stay < Dh's cousins >, and when they asked were the guest towels were and I said we didn't have any and to use ours, they were horrified and said they couldn't do that as ours had our germs on them. And looked at me as in a disparaging way.

On the other end of the scale, in UK, my sil, niece and her toddler visited, and Sil asked where an unused towel was to dry off the washed changed nappy bits. I showed her and then she ushered her dd with gd into my kitchen and washed her in my kitchen sink. When I said something, SIL retorted, it's fine, just needs disinfecting afterwards !! I was < angry face>

familyfun Wed 06-Feb-13 14:07:49

miss marple grin
i dont have my own plate or cup, im fine using a clean plate and will clean up after dp and dcs but if someone else has eaten and left their cutlery floating around the plate it turns my stomach to pick the cutlery off.
me and dp have 4 towels between us, all the same towel, we each have a clean towel on separate rails so kept separate until washed.
dds have separate towels.

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