to think pregnancy doesn't automatically make you fat?

(121 Posts)
CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 20:36:04

It doesn't make me fat. The baby comes out and I'm the same as I ever was, except with more stretch marks and looser tummy muscles.

I can't be the only one, yet it seems to be an accepted thing that you're going to have "baby weight" to lose after pregnancy.

AIBU to think that plenty of women just eat a normal amount while pregnant and don't have any weight to lose once the baby is born?

PickledInAPearTree Thu 31-Jan-13 20:37:37

Probably yes everyone is different. I certainly put on a dress size, whilst eating a normal amount.

Id say you were rather fortunate.

lyrasdaemo Thu 31-Jan-13 20:39:37

Didn't make me fat, am still size eight just carrying the weight on the boobs as ebf...

deleted203 Thu 31-Jan-13 20:40:00

I had the same experience as you with DCs in my 20s Cailin. Had baby (having put about 3 stone on) and was back in ordinary clothes (size 10/12) 3 weeks later. Had babies in my 30s....particularly late 30s and struggled to shift the last stone or so in weight. Could be I just stuffed my face more - or could be I was older and the weight didn't drop off so easily!

Pregnancy makes me eat even more chocolate, ergo makes me fat grin.

At least I have insight into my condition...

Going up a dress size is more to do with your shape remaining changed after delivery, rather than weight gain, I'd say, Pickled.

We all need a good excuse explanation for overindulging IMO.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 31-Jan-13 20:40:18

My appetite rages out of control when I am pregnant - if I don't eat every hour then I throw up yellow bile. I get fat because I eat more than I do when I am not pregnant, so I see what you mean.

I cannot change this though, there is no amount of willpower that will stop me eating lots of toast at this time. So I end up with weight to lose at the end of it.

snowmummy Thu 31-Jan-13 20:40:25

Lucky you. I have never been big, til pregnancy and then I had baby weight to lose. It took two years after each baby to properly shift it.

CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 20:40:35

Pickled, could that have been due to change in body shape rather than actual weight?

LST Thu 31-Jan-13 20:41:17

I weighed 9lb less a week after gave birth than when I was ttc...

FlouncingMintyy Thu 31-Jan-13 20:42:16

Obviously there are some exceptions but most women gain more than just the weight of baby + amniotic fluid + placenta. I think the guidelines are that up to 25lb is perfectly ok and healthy? So if you do gain that amount then yes you are going to have weight to lose afterwards.

MolotovCocktail Thu 31-Jan-13 20:42:34

Yes, you're lucky, as was I after DD1.

I was quite lucky after DD2, also, but rather than bouncing back into shape within 4 weeks, it took a few months an only now after 9 months and walking my arse off do I feel much more my pre-pg self.

I defo have wider hips. I'm no bigger anywhere else but need one size bigger on my bottom half I don't mind, though, I'd rather have my babies than a teeny body anyway smile

HumphreyCobbler Thu 31-Jan-13 20:43:07

I am deeply jealous of women who stay thin when pregnant. I really wish I did, it is a pain to put on so much weight and I feel a massive urge to shift it as soon as possible afterwards.

PickledInAPearTree Thu 31-Jan-13 20:43:39

Id say I naturally went back to my normal size within 9 months, I am pregnant again and I have not grown as much but I am not eating any differently.

I have changed shape a bit too but it hasn't made much difference to me. Just a bit looser on the tummy.

Its hard to say when you have the bump though. I thought I was pretty svelte last time until I saw some photos!

PickledInAPearTree Thu 31-Jan-13 20:44:33

My bum is bigger it keeps trying to escape from my trousers.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 31-Jan-13 20:44:47

OTOH I don't have a single stretch mark <looks on the bright side>

TheCountessOlenska Thu 31-Jan-13 20:45:39

First pregnancy - back in my normal size jeans straight away. Actually went down another size after that (think it was the breastfeeding).

I've put on more weight this pregnancy (less exercise, craving sugar) so I doubt the same will happen again but I agree - it's not automatic that you get fat.

smile4me Thu 31-Jan-13 20:45:44

I think your body naturally increases your fat stores in preparation for BF... kinda like making sure there's something to feed baby on after birth. So there's pretty much always a bit to lose, and definitely no abdo muscles! But you're right that it can be minimal

PickledInAPearTree Thu 31-Jan-13 20:46:38

I stayed in maternity clothes about 6 weeks, then down to one size more, then down to normal size. Pain in the arse as I had to buy clothes in the middle size.

I had all my DCs in my late 30s/early 40s and much as I found the pregnancies and deliveries easy enough, I don't think that my body 'bounced' back just as nicely as some of the younger mums I am friends with. Biology can be a bitch!
But no stretchmarks here either grin (other than the ones I got on my outer thighs during puberty hmm)

CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 20:47:31

Is wanting to eat more a pregnancy thing and I've just never had it? If anything pregnancy puts me off food and I have to make sure I eat enough. I just wonder if the idea of "baby weight" sends out the message that motherhood=losing your youth and figure when it doesn't necessarily mean that at all. It seems to me that the accepted idea that you'll be fat after pregnancy is just another way of making women anxious about something that should be a source of pride.

timidviper Thu 31-Jan-13 20:47:58

Pregnancy didn't make me fat but, oddly, I went up 3 stone in 3 months while breastfeeding with each child.

ENormaSnob Thu 31-Jan-13 20:48:19

Nah it's not pregnancy that makes me fat it's the inability to curb the enormous appetite it gives me grin

Grumpla Thu 31-Jan-13 20:49:09

If you have SPD and can't walk for the last five months you tend to get a bit porky, in my experience angry

Don't think I actually consumed any more calories - a few more slices of cake but a lot less wine! - but that kind of inactivity compared to usually walking everywhere meant I put on 2 stone in my second pregnancy.

CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 20:51:24

Grumpla - that's totally understandable - any lack of mobility is going to cause weight gain.

PickledInAPearTree Thu 31-Jan-13 20:51:28

I think its quite accepted now that you dont need to eat for two - I think its a good excuse sometimes to kick back a bit and that could be it.

The weight is not something that has ever bothered me, Ive seen endless people have babies and be all back to normal within a few months Ive never worried about it at all.

ENormaSnob Thu 31-Jan-13 20:51:38

No stretch marks here either and am 31weeks with dc4.

Likely to be an above 9lb baby too.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 31-Jan-13 20:51:48

I think it would be nicer if there was less emphasis on getting back to normal actually and a bit of fat was more acceptable. I see it from the opposite perspective to you I suppose, as I get fat and you don't.

Wanting to eat more is def a pg thing for me. It is a marked difference to my normal life and an uncontrollable urge. Imagine how you feel when you are really really hungry, say you have not eaten all day - that is what I feel like a lot of the time when pregnant. Factor in the being sick if your stomach doesn't get filled up quickly and you have a pregnancy like mine

<sigh>

Mydelilah Thu 31-Jan-13 20:53:02

I think everyone is different. I had 2 pregnancies and put on 27 kilos each time (huge weight gain!) first pg I ate everything (especially Krispy Kreme donuts) second pg I was super careful and healthy, and went a bit hungry a few times when I knew I'd had enough calories. Different eating habits/volumes but same weight gain - it was really annoying! I did find it much easier/quicker to lose weight second time though

sheeplikessleep Thu 31-Jan-13 20:53:25

I'm 9 weeks at the moment.
If I don't eat every hour or two, I feel so nauseous. Morning through to night.
TBH, I could balloon to the size of a house at the moment, if it stopped me feeling like this, I do not care.
I know I'll lose it within a year or so after having this baby.
Unfortunately, I'll also lose my glorious boobs that I am currently sporting wink and my body will be more saggy and I'll probably struggle to lose the tummy fat, like I did after the last two pregnancies.
However, at the moment, my priority is on stopping myself wretching.
I dread to think how many calories I am eating each day.

sheeplikessleep Thu 31-Jan-13 20:54:33

Sorry - bit of a self indulgent rant!

I didn't gain any weight, still a skinnymin. Just got a little wobbly tummy. People can't believe I've just had a baby, but I didn't eat any more than usual when pregnant, in fact I probably ate less due to sickness, lack of space in stomach

TheSecondComing Thu 31-Jan-13 20:56:08

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PickledInAPearTree Thu 31-Jan-13 20:58:08

I agree its the speed that is the thing, if you do have a bit extra it will come off naturally after a few months but I suppose the celebrity culture now is to see them very thin after only a few weeks.

If there is ever a time to cut yourself a bit of slack its having a newborn, which can be trying enough without anyone feeling rubbish or like they should have lost weight by now.

wanderingcloud Thu 31-Jan-13 20:58:15

I was 3kg lighter after birth than I was at the start of my pregnancy. Then dropped even more when bfing. I think it was a combination of feeling sick throughout pregnancy and not drinking alcohol.

Put it all bar 1kg back on though when I stopped bfing and could drink wine again!

I'm hoping when the next one arrives I'll get off and keep it off.

I accept I'm in a minority though, most of my friends put on weight and had to work hard to lose it.

themagus Thu 31-Jan-13 20:58:17

I've never heard of such an accepted idea that it is ok to be fat in pregnancy. I have always exclusively bfed until weaning and found my body clung on to the extra 10lb or so I have while I was feeding. I feel fat but only compared to what I usually am. it gets harder to lose with subsequent pregnancies I would say. my baby is 3 months and I still have the extra weight.

BF uses a lot of energy, so it's just normal that your body will stock some fat to be burnt feeding the baby.

If the mum ends up not BF then she may probably keep the baby weight. Since the UK had at least a whole generation who did not BF, there's your answer.

Humphrey, I agree v strongly with you.
This 'going back to normal' lark is all a bit celebrity driven; size 2 women who have access to personal trainers, nutritionists, even plastic surgery, who go on daft extreme diets withing weeks of having delivered and are then put on some front page - makes me really cross!

I never had any MS, just developed an aversion to pork hmm, and would not have said that I had particularly more of an appetite, but was quite please to have an excuse to not restrain myself too much grin.

The 'Eating for two' nonsense is just that - nonsense! I am glad that is not really spouted anymore other than in jest IME.

Wrt to BFing: I lost weight easily and without really trying only after I stopped BFing with all 4 of mine. I've heard other women saying that as well. I am not sure how that works, but there you go...

AdoraBell Thu 31-Jan-13 21:01:57

It didn't make me fat, despite the IL's efforts to make me eat for 3. In fact my twins decided to starve me for 4 months and so I weighed less at my 6 week post natal check than before I became pregnant.

Everyone's different though.

I pre-pregnancy weight within a week of giving birth (healthy weight beforehand). But I had awful morning sickness to week 18 and gestational diabetes from week 27 onwards which I controlled with a very strict diet. I did eat tons more but I exercised up to 2 days before induction and cut out all refined sugar/ high glycemic foods. Can't stop eating chocolate now though and am afraid to weigh myself 6 weeks later!

RugBugs Thu 31-Jan-13 21:04:11

I lost a fair bit of weight whilst pregnant with DD, didn't buy a single piece of maternity wear just wore my larger sized clothes.
I did put most of it back on in the six months after delivering though (not in the same places though).

Pg again and I think I've realised how I lost weight. I have zero appetite and have to force myself to eat.

MoodyDidIt Thu 31-Jan-13 21:04:46

yanbu

if you take pregnancy as a licence to eat whatever the fook you want like i did with dc1 then you WILL put on shitloads. i put on 3 stone, which really was not good as i am 5 foot 2 blush

with dc2 i was a lot more careful with food and put on 17 lbs smile it was hard but worth it when dd was born and within days i was back to my initial weight. don't hate me though as still got stretchmarks and jelly belly!

BridgetBidet Thu 31-Jan-13 21:05:37

Hmmm, the subtext to the OP seems to be 'I don't get fat when pregnant and I eat normally therefore pregnant women who get fat must be being greedy'.

Which is not the case at all, I ate normally but put on 2 stone. My physical activity was enormously decreased because I had SPD and was huge, I could bearly walk let alone exercise.

lyrasdaemo Thu 31-Jan-13 21:07:32

I got a tiny bit of weird fat on my shoulders and knees of all places!
:-o
hoping it will go when I get back into my physical work...
Had only DD at 38 and could still climb over our field gates at 39 weeks

I'm not fat but my stomach has never recovered. Wobbly. I did have twins (3 dc in total) so I blame them. No stretch marks though.

TarkaTheOtter Thu 31-Jan-13 21:11:26

willyou

I was exactly the same - really sick and then, just as that was improving diagnosed with gd. I really struggled to keep my sugars under control even with metformin and couldn't eat even supposedly healthy things like natural yogurt. Next time I'll ask for insulin rather than struggle on the last few weeks.

I also lost weight breastfeeding, but only when bfing exclusively. I ate so much cake and didn't gain a pound - unfortunately I continued this once dd was on solids and am now the heaviest I have ever been. Need to start exercising as, although still "healthy" bmi because I am tall, the heavier I am the higher my type 2 risk and I am genetically predisposed.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 31-Jan-13 21:11:34

I think maybe the OP didn't mean to be so punitive BridgetBidet but I agree, it is making me feel a bit judged.

Like women who didn't get morning sickness and therefore assume that everyone else is just being a moaner or making it up.

CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 21:12:32

Bridget I don't mean that at all. Obviously if you have mobility issues (as I said earlier) or the need to eat due to sickness you're going to put on weight, that's just physiology. What I mean is that there seems to be an accepted idea of "baby weight" which is inevitable regardless of how your pregnancy is and that it's not always the case for all women.

I've always been between 8.5 and 9st but with both my pregnancies I put on 1.5 -2 st. It wasn't because I over ate, it was probably that I wasn't as active as I normally am.

The last 0.5 st was a bugger to shift, but I never had any stretch marks and don't have a wobbly tum smile

Zara1984 Thu 31-Jan-13 21:16:42

Sigh, OP. Is it not beyond the wit of man (or woman) to understand that everyone's body handles pregnancy differently.

I ate very healthily, but quite a lot during pregnancy. If I didn't, I got awful nausea and bone-crushing exhaustion from 6 weeks all the way through to delivery. I certainly tried to limit what I ate but I also had to manage best I can so I could, you know, go to work and function like a human being. My appetite simply disappeared when DS was born. DS is 14 weeks old and I am halfway back to my pre -pregnancy weight. So I'm eating less (I'm not bf) and doing a good amount of exercise each day. I am on track to be back to my pre-preg weight by 6 months, but I have more I'd like to lose so I've got Christmas as my weightloss target.

Don't be so judgemental, just be grateful you did not put on a lot of weight during pregnancy.

Theicingontop Thu 31-Jan-13 21:18:06

I was the exact same weight post-partum as I was before I got pregnant. Albeit, overweight, but the same weight nonetheless. It was all baby.

Mind you, I wouldn't recommend my pregnancy to anyone. Working stressful 10-hour nights with nasty SPD does a lot to curb your appetite.

Pixieonthemoor Thu 31-Jan-13 21:18:16

YANBU it really irks me when people criticise mums who are skinny post partum, making it seem like they are vain and putting their bodies before caring for their babies! Weight just fell off me during both pregnancy (I am guessing genetics as the same thing happened to my mum, no alcohol and a much healthier diet) and breast feeding. Honestly I was skinnier just after having a baby than I had been in years!

TheSecondComing Thu 31-Jan-13 21:19:46

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Overreactionoftheweek Thu 31-Jan-13 21:19:53

Piss off all you Smuggy McSmuggersons with your skinny asses and no stretch mark's angry envy

I still have 3 stone to lose and ds is 15months - my body is also ruined by stretch mark's, they're a genetic thing by the way, my mum and sister are equally unlucky.

The weight is down to my gluttony and laziness but obviously pregnancy didn't help

CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 21:23:04

Wow Zara, I wasn't judging you at all. Sorry you felt that way.

HortensiaPollard Thu 31-Jan-13 21:26:04

I was thinner after all 3 pregnancies than I was before getting pregnant. Basically because I got diabetes and my body started to eat itself. Not nice.

havingastress Thu 31-Jan-13 21:31:45

I"ve still got a stone to lose 12 weeks after giving birth...this I was ready for...

an expanded rib cage I was not!!!

Seriously, I have no fat around my ribs/breast area, yet I no longer fit in my lovely size 10 dresses. I am bigger around that area than I was pre-pregnancy.

Now I'm pretty sure you can't eat your way to a bigger rib cage grin

pixwix Thu 31-Jan-13 21:50:47

I'm 5ft 3.5, and when I became pregnant with ds1 at 28 (am now 43) I was 7 stone 10. I had hyperemesis first trimester, so lost weight, but then made up for it! I didn't overeat - just ate when wanted to, and what I fancied, but not for the sake of it - my body hung onto every single calorie it could, given the hyperemesis, - I also swam 3 times a week, (after hyperemesis) and did all my usual stuff. I ended up at 11 stone pre-birth - it was a bit unnerving first time round - I did wonder if I would ever feel normal again...

I had ds1 who was 6lb 11oz, I pissed like a horse for a few days, and came out of hospital at 9 stone 7lb. I was breastfeeding for about 3 months, so my weight dropped gradually, then when I stopped BF due to mastitis, my body didn't need the extra fat supplies, and I was back down to 7 stone 10 by about 9 months. I was doing some swimming though - just to make me feel more 'me'. I did get a couple of wee stretch marks, with ds1, which ironically, if he'd been born on his due date I wouldn't have had... But tbh - I don't give a shit!

With Ds2 - (aged 34) again I was 7 stone 10 - hyperemesis again - but not as bad - ended up 11 stone (again) - gave birth, couldn't breastfeed due to septicaemia and mild renal failure, and ended up at 7 stone 10 about 9 months after birth. he was 7lb 8oz, and that time round, I had severe PND and ended up in a mother and baby unit...

Am now 43 and around 7 stone 12, (I only know this cos I had to weigh myself for donating blood today) so my weight hasn't changed too much - my body has of course, wider waist, boobs heading slightly south, and a few stretch marks that weren't there before.

We all have different metabolisms - I put loads on in pregnancy, cos I was very slightly underweight - then lost it again over several months . Some people are different - some gain loads, others less so, some lose it quicker than others. Everybody is different. We all have different attitudes to food and eating, and that's why it's so complex.

I do remember when I was pregnant reading in an obs and gynae text book once though (probably an elderly text book) written by a male obstetrician that you shouldn't gain more than 9kg, which admittedly didn't sound a lot, but when I worked it out, it is ..erm 19.8 pounds which is erm.. 1 stone 6lb.

- I remember turning to ex-dh (who is a doctor) and saying "WTF! I'm already a stone over that!" and ex-dh saying "Well - Fuck it - you look fine to me!"

I think I get what you are addressing, Cailin: it is not inevitable for everyone to gain excessive amounts of weight in pregnancy. Fairenuff.

I know one woman who decided not to have children because of a fear what pregnancy etc would do to her (admittedly rather gorgeous) figure. She was not a happy person with lots of other problems incl. an eating disorder.

So, I would not disagree that solely concentrating on the wide variety of possible physical changes that may come in pregnancy is on balance a Bad Thing.

Is that it?

CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 22:00:45

Pretty much Pacific. It seems almost to be a self-fulfilling prophecy in a way. People seem quite surprised at how slim I am (in spite of large bump) as though it's really odd I haven't put on weight. Of course there are various reasons why pregnant women put on weight but the idea that it's always going to happen doesn't make sense to me.

Cailin - please can you stop stealth boasting about how slim you are, it's putting me off my coconut Kitcat wink

CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 22:07:18

Ooh is it nice? I'm a bit iffy about coconut.

Tis yum grin

I was fat anyway but if it helps DS was 13lb at birth, his placenta weighted 6.2 lb on it's own. thats 21.2 lb not including water of which there was a lot.

I was 5lb lighter than when I conceived once he was out! BUT I'm still fat.

lol I clearly cant do maths after a glass of wine! 19.2lb

noblegiraffe Thu 31-Jan-13 22:15:57

During the first trimester I was starving all the time. Nothing to do with morning sickness, just sheer hunger. I remember my colleagues being amused as I ate my way through my large packed lunch by 9:30am and having to go to the shops for more food.

In the last trimester I barely ate anything due to there being no room in my stomach and not being hungry at all.

So my eating in pregnancy wasn't influenced at all by any messages about eating for two etc, or being greedy and having licence to eat cake, simply by how I felt and what my body was telling me it needed to keep going.

Feeling more hungry during pregnancy seems fairly typical among my friends, so it is no wonder that weight is put on. You would appear to be the exception rather than the rule, in my experience, in eating normal amounts throughout.

PiratePetesPotty Thu 31-Jan-13 22:17:39

I think pregnancy affects people differently. At my booking appointment for my first pregnancy I weight 46kg, I had hyperemisis until 20 weeks, no appetite and after I stopped puking kept up my normal amount of exercise. Full term I weighed 62kg and 56kg after giving birth (I still wasn't overweight though).
At my booking appointment for my second pregnancy I weighed 56kg (never lost the weight), during that one my appetite was massive, I'd feel tearful if I got too hungry, had spd so could barely walk. I was weighed in labour on arrival at the hospital. 62kg full term so only a 6kg gain. I'm breastfeeding and 10 months post DS2 am 49kg.
My point is that I weighed the exact same at the end of two very different pregnancies in terms of mobility and eating, I believe that my body just became very efficient during my first pregnancy and didn't need to be as efficient during my second. I don't think there's much I could have done to prevent the weight gain in my first pregnancy.

NumericalMum Thu 31-Jan-13 22:19:51

I was 5kg lighter at 12 weeks and 10kg heavier than I started at 42 weeks when DC made her appearance. I was wearing a size bigger normal clothes from the next day and after bf for 9 months I was again 5kg lighter than when I started. Sadly I was 10kg heavier after about 3 months back at work with no exercise, being able to drink wine and eat cake again. Took bl00dy ages to lose that... and i have put some of it back again and can't blame anybody other than me...

FlorriesDragons Thu 31-Jan-13 22:28:24

When I was pregnant other women used to kind of arch their eyebrows at me and said things like "Oh, you won't be wearing those dresses anymore once the baby is here". grin

I've had two dc which seems to surprise people. I am a toned size 8 with a decent chest but I do have stretch marks on my stomach so I'm not not boasting grin.

Some of my friends have quite obviously had children and have the scars and telltale weight gain to prove it, others still have their figures despite multiple children. Every body handles it differently, it's definitely not a given that you will get fat just because you have a baby.

catladycourtney1 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:30:34

Thinking about it, I don't think I know anyone who got hugely fat during pregnancy. Or even noticeably fatter, other than the tits and bump. After the birth, however... I've known people pretty much double in size between their first pictures with their babies and the next time I saw them.

I am a beached whale quite overweight, but at almost 36 weeks pregnant I've only put on about 12 lbs. I'm also having a big baby and quite a bit of swelling. My tits have actually shrunk, but my arse has got bigger so I've no idea how much fatter I am now than before. Also as havingastress said, my rib cage has expanded! I have very little fat in that area, you can see my ribs if I lift my arms up, yet I've had to go up a back size in bras and I can see that it's bigger.

catladycourtney1 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:33:14

However I have developed the worst stretchmarks I've ever seen. I think its more to do with genetics than how much weight you gain. People have had twins and triplets and not had a mark on them to show for it.

MrsCF Thu 31-Jan-13 22:34:20

I weighed less after having my children than pre pregnancy. Pregnancy just didnt agree with me, generally I love my food but when pregnant I could not eat. Unfortunately I am back to pre pregnancy weight 3 years later.

oohlaalaa Thu 31-Jan-13 22:35:06

My SIL lost weight with pregnancy.

She had really bad sickness, and lost over a stone at the start, and any weight gain she had, was just the tummy. Her legs and arms, became really skinny. She was working till 38 weeks, so don't think had time to eat lots. Then afterwards she was breastfeeding, and more weight came off.

She went from a size 16 to a size 14.

WaynettaSlobsLover Thu 31-Jan-13 22:36:31

I'm always hungry during pregnancy, but usually for healthy stuff. This times it's raw fruit and veg. I'm size 10-12 but def have baby weight after two babies and now my thirds on the way I'm expecting to have to work harder to get rid of it. Lost it quite easily both times but always retained a fat stomach, not even loose, just fat, despite walking loads most days with heavy double buggy. It shows horribly on me as I'm five foot one and an hourglass figure so I basically can't wear nice fitted tops due to the roll of fat round my waist. sad pregnancy doesn't make you fat exactly but different bodies with different pregnancies do different things.

Abigail9580 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:41:34

Stretch marks are def genetic related, I've got a friend that was a little over weight before her pregnancy, then because she gave up alcohol, ended up being the same weight at the end of preg as the beginning. She had a lovely tiny, neat bump. But my goodness she got stretch marks. And she tried every cream/ oil under the sun.

On the OP, I think some people just like an excuse to eat more when they are pregnant. That whole " eating for 2" thing, and don't realise 2 bags of crisps instead of one isn't going to be burnt off by growing a baby!!

Shellywelly1973 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:44:37

Im expecting dc 6. I'm a size 8. I've had babies in my teens, twenties,thirties!

I've always returned to my normal size&weight within a couple of weeks of giving birth. With dc2 put on nearly 3 stone!

I've got tons of stretch marks but no one apart from dp sees them so i don't worry about them!

I always secretly worry i won't go back to my normal size but so far so good...mind you, Im so hungry with this pregnancy, i might take a few extra weeks before i get back to my normal size.

Lueji Thu 31-Jan-13 22:47:34

Yanbu. smile

I am very slim and hardly gained weight. It all went to boobs, I think, and a bit on the stomach (never been the same).

I put on very little weight when pregnant. I was a little overweight but not enough for anybody to mention or tell me to watch my weight or anything so I don't think that was an issue.

Despite eating normally and not cutting back, I only put on 16lbs and 18lbs during my 2 pregnancies (I was 34 and 37 and not a spring chicken). Back to pre-pregnancy weight 2 weeks after giving birth with DS1 and then 5 days with DS2. Sadly it was the giving up BF that made me pile on the weight or maybe it was lack of sleep and the havoc that causes to your hormones. Certainly for me pregnancy had no effect at all so I agree with the OP - baby weight isn't a foregone conclusion although I understand why some people end up putting on weight. I think to an extent I am lucky.

That said, I couldn't wear normal clothes when I got back to pre-pregnancy weights - my shape took longer to go back to normal. It took about a month although with no effort from me!

MerryCouthyMows Thu 31-Jan-13 22:54:09

Pregnancy doesn't make me fat, it's bf that does. I weighed less at 9 months pg with all my DC's than I did after 6 months of bf!

I didn't eat much more than an extra slice or two of toast a day, and yet I was still a stone heavier each time when I had been bf a while than I was at full term.

Locketjuice Fri 01-Feb-13 08:40:48

5 days after having ds1 the midwife came in to poke my belly.. Literally. she said the main benefit she has realised over the years with having a baby young is your body copes alot better after and on a general springs back alot quicker/easier so maybe its to do with that I thought I was going to be a beached whale after but went back to an 6/8 and my belly went down as I was popping him out! But I did get stretch marks over my hips/bum so not all so lovely hmm

Locketjuice Fri 01-Feb-13 08:45:28

And for the people saying they haven't known anyone getting way bigger during /after pregnancy
A friend was a 8/10 got pregnant by 20 weeks she looked ready to explode went full term so can imagine the bump
Babies 7 months now and she is a size 18/20 and says she can't shift it at all, but then I do see on her Facebook pictures of chocolate bars and milkshakes with oooops underneath so maybe that's why!

Tailtwister Fri 01-Feb-13 08:53:12

It's a combination of your natural body shape/metabolism, how careful you are during pregnancy (food wise) and how your body responds to bf. I didn't put on much during pregnancy but as soon as I started bf I was starving. I also wasn't one of the lucky ones who found bf made the weight fall off and haven't stopped bf since having DS1 (5 years ago). DS2 is 3 in June and I'm looking forward to stopping sometime around then and hoping it's easier to lose some more weight then.

I agree, I don't think it's necessarily a given that everyone will have loads of weight to lose post-birth. Lots do though for various reasons, so I would be pleased you're one of the lucky ones!

FlorriesDragons Fri 01-Feb-13 09:02:27

I keep an extra half stone or so on while breastfeeding that I have lost afterwards both times. Breastfeeding does not make you lose weight, possibly unless you are overweight to start with, it's all lies. grin

SeeYouSoon Fri 01-Feb-13 09:27:41

I didn't put on extra weight during pregnancy, I put it on after becasue I didn't do as much excercise as I did before pregnancy, or even during it! Also I definitely changed shape, my waist was about the same size as before, but my hips and boobs are bigger now.

Yfronts Fri 01-Feb-13 09:29:11

I was like that with my first but my with last baby it was totally different. Took a year to get rid of the weight slowly.

cory Fri 01-Feb-13 09:30:32

I ate normally, but had to have bedrest in both pregnancies and was quite immobilised after dd's birth with bad tearing and a failing to thrive baby- spent all my time breastfeeding but got very little into dd.

Yfronts Fri 01-Feb-13 09:31:38

Yes I put on a bit of weight (22lbs) because I wasn't as active. Normally I would have been running/gyming but I couldn't sadly.

DeWe Fri 01-Feb-13 09:33:45

Doesn't make me fat either.

But that's because my first sign of pg is lo lose my appetite, second sign is I start being sick. Third sign is I get a blue line...

So I've come out of the hospital after labour lighter than before pg every time.

Darksideofthe80s Fri 01-Feb-13 09:38:04

I am one of those weird people who loose weight during pregnancy, never sick, just randomly loose weight, cue lots of growth scans etc because bump never measures anywhere near how many weeks I am.
A couple of hours after giving birth to DD2, I faced stiff interrogation by one of the midwives as to what I was doing on the early release ward, I was fully dressed, boots on etc and she didn't believe I had just given birth. confused

TheProvincialLady Fri 01-Feb-13 09:40:22

Pregnancy makes me ravenously hungry and if I don't eat eat eat I feel orrendously sick all the time. With DS2 I also had SPD and back problems. I put on a lot of weight both times but lost it all quickly afterwards and went back to my normal weight, which is borderline underweight. So what's the problem? I think my body really needed the extra fat to carry my babies healthily and prepare for breast feeding. I don't see that as something to be ashamed of.

For me it wasn't so much the actual pregnancy, more the first few months of having a baby and not having time to eat properly so grabbing convenience food, spending more time awake and feeling exhausted so having sugary snacks to keep going, comfort eating when suffering PND, that sort of thing.

WorraLiberty Fri 01-Feb-13 09:44:19

YANBU OP, I think some people see it as a given that they'll have baby weight to lose when it's not always the case at all.

I didn't gain any extra weight during my 3 pregnancies, just a bit of a baggy belly for a few weeks after. It was probably the only time I made a conscious effort to eat very healthily though.

feelingdizzy Fri 01-Feb-13 09:53:00

It did make me fat ,and I stayed fat for a long time afterwards,am still fatter than I was.Had my kids in my twenties so wasn't my age.I
mostly because I ate too much,then got pregnant again quickly,got divorced comfort ate.
Lost 3 stone could do with losing another 2 but don't really care,it all works.I really dont mind about my weight,I lost the weight because it was un-healthy.I don't give it much thought to be honest.

LeBFG Fri 01-Feb-13 10:16:35

I'm a bit torn between the two extremes. I've seen women in my family put on loads of weight during pregnancy (there are weight issues in my family!) with my mum filling everyone with extra trifle for the baby. Then yo-yo dieting etc after (but only one sister bf). THey would say it was inevitable to put on weight and I heartily disgree.

On the other hand, I'm sick of hearing about competitive weight loss stories on the pregnancy board, along the lines of, it's perfectly OK to not put on weight during pg, I did and DD weighed a healthy 5lb2 (!). Plus the media frenzy about losing weight the moment you drop your sprog (and don't get me started on jogging when pg). It's so depressing to read about frankly and I do not think this is a healthy attitude to pregnancy. Surely baby's health is of paramount importance?

Sometimes, we have to accept our bodies do strange things our intellect diagrees with. Just saying we only need 500 extra calories a day etc doesn't help - are babies need calories on days they need them - I find there are days I really need a couple of proper meals and on others I'm OK with light lunches and suppers. I'm in France too where they weigh you every month (a real bummer) and hand out diet plans to all pg women (salad + one bread roll for lunch, 1 yoghurt for a snack, steamed fish and rice for supper, shit like that i.e. less calories than I would eat non-pg, and I'm small).

All I would ever say is eat to your appetite. If you are hungry eat. Try not to substitute chocolate for real food. If you're not hungry, don't stuff in the extra potato you don't need. Simples.

DrMcDreamysWife Fri 01-Feb-13 10:21:35

I was actually thinner post birth than before pregnant. But that's because I was so sick and lost 2 stone in the first 4 months. My dh jokes its the best diet ever especially as my boobs are twice the size and my bum is teeny! My antenatal class is very jealous but to be honest the 4 months spent on my bathroom floor and the following five with heartburn after every meal wasn't fun!

GreyGardens Fri 01-Feb-13 10:29:28

It made me fat because I ate like a bastard. grin It's true it doesn't have to make you fat, but it's perfectly easy to get there!
I put on about 3 stone, less than 7lb of which was baby!
Breastfeeding also kept me plump, it was only when I stopped doing that that I shed the pounds.

Dryjuice25 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:44:36

I lose weight during pg due to extreme morning sickness where I even have to be hospitalised. This happens throughout the pg and I lose so much weight. After birth I usually about just a few pounds heavier(with third)
and went back to my pre pg weight with 1st and 2nd. But I wouldn't wish the sickness on my worst enermy!

TwoCatsAndABabyBump Fri 01-Feb-13 10:45:14

I lost a stone in the first 3 months. Am now nearing the end and have only gained approx 2.5 pounds. My baby weighs at least 5.5lbs now so I have continued to loose weight during pregnancy it seems without even trying to.

I was still am a tubbington but I'm hoping that when I give birth I will still weigh at least a stone lighter than before I got pregnant, and that will be the lightest I will have been for years. I am also keeping my fingers crossed for breast feeding to shift a pound or two after as well. grin.

For me at the beginning I felt constantly sick. Never was sick but couldn't face the thought of eating. Now I can't finish a normal plateful of tea but I'm ravenous half an hour later which has led to some not so healthy choices.

I'm happy though, I know my babies happy and I find it quite amusing that I'm a stone lighter than i was but can't fit in my pre pregnancy jeans to save my life!

willyoulistentome Fri 01-Feb-13 10:50:55

I did out on a fair amount of weight - especially the second time. As someone further up said, if I didn;t keep eating, I was being sick..

However the main thing was the change in lifestyle. Before being PG I was very active with riding and looking after my horse. Rode every day, mucked out, lugged haynets, bales of shavings, feed sacks etc. Walking to and from field.

After wards, I just sat on my bum bf for weeks. Sure I put on a hell of a lot of weight!!

naughtycloud1 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:54:36

i only put a stone on in baby weight weight was 11stone put by the end was 12stone which was pretty good. wish id have stoped picking after not a size 14 any moresad

BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte Fri 01-Feb-13 10:55:47

I didn't show at all when pregnant with DC1. The week before she was born I was both refused entry to a 'bumps n babies' coffee morning and asked (at aged 32) by a librarian if I were a university fresher.

So yes, pregnancies come, like babies and like women, in all shapes and sizes. And - barring obvious extremes and malnutrition and irresponsible overeating - neither bigger nor smaller neecssarily means healthier.

bangersmashandbeans Fri 01-Feb-13 11:05:36

Haven't read all the replies but feel the need to simply say that OP you sound like a smug judgemental cow with your head up your tiny pert bottom. That is all.

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 13:22:10

Thanks bangers! <eyes up flabby bum cheeks and enjoys misplaced compliment> smile

SeeYouSoon Fri 01-Feb-13 13:22:56

"(and don't get me started on jogging when pg). " there is nothing wrong with excercising during pregancy as long as you don't start anything new and listen to your body, being sensible. I carried on my sport till 26 weeks last time, and was at the gym till much later than that and swimming till the week before he was born - I did 100 lengths at 41+5.

I just scaled down the intensity, and was sensible.

LeBFG Fri 01-Feb-13 14:20:05

I said don't get me started...I continued my normal activities and took care to rest between activities whilst pg first time. I'd seen some wonderful examples of healthy women doing all sorts of fun stuff at full term. I gave birth at 33 weeks and I'll never know what caused it. But I now have a completely different take on exercise and physical activity when pg. All those physical changes in out bodies are signs that we were never designed to be out running and raising our blood pressure - relaxin hormones make for unstable ankles, BHs increase, we're out of breath very quickly, we're hotter than non-pg women, resting metabolism and bp is higher, lower iron levels etc. When they measure the fetus, bp is raised after exercise, babies are born smaller (so exclaim the joggers with glee!??). I know plenty of women do this sort of thing and that's fine - it's their bodies and their mental make-up. But I do get upset by the (possibly unwitting) example it sets for all women to be more active during pg. Like we're all lazy cows who can't wait to have an excuse to fill our faces and sit on our arses for 9 months! <deep breath>.

maddening Fri 01-Feb-13 15:27:33

I'm the opposite - I think the hormones do it to me - I put 2 stone on the first trimester - without changing my eating /exercise habits - both pg (1st pg ended in mc). I think it is horminally driven for me as I put 3 stone on in a year when I went on the pill - again with no change in eating or excercise. I do have pcos so this is possibly why the hormones have such an impact to me.

I was unlucky to get spd which meant I was doing less exercise during the last trimester.

Overall ended up 4 stone heavier.

I think it depends on your body.

Some do eat more etc but I don't think you can assume that thw baby weight is pure indulgence and laziness.

maddening Fri 01-Feb-13 15:31:28

Ps a woman I used to know was stick thin - she told me she struggled to lose weight before having children but when she got pg she just shed the weight with no change to eating habits and afterwards found it hard to put on weight

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 15:34:15

Just to point out - at no point did I say women put on weight due to laziness or indulgence, and at no point did I say or imply that putting on weight was anything to be ashamed of.

bangersmashandbeans Fri 01-Feb-13 15:45:43

You absolutely did imply that I'm afraid.

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 15:51:56

Ok bangers in that case I should say it wasn't my intention to imply that. I'm not going to apologise for it though because I don't think that for a second - the idea that anyone should be ashamed of what they weigh is beyond bonkers to me.

gordyslovesheep Fri 01-Feb-13 15:58:02

no in my case is was definitely crisps and Jubblies that added a full 2+ stone to my silly little frame

badguider Fri 01-Feb-13 16:12:18

re. jogging in pregnancy - I'm currently reading a book about just that topic with many many studies referenced finding that exercising in pregnancy lowers blood pressure, is a way of avoiding and managing gestational diabetes, and a 2002 study in journal 'epidemiology' showed exercise during a healthy pregnancy can actually decrease the risk of pre-term birth.

obviously sense is called for, and listening to your body, but for those who run before pregnancy, continuing to run/jog at a reduced intensity is actually more healthy than stopping entirely.

bangersmashandbeans Fri 01-Feb-13 16:12:28

Cailin if its that inconsequential to you why start a thread about it??!!

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 16:14:30

Because I wanted to bangers. The thread isn't about women being ashamed of weight gain, it's about the fact that not all women put on weight, which is a separate thing.

SeeYouSoon Fri 01-Feb-13 16:15:56

But those are the reasons why you have to be sensible about it, and listen to your body not to stop completely - I exercised thoughout my pregnancy, never got a single BH and had an 8lb7 oz baby at 42 weeks.

Creamtea1 Fri 01-Feb-13 16:20:49

I was a size 8 before I got pregnant, I put on half a stone in the pregnancy all of which I deposited in the delivery room, and then imagine my delight when 1 hour after the birth I slid effortlessly into some brand new size 6 topshop super skinny jeans. And not a stretch mark to be seen. and I put a crop top on to take the baby home for good measure.

hmm

maddening Fri 01-Feb-13 16:24:26

AIBU to think that plenty of women just eat a normal amount while pregnant and don't have any weight to lose once the baby is born?

Yanbu - equally some eat normally and put weight on.

Some eat less and gain

Some eat less and don't gain

Some eat less and lose weight
Some eat loads and lose weight

Some eat loads and don't gain

Some eat loads and put on weight.

Does that cover it?

RooneyMara Fri 01-Feb-13 16:28:28

Only read the OP, yanbu, of course plenty of women don't put on shedloads of weight.

I put on very little with ds1, straight back to normal clothes etc. I was 29. Ds2 I put on more, lost it quickly.

Ds3 I put on a lot in the first tri as I was feeling like shit, but I had good meds this time so I could actually eat and did so overly to stop the nausea.

I put on about 2 1/2 stone all in, and had such awful SPD that I could hardly move round the house let alone exercise, I frequently cried with the pain even sitting down for most of the day.

I'm 39 now. I don't know if it's that what made the difference but anyway it was really hellish and nasty, and I hated it. I literally couldn't move around.

So it depends. I felt I'd very little control over my weight and had better things to worry about frankly.

Ds3 is 4 weeks old, I'm a stone down, I've startedwalking as I CAN walk again now - also I didn't have a car the first two times so I'm sure that contributed.

I'd hate to stay 'fat' after having babies, but really, people are lucky or they aren't. Who is anyone else to judge.

RooneyMara Fri 01-Feb-13 16:32:20

and fwiw I'm 5ft7, weighed 8 1/2 stone before this last pregnancy...I'm not someone who is used to being overweight. Pregnancy can be a really big deal in terms of your fitness, health and activity levels - it's a massive issue for some women.

I was riding a motorcycle till 7 months with ds1. This time I could hardly get out of bed at that point.

LeBFG Fri 01-Feb-13 16:33:54

Lots of women exercise during pg. Activity is good - no doubt about it (though diet is the single most effective way of controlling GD). However, I particularly made reference to joggers i.e. high impact activities. Even here, most women and babies do well - I'm not stupid enough to think jogging = preterm birth hmm.

I don't think OP was implying anything particularly negative. I think she was trying to promote a debate. It is true that some people think pg = chance to get fat, see it as inevitable and blame their extra kilos on their pgs. It is a fustrating assumption some people make. I was pointing out the opposite end of the spectrum (keep thin and fit during pg) is also fustrating (and possibly more damaging?).

Pregnancy made me fatter - not fat. Just bigger than I was before. BF didn't help either, was constantly hungry and must of eaten about 8 million calories a day while BF.

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