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she is being precious isnt she?

(47 Posts)
spideyman Tue 29-Jan-13 20:34:57

Would you take a 1 year old out at 7.30pm to collect another child from a club?
I think its ok so long as they are wrapped up properly, hat, gloves, coat etc.

My friend thinks it will make her dc sick.

And if this was her opinion then she shouldnt have enrolled her older child in the club.

BertieBotts Germany Tue 29-Jan-13 20:37:10

Yes she's being ridiculous!

DuchessFanny Tue 29-Jan-13 20:38:16

er yeah ! precious !!

LadyWidmerpool Tue 29-Jan-13 20:39:03

It would be a pain because it would presumably disrupt bedtime but I can't see how it could make a baby ill!

littlewhitebag Tue 29-Jan-13 20:39:19

Of course it won't make her child sick. I bet she wouldn't think twice about it on a nice summer day. Being dark doesn't make the weather worse than being daylight.

MamaBear17 Tue 29-Jan-13 20:39:27

I think that she is being precious yes. My dd (18mo) is usually in bed by 7pm so personally I try not to disrupt her routine on a regular basis. I would keep her up for a special occasion but not to pop to the supermarket.

DSM Tue 29-Jan-13 20:39:30

How can taking a 1yo outside at night make her sick? hmm

BinkyWinky Tue 29-Jan-13 20:39:39

grin

And this is her second?

Yes of course she's being ridiculous.

Is she now hoping you'll pick the other DC up for her?

7.30 pm? really? and it's not as if it's a case of pfb- that's a bit...odd.

fairylightsinthesnow Tue 29-Jan-13 20:40:28

how will it make her sick? A cold is a virus, not caught by being out at night. Its not ideal, just because 7.30 should be about the right bedtime for a 1 year old but not the end of the world

Yfronts Tue 29-Jan-13 20:40:41

I wouldn't just because mine are asleep in bed at 7. Wouldn't worry about catching something though. Just need to wrap up.

RobinSparkles United States Tue 29-Jan-13 20:44:05

She is being PSB! grin

I had to take almost 2 year old DD2 out last night to collect DD1 from her school disco. She was out at 7pm and she had her pyjamas on. Please don't call SS on me! She's not sick today though, unless the fact that it was 7pm and not 7.30pm makes all the difference? hmm

Hassled Tue 29-Jan-13 20:45:23

It would be a complete pain in the arse, but it won't make anyone sick.

I'm guessing that her next words were "so will you pick my child up from the club for me?"

It's not an ideal time, but needs must. It won't make the baby sick.

If she signed her older child up for a club assuming someone else would collect for her without asking then she's BU.

RobinSparkles United States Tue 29-Jan-13 20:46:21

In fact, I feel sorry for her older child if they have to keep missing out on clubs and things because she won't take the younger one out to collect them!

SirBoobAlot Tue 29-Jan-13 20:50:33

Surely she knew what time the club was ending when she signed up for it?

Could understand if she was slightly concerned about disrupting bedtime, but the suggestion it will make him ill is ridiculous.

MrsMelons Tue 29-Jan-13 20:53:21

I wouldn't want to take a 1 year old out at 730 if it disrupted their bedtime but it won't make them ill.

Does she want you to pick her child up? Me and my friend help each other out like this so we didn't have to take the little ones out (we had 2nd babies at different times). We would rather than do this so the babies/toddlers could go to bed at a normal time but to suggest it would make them sick is daft!

apostropheuse Tue 29-Jan-13 21:06:16

I personally wouldn't have taken mine out in the evening like that as they were in their bed sleeping at that time, but of course it wouldn't have actually made them ill.

LittleMissFantabulous Tue 29-Jan-13 21:11:34

I pick up the nine year old from club at 7:30 every Tuesday with the five and one year olds in tow. No other options so we middle through. Your friend is being a wallysmile

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Tue 29-Jan-13 21:13:46

So who exactly is picking the older child up?

spideyman Tue 29-Jan-13 21:14:17

yes she did ask me to collect her dd. smile

The parking outside her house is horrendous so I know this is probably a contributing factor to her not wanting to go out but there is more parking at the bottom of her street and it doesnt take long to walk up.

the club isnt very far so she could have the little one home and in bed by 7 which imo isnt a massive change to a routine if it was the same every week.

She tried to reserve her space in the street with her bin when she went out and someone had taken it when she returned. I just got a ranting phone call about that and how selfish/inconsiderate the person was who took her space....

blackeyedsusan England Tue 29-Jan-13 21:27:35

<dials> oi robin where did you say you lived?

psb yes... though I suspect it is the parking that makes life seem difficult.

Karoleann Tue 29-Jan-13 21:32:57

I wouldn't dream of taking a 1 year old out at that time of night. I'd either make sure dh was home, get a babysitter or not enrol him in the club.
It don't make them I'll, but it's far too late.

Karoleann Tue 29-Jan-13 21:33:19

I'll = ill

lovetomoan Tue 29-Jan-13 21:53:28

PSB-its.

florry88 Tue 29-Jan-13 22:05:09

ridiculous

seeker Tue 29-Jan-13 22:12:03

So a child shouldn't be allowed to go to an activity because 7.00 is too late for their younger sibling? Now that's going to be good for the sibling bond, isn't it?

OP, why don't you just drop the other child home if it's no bother? She's bonkers saying it will make the baby ill, but it could well be a massive pain in the neck, and if you're going that way anyway.........

MissBetseyTrotwood Tue 29-Jan-13 22:12:54

Well obviously the baby's going to be fine if it's wrapped up etc etc.

At my very depths of horrific health anxiety I had some unusual beliefs about what was OK and not OK to do. I'm not saying she's got anxiety in any form but I'd want to know why she felt like this.

seeker Tue 29-Jan-13 22:17:17

Actually the baby would be fine even if it wasn't wrapped up!

DeafLeopard Tue 29-Jan-13 22:19:56

Yup she's been precious. I have a 6 year age gap between mine, if I hadn't dragged DD out then DS would have missed out on a lot of stuff - even now at 8 if DH is working late / away then she goes out in her onesie to pick him up from stuff

5.5 year age gap between DS1 and 2 and we have to do these early evening jaunts for clubs that DS1 wants to do, I wouldn't dream of imposing on someone else or telling my child they couldn't go because it may end too late for PSB to be in bed.

I don't even have the luxury of a car so we have to walk everywhere and even in this weather a thick coat, blanket and rain shield on the buggy would be more than enough for DS2 to be toasty warm.

larks35 Tue 29-Jan-13 22:36:51

Where are the dads in all this? Even if parents are not together, surely something like taking an older child to an event without having to drag younger one along is something that should be solved by both parents doing it?

larks35 Tue 29-Jan-13 22:41:17

FWIW I wouldn't want to take my DD (10mo) out at 7.30pm due to that being the sort of time she goes to bed(ish). Fortunately by that time DS (4yo) is well and truely tucked up and asleep! In years to come I'm sure he'll have clubs and activities that go on later but if that is the case then either DP or I will stay home with DD and the other go get DS.

goingmadinthecountry Tue 29-Jan-13 22:49:49

Larks, dad in my case is at work either in London or abroad at this time of night. I'm not alone by any means. There's 10 years between nos 1 and 4 in our case so there have been many times when someone has been put out.

Guess what? Nothing bad happened. The children are all bright, achieving and popular at school. Dd1 got amazing A levels from a state school, and nos 2 and 3 are doing equally well. They have friends, aren't in gangs and can speak to strangers in whole sentences. Me? I'm a bit trashed but putting yourself out goes with the territory.

More importantly, they aren't phased by change.

Amazing, isn't it?

OP, your friend needs to get a grip. If she wants you to do the run, she should offer to pay for half the petrol.

LadyKinbote Tue 29-Jan-13 22:58:26

MissBetsey, I wondered about anxiety too. It can make simple tasks seem virtually impossible.

Startail Tue 29-Jan-13 23:08:51

Having a DD1 who never went to bed before 8 and was quite happy with 8.30 and a DD2 who has always followed her bad example, I think she's being a pain.

People who are insanely previous about bed time, get on my nerves, as for making DC ill, lol.

DeepRedBetty Tue 29-Jan-13 23:12:38

If she'd started straight away with the 'I'll never get my space back' argument I'd have agreed, as I know that situation all too well. Our street is far too handy for 2 restaurants and 3 takeaways and 3 pubs.

Saying psb will get ill is just rather silly.

13Iggis Tue 29-Jan-13 23:15:12

Am confused as OP says taking a child out at 7.30, but then says she could have them in bed by 7?
I've done this once (with a baby) when dh was away and wouldn't do it again. Younger one far too tired and grumpy. I wouldn't have enrolled ds1 though if I didn't expect to be able to do the pick-ups - wonder why she did?

seeker Tue 29-Jan-13 23:33:14

So an older child is not allowed to go to a club because 7.00 is too late for his little sibling? That is just unfair!

13Iggis Wed 30-Jan-13 00:05:28

Not fair on either - I guess the way round it is to arrange a lift home for the older child, which is what the OP' friend has been trying to do (but in a really cack-handed way)

simpson England Wed 30-Jan-13 00:24:05

Well DD is not a baby (she was 3 when I enrolled her older brother in beavers) but no way could she stay up till 8 to go and pick him up (I don't drive but only a 5min walk each way but she used to go to bed at 6.30 at this point)...

But luckily a friend offered to bring him back so he could go.

DD is now 5 (today!!) and still could not stay up and go out at 8pm.

But it would not make a baby sick though (I just think alternative arrangements have to be made tbh)...

BrandonFlowersHoHoHo Wed 30-Jan-13 00:25:07

She is right

Have you not heard of that of awful virus caused by the moon, stars and black sky. It's very nasty!

What an eejit!

hrrumph Wed 30-Jan-13 00:33:19

All a ploy to get you to pick her up I'd say.
It's a balance tho isn't it. Older dc needs activities. Younger dc needs routine. But not your problem in the grand scheme of things.

seeker Wed 30-Jan-13 00:37:02

Ell, I think she's bonkers. But I also think the OP should drop the older child back if it doesn't take her massively out of her way. For the sake of the older child, not the mother.

DeafLeopard Wed 30-Jan-13 16:29:05

If you can drop her elder child home then maybe suggest that she does her share by taking the DCs to the activity?

MrsMelons Wed 30-Jan-13 19:59:15

is your child at the same club? If so I think you should drop her DC off, if not its quite cheeky of her to ask you.

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