To think that someone with a hoover flex stretched taught across a pavement at 6 inches about ground level is in the wrong?

(50 Posts)
gazzalw Mon 28-Jan-13 10:12:11

DW and DD walking to school this morning and some man hoovering his car but from the farside rather than nearside. DW of course looking for a slack flex on the pavement but DD nearly went flying because it was actually stretched taught like a booby trap six inches off the ground. DW told the man that it was dangerous and was met with a tirade of abuse about looking where one was going....

Just think it's thoughtless and as it was commuting/school run time entirely out of order...

3littlefrogs Mon 28-Jan-13 10:14:18

You are absolutely right. Sadly there are an awful lot of stupid, thoughtless people about.

It is a bit twattish to trip up a child and then get gobby about it. The correct response would have been 'I'm so sorry, is your DD ok?'.

gazzalw Mon 28-Jan-13 10:17:21

Have to say that DW says it's the first time she has effectively been met with a booby trap on a pavement. Yes, people do hoover their cars but usually they use extension cables so the flexes are slack and on the ground. And they might have the decency to say 'mind out'.

She was quite tempted to take his number plate and report him but to whom and for what....

blackeyedsusan Mon 28-Jan-13 10:18:35

no, nbu at all...

landofsoapandglory Mon 28-Jan-13 10:20:00

YANBU.

When we lived in our last house and didn't have a drive, DH would turn the cars round in the road so he could Hoover them out and keep an eye on who was coming up the pavement. If he saw someone coming he always stopped and moved the Hoover to let them past.

Booyhoo Mon 28-Jan-13 10:21:43

Titles must make sense! wink

But of course he's an inconsiderate idiot. And rude as well. He should have apologised.

echt Mon 28-Jan-13 10:21:45

YANBU, but it's taut, not taught.

gazzalw Mon 28-Jan-13 10:45:07

Oops not properly awake yet!

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 10:55:59

Rolls eyes at the spelling and grammar police

How pendantic and rude to take it upon yourself to correct someone's spelling, echt. Does it really matter? Does it affect your day if someone has put two extra letters in a word? Thought not! Seems you are just rude after all

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 10:58:31

It does matter. I didn't understand what thread title was talking about at first glance.

What seems to be the problem with correcting mistakes?

gazzalw Mon 28-Jan-13 11:00:25

Thanks for fighting my cause Evangelinadreamer - for pedantic posters' information, I do know the difference between taut and taught - it was a slip up (which one might say is entirely apt given the nature of the AIBU)

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 11:14:52

Erm, because it's arrogant, and rude CoteDAzur. Some people struggle with spelling and grammar. Get over it. It's a public parenting forum, not an English lesson!

luckylavender Mon 28-Jan-13 11:17:04

If we are going to be pedantic, it was probably a vaccum cleaner not a hoover.

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 11:20:38

And by that you mean vacuum, I suppose wink

MsVestibule Mon 28-Jan-13 11:21:18

If we are going to be pedantic, it was probably a vaccum cleaner not a hoover.

vacuum, not vaccum grin.

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 11:22:47

I disagree, Evangelina. That is what you think and what is rude and arrogant is assuming everyone else has to think/act like you.

Correcting mistakes isn't rude if it is not done in a rude way.

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 11:27:10

I'm not being arrogant. It's basic manners. How condescending to think it appropriate to correct grown adults. Would you do that if a shop assistant had poor grammar when they spoke to you? Or if a fellow parent at your child's school pronounced a word wrong? No! Because it'd be rude, right? But yet somehow you think it's ok to do it online.

I'm sure that no one that posts on here is perfect in every way and so I don't think it's right to go around being critical about others when everyone has their flaws and things they can and cannot do.

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 11:29:16

Again, that is your opinion.

And you see it fit to impose it on others who obviously don't think it is rude to politely correct an obvious mistake. That is rude. In my opinion. And I still wouldn't dream of telling you to change your ways, because that would be arrogant of me.

Do you see?

LittleChimneyDroppings Mon 28-Jan-13 11:31:37

Nothing wrong with correcting a mistake p

LittleChimneyDroppings Mon 28-Jan-13 11:32:45

Pressed too soon.
Nothing wrong with correcting a mistake as long as its done politely.

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 11:34:29

So Cote, would you correct someone in person then? Your child's teacher if they mispronounced a word? Your GP if they used a word in the wrong context?

Nixea Mon 28-Jan-13 11:40:13

<watches the OP sit back and be amused by the total derailing of their thread over spelling>

YANBU, bad manners on behalf of the hoover-er. Certainly the response of a tirade of abuse was particularly over the top.

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 11:43:55

Funny you should say that. DD goes to French school but has 1 hour/week of English. Her English teacher says "fife" instead of "five" and "tvelfe" instead of "twelve". She is Dutch. I have not only corrected her in person, but have spoken to the school teacher and said I want DD to be in the other (native speaker) teacher's class next year.

So yes, I would and have corrected a teacher for mispronouncing certain words. I fully expect my child to be taught correctly.

Also, I would correct and have corrected a doctor if I noticed a mistake. One paediatrician told me pollen allergies don't cause hives, which I know for a fact is incorrect, having suffered this exact problem throughout my childhood. Another example would be the doctor who wanted to prescribe homeopathic "remedies" to DC. He quickly admitted that there is no proof that they work but that "parents seem to like them" hmm

So yes, I have corrected doctors, too. If I am wrong, they tell me I am wrong, and that is perfectly fine, too.

You must live in a strange kind of world where nobody corrects anything for fear of being perceived as rude and arrogant. Still, your choice and I wouldn't dream of telling you that you are wrong and should act like me, because that would actually be arrogant wink

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 11:45:10

Nixea grin

YANBU, by the way smile but your DD also does need to look where she is going.

gazzalw Mon 28-Jan-13 11:47:56

Yes, I am, Nixea!

Perhaps AIBU threads should really be in Pedants' Corner? grin

May not feel vindicated about my unfortunate spelling error but at least I feel that I got support about the original AIBU...

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 11:48:39

It's still pendantic to correct someone's very minor spelling mistake of one word, on a public forum. In my opinion.

You sound very cock sure of yourself Cote. I'm sure doctors and teachers find you an utter delight to deal with.

gazzalw Mon 28-Jan-13 12:13:46

My error was not to use spell-check. I am usually very good with spellings and grammar but arrogance obviously got the better of me this morning...

I do agree, Evangelinadreamer, that I am sure most people do make spelling faux-pas, particularly on such threads, as the rate of thought/comment is fast and furious and doesn't exactly lend itself to thorough proof-reading!

Hey ho....

dontlaugh Mon 28-Jan-13 12:21:41

It's "pedantic", not pendantic. It's not rude to politely observe an obvious mistake. It's most rude to derail a thread by attacking a reasonable post and not agreeing to disagree.
OP, yanbu. A taut flex deserves a strong word with the owner, the knob.

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep Mon 28-Jan-13 12:22:26

It's only a good idea to correct someone's spelling/grammar if it's a thread about spelling/grammar.
Or if they have blatantly brought it on themselves. (eg ranting about 'imigrents what cant spek englsh')

And if you encourage everyone who makes a spelling mistake in their thread title to go back and have it changed, MNHQ may well hunt you down and kill you grin

YANBU about the hoover lead though!

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 12:46:15

It wasn't a reasonable post, dontlaugh. It was rude. No need to correct spelling mistakes. It's rude. It's condescending.

dontlaugh Mon 28-Jan-13 12:51:50

....in your opinion it was rude, Evangelina. Opinions are not facts.

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 12:54:12

I think lots would find it rude tbh

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 14:29:31

It doesn't matter how many people agree with your opinion. It is still an opinion.

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 14:34:26

I think if you were to read etiquette books and research good manners, you will see that it is throughly bad manners to correct people on minor speech or grammatical errors. You may think you are great and that you know everything, but I guarantee people will be eye rolling behind your back and avoiding you because they find you rude and a know it all.

PessaryPam Mon 28-Jan-13 14:37:17

I think it is OK to politely correct spelling and grammar errors. How else can people improve their communications skills in English if we don't?

Keep on pedanting Cote grin

And the OP should have 'accidentally' walked into the flex and pulled it out of the wall.

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 14:44:16

It's not polite though however you dress it up. If someone had little confidence and felt rubbish about themselves, the last thing they would want is some know-it-all correcting how they pronounced a word. It's unnecessary. And rude.

PessaryPam Mon 28-Jan-13 15:03:20

You must have loved school Evangaline. All those know-it-alls telling you things and correcting your work.

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 15:06:46

That's different PessaryPam. what a ridiculous thing to say! Teachers are there to teach. Random strangers in the street are not.

PessaryPam Mon 28-Jan-13 16:05:49

This is not the street, this is a written forum and some of us have standards.

KellyElly Mon 28-Jan-13 16:23:40

Or perhaps some of you are just wankers...just a thought.

Nagoo Mon 28-Jan-13 16:31:19

grin I love mumsnet.

YANBU OP. Hope your DD was ok smile

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 16:36:59

Maybe you could read some of Evangelina's books on etiquette and see if it is rude to call people "wankers". Just a thought.

To each their own, though. I am sure there are people out there who don't find you rude smile

KellyElly Mon 28-Jan-13 16:44:54

Yes Cote, as I'm sure there are people out there who don't find you tediously patronising smile

CoteDAzur Mon 28-Jan-13 16:52:52

Yes, and you would find that they are significantly more in number than the few you can find who will think you are not rude to come into a thread and call people "wankers". HTH.

Evangelinadreamer Mon 28-Jan-13 17:19:19

You are patronising though Cote. Or at least you appear that way on this thread!

KellyElly Mon 28-Jan-13 20:45:24

I was just calling a spade a spade Cote. If the shoe fits and all that. That's MY opinion. You seem very adamant that you are entitled to yours so I can surely have mine. Whether you agree with or not or find it rude is up to you. Personally I find derailing a thread to comment on grammar quite rude and extremely patronising as well.

amicissimma Mon 28-Jan-13 21:37:05

I don't find it rude or patronising when people politely correct mistakes, and I am very grateful to the many posters who have educated me by doing so over the years.

OP, I do think booby-trapping the pavement is unreasonable, specially without an apology if someone trips on it.

gazzalw Tue 29-Jan-13 07:55:24

Hi everyone. I am very bemused by the turn that this thread has taken.

Can I just point that I was having a not-so-senior moments day yesterday which is why I made the spelling mistake in the first place. I touch-type and sometimes when you do, your brain runs away with the keyboard without actively engaging and then you do make typos.

No worries and thanks to those who defended me...I am actually quite pedantic about such things myself although my bugbear is less about spelling and more about grammatical errors - so maybe it's a case of hubris....

Anyway, it's making me cringe now seeing the thread with a semi-incoherent title blush.

PessaryPam Tue 29-Jan-13 10:34:36

Don't be, we all do it.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now