to be horrified that the only way is essex 'look' is spreading throughout the southeast!

(66 Posts)
discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 21:46:07

fake eyelashes and tons of eyeliner a kimbo everywhere

HousewifeFromHeaven Fri 25-Jan-13 21:48:51

Yabu

discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 21:50:08

why?

sue52 Fri 25-Jan-13 21:59:10

Plenty of people who look like nothing nature designed, reside in certain parts of Kent. I'm not keen on the look but each to their own.

Cakethrow Fri 25-Jan-13 22:00:33

I think you'll find this look exists in abundance all over the country.
I don't think Essex had first dibs on it to be honest.

discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 22:01:08

essex and liverpool then wink

There is a certain style that seems to have become ubiquitous: fake tan, straightened hair, overplucked eyebrows, fake eyelashes etc.

Annunziata Fri 25-Jan-13 22:03:49

Oh bugger off. DD was out last night in a leopard print dress, high eyes etc. She's also studying aeronautics. It's only clothes.

HollyBerryBush Fri 25-Jan-13 22:07:00

I thought it was on the decrease.

I had all 190 of Y11 in front me today, there were only two orange ones. Two aubergine purple birds nest. Vast improvement on previous years standards of grooming

Annunziata Fri 25-Jan-13 22:07:57

High heels/ eye make up (she does not get her brains from me grin)

80sMum Fri 25-Jan-13 22:08:42

It isn't 'only clothes' though is it? Appearance is the first thing people notice about a person. The way someone presents himself/herself has a powerful influence on how he/she is perceived by others.

I hope you are right HollyBerry.

I live in Essex and have a 10yo DD (who is spectacularly gorgeous if I say so myself)
I'm dreading if she goes down the TOWIE/ Jordan/Jodie Marsh vacuous walking make-up counter look.

<<Fits extra locks to door>>

discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 22:12:59

bugger off? charming

also studying aeronautics is different to actually working in aeronautics isn't it wink

sue52 Fri 25-Jan-13 22:15:42

HollyBerryBush There's hope for the future then.

what is wrong with the Towie 'look' in your opinion, disco?

Annunziata Fri 25-Jan-13 22:16:54

Ah, but she'll be there one day soon smile

VelvetSpoon Fri 25-Jan-13 22:17:59

theres nothing wrong with false eyelashes and eyeliner, I wear both regularly. and fake tan and huge high heels. because I like them.

I'm also a lawyer, and an Oxbridge graduate. But feel free to judge a book by its cover hmm

discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 22:19:00

i suppose the same as i hate any 'look' i was never one for bubble perms or pixie boots, people all wearing the same things for the sake of fashion

the essex look does seem to me to be very high maintenance than usual though, lots of hours spent in spray tans salons and applying the fakeness

i do watch snog marry avoid so know what i'm on about wink

WorraLiberty Fri 25-Jan-13 22:19:31

Even if this look disappears, it'll be replaced by another look that parents screw their noses up at.

Your parents aren't supposed to like your look when you're a teenager

I thought everyone knew this? grin

<< Fond memories of Mum eyeing my 80's mini rah-rah and stillettoes with disapproval >>

It's only clothes
my DD wore shorts, a vest top, a long shirt and Converses to go round to the shops with me last summer. It was about 5pm.

Twice she was cat-called by 2 seperate cars of young men.

She's 10 yo.
She's tall, slim with long hair.

Only clothes? You'll excuse me if I don't relish my DD embracing the TOWIE look hmm

70isa, don't blame the clothes, blame the men cat calling a pre-teen

discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 22:21:24

velvet would you not feel silly standing up in court in fake eyelashes and fake tan?

It isn't 'only clothes' though is it? Appearance is the first thing people notice about a person. The way someone presents himself/herself has a powerful influence on how he/she is perceived by others.

Change your perception then.

Twice she was cat-called by 2 seperate cars of young men.

The same young men probably found the insults directed towards Mary Beard, hysterical.

It isn't the females who need to make a change.

I am in Liverpool. I and my DD's do the scouse version of Towie when we go out. We like that look and won't be changing unless, we choose to.

Boys yes I know they were knobs.
And hopefully when they saw her properly (both times they were driving from behind us. It was the same journey, there and back) they realised she's a little girl.

velvet would you not feel silly standing up in court in fake eyelashes and fake tan

The beauty about fake tan and eyelashes is that they can be toned down, or taken off.

I have to change the way that i dress to go to court, but i wouldn't go out wearing the same clothes, i don't get your point, tbh.

I have gone brunette because i am chairing more meetings, though.

somedayma Fri 25-Jan-13 22:27:01

so don't wear it then. you have a horrible attitude. and your 'studying it is different to working in it' was intentionally rude and patronising.

Porkster Fri 25-Jan-13 22:29:16

It might be because I'm getting old, but I find this look so ugly.

The caked on too dark foundation, comedy brows, ghastly fake eyelashes and the ridiculous bigger-than-your-head bun.

I see it on my local Tesco on the check out staff. I am probably like this shock at the till, thinking old lady thoughts like, 'I bet you were pretty as a child...'

AmberSocks Fri 25-Jan-13 22:29:44

they are just clothes,theyonly matter if everybody lets them.

I dont wear any of the things metioned but i woud if i wanted to,or had time to apply them all!
I love being brown but prefer a real tan.

discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 22:31:52

somedayma can you elaborate on how i was so rude

somedayma Fri 25-Jan-13 22:34:24

Can YOU explain that comment? What did you mean by it? what else could it mean but 'good luck to her managing to graduate/get a job' followed by a patronising wink? Ugh

HollyBerryBush Fri 25-Jan-13 22:35:03

It's grooming (or lack of) that annoys me.

Wear what you like, how you like provided you dont have that awful foundation tide mark, over foundation caked in spots, badly dyed hair, back combed birds nests that look nit laiden. Oh and cloggy mascara.

I extend that to dirty fingenails and shoes.

AmberSocks Fri 25-Jan-13 22:35:08

i agree with someday it was rude.

80sMum Fri 25-Jan-13 22:35:19

* Change your perception then.*
Not an easy thing to do: it's human nature to make visual judgements on first meeting.

VelvetSpoon Fri 25-Jan-13 22:37:05

I never feel silly smile

tbh I dont do the fake tan every day, I am too tight to pay for a spray tan and too lazy to regularly apply it myself except in summer. I don't wear false eyelashes to work most of the time, but I do wear lots of eyeliner and makeup. I have never had a negative comment about the way I look, other than being told (when younger) that my skirts were too short.

SolidSnake Fri 25-Jan-13 22:39:44

And you shouldn't feel silly VelvetSpoon! Wear what you like. You probably look lovely smile

Actually changing the judgements and perceptions that we have, isn't that difficult.

It helps if you mix with all different people, from all walks of life.

It doesn't take much "to work on yourself". It just requires honesty to where your perception is coming from and why.

It is like any stereotypical POV.

usualsuspect Fri 25-Jan-13 22:40:48

Disco,stop being so old [ grin]

discorabbit Fri 25-Jan-13 22:41:36

'also studying aeronautics is different to actually working in aeronautics isn't it'

where did i write good luck to her graduating?

whateveritakes Fri 25-Jan-13 22:43:20

somedayma obviously made the comment about her daughter to show she has brains - implying that looking stupid and being stupid aren't the same.

discorabbit points out that getting a job when you look stupid might not be as easy. The "oxbridge lawyer" admits to changing her look for court.

I dislike the amount of effort going into looking like something "men want". I agree that fashion should shock the parents but shouldn't we move beyond heels that kill you, dresses you can't sit down in and immaculate hair that costs huge amounts of time and money to maintain.

somedayma Fri 25-Jan-13 22:43:24

you didn't write it. you chose a snarky veiled way to insinuate the poster's daughter wouldn't get very far in her field working like that

somedayma Fri 25-Jan-13 22:44:38

oops I meant looking like that

VelvetSpoon Fri 25-Jan-13 22:51:29

I don't specifically change my look for court. I don't dress up to the nines every day, I like there to be a bit of difference between my day look and my night time look. I think most people do the same.

and I look how I want to. Every boyfriend I have ever had whilst appreciating how I look in all my finery grin has also said I look fine without makeup, and I don't need it, but I like it, so I wear it!

MooMooSkit Fri 25-Jan-13 22:55:18

YABU for being "horrified"

YANBU for thinking it's a horrid look.

OTTMummA Fri 25-Jan-13 23:15:35

It is a very odd look on some people, there is a young woman who works at the hairdressers opposite me who just keeps getting darker and darker, she is somewhere between teak and mahogany, the tanning stuff is all over her fingers, making her hands look filthy! But she is do stunning, really beautiful face, lovely figure and long dark natural hair, you can tell she has freckles as well, which I think are lovely, but she seems to want to plaster over all her natural loveliness, that I find really sad.

meltedcreditcard Fri 25-Jan-13 23:22:41

They do it in the South West too!

deleted203 Fri 25-Jan-13 23:27:55

YANBU. We're in the North and I hate the fact that my highly educated, intelligent DD1 (20) suddenly feels the need to channel her 'inner Jordan'. I can't get my head round inch thick foundation, false eyelashes and the whole 'piled with slap' look in the daytime! I know I'm old but I just can't see why she would want to look (IMO) 'cheap and chavvy'. She's a pretty girl without looking soooo fake.

I thought it was on the decline as well, it seems to be. I don't like it personally but couldn't care less if others do. The only thing that actually bugs me about it is when I get the "What? You're from Essex? But you don't look like you're from Essex..." comments. Every. Bloody. Time.

It's just a trend, much like being an emo kid was a trend when I was in school (didn't like that look either though it was my friend's preferred look!) and whatever trends were about when you were in school.

Though I think everybody makes judgements based on first meetings and appearances, even if they claim not too. You just have a thought in your mind when you first see somebody and what your expectation of their personality is. I choose to embrace that and see it as a personal experiment on my pre-conceived perceptions and notions though.

usualsuspect Fri 25-Jan-13 23:28:59

Cheap and chavvy?

Get over yourself.

MoominmammasHandbag Fri 25-Jan-13 23:37:21

Agree it is a very ugly look; thankfully my DD has been there, done that. I actually think that look is on the way out in our Northern town.

Chottie Fri 25-Jan-13 23:44:54

Very popular look in the SE too. I see lots of school girls with full make-up on on their way to school. They all carry large handbags to carry their school stuff in.

Bella88 Sat 26-Jan-13 01:28:50

Rancid auld trouts the lot of 'em, even the young 'uns.

The reason I don't like it is that they all look like clones; where's the originality?

As a 'look' I don't think it enhances young women's natural beauty; far from it. I find it looks very artificial. DD has a fair complexion and wavy/curly hair; both are beautiful in themselves and would not benefit from being covered in fake tan or straightened.

TheNebulousBoojum Sat 26-Jan-13 10:12:55

I think it's an ugly look, I choose not to do any of it.
I am more horrified by the people who attempt to make others feel bad about their choices and to set out what is and isn't an acceptable appearance.
Go ahead and be orange and glittery with spiked heels, or tattooed and pierced or goth or flowerchild hippy or twinset and pearls. I love diversity and tolerance for others' choices.
I'd truly hate to live in a uniform society.

Icelollycraving Sat 26-Jan-13 11:52:56

Yanbu to dislike it but Yabu with the snarky comments.

mrsjay Sat 26-Jan-13 11:57:02

It has been in scotland for ages loads of girls wander about as if they are in the sugar hut grin if they are happy then don't see why not I dont like it but hey ho, some of the lashes are huge though.

mrsjay Sat 26-Jan-13 11:58:49

The reason I don't like it is that they all look like clones; where's the originality?

as somebody cleverer than me pointed out on a thread yesterday we are not original we are tribal and people like to follow trends, even the "indie" kids they all look exactly the same

Bella88 Sat 26-Jan-13 12:38:19

It's a horribly pornified, all exaggerated femininity like blow up dolls come to life.

Why are young girls and women being influenced by Playboy dollies and porn actresses? How sad that this has now become a mainstream image to aspire to.

mrsjay Sat 26-Jan-13 12:44:36

it is more jersey shore and Towie that is the influence not play boy or porn imo,

Bella88 Sat 26-Jan-13 12:46:48

Yes but where did it originate? Certainly not from musicians, actresses or Vogue magazine.

Smudging Sat 26-Jan-13 12:47:54

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mrsjay Sat 26-Jan-13 12:48:24

I spose you are right bella I don't like it either my dds don't dress that way , but if women want too then that is really up to them some women like to look sexualised just look at Pamela Anderson,

Smudging Sat 26-Jan-13 12:48:49

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LayMizzRarb Sat 26-Jan-13 14:33:56

Horrified? Get a grip.
If what other people wear affects you personally, maybe you need a hobby.
I bet you could not look me in the eye and say you have NEVER bought anything or worn anything with just a little bit of 'what will my neighbours/friends think? in the equation. Be it an outfit/furniture/car etc etc..
Get off your high horse carefully, lest you hurt yourself.

"Your parents aren't supposed to like your look when you're a teenager

I thought everyone knew this?"

grin

Though saying that, my mum kept trying to steal my Alchemy Gothic jewellery hmm

piprabbit Sat 26-Jan-13 14:40:57

I live in Essex and don't know anyone who dresses like Towie.
We mostly wear UGGs and trainers. The older mums wear jeans and the young mums wear baggy joggers. We look tired and a bit frazzled. Except for the ones that don't wink.

Evenings are different - but I don't think Essex has ever had a monoploy on chilly girls with spidery eyelashes.

It's not a look I'd go for, and it's not necessarily flattering, but if it makes someone happy and isn't causing harm how the hell does it matter to anyone else?

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