To think that I don't actually HAVE to leap to answer my phone if I don't want to?

(98 Posts)
HecateWhoopass Fri 25-Jan-13 17:05:10

Because my husband is driving me up the bloody WALL with it.

I don't have to stop whatever I am doing and find my phone if it bleeps. It's a text. I can read it in a bit.

If I am busy and the phone goes, the person will leave a message. Or I'll check the number and if I recognise it - I'll call them back.

So why oh why does my husband leap up and pass me my bag as though the damned thing will explode if a text is not answered at once?

It's not a royal bloody command. I can get it in 5 minutes, for crying out loud.

Pavlov's ruddy dogs. That's what it is. Drives me potty.

MardyBraWouldDoEddieRedmayne Fri 25-Jan-13 17:06:54

Yanbu. We have two lines at home (one home/one business). If I don't answer one of those, DH will try the other or my mobile. I end up having to trot around the house, just missing each of them as they go to voicemail.

PiggyPlumPie Fri 25-Jan-13 17:06:55

Hell no!! MY phone is for MY convenience and no-one else's!!

nickelbabe Fri 25-Jan-13 17:07:04

no, you don't.

the telephone ringing is an invitation to you to answer the call.
it's not a demand.

Cactuar Fri 25-Jan-13 17:07:22

YANBU a ringing phone is a request not a demand!

MardyBraWouldDoEddieRedmayne Fri 25-Jan-13 17:07:23

And if I do get up and rush to answer one, it's usually some bastard trying to sell me something.

boodles Fri 25-Jan-13 17:07:53

A phone ringing is an invitation to answer not an order. I often ignore the phone if I can't be arsed to chat. Unsociable person that I am.

HecateWhoopass Fri 25-Jan-13 17:08:53

Glad it's not just me grin

He can't ever just not answer the door either.

I can sit there and watch tv. If you're a charity collector or religious caller - I ain't opening the door and I don't CARE if you can see me. Hell, I'll wave and smile. But I don't HAVE to open the door.

My husband, otoh, has palpitations at the thought of it. hmm

Schnarkle Fri 25-Jan-13 17:09:17

Drives me bloody mad. Yesterday my mobile rang out 3 times while I was upstairs changing the baby. Immediately after the 3rd time, the house phone rang. The same person demanding I speak to them.

If I don't answer the mobile I'm dead or busy. Either way I don't want to talk.

BinkyWinky Fri 25-Jan-13 17:09:36

I physically can't leave something ringing, it drives me up the wall blush

HoHoHoNoYouDont Fri 25-Jan-13 17:10:22

^the telephone ringing is an invitation to you to answer the call.
it's not a demand^

Unfortunatly that explanation didn't cut with my boss when i worked as a Receptionist grin

SpicyPear Fri 25-Jan-13 17:10:29

YANBU. That is what voicemail is for.

KindleMum Fri 25-Jan-13 17:11:38

In complete agreement with you. I do not answer the phone when I'm too busy - which is quite often, and often for fairly boring reasons like I'm changing a nappy or bathing the kids. Ansaphones are there for a reason.

I also turn my mobile off when I go to bed and have several friends who think that's really awful too. Apparently I'm so important I should be constantly available!

Trills Fri 25-Jan-13 17:12:46

YANBU at all.

That's why I think people are a bit mad when they say they don't like mobile phones because they don't like being on call all the time.

The phone works for you, you do not work for the phone.

HecateWhoopass Fri 25-Jan-13 17:13:25

Or they're so important you should be constantly available for them grin

grin hoho

binky - my husband is like you. If it was just his phone, I wouldn't care grin I just don't like being chased round with mine!

DublinMammy Fri 25-Jan-13 17:14:12

Agree completely - my mother sits visibly twitching if she is round at my house and I ignore the phone ringing. I would have thought she would be flattered that I am, in effect, telling her that she is more important than whoever might be rininging but she almost explodes with frustration!!

BinkyWinky Fri 25-Jan-13 17:15:41

My sister's washing machine bleeps when it's done. She can ignore it for hours.... <twitches>

BeebiesQueen Fri 25-Jan-13 17:16:21

I'm not sure I could not answer the door, although I'd love to try next time we get a cold caller <worries>, although what if its important (it may have never been important before but there's always a first time!)

the phone is another matter entirely tho! the only time I check even if its inconvenient is when I'm out and about or if I don't have my dc with me. If dh is home, dc are home, what could possibly be so important. and my family know if its an emergency to call back and I'll pick up if the phone rings immediately again, its like a signal!

StinkyWicket Fri 25-Jan-13 17:18:14

My DH often does 1471 then follows me round the house asking me if I recognise number 0770-whatever.

No, I don't. And even if I did, they could have left a message and didn't which shows that it can't be that important! Leave me alone grin

nickelbabe Fri 25-Jan-13 17:18:23

HoHoHo - i was just thinking that because I have to answer the phone at work too.

it gives me palpitations and i try to avoid it.

I find it easier if I just grab the thing immediately it starts ringing - so it doesn't have time to manifest.

SpicyPear Fri 25-Jan-13 17:19:20

DH and I are both phone avoiders. If the home phone rings we argue over who's going to pick it up until the answer phone kicks in. Every time.

MardyBraWouldDoEddieRedmayne Fri 25-Jan-13 17:23:47

DS keeps bloody answering it. And then forcing me to talk with whoever it is rather than MNing working.

cateerob Fri 25-Jan-13 17:27:27

my teenager daughter does not understand how i can ignore my phone hers is obviously permantly attached to her, she does not understand that a text can wait, it does not disapear if you dont read and reply at once, also the intercom, we live in a flat, if you want me to answer the door you better let me know you are coming

My ex was a big one for the 1471 if he didnt recognise the number he would call them back even if they didnt leave a message.....

badtemperedaldbitch Fri 25-Jan-13 17:29:06

My dh will answer the phone a day track me down with it even if I am in the bath.

Conversely he gets really agitated if I do the same to him!

amazingmumof6 Fri 25-Jan-13 17:29:06

I totally agree. you can come & live here, I will not bug you!grin

I generally get it if it's there and convenient, If I'm waiting for answer or such, but there could be a hundred reasons why I can't/won't pick up the phone or read a text as it rings/beeps. I too refuse to be a slave to it!

I'll get it when I get it! if I hear it, but can't go I'll get it when I can.
(MIL and some friends tend to annoy me about this, DH is too busy with his own things to worry about my phone!)

besides when I text people they forget to reply too or it takes 3 days to get an answer, so clearly it's not that important to others either, and they don't expect me to jump either!

calls are different, that could be urgent, but if I'm wiping baby's bottom or having a shower or driving - tough cookies!

when the kids are at school I keep an eye on it, in case there's an emergency, but if I don't want to be disturbed I turn it off or ignore it, so what?
I tend to ignore it at the weekends too.

so ignore him, you have my permission to do what you like.

(or next time he jumps give him a cookie and say "good doggie, great fetch!" that might stop him!)

quirkychick Fri 25-Jan-13 17:29:39

hecate my dp is exactly the same! Before I lived with him (lived in different city) he once phoned an ambulance because I couldn't get to the phone.

I had a migraine and had spilt something all over kitchen so ignored ranted at constant ringings on mobile and landline, while he thought I was terribly ill. I had to explain to the ambulance service over the phone that I was, in fact, fine.

Dh will get up and answer the phone when we are in the middle of dinner, or when we have guests. And then he'll tell them he can't talk because he's busy. Not sure what the thinks the answermachine is for.

MIL, OTOH, will phone, and then when we answer she'll say in a slightly disappointed voice, "oh I didn't really want to talk, I was just going to leave a message". I should teach her about text messages!

I have the phone set to do different rings for different numbers so I know to run for the phone if it is school and to ignore it if it is MIL, who probably doesn't want to actually talk to me anyway.

SillyBlueHat Fri 25-Jan-13 17:42:04

MIL drives me mad with phonecalls and texts, expecting an answer straight away. I swear she watches her phone all day waiting for contact. If I don't answer my phone she'll call DH and vice versa, then she will text us both to say she can't get hold of either of us. Grrrr.

Pilfette Fri 25-Jan-13 17:52:27

I saw a great Stephen Fry bit where he said he feels like phones are the equivalent of someone walking up to you, banging their fists repeatedly on the table in front of you whilst saying (loudly) "talk to me, talk to me, talk to me..." and that's why voicemail is a great invention!

HecateWhoopass Fri 25-Jan-13 17:57:38

I am torn between quirky's suggestion of giving him biscuits and moving in with amazingmum! grin

angrytree Fri 25-Jan-13 18:15:15

My MIL's hobby is talking on the phone, and she can't not answer the house phone - she'll even get out of the shower to get it. Despite this, she never knows where her mobile is, and every single time it rings she spends ten minutes looking for it because she can't remember which pocket of her capacious handbag she's put it in... sigh

amazingmumof6 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:17:53

pilfette I saw this too on QI

amazingmumof6 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:19:11

hecate as before you are welcome! with 6 kids it's mayhem, you wouldn't even hear your phone!grin

Tee2072 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:21:01

I hate the phone and only answer it if I feel like it or if I know the number.

My husband is, thank god, the same way.

My mother, on the other hand, cannot leave a phone alone. We'll be on Skype (US to UK) and her phone will ring and she'll answer it. "Oh, can't talk now, on Skype with Tee." Just don't answer the damn thing!

whateveritakes Fri 25-Jan-13 18:21:02

Although I am now finding the answerphone too intrusive.

I dropped my son off at a friends for sleepover and the other mum and myself went for a spontaneous drink in the local village pub. I got back at 11.30 to find a message from my brother (brother wanted me to babysit the following night) and from my mother wanting to know why I hadn't answered the phone to my brother.
I walked round to pick up my son next morning at 9.00.
By 9.30am I had two more messages from my mother both asking me to ring her, one where she had rung but not left any message, one from my friend with just "ring me" as the message (she's a bit dramatic) and one from my other friend saying he was worried as no one could contact me.

WorkingMummyof1 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:21:50

hectate - sorry - but that sounds so sweet hehehe "leap up and pass me my bag"! (ducks).

i ignore phone if busy and open letters when have time - dh has to rip open the envelope as soon as he sees it, however ignores phone "if he doesnt feel like talking" even though it is right next to him! grr!

fluffyraggies Fri 25-Jan-13 18:22:08


*the telephone ringing is an invitation to you to answer the call.
it's not a demand.*

Pleeeeeease come and explain this to my mother smile

WorkingMummyof1 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:22:54

whateveritakes - hehehehe!!! that is so funny (and sweet - ducks again).

Spero Fri 25-Jan-13 18:26:16

I never answer the phone because it never rings at a time convenient to me. So when I do have time, I check for messages and phone people back. I don't understand people who rush to answer or think it is rude not to answer. If it is important, leave a message.

HazeltheMcWitch Fri 25-Jan-13 18:28:27

I've got an app especially for making groups of people from my contacts, who then get sent to voicemail. Well, I can switch their banishment on and off. But it's usually on. I love it.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Fri 25-Jan-13 18:31:00

YA so NBU.

My DH is exactly the same.

And his mother calls at 7pm every Sunday, despite every week being told "I'll ring you back - we're about to eat". But he still leaps to answer it.

Tee2072 Fri 25-Jan-13 19:03:33

Oh hazel what app for what phone?

44SoStartingOver Fri 25-Jan-13 19:06:17

I take your point, but last time I refused to take a call from DH - letting it go t message instead - someone had died. I felt awful, but I was busy. In the end he had to call via reception.

HazeltheMcWitch Fri 25-Jan-13 19:08:14

Tee - it's MuzzlePhone for Android. It's a bit cheesy (it's COWBOY themed!), but does the job...

Tee2072 Fri 25-Jan-13 19:17:33

Darn, I have an iPhone...will see if they have it.

Thanks Hazel.

JohnSnowsTie Fri 25-Jan-13 20:09:49

The only people who ever phone me are the ones who expect me to drop everything and accommodate a visit from them NOW... and when I don't answer leave passive-aggressive voicemail complaints about my not being at their beck and call.

LexiLoganberryBump Fri 25-Jan-13 20:35:08

^the telephone ringing is a invitation to you to answer the call
it's not a demand.

What a great way of putting it.

I don't always answer the phone, I screen calls and if it's not convenient or frankly I just don't want to speak to the caller then I just ignore it. My mum will ring repeatly and when I eventually answer will say "oh I assumed it was because the number was coming up as withheld" well unlock your bloody number then, they choose to withhold the number.

My PIL rings and when they get me or I call them back they expect a explaination about why I didn't get the phone, was I out, where was I, why didn't I answer. I want to tell them to fuck off it's none of there business but I never do.

nickelbabe Fri 25-Jan-13 21:10:29

but •44• it wasn't urgent - they had died. they had eternity! you shouldn't feel guilty

GrimmaTheNome Fri 25-Jan-13 21:22:39

A much-respected colleague of mine had a saying 'a phone has no constitutional right to be answered' (he was american) - he'd grasped what too many don't, that if you're in a face-to-face meeting the phone takes lower priority than the person who's there.

dh and I both work frm home - there's times when we cheerfully ignore the phones and the door (even though it must be obvious we're in, two cars on the drive and dog barking so we're clearly not walking).

My favourite form of communication is email. It waits till I'm ready to look at it.

PretzelTime Fri 25-Jan-13 21:34:52

I like this thread!
I know a lot of people who get really offended if you don't answer calls and text messages immediately. They think you have died or that you hate them if there is some time before you answer.

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 25-Jan-13 21:39:14

I have a person in my life who if I don't answer the phone to, will just ring and ring over and over and over in one day I once had 194 missed calls from them.

And no it was not an emergency.

I have decided if they do t again I will just block there number


androbbob Fri 25-Jan-13 21:46:27

Just reading this thread and chuckling. So my mobile is in kitchen and goes 'beep' as a text arrives. So doesnt DH bring my phone to me as I didnt jump up to get it!! Might be important he says. No only DSIL telling me its snowing where they are.

Really made me chuckle!!

ArkadyRose Fri 25-Jan-13 23:19:33

My OH used to come running to bring me my phone whenever it rang. After the third time of me looking disinterestedly at the number then hitting disconnect (thereby sending the caller to voicemail) he got the message and now he doesn't bother unless it says it's one of my daughters.

He used to answer it for me until I made it quite clear that was out of order. It's my right to choose if I want to answer a call or not, and he had no right to tale that decision out of my hand and then inflict the caller on me. After a huge row about it he got the message.

He still epects me to answer his phone when it rings & he's busy though! hmm

AdoraBell Fri 25-Jan-13 23:34:27

My phone, either mobile or house only rings if I'm busy. Home phone rings if I cook regardless of the hour and mobile when I'm driving. Yes, I do know I can synch it with the car's Bluetooth bollocks, but I'm still driving, so either wait or fuck off.

And breath. I feel better nowsmile

nickelbabe Sat 26-Jan-13 11:39:16

My dad refuses to leave a message and then gets really annoyed if you don't answer.

he says "what's the point of having a phone if you don't answer it?"

i say, if i'm unable to answer the phone, i have an answerphone. if it's really that urgent, leave a bloody message!

meddie Sat 26-Jan-13 12:24:18

my mother lives around the corner from me. She rings and will let it ring until its cut off. She usually times this with me having a bath. She will then ring my mobile a few times, once she even stormed round to my house and banged on the door, when I eventually got out of the bath, came downstairs and answered the door, obviously wet and in a dressing gown she was very irate that I hadn't answered the phone even though I was in!
At this point she couldn't even remember why she had been ringing in the first place.
She has been known to ring me at work,(I work shifts, so out all different days and times) to tell me that she has been ringing my house all day and I didn't answer.

JohnSnowsTie Sat 26-Jan-13 12:26:09

nickel that's what annoys me about a friend of mine. She'll ring several times and not leave a message, then eventually will leave a really snotty message about not being able to get hold of me (because I should always be available when she wants something). So really she sees a missed call from her number as a summons for me to make contact. But in my book, no message = no urgency. Why she can't just leave a polite message first time is beyond me.

Also I'm at the start of many friends' contacts lists alphabetically, and I've lost count of the amount of phonecalls I've had from the bottom of someone's handbag or under someone's arse... so no mesage can also mean "Whoops...!"

perceptionreality Sat 26-Jan-13 12:27:12


Binkybix Sat 26-Jan-13 12:36:18

People have a go at me if never answering my phone, but it's not compulsory. It's not just if I'm busy sometimes I can't be bothered to talk. YANBU!

diddl Sat 26-Jan-13 12:36:51

I only have a landline, which I answer when I want to.


MammaTJ Sat 26-Jan-13 13:48:36

Most annoying phone habit is when someone rings on the landline, finds it is engaged then rings the mobile. Why would they do that? They know I am on the phone.

LesserOfTwoWeevils Sat 26-Jan-13 14:25:17

My phone is permanently on silent.

If I happen to be close by and see when it rings I may answer it.

Otherwise, tough. Send me a text or e-mail. Better yet, carrier pigeon.

amazingmumof6 Sat 26-Jan-13 23:45:18

carrier pigeon it is!grin

amazingmumof6 Sat 26-Jan-13 23:48:37

meddie bloody hell, mothers! <rolls eyes>

with all due respect your mum needs to finally cut the umbilical cord and let you be. can you tell her to get a puppy or a new hobby?smile

Xmasbaby11 Sat 26-Jan-13 23:53:39

I would always answer the phone or door immediately and same with texts/emails. I am so curious and love hearing from people, I can't resist! And it is usually friends who contact me.

amazingmumof6 Sat 26-Jan-13 23:58:44

mammatj I/we do this, sorry <ducks>

but only coz I know that FIL could be occupying the landline so I call MIL on mobile then.

same with BIL/SIL1 - landline engaged coz kids chattering to friends so I ring round all the mobiles until someone picks it up

or friend is on landline for work. but I want to speak to her DH, so try mobile.

no-one seems to mind, but I guess if you are obviously alone in the house at that time and the callers knows it has to be you on the home phone, yes, that's daft.

what do you think?

amazingmumof6 Sat 26-Jan-13 23:59:59

BTW, I call landline first simply because it's cheaper or that unreasonable?

drizzlecake Sun 27-Jan-13 07:57:21

Yeah, yeah, I get that everyone is sposed to leave a message but for some reason it never sounds sensible when I leave one. MOre a garbled tale with me forgetting to leave name or number then having to ring again to add it.
Specially if it's someone I don't know.

drizzlecake Sun 27-Jan-13 07:59:25

Better add that 'no' I don't phone random strangers, I mean someone I don't know like a plumber with me asking for a qoute.

andtheycalleditbunnylove Sun 27-Jan-13 08:38:13

i don't answer the phone if i don't want to. why should i?

DonderandBlitzen Sun 27-Jan-13 08:45:36

YANBU. If people expect you to always pick up the phone immediately then they are assuming that what they have to say is more important than whatever you were in the middle of doing.

EndoplasmicReticulum Sun 27-Jan-13 08:52:31

My mobile phone is rarely switched on and it takes me about 3 weeks to respond to texts. People have given up texting.

MousyMouse Sun 27-Jan-13 08:56:00

my parent are like that. they fish out my ringing phone, giving it to me nearly dropping it as they get in a right panic that I might not answer in time.
I'm with the op. I don't answer if I don't want to and call/text back when it suits me.

SJisontheway Sun 27-Jan-13 09:23:14

Wow - so many phone avoiders. Thinking
about it, my friends can be divided into two categories - phone avoiders who never answer the phone and will call you back when they see fit, often a few days later.
The phone answerers answer the majority of the time, unless they are in the middle of something important, but will call you back, usually within a few hours.
Thinking a bit more about it, the phone avoiders are also terrible time keepers. They seem to believe their time is more important than anyone else's.

EndoplasmicReticulum Sun 27-Jan-13 10:44:04

I'm an excellent time keeper. I just don't like mobile phones. Ring me on the landline and I will answer straight away. Send me an email and I'll get back to you within a few hours.

LexiLoganberryBump Mon 28-Jan-13 09:55:24

I'm not a bad time keeper, I don't answer the phone because I'm either busy or don't want to talk to someone.

I don't think that my time is more important than anyone elses but I don't think the callers time is more important either.

Branleuse Mon 28-Jan-13 10:01:12

i only answer my phone if i really feel like talking. Otherwise i ignore it

Trills Mon 28-Jan-13 10:08:33

What does answering the phone have to do with timekeeping?

Trills Mon 28-Jan-13 10:12:54

If we are talking about "valuing people's time" - I think that everyone's time is important which is why I prefer to use asynchronous forms of communication. That way everyone can deal with things at a time that is convenient to them.

VikingLady Mon 28-Jan-13 11:48:58

Trills The phone works for you, you do not work for the phone.

I have to remember that!

I do not answer the door unless I am expecting a parcel and I see the postman coming up the path (can see from the living room window). No-one else unless it is prearranged. Everyone knows this now, though PIL took some training! I just got fed up of being pestered and angry all day as I work from home. Plus we got a lot of hassle in a previous house from asbo neighbours, so I get nervous answering the door to strangers.

My mobile is on silent or vibrate, somewhere I can see it. If I know your number, have the time and am interested I will answer. Otherwise leave a voicemail. I assume texts are non-urgent, otherwise they would call! I usedto leave my mobile at home when I went out but since DM had a fall, breaking her arm and lying on the bathroom floor soggy, starkers, freezing and in shock a couple of years ago I check voicemails a bit quicker now!

TabbyM Mon 28-Jan-13 12:44:19

I screen calls as I have to answer phones all day at work - I'm not up for sales calls or no number calls in my own time but I will answer to family or friends. Nobody rings landline except sales calls anyway... Interesting stuff usually text or e-mail

HecateWhoopass Mon 28-Jan-13 12:49:43

grin I am an excellent time keeper.

Probably because I don't get distracted by phone calls or getting into a text exchange when I am in the middle of something else wink

SanityClause Mon 28-Jan-13 12:52:59

Ten years ago, someone would write a letter to us at work, and we would receive it the next day, and write back, and they might be lucky to receive a response two days after they originally wrote, more likely 3 or 4.

Now, they will email, and expect a response in 10 minutes.


Goldmandra Mon 28-Jan-13 13:16:26

I've got an app especially for making groups of people from my contacts, who then get sent to voicemail. Well, I can switch their banishment on and off. But it's usually on. I love it.

I want one!!!!

My mother used to call me every morning at 8.35. That was the time I left to drop off at school. I started answering and explaining that I was just off to school but she carried on. In the end when the phone rang just as we were leaving DD2 would look at me, roll her eyes and sigh "Granny" grin

My DH gets really angry if I don't answer my phone and I do the same walk around the house as three different phones ring and go to voicemail before I get to them angry He then makes assinine comments like "It's called a mobile phone because you can take it with you!!!!"

He also passes me my phone every time it rings or a text arrives and cannot leave the landline to ring during a meal. He only ever made the mistake of bringing it to me in the bath once though!

My family have all now learned that if I ignore the phone it is not because I cannot hear it and telling me it is ringing does not spur me into action. Having said that our washing machine and tumble dryer beep when they have finished and the dog sits and stares at me whimpering until I go and deal with it.

LaQueen Mon 28-Jan-13 13:28:59


Few people have my mobile number. I sometimes have it switched off shock I dislike text messages...

But, then I find mobiles incredibly intrusive, anyway and only carry one since having the DDs [grumpy]

Spero Mon 28-Jan-13 13:51:00

phone avoiders are terrible timekeepers?

I am honestly surprised at that. I avoid the phone because I am such an excellent timekeeper. I know I have X amount of time to do something and breaking off in the middle to answer phone is going to bugger up a carefully planned timetable.

I am never late unless it is beyond my control, sheep on the line etc, etc.

I don't think my time is MORE important than anyone elses, I think it is of equal value. Therefore I don't rush to a ringing phone unless I have the time or inclination for a chat.

diddl Mon 28-Jan-13 13:57:29

The last time I used my mobile was December when I went to UK to visit my Dad.

It has been put away & will stay there until I go to UK again-maybe Easter.

Husband & daughter never have their mobiles on in the house.

There´s no need-we have a landline.

I'm the same. I won't answer the landline because I don't like not knowing who is on the other end and, having never given out the number, I know it's not for me anyway.

Same with the door. If I'm not expecting a parcel and it's not time for the post to be delivered, I don't want to answer it. I don't know anyone around here anyway, so I know it won't be someone who wants to see me, and if it was someone who wanted to pop round then they should have arranged it first.

Antisocial and proud.

diddl Mon 28-Jan-13 14:15:11

Goldmandra-your husband gets angry when you don´t answer your phone?


That is weird!

bran Mon 28-Jan-13 14:22:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Thewhingingdefective Mon 28-Jan-13 14:36:36

YANBU. I hate answering the phone and always leave the answer phone to pick up.

Goldmandra Mon 28-Jan-13 14:38:09

"That is weird!"


He is a slave to his phone and cannot see why I won't do the same smile

My children have ASD. I wonder where it came from? grin

WadingThroughTreacle Mon 28-Jan-13 14:39:55

I truly thought I was the only phone avoider. Now I don't feel so guilty! I come from a family of phone avoiders, it's in my genes. My phone avoidance peaked when I had my first baby and mil seemed to feel it was necessary to call me every day (never having done so for the 13 odd years I knew her before!!)

atthewelles Mon 28-Jan-13 14:46:22


Slightly OT but it also drives me mad when people withhold their number (unless there's a very good reason). If I'm busy I like to know who's ringing me so I can decide whether or not I have the time to answer eg if it's my mum I will always answer as she lives alone and might need something; if it's a friend who I know is probably ringing for a chat I will ignore and call them back.

At present, DS (aged 9) keeps bringing my mobile to me whenever it goes off. I'm working on getting him out of the habit, but it's hard. I don't keep a permanent watch on the phone and don't understand those who do.

serendippity Mon 28-Jan-13 14:49:49

Oh god binky me too! I have the opposite problem with dh. He never answers the sodding phone and it can take him hours to look at a txt. It drives me mad.

toddlerama Tue 29-Jan-13 00:31:58

YES! I am not a phone avoider really, I just don't leap up and pounce on it. This irritates DH beyond all measure. If I answered every time it rang, I would never get anything done.

My mum gets inordinately stroptastic about it too. Leaves sighing messages on the voicemail saying 'only me'. Well that's a pointless message. I can see there's a missed call, having to go through 3's stupidly long voicemail rigmarole to hear 'only me <sigh>' is pretty annoying. Tell me why you rang or don't leave a message.

Really, I'd prefer an email but that seems a bit of a cold request to your mother...grin

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