to think an elderly man should only eat tiny meals?

(109 Posts)
Cailinsalach Thu 24-Jan-13 21:10:14

My eats like a horse. Today he had 2 weetabix a boiled egg, tea and toast for breakfast. Tea and homemade soda bread for elevenses, 2 big bowls of homemade soup, fried chicken, mash and buttered swede and then a bowl of ovenbaked rice pudding for lunch. An apple and half a bag of liquorice allsorts for afternoon snack, a bacon butty, fruit cake and carrot cake and a pint of tea for his tea. He has just mullered the other half bag of liquorice all sorts and is talking about a mug of cocoa as it's near his bedtime.

AIBU to think at 90 the norm for his ilk is Complan and Werthers?

He pulls the half starved orphan routine (complete with quivering lip) if I suggest cutting back on the baking...He then tells me he is doing me a favour eating all the cakes, pies and buns as it would be a mortal sin to allow them to go stale.

Maybe he has worms?

Sirzy Thu 24-Jan-13 21:11:25

If you can't eat what you want at 90 when can you? Leave him be!

Cailinsalach Thu 24-Jan-13 21:11:32

Er My Dad eats like a horse...oh ok, more like a herd of horses....

toomuch2young Thu 24-Jan-13 21:12:12

If he's made it to 90 and going strong he's obviously doing something right grin

MsVestibule Thu 24-Jan-13 21:13:08

That's appalling! He'll never reach old age eating like that.

Sorry but who are you to question what he eats? Or are you just annoyed that you're having to cook so much to keep up? As toomuch2young has said, he must be getting something right!

Salmotrutta Thu 24-Jan-13 21:13:54

Oh for gads sake!

It's probably one of the few remaining pleasures he has, at 90!

Leave him alone. grin

Salmotrutta Thu 24-Jan-13 21:14:56

Gads sake?

God's sake.

LegoAcupuncture Thu 24-Jan-13 21:16:04

Fornthe love of cake, let the man eat!

The "tiny meals" tends to go with being frail and getting little exercise. He sounds like he's still a lively sort of person? If he isn't ill, and isn't puttin gon weight, then I think you have to assume what he's eating is fine for him!

LegoAcupuncture Thu 24-Jan-13 21:16:17

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oneandnomore Thu 24-Jan-13 21:18:03

Good for him!! smile

Cailinsalach Thu 24-Jan-13 21:19:39

Oh I'll let him eat alright, I daren't not. He'd bite my hand off if I didn't.

I have suggested he consider his future health, but he just laughed at me.

(Sigh...the owl fella can be so demanding)

Inertia Thu 24-Jan-13 21:20:48

It must be doing him good if he's fit and well - or are you worried that he's overweight to a harmful degree?

Sounds like he really loves your cooking - bless at the quivering lip when he thought the cakes were being cut back !

Presumably he's not hammering his health with drugs, drink , fast cars and women - if that's the case then let him get some pleasure from food.

Cailinsalach Thu 24-Jan-13 21:26:44

Oh he has vices; he sneaks the odd whisky, has a crafty bet on the horses, chats up women in the waiting room at the Doctor's and I have just found out that when I think he is having his daily walk, he is in fact next door at the neighbour who is reknowned for her boiled fruit cake!

He is unfaithful to my cuisine....(hangs head in shame at thought of Father scrounging cake...)

magimedi Thu 24-Jan-13 22:59:03

He sounds like a great guy! Long may he live.

Lucky bugger. My DGF couldn't eat anything without getting ill. Your DF sounds like a right laugh. grin

My great grandmother is 91 and can eat like that. She also likes a couple of sherries after her mile long walk in the evening

scottishmummy Thu 24-Jan-13 23:11:51

Christ alive the auld boy can eat what he wants at 90
a pint of tea,he got right idea
feed him cake,nae cutting back I'd be affronted if good cake went to waste

nannyof3 Thu 24-Jan-13 23:17:31

Leave him alone!!!

PickledInAPearTree Thu 24-Jan-13 23:21:32

your better off with a bit of meat on your bones at that age.

do you cook all his meals?

can I move in?

Callycat Thu 24-Jan-13 23:22:23

He sounds AWESOME.

He. Sounds. Awesome.

Ooh x post!

My dad is 86. He eats:

Breakfast: 1 slice of whole meal bread with white cheese, and a glass of natural yoghurt drink.
Dinner/tea: 1 potato, portion of meat/fish, one helping of veg
Supper: 1 pot of youghurt with oats.

Some days he eat a snack: like a couple of grapes, or a satsuma.

He is in a wheelchair, so conscious that he must not put on weigh. He takes no exercise.

Is your dad very active?
Or is he overweight?

Unless he was overweight, I would let him enjoy his food!

What a man! He sounds very robust. Feed him what he wants, I'll be round to eat any time you like, your meals sound wonderful.

pigletmania Thu 24-Jan-13 23:29:23

Well op hes got to 90 on his diet, leave him alone to enjoy he rest of his life. He does not need silly diets now

BistoBearWithBaublesOn Thu 24-Jan-13 23:31:49

MsVestibule Thu 24-Jan-13 21:13:08
That's appalling! He'll never reach old age eating like that.

^ This made me laugh! smile

Kormachameleon Thu 24-Jan-13 23:34:33

That's great to hear
My nan is 87 and is wasting away to nothing, she literally exists on a few mouthfuls each day sad

Let him pile it in, god bless him x

SirBoobAlot Thu 24-Jan-13 23:44:59

Oh leave the sod alone.

Punkatheart Thu 24-Jan-13 23:46:37

I have always eaten a lot - I mean a lot. I don't put on weight and now I have lymphoma - I have to eat lots of empty calories. I am sitting in bed now eating Haribou rings off my fingers.

He sounds healthy and good appetite is a sign of health...

Bloody hell even if he's over weight I'd let him eat what he likes at 90!

MrsMushroom Thu 24-Jan-13 23:49:20

My Mum is a carer....visiting elderly people at home and she is always saying how much a lot of them eat! She reels off their menus to me. hmm

FanFuckingTastic Thu 24-Jan-13 23:49:42

Future health pah! At ninety I think you've earned your eating without watching the calories badge.

I don't know about your illness Punkatheart, but when I am ill I eat empty calories as much as possible as they make me puke the least. Sweets and chocolate, cereal bar only to take the heavy on your stomach meds.

So fat now, it sucks.

ComposHat Thu 24-Jan-13 23:52:54

Future health at 90? Fucking Hell at that age I wouldn't be buying under ripe bannanas at that age, let alone worrying about my future health.

Anyway if I made it to 90 I wouldn't be eating bananas. The only fruit I would consume would be the lemon in G&Ts I will be drinking all day long.

thezebrawearspurple Thu 24-Jan-13 23:53:24

He should be enjoying every scrap and denying himself nothing at his age. By the sounds of it, it's doing him good.

ThatVikRinA22 Thu 24-Jan-13 23:54:01

i like the cut of his jib OP!
long may he eat like a horse (just avoid burgers or he will not just be eating like a dont shop at Tesco do you?) smile

ComposHat Thu 24-Jan-13 23:56:08

Tesco Neigh, neigh and thrice neigh!

I shop at Lidl.

I wouldn't eat one of tesco's horse burgers, but I do enjoy my Lidl pony burgers.

My Dear Old Dad (76) is a very fit and healthy diabetic. But he gets up, has his bran flakes "with a few raisins" and tea and toast.
Then when I go for breakfast, he's whittering on about What do you want for lunch? rifling about in the freezer.
I'm "^whaat^" rubbing my eyes.

Yes I get the lip at the denial of carrot cake or fruit cake (he doesn't have a sweet tooth really, I think it's an act)

He has a few boiled sweets squirreled away for diabetic emergencies.
He walks more than your average postman and is built like a hatstand. grin

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Fri 25-Jan-13 00:01:32

What are you worried about - that he's eating through your inheritance grin

He sounds fab - get baking!

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Fri 25-Jan-13 00:03:20

Compo grin

ToomuchWaternotWine Fri 25-Jan-13 01:02:11

If he's well, healthy and has energy to enjoy life at 90, then all power to his cake lifting elbow.

But why did you ask? are you concerned for his health/weight? or just thought older people always eat less? Are you worried about food costs? I know our budget would struggle to keep up with an extra person eating that much!

MidniteScribbler Fri 25-Jan-13 01:11:03

My grandmother used to eat dessert before her main meal. She said that if she died during the meal she didn't want to miss dessert!

WorraLiberty Fri 25-Jan-13 01:13:24

He sounds bored to be honest.

My Dad is 81 and if he didn't keep as active as he does (he has an amazing social life) he would probably do nothing other than eat and watch TV.

Does he have/is he able to have a busy social life?

deleted203 Fri 25-Jan-13 01:14:33

Your da sounds fab! Long may he continue. My grandad was like this (although he gave up smoking at 90 because he thought it wasn't doing him much good anymore......he started at 11 apparently!)

80sMum Fri 25-Jan-13 01:19:38

My mum's 87 and has a verh good appetite, similar to your dad, OP. My mil, 88, has a tiny appetite and seems hardly to eat enough to keep a flea alive.
Nevertheless both of these elderly ladies are fit and well (or as well as can be expected when you're on the wrong side of 85). My point is, their eating habits work for them and don't appear to have done/be doing them any harm. Your dad's fine.

StuntGirl Fri 25-Jan-13 01:25:50

Goodness, why are you bothered? He sounds fine, as long as it's doing him no harm leave the poor sod be.

ripsishere Fri 25-Jan-13 01:50:51

Sounds great OP.
I was sad for the man who feels he needs to keep his weight down because he uses a wheelchair.

TanteRose Fri 25-Jan-13 01:53:39

My 93 year old FIL has just discovered McDonalds - he is always out and about, and is well chuffed that he can get a Big Mac and chips in town. He seems to be eating them every day recently grin

He also LOVES grape Fanta (my DS introduced him to this one...)

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deleted203 Fri 25-Jan-13 01:58:19

I tell you what....if I get to 90 I'm gonna stuff my face! With whatever I fancy. (Which will be junk food and cake based on my current diet).

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 25-Jan-13 02:03:47

My grandad was like this, loved his food and used to eat loads. grin

Fried chicken and mash? Yum!

Morloth Fri 25-Jan-13 07:53:08

Fuck it, if I get to 90, I intend to live solely on chocolate, cheese and booze. Lots and lots of booze.

Bluebelleswood Fri 25-Jan-13 12:05:48

I have one at home just like yours. Except he is only 85. After a 3 course meal, including a pudding with custard, he still asks for "just a little piece of cake," to help him get his coffee down.
And he is slim.
He also chats up ladies of all ages in the doctors, and ingratiates himself with the neighbours in the hope of cake.

cory Fri 25-Jan-13 12:07:46

MidniteScribbler Fri 25-Jan-13 01:11:03
"My grandmother used to eat dessert before her main meal. She said that if she died during the meal she didn't want to miss dessert! "

I love your grandmother! grin

starfishmummy Fri 25-Jan-13 12:09:00

A lot of elderly people are borderline malnourished because they don't eat enough.
Doesn't sound like that is a problem with him, so as long as there are no health issues, then let him enjoy his food

Bluebelleswood Fri 25-Jan-13 12:11:15

Cailinsalach, he also uses the same argument re. Hating waste, before he eats whatever left overs he stumbles across. Eg 6 mince pies in a cake tin. (" they go off you know".
Why oh why didn't I inherit his metabolism.?

Bluebelleswood Fri 25-Jan-13 12:14:39

Midnight, my grandma used to do that, but she explained it was because she was Welsh. I was disappointed, on a trip to Wales when I was 10, to discover that the rest of the Welsh didn't do it too!

Bluebelleswood Fri 25-Jan-13 12:15:19


EldritchCleavage Fri 25-Jan-13 13:35:48

Oh you lucky thing, you've got a healthy, happy father. Cherish it every single day, seriously.

AuntieMaggie Fri 25-Jan-13 13:45:11

Sorry OP but this made me giggle - especially the 93 year old that likes macdonalds! grin

YellowTulips Fri 25-Jan-13 13:54:07

Can I come and eat at yours? The food you cook sounds wonderful :-)

Promise food fidelity - no sneaking off for fruit cake next door!

DreamingOfTheMaldives Fri 25-Jan-13 14:13:01

Send him round to my house for tea and cake. I love baking but my husband doesn't have a sweet tooth so I just end up eating it all, therefore I don't bake very often.

I do take some to the homeless shelter though if the baking urge takes over.

Chunderella Fri 25-Jan-13 14:17:27

Sounds like the old bugger has the right idea, spending his days eating and perving. That's the life.

My Dad (71) has been told to shape up by his he is on the 5/2 diet, stuffing his face for the 5 days....I am not sure he has quite cottoned on to how it works! grin If he wants to get to 90, he is going to have to take it a bit mroe seriously.

halcyondays Fri 25-Jan-13 15:14:29

If I was 90 and somebody suggested I should think of my future health, I would laugh too.

Pandemoniaa Fri 25-Jan-13 15:21:09

I have suggested he consider his future health, but he just laughed

Quite right too. I remember a social worker getting very snarky about my 92 year old grandfather's insistence on smoking 2 cigarettes per day because of his future health. He gave her a scornful look and replied "look here, Missis. I'm 92. I'll take the risk of it cutting my life short".

Psammead Fri 25-Jan-13 15:23:02

I plan to take up smoking in a big way once I hit 85. Fag and a cream cake for breakfast, fried everything and a joint for lunch, afternoon munchies for popcorn and cheese on toast, dinner of wine, fags and a full roast.

Can't bloody wait.

Pandemoniaa Fri 25-Jan-13 15:23:26

PS. If I'm lucky enough to live to 90 it's to be hoped that disgraceful living is a major contributor.

nickelbabe Fri 25-Jan-13 15:24:09

I think it's great.

I'm fed up of old people who don't eat enough (or drink enough for that matter) and then end up ill because of it.

good on your dad grin

FannyFifer Fri 25-Jan-13 15:29:55

Your dad an come for tea and cakes at mines anytime. He sounds great.

You sound like you adore him as well.

I wish my Dad (85) would eat like that! He did up until he broke his hip last September, but since then (although he's fully recovered in other ways) his appetite has shrunk, and it's difficult to get enough into him - and yep, he's losing weight. Dr said he should be eating little and often, so I'm doing my best (am currently staying with him and looking after him) to make sure that's what he does, but he's pretty resistant (though is supplementing the solids with copious amounts of vodka and white wine!). I'm just worried that when I go home for a few weeks he'll stop eating altogether and just drink. Can't get him to go out - not even for important appointments unless I'm here and 'make' him, so it's all a bit of a worry. It'd be so much easier if we lived in the same country, but we don't, so my time here is limited, and am an only child, so no one else to take over when I go back to see my husband for a while.

So, OP, your dad sounds as though he's doing brilliantly - but would hate to have your grocery bill!

degutastic Fri 25-Jan-13 16:31:11

What a legend grin long may he eat, drink, chat up the girls and practice cake infidelity grin

Future health at 90? Fucking Hell at that age I wouldn't be buying under ripe bannanas at that age, let alone worrying about my future health.

HA! grin

ComposHat Fri 25-Jan-13 16:45:50

long may he eat, drink, chat up the girls

I was wondering at what age to you stop being a lecherous old git and start being a silver haired old charmer?

I asked a colleague at work and she said 'when they are too old to do anything about it'

my granddad is 94 and has a very healthy appetite still. He's not very mobile these days but still eats lots and is quite skinny.

he also likes a pint of bitter with his lunch, a glass of wine with dinner and a whisky before bed grin

MusicalEndorphins Fri 25-Jan-13 17:07:48

I am so glad to hear this to tell the truth. So many elders get anemic from dinners of tea and toast!

TheToadLessTravelled Fri 25-Jan-13 17:09:42

When a friend of my nans got into her 80s she decided that she was going to indulge herself and no longer eat the veges etc she hated, or do anything else she didnt like.

From then on she lived in her pajamas and existed almost solely on chocolate and covered chocolate biscuits. She lively very happily for another ten years grin

apostropheuse Fri 25-Jan-13 17:22:51

He then tells me he is doing me a favour eating all the cakes, pies and buns as it would be a mortal sin to allow them to go stale.

OP Your owl daddy would have got on great with my granny. That would have been exactly what she would have said too! Or she would have told him he was a divil of a man. grin

SinisterBuggyMonth Fri 25-Jan-13 17:28:35

Please can I swap my DF for yours Op? Mine is half his age, miserable, ill, aggresive, impossible but he eats about a fraction of yours.

Plus I love to bake!

Samu2 Fri 25-Jan-13 17:30:35

If I make it to 90 years old I am going to eat all the things and take up smoking again!!

That's my plan.

susanann Fri 25-Jan-13 17:37:34

Good for him. Thats pretty awesome! lol

scottishmummy Fri 25-Jan-13 19:12:13

when I'm 90 will take up drinking,smoking ,garish clothes and younger men

Cakecrumbsinmybra Fri 25-Jan-13 19:21:57

I so hope I am like him at 90! God, it would be something to look forward to if one could guarantee we'd all end up like him. I saw a 98 year old this morning on the news who still worked 3 days a week in a pub! She was amazing!

fieldfare Fri 25-Jan-13 19:27:31

He sounds fabulous! I insist you bake him more cakes and leave him be. I am grinning at the thought of him scrounging more cake from your neighbour!

scottishmummy Fri 25-Jan-13 19:34:56

get dad an iPad he be a right laugh bet he'd get all goin with his stories

Gunznroses Fri 25-Jan-13 19:35:35

Way to go dad! He sounds awesome!

OP, watch and Learn, Watch and Learn.

boredSAHMof4 Fri 25-Jan-13 19:57:12

There's a 92 yo man in our running club who trains 3 times a week and often does a 10k race on the weekends too.I should imagine he needs to eat plenty.

Cailinsalach Fri 25-Jan-13 20:34:08

Well it seems the Da is a hit on here with all the bakers. I told him I grassed him up to Mumsnet and he has offered to deal with all the surplus buns you can throw at him I presume he meant that figuratively.
The shopping bill is significant. I am resigned to an inheritance of a few cake crumbs . He had another epicurean day of delight and requested that I make a bread and butter pudding for him tomorrow and a treacle cake. As its Saturday tomorrow, he likes a big fry for tea. His ambition for this year is to win the Oldest Man In The Parish at the OAP Christmas Party. He reckons the guy who won it this year hasn't another year in him. He is a competitive geriatric.
I loved all the stories about these hungry OAPs.

Gunznroses Fri 25-Jan-13 21:18:36

Cor OP! Bet your dad 'scores' with all the ladies in your parish and at the xmas party grin

Dahlialover Fri 25-Jan-13 21:36:55

I had a 98 year old friend. The first thing I noticed about him (we were out for lunch with a group) was his healthy appetite. He was an absolute gentleman, used to sing for the mothers union, and was president of the local brass band. He was a great charmer and got TWO kisses out of me last time I saw him. Sadly, his diminishing appetite went along with a few other problems he started having and he died after a fall. He was such fun whilst he was here smile

Foggles Fri 25-Jan-13 21:40:34

It sounds like he has a good old fashioned appetite.

The type you were allowed to have before the food police arrived and spoilt our fun. grin

Morloth Sat 26-Jan-13 11:06:12

Imagine, just having a ciggie, a double espresso and a chunk of chocolate for breakfast, safe in the knowledge that it is not going to make any bloody difference. Bliss.

Roll on old age. Though I don't intend to get very old.wink

Thingiebob Sat 26-Jan-13 11:15:30

My mum has stopped eating vegetables. Her excuse is 'I've had 60 odd years of eating the fucking things, I've had enough'.

Madlizzy Sat 26-Jan-13 11:31:54

Hell, at his age, I'll be back on the fags, mainlining vodka and eating any shit I fancy. Good man. grin

pjmama Sat 26-Jan-13 11:33:43

Ha ha brilliant Thingiebob! Your mum is ace.

AmberLeaf Sat 26-Jan-13 11:42:05

Ah he sounds lovely!

Its heartbreaking to see an old person lose their appetite, so Id keep feeding him.

At that age he deserves to have what he enjoys.

Mockingcurl Sat 26-Jan-13 11:42:22

When I'm 90 I'm going to live entirely in chocolate. Loads of it. I might even start at 60. YABU.

OscarPistoriusBitontheside Sat 26-Jan-13 11:42:28

He sounds brilliant! What a legend! I wish my nanna, age 90, had his joie d'vivre! She makes a big deal out of not eating enough or drinking enough despite still being very mobile and fit, but she's got it into her head that she is old and must be frail, even though she isn't!

If I get to that age I shall smoke, drink and be generally raucous!

mrsjay Sat 26-Jan-13 11:46:15

If he he can't stuff himself with grub at 90 when can he bless him you must be a fab cook smile

mrsjay Sat 26-Jan-13 11:48:57

my old neighbour had a fall when she was 95 and had to go into a care home

up until then she was going to the bingo meeting her friends at the club entertaining her 2 GENTLEMEN FRIENDS on 2 different nights one a wednesday the other a sunday, and generally being an embarrassment to her 65 yr old daughter

she was a true legend grin

clicketyclick66 Sat 26-Jan-13 11:52:12

Awwww, Cailínsalach - I'd love to have your Dad as a neighbour. Sounds like he is a social butterfly, very active and a much loved guy.

OP, why are you a dirty girl??????


mrsjay Sat 26-Jan-13 11:52:24

there was a woman on BBC breakfast today she was 98 and still working in the same pub she had for 50 odd years she cut her days down from 6 till 3 and all the customers loved her she could still pull a pint and at the end they showed her dd her Gd her gggd and her GGGGD it was was lovely and i may have shed a tear, I wish i could do links i would have show you all ,

MammaTJ Sat 26-Jan-13 12:01:42

I work in a home for the elderly. Basically the days are spent giving them food and drink constantly and dealing with the, erm, effects of having given them food and drink.

GothAnneGeddes Sat 26-Jan-13 12:16:52

O.P your dad sounds sounds brilliant and hearing about him and the other robust OAP's has really put a smile on my face smile

specialsubject Sat 26-Jan-13 12:19:01

apart from too many sweets, doesn't sound too much food to me. I don't think he's the one with the problem, is he?

Bluebelleswood Sat 26-Jan-13 13:16:39

Cailinsalach, my Df can't wait to read the obituaries in the local paper. He considers it a great achievement if he has out lived long lost acquaintances and old school pals.

CaptChaos Sat 26-Jan-13 13:33:06

OP, your Da sounds like a fella after my own heart. He sounds like my darling Grampy was before he sadly died. All that lovely food has kept that twinkle in his eye!

Should I ever get to 90, I shall eat a similar diet in his honour.

idococktailshedoesbeer Sat 26-Jan-13 16:40:22

I love your dad!

crocodilesmiles Mon 28-Jan-13 16:19:51


I watched a programme about community nurses, at the weekend. There was a lady on it who was 102! She said she believed that she'd reached such an old age because she had a good appetite...He must be doing something right to get to his age!

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