To be disappointed that Dp made my tea in my least favourite mug

(176 Posts)
usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:05:37

I have several favourite mugs, Is it too much to ask that he uses one of them and not the horrible thick one? I like a nice thin china mug.


Ok I'm bored, sorry.

trixymalixy Wed 23-Jan-13 21:07:31

YANBU, I hate when tea is made in the wrong mug. I have my DH well trained in my hierarchy of mugs.

However YABU to prefer a thin mug. That's just wrong.

AmberLeaf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:09:29

Ruination. The wrong mug is just wrong.

Tip it down the sink and make him do it again you abusive sod

IAmLouisWalsh Wed 23-Jan-13 21:09:33

I have to have a thick mug, but specifically one of my nice blue ones.

My mam always uses the thin china ones on the top shelf.

If I go under a bus tomorrow, the mugs will never ever ever be put away properly again. It's not hard, but there is a system!

Ginshizz Wed 23-Jan-13 21:10:59


Mug etiquette is crucial. Getting wrong is bad and he needs to buy you something to make up for it


Leave the bastard wink

Zappo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:12:14


I cannot abide drinking tea from a mug or cup that isn't white on the inside. The tea looks a strange colour and imo tastes funny!

ThePinkOcelot Wed 23-Jan-13 21:13:28

YANBU! Some mugs just make a horrible cup of tea.

sittinginthesun Wed 23-Jan-13 21:14:29

I have DH well trained. grin

Thin mug (green spotty if available), for tea. Thick Habitat mug for coffee. Thin mug for black coffee in the summer. It's not difficult.


My DH knows I only ever drink my coffee out of my lovely 'Mrs Gerard Butler' cup that he bought me. He would never dare to make it in the wrong one or I would put jelly in his shoes grin

GroupieGirl Wed 23-Jan-13 21:16:15

trixy I too have a heirarchy of mugs...but my biggest pet hate is taking a lower-ranked mug from the cupboard when there is a superior model on the draining board.

WorraLiberty Wed 23-Jan-13 21:16:22


My DH made my tea in my hot chocolate mug the other day

TEA from a mug with 'Terry's Chocolate Orange' on the front??? << Classy >>

I withered him with a death stare.

everlong Wed 23-Jan-13 21:16:39

Glad it's not just me. I have only 4 mugs that I drink out nutcase

Nancy66 Wed 23-Jan-13 21:16:39

You are damn well not being unreasonable.

I have one mug for tea and one for coffee and I hate it when i get given my tea mug with coffee in it.

Mrsrobertduvall Wed 23-Jan-13 21:16:50

Ds made me one earlier in the big doggy chunky mug which is his.

I made him make me another one and whipped him

Zappo - I am so glad you've posted that, I am exactly the same. Tea in a cup with a non white inside is just wrong and doesn't taste right.

I've just shown your post to dd1&2 who thought it was just me being odd.

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:20:43

I always make his tea in his formula one cup,so tomorrow I'm going to make his tea in the I love my grandma mug and see how he likes it.

thegreylady Wed 23-Jan-13 21:20:43

I hate it if someone else uses my mugs! It isnt hard-if it says grandma it is mine, if it has a mouse on it- mine,the thick one with pic of cream tea-mine,the flowery Cath Kidston or two more but people will use mine.There are 4 Next mugs with flowers on-not mine-easy grin

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:20:54


DD made me a cup of tea in the wrong cup (I have two stripy bastards). I keep meaning to bin them so it never happens again. It was horrible. Cup is the wrong shape and size.

I also have 'nice' wooden spoons and 'bastard' wooden spoons.

Three divisions of teaspoons and forks (I have mixed cutlery because I have to replace it because all the cutlery gets fucking LOST).

And three precious square bowls. I can't be doing with the circular bowls.

bedmonster Wed 23-Jan-13 21:21:39

I don't drink hot drinks, but my mum will only drink coffee out of my bunnykins christening mug! She looks quite cute all tucked up on the sofa with my dinky little mug! But then she does go on at length when I make her a cold drink about the glasses she will/won't drink out of - nothing 'stubby', too tall, too thick, too thin, preferably a medium rounded heavy bottomed tumbler. freak

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:21:47

DD bought me a great cup for Christmas - Usain Bolt with the queen's head on. But I can't use it to drink out of - it's wrong.

shallweshop Wed 23-Jan-13 21:22:55

YANBU. I hate it when DH makes me a morning cuppa at weekends and he uses one of the old mugs from the back of the cupboard (kept for using with a flask on picnics etc) rather than take a nice clean freshly washed one from the dishwasher!!

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:23:03

God we are all mad.

Zappo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:25:18

The Original

It makes perfect sense as you can't tell if you've got the strength right/ put enough or too much milk in if the inside is anything but white as the colour of the tea is different. (I will admit to occasionally sniffing a cuppa to see if it's been made the right strength for me but I still need the right visuals).

My colleagues now know the drill after palming me off with a blue on the inside orange on the outside horror a while back.

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:25:25

Cold drinks must be drunk out of a tall thin glass.

shallweshop Wed 23-Jan-13 21:25:39

GetOrf - nearly spat my tea out at you calling cups 'stripy bastards'!

ClippedPhoenix Wed 23-Jan-13 21:27:24

Have you pissed him off then? grin My DP and I are totally passive aggressive sometimes and give signs!

RustyBear Wed 23-Jan-13 21:27:34

Perhaps he felt sorry for the thick mug never being used.....

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:28:16

lol shallwe - I have no idea where they came from, I hate them with a vengeance. They are bastards.

I have two tea towels which I hate as well. I always feel a bit pissed off when those two are the only clean ones left in the drawer.

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 21:28:19


Why, when we have friends round, does DP bypass all the nice cups and make them a drink in the crap ones confused

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:29:05

The thick mugs are for the use of DS and his mates.

TheMaskedHorror Wed 23-Jan-13 21:30:32

I was most hurt the other day when dh made 2 cups of tea and gave me the mug I'd bought for him! it was a lovely mug with a pic of dc on it.

Why did he not drink from that mug himself? <annoyed at him>

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 21:30:36

I should also confess to having made DP go back into the kitchen and pour tea into a better cup grin

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:31:28

IF I had passed him off I would have got the I'm a twat mug grin

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:32:18

Pissed not passed, this bloody non swearing kindle

Zappo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:32:58

Slightly off tangent and a bit OCD, I hate mugs being taken into the bathroom. Why do you need to take your coffee in when you go for wee or a bath ( I say coffee because that's what DP drinks).

I just think it's a bit yuck to take mugs or any thing you eat or drink off into the place where you poo

Nancy66 Wed 23-Jan-13 21:33:00

coffee in a glass - don't get me started on that.

If I order a latte in a cafe and it comes in a glass it makes me feel murderous

sittinginthesun Wed 23-Jan-13 21:33:16

Oh, and another thing - when my inlaws visit, they drink so much tea they start using the "emergency mugs", which are usually hidden at the back of the glasses cupboard so that no one uses them.

Then, they wash them up and put them at the front of my nice cupboard, next to the tea bags!!!

Takes me ages to rearrange them. And DH forgets the rule, and makes ME tea in the emergency mug ("I love being 40", "shagging rabbits" etc).

Zappo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:34:49

"I should also confess to having made DP go back into the kitchen and pour tea into a better cup"

The downside being that this cools the tea a bit too much- tea should be taken as hot as can be (says me with the asbestos mouth)

TheCrackFox Wed 23-Jan-13 21:35:06

DH once made me a coffee in an absolutely hideous Wiinie the Pooh mug (DS2 won't let me throw it away). I ask you?

mum11970 Wed 23-Jan-13 21:35:06

Well thanks very much, I want a cup of tea now and I'm all tucked up in bed. Going to have to get up now and that's going to wake the dogs up again and they won't be happy. Arghh. There better be a decent mug left when I get down there.

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 21:35:57

That's what annoys me about DP. He makes guests drinks and uses the emergency cups. Who the fuck does that?

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:36:48

I drank my tea in a huffy manner.

Zappo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:37:48

"coffee in a glass - don't get me started on that.

If I order a latte in a cafe and it comes in a glass it makes me feel murderous "

Just reminded me, my DM used to drink tea out of a glass mug!!

OohMrDarcy Wed 23-Jan-13 21:38:23

ohhh YANBU

I too have a system... all tea (mine) will be drunk from my GIANT '30 and FAB' mug <classy> <also no longer 30>

All hot chocolate shall be drunk from my hot chocolate mug

very occasional coffees come from my tigger mug

even DD (5) and DS (3) know this... should DH fail they would correct grin

on the other side, DH has a specific coffee mug too

BelaLugosisShed Wed 23-Jan-13 21:38:54

China cup or earthen wear Mug , china mugs are just plain wrong - I know what I'm talking about, I come from the Potteries wink

I do complain endlessly should DH bring me my first cup of tea of the day in my large mug, I have my wake up tea in my small mug. He knows this and, despite repeated punishments, he continues. He must like being locked in the wardrobe.

Inertia Wed 23-Jan-13 21:40:24


What's worse is when they give other people your favourite mug. My favourite mug was a birthday present from a friend , and I was going to make my tea in it when she visited so I could comment on how much I liked the mug and what a great present it was. Then DH made friend's tea in the mug. So I couldn't say how much I liked it in case she thought I was being passive-aggressive about her drinking from it, but if I didn't mention it she might have been hurt that it wasn't treated as a special mug.

<Possibly reading too much into mug etiquette>

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 21:40:40

DP is from the Potteries. He should know what he's doing ffs grin

sudaname Wed 23-Jan-13 21:42:18

My DH decided to defrost a few prawns for his sandwiches next day in my favourite mug. This was made even worse if at all possible by him being fully aware l hate prawns with a passion.

I says 'Why couldnt you have used one of the many plastic containers or a chipped bowl l keep in cupboard for things like this ?'

'Well' he says - it'll get washed , what's the problem ?'

Yeah ,yeah - l know - l'm gonna have to arent l?


LiveItUp Wed 23-Jan-13 21:42:18

Ooh, you are so NBU. Certain mugs, certain times of day. Glad it's not just me! Some men need so much training (sighs loudly)

Tea just doesn't taste right out of a thick mug, it's gotta be China.
I will be showing this thread to dcs to prove I am not weird in being a fussy cow about my favourite cup (they'd have you believe I change which is my 'favourite' on a weekly basis)
Throw it down the sink and demand a fresh one is made PROPERLY!

Sokmonsta Wed 23-Jan-13 21:44:29

I've solved our problem of tea not being in a bone china mug. With only 3 exceptions (dh has a Starbucks coffee mug and the elder dc have a small, thick mug each), our collection of mugs are bone china. Saves me being disappointed as it does not taste the same in a thick mug <scowls thinking of my chunky mug at mums>

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:45:09

Lol at the potteries.

I have to have tea lava hot. Xp used to make the tea and then DITHER in the kitchen for a few minutes and then give the tea to me not completely boiling.

And my xMIL. I love her very much but why does she stir cups of tea and coffee in an endless vortex for minutes on end? Just give me my bloody tea and put the spoon down.

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:45:52

I have to control my anger if DS gives one of his great hulking mates my mug with the beach huts on.

Foggles Wed 23-Jan-13 21:46:40

I would like to donate at least half a dozen bastard mugs that are cluttering up my cupboards. I keep hiding them behind closed doors but they make their way onto the mug tree.

I especially would like to donate DH's Darth Vader mug that breathes heavily when I switch the kitchen light on.

seeker Wed 23-Jan-13 21:47:41

Never mind all this mug business-GetOrf, our cutlery gets lost too. How, for the love of mike, how?????? it can't bloody walk, or phone for a cab- where is it all???

LiveItUp Wed 23-Jan-13 21:47:51

Yes, GetOrf, no dithering, not too much milk, has to be still virtually boiling.

BelaLugosisShed Wed 23-Jan-13 21:49:33

Dear departed MIL used to have China beakers <shudder> , my Grandma
( who worked for Clarice Cliffe) would have been horrified .

DH is just as bad, he has to have his weekend-morning tea in his humungous Star Trek mug - I can't use his Boba Fett mug, that's special . hmm

Foggles Wed 23-Jan-13 21:49:33

I would like a colour chart on my kitchen wall so I could ring the colour I want my tea.

mum11970 Wed 23-Jan-13 21:52:20

Back with my panad (tea) in a nice thin, plain white mug. Dh seems to have a problem with the top half of a mug, what's the use in half a cup of tea.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Wed 23-Jan-13 21:52:23

Have just read the first post and thought Greensleeves/Alfrex - is that you? grin

beachyhead Wed 23-Jan-13 21:52:42

My husband takes my best mug OUTSIDE..... There are outside mugs, and there are strictly inside mugs......

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:53:09

Seeker - where does cutlery bloody go, it is one of my perennial rants 'why in the name of GOD are there only two TWO TWO teaspoons in the drawer' and then scour the house in rage.

Not knives. I have about 27 knives. And lots of desertspoons. But no teaspoons and forks. Forks! How do I lose forks?

Liveitup - only a tiny bit of milk. I can't have it too milky because of (a) temperature and (b) vile milkiness.

Oh god I am going to die alone.

MildredIsMyAlterEgo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:53:43

My DH decided to defrost a few prawns for his sandwiches next day in my favourite mug

For the love of god Mr Sudaname - not acceptable. Not acceptable at all.

Oh the sheer disappointment of being served tea in a glass mug. Totally ruins any possible enjoyment from having a cup of tea. Made all the worse if you have been out and about and are wet/cold/grumpy and haven't had a cuppa in hours. This happens a lot in Poland. Mind you they don't make tea properly over there anyway let alone serve it in an acceptable vessel.

I'll stop now.

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 21:54:18

Lol at inside and outside mugs

LoveMyBoots Wed 23-Jan-13 21:54:42

So very glad to hear that I am not the only one with a mug hierarchy (DH thinks I'm barking).

And also glad that someone else feels the need for a tea colour chart. Why wouldn't you?

misscomanche Wed 23-Jan-13 21:54:42

YANB at all U- there are good tea vessels and completely wrong vessels. Thin china is best, thick mugs are awful. They seem to retain the heat for ages and burn my hands while the tea itself grows cold.
And getorf I also have a lovely wooden spoon and a substandard spoon that upsets me when I have to use it.
And soup spoons are best for cereal. And forks with 3 prongs are iffy.

pepperrabbit Wed 23-Jan-13 21:56:00

I have had the kitchen painted the same colour as my favourite mug.

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 21:56:04

I agree beachyhead

The outside mugs are the ones I can give to the window cleaner happy in the knowledge that should he forget to pass it back to me, I'm not going to be pissed off it's been left outside for days.

I've got mugs for coffee (sort of barrell shaped that hold the heat and alot of coffee)

Special little glass ones for my Tassimmo. << strokes Tassimmo gently)

If my DS (13 yo) made me coffee, I'd even drink it from the guinea-pigs bowl. But the lazy little blighter wouldn't.
13 yo. it too late to leave him somewhere. The maternity ward isn't an option, it closed down hmm

MildredIsMyAlterEgo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:56:55

A 3-pronged fork shock

Not under my roof

Foggles Wed 23-Jan-13 21:57:06

The weight of cutlery is important.

It is impossible to eat a meal with a heavy knife and a lightweight fork.

You would just fall over.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:57:11

YES I knew it couldnt be just me with a spiteful wooden spoon (it is spiteful because it doesn't have a decent edge so if I stir something it catches). I hate that spoon.

I still however have a much loved metal cooking spoon which I remember buying when pregnant with dd, and it has been on its travels with me for 18 years. I love that spoon.

LiveItUp Wed 23-Jan-13 21:57:14

Too true, favourite inside mugs can not be risked in the great outside.

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 21:58:00

Glass 'cups' make tea and coffee look too milky.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 21:58:04

oh dear god what the hell - i love that spoon, I hate that spoon.

I am totally sober, btw.

LiveItUp Wed 23-Jan-13 22:00:28

And those brown tinted glass mugs .... NEVER.

seeker Wed 23-Jan-13 22:01:22

One of the most useful things my iPhone can do is provide me with a 2.5 minute timer for tea bag in mug.

There is nothing strange about that last sentence at all.

sittinginthesun Wed 23-Jan-13 22:01:50

OMG brown tinted glass mugs!! I remember those from our student house, hundreds of years ago. Do they still make them?

3monkeys3 Wed 23-Jan-13 22:02:25

YANBU! I need a nice mug!

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 22:05:02

My DD keeps one of those 1980s throwback tinted glass mugs at my house for when she visits.It is not allowed out of the cupboard at any other time.

shrinkingnora Wed 23-Jan-13 22:05:14

Foggles you need one of these

My children keep smashing my favourite mugs angry

I went to see a magician the other day and while the spoon and fork and wine glass bending was really amazing it worried and upset me that he didn't bend them back

PartTimeModel Wed 23-Jan-13 22:08:01

How could he???
brew <<<< this cup is too small btw.

apostropheuse Wed 23-Jan-13 22:10:39


I like my tea out of a fine china mug too. It must be predominantly white - and definitely white inside.

This is one of those areas where, unfortunately, there can be no compromise. It is because it is.

I think you would get a divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour.


I just reiterated to DP the hierarchy of mugs after reading through this. Just so he knows. He said 'oh I thought the cupcake mug was your favourite..' This was true until it got a chip, now it lives at the back with the bastard mugs.

Bogeyface Wed 23-Jan-13 22:14:48

~This winds me up so much!

He always makes it in the wrong sodding mug, and then gets huffy if I go and change it!

fluffywhitekittens Wed 23-Jan-13 22:15:25

I'm glad it's not just me who has inside and outside mugs.
DHhas a black mug that says "RTFM" on it. He knows I hate it and will threaten to make tea in it for me. angry
I have recently given away some of my least favourite mugs and need to find some more that reach my high standards.

TheFallenNinja Wed 23-Jan-13 22:15:34

We men have a natural affinity with thick mugs smile

Geekster Wed 23-Jan-13 22:19:30

No way, my DH always asks which mug I want, it changes depending on the time of day and my mood. He's given up trying to guess!

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 23-Jan-13 22:20:19

My ex made coffees/teas for his mates out of my mug.
We are now divorced.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:22:48

I remember a segment on Watchdog (Lynne Faulds-Wood - death traps) about those blackened glass plates which used to EXPLODE if you dropped them. I wanted some.

My gran used to have a neighbour called Uncle Ron who came in every month or so for a cup of tea - he was a bit whiffy so she gave him one of those smoky glass cups. He wasn't allowed a decent cup.

sudaname Wed 23-Jan-13 22:22:56

Yes Mildred l know.

There they were the shit eating fishy smelling little yucky bastards bobbing around in my favourite cup full of water.

Sorry, l 'll get counselling or LTB


Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 22:25:09

I do get a bit miffed if he constantly uses the wrong mug. I like both coffee and tea and I use a different mug for each one.

To be honest, he never makes me any tea or coffee anyway so he's unlikely to remember. To be even more honest, I've switched to using coffee glasses now as I like about three cups in one go.

Oh wait, I made it all about me again. OP, YANBU! If he does it every time. If it was a one off and just cba to wash your usual mug up, then YABU. If you want something done properly you have to do it yourself...

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:25:12

I bought some stainless steel little cups to drink mulled wine out of one christmas.

They were wrong.

But what do you drink mulled wine out of?

Wine glasses - wrong
Cups - wrong
Tumblers - strangely wrong
Glass mugs - Birds of a feather wrong

May as well just slurp it straight from the ladle.

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 22:25:49

You drink mulled wine out of those glasses with metal handles and bases, like irish coffee.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:26:08

There was a thread on here once where someone admitted trapping spiders under glasses, and then having to throw the glass away.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:26:41

I don't like those pretentious fuckers, boomerwang.


BooCanary Wed 23-Jan-13 22:27:53

Op - y as nbu.

My system:

7am: My china mug
2pm: Large thick 'vat of tea' mug
5pm: Part-of-tea-set teacup
9pm: Small mug

I fear I am turning into my mother.
DH is quite good at remembering, but every now and again he does give me one of his thick man's mugs. Grrr. It puts me in a very bad mood.

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 22:28:28

I think drinking mulled wine is pretentious, tbh.

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 22:29:09

Wasn't a direct dig at you, btw, but in hindsight I can see how offensive I sounded.

fossil971 Wed 23-Jan-13 22:29:27

Mulled wine:

I have some little glasses from the 1960s (?) which sit in little silver plated holders with a cup handle. An older version of this

I keep them only for serving mulled wine about every 5 years.

baffleddad Wed 23-Jan-13 22:29:34

just be thankfull he doesnt pee in it

EndoplasmicReticulum Wed 23-Jan-13 22:29:48

Ah, mine does this. We have one mutant mug that is just too big, too thick and the wrong colour for tea. I hide it at the back of the cupboard to prevent him making tea in it. But still it comes.

I suppose the answer is to make my own tea, and I sometimes wonder if this is the ultimate aim.

nickelbabe Wed 23-Jan-13 22:30:37

I bought amug fom vistaprint once eith a wedding picture on it.:-

i' lefthanded and lke the picture to face away from me- this mug the picture faces towards. I bought it for hm so it was no big deal. but sometimes he gives me the mug to drink out of and I hate it!

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:31:31

Haha boomer that sounded like a cracking insult. grin

Mulled wine not pretentious round my way - bottle from Lidl for a fiver. Hot wine with sugar and brandy in, what more is needed. grin

YANBU. We have one mug which is ever so slightly bigger than the others and therefore highly desirable. Dp thinks he should get it because 'I'm the bloke'hmm but I think I should get it because I'm up half the night with Ds so need more caffeine.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:32:09

lol at mutant mug

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 22:33:25

Just smash the fucker. Problem solved.

CheeryCherry Wed 23-Jan-13 22:36:43

I love my coffee mug and my tea mug. DH once - and only once - gave my coffee mug, full of tea, to MIL hmm

And I do have 2 Dulux colour charts on the inside of the door to the tea/coffee/mug cupboard!

nickelbabe Wed 23-Jan-13 22:40:12

my mum got rid of/lost/broke the mug that was left at their house for my tea. she's made me use the "more tea vicar?" mhg because it's the closest in shapesnd weight to a proper cup.
I forget every time ee visit and get upset my cup haas gone.

at my shop, I always make sure the guests get the book themed mugs and i have the crappy yellow that Friday feeling mug (which is actually lovely and came with socks but can only be usrd on fridays and happydays which is why it has lasted so long)

EndoplasmicReticulum Wed 23-Jan-13 22:41:48

JustGiveMe - I would, but although it's crap for tea it's exactly the right size for measuring out the amount of rice to cook when we are having curry.

Perhaps I just need to keep it somewhere else.

turnipvontrapp Wed 23-Jan-13 22:45:12

YANBU, its just not right, but the wrong milk is also a crime in this house grin.

Flambemoi Wed 23-Jan-13 22:46:10

I take my own mug to work everyday and bring it home again. Wrapped in a sock, in my smart work bag. On the bus. After dropping kids at school.
Thin (bone china) check. White inside check. Pleasing external pattern check.
The work mug is my second-line/travelling mug. My main mug does not travel.

Do I win Queen of the Mug Freaks?

BurnThisDiscoDown Wed 23-Jan-13 22:48:15

YANBU. Leave the bastard!

I used to keep my mugs in my room when I was in halls at university, as if I caught one of my housemates using one it would give me the rage. At home now, all the nice mugs live at the front of the cupboard and the shitty ones live at the back. Whenever someone comes round though, DH uses one of the rubbish ones. Why? It's more effort Ffs!

It was also a dark day in our house when I realised he'd used my favourite wooden spoon to stir Lego in dirty bleachy water (don't ask!). Bastard. angry

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 22:49:02

Do any of you take your own mugs to work? Do you then hide it to stop other people drinking out of your mug (and not bothering to wash it up again). Especially that really unhygienic person...

Do you go all apeshit if you find someone using it without your permission?

I had my own mug at work but I made sure nobody ever used it because I brought a chipped mug. Guaranteed to be left alone.

jemjelly Wed 23-Jan-13 22:49:48

My DH never even measures the coffee or the sugar, he just tips it into my mug (which is often my least favourite) getting coffee and sugar all over the worktop in the process. This has to be grounds for divorce right?

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 22:51:01

I can't stand those dead thin cups. Too bloody flimsy and you burn yourself if you touch it by accident. I like massive half pint mugs with huge handles and 'dishwasher safe' on the bottom wink

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 22:53:00

haha jemjelly my last boyfriend accused me of putting sugar into my cup like a cropsprayer! I try not to make a mess but I always bang the spoon against something or flick bits of coffee grounds out of the tin because I'm in a hurry.

I can't believe I have so much to say about a cuppa.

EndoplasmicReticulum Wed 23-Jan-13 22:53:40

I have my own mug at work too.

One colleague used to use my mug, take it away from the staff room and leave it in his classroom half full of tea.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:54:20

I am not very good with thin mugs either.

I am a bit heavy mouthed. I had some lovely Dartington Crystal glasses once, I bit the rims of them all, or crashed the glass against my teeth pissed and smashed them.

I used to have a special work mug, but I had a nervous twitch at the sight of the communal scouring pad in the office kitchen, and thought it was overkill to take a scouring sponge in with me and keep it with my own dedicated bottle of fairy in my desk.

EndoplasmicReticulum Wed 23-Jan-13 22:55:12

Boomerwang at uni I solved the problem of mug stealing by never washing mine, I used to drink black coffee (as someone had usually stolen the milk) so it got really stained.

But nobody wanted to steal it.

GetOrf Wed 23-Jan-13 22:55:36

Office Kitchens = disgusting, revolting pits of filth.

nickelbabe Wed 23-Jan-13 22:56:04

these d thread made me need a cup of tea.
dh has just made it.
he's put it inthe world's best mum mug I made him get for me "from dd" from the vhurch fete.
I wanted my blue yellow face mug. sad

AND he's put too much sugar in it si it tastes rank.

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 22:58:52

My DP always puts too much sugar in, but thats probably because you can never find a teaspoon and have to use a dessert spoon.

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Wed 23-Jan-13 23:02:43

Seasonal, novelty mugs are my least favourite types of mugs. I especially hate the mugs that people buy the dc for Easter that have eggs in them. This is why we end up with Spiderman mugs etc. I never drink out of them. They are ok though as outside mugs or for soaking ds1's mouth guard he uses for rugby.
Somebody bought me some mugs as a present. They are too big and the colours too garish. I must've chipped half a dozen nice, pleasing mugs since I've had these and yet the fuckers remain intact hmm

MildredIsMyAlterEgo Wed 23-Jan-13 23:04:38

A friend's exbf used to do a very weird stirring thing.

It was the maddest most frantic stir you've ever seen, like he was whisking up a meringue or something. Ye Gods, the noise, the spillage, the weirdness.

I was like this shock in his kitchen when I witnessed it, I'm shuddering now recalling it.

Fenton Wed 23-Jan-13 23:04:38

I have only read the op and YADNBU

I like my tea in tall bone china

not in a mug

Not in someone else's bastard mug - YUK

DH knows this, he KNOWS.

shrinkingnora Wed 23-Jan-13 23:04:47

Someone made me a coffee earlier. Stirred it about twice so it had two sugars in the bottom cm and none at the top.

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 23:05:51

usualsuspect you solve that problem by buying a cheap pack of spoons in the supermarket which you then throw away one by one because they are not stainless steel and they are sharp around the edges and then you wonder who has been eating all the spoons in the house again.

Boomerwang Wed 23-Jan-13 23:07:27

So, question... why don't you throw out the mugs you hate and get ones you like?

I'm the same.. I hate the nasty ikea black tiny mugs with impossibly small handles that we have, but the reason I can't throw them out is because they are the mugs favoured by my boyfriend's family when they visit.

usualsuspect Wed 23-Jan-13 23:10:11

I had some horrible ikea mugs with tiny handles that you couldn't get your fingers through,the handles were also too high up on the cup. Whats that all about?

I did bin them.

mum47 Wed 23-Jan-13 23:13:22

YANBU - must be a bone china cup, I hate it when we get to the emergency mugs at the back of the cupboard (why do we keep them?)
Also, I sniff cups before I can use them! To check they don't smell of washing up liquid, but looks a bit weird.
I also have had to coach dh to wash the teaspoon if he is making himself a coffee and me a tea.
Life is so complicated..

trixymalixy Wed 23-Jan-13 23:35:54

Boomerwang, its too hard to define what it is that makes a mug acceptable, to be able to go out and buy a perfect one. I tried to buy a mug for work, none of them were right.

Then I spied a company branded one that was the exact same as my most favourite one at home in the marketing department. Operation mug was launched and one became mine.

WadingThroughTreacle Wed 23-Jan-13 23:36:14

Big thick mug, so you can put hands around the mug. Has to be lighter in colour than the drink. Especially not navy or black. Darkest it can be is red. I am weird aren't I.

trixymalixy Wed 23-Jan-13 23:44:47

In fact I haven't bought any of the top 4 mugs in my hierarchy.

1 came from a conference
2 (formerly no 1 until it was usurped) was bought by my dad
3 came with an Easter egg
4 was one of those gift sets with hot chocolate in

All the fancy ones I have bought are no good for tea, guests get them.

Bottleoffish Thu 24-Jan-13 01:20:23


I love this thread. I thought I was the only one...

Oh yes, yes, to mug heirarchy.

We were given 3 new mugs for Christmas. There is currently much jostling in the mug cupboard as they are settling into their rightful places.

My mother will only drink from thin china mugs. She has been with my father for nigh on 40 years. He still makes her coffee in one of my thicker mugs EVERY time, despite me having about a 50:50 mix. But then they are both moderately controlling and passive aggressive so I just watch the game with interest.

misscomanche Thu 24-Jan-13 08:28:00

I bought a special 'work mug' and had to remove it soon after because other people kept using it angry There is a whole cupboard of identikit mugs, obviously the only pretty one was bought by someone for their exclusive use.
And I like my tea bag to have 30sec of relaxation MAX before it is whipped out in a frenzy, leaving drips on the counter. DP Has 'hilariously' blocked my path to my tea, thus letting the bag sit for 1 minute+ shock He gets punished for these episodes.

misscomanche Thu 24-Jan-13 08:30:52

And by blocking my path, I mean actually using his body as a barricade in our tiny kitchen while laughing like a loon and telling me how my tea bag is seeping tea concentrate.

ScubaSarah Thu 24-Jan-13 08:37:04

I wish the wrong mug was the worst of my DH wrongdoings in this area. Sadly, 7.5 years into our relationships he still only remembers I take 1 spoon of Splenda about 50% of the time. This distresses me and I wonder if I should LTB for his lack of tea etiquette shock

ScubaSarah Thu 24-Jan-13 08:37:05

I wish the wrong mug was the worst of my DH wrongdoings in this area. Sadly, 7.5 years into our relationships he still only remembers I take 1 spoon of Splenda about 50% of the time. This distresses me and I wonder if I should LTB for his lack of tea etiquette shock

jollymary Thu 24-Jan-13 08:48:02

Ha ha this thread has really made me laugh! Would love it to go in classics. I regularly smash mugs I don't like and add them to a mosaic.

whois Thu 24-Jan-13 08:48:23

I have solved this problem by only having nice, big, thin but not too thin mugs.

smornintime Thu 24-Jan-13 08:54:42

I have a milk mug. DH knows this smile
I bought my mum a special mug at Christmas to have at our house because she was always somehow disappointed with our random collection.

TheCatIsEatingIt Thu 24-Jan-13 08:54:54

I can't smash or charity shop the wrong mugs because they're not entirely wrong, just wrong for certain drinks or times of day. Except maybe the bird of paradise ones, they're too big and too thin and the tea never tastes right.

There are little ones for morning coffee if I've got to drive a long way and can't make myself need a wee too badly.
There are big ones for hot chocolate - those cone-like ones that are wrong for tea or coffee.
There are random but pretty ones that are nice for visitors but not my preferred ones.
And there are good, solid ones of the right size and shape for ordinary daytime tea-drinking.

DH has No Idea, but he always has the right one, so he has no excuse.

seeker Thu 24-Jan-13 09:05:54

We have a high status mug we give each other when we want to be nice- a yellow Pantone one.

And don't get me started on the Penguin Books ones- we have several of those and getting to right title to the right person is sometimes very stressful..........

AWimbaWay Thu 24-Jan-13 09:18:48

I don't drink hot drinks but have a lovely collection of Moomin mugs that must sit in the cupboard and never be used ever by anyone. If a guest accidentally uses one I sit plotting how I will kill them in their sleep if it were to get damaged. I also do this if someone sits in my corner of the sofa.

elizaregina Thu 24-Jan-13 09:27:17

"We were given 3 new mugs for Christmas. There is currently much jostling in the mug cupboard as they are settling into their rightful places. " grin

MrsKwazii Thu 24-Jan-13 09:42:23

I have a small stash of China cups and mugs for irritatingly fussy relatives wink

MrsKwazii Thu 24-Jan-13 09:47:16

And mugs you don't like? Get rid of them perhaps? Or is the chance to get cross at being given the 'wrong' mug too good to waste grin

shrinkingnora Thu 24-Jan-13 09:51:20

All our most annoying mugs belong to the children and they claim to be really attached to them. Particularly the horrible one with the weird cadbury's caramel bunny on that is so small at the bottom you can fit approximately a tablespoon of tea in it. I have 5 acceptable mugs so DH mostly manages to get the right one.

I think I get the mug obsession from my parents. My Dad buys them in charity shops all the time. I think he is on some strange quest for mug perfection. Actually, it's not strange. I totally understand.

shrinkingnora Thu 24-Jan-13 09:52:45

Also, DH's favourites are different from my favourites and DM always comments on how much she loves a certain mug when she has a cup of tea here and we both hate it but won't get rid because she likes it. It's terribly complicated being a mug obsessive.

shrinkingnora Thu 24-Jan-13 09:54:56

Oh my god! It's this one. I'm selling it. I don't care if DD loves it.

nickelbabe Thu 24-Jan-13 11:00:02

you can't get rid of mugs you don't like - you don't know when you might need them for guests!

nickelbabe Thu 24-Jan-13 11:02:31

I have to have the teaspoon in my cup when i have my tea.

this is because the sugar sinks to the bottom and makes the last quarter of the tea taste bloody horrible.

my ex used to think this was stupid and deliberately left out the spoon when he made my tea.
why i never killed the bastard, i really don't understand.

i told my DH the need for my spoon the first time he made a cup of tea, and he never teased me about it, but made sure that every time after, he gave me the spoon. every single time without fail.
that's why he's a keeper.

shrinkingnora Thu 24-Jan-13 11:03:52

Aw Nickel, that's lovely <wipes tear>

nickelbabe Thu 24-Jan-13 11:06:25

i need a Pantone mug now.

I was given a Ladybird (books) mug for my birthday last year and i can't bring myself to use it. it's in a beautiful presentation box, which makes it Extra Special.

nickelbabe Thu 24-Jan-13 11:06:43

nora grin

i know, he's mine grin

OneMoreChap Thu 24-Jan-13 11:07:45

No preference as to vessel, but significant as to size.

Morning tea - quart mug or 2X 1 pint mugs
Rest of the day, pint mugs, unless Earl Grey in which case teapot and smaller mug.

Teacups? For visitors.
Real coffee? Pint mug.
Instant coffee, ordinary mug.

BookieMonster Thu 24-Jan-13 12:07:01

I have a penchant for Denby mugs. They hold the perfect volume and have the right "in grip" density. I've chucked all our other mugs so I can avoid "right brew, wrong mug" incidents.

KirstyJC Thu 24-Jan-13 12:10:56

I have a mug for coffee and another mug for tea. This is well known in our household, even the kids know which mug is which. DH made my tea in the coffee mug last night so I made him pour it into the right one. He now thinks I am mad.

MildredIsMyAlterEgo Thu 24-Jan-13 12:26:29

If a glass in the cupboard has the word 'milk' embossed into it, it has clearly been designed and manufactured for the purpose of milk consumption.

Why is this difficult for some visitors to grasp?

nickelbabe Thu 24-Jan-13 12:32:11

we've got piano key glasses which are obviously for the consumption of milk - otherwise, why would the glass be see through?
you can only drink white liquids, or the keyboard will look odd.

DH isn't allowed to touch the only one left, because he broke the other one.

sittinginthesun Thu 24-Jan-13 13:45:09

Haaa! I have just smashed one of the bastard mugs at work. It fell out of the cupboard.

chris481 Thu 24-Jan-13 14:17:40

In a home that very seldom has more than two adults present, we have something like 4 sets of 6 mugs and one set of two, all acquired at about the time we moved in. All except the set of two are beautiful, so I decided to "use that up" first, and preserve the good ones. Nearly 15 years later I still use the mugs I don't like, while twenty-something nice ones sit on a shelf.

neveronamonday Thu 24-Jan-13 14:19:20

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RustyBear Thu 24-Jan-13 16:24:35

chris481 - I have learned the hard way that if you decde to use the things you like least to preserve the 'nice' ones,sod's law says that the ones you don't last will last forever, and the 'best' ones will get broken - even if you don't use them, something will happen to them; they will fall out of the cupboard, or get something dropped on them if they are in storage.

RustyBear Thu 24-Jan-13 16:26:14

'fell' sittinginthesun? hmm

nickelbabe Thu 24-Jan-13 16:34:33

chris - stop using the nasty ones and start rotating the nice ones.

do it now, do it today! make a cuppa in a nice mug!

FriskyMare Thu 24-Jan-13 16:47:47

My mugs have their own shelf. Large Cath Kidston mug for morning tea only.

My family have learnt the hard way not to contaminate my mugs with theirs.

The worst mug offender by far are those smoky glass efforts.

sittinginthesun Thu 24-Jan-13 16:49:17


grumpyskater Thu 24-Jan-13 17:22:18

Large blue and white checked cup or large plain white cup with saucer for breakfast coffee. First a present given 20 years ago, second carefuly selected in John Lewis on basis of feel, weight and looks. One of the Clementina mugs for back up.

Tea in beautiful green spotty mug, possibly green Denby if spotty one in dishwasher.

Feel very cheerful to know this is normal - what a nice thread grin

fossil971 Thu 24-Jan-13 20:56:02

My tea and coffee - Emma Bridgewater mugs
DH's coffee - Denby mugs ("cooling tower mugs" as the IL's call them hmm)
any herbal tea - Dunoon type bone china mug

One of the graphic designer guys at work I noticed today has the dark grey Pantone mug...he's gone up in my estimation.

startlife Thu 24-Jan-13 21:52:19

Ohhh I love this thread.

So tea in china mug, must be white inside.My DH knows this..

And of course when we had the builders they had to have their own mugs, I could not risk them using my mugs! Yuck

TheMaskedHorror Fri 25-Jan-13 12:22:25

Inspired by this thread, I thought I'd hunt for some nice mugs. Mine are fine but very plain.

I came across this which is so bad that it made me laugh.

Anyway, can anyone recommend some cosy but stylish mugs?

eggsy11 Fri 25-Jan-13 12:29:57

Starbucks mug (white inside) for posh starbucks green tea bags, not for useless asda green tea. That does not deserve posh starbucks mug - dp doesn;t learn

I hate having odd mugs, I like them to match on my cup hooky majig, but it is very neccessary to have one mug for each beverage.

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