Dh taking photos of our dinners AIBU to be pissed off?

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Dh has started taking photos of the dinners I serve up. He posts them on Facebook and then his mates, who all think their amateur chefs, comment on them.

This has pissed me off but I have just shrugged it off. Now last night we had a scrape the bottom of the freezer tea as it is payday on Wednesday. It was a Cornish pasty, beans and cheese. Not healthy I know but all we had left. He posted it and an ex girlfriend commented that it was "heart attack on a plate".

Now he tells me that he is going to tag is ex girlfriend on the photo every day so she can comment on how healthy it is. This really annoyed me and I said its bad enough that your mates judge me, now you want an ex girlfriend to judge as well.

He now has the hump and says I'm being over sensitive.


revolvenotevolve Tue 22-Jan-13 20:07:32


mazzi2fly Tue 22-Jan-13 20:08:36


EchoBitch Tue 22-Jan-13 20:08:50

Stop cooking him dinner.

Littlefish Tue 22-Jan-13 20:08:57

If he takes the photos, stop cooking for him.

ValentineWiggins Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:21

Stop cooking for him.

PhallicGiraffe Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:22

Let him cook if he wants them on Facebook.

QOD Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:26

Easy. Stop cooking HIS dinner, the fucker.

bamboostalks Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:26

What a total prick. It is actually impossible to believe there are people as truly nasty as this. It is real misfortune to be married to one of them. Tell him to stop now.

plentyofgrowingroom Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:26

YANBU. I'd tell him to do the cooking if he wants to post the photos on Facebook!

Numberlock Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:40

People aren't even bothering to put any serious effort into these ridiculous wind-up threads anymore.

0/10 OP.

TurkeyDino Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:41

He needs to get a life. Really.

Yanbu though, that would piss me off immensely and I would be forced to write 'fuck off' and other pleasantries in a cranberry jus on his plate.

TheCraicDealer Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:42

I'd put a tin of tomato soup and a tin opener on his plate tomorrow night and tell him to go mad.

pjmama Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:42

Let him make his own dinner until he stops being so bloody childish.

bongobaby Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:52

How rude of him. Tell him to cook his own dinner, yanbu.

LesBOFerables Tue 22-Jan-13 20:09:56

Does he take pictures of your burnt cakes?

MrsWembley Tue 22-Jan-13 20:10:18

Yep, stop cooking for him, he's being an arse.


YANBU. Besides it's bloody boring to put it on FB everyday!!

revolvenotevolve Tue 22-Jan-13 20:10:28

In fact -take a photo of him after you have sex every time. Post on FB and rate his performance -oh make sure you tag his ex girlfriend as she might want to comment.
(Disclaimer: Dont really do this )

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Tue 22-Jan-13 20:10:38

Awwww, isn't that nice of her! hmm

Perhaps she can cook his tea for him from now on.

I'd be hacked off too.

Seriously, stop cooking for him. Or give him a plate of lettice every day.

HecateWhoopass Tue 22-Jan-13 20:10:38

Yup. Agree with the others.

Let tonight be the last time you cook anything for him.

You don't actually HAVE to.

He wants to be a plank, he can cook his own food.

SarkyPants Tue 22-Jan-13 20:10:41

Start posting summaries of his sexual performances on Facebook and ask his ex to comment on those smile

RuchedCurtain Tue 22-Jan-13 20:10:46

Does he ever cook dinner?

coldcupoftea Tue 22-Jan-13 20:11:27

I hate pictures of food on facebook, it's so dull.

Why not start taking unflattering pictures of him first thing in the morning for all your friends to comment?

McNewPants2013 Tue 22-Jan-13 20:11:33

Stop cooking for him, then you take the photo put them on Facebook tag him on there with a comment like look what you could have had.

This is not a wind up I promise. He is obsessed with his iPhone and it never leaves his hand, he takes photos of everything.

I think I knew I wasn't BU but am sitting upstairs quietly fuming and needed someone else to tell me as well.

Thanks to those that believe me and answered.

PurpleStorm Tue 22-Jan-13 20:12:23


Agree that you should stop cooking him dinner.

cosysocks Tue 22-Jan-13 20:12:40

Make him cook his own meals! Cheeky sod. YANBU

"Start posting summaries of his sexual performances on Facebook and ask his ex to comment on those"


GhoulWithADragonTattoo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:13:03

revolve - grin I think you should deffo do this OP!

I like the ideas of posting pictures of him grin might try that one!

And to the person who asked No of course he doesn't cook!

Cortana Tue 22-Jan-13 20:13:27

"I would be forced to write 'fuck off' and other pleasantries in a cranberry jus on his plate." Arf Turkey.

Start rating him.

DH Lovemaking: 6/10 could do better. Please remove socks in future.
DH not being a prick: 1/10

hakunamatata8 Tue 22-Jan-13 20:13:52

Quietly fuming yes that will show him. You sound like you have a fantastic relationship.

crashdoll Tue 22-Jan-13 20:14:12

Cornish pasty, beans and cheese

Mmmm, can I come over?

Seriously though I like the idea of taking a photo of him every morning and posting it on FB. grin

Would people really refuse to cook? Doesn't it just become a massive argument?

Boomerwang Tue 22-Jan-13 20:14:22

This is another one of those threads, isn't it?

fluffypillow Tue 22-Jan-13 20:14:51

Posting pictures of his dinner on facebook? Has he nothing better to do?

Very strange. YANBU.

hakunamatata8 Tue 22-Jan-13 20:15:04

I would upload a picture of an emply plate with a caption saying mmmmmmmm how lucky is my lovely DH

Narked Tue 22-Jan-13 20:16:01

He is being rude and immature.

Having said that, how have you let it go on this long without arranging his food into 'FUCK OFF' or 'LEARN TO COOK'?

hakunamatata8 Tue 22-Jan-13 20:16:12

oh no don't refuse to cook god forbid if he had to cook his own dinner

FlouncingMintyy Tue 22-Jan-13 20:16:55

Apart from not cooking for him - I agree that this is obviously the path to go down - why on earth does he think his ex needs to have a say?

Put a comment on FB: "Hope you enjoyed it matey cos that's the last meal I cook for you, you tool, and [insert name of ex] ... you are more than welcome to him lovey"

McNewPants2013 Tue 22-Jan-13 20:16:56

Yes I would.

I do all the cooking in my house all I ask on return is appreciation of the work I do to prepare a home cooked meal

Oh god no I promise it's real I'm not trying to wind anyone up. I'm sorry if I sound too much like burnt cake lady but unfortunately I didn't make this up.

mummybookworm Tue 22-Jan-13 20:16:59

What Numberlock said.

StuntGirl Tue 22-Jan-13 20:17:48


Tell him if he carries on doing this you'll stop cooking for him. If he does it again then stop.

Yes, I really would and I suspect many others are the same. You don't have to put up with it you know.

VivaLeBeaver Tue 22-Jan-13 20:18:27

Tomorrow serve him a plate of peas.....arranged to spell


In big letters.

Let him photo that.

Narked Tue 22-Jan-13 20:18:43

'Would people really refuse to cook?'

I wouldn't. I'd refuse to cook for him. I'd even provide a selection on empty plates for him to photograph, so his blogging doesn't get samey.

Bogeyface Tue 22-Jan-13 20:18:55

Definitely do not cook for him again, and do the picture of him thing, making sure you PM all your friends to comment on it!

Sadly I know a few people who feel it necessary to share their dinner with Facebook.

I would be pissed off op, especially at the ex. Your DP is being a nob.

Bogeyface Tue 22-Jan-13 20:20:27

Tomorrow serve him a plate of peas.....arranged to spell


In big letters.

Let him photo that.


And make sure you photograph it first in case he doesnt and put it on his page so all his mates and his ex can see it. In fact, tag them all in it.

CaptainVonTrapp Tue 22-Jan-13 20:21:13

The very worst of facebook.

I bet his ex is thanking her lucky stars that she is indeed an ex after seeing these dull pictures every night (and his rude behaviour).

I wouldn't cook for him. Get some manners.

Anyone that posts this kind of thing on FB... Well I immediately think they're a sad case, and hide their updates. Just stop cooking for him, and save his 286 FB acquaintances the trouble.

Serve alphabet spaghetti and use it to spell whatever you wish

Tortington Tue 22-Jan-13 20:22:14

I would say
"Dearest Mr. Butterfly,
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, --- I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! --- and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
But if you post another fucking picture on facebook;
I shall cook for thee no more sir.

YANBU. And I would refuse to cook.

I cured DH's dirty dishes habit in the early days, one day I got in a massive strop Anne said I wasn't going to bother washing up if he didn't. I chucked everything in a bin bag and into the bin.

(He got it out later and washed it. And he's probably tidier than I am now).

CaptainVonTrapp Tue 22-Jan-13 20:22:29

and the very worst of iPhones too

crunchbag Tue 22-Jan-13 20:22:35

oh no don't refuse to cook god forbid if he had to cook his own dinner

and get it judged by his mates.

balia Tue 22-Jan-13 20:22:46

Does he do anything around the house? DIY, housework? You could take photos of HIS efforts and invite strangers to evaluate him - or you could take photos of the most grotty areas of the house and caption them 'the bathroom DH said he would clean' or empty areas of garden 'the patio DH said he would build' etc.

Alphabetti Spaghetti has to be your friend here

Pandemoniaa Tue 22-Jan-13 20:23:47

Here's something for him to take a picture of:

*And said. Sorry.

EugenesAxe Tue 22-Jan-13 20:24:24

YANBU. Cunt on a stick.

FlouncingMintyy Tue 22-Jan-13 20:25:07

grin Whatevertheweather! genius!!

AllYoursBabooshka Tue 22-Jan-13 20:27:00


What a dork.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:27:30

why would this be a troll? foodie friends of mine very often put photos of their dinners up on FB. i find it raaawther dull, but loads of people comment so they obviously like it.

and yavdNbu. protest in pea form.

fuckadoodlepoopoo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:27:33

What a moron! That's so offensive and cuntish!

redbobblehat Tue 22-Jan-13 20:28:19

does he do other things to @show you up@?

he sounds a right nasty bastard

sorry op

FlouncingMintyy Tue 22-Jan-13 20:28:55

Do people really put their dinners on Facebook? Really??

I have a friend who is a chef who occasionally posts something scrummy (fair enough) and my brother is a keen amateur cook who will post a photo of a cake or something complicated.

But I am so fortunate not to be friends with anyone who feels the need to post photos of their sausage and mash.

ChandlerBingsNubbin Tue 22-Jan-13 20:29:25

Stop cooking for him.

or give him a plate with a sad face made out of baked beans to photo. And then refuse to cook for him.

FlouncingMintyy Tue 22-Jan-13 20:29:56

Aitch - you maybe missed yesterday's troll thread about cake baking.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:30:49

oh right enough, i did see that. was that not for real, then? odd thing to do, it wasn't funny.

BertieBotts Tue 22-Jan-13 20:32:18

Photos - IMO fine.
Heart attack on a plate comment is complimentary IMO. I often use it to mean "Oh god this food is so amazingly unhealthy but GOOOD!" Like, you'd use it about a bacon sandwich made with eggy bread instead of normal bread, or battered chips or an amazing Full English Breakfast.
The ex-girlfriend thing is weird though. And also the fact you've said you don't really want him doing it and yet he continues to even though he knows you're upset about it - weird and insensitive.

<wants an eggy bread bacon sandwich now>

Hassled Tue 22-Jan-13 20:32:35

Write "my husband's a food twat" out of alternating peas and corn, take a photo, stick it on FB and tag him, the ex and his mates.

Thank you to everyone who has replied, it's seems fairly unanimous that's he's being a prick.

That in itself makes me feel better. He can be a total arse at times but always seems to turn it round so I end up thinking its my issue.

Anyhoo, that's another thread. Thanks for the replies and sorry to anyone who though I was a troll smile

DontmindifIdo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:33:40

agree, stop cooking.

I would go downstairs now and say you don't care if all his friends like to do this, you find it rude and insulting he's putting your efforts up to be judged, if it was posting his own cooking, that's fine, but as it's yours, it's insulting to you and you expect it to stop. Say now he knows you find it insulting, if he does it once more, you will stop cooking for him at all as you will judge that he's deliberately trying to upset you.

Then go back upstairs and sulk.

forgetmenots Tue 22-Jan-13 20:34:31

YANBU, I think you should start rating his sexual performance on Facebook. Allow your exes to comment of course.

BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems Tue 22-Jan-13 20:34:35

I agree with the alphabet spaghetti idea.
If you do it well enough and carefully place it on toast it could be like subliminal messaging.
'Piss off slaggy ex-girlfriend. In yer face you cow'

fuckadoodlepoopoo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:34:38

It had never occurred to me to make a bacon sandwich with eggy bread. Hmm

NoelHeadbands Tue 22-Jan-13 20:35:46

He posted it and an ex girlfriend commented that it was "heart attack on a plate".

She was just wishful thinking I'm sure

Nanny0gg Tue 22-Jan-13 20:35:56

Of course people can (and do) stop cooking for the OHs when they're behaving like @rses.
Can't understand why you haven't stopped already.
Although if it were me, he'd need a torch and a compass to find his phone.

fuckadoodlepoopoo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:35:59

What total arse things does he do?

RavenVonChaos Tue 22-Jan-13 20:37:11

Put a massive dog turd on a plate and serve that up to him.

deleted203 Tue 22-Jan-13 20:37:19

I'd take a photo of his cock and tell him casually I was going to post it on FB asking for 'ratings' and 'comments'. (I'd also be tempted to tell him you weren't going to put it in your mouth until his Ex had confirmed to you that it was healthy and how many calories it contained).

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:37:50

Are you a really good cook OP? Is he posting the pictures hoping to get lots of positive comments? If so I suppose it's a compliment of sorts. If you're not a great cook / are just putting up ordinary meals and the comments are mixed at best I'd say he's being a total dick and I genuinely wouldn't cook for him.

CuriousMama Tue 22-Jan-13 20:38:27

Yes totally refuse to cook for him.

He's very weird. I'd be seriously worried about dp if he did this.

CaptainVonTrapp Tue 22-Jan-13 20:39:11

I like all the alphabetti spaghetti ideas but really its to good for him. Now the dog turd suggestion - that is more like what he deserves!

BertieBotts Tue 22-Jan-13 20:42:45

Oh god fuckadoodle do it. It's amazing.

DeepRedBetty Tue 22-Jan-13 20:43:00

grin sowornout

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Tue 22-Jan-13 20:45:10

Ooooohhh, bacon sandwich with eggy bread. Yum.

OP, your DH is being a twat.

I love the idea of swearing in vegetable form, very artistic and a great way to get the point across. It could run for weeks with him being served vegetable swears. His ex would love the healthiness of it all I'm sure.

Id probably be threatening to do the 'will it blend' challenge on DH's cock but that's me...


fuckadoodlepoopoo Tue 22-Jan-13 20:50:45

I'd take a photo of his cock and tell him casually I was going to post it on FB asking for 'ratings' and 'comments'. (I'd also be tempted to tell him you weren't going to put it in your mouth until his Ex had confirmed to you that it was healthy and how many calories it contained).

You HAVE to do that op!

Crikeyblimey Tue 22-Jan-13 20:51:21

Absolute arse. Unless he raves about your cooking and is showing off your skills, then he's being a twat.

Bacon butty with eggy bread!! Just shared that gem with the boys and it has been declared the "must have"'Sunday breakfast smile

EricNorthmansFangBanger Tue 22-Jan-13 20:53:09

YANBU. Tell the wanker to cook his own tea.

HecateWhoopass Tue 22-Jan-13 20:56:04

Why should it be a massive argument?

you're not his servant.

you are perfectly entitled to say that you have had enough of being mocked (- because make no mistake THAT is what he is doing. He is mocking you. ) and that from now on, he can cook his own food because you aren't going to be the butt of his jokes. Something for him to get people to laugh at and criticise.

Lollybrolly Tue 22-Jan-13 20:58:36

angry for you OP!!!!

Start uploading pics of designer food like this instead and then see how smug his ex is!!!!! food design

Joiningthegang Tue 22-Jan-13 20:59:02

Yanbu - just stop cooking for hom - what a tosser

SaggyOldPregnantCatpuss Tue 22-Jan-13 20:59:46


SirBoobAlot Tue 22-Jan-13 21:02:10

Oh I hate it when people update pictures of their dinner. Why the fuck do I care what you are having for dinner?

YANBU. Stop cooking for him.

TallyGrenshall Tue 22-Jan-13 21:03:38

It doesn't need to be a massive argument, just stop doing it. You asked him to stop posting the pics for his mates to take the piss out of, he didn't so now he can look after himself.

YY to the peas!

I think it's a bt rubbish to constantly put photos of dinner on FB, my sister does it and it drives me mad. It does make DP thankful he got the sane vegetarian sister rather than the one who's cooking is still in the old fashioned veggie mindset hmm Lime risotto, asparagus and chilli-cheese courgette chunks anyone? <<bleurgh>>

(The risotto and asparagus pairing is okay, but chilli-cheese courgette chunks too?! Lime and cheese?!)

Or veggie 'chicken' kievs with a stir-fry noodle salad? I could go on and on about my sister's weird combos! grin

cook his iphone and serve it up to him au gratin

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NorbertDentressangle Tue 22-Jan-13 21:07:38

I would print off some life-sized pictures of plates of food, cut them out and 'serve' them to him every meal until he gets the message.

Sunnywithshowers Tue 22-Jan-13 21:16:27


Get him to cook his own dinner. Gah.

swimmingcat Tue 22-Jan-13 21:19:14

Give him the same thing everyday, such as a salad, (unless he likes salad).

BestestBrownies Tue 22-Jan-13 21:25:53

I bet it's bloody AMAZING with a dollop of maple syrup <totally side-tracked by eggy bread bacon butty idea>

OP, make a massive effort with your own meals, but give him an empty plate. Post the photos on FB every day until he (and his tosspot friends) get the message.

Or just leave the bastard. Life's too short for this kind of shite.

ZacharyQuack Tue 22-Jan-13 21:29:21

Tell him "Please stop posting Facebook photos of the meals I have cooked, it's rude and disrespectful. If you do it again, I will stop cooking for you. "

The next time he takes a photo of a meal you've cooked, calmly take his plate and scrape it into the bin, sit back down and eat your meal. Then never cook for him again.

NaturalBaby Tue 22-Jan-13 21:29:33

I hae a couple of friends that do this - but the big difference is they are really good cooks and post pictures of their own restaurant quality dinners that they have cooked themselves!

Tryharder Tue 22-Jan-13 21:42:36

LOL at some of the suggestions here.

I have also never heard of anyone regularly posting pictures of their dinners and inviting comments from friends. I can't imagine that anyone would give a flying fuck what I had for dinner. How utterly bizarre.

If he was doing it in a lovely complimentary way I.e. look how well my wife cooks, then it's fine. If he's trying to undermine and criticise your cooking, then you need to take action.

artyflarty Tue 22-Jan-13 21:45:04

Laughing my socks off at this thread...

YADNBU though OP. He needs a short sharp shock. A colleague at work complained to his wife that he was getting too many cheese sandwiches. The next day he had a 'cat biscuit sandwich' in his lunchbox. He never complained again.

I would go with Zachary or Sowornout. Actually, I would have shouted and screamed and stamped my feet and told him to fuck off!

Arion Tue 22-Jan-13 21:49:04

I believe you! My DH told me that when they were kids, him, his sister, and his dad used to 'rate' his mums cooking (his dad is an abusive arsehole though but that's another story!). I told him it was rude, disrespectful to his Mum, and if e ever even considered marking my food out of 10, he would a - be wearing it, and b - cooking for himself for th foreseeable future!

Funnily enough, he doesn't mark my cooking! grin

Ullena Tue 22-Jan-13 21:58:28

Order yourself a massive takeaway and don't get anything for himgrin

mercibucket Tue 22-Jan-13 22:09:50

snort, whatevertheweather smile

ZenNudist Tue 22-Jan-13 22:23:54

Think this has to be when you make him cook for you three times a week, you do three meals and one is eat out/ takeaway/ ready made food.

He sounds like an arse, and what's this about him colluding with an ex to slag you off? angry

Inertia Tue 22-Jan-13 22:33:32

He sounds like an arse and I'm willing to bet that he does other things to undermine and criticise you too.

How do you think he'd react if you stopped cooking his dinners ?

pigletmania Tue 22-Jan-13 22:36:24

What an utter wanker and twat. Mabey you could offer to take a picture of his cock and post on Facebook so people can pass comment on it grin

ots Tue 22-Jan-13 23:13:30

My uncle once complained to his wife that she never put any greenery in his sandwiches. When he opened his lunch box at work the next day, it was full of grass grin

Stop cooking for him.

CuriousMama Tue 22-Jan-13 23:23:20

grin ots

scrumpkin Tue 22-Jan-13 23:27:09

Give the cunt an empty plate to snap.

ladymariner Wed 23-Jan-13 00:00:01

Love it whatever that'll do the trick perfectly grin

I think you should print out the pictures that he's uploaded and cut them out and put them on his plate each night. Or spell out "heart attack" on his plate with alphabetti spaghetti grin

Adversecamber Wed 23-Jan-13 08:23:46

Applauds OTS Aunt.

I have stopped looking at FB , it has improved my blood pressure. I have a friend that put his dinners on almost every day but at least he cooked them himself.

I hate confrontation but would argue over this

Tanith Wed 23-Jan-13 08:41:56

These are brilliant and I think Op's DP is fully deserving of them all.

Love Custardo's little poem wink

My dad used to moan about my mum's cooking. Her worst sin was apparently her gravy and he insisted one Sunday that he was going to do it.
He miscalculated the cornflour. In silence, we sliced the gravy onto our plates grin

fuzzpig Wed 23-Jan-13 08:46:39

I really want some alphabetti spaghetti now, and some of those letter shaped chip things I used to have at school dinners!

First thing I thought of on reading the title was that schoolgirl who started the blog (never seconds?) and photographed all the awful school lunches. Is that what he's trying to do?! It was cute and enterprising when she did it, but your H is just being a monumental twit.

Hullygully Wed 23-Jan-13 08:52:14

And he's still alive.......?

TheSloppelganger Wed 23-Jan-13 09:12:28

So either he is being a hipsterish wanker who thinks his facebook dinner-pic-spam twattery is opening up a meaningful debate about food hmm

Or he is being a sneery git and posting the photos in an effort to get his mates to be not-necessarily-polite amateur critics about them angry

He'd be getting a spaghetti twat on toast from me, see what he and his little chums make of that.

As for tagging in his ex in on everything you cook. I seriously would not cook for him anymore if he started doing that, and would only start cooking again if he promised not to do it again.

I worked as a fine dining chef, and love to cook - so I generally put out a decent restaurant-quality dinner - but I would still be a bit uncomfortable to have my cooking plastered all over FB to be critiqued every night. Tagging in the ex would probably make me reach for my cleaver.

Guiltypleasures001 Wed 23-Jan-13 09:54:42

simple take a pic of his dick and put it on facebook and invite all your mates and his to comment on size shape etc. or break the camera

ChandlerBingsNubbin Wed 23-Jan-13 12:37:38

I did stop cooking at all for about 6 months a few years back. Since due to a recent thread I have discovered there is a term for my dh, being a "spoonyfucker"

If I cook he always has to add a dash of something to it, tbh I watched him put salt on his dinner last night and even the way he does that pisses me off, all a bit elaborate.

So, even though he works full time and I am now at home, he still cooks maybe 3 times in the week, and 90% of the cooking of a weekend. It works for us, he gets home has a sit down for 20 minutes, and then goes off to start dinner for us all. He enjoys cooking, and can add any sort of random mix of stuff to his food while he is cooking, I see cooking as a chore tbh.

MrsWembley Wed 23-Jan-13 23:12:45

So, how did it go tonight then, OP?

DizzyZebra Thu 24-Jan-13 01:52:44

YANBU, I wouldn't cook for him.

ratspeaker Thu 24-Jan-13 08:48:47

What does HE cook for YOU?
Start taking pics of an empty plate and post it on your FB thus showing what he has prepared for you.

You need to talk to him saying how disrespectful you find his encouraging criticism of your cooking. If he doesn't like it he can make his own.

I find his behaviour a bit controlling, he is not acknowledging your feelings in this and dismissing your upset as "being oversensitive". What is the rest of your relationship like?

MusicalEndorphins Thu 24-Jan-13 08:57:57

Pics of him stuffing his face with stuff you didn't cook, like crisps, chips, sweets, anything unhealthy he eats, or pizza, drinking coke or beer, tag him so she sees them.

MrsMeeple Thu 24-Jan-13 09:17:27

I also thought of the "serve him cutouts of fancy food" strategy. If he wants pretty pictures to be commented on by one and all, he can have one downloaded off the web. Or make his own!

pictish Thu 24-Jan-13 09:25:19

Obviously he is being a complete twat, posting pictures of your cooking for comment when he doesn't cook himself. That goes without saying...how insensitive and ungracious he is.

However I'm far more interested in this

He can be a total arse at times but always seems to turn it round so I end up thinking its my issue.

Do elaborate, because I feel that this bad mannered photo taking of dinner is just scratching the surface.

ratspeaker Thu 24-Jan-13 09:55:35

^ What pictishsaid

I'd missed the bit she's highlighted, it's not your issue it's his.
To many the posting pics of meals would seem a joke, a bad one at that but a caring partner would stop and apologise as soon as you mentioned it annoyed or upset you, let alone tag an ex then tell you that you are "oversensitive"
It's sounding like it's part of continuing behaviour to undermine your confidence.

Like the posters above I do think there is a bigger issue here.

In the meantime I would serve him a single sausage and two meatballs appropriately arranged.

MrRected Thu 24-Jan-13 10:14:06

Wow. He is a prize winning arsehole - my DH would have been torn a new one for doing something like that.

Show him this thread.

FairPhyllis Thu 24-Jan-13 10:23:58

I can confirm that people do indeed put pictures of their dinner on facebook. I have some foodie friends who do it all the time in a faux-casual showing off way. It is dull dull DULL.

He is mean. Definitely don't cook for him - but why would you want to be with someone so nasty in the first place?

PartTimeModel Thu 24-Jan-13 10:41:44

Half of my friend on FB post pictures of their meals - usually from restaurants though. envy

I agree you should stop cooking for him. You are unhappy about being judged this way & he isn't taking your objections seriously. He has been warned. Take a photo of a tin of beans/soup etc, post to FB and tag him. Leave him to it until he promises to stop.

PartTimeModel Thu 24-Jan-13 10:43:43

"He is a prize winning arsehole"
Oh how I would love to see ^^ represented in a meal, along with Chaz's sausage & meatball meal.

TranceDaemon Thu 24-Jan-13 11:00:24

I also agree that you seem to have bigger issues than his twattish behaviour wrt food. Don't take his shit OP!! Stand up for yourself and tell him if he mocks or humiliates you again (which is what he is trying to do) that he can fuck right off!

Fuming on your behalf angry

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