to want to have a small whine about DH?

(35 Posts)
CheerfulYank Mon 14-Jan-13 18:35:57

Now. I adore the man, and he's rather lovely in many ways, but... <insert ominous music > he's a rogue grocery shopper.

For instance, yesterday he took DS to church (I had a massive headache so didn't go) and was late getting back because he decided to run to the store. All well and good.

However, he bought: eggs, bananas, bread, milk, carrots (all good), and then some sliced ham for sandwiches. And about six large blocks of cheese. hmm Also tons of hummus and a large tub of yogurt.

All of this is good stuff, but he considers this "doing the shopping." So when I mention in a few days that we need to run to the store (so I can get some things to actually cook) he'll look wounded and say "but I just went!"

He honestly be fine eating eggs and toast and cold sandwiches for days but it's below zero here and I want to make proper stews, etc.

Arrrgh! I know it is certainly not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, just a small thing that drives me mental. Thanks for listening. grin

MrsLouisTheroux Mon 14-Jan-13 18:47:44

Write him a list! That way you get all the nice stuff you want without leaving the house. It's like having a personal shopper grin

Elmofan Mon 14-Jan-13 18:48:17

grin Typical man i say <ducks> LOL

McNewPants2013 Mon 14-Jan-13 18:50:29

My DH is the same, so i sacked him and he stays at home with the DC while I shop smile

CheerfulYank Mon 14-Jan-13 18:50:29

That's the thing, he goes on a whim! I never know when he's going to pop up with his arms full of bags of frozen pizza, tortilla chips, and for some reason, oats. Every time, oats. hmm

charmaine10222 Mon 14-Jan-13 18:51:40

hahaha this is so typical man smile

CheerfulYank Mon 14-Jan-13 18:52:59

McPants I don't drive. blush When the weather's warm I walk to the shop. It's about a mile each way, which is too far in -20 with DS.

CheerfulYank Mon 14-Jan-13 18:57:59

Aha! Have just discovered seven cans of black beans from one of his previous shops! Bean and cheese burritos for us. smile

BoneyBackJefferson Mon 14-Jan-13 19:05:07

"Typical man i say <ducks> LOL"

As a man I completely agree smile

Pandemoniaa Mon 14-Jan-13 19:23:29

Wow! -20! Have you been hit by Winter Storm Gandalf, by any chance?

(Sorry to divert from the perfectly reasonable complaint about Rogue Shopping )

JusticeCrab Mon 14-Jan-13 19:27:27

OP: just ban him from shopping. I'm ashamed to admit that I can't shop. I'm good for runs to the corner shop to get things we've missed, I get completely overwhelmed/overstimulated by supermarkets and bug out, even if I have a list. My DW has banned me from going with her to the supermarket because I become such a giant, rocket-propelled arsehole.

JusticeCrab Mon 14-Jan-13 19:27:58

There was a missing 'but' in that post, between 'missed' and 'I'.

theoriginalgomummygo Mon 14-Jan-13 19:28:46

Yes Elmo has nailed it.

I will give your DH points for the milk, eggs, bread and carrots though! <easily impressed> grin

theoriginalgomummygo Mon 14-Jan-13 19:31:55

ROFL @ "giant, rocket-propelled arsehole"

Katisha Mon 14-Jan-13 19:34:10

"can't shop" yeah right ...

JusticeCrab Mon 14-Jan-13 19:37:03

Katisha: Presumably when your DH goes shopping, he has a little list?

Katisha Mon 14-Jan-13 19:39:02

He may well have one if he writes it.

I have resolved this by getting an app to make shopping lists which automatically updates on both of our phones... He's a bit of a geek, and the technological aspect appeals to him! He just can't help himself wink

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

OurGroceries... On android smile

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Ariel21 Mon 14-Jan-13 20:07:14

Left to his own devices mine would buy steak, fizzy drinks and a pack of 18 cream eggs. Oh and electrical goods! It's not worth the risk.

Hahaha I don't want to push him too far! Though he does make THE best scrambled eggs in the world...
though he does always come home from Tesco with Lego minifigures... hmm

MrsLyman Mon 14-Jan-13 20:44:13

DH went shopping on Saturday morning, he did a crap random shop, but we had a bit of a milestone moment when he said upon his return that he did a crap random shop.

DoJo Mon 14-Jan-13 21:10:42

We write a shopping list on the front of the fridge in dry wipe marker - take a photo on the phone as you leave the house: job's a good'un!

CheerfulYank Mon 14-Jan-13 21:20:18

No Pandemoniaa it's normal winter weather for Minnesota. smile

Lunatic he is honestly happy to snack on crackers with meat and cheese and hummus throughout the day, or make scrambled egg sandwiches. Or he mixes up oats, yogurt, and frozen blueberries.

I think part of it is his IBS, he feels better if he eats smaller portions of things.

Kiwiinkits Tue 15-Jan-13 02:06:53

MrsLouisTheroux are you really Mrs Theroux? I always imagined he was single and about to travel to New Zealand to do one of his fabulous, irreverent, ironic and dry documentaries whereby he would find me, sweep me up in his skinny Jarvis Cocker arms and kiss me passionately

ripsishere Tue 15-Jan-13 05:00:44

My DH did that recently. He was going to the supermarket for a hair cut and I asked him to pick something up for dinner that evening.
He came home with a whole fish, half a kilo of prawns some things in shells and a carton of UHT cream.
I don't eat fish.

Dp does all the food shopping and we never have a problem. He does lots of the cooking too though so maybe that makes a difference.

ZillionChocolate Tue 15-Jan-13 07:36:14

I recommend the our groceries app for iPhone. It's a online shopping list you can share. You need to out some work into customising it to get the most out of it (eg by setting up different categories so it groups all relevant things together). In your situation, I'd set up recipes on there so that you can quickly add meals.

MrsLouisTheroux Tue 15-Jan-13 17:05:38

Kiwi : MrsLouisTheroux are you really Mrs Theroux? I always imagined he was single
In my dreams I am indeed the real Mrs L Th grin He is not single <sigh>.

therewearethen Tue 15-Jan-13 17:14:49

So it's not just my DP who does random shopping! Mine always comes back with orange juice and some sort of chocolate or biscuits, usually dark chocolate which I hate angry or he'll buy and eat chocolate or crisps in the car and thinks I don't know but I check the receipt always know!

StuntGirl Tue 15-Jan-13 17:35:19

It's just selfishness imo. He might like little snacky foods but surely he must see that a food shop like that is insufficient to feed a family? The 'looking wounded' part would piss me off the most. You're not trying to be spiteful (and probably neither is he to be fair) but food needs to be bought and people need to be fed.

Could you meal plan together and write a shopping list?

CheerfulYank Tue 15-Jan-13 18:11:44

We could stuntgirl but he goes at random times. Like on Sunday he probably just realized he had some time after church and knew we were low on food at home.

Aaarrgghh. I'm deciding what I want to cook the next few weeks and making a proper list and he'll just have to go back.

CheerfulYank Tue 15-Jan-13 18:14:43

And I really don't think he DOES see it's insufficient! Which completely dumbfounds me.

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