Hey Fatty Bum Bum :(

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ElectricSoftParade Fri 11-Jan-13 10:38:06

Two Greek Gods chaps working on a house I pass on the school run sang this out to me this morning.

AIBU to hope their willies drop off during this cold spell?

At least my fat arse will help keep me warm <clutches at straws>.

allthegoodnamesweretaken Fri 11-Jan-13 10:39:50

:O How rude! YANBU, I hope so too!

TaggieCampbellBlack Fri 11-Jan-13 10:40:28

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Poor you. What a pair of cocks! Ignore them, I remember when I was walking my dogs and 2 pricks shouted 'which ones the person'. I actually cried walking home and I most certainly do not look like a Springer Spanial!

Spaniel even

Sugarice Fri 11-Jan-13 10:41:48

Cheeky Gits, I hope you gave them the 1000 yard stare!

ElectricSoftParade Fri 11-Jan-13 10:42:43

I did glower at them but they were too busy giggling. Ah, well, hope they have had their amusement for today.

SpicyPear Fri 11-Jan-13 10:43:10

Urgh, I hate this shit, what business is it of theirs how big your arse is?

Don't feel sad about it. If I were you I would go and shake my own voluminous behind around to some Beyonce to cheer myself up.

I don't think your ready for this jelly

They sound like utter dicks. If it makes you feel any better... Some years ago (so I was bloody young too!), my friend and I was walking past a building with builders working and they sang 'Who Let The Dogs Out'. Fuckers, we were mortified. I also wished their knobs fell off.

WillowFae Fri 11-Jan-13 10:44:36

Horrible isn't it.

I was in Eastbourne for a conference at the end of November and was making my way from the car park to my hotel on a Friday evening when I came across a group of lads. They yelled out that I was a fat bitch.

It hurt. A LOT! At that point I'd lost nearly 5 stone in weight and yet it hit me that to strangers I was still a fat bitch who didn't know how to take care of herself and was a greedy pig (never mind the fact that the reality was that I was a long way down a long road of weight loss and recovery, battling with a food addiction, and seeking help to deal with it and get my life where it deserved to be).

WorraLiberty Fri 11-Jan-13 10:45:12

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minouminou Fri 11-Jan-13 10:46:52

I know for a solid fact that they do this in the hope that you'll turn round and have a conversation with them.
They do it for the attention. They have a bank of stock phrases that they use, and they use the ones that they get the best response rate from.

I'm a size eight and I've been called fat by builders! They know you'll notice. I asked a (somewhat unreconstructed) male chum about this behaviour, and it's all about getting you to turn round and acknowledge them.

BelleoftheFall Fri 11-Jan-13 10:46:56

People who say things like this will do it no matter what you look like- it's all about making themselves feel good by shitting all over someone else twats

This might be unfair, but I tense up walking past big groups of lads for this reason. Being barked at or having someone shout UGH in your face really sticks in the memory. I wish they could just leave other people alone.

GloryWhole Fri 11-Jan-13 10:46:56

Some people are just ignorant cunts. Don't dwell on it any further.

Rude twats!

Taggie That's a stupid assumption on a par with what the OP was shouted.

ICBINEG Fri 11-Jan-13 10:48:22

cracked I'm sure a witty comeback is most useful several years later but I would have been tempted to yell back "who let the knobs out" to the same tune...

ResolutelyCheeky Fri 11-Jan-13 10:48:27

They have to blow your candles out because your light is shining too brightly in their sad little faces. <tries hard to make you feel better>

MrsKeithRichards Fri 11-Jan-13 10:49:15

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ElectricSoftParade Fri 11-Jan-13 10:49:20

Well, am off to get my hair cut now but have to pass the house again.

Intend to stride purposefully and maintain a poker face <wibble or should that be wobble?>

WorraLiberty Fri 11-Jan-13 10:50:38

but I would have been tempted to yell back "who let the knobs out" to the same tune

Class!! grin grin

Longdistance Fri 11-Jan-13 10:50:56

You should have sung back ' my suga dumpling' they may have wet themselves and froze their knobs off grin

plantsitter Fri 11-Jan-13 10:51:01

Have they got a sign up saying who they are? If so, I would ring it and grass them up. Even if it's just a scaffolders sign or something because who wants their business to be associated with complete knobwankers?

ResolutelyCheeky Fri 11-Jan-13 10:52:18

I can diet my ass off, what you going to do about your face and personality? <tries>

WorraLiberty Fri 11-Jan-13 10:52:44

OP I don't know if they're self employed or if they work for a company...but if it's the latter and your see a name/number on the van, report the fuckers.

Any building company worth their salt will not want to be associated with twats like that.

Thick a-holes. You should walk past next time playing music, extremely loudly, 'I like big butts and I cannot lie....' Whether it's a 'compliment' (I use that in the loosest sense of the word), or an insult, most women do not want to be shouted at in the street by strange men. What gives them the right. I know how upset I would have been, it makes you want to childishly retaliate with 'Yes, well I've seen bigger dicks on an ant', but the trouble is at the time, you're too shocked or upset.

Longdistance Fri 11-Jan-13 10:53:14

Or a simple 'oh do fuck off' might suffice.

MrsKeithRichards Fri 11-Jan-13 10:55:57

I agree with worra it's really not on you should call if there are any numbers on vans etc.

justmyview Fri 11-Jan-13 10:56:23

If other people were passing at the same time, maybe you could send an email to the building firm - "As I was walking along, 2 of your employees shouted abuse at the woman in front of me. I was shocked. Your firm had previously been recommended to me and I had intended to ask you to quote for an extension to our house. I think you should know that I have decided to go elsewhere due to the comments made by your staff. You may wish to speak with them about it, in case you are losing other business due to their attitude"

You'll never know the outcome, but it's important their boss should know what they're like. In a recession, work is hard to come by and he'll be angry if he thinks his staff could be deterring potential customers

manicbmc Fri 11-Jan-13 10:57:18

Don't say anything. Just dangle your little finger at them in a 'you have a small knob and can only engage with women by being a twat' way.

idococktailshedoesbeer Fri 11-Jan-13 10:57:18

If you have to walk past these wankers regularly definitely call their company. Why should you have to stand for it? My friend did this when the men working on her office building repeatedly harrassed her. They were pulled off the job.

Kormachameleon Fri 11-Jan-13 10:59:27

The correct response to the who let the dogs out is

" I don't know but if you tell me where you came from ill walk you back"

DoItToJulia Fri 11-Jan-13 10:59:30
minouminou Fri 11-Jan-13 11:00:20

Another good trick is to very obviously take a photo of the van and then carry on walking.

inde Fri 11-Jan-13 11:05:12

I can't understand what motivates some people to make others feel bad. Definitely complain. If they are doing it to you they are belittling other women as well.

Arthurfowlersallotment Fri 11-Jan-13 11:17:55

I agree with the poster who said report them. If you can see a site sign anywhere then phone the number on it. It's harassment and its unacceptable.

Nancy66 Fri 11-Jan-13 11:27:40

Personally I am always devastated when some Neanderthal knuckle-dragger with the IQ of plankton lets it be known that he wouldn't 'do me.'

Yet, somehow, I have always managed to pull myself together and carry on despite this crushing blow.

TranceDaemon Fri 11-Jan-13 11:29:19

I would take a photo of the van, report them AND wiggle your little finger at them. Twats.

CastingNasturtiums Fri 11-Jan-13 11:30:47

grin Nancy

OP yanbu to hope their no doubt tiny willies drop off.

Nancy66, you made me LOL, you sound just like Mrs Mills!

OP, you could always do the "who let the knobs out" next time you go by, ( love it ICBNEG)

OwlLady Fri 11-Jan-13 11:39:14

god I can't stand workmen like that sad

Fakebook Fri 11-Jan-13 11:40:50

Okay, you know they were stupid arses. I'd find out what company they were working for and phone up and lodge a complaint and threaten to give them bad press in the local newspaper if they don't send you a written apology.

I had this. My dads a builder (not an arsehole, abuse shouting type) and he was working near my home. I said ill bring him something to eat down.

I got to the building site and some sick head starting whistling and shouting "get ya tits out"

I told him to tell his boss I'm here and to ask him if I'm allowed.

He shouted to his boss thinking he was clever. The boss shouted "Shut your mouth dick head that's my daughter" grin The arsehole didn't know where to put his face. I just waved and said did the boss say no?

Not all builders are cunts but some are.

Amytheflag Fri 11-Jan-13 11:47:17

They sound like twats. And must be pretty sad to get a kick out of putting people down. I was on a train once sitting next to a random guy I'd never met. Two men walked down the aisle and pointed at me, laughed and said "don't fancy yours much mate!" to the random guy. Mortifying sad

Fenton Fri 11-Jan-13 11:47:47

I haven't heard anyone sing 'Hey Fattie Bum Bum' for about 30 years shock

yes, I mean you, Brother

I would have thought this sort of behavior is quite unusual these days isn't it?

Do what Worra says, report them if they work for a firm, - or if they've got 'Check A Trade' on their van - drop them a line too smile

And NO they are NOT all like that at all.

Lafaminute Fri 11-Jan-13 11:50:04

Approaching some builders yesterday I had myself all psyched up to cope with any remarks with a cold stare and a "What did you say??? Why would you say that? etc" luckilythey didn't open their mouths but it is nerve wracking - not least because in actual fact I probably would have slunk away in tears [bluch]. Bear in mind that they said this purely to make each other laugh and not because they wanted to make you cry (I hope)

On the other hand my dh loves telling me that I've got a bum like J-Lo.....oops I mean JELLO.....thank goodness for my complete lack of sensitivity hmm

Lafaminute Fri 11-Jan-13 11:51:03

and that would have been blush rather than me bluching....

StuntGirl Fri 11-Jan-13 11:53:58

I would definitely look for a company name and report. It's absolutely disgusting. They're still at work, even if being a builder somehow makes them feel invincible hmm Can you imagine someone working in a shop shouting that to a random passerby?

Naysa Fri 11-Jan-13 12:54:55

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FreePeaceSweet Fri 11-Jan-13 13:16:03

Another good trick is to very obviously take a photo of the van and then carry on walking.

I have done this. I was shouted at every time I took the kids to school. When they wouldn't shut the fuck up I did the above. They never said another word. In fact they went positively silent when I passed grin

FreePeaceSweet Fri 11-Jan-13 13:21:49

If it were my employees behaving in this way I'd want to know. They were obviously not doing the work set, being disruptive, making a bad name of my firm and causing bad feeling. I'd want rid of the dead wood and to employ people willing to do as they are paid.

Proudnscary Fri 11-Jan-13 13:28:42

I bet you're gorgeous, OP, and you've got a lovely arse.

<wolf whistles>

theodorakisses Fri 11-Jan-13 13:34:23

I don't see much difference between shouting personal insults to racist ones. I would go past again and film them on your phone and report them. It's 2013 and one of the few good things about the UK is the fact that this is not acceptable behaviour. If nothing else put It on YouTube and shame the bastards. Not harmless fun

quoteunquote Fri 11-Jan-13 13:35:07

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Someone once shouted 'nice tits, shame about the face' at me. It was about 10 years ago but it still hurts!

Taggie the real Taggie Campbell-Black (well, I know she's not real as such, but you know what I mean) would never have said anything as crass and prejudiced as you just did.

WildThong Fri 11-Jan-13 14:00:00

Many years ago I was walking along quite happily with my friend who is very petite (and I most def am not!)

2 builders started whistling the tune from Laurel and Hardy; still hurts all these years later.

I've been told that a good response is to turn round, look right at them and waggle your pinkie at them - as in 'you've only got a wee one', very childish but somehow satisfying.

notnowbernard Fri 11-Jan-13 14:04:25

Sorry you had to experience that, OP

Taggie what a nobbish thing to say

CastingNasturtiums Fri 11-Jan-13 14:28:27

Blimey, I would have thought Taggie was being tongue-in-cheek and attempting to cheer up the OP by being amusingly extreme.

FreePeaceSweet Fri 11-Jan-13 14:32:29

I thought that too casting. I'm sure it was just a joke. Sometimes however when you're being abused by builders it does seem to be done thing by them. I'm certain that face to face they'd keep schtum.

MikeOxardInTheSnow Fri 11-Jan-13 14:33:20

How about "Thanks you two, but if I wanted to see a pair of tits I'd just look at my own".

FreePeaceSweet Fri 11-Jan-13 14:35:50

Or "If I wanted an arseholes opinion I'd have farted"?

CastingNasturtiums Fri 11-Jan-13 14:37:44

Free you just made me snort grin

EIizaDay Fri 11-Jan-13 14:40:26

Sounds like you have a good sense of humour OP - and perhaps the "boys" did too. Sometimes we all take life too seriously - that song brings back lots of happy memories www.youtube.com/watch?v=UMSWoIKUt98

GregBishopsBottomBitch Fri 11-Jan-13 15:05:27

My crass personal fave, "If i wanted to see a twat and i'd put a mirror to my own"

GregBishopsBottomBitch Fri 11-Jan-13 15:09:51

Or "Editors for Attitude magazine (for gay men) called, they liked your pictures, would you like to model for them"

KnitFastDieWarm Fri 11-Jan-13 15:27:29

There are two issues here - one is that these wankers think they have the right to make any comment, positive or negative, on a person's appearance in such an overbearing, intimidating way. Report them to their boss and on hollaback, as a PP mentioned.

Issue two is that it's really hurtful and belittling to be commented on like that and it can really make you feel bad about your body. I can guarantee you that a sizeable proportion of the hero male and gay girl population would have very positive things to say about your fat ass ;-p
Next time you walk past them, do it with swagger, confidence and an expression of mild, pitying disdain should they so much as glance on your direction.
Then ring up their boss and report them.

KnitFastDieWarm Fri 11-Jan-13 15:32:39

Hero male??? Hetro male, even!
Although in the context it does have a nice chivalrous overtone ;-p

CastingNasturtiums Fri 11-Jan-13 15:36:19

Haha, that's what I thought you meant Knit! Hero male: a male who loves a woman's curves and is very nice about them!

ElectricSoftParade Fri 11-Jan-13 17:12:59

Thanks for all the replies smile.

Didn't see my lovely two chaps on the way to the hairdressers but on the way back I did. Whipped out my phone and have taken some photos and intend to inform the company they work for.

There were no further comments. I think they were stunned by my fabulous new hair grin.

Darkesteyes Fri 11-Jan-13 17:35:21

Amother vote for hollaback here. Also this week @EverydaySexism have asked for people to Tweet their experiences of this sort of thing. The hashtag is #ShoutingBack.

Darkesteyes Fri 11-Jan-13 17:41:12

Wonder what Argos are doing about this.


DoItToJulia Fri 11-Jan-13 18:26:33

Brilliantly worded letter by Racel on hollaback. Worth bookmarking for any future use that mumsnetts may need!

FreePeaceSweet Sun 13-Jan-13 15:03:46

Darkesteyes thanks for that link. smile

Flossyfloof Sun 13-Jan-13 15:27:26

Many many years ago I was successful in an interview for my first teaching job, I was over the moon. I nipped into town walking on air. A few lads started saying things about what I was wearing (I thought I looked lovely). I turned round and said "Why don't you just fuck off?". Not another word was said - but they had no right to say those things and to burst my bubble. I shocked myself to be honest. I would certainly be contacting the company and if anyone working at my house were doing that I would want to know as well. OH is doing some building work at the moment and anyone, however good a worker they were, who behaved like that would be off the site immediately.

WarmFuzzyFun Sun 13-Jan-13 15:32:39

sad Bastards.

Don't let you self worth be determined by strangers.

WarmFuzzyFun Sun 13-Jan-13 15:33:01


shotofexpresso Sun 13-Jan-13 15:48:11

Oh god that is nasty, tell them to fuck off,

tbh I've noticed its never the Channing Tatum's of this world who shout this stuff to women, they are often ugly, overweight middle aged men themselves!.

NamingOfParts Sun 13-Jan-13 16:00:40

I have done the photographing thing on a large lorry which was routinely badly parked while making deliveries to a corner shop.

Funny thing was that ever after it was perfectly parked!

andtheycalleditbunnylove Sun 13-Jan-13 17:13:25

i'm sure there used to be a song with the line 'don't want no short dick man!' you might want to search that one out...

I had a group of youngish lads woof at me in a pub a little while ago hmm
The same night an older 'gentleman' at the bar asked why so many girls don't seem to be embarrassed of being so fat. hmm again.
Luckily, that night I had a healthy dose of 'Fuck you, I'm fabulous' going on, so just pointed out that I might not have noticed he was an arsehole if he hadn't opened his mouth, and he only had only been about 12 shots away from getting lucky grin

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sun 13-Jan-13 17:26:52

Scented LMAO, that is classy!!!

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