If your friend wanted to call their daughter Lily

(133 Posts)
Vagaceratops Tue 08-Jan-13 22:16:47

(totally outing myself here but ho hum)

And they thought that the spelling Lille was really nice, would you point out that that is a place in France and the pronunciation was different?

Or would you leave it and let them find out on their own?

nokidshere Tue 08-Jan-13 22:17:32

I'd definately point it out...

Deffo point it out. Lillie fine (but wrong) Lille place in France (and wrong).

BluddyNora Tue 08-Jan-13 22:18:43

I'd point it out, just in a 'oh, like that place in France?' Kinda way, not a 'but that's a place in France!' Kinda way!

WaspFactory Tue 08-Jan-13 22:18:49

They must mean 'Lillie', surely?

I would maybe leave a discreet Eurostar offer leaflet somewhere...

Yes, definitely tell them!

Euphemia Tue 08-Jan-13 22:19:57

Or Lillé? grin

BelleDameSansMerci Tue 08-Jan-13 22:20:12

Yes, definitely tell them!

mum382013 Tue 08-Jan-13 22:21:47

could be worse they may want to call her after that other famous french place breast!

Vagaceratops Tue 08-Jan-13 22:22:24

grin at Eurostar leaflet.

I thought she meant Lillie until today, when she told me that that was how they were going to spell it.

I would just hate for her to get upset that everyone is calling her daughter Leel.

mum382013 Tue 08-Jan-13 22:24:05


And worse, it will sound like 'little' in cockney.
i.e. Lily May = lil May

ThisIsMummyPig Tue 08-Jan-13 22:24:27

I think you need to point out that some ignorant people may be inclined to get it wrong.....

CailinDana Tue 08-Jan-13 22:25:18

Oh dear. Awkward. I'd be so tempted to say something but it would be difficult as hell. Cringe.

Amytheflag Tue 08-Jan-13 22:26:37

Eek! I would want to say something just in case they don't know but I don't know how I'd do it!

Is it a family of midgets? Lille means small in Norwegian.

IceAndSliceOfBrainsPlease Tue 08-Jan-13 22:31:15

Pure - so Lillehammer means 'Little hammer'? So cute!

Yes grin It does not refer to a flower head, or a hammer shaped like a lily.

oldraver Tue 08-Jan-13 22:33:01

I think you need to point out that some ignorant people may be inclined to get it wrong

Why would they be ignorant ? If you saw the name written down and hadn't heard the parents pronunciation it would be perfectly understandable to pronounce it as the town and think maybe they were following the trend for place names

It is a little bit like the song "Nice in Nice"

VBisme Tue 08-Jan-13 22:34:37

Yes, tell them.

ThisIsMummyPig Tue 08-Jan-13 22:36:04

Sorry Oldraver - it was meant to be tongue in cheek - I would pronounce it Lille too.

shellyf Tue 08-Jan-13 22:36:42

Agree with telling them

BreconBeBuggered Tue 08-Jan-13 22:37:18

'My cousin's friend's uncle's dog's brother's dad had the same idea as you and now their DD keeps getting called Leel'? <helpful>

CloudsAndTrees Tue 08-Jan-13 22:40:13

I'd tell them, but only if it was a close friend who I knew wouldn't hate me afterwards.

I think it's ok to do it while little Leel is still in utero. After she is born, if they decide to go ahead with it, you just have to smile and say how lovely it is.

catgirl1976 Tue 08-Jan-13 22:43:15

I'd tell them

But subtlely

Welovecouscous Tue 08-Jan-13 22:47:03

Can't you say something like this:

Well, I mentioned your name idea and spelling to my cousin up In Scotland on the phone because we were talking about how it's nice to use unusual names. She was really confused though and said "like the town", she said I should tell you if people see it written down they'll say it like the French place. Might not bother you, but I thought I should tell you!

ImperialBlether Tue 08-Jan-13 22:50:57

Lille T Surname is my suggestion.

Tell her if she wants her child to not have to explain her name every time she has to say it, to go ahead. Otherwise she should spell it the proper way: Lily.

Arrgh can't stand people who make up the spellings of their children's names - to me, it just indicates they have an illiterate parent.

PetiteRaleuse Tue 08-Jan-13 22:58:52

I would be cruel to be kind and tell them that if ever she grew up and wanted to spend any length of time in France she would very much have the piss taken and also have to deal with mispronunciation of her name on a daily basis.

gimmecakeandcandy Tue 08-Jan-13 23:00:32

What a stupid way to spell Lily. Tell her!

gimmecakeandcandy Tue 08-Jan-13 23:01:13

Totally agree with imperial

skinnywhippet Tue 08-Jan-13 23:09:04

Oh it really annoys me when people change the spellings of perfectly good traditional names. Sometimes it works, but doing it for the sake of being different it silly. Exception is if you are from a different culture eg Matthais instead of Matthew, can't think of others off the top of my head.

larks35 Tue 08-Jan-13 23:11:00

As a teacher they are condeming her to a being called "Lill" especially at Secondary school where we see many groups and don't get to know each child individually.

Having a problem at the moment with a number of boys in different groups with the name spelt Louis but some are pronounced Loo-ee (my default assumption) and others Lewis (why not spell it that way then!!), fortunately they all forgive my errors.

HenryCrun Tue 08-Jan-13 23:12:01

I would do anything to stop them calling their kid a name with a not-immediately-obvious spelling. Mine has a not-immediately-obvious spelling and it has caused me no end of woe, everywhere I have gone.

Trills Tue 08-Jan-13 23:13:40

It would not be unreasonable to point out that you need either a Y or an IE or an EE to make it end in the desired "ee" sound.

WillowFae Tue 08-Jan-13 23:27:34

Two of the women who were found shot in America the other day were twins called Rebeika and Kayetie.

I never know if parents genuinely don't know how to spell names or if they think it is clever and cool.

3smellysocks Tue 08-Jan-13 23:38:58

the fact it is a place doesn't bother me but the constant mispronunciation would.

3smellysocks Tue 08-Jan-13 23:40:43

can you just text and suggest lillie to help with pronunciation?

Lille also do a nice range of incontinence products!

Oh yes, you must alert her to those! Poor little girl, associated with incontinence rather than innocence!

MollyMurphy Tue 08-Jan-13 23:45:12

I would never have thought to pronounce their spelling as Lilly....so I'd consider pointing it out in a very polite manner that completely supports their odd choice if they go about spelling however they wish.

Redbindy Tue 08-Jan-13 23:46:35

Let them do it,then point it out when it's too late to change.

tiredteddy Tue 08-Jan-13 23:47:59

Def point it out if you are feeling brave. I taught a little girl called "Elle" pronounced Ellie or Elly. Everyone got it wring all the time.

tiredteddy Tue 08-Jan-13 23:48:13


It doesn't seem to bother people who wear Hollister though - I often have the urge to point out that they are advertising catheters.

DoodlesNoodles Tue 08-Jan-13 23:50:22

it would be sooooo wrong

Good spot mustcleantheplayroom

Lindsay321 Tue 08-Jan-13 23:51:47

Horrible OP,

God forbid anyone should give their child a name/spelling you don't like.

Don't send them a text or email, tell them to their face. I doubt you'll have any occasion thereafter to spell or pronounce the child's name again.

Problem solved.

blackeyedsusan Wed 09-Jan-13 00:13:42

why horrible? is it not worse to let them call her afterr an incontinence pad?
tell her gently op. say you were googling to find famous lilles ..

CailinDana Wed 09-Jan-13 00:15:13

Lindsay you do realise that Lille is pronounced "Leel"? It's not a case of thre op not liking the spelling, the spelling is actually wrong.

DoodlesNoodles Wed 09-Jan-13 00:20:39

Ahhhh, yes, a good friend would say nothing and let you name your DD after an incontinence pad. hmm

It really would be horrible to warn her confused !!!!

Boomerwang Wed 09-Jan-13 00:21:18


'Lille T Surname is my suggestion.'

Lille T? I'm confused. The poor kid is going to be confused with a tampon brand.

HenryCrun Wed 09-Jan-13 00:24:28

"Horrible OP,

God forbid anyone should give their child a name/spelling you don't like.

Don't send them a text or email, tell them to their face. I doubt you'll have any occasion thereafter to spell or pronounce the child's name again.

Problem solved."

I was a bit baffled by this. Having a difficult name has caused me problems <throughout my life>, and it's not about to get any better. Why is it so absolutely appalling to question this ill-advised choice of name?

Lovecat Wed 09-Jan-13 00:29:05

<prepares to out self>

A friend of a friend, who I see at kid's parties, has a daughter called Rayleigh. She got quite... well, not exactly huffy, but verging on it when I asked if she had been named after the town in Essex. I don't think she was even aware of the place's existence til then...

I would tell them before the child is born/gets to the registry.

Boomerwang Wed 09-Jan-13 00:43:29

HenryCrun he/she/it is obviously a berk and doesn't understand what the OP is about.

Don't these people google the name to see what pops up before choosing it?
I send her the link to the incontinence pads and tell her that she might want to re think the spelling.

Startail Wed 09-Jan-13 01:02:33

Also my dyslexic DD1 would hate her, all those upper and lower case things with and without a dot, Help!

DD was in Y5 if not 6 before she got the right names and sounds for L and I.
Also in a non serif font like this iPhone capital I and small l are exactly the same, lots of tablets have toggle keyboards too, it's very confusing.
I fear a child would type LIllIe or lliie very easily.

squoosh Wed 09-Jan-13 01:18:45

God I'd definitely tell her.

'Lille? Oh that's lovely (lie), but you know what, I bet you most people will pronounce it Leel like the French town of the same name. Why don't you just stick with Lily. It'll save her a lot of hassle.'

A couple of weeks later you can have the conversation that every other girl born in the last 4 years has been called Lily and it's this generation's Sharon/Michelle/Lisa

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 09-Jan-13 01:35:36

Don't understand pp saying you are "horrible" OP.

Lille will be pronounced Leel rather than Lih-lee because it is wrong.

Your friends clearly aren't very worldly. If it was my friend I would mention it. Think of their little Lille spending her life correcting people "no,no it is Lily". Poor child.

Vagaceratops Wed 09-Jan-13 07:31:08

Thanks for those people who actually read the thread.

I will tell her gently today. She is lovely so I dont want to upset her.

redexpat Wed 09-Jan-13 08:21:06

It's also the danish for little.

RedToothbrush Wed 09-Jan-13 08:48:03

Your friends are thick as pig shit.


Quirky spellings of names are not cute, not different and not unique. They make both the kid and the parents look thick. And given how many preconceptions just your name can give they need to be told. It can have implications for applications for things like university and for jobs and has been proven in various studies.

Tell them, for the sake of the poor kid. If you loose a friend of it, at least you know you've tried to do something in the best interests of the kid, not to be a miserable cow raining on their parade as other people on this thread seem to be suggesting.

mrsjay Wed 09-Jan-13 08:51:04

so she is going to call her daughter 'leel' am i reading that right that is what Lile sounds like, daft name and although I might not say anything it is just a name but leel hmm

mrsjay Wed 09-Jan-13 08:52:59


when we visited the aquatic place there I swear my dds were going to pass out with laughing so much , we are going to breast {hehe} hmm

Thewhingingdefective Wed 09-Jan-13 08:58:12

Does it really matter if name spellings change and evolve?

Personally I am not taken with Lille as the spelling for Lily, but there are worse crimes. I wouldn't say anything to the friend. If they like that spelling, they may be hurt or offended if it is criticised.

diddl Wed 09-Jan-13 08:59:09

I agree I would say "aren´t you bothered that most will mispronounce?"

Is it at all possible to get Lily from Lille without being told that´s how to say it?

mrsjay Wed 09-Jan-13 09:01:18

I suppose the spelling is like the upteen ways people spell Amy , dd1 went to school with loads of AMy's and 5 of them spelt them different,

Moominsarehippos Wed 09-Jan-13 09:01:56

Why are they spelling it like that? Its a simple, beautiful name. Why mess with a traditional spelling, unless they have a weird pronuncion for it.

TiggyD Wed 09-Jan-13 09:04:16

The child will have her name spelt wrong (correctly) all her life. Lots of hassle for the poor girl.

Psammead Wed 09-Jan-13 09:07:03

This reminds me of a conversation I had with a now-ex friend. I asked her what she was going to call her child if it were a boy. She replied 'Zeen'. We're in Germany, by the way. I commented on how nice it is, and quite unusual. She laughed and said 'why unusual? It's British!' I wracked my brains and she said 'You know, like the James Bond actor. Zeen Correrry or whatever'. Realisation dawned - 'You mean.. Sean Connery?'. 'Oh.'

Tell her. We are ex-friends for other reasons, not because of Zeen.

mrsjay Wed 09-Jan-13 09:10:54

oh dear was your friend a bit thick in other ways psmmaed confused

MrsMelons Wed 09-Jan-13 09:11:42

I think it is good that you are going to say something as it will be a nightmare for the child and also the mum may just not realise.

At the pre-school I was involved in we had so many names spelt in random ways and occassionally they would be spelt incorrectly by accident (because they were made up spellings and in a rush staff may forget). The parents actually get quite nasty about it!

I tried to make my DS2's name the easiest spelling of 4 legitimate ways to spell it but people still get it wrong, I don't get too worried as we chose it knowing that it may happen but it genuinely is spelt correctly.

Psammead Wed 09-Jan-13 09:14:33

Mrsjay, she really, really was. I get on with most types of people, but she really was too stupid to like. And it manifested itself in all kinds of bigotry. She hated foreigners, for one thing... She actually told me this. Her foreign friend. And I got judgey about her in all kinds of ways which would get me flamed on mn.

ItsIcyOutsideIThinkINeedThorin Wed 09-Jan-13 09:19:36

Agree that there are lots of different ways of spelling names like Amy (Aimee, Aimee etc) but they are all at least pronounced Amy! There is no conceivable way that Lille could be pronounced as Lily.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers Wed 09-Jan-13 09:20:03

If you are SURE that she actually doesn't want it pronounced Leel (which she might) then worth mentioning in one of those casual ways people above have suggested.
Who cares if there is some niche product in the market with the same name.
But after your having brought it up once, it's their own business what they want to name her.

realcoalfire Wed 09-Jan-13 09:20:23

I know some 'Elle' s who are pronounced Ellie so I am not sure what the difference is.I'd stay out of it .I a sure there will some language/dialect somewhere in the world that would pronouce it Lily

ItsIcyOutsideIThinkINeedThorin Wed 09-Jan-13 09:20:33

Oops, I didn't mean to spell Aimee the same way twice there grin

Anniegetyourgun Wed 09-Jan-13 09:22:41

<wonders how Lindsay321's children's names are spelt>

mrsjay Wed 09-Jan-13 09:22:55

Mrsjay, she really, really was. I get on with most types of people, but she really was too stupid to like. And it manifested itself in all kinds of bigotry. She hated foreigners, for one thing... She actually told me this. Her foreign friend. And I got judgey about her in all kinds of ways which would get me flamed on mn.

as you said exfriend thick and ignorant people annoy me, I am not the brightest bulb but when they are a bit thick in that way I give them a wide berth,

mrsjay Wed 09-Jan-13 09:24:13

Oops, I didn't mean to spell Aimee the same way twice there

yes it was a bit samey grin

Absy Wed 09-Jan-13 09:25:42

Friends don't let friends accidentally name their children after rather dull cities.

(I've spent two weekends in Lille. It was not pleasant).

Startail Wed 09-Jan-13 09:26:42

We have several Mollie's round here.
I always feel guilty for thinking of one of them as "Mollie who spells it a ridiculous way"

I can't remember what the spelling is, looks vaguely Celtic, but it's different.

realcoalfire Wed 09-Jan-13 09:31:49

So the Norgewian pronunciation would be Lill-ee then?
Fine then How do you know that is not what she is aiming for? lots of names are spelled differently to their English pronunciation.

Vagaceratops Wed 09-Jan-13 09:56:49

I spoke to her this morning on the way home from school.

I played it dumb, and said 'isn't there a place in France spelt like that', she looked a bit concerned but said she didnt know.

Just got a text - she is googled it and it is a city in France, so she is going to think about it.

mrsjay Wed 09-Jan-13 10:00:47

aw good now delete this thread she might read it i grin

tiredteddy Wed 09-Jan-13 10:12:47

Well done that was the kindest thing to do and done without making her feel silly, you just gave her the info to make her own decision.

Anniegetyourgun Wed 09-Jan-13 10:17:06

I thought the Norwegian pronunciation was more "Lilleh" than "Lillee". Anyway, more people a kid in Britain mixes with are likely to know French than Norwegian.

Anyway, yes, I agree, delicately handled, OP.

HyvaPaiva Wed 09-Jan-13 10:25:08

I'm Scottish and the name 'Catriona' is pronounced Katrina. When (normally non-Scottish) people use the spelling but pronounce it cat-ree-oh-nah it's a shame because it isn't the name they think it is, they're just saying it wrong. Not being judgey: uniqueness, alternative spellings, and different tastes are obviously fine. But not knowing how to pronounce a name and using it incorrectly is a pity. For the child's whole life it'll be a case of people pronouncing it right (e.g. Leel and Katrina) and the actual person named it saying it wrong (Lily and Cat-ree-oh-nah). That's a shame! You did the right and kind thing, OP.

Elle pronounced Ellie is also wrong, no matter how parents convince themselves.

What next, Katy written as Cate? hmm

YouOldSlag Wed 09-Jan-13 10:33:00

I a sure there will some language/dialect somewhere in the world that would pronouce it Lily yes but not in the UK where the child will presumably grow up, and enjoy a life of saying not it's LILY not LEEL every bloody day.

TBH if I'd picked a name that other people would have trouble saying or had a mad or rude meaning, I would want a friend to tell me before the baby is born, rather than let me and my baby look a fool.

GregBishopsBottomBitch Wed 09-Jan-13 10:35:23

I would politely suggest the actually ways of spelling Lily


It would really annoy me having people mispronounce my DD's name, its annoying enough people cant spell it right.

DonderandBlitzen Wed 09-Jan-13 10:42:00

OP - Did you mention to the friend that the French town was pronouced Leel? She might think they pronounce it Lilly and still call her child it.

Vagaceratops Wed 09-Jan-13 10:47:07

What next, Katy written as Cate

Like Cate Blanchett grin

Yes, I said the French town was Lille, and pronounced it Leel.

YouOldSlag Wed 09-Jan-13 10:47:57

What did she say OP?

Yes, that well known film star Katie Blanchett.
Well done you.

ToomuchWaternotWine Wed 09-Jan-13 10:57:05

Wonder if she found the incontinence pads too when she googled ...

samandi Wed 09-Jan-13 12:31:07

I might, but you can spell/pronounce names how you like.

fatcuntroller Wed 09-Jan-13 13:58:55

If she really wants a daft spelling she would need to add an extra e really, so lillee. God it actually causes my physical pain to type that.

YouOldSlag Wed 09-Jan-13 15:57:40

I might, but you can spell/pronounce names how you like

Of course you can, but why create a future unnecessary problem for you and your child. I mean why give a child a difficult or awkwardly spelt name and then spend the rest of your life getting impatient with people who can't spell or say it?

diddl Wed 09-Jan-13 16:08:16

"but you can spell/pronounce names how you like"

Not here in Germany!

Cabrinha Wed 09-Jan-13 16:27:57

Well done, but to be honest I would have said "but in English, that isn't the right letters to make the "Lily" sound".
Bollocks to "you can spell names how you like".
What, I can spell Sally "Frying Pan". No, I can't.

I actually quite like Lille, pronounced Lily, but I don't think it will work in practice - people who hear 'Lily' will write Lily, and people who see Lille written down will say Leel. It's like Elle being pronounced Ellie, and there, may I suggest, is the compromise: I give you Lillie!

squoosh Wed 09-Jan-13 17:41:39

I think Lillie Langtry was a Lillie. And she's the most famous of all the Lils!

I cant believe you did not mention the incontinence pads (blaming your great grand mother)

< disappointed >

FellatioNels0n Wed 09-Jan-13 17:49:06

She's a loon. She needs to be told.

dexter73 Wed 09-Jan-13 18:40:48

If I saw Lille as a name I would think the parents had done a 'Beckham' and called the baby after the place it was conceived!

If I saw Lille as a name (Lill-eh), I would think it was an incomplete sentence and wonder "small what?"

Should be fun to know the surname. Lille Peters, Lille Smith, Lille Cameron (especially fun for a girl to travel to Norway with the name ^Small Cameron^), Lille Edwards, etc....

MamaBear17 Wed 09-Jan-13 19:39:48

I would just mention it. I knew a woman who called her daughter Lilliee-Maie, which is pronounced Lily-May. Im not sure why she selected such a unique spelling, but each to their own.

Having a name you need to spell, and respell, is really annoying. I know this from experience. Not only am I lumbered with a Norwegian name her in Britain, my middle name is a British sounding name with a Norwegian spelling, AND I have a double barrel foreign surname. sad I thank my lucky stars my parents did not call me Wenche (guess how this name is pronounced!! shock ) like they planned.

So I guess, in a way, with all the foreign names around, it is now the norm to spell and spell your name again and again, because you can never take the spelling of a name for granted. But annoying it is.

sparkle12mar08 Wed 09-Jan-13 19:45:55

Wenker? Vensher? grin

Tricycletops Wed 09-Jan-13 19:46:04

Cabrinha - "What, I can spell Sally "Frying Pan". No, I can't."


sparkle, try substitue the e in wenker for for an a, and you are almost there. The r is silent, however.

sparkle12mar08 Wed 09-Jan-13 19:53:21

Ah! I had an a friend called William Ankers once. It's a reasonably common surname where I grew up and so didn't cause too much notice till we all hit high school. I often wonder what on earth his parents were thinking.

sameoldlovebunny Wed 09-Jan-13 21:29:25

tell her its lil'lee.

GregBishopsBottomBitch Wed 09-Jan-13 21:37:39

A Swedish couple has been fined for failing to register a legally approved name for their seven-year-old child, who is presently called "Brfxxccxxmnpcccclllmmnprxvclmnckssqlbb11116" (pronounced "/&#712;al&#716;bin/"). They've offered to change the kid's name to "A," but the Swedish government says that won't do, either.

Poor, Poor, Child, Lille is pale in comparision.

hopkinette Wed 09-Jan-13 21:51:46

Cabrinha - "What, I can spell Sally "Frying Pan". No, I can't."


Lindsay321 Wed 09-Jan-13 23:14:51

Hi everyone (sheepishly)

I totally got the wrong end of the stick with this thread, sorry blush

OP, I thought you were being mean about your friend! I realise now that you weren't. Sorry for saying you were being horrible.

Yes Lille is an odd spelling and I can see that it's pronounced "leel". You are right to tell her thats how the rest of the world will pronounce it too.

DS has a very normal name no funny spelling. I don't know why I was up on my high horse but believe me at the time I was towering !

As you were...

blush (again)

M0naLisa Thu 10-Jan-13 00:59:17

Someone I know has a daughter called Lotta pronounced Lottie


MrsMelons Thu 10-Jan-13 08:22:26

I may be being a bit stupid but how on earth could Lotta ever be pronounced Lottie?

smornintime Thu 10-Jan-13 08:49:09

Cabrinha - "What, I can spell Sally "Frying Pan". No, I can't."
I chose names with normal spellings on purpose. Staff at DS's nursery were actually quite complimentary!

FobblyWoof Thu 10-Jan-13 09:01:34

I. Not really understanding those who are saying spelling Lily as Lille is a personal choice of how you spell/pronounce a name

They are two different words confused

It's like wanting to call your child Kieron but spelling it Connor and expecting people to call him Kieron! Change the spelling of names if you like, but don't change them into entirely different words! grin

YouOldSlag Thu 10-Jan-13 09:02:14

I find it quite passive aggressive that people give their children misspelt names and then feel aggrieved when the rest of the population haven't read their minds and get it "wrong".

Lotta as Lottie is a perfect example of this.

My children have traditional but not common names, spelt normally. When I signed DS2 into nursery she said "Oh thank God for that, it's so nice to hear a name I can spell for a change!"

I'm not saying we should all use boring normal names, but people can't expect to change the generally accepted way a name is pronounced.

Moominsarehippos Thu 10-Jan-13 09:04:40

I knew a Hollee. Her mum did get huffy if misspelled!

WillowFae Thu 10-Jan-13 10:35:35

And then you get regular names that are spelt correctly and people still don't pronounce properly.

Sarah and Sara are NOT pronounced the same!!!!

squoosh Thu 10-Jan-13 10:49:04

American Saras pronounce it as Sarah.

ThatArtfulPussy Thu 10-Jan-13 11:48:08

My friend Sara is pronounced Sarah (and she's British).

FellatioNels0n Thu 10-Jan-13 12:20:19

Lotta as Lottie? confused

Do you mean Lotte pronounced Lotta rather than Lottie?

Scholes34 Thu 10-Jan-13 13:26:24

I have friends Sara and Sarah and their names are pronounced the same.

I used to know someone called Karen (pronounced with a long "a") and she got very shirty if you didn't get it right.

The "e" on the end of Lotte, or similar German names is the schwa (upside down e), and not an "ie" - ie Lott-uh, rather than Lott-eee.

haggisaggis Thu 10-Jan-13 13:41:45

Quint - We picked Norwegian names for our kids to go with our surname - but were careful to pick ones that could be pronounced easily in UK. (Used to know someone through work called Wenche - I can pronounce it correctly but my then boss got it wrong every time)

QOD Thu 10-Jan-13 13:50:19

I know a Hanne, drives people mad as they just her Hann eh or just Hann or Hann eeee

It's Hannah sound ... Dad is German I think?

Boomerwang Thu 10-Jan-13 19:24:45

I wanted to give my daughter a Swedish name, but I wanted my Brit family and friends to be able to pronounce it properly, so I simply changed the spelling to look exactly as it sounds, which fortunately is pronounced the same way if a Swede were to read the name.

The first thing you should consider when choosing a name for your child is whether they're going to have a lifetime of misspellings and pronunciation problems associated with it. It's only fair to your kid.

DoJo Thu 10-Jan-13 22:52:00

Well, my name only has two letters and people STILL manage to spell it wrong - even in response to e-mails etc where my name is a part of the e-mail address and in my auto signature. My son has an unusual name, but spely exactly as it sounds, but his middle name is actually a family surname so it has a slightly unusual spelling, but that's why it's his middle name - so he doesn't have to spell it every time he gives his name!

bp300 Fri 11-Jan-13 03:06:24

You need to give her the lecture from the new Compare the Market adverts.

There's no confusion
They're different Words
Spelled with different letters
Pronounced differently!

AlwaysReadyForABlether Fri 11-Jan-13 03:46:56

I know a woman through work whose name is Kayte. I always call her Kate but my boss calls her Katie. I still don't know which is correct.

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