Baby clinic, weighing, health visitors

(81 Posts)
Chislemum Tue 08-Jan-13 16:02:40

I was wondering whether it is wrong - or unreasonable - to stop going to baby clinics and instead weigh my baby at home?

Our baby clinic is really filthy, overheated, etc. Also, the health visitors don't really help at all, just give me incorrect and conflicting information (depending on who you talk to) and worry me needlessly.

Is it normal that all they do at the baby clinic is to weigh babies?

My DS is 5 months and I intend to have all his vaccinations done etc. I just don't like the baby clinic. What would happen (if anything), if I weighed my baby myself and refuse all further contact with HVs but instead take baby to GP if there is a real issue and/or to a privately paid pediatrician?

I have searched the threads on this forum and found lots of info (incl. a thread implying HVs were spies???) - does anyone have a link to something official were it says I don't have to go there and won't lose any entitlement of NHS treatment.... (sorry for my angry tone... was just annoying there today).

I never attended a single baby clinic, I hated them. I also hate health visitors and just told them I was too busy and no-one batted an eyelid.

JakeBullet Tue 08-Jan-13 16:05:07

Hi, as an ex HV I can say you are well within your rights not to go. You don't HAVE to have any HV input if you don't want to. It sounds like a hellish clinic and you will probably do better just weighing your baby at home.

As for conflicting's a nightmare and very common sadly.

rubyslippers Tue 08-Jan-13 16:05:25

they are absolutely non compulsory - you won't lose any entitielment to any NHS services if you don't attend

you don't have to get your child weighed ever at one of those clinics

HVs aren't spies - good ones are there to help and they will. They can be very helpful; and one of mine certainly was

JakeBullet Tue 08-Jan-13 16:05:53

...and no you won't lose any entitlement to NHS

WorraLiberty Tue 08-Jan-13 16:07:03

Blimey, I stopped taking my 3 when they were about 4 weeks.

It's not compulsory and actually it's an unnecessary waste of their time if you don't feel you need their services.

Pascha Tue 08-Jan-13 16:07:27

You don't have to go there and you won't lose entitlement to anything at all.

I limagine the majority of mums go infrequently at best, if at all. I didn't ever go and we're still standing.

FirstTimeForEverything Tue 08-Jan-13 16:08:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BigShinyBaubles Tue 08-Jan-13 16:08:34

I only took my eldest ds once, couldnt stand it so never took my other two dss!

MakeItALarge Tue 08-Jan-13 16:08:41

My ds is 10months and Ive only taken him to the baby clinic once. Ime all they do is ask if everything is ok and offer help and advice if needed, and weigh the baby.

If you dont need or want the help and you are happy youre baby is gaining weight and progressing you really dont need to go.

MrsHoarder Tue 08-Jan-13 16:09:18

Well by around 5 months a lot of mothers start returning to work, do you really think they take a day off each month to have the baby weighed?

slightlysoupstainedbabygrows Tue 08-Jan-13 16:21:48

I went to clinic last week & that was the first time. DS is a couple of weeks younger than yours, Chislemum. Didn't feel I needed to get him weighed again after the 8 week check as he was eating well, & growing out of clothes. Eventually got curious though!

Did the immunisations at GPs. TBH apart from last week have only seen HV twice, I think they're so busy that if you're doing okay they're not going to chase you. Mine said they'd get in touch around 5 months to see if I needed any help, but other than that to feel free to phone or come to clinic if I needed help.

ShamyFarrahCooper Tue 08-Jan-13 16:22:32

Mine pestered me for a year about my ds' 2 year check. She was lovely but argh he didn't NEED it. I made sure he had his vaccinations, but no I didn't need them to tell me that yes he can do this, that & the other.

SneakyNuts Tue 08-Jan-13 16:23:30

I've never been!

SamSmalaidh Tue 08-Jan-13 16:26:10

You know you are only supposed to go to the clinic once a month at most, unless you have a problem? Otherwise you're just taking up HV time unnecessarily.

Go for vaccinations, you'll probably be offered a developmental check at 2, but other than that clinic attendance isn't necessary.

EnjoyResponsibly Tue 08-Jan-13 16:32:35

I hated going. I thought it'd be really nice and fun measuring milestones, but had the same experience as you OP.

The only part l liked was to walk with DS in the pram, but on top of all that we were summarily reassigned to a different clinic location when DS was 4 months old. New clinic all sparkly but in the middle of a really, really nasty area. Too intimidating. So that was that.

lovelyladuree Tue 08-Jan-13 16:37:28

My DD was prem, so I used to enjoy getting her weighed etc. I didn't necessarily like the HVs very much. I guess the ones who say they never went were the working mums who only took 2 weeks of maternity leave babies are such an inconvenience Stop going if you aren't getting anything out of it.

BartletForTeamGB Tue 08-Jan-13 16:45:15

After we had sorted out BFing, I never went at all. I don't know why people go routinely. I'd only go if there was something wrong.

Chislemum Tue 08-Jan-13 16:49:13

Thanks very much for all the helpful answers. Yes, I only went every four weeks, well actually I waited 6 weeks with the last visit. I will get myself some scales and just get on with it.

Everyone around me seems to go on a regular basis and the HV stressed the importance of the clinic so that I honestly thought it was compulsory. Only reading through mumsnet did I start wondering.....!

Thanks sooooo much. smile

Notanexcitingname Tue 08-Jan-13 17:05:22

If there are no underlying health concerns you don't even need a pair of scales until you're thinking of a new car seat smile.

The current NICE (National Institute of Clinical Excellence) guidelines is to weigh 3 times in the first year, if no concerns.

Personally I'd be thinking about making a complaint over HVs who had so misled me, but I can well imagine you have other things to do smile

Feminine Tue 08-Jan-13 17:06:30

I didn't go.

don't blame you smile

KenLeeeeeee Tue 08-Jan-13 17:07:52

I have never been to a baby clinic. DC4 was last weighed by the HV when he was about 12 weeks old (he's coming up to 8 months now) and then also weighed by the paediatrician when he was in hospital with a chest infection.

HV visits are totally non-compulsory, don't worry about it. If you don't want to go, don't go. It sounds like you have very good reasons to steer clear of them!

Pandemoniaa Tue 08-Jan-13 17:15:54

I used to take ds1 to the hell that was baby clinic until I realised that it wasn't compulsory. When ds2 came along, he went once and that was once too often.

butterflymum Tue 08-Jan-13 17:17:08

You've already had plenty of good answers to your question, so can I just pick up on:

Quote: "Our baby clinic is really filthy, overheated, etc"

I sincerely hope you can spare some time to report/highlight your concerns to someone in a position to act appropriately in resolving the issues, as so far, it seems no one else has bothered (could be others feel the same but think 'someone else' will act, and no one ever has/will).


Fairylea Tue 08-Jan-13 17:18:59

I went with dd now aged 9 as I thought you were supposed to.... I hated it. I think seeing all the other mums seemingly coping so much better than me (they probably weren't in reality) actually contributed to my pnd.

With ds now 7 months I haven't been to a single one and he hasn't been weighed by anyone since we were discharged from hv and midwife at about 6 weeks.

mummysmellsofsick Tue 08-Jan-13 17:22:33

I've never been. DS last officially weighed at about 6 weeks. I've weighed him myself since then

MummytoMog Tue 08-Jan-13 17:26:09

Never went, hated them, seemed to make all my friends really unhappy and miserable. Nobody rang me up to shout at me. I don't even know what my DC's weigh.

Svrider Tue 08-Jan-13 17:27:20

I was on dc3 before I even knew I could go to baby clinic wink

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 08-Jan-13 17:28:08

I'm having quite the oppersit problem, I'm trying to get my youngest dc an 8 month check up ( now almost. 10 months) but can't. Here they are all done at surestart in groups but you are not allowed to take siblings with you. All the centres have the group at the same time on the same day.

Another dc starts school much later on that day than most kids and due to his disability most people freak out about looking after him so won't but I can't take him with me because they won't let me.

I don't have any concerns but if I did I wouldn't discus them in a group setting

FutTheShuckUp Tue 08-Jan-13 17:35:42

Is it normal that all they do at the baby clinic is to weigh babies?

It may look like thats all they do but I can assure you it isn't. They also observe parent/child interaction, pick up on any potential issues and can address these as needed. It may look black and white, but it isnt.
I must also say- I work as a staff nurse with the health visiting team, we have people at clinic who bring their 2 year olds to be weighed every month or less! Its silly, it puts strain on resources and often just adds unecessary anxiety to parenting (if say the child doesnt gain any weight since the last visit).

SamSmalaidh Tue 08-Jan-13 17:36:53

If you don't have any concerns, why do you want to go to the group check up? I didn't even know there was an 8 month check.

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Tue 08-Jan-13 17:37:20

Ive never been to one, my ds is nearly 4

FutTheShuckUp Tue 08-Jan-13 17:37:35

We say our checks are 9-12 month, and even then if you dont have any concerns about your childs development there is no rush

I went 3/4 times with DS1
Once with DD, as had to for 6 week check
Never with DS2, although dh took him for his first jab there and the HVs were sniffy that it was dad and not mom... hmm

I was a SAHM with first two, student mom with third, so plenty of time but no inclination smile

naughtycloud1 Tue 08-Jan-13 17:38:41

i weighed mine once and that was all im sure she caught a boil after that there changing mats were awful

Chislemum Tue 08-Jan-13 17:42:25

weirdest thing was that you had to wait for ages (fine, not their fault if it is busy) and it was super hot.... however, you have to strip your baby naked for the weighing and by the time it was our turn, little one was sweaty and the one window they had open was the one directly next to the scales, so the naked sweaty baby was in a draught. hmm

very reassuring reading all your responses.

LaCiccolina Tue 08-Jan-13 17:45:21

I hate hvs. Had such ridiculous advice, they were more dangerous than helpful. I also hate weighing for same reasons. Won't be going again. GP far far better, as is this site.

MrsHoarder Tue 08-Jan-13 17:49:24

Fut, why not tell these parents that weighing in monthly isn't necessary at two then? Might even free some time for visiting rather than making mothers discuss concerns in a public room.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 08-Jan-13 17:49:33

Because at our 8 month check you get a book bag and he hasn't been weighed since he was about 6 weeks old, as well as 5 of my kids having ASD so its kinda handy if development checks get done just in case youngest dc ever requires an assessment its handy to have documented when he was doing what ect just in case.

Cortana Tue 08-Jan-13 17:51:49

"I guess the ones who say they never went were the working mums who only took 2 weeks of maternity leave babies are such an inconvenience "

Erm, no Lovely hmm, I had a child who had no extra needs, was clearly thriving and I didn't need to be told he was doing well. Not a matter of convenience, just common sense and confidence in my case. I had a great support network, very lucky in that sense I know.

And for the record, I know some Mother's who took "only two weeks", but the Father was happy at home being a full time parent. Not everyone is the same and not everyone has the same needs, hence HV and weighing being something you can take up, if you have the need.

Enfyshedd Tue 08-Jan-13 18:10:31

DD is 7 1/2 mo & I took her fortnightly until about 2 months ago - part of my reason for this was because the PND assessment they got me to fill in at the 8 wk check caught me at a bad time due to ExP (not DD's DF) being a dick & my HV phoned me within an hour of leaving the clinic (so not making it obvious at all that they were panicing about me hmm). I thought I'd better go regularly to assure them that I was coping fine & I didn't have PND.

I'm going back to work later this month, so I plan to take her to clinic once this month (although I have bumped into the HV twice this month in the waiting room at the docs because I've been ill) & for her 9mo check at the end of next month. After that, it'll only be for her next jabs & if there's a concern. Can't wait to be honest...

WelshMaenad Tue 08-Jan-13 18:11:24

Lovelyladuree, such a misnomer I was a non working mum to a prem baby who didn't bother with baby clinic. I was far too busy going out and having fun with my inconvenient baby to fuck around in a hot waiting room full of wailing OPKs. Avoiding judgemental people like you was clearly just a bonus.

FutTheShuckUp Tue 08-Jan-13 18:14:19

MrsHoarder- oh I do, in my oh so subtle way grin

MakeItALarge Tue 08-Jan-13 18:16:44

lovelylardulee just to second what others have said I didnt take him because there was no need, not becuase my son is an inconveniece.

Dont be so bloody judgemental.

Panzee Tue 08-Jan-13 18:21:54

I did some weighing when I wanted a new car seat but apart from that didn't weigh him at all. When HV came for 2 year check (at 2yr 9 mo!) he refused to be weighed so we didn't bother. So I've not weighed my son since he was 10 months old. I could see that he was gaining weight ok.

Loveweekends10 Tue 08-Jan-13 18:34:51

I spent a day with a health visiting team this year. I'm a nurse.
I attended a baby clinic.
The amount of people we had coming with their babies who attended every single week was ridiculous. The health visitors thought it was ridiculous.
Why take your baby to be weighed every bloody week.
We had one woman turn up to get her baby weighed whose child clearly had chicken pox!

I only took my baby to one clinic. I didn't need to go after that. Please use common sense!

Chislemum Tue 08-Jan-13 18:41:26

Loveweekends10 it says in the red book that babies under 6 months should be weighed one a month.... it also mentions something about "HV" might want to "monitor" more often, etc. Obviously one should not bring the baby in when it is ill but it is unclear that it is completely up to the parent whether you go or don't. I was under the impression that I had to go. And I am clearly not alone in getting it wrong.

I agree re common sense. smile

AnyaKnowIt Tue 08-Jan-13 18:46:42

I guess the ones who say they never went were the working mums who only took 2 weeks of maternity leave babies are such an inconvenience

I'm a sahm and have only taken dd once. Unless you have got any concerns then there is no need.

FutTheShuckUp Tue 08-Jan-13 18:51:49

I think it says no more than once a month.
But a good HV should explain all this when they do the primary visit. They should also explain (but many dont) that child health surveillance from health visitors is optional (unless there are child protection issues)

Fakebook Tue 08-Jan-13 18:55:48

I like going to mine to see how much DS weighs. During the first months I found it better to have him weighed and then decide whether to move up a nappy size or not. Our hv's are nice though, and helpful.

cathpip Tue 08-Jan-13 18:56:47

I used to take my ds all the time but when i had my dd i just could not be arsed, as it happened we had a very old dog at the time who was constantly in the vets so i used to pop dd on their calibrated scales whenever i was there. smile

extracrunchy Tue 08-Jan-13 19:10:04

We only went once and had a similar experience. You don't have to go and there aren't any consequences if you don't, providing you see your GP if something out of the ordinary comes up.

I'm a sahm and never took ds3, they came to me for a couple of months because ds was prem. They came to me to do his 1 year check up and that was it.

I prefer to take him to baby groups where he can play, the hv does attend the sure start one once a month incase anyone wants to speak to her.

DPotter Tue 08-Jan-13 19:55:09

DD was referred to paediatrician for failure to thrive by a HV and the treatment prescribed was not to have DD weighed by HVs !

twinklesparkles Tue 08-Jan-13 20:44:18

I am so glad to have read this thread!

I'm due to have dc#2 in april

I moved to this area when my ds was 1 and a half, and called to see the health visitor when my son was 3... Where she accused him of being deaf, despite me telling her he could clearly hear and in any case had passed 2 hearing tests.. She rushed us to hospital where the hearing specialist just laughed. I didn't hear nothing from the hv again...

Until my son was 4.... Then she accused him of being short

Needless to say I am not looking forward to meeting this woman again in april when my new baby is born.

We live in a small area where there's 2/3 hv's so will prob end up getting her again....

Think ill be avoiding the baby clinics smile

Loislane78 Tue 08-Jan-13 20:52:17

My clinic is awesome - went again today. You can just get a weigh in if you want or also ask to speak to a HV for something. There are toys out so its like a mini play group and some of the assistants make and bring you cups of tea and biscuits! main reason I go

They're not all bad, so whatever suits you.

Sirzy Tue 08-Jan-13 20:57:00

I last took DS to be weighed at a clinic when he was 10 weeks old. The attitude of the health visitor at the clinic was enough to put me off for good.

Locally the vaccines are done by the practice nurse rather than a HV so I have only had to endure 2 visits from the HV since that point (DS is now 3) so to me it wouldn't be worth opting out of the HV system because you sort of forget they exist anyway!

MamaBear17 Tue 08-Jan-13 21:11:36

I went once a week with my dd - she had colic and I was struggling. I was convinced there was something wrong with her because she cried all of the time and I really needed some support. The HV's told me on about my 6th visit (so dd would have been 8 weeks-ish) that I was only supposed to go once a month, that 'all babies cry' and not to come back for at least a month. DD had dropped two centiles in weight since birth and I struggled with feeding her because she wouldn't take milk in any proper quantity. HV's listened to my concerns but said that I was doing everything right so not to worry. I went to my GP with my concerns instead. They prescribed Colief for the colic and within two weeks my dd was like a different baby. I monitored her weight at home (changed to scales to pounds and weighed her by weighing myself, then standing on the scale holding her) once a week to check she was heading in the right direction. I only went back to the clinic once more - for dd's one year check. If you are happy that your baby is gaining weight and healthy then go with your own instincts.

Andcake Wed 09-Jan-13 10:35:56

Just chipping in as the weighing in clinic at mine is a comedy of bureaucracy gone mad- I go every four weeks or so as paranoid about weight as ds lost a lot after birth and was hospitalised. Have only seen HV twice but they have really not added any insight or help I couldn't have worked out for myself or with the help of mn.

The weighing part it takes one person to weigh and write down weight and then another to 'graph'!!! When I didn't want to wait extra time for the 'graph' bit and said I would do it myself they looked at me as though I was MAD and that plotting on a graph was really hard not something most school kids should be able to do.

Spatsky Wed 09-Jan-13 10:43:34

OP, if you do weigh baby yourself, I was advised that standard houshold bathroom scales are not always as accurate with smaller weights so for baby weighing to weigh yourself holding baby, then weigh yourself without baby and the difference is baby's weight.

This may be outdated though if scales have become better in the last 10 years.

Sorry if already said, not read whole thread.

I went about once a month with DS1, but it was really for the social side of it - loads of toys and other mums to talk to, the HV was really friendly and chatty too. Less with DS2, was more confident in my skills to amuse them etc. When I has DS3 my husband had all sorts of MH issues that made all our lives difficult, so the lovely HV here often phoned just to chat, and suggested i bring DS3 to be 'weighed' if I needed to talk to her.

So i guess, while I have had fairly positive experiences overall, not much of it has been to do with any of my DS's health!!

vj32 Wed 09-Jan-13 15:54:46

I took DS every few months when he was small because he was huge - above top line on the chart huge. Consequently he was over the weight limit for lots of things aimed at his age and I wanted him to be safe and not break anything!

Ours is just weighing unless you want to talk about something that is worrying you. Sometimes its helpful, sometimes not - lots of the 'HV' are not actually HV, they are nursery nurses. They did refer DS to speech and language when I had concerns so that was good.

MadH3n Wed 09-Jan-13 19:02:15

You do not have to go to baby clinic. They are there as a resource for you to use as and when you require it. This may be for weighing, or it may be a question you have regarding your baby's health or development.

If you can see that your baby is healthy, alert, settling between his feeds and growing out of his new born / first clothes then you can feel confident that he is putting weight on as he should. And don't worry - not all HVs are obsessed with centile charts!

RainbowSpiral Wed 09-Jan-13 23:28:27

Remember weighing your baby has no effect on whether they are on the right line. Somehow I never figured this out at the time.

My tiny baby has just overtaken his older (big baby) brother in shoe size. They are 9 and 11 now and I'm sure the tiny one will ultimately be the tallest.

MammaTJ Thu 10-Jan-13 01:40:23

Oh dear lovelyladuree could you be any more judgemental if you tried really hard?

I did not take mine to the hell hole very often either. It was clean but the HV was the one who told me to leave my baby to cry at night, even if he had a shitty nappy. She refused to help and advise me with his constant diarrhoea and nappy rash. Why would I bother?

I did not return to work after two weeks maternity leave either, though if I had seen fit to do so that would not have meant the baby was an inconvenience.

piprabbit Thu 10-Jan-13 02:23:21

Save your money and don't bother with the scales. Unless you have concerns you don't need to weigh at all once you've got over the first couple of months.

Kytti Thu 10-Jan-13 02:31:19

I never took ds2 or twins. It was too difficult and I didn't see the point. If I was worried for any reason I would have called the hv, but thankfully I never had to. When they wanted to see the twins for the 6m checks etc, I made them come to me.

Don't like them, find them intrusive and contradictory. It's just me. smile

Kytti Thu 10-Jan-13 02:35:23

Oh, and lovelyladuree I'm a sahm. Taking baby twins & a 2 year old to a clinic when you're not allowed to take your pram inside is impossible, and utterly pointless in my high-and-mighty I know what I'm doing thanks attitude. (There, I said it for you.)

I just didn't need to be patronisingly patted on the head all the time. Each to their own, sweetie.

JakeBullet Thu 10-Jan-13 06:27:59

I think this thread illustrates perfectly that HVs should not be doing baby clinics. I am an exHV and to be honest my caseload was massive and included very complex families with huge amounts of difficulties and challenges. It would have been far better for me to concentrate my time on those families than see healthy mothers and babies in a clinic which could be run by HV assistants.

Baby clinics were once a great idea but now are little more than a social gathering and continue to run so that Mums can meet each other and chat while their babies are weighed.

The families where there are major concerns (and I don't include people who simply opt not to come") don't use these clinics. These are the babies that as a HV I really NEEDED to see but only got to see if the parents were home or if SS had insisted their children were seen on a regular basis. The vast majority of mothers and babies don't need these clinics and don't like them.

When I was a HV, I used to discuss weighing at the Primary visit and always explained "no more than once a month" and that three times in the first year was adequate if a baby was healthy. I also said that baby clinic and health surveillance were optional. Despite this most mothers (and it usually is mothers) do opt to come in to baby clinic and do want the optional checks.

I left health visiting last year and have no plans to return, primarily this is due to the massive and never ending changes going on in the role. Nobody can decide what HVs should be doing, are they another arm to social services focusing only on troubled families, are they there for everyone regardless? I felt like a jack of all trades and master of none, it wasn't what I became a HV for and there were other issues in my own life hence I left.

bigfuckoffpie Thu 10-Jan-13 06:38:10

DS got weighed a few times in his first couple of weeks, then less regularly after that as the HV home appointments tailed off. I vaguely thought I should take him to a baby clinic as I'd heard other mums talking about getting their wee one weighted, so asked the HC and was told not to bother bringing him in to weigh unless I was worried.

I think it's a pretty good system - all the traipsing about to get your baby weighed sounds like a massive PITA.

IneedAsockamnesty Thu 10-Jan-13 07:32:17

Small voice in the corner pipes up with

91-09 my dr's had the best HV, she was never unhelpful never contradictory and never patronising. But then she went and retired.

I just don't understand what they are for or do these days because its all changed and the ones these days don't even seam to know themselves

( the ones I know not all obviously)

JakeBullet Thu 10-Jan-13 07:50:53

...and despite my post 30 mins ago can I just say too that I absolutely LOVED doing baby clinic......even if I did feel at times that I would be better employed elsewhere. Many Mums do come regularly and it's fantastic to see the babies grow from tiny helpless infant to bruising 9 month's even better to see them at 2 years when they have developed a healthy disrespect for anything vaguely medical.grin. Having a two year old look you squarely in the eye and refuse outright to sit on your scales is a great leveller grin.

blonderthanred Thu 10-Jan-13 09:57:12

Kytti you jest but last week my hv actually stroked my hair - really firmly - while she was talking to me (I was sitting bf and she was standing over me). It was weird but kind of hysterical.

dpotter my paed also prescribed 'not going to the hv clinic' as treatment for my DS 'failure to thrive' - mind you he also said tongue tie was a load of bollocks and we've just had DS's snipped.

OP yanbu, stay away unless you need to go. Waiting rooms full of children are always horrid, sticky and thick with grub and germs.

acceptableinthe80s Thu 10-Jan-13 10:37:39

i've never understood the obsession of weighing/measuring babies. I think ds was about 6 weeks old last time i went to the hv (he's 4yrs now). I could clearly see he was gaining weight due to outgrowing clothes every few weeks feeding 20 hours a day. Not necessary unless you have any specific concerns imo.

EssexGurl Thu 10-Jan-13 12:53:44

I went religiously with DS when he was a new born. BUT I didn't go to my "local" clinic. It was too far away and I didn't drive at that point. So I walked to the one in town. As it wasn't my designated clinic they recorded visits in the red book but nowhere else.

When I had PND (collapsed when he was 5 months and needed emergency medical help) one of the many sticks used to make me feel like I was a bad mother was the fact that I hadn't taken him to the clinic. Every f***ing visit from HV, GP, social worker I had to get the red book out and prove to them I had been. Really didn't help at a bad time.

When I had DD I did go to that clinic (driving at that point) but they told me only to go until she was 6 months and then only if "I had an issue".

So, would say, don't go but also with my history am paranoid about missing "official" things like this in case they come back to bite you.

MammaTJ Thu 10-Jan-13 16:31:53

I have to say, when someone made a malicious report about me to SS, the first thing they did was contact the HV. I had been in enough contact with her for her to be able to say I was an alright a good mum.

thebody Thu 10-Jan-13 16:41:08

Lol lol I went once with Pfb but didn't bother with other 3.

waste of time. And you really don't need to be weighing a 5 month old anyway. Why are you? If its healthy and happy then just don't faff about.

lolarocks Thu 10-Jan-13 16:42:04

I was told by my HV to go to the clinic as little or often as I like. DS is 8 weeks old and so far I haven't been once. Will try to get round to it next week.

Chislemum Fri 11-Jan-13 09:19:51

just wish hv had told me all this was optional - other mums in the area also seem to believe it is something you need to do ...

HG2014 Sat 07-Jun-14 12:48:02

This is really interesting - as a student HV clinic drives me mad - there is no evidence for routinely weighing babies - I think it just undermines parental confidence (that was my personal experience with my own baby) - just wondered what people thought of having an under 1's drop-in group - for social contact and a 3-4 month follow-uo visit with an HV instead of a baby clinic?

HG2014 Sun 08-Jun-14 00:26:21

Ok, that's helpful to know. Maybe mums feel that they will be judged if they don't take their baby to baby clinic? ( not the case from an hv standpoint - but can see how mums might think that)

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