To not to want to buy cheap tat for party bags when DD is only 2?!

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DD is 2 next week and having 3 friends over for play and pass the parcel. Will do some cupcakes etc. Wasn't going to do party bags as felt they were too young for most of the stuff in them and we're a bit strapped for cash after Christmas, but went to another child's party yesterday (same age) and we had 'all singing all dancing ones', with sweets and toys (all too old for her). Have looked on Amazon and seen you can bulk buy a lot of these things, but they still add up and ultimately they are fairly cheap and inappropriate age wise. But ashamed to say that I don't know one of the Mums that well (who's party we recently went to) and am a bit worried about what she will think if I don't so something!

Bingdweller Sat 05-Jan-13 20:39:24

How about a book and milky bar? You can buy a multi-pack of books and split?

JeezyOrangePips Sat 05-Jan-13 20:39:34

Give them a bit of cake and a balloon. They'll be happy! And don't worry about what other people do. That's how all this competitive party malarky started, and it's a piece of nonsense!

Santasapunkatheart Sat 05-Jan-13 20:39:52

I had the usual mummy obsession when my little girl was this age.

Go to a charity shop and they often have really amazing things - very cheap.

You also only have three children to do.

I also wrote a little children's story to roll up with ribbon in the bag - they loved that...

LynetteScavo Sat 05-Jan-13 20:40:55


If you start worrying about what people will think if you don't hand out party bags, you will never finish worrying about things.

In a few years, kids will refuse to go home until they get their party bags. Wait until you really have to before handing out random plastic tat at the end of a party.

If you have a cake, it might be nice to give everyone a piece to take home too, and if you have balloons, you could maybe give each child one to take home?

DoItToJulia Sat 05-Jan-13 20:40:59

Yes, yabu. It's a kids rite of passage! They love tat!

fluffywhitekittens Sat 05-Jan-13 20:42:24

I had more children at ds 2nd party but got a box set of Hairy Mclary and Peppa Pig books from the book people, ten books for £10. Had lots of comments on what a good idea it was and how much the children liked them. If you're only bing a few guests how about a cheap colouring book and pack of crayons each? Or just give them a bit of cake and a balloon smile

usualsuspect Sat 05-Jan-13 20:43:21

bubbles.cake balloon.job done

cantspel Sat 05-Jan-13 20:43:45

a 4 pack of bubbles is a pound in wilkinsons. One each in a party bag with a bit of cake as they leave and you are sorted.

If you want some v cheap party bag stuff, go to your local 99p shop or poundland and buy 4 little toys - they often have books, dvds, seed sets, or even better - poundland usually have children's cutlery sets, which look good. Much better than a bag full of tat, at that age if you want to give something then a box of mini raisins was always appropriate. You don't have to do party bags anyway, but I agree a bag full of inappropriate tat annoys me, though the children love it.

LaCiccolina Sat 05-Jan-13 20:44:47

Emma bridgewater was doing melamine red tea mugs for 99p each, I filled them with dolly mixtures and have them out. Small cups and looked proper dear!

Dunno if still doing?

SminkoPinko Sat 05-Jan-13 20:44:47

Could you buy someting like this and give a couple of pots to each child with a slice of cake?

Sorry meant raisins instead of sweets, then you look more MNetty!

ceebie Sat 05-Jan-13 20:46:46

Don't feel pressured to get anything. But if you are going to get something, don't get expensive tat!!! I got Mr Men books for 99p each from The Works. Or a choc bar or bubbles or cake all fine.

Libramum Sat 05-Jan-13 22:19:42

I agree that 2 year olds don't really need party bags and when I had a small party for my DS's 2nd birthday I didn't bother with party bags. But then at the end of the party an older sister started saying she wanted a party bag. I felt awful and really wished I'd made some!

PoppyWearer Sat 05-Jan-13 22:23:42

YANBU, but the peer pressure is there, kids will expect something, sadly.

A piece of cake and a cheap book is sufficient - for future reference The Book People do fab book bundles (Peppa Pig recent deal was less than £1 a book) and I stock up when I see a good deal.

Or a piece of cake and a bottle of bubbles/bubble wand - this was actually my DD's favourite ever party gift.

I also saw a good one which was a cheap football for each party-goer. You can't go wrong with a book, bubbles or a ball for either gender.

DeWe Sat 05-Jan-13 23:05:51

I've never done "cheap tat" for party bags.
I do one small packet of sweets, a cake, and a bigger present, paid roughly £1 for. Go to Wilkinsons/pound shop/ebay/book people. You can get a set of books for £1 each often, or a little craft set, or something little.

If you want to make it more fun then have the present wrapped up, and a lucky dip as they're leaving the party (to put in the bag until they're home).

I also often make the party bags (sewn), so they have a little bag to take home too.

3smellysocks Sat 05-Jan-13 23:42:32

seriously the less crap you offload onto kids the better. I always end up charity shopping the tat.

3smellysocks Sat 05-Jan-13 23:44:45

hes only 2, don't bother seriously. No 2 year old will expect a party bag.

DazR Sat 05-Jan-13 23:50:10

What about a colourful plastic beaker with a packet of white chocolate drops inside? Should be able to pick up something fairly cheap - especially if you have a 99p shop or similar locally. You could possibly put a cup cake in the top and wrap in a plastic bag or cellaphane with a bow.

hammyimo Sat 05-Jan-13 23:54:18

Yes cake and chocolate buttons or a balloon is absolutely fine. Or nothing for that matter. They aren't quite old enough to notice.

Parrish Sat 05-Jan-13 23:55:01

2years old? Cake and balloon. Do a photo of the birthday guests and make it into your thank you notes.
If you feel you must do more, get to ikea for a packet of their finger puppets.

PandaG Sat 05-Jan-13 23:58:07

pack of wax crayons each, and some colouring pages printed off the internet.

or bubbles, box of raisins and cake

job done!

emsyj Sun 06-Jan-13 00:00:51

DD loves party bags (2y 7mo) but if you don't want to do them/can't afford it/can't be arsed, it's entirely your business and nobody who is nice will think any less of you.

I took DD to a party a few weeks ago and the mum didn't provide any food for the adults, so we all had to stand by as the kids ate their sausage rolls, cheese 'n' pineapple, crisps etc and I was so hungry I could have cried - I was gutted, but I am still her friend <magnanimous>. grin Serves me right for skipping lunch with the intention of gorging on party food.

Little sheets of stickers are good, the book idea is nice too, but you can just put a piece of cake and some sweets in, you don't have to put presents etc in there.

threesocksmorgan Sun 06-Jan-13 00:02:18

cake and a packet of buttons(sweets lol)
no biggie

Cutiecat Sun 06-Jan-13 00:03:49

Don't get sucked into it. Just give them a cake and balloon. Party bags have gone a crazy I think. Children do not like the tat, they expect it and then discard it within 10 minuets. It is so wasteful. When they are older a little book and a box of smarties but I hate the mini pots of bubbles and small packets of pencils. I sound very grumpy, sorry.

Monty27 Sun 06-Jan-13 00:04:53

No biggie, don't even go there. Oh and I automatically thought of balloons but then, swallowing etc.....

grumpy old git

fuzzypicklehead Sun 06-Jan-13 08:03:06

balloons on sticks (cost around £2 for a pack of 10 at Tesco) are always a hit. Also those squeaky blowout things or some bubbles. I wouldn't go too much further than that at 2 years old, as a lot of party bag stuff would be too "old" for them.

LovesBeingAtHomeForChristmas Sun 06-Jan-13 08:07:00

I put cake, some choc and some cheapo supermarket crayons in at 2. But if you don't want to do them don't.

sashh Sun 06-Jan-13 08:13:21

Go to tesco and get the light up balloons - they go down a storm with all kids including teenagers.

Tragedies Sun 06-Jan-13 08:17:45

I dipped out of the tat-filled pb early on. A book for e.g. is much better. Also, when Mothering Sunday co-incided I gave a heart-shaped chocolate to each mother. Over 50% of them said that was the only acknowledgement of the day they received! (Sorry, went off-piste there)

peggyblackett Sun 06-Jan-13 08:17:53

I HATE party bags. The whole concept is shit. Your dc go to a party to celebrate another child's birthday and then they expect to be given a present for attending, and being fed good food and given a fun afternoon. It is madness!

YANBU. A piece of cake should be enough.

Coralanne Sun 06-Jan-13 08:28:24

Then don't

The party we had recently for dds 1&2 who were 4&5 I stood at the door with a bag of those mini packs of sweets and let them choose one.

Fed up of giving (and receiving) the bags of tat!

I thought id have loads of complaining but not one child even mentioned it.

Morloth Sun 06-Jan-13 08:30:19

I have never done party bags.

No one has ever commented. They may well care, who knows, but nothing bad has ever happened to me/DS without them.

Just forget about it, they are stupid and annoying and a waste of money.

pictish Sun 06-Jan-13 08:31:11

Party bags are a crap idea. I hate them. I can see no other purpose to them other than as a total waste of money.

Yanbu. Slice of cake and a balloon. End of.

SanityClause Sun 06-Jan-13 08:34:32

I hate all that plastic tat that people put in party bags, and have always tried to give something that is "something" like a book, a small cup filled with sweets, or a pot of play-do.

The play dough is a good idea.
That age love it.
You can make your own for next to nothing & put glitter and colouring in it.

DrRanj Sun 06-Jan-13 08:50:44

Well I am having a party for 2 year d dd today and I am not doing party bags, because frankly, the kids are too you g to even notice or care! You shouldn't do things just for appearances. In a couple if years your dd will demand party bags and various other things, so worry about it then. A bit of cake and pass the parcel will be more than enough for them at this age! smile

Mrsrudolphduvall Sun 06-Jan-13 08:58:11

When they get older a book.
I used to bin all party bag crap. hated it.

duke Sun 06-Jan-13 09:13:47

Yanbu! I hate the party bag thing, I know the kids love it though.I made a jelly with plastic animals in at the end off the party the kids had a bit of jelly and kept the animal. Totally against all health and safety but good fun and the kids loved it. They were about 4 tho. Also done wrapped books and bowl of sweets at the end.

Thanks everyone for your innovative ideas and thoughts! Still feel a bit of a novice at this Mummy thing so end up thinking about things too much and not knowing what to do for the best or how to conjure up good ideas!

YANBU - even bubbles are a pain as 2 yo tend to accidentally pour the contents everywhere.

MrsMelons Sun 06-Jan-13 15:33:27

Cake and sweets. You can buy individiual cupcake boxes for them to take cupcakes home in - I buy them from ebay and you can put laser labels on them saying thank you for coming to x's party.

I have also bought ready made cones of sweets with labels on from ebay before and given these with cakes. I had more comments about those than the usual party bag crap. I know what I would prefer.

usualsuspect Sun 06-Jan-13 16:30:16

What a load of miserys on this thread.

Monty27 Sun 06-Jan-13 16:32:04


MrsMelons Sun 06-Jan-13 16:57:32

Noooooo to play-doh!!

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sun 06-Jan-13 17:01:01

seriously, I would not bother at this age, plenty of time in later years, especially when its just a few friends not a full blown party. A cake to take home is fine.

At this age, the kids aren't really that interested.

Perhaps a piece of cake to take home and a blown up balloon with it's string tied around something like a tube of Smarties. Tis what I did for my DCs at that age.

pointedlynoresolutions Sun 06-Jan-13 17:15:58

Personally I like doing party bags and always try to do something a bit different, but it does depend on budgets.

At 2 I'd go for one of those book deals off the Book People - something the parents can read to their children. If you're only having 3 children you can keep the other books for your DC, they have some really good deals. Book, cake, balloon - done.

My DDs will be 10 and 12 this year - they want light-up balloons again. We had them last year, they went down a storm and honestly, they last for ages. We did light-up balloon, seriously posh decorated cupcake, general sweets. Everyone happy.

One year we had a craft party at home - I had a load of Indian glass beads I was never going to use (too heavy for earrings) so I bought some wire, some hanging crystals and the girls made hanging window ornaments. We added cake and sweets, job done.

It can be fun, but I agree with not buying into the plastic tat thing.

Mia4 Sun 06-Jan-13 18:14:32

It's up to you, you aren't BU at all. My friend just gave each child a cupcake sh'd made with their initial on the top in silver balls- the mum's all commented how great and different it was and the last one followed the trend with gingerbreads they'd decorated.

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