How can these children's mother think this is an acceptable way to behave

(42 Posts)
Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 18:22:12

I was driving out of a supermarket car park today and ahead of me a woman was reversing out of her space. She was quite a long way ahead of me so I continued driving mega slowly so she had time to get out and then stopped leaving stacks of room for her to finish reversing as she hadn't vacated the space by the time I got closer. She had a girl in the front of the car and a boy in the back, both of whom were shouting goodness knows what at me and making the Loser sign when I had done absolutely nothing wrong. As I followed them out of the car park the boy kept turning round to do the Loser thing. How can that woman allow/ encourage this kind of behaviour?

DozyDuck Thu 03-Jan-13 18:24:47

Did she know? How old were the kids?

Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 18:26:30

She definately knew as she was looking out of the windows closest me while she reversed, which is where the kids were. The girl was about 12 and the boy about 10.

TheProvincialLady Thu 03-Jan-13 18:26:45

It's probably because she is a massive twat herself. Don't give it any more thought.

ivykaty44 Thu 03-Jan-13 18:28:26

YABU the woman was driving and thank goodness she was paying full attention to driving the car and not to what her passengers were doing.

Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 18:28:26

Love it ProvincialLady, it just really annoyed me. I obviously hadn't seen the sign that said every other car must remain stationary whilst she moved hers.

phantomnamechanger Thu 03-Jan-13 18:28:36

some people are arseholes and raise their children to be just like them

Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 18:30:29

Ivykaty, she couldn't have missed them as they were practically standing up in the car to do it so were actually blocking her view so she wasn't being a responsible driver either

justmyview Thu 03-Jan-13 18:31:29

Or you were actually too close to her...........?

ClippedPhoenix Thu 03-Jan-13 18:31:45

All come from the same pod then obviously.

DozyDuck Thu 03-Jan-13 18:31:46

It might not have been about your car. The kids might just have some severe behaviour issues. Some kids at DSs school have had awful awful upbringings and stick their fingers up at me in the taxi queue every morning sad just ignore them you did nothing wrong

Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 18:37:00

Just view, I really wasn't close at all, she had at another 2 cars length in excess of what she needed. It was was a busy supermarket car park so she couldn't have had expected the place to herself.

DozyDuck Thu 03-Jan-13 18:39:35

Even if you were too close it isn't good behaviour is it? But she could have been telling them to stop I suppose. She could be a foster parent or something (a lot of my friends take on children with severely challenging behaviour through no fault of their own) try not to over think it. It wasn't you.

BoneyBackJefferson Thu 03-Jan-13 20:30:34

DozyDuck

You do know that not all badly behaved children have SN?

HappyNewHissy Thu 03-Jan-13 20:36:28

Which supermarket was it? We need to know.

Lays money on it NOT being Waitrose..

MiconiumHappens Thu 03-Jan-13 20:38:49

Ohhhh puts a fiver on ASDA

Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 20:41:25

Miconiumhappens, you're quite right, that's where I went wrong isn't it!

DozyDuck Thu 03-Jan-13 20:49:07

Urr boney I did not imply they have SN at all maybe you should read my post!

DozyDuck Thu 03-Jan-13 20:51:05

In fact when did I once utter the word SN??? The closest I said was 'severely challenging behaviour' which, as you said in your post to me, doesn't imply SN. I think you need to actually read properly.

everlong Thu 03-Jan-13 20:53:13

She was pissed off because you didn't give her time to reverse before you moved your car.

NumericalMum Thu 03-Jan-13 20:54:05

That is very funny!

Well that didn't take long. hmm

I'd be more bothered that they weren't adequately strapped in/wearing seat belts. It is bad enough to allow your children to be abusive to strangers, but even worse to let them endanger their lives.

Ilovexmastime Thu 03-Jan-13 20:58:09

She was driving. Her children were messing around doing something that small children find funny. Forget about it!

Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 21:00:09

Seriously Everlong, do you really think that all cars in a busy car park should stop whenever someone else wants to move their car? I left her stacks of room an, even if I hadn't, it doesn't excuse the children's behaviour does it?

itsmineitsmine Thu 03-Jan-13 21:00:11

May i be the first to point out that op had right of way and not the reversing driver.

DozyDuck Thu 03-Jan-13 21:02:12

Bearbehind it probably wasn't anything to do with your driving and everything to do with the fact that those kids wanted some sort of reaction out of you smile don't stress about it.

ILikeWhisperingToo Thu 03-Jan-13 21:05:25

Point of interest: no laws in a car park, it is totally separate to the public highway.

I thought you were going to say they were putting their finger up at you. I would have been pulling faces at them laughed very obviously at them. A smile when someone is being rude takes the wind out of their sails smile

everlong Thu 03-Jan-13 21:05:26

Well something bugged them. Funnily enough the same thing happened to me today.. driving into a spot in a very tight car park and had to reverse 3 times to swing the car in..some bloke behind me kept creeping up behind me.. Bugged me. He could have just waited till I'd got in the spot.

What's the bug rush.

CloudsAndTrees Thu 03-Jan-13 21:06:11

I think you are looking to find a reason for this and questioning yourself unnecessarily. This was nothing to do with your driving or how much space you left, and everything to do with the fact that those children are rude little brats.

MamyPoko Thu 03-Jan-13 21:08:02

OP, what car do you drive?

itsmineitsmine Thu 03-Jan-13 21:08:19

Good point ilove.

Highway code is surely a usefulguide in these situations though, no? Otherwise its anarchy.

Mind you, i have no sympathy for people who park forwards and have to reverse out, generslly.

MichelleRooJnr Thu 03-Jan-13 21:12:28

But itsmineitsmine if you reverse in how do you get the trolley near your boot for unloading shopping?

Bearbehind Thu 03-Jan-13 21:12:54

Mamypoko, I'm intrigued to know why it matters what car I drive?

itsmineitsmine Thu 03-Jan-13 21:16:00

I dont get the trolley near the boot. I leave the trolley at thr front and carry thr bags round. I would rather do that than fart around trying to reverse out of a spot in a busy carpark. Unless you have some disability or illness that affects your ability to carry bags 2 feet i dont see why its an isssue. Personally. But then i think most people these days are lazy and will avoid exerting themsevlves wherever possible.

MamyPoko Thu 03-Jan-13 21:20:59

I'm just interested that you've interpreted their verbal abuse as being a comment on your driving. They're children; I assume they don't drive, aren't familiar with the Highway Code or the etiquette of supermarket car parks. Is it not more likely they had an in-joke about something more obvious, like your car?

I'm a terrible parker, so would likely interpret it the same way if I were feeling sensitive. On another day, I wouldn't have given it a second thought, though.

MichelleRooJnr Thu 03-Jan-13 21:25:15

I prefer not to leave a vessel with wheels but no brakes unattended so close to lots of cars.
Trolleys have a tendency to drift.
I don't want to squeeze between my car and someone elses with large bags of groceries (I use big reusable shopping bags).
I don't want to leave some of my shopping unattended in my open boot while I go back to the trolley for more.
I certainly think driving into a parking spot and leaving one's boot facing out is less to do with laziness hmm and more to do with consideration for others' property.

I use huge bags for life, there's no way I'm going to risk scratching my own or the twat that has most likely parked too close to me the car's parked next to me paintwork, itsmineitsmine. I also think it's no hassle reversing out of a car park space!

OP I wouldn't dwell on it, the kids were being rude. Be thankful you don't have to put up with them every day.

itsmineitsmine Thu 03-Jan-13 21:48:12

All the trolleys here have brakes.

Poor driving and laziness, and 'me, me, me, my convenience is paramount!' Is the truth, for the most part.

oldpeculiar Thu 03-Jan-13 22:14:37

You knew you were going to stop, she didn't.

Bearbehind Fri 04-Jan-13 07:29:34

Oldpeculiar, I was barely moving and stopped well before her and even if she didn't know I was going to stop that doesn't excuse the children's behaviour which is the reason for my post, road rage in adults is one thing but from children it is quite another.

Sokmonsta Fri 04-Jan-13 07:49:03

Wow! Itsmine. I park forwards in spaces as I either need to get DT2 and/or the double pushchair out of the boot. As well as 3 other children from the car.

Of course I could reverse in so as not to be selfish and, while getting double pushchair in/out, risk damaging the vehicle parked behind because that's not inconsiderate at all

OP the kids were just doing what kids do. I wouldn't worry. Dsis and I used to wave enthusiastically at random cars on long journeys to see if we could either confuse them or get a wave back. Another one was to eat the big pink pear drops and poke them out like a tongue to see what reaction we got. Times have simply moved on as to the reactions kids want.

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