To ask how long you were with DH/DP before they proposed?

(137 Posts)
Croccy1979 Wed 02-Jan-13 15:14:37

I've had a couple of friends who've done it very quickly recently! Good for them
Just wondering what's average? Guess it depends on age.....

gordyslovesheep Wed 02-Jan-13 15:15:27

second date grin then 6mths in he asked again

Got together with DH in late 1990 and for engaged early 1991!! Got marriedin 1998 so a long engagement smile

EuroShagmore Wed 02-Jan-13 15:17:34

7 fecking years. And patience is not my strong point.

silvercup Wed 02-Jan-13 15:19:41

Exactly one year after we first met. DD was born the very next day!

TheCatIsEatingIt Wed 02-Jan-13 15:20:35

A year and a week. Got married 9 months after that and now ttc #1!

meMillyme Wed 02-Jan-13 15:20:48

8 months, married a year later.

HollyBerryBush Wed 02-Jan-13 15:21:25

I told my mate I was going to marry my DH 2 years before we even started dating grin

Marriage was discussed after a few weeks, we co-rented a property but I laid it out that no way was I going to be perpetually shacked up and no way would I have children out of wedlock, he proposed within a few days of us moving in together, married within 6 months of that time frame.

Age does play a big part - we were both late 20's and the time was right - but we had been in and out of each others social group for about 4 years. First timje I saw him I knew he was perfect husband material.

waitingtobeamummy Wed 02-Jan-13 15:21:30

3months.....and then 7 years later we married!

JambalayaCodfishPie Wed 02-Jan-13 15:22:22

He has asked me every day for years. Cant remember when the first time was.

ItsALongWayToPickAWilly Wed 02-Jan-13 15:22:42

4 years, we've been engaged for 4 years, waiting one more year till we get married. I'm not one to rush things!

I could never get married to someone after only a year together, I'd feel like I barely knew them

We were living together, engaged and pregnant within 3 months and married within 9 months, 13 years on we are still happy (most of the time). I was 19 and he was 32 so it wasn't very well received by anyone.

Crawling Wed 02-Jan-13 15:23:29

I've been engaged twice once 6 months second time 6 weeks but I was accidently pg so he was doing the honourable thing 8 years on still not married but that is my choice as I want to wait till I can afford my dream wedding.

5 months. But had already been discussing getting married for a couple of months by then. Engaged 15 months then married at the tender ages of 20 and 21 shock. 6.5 years and 2 DC later still very happy together smile

closerthanclose Wed 02-Jan-13 15:24:12

Four years - a complete surprise! It wasn't a priority for me but made sense for practical reasons. It was a good length of time for us to be together I think, we knew each other well by then. I've known older friends who have got engaged v quickly within months, but often because their biological clocks are ticking and they're in a hurry, but it has rarely worked out.

grumblinalong Wed 02-Jan-13 15:24:52

About 4 months in, then retracted next day claiming alcohol influence. Secretly was pleased as wasn't sure myself even though I said yes. Proposed properly with ring 5 years later.

I asked him when we'd been going out just under a year. But I had to ask because before that, he'd made it clear that, for religious reasons, he wouldn't want to get into a serious relationship with someone he didn't want to marry, and we moved in together a few months after getting together. So I suppose I knew after a few months and we eventually made the big decision after just shy of a year.

We were 23 and 21 when we got together and 25 and 23 when we got married.

We met when we were 18, became romantically involved when we were 22, made the decision together when we were 24 that we wanted to get married, and got married at 25. This year will be our fifteenth anniversary. So time from first date to setting a date = 2 years.

hygienequeen Wed 02-Jan-13 15:26:24

A couple of months in he asked what I'd say if he proposed, then within a year we were engaged, married two years after that - been together 16 years grin

RyleDup Wed 02-Jan-13 15:26:27

7 years. Finally got married 13 years after we first met grin

LynetteScavo Wed 02-Jan-13 15:26:46

3 days.

I told him to ask me again when he was sober. He never did. I had to take him to the jewelers a year later. (He did pay for the ring though).

NinaHeart Wed 02-Jan-13 15:26:55

Four and a half years. And married almost two years after that.

ChristmasNamechangeBridezilla Wed 02-Jan-13 15:27:07

About a year and a half, perhaps a little longer.

TheSecondComing Wed 02-Jan-13 15:27:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

grumblinalong Wed 02-Jan-13 15:27:20

Closer-I am very glad we waited because I think we would have failed if we got married early. I never thought getting married would change a relationship but have been proven very wrong. It feels so different.

flossy101 Wed 02-Jan-13 15:27:25

4 years

PippinWoo Wed 02-Jan-13 15:27:47

DP proposed 18 months after we first met. We've been fairly slow at arranging the wedding due to cashflow but date is now set in July when we will have been together nearly 3 years.

I know people who've got engaged after 3 months and are still together but I also know people who did the same and it fell apart in weeks. It really depends on the people and the relationship. I guess one would be taking a bit of a chance to do it really quickly as there's no way you can know the person as well after 3 months as you will a few years down the line.

Charleymouse Wed 02-Jan-13 15:28:26

12 years and two months. You can't rush these things you know. grin
Met and started dating at school in 1987.

Celebrated our 12th anniversary last year.

SilverBellsandCockleShells Wed 02-Jan-13 15:28:38

Nine years. Although technically he didn't propose - he said 'I suppose we'd better get married'! :-)

BacardiNCoke Wed 02-Jan-13 15:32:15

3 months, but it was me that proposed. grin Got married 4 years later.

peanutMD Wed 02-Jan-13 15:33:11

11 years, 7 months... And counting grin

We have been together since we were 14/15 so we're still a bit young yet, we reckon we might go for it around the 30 year old mark lol

N0tinmylife Wed 02-Jan-13 15:33:11

He proposed after a year, and we got married 6 months after that. Been together 10 years now.

MrsSchadenfreude Wed 02-Jan-13 15:35:16

5 months, although we had known each other for a year. I had decided I was going to marry him the first time I met him. (He had no idea about this, I didn't wrap myself round him and purr "I want to have your baybees" in his ear.)

landofsoapandglory Wed 02-Jan-13 15:35:25

3 months, got married 3 months later. DS1 was born 9months later.

We've been married almost 19 years.

soontobeburns Wed 02-Jan-13 15:36:49

3 months. That was 3 years ago and we arent getting married until at least 2014 or 2015 so 5 or 6 year engagement lol.

I was 19 about to be 20 when we got engaged he just turned 22.

CwtchesAndCuddles Wed 02-Jan-13 15:36:54

Met 3 Jan 2004, I asked him 29th Feb, married 28th August.

Startail Wed 02-Jan-13 15:37:17

Six weeks, Married two years later, when he finished his course and we could be in the same city.

Startail Wed 02-Jan-13 15:38:29

Still together almost 25 years and 2DDs later.

Blanketsandpillows Wed 02-Jan-13 15:40:12

6 years and then had a two-year engagement. We met in early 20's. TTC#1 now. I was more than happy to wait. Infact I though it would be longer before he proposed so was pleasantly surprised! Everyone is different though.

Arisbottle Wed 02-Jan-13 15:40:34

I think it was six months,we had history though. I knew I was going to marry him within seconds of meeting him. We married a few months are getting engaged.

superwhizzynewlaptop Wed 02-Jan-13 15:40:54

He never did, I did (and it wasn't even a leap year when women are allowed to propose...). After 3 years, been together 10 now.

MrsHoarder Wed 02-Jan-13 15:41:19

Three years, married 18 months later. We'd been friends for 3 years before that but were only getting towards the settling down age when he proposed. It was another year before we lived together (although we'd each had stuff in the others wardrobe since the third month after getting together)

MummytoMog Wed 02-Jan-13 15:42:17

Four months, then a two year engagement. Tenth wedding anniversary last summer smile

IsawFoofyShmoofingSantaClaus Wed 02-Jan-13 15:43:12

18 months.
We were married 2 years later.

Myliferocks Wed 02-Jan-13 15:43:57

He proposed 8 months after we first met. I was 8 weeks pregnant at the time.
17 and a half years and 5 children later we are still not married!

puddeycat Wed 02-Jan-13 15:44:08

Got together 05/06/2005 he proposed 18/08/2005 -and we got married 07/07/07

Beaverfeaver Wed 02-Jan-13 15:44:20

5 tears of living together.
Had known watcher 5 years before that too (very young)

ZeldaUpNorth Wed 02-Jan-13 15:44:33

We have been 13 years in June and had 3 kids and I'm still waiting, after hinting at every Christmas and birthday. My brother and his partner have just got engaged after 5 years and I'm very envy

HiggsBoson Wed 02-Jan-13 15:45:07

It'll be 20 years in the Spring and I'm still waiting hmm

BertieBotts Wed 02-Jan-13 15:45:16

Just over 2 years smile

jessjessjess Wed 02-Jan-13 15:45:51

We moved in after about 8 months and got engaged on our 2-year anniversary.

BackforGood Wed 02-Jan-13 15:46:30

I don't think there'll be an 'average' - every answer will be very individual.
No exciting story here - in fact, can't really remember dh proposing as such, we just knew we wanted to be together and started talking about when we should set the date for the wedding. We married 3 years after we met, so I guess we were engaged about 2 yrs after we met.

FlojoHoHoHo Wed 02-Jan-13 15:50:49

I've been engaged twice, once at 16, engaged after 2 months, married 6 months later and divorced by 20.
The second time I got engaged after 3 years, booked the wedding, plans starting to take shape then I found him in bed with OW.

8 years and counting! We will get married I expect but not ready for proposals yet - when we first got together we were teenagers so we're only just getting to a stage in our lives where we would actually consider getting married

9 years. i was only 18 when we met though and we wanted to get careers established/buy a house etc first. From whats happeneing around me it seems to be the older you are the quicker you crack on, perhaps you know what you want/biological clock ticking etc.

weegiemum Wed 02-Jan-13 15:54:28

We got together at Easter 1990, I was19, he was 20.

He proposed in Jan 1993, we were both 23.

Married Dec 1994, we were both 24. We only moved in after the wedding (good christian kids!)

Married 18 years at the weekend just past!

beamme Wed 02-Jan-13 15:54:44

Engaged after a year (I was 21), married 18 months later. We have been married 10 years now and still going strong.

Groovee Wed 02-Jan-13 15:55:08

4 weeks, been together nearly 16 years, married for 14 and a half with 2 children.

Yoghurty Wed 02-Jan-13 15:58:29

I rang my friend after the first date with my DP and told her I'd met the man I was going to marry.

That was 6.5 years ago and he proposed last week on Christmas Day smilesmilesmilesmile

GregBishopsBottomBitch Wed 02-Jan-13 16:01:31

2 and a half years, split 6 months later.

My 28 yr old bestie has been with her dp nearly 8 years, no proposal yet.

MulledWineAndScully Wed 02-Jan-13 16:04:09

2 months, and it was only about the 8th time we'd seen each other (long distance relationship).

He's a serial proposer though. I do wish he'd waited longer - I still remember his mother's reaction when we told her and I will never forgive!

yfuwchhapus Wed 02-Jan-13 16:05:23

17 months and then married 12 months after that!! I was 19 and he was 31. Just had our 10 year anniversary!! And we have 2 beautiful DC!

IwantaPetFox Wed 02-Jan-13 16:05:48

I don't think there will be an average either. It all depends what stage of life you're at doesn't it? DH proposed to me when we'd been together for 5 years, and we were 27. If we'd been 38 I might have been impatient and thought 5 years was far too long, but at 27 I was completely shocked and not expecting it at all.

My DF proposed to my DM after 3 months and they were married within 9 months - he was 34 and she was 24 and they've been happily married for 36 years now!

susanann Wed 02-Jan-13 16:08:11

ONE WEEK! yeah I know its crazy but it feels so right. We are not young and dewy eyed either! Im 52 and hes 51. Met April 2012 and moved in with him in August 2012, wedding is May 2013. We are so happy. I know my family were worried at first, understandably. But now they know him theyre happy with the situation. Was previously married for 17 years.

MTBMummy Wed 02-Jan-13 16:08:55

Met DP in 2000, started dating in 2001, got engaged last year - so just over 10 years, not set a date yet for getting married, but probably in the next few years.

Not one to rush things - should caveat this is the second time round for both of us.

17 days from first meeting to proposal, married a year later, still together twenty-five and a half years later

Seven years. We've beeb together since we were 18 though. Also, I had told him quite early on that if he ever wanted to propose, to do it when he was ready to marry not promise to marry - I don't like the idea of short engagements.

Btw I wasn't fussed whether he would ask or not - would quite happily see out our days together unmarried!

Amothersruin Wed 02-Jan-13 16:13:21

We were together 4 years before we got engaged and only then it was because I threatened to dump him. 2 of our friends had got engaged and wed in the time it took us to get engaged.

Took a further 3 years for us to wed and again I indicated that if we didnt we would split. We will have been married 11 years this year.

Softlysoftly Wed 02-Jan-13 16:13:37

Moved in the day we met. Married 10 years later, wouldn't want to commit too soon grin.

17th anniversary this year!

3 months in. He says he knew after a couple of weeks but thought he'd better hold off for a while. 13 years this year smile

shartsi Wed 02-Jan-13 16:20:13

4 months, got married a year later.

diddl Wed 02-Jan-13 16:25:42

Met March 1993
Engaged Jan 1994
Married July 1995

nillynoon Wed 02-Jan-13 17:12:32

Together 15 months, then engaged 15 months. Pregnant 10 months later

KitCat26 Wed 02-Jan-13 18:05:31

First time was after four years with my ex fiance. I was 21. The minute he proposed I knew it wasn't right, took me another 18mths to grow some and split though.

Second time was after two years. I was 24. We married 11 months after that. And it definitely felt 'right'.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Wed 02-Jan-13 18:14:12

2 weeks.

He dumped me 6 weeks later (during this period I had been planning the wedding, he had been encouraging me to do so blush).

He was a nobhead and I was recovering from a breakdown/depression and on high dose of anti-depressants.

I'm so ridiculously sensible normally, my family all had a permanent shock on their face and just sat back and waited for the inevitable.

Clayhead Wed 02-Jan-13 18:17:46

He's never proposed but we've been married 13 years.

StickEmUp Wed 02-Jan-13 18:18:40

1 month. Married 5 years later. That was 6 years ago. Still together.

BsshBossh Wed 02-Jan-13 18:19:38

One year from first date. We were both 35.

BsshBossh Wed 02-Jan-13 18:20:59

Sorry, forgot the rest: Married one year after proposal, DD born the following year.

LineRunner Wed 02-Jan-13 18:21:53

After a few months.

But I wish I'd never met him.

TheFallenMadonna Wed 02-Jan-13 18:25:31

8 years. We lived at opposite ends of the country for years 2-6. Married a year later.

My grandparents - 3 hours. Married 3 weeks later.w

TheFallenMadonna Wed 02-Jan-13 18:26:28

Oh, we were 19 when we met.

CaptChaos Wed 02-Jan-13 18:28:20

Less than 3 months between meeting and marrying, that was 5 years ago. It's been a learning curve!

ComposHat Wed 02-Jan-13 18:34:58

started going out October 2006.

moved in together September 2007.

she proposed on the 29th Feb 2012

wedding booked for June 2013.

kotinka Wed 02-Jan-13 18:36:54

4 months! Which seemed a bit quick but it's worked so far.

StuntGirl Wed 02-Jan-13 18:42:50

We've been together 3 years, and if we ever get married I'll be the one to propose.

MrsDimples Wed 02-Jan-13 18:43:12

3 months. Got married 16 months later. Recently had our 4th wedding anniversary.

KingPhilsWench Wed 02-Jan-13 18:46:05

Met autumn of 2011, engaged march 2012, married October 2012 baby due in July 2013. Together a little over a year when we where married.
Some people laughed but why waste time? I picked him up for our first date and new instantly he was the guy I'd marry.

RillaBlythe Wed 02-Jan-13 19:00:41

In a 'I want to marry you one day' way - about 4 months after we started sleeping together dating.

Actually on one knee, set the date - after we had been together 2.5 years ish. DD was 1 & we married a year later.

kinkyfuckery Wed 02-Jan-13 19:03:22

Met in early May, we exchanged "I love you(s)" after a week! Got engaged at the end of July, found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks later. Was pushed into getting married before baby was born, so got married in February (9 months after meeting). DC1 was born in April. We separated 4 1/2 years later in October when DC2 was 4 months old, and divorced 2 1/2 years after that.

Everything moved very fast, except the divorce unfortunately wink

mrsXsweet Wed 02-Jan-13 19:11:25

7 years. I wonder if it would have been longer but I had a meltdown on our 7th anniversary when some friends of ours got engaged- he proposed a month later and we got married 14 months later.

LetMeAtTheWine Wed 02-Jan-13 19:54:22

Bought a house together after 6 months, got engaged after 4 years together and married 6 months after engagement.

mardyelsie Wed 02-Jan-13 20:32:52

We got first together in 1986. Unfortunately I then went to uni, and met and married someone else after that. Got back together with DF in 2002, he proposed on 22/12/12, 10 years and two kids later.

trockodile Wed 02-Jan-13 20:44:16

Met Feb '96-I love yous a week later, marriage proposal a month later. Got married July'96. Still together and madly in love. We were both 22. Feel very lucky!

HecatePropolos Wed 02-Jan-13 20:50:08

Well, we met in dec 97 and married three months later, so not long. grin
Although it wasnt a proposal as such, it just sort of happened. More of a why the hell not than anything else grin

WitchOfEndor Wed 02-Jan-13 20:50:41

He never did! Once we got to 4 years together I gave him an ultimatum, no marriage no babies so he said we'd better get married then. So it was never a proposal! I think he hoped my biological longing for a baby NOW would overrule my wish to be married, but I knew if I had a baby first he would drag his heels and probably never marry me. 4th anniversary coming up.

babooshkadoll Wed 02-Jan-13 20:53:59

Told my friend the night I met my now DH...Thats the man I will marry.
Took him two years to propose.

Nuttyprofessor Wed 02-Jan-13 21:02:23

Three weeks. He was 15 I was 16. That was 35 years ago.

garageflower Wed 02-Jan-13 21:07:01

My DP has pretty much told me he's going to propose next month in Paris. We will have been together 5 months but have talked about the practicalities of living together first.

We're both in our early 30s and have lived with other partners and this feels right. I have never even liked a man as much as him let alone loved someone and we did date last year very briefly (wrong time for both of us) as well as him being one of the oldest friends of my best mate.

Although it still sounds sort of bonkers grin

cathers Wed 02-Jan-13 21:08:03

4 months. Married 18 months later. That was 13 years ago.

2rebecca Wed 02-Jan-13 21:15:08

I'm very much 21st century woman with this sort of stuff. Whether or not we got married was a joint decision. We moved in together with a plan to marry when the divorces came through and did that. No on one knee stuff, it's as much my decision as his, same with my first husband. I wouldn't live with a man unless we intended to marry and definitiely wouldn't have kids before being married. I suspect if this marriage ends for some reason I'll just live on my own/ with the kids and have "dates/stopovers". I can't imagine having a serious relationship with the sort of man who saw whether or not to marry as solely his decision, different if neither of you cares about marriage but the passive girlfriend role sounds very 1950s.

motherinferior Wed 02-Jan-13 21:18:26

God, I don't know...eight years? DD1 was seven, I know that. She was born 14 months after our first shag date.

I may yet take him up on his suggestion, but five years later still feel that matrimony isn't really my thing.

Got together in August 2002, got engaged October 2006, married March 2008. Seems relatively long but we got together during university and being in a relationship while 'in the bubble' is very different to being in the big bad world, I have found, and we weren't in a rush to get married. Very few of my university friends are still with their boyfriends/girlfriends from that time and I'm glad we didn't marry shortly after graduation only to find out that our relationship had a short shelf-life.

SocietyClowns Wed 02-Jan-13 21:55:53

5 1/2 years. Now together 18 years, and married for 12.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr Wed 02-Jan-13 21:58:25

4 months, married after 6 months, been together 14 years smile

MrsNPattz Wed 02-Jan-13 22:00:07

2 year!

JugsMcGee Wed 02-Jan-13 22:05:15

5 years and 1 day smile 14 month engagement. Married nearly 3 years now.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 02-Jan-13 22:06:35

4 days grin

And then he asked me properly with a lovely ring when we had been together 8 months.

We've now been together 8 years, married for just over 5.

greenplastictrees Wed 02-Jan-13 22:36:10

Ten years to the day of when we first got together. It happened last October so I'm planning a wedding at the moment.

zipzap Wed 02-Jan-13 22:54:11

apparently he decided within a day or two - took him a couple of weeks to ask. I was 21, he was 25 and we were both at uni. I told him not to be so ridiculous and that we were way too young to get married (subsequently discovered that he is the youngest of lots of siblings; of which all but two had married before they were 23 and one of the other two had had a child before then but never married the father so he probably felt like he was leaving things late; my parents and lots of friend's parents had all married in their late 20s to mid 30s and it had never occurred to me to even think about getting married until I hit that sort of age).

He left it a while and then finally proposed about 10 years later - I refused the first few times as it just didn't seem right or he chose horrible timings or places or both and I figured if I'd waited this long then I wasn't giving in just because. Then thought he would propose when we were on a cruise one night as it was the most amazingly romantic night - sailing out of Venice, fireworks dwarfed by a huge and impressive electrical storm, Carmina Burana being played by some mad violinists on deck, nobody else around, cocktails. all perfect but no.

I gave up eventually and said yes - got married after having been together for 14 years. Now been together for over 20 years; tend to find that we celebrate our anniversary of getting together (an easy to remember date) much more than our wedding anniversary (a couple of days after my birthday and also often co-incides with easter holidays)!

charlearose Wed 02-Jan-13 22:59:17

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Sianilaa Wed 02-Jan-13 23:30:07

20 days after our first date, he proposed! With a ring and everything. Everyone thought I was mental but I knew he was he one for me.

We married 10 months after our first date. smile

Wishfulmakeupping Wed 02-Jan-13 23:37:56

10 years- but he told me on a regular basis that he wanted to marry me me, and we were only 19 when we met and at uni so 10 years was right for us smile

TraineeBabyCatcher Wed 02-Jan-13 23:39:03

We've been together about 2 and a half years, he's moving in soon, he was given strict orders that I wouldnt even consider it till we had lived together, but he has hinted that it won't be long after...

So I'll get back to you on that one

Longdistance Wed 02-Jan-13 23:45:46

A year. We went to Antigua for our first anniversary together, and he popped the question there. We also bought my ring there.

Leonas Wed 02-Jan-13 23:57:01

7 years after we met - hadn't been together for the full 7 years as it was on/off for a while etc

Tallalime Thu 03-Jan-13 00:34:34

13 years.

Got together at 18 in 1998, he proposed in 2010, got married in 2011.

Seems like a long time but neither of us were fussed about marriage until we had DD, then we had to pay off the house, then save up for the wedding.

She was our flower girl (she was 3), now we can finally afford to try for DC no 2.

ripsishere Thu 03-Jan-13 00:49:39

Met and married within six months.
Our DD was born 14 years later.
DD is now 11.

Met at 19yo
Engaged at 24yo
Married at 28yo

In between we bought a house, a car and a rescue cat.
DC didn't roll along till we were 33 yo.

bruffin Thu 03-Jan-13 01:25:32

Went out for 3years before engaged then married 10months later.

tumbletumble Thu 03-Jan-13 08:31:36

Met when I was 22, he was 21
Started going out 8 months later
Got engaged when I was 28, married at 29
First DC when I was 31

ginmakesitallok Thu 03-Jan-13 09:16:43

Got engaged 2 months after we met - 19 years later we're still not married (My Mum told me now to rush into anything wink)

YouOldTinsellySlag Thu 03-Jan-13 10:47:30

He proposed after six weeks, we married after being together eight months, and our DS1 was born just under a year after we met.

We've been together seven years and have DS2 as well.

I really love my wonderful DH. Sometimes you just KNOW.

QueenofPlaids Thu 03-Jan-13 10:59:11

Proposed fairly early on & we talked about marriage but wanted to get established first. I told him not to ask until we could do things properly (e.g. Not worry that the money spent on the ring might be needed if the boiler broke down or something equally romantic! blush

We bought the ring earlier this week. It's been almost 10 years and wil probably be just over 11 when we marry.

Theshriekingharpy Thu 03-Jan-13 11:16:47

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jamdonut Thu 03-Jan-13 11:25:13

6 months..We had just been to see the film Heartburn (Meryl Streep,Jack Nicholson) which was all about a very failed marriage. When we were walking home he asked if we could get married. I just laughed...then moments later realised he was serious! And said yes!
We were engaged for 4 years before we finally got married,though.Only because we needed somewhere to live,and it took that long before a Housing Association finally offered us a shared ownership scheme flat. Then we were married 5 months later.
We will have been married for 23 years in April, and have 3 lovely children,12,16 and 20.

3ismylot Thu 03-Jan-13 11:25:53

2 months but didnt get married until our 5th anniversary of our first date!
We had 3 kids before we got married and have now been together 8 years (married 3) and couldnt be happier grin

Theshriekingharpy Thu 03-Jan-13 13:46:00

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Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 03-Jan-13 13:57:52

Men are not commitment phobic, unless they are just not that into you!

MaxPepsi Thu 03-Jan-13 14:09:50

He asked me to marry him about 2 weeks after we started going out, we'd known each other for several years before.

Kept it to ourselves until after my brother had married the following year as they had been planning for a while and didn't want to take the shine away from them.

Got him to ask my dad's permission as he'd not proposed properly and didn't have a ring in the November, married by the following September.

So we'd been a couple less than 3 years by the time we got married. And this from the guy who said he'd never get re married or have more kids! (sadly the more kids in null and void as we can't have them)

freddiefrog Thu 03-Jan-13 14:15:46

11 years but he never actually proposed. Just came home from work one day and mentioned he'd booked us in for a show-round at a local wedding venue and did I fancy it

AlphaBeta2012 Thu 03-Jan-13 14:16:40

9 months, and married at 18months

JustFabulous Thu 03-Jan-13 14:21:02

Met Jan 1996.
Engaged Oct 1998.
Married July 1999.

phantomnamechanger Thu 03-Jan-13 14:22:08

about 4 weeks - we kept it quiet for another month as did not want to shock everyone
married 7 months later, been married 17 years now

mowbraygirl Thu 03-Jan-13 14:30:00

Met DH in March engaged in June and married in September all the same year. DD was born 4 years and 5 days later so this year will be 44 years and DD will be 40 in September have a DS as well he will be 37 on Saturday. We are still happy together DH has been retired for 8 years now.

OhTheConfusion Thu 03-Jan-13 14:34:15

Met Sept 2006
Kissed Feb 2007
Got together Aug 2007
Moved in together Oct 2007
Engaged Dec 2007
Booked wedding Feb 2008
Married Mar 2009

Everyone is different, one of my friends met her now DH on the 12th of Aug on holiday and married him on the 6th of September! (9yrs ago!)

MsVestibule Thu 03-Jan-13 14:41:41

3.5 years.
We met in the July.
I was pregnant by the next May.
We moved in together in the December (when I was 35 weeks pregnant).
DC1 born in February.
Pregnant again by January.
DC2 born in October.
He proposed in December.
We married 6 months later.
So, just under 4 years from our rather unpromising first date to wedding day.

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