to actually like looking "pale" ??

(87 Posts)
xameliax Tue 01-Jan-13 22:17:14

My natural skin colour is pale and I have to say that I love it.

It doesn't necessarily mean that you are ill/never go out in the sun.

When I say I like being pale, some of my friends literally seem to shudder and pull the hmm face.

Yes I love having a tan when I come back off holiday because then it's natural but I wouldn't lie out in the sun for hours in order to get one.

I've been on holiday with a friend who will be out in the sun from 9 and refuse to leave her sun bed until the sun has actually gone.

Anyone else actually like their skin colour or as soon as your tan starts to fade will you jump on the sun bed or grab the nearest bottle of Saint Tropez?

sweetkitty Tue 01-Jan-13 22:20:00

I'm very pale as are my DCs, I often get asked if I'm unwell or "oh you look pale today.". Even DP said I looked very pale next to his tantastic sunbed sister.

I actually think as you get older being tanned accentuates your wrinkles, that's my excuse anyway.

MissPricklePants Tue 01-Jan-13 22:21:25

I am pale too, never fake tan or use sunbeds as I like being pale. YANBU op.

TraineeBabyCatcher Tue 01-Jan-13 22:23:32

I don't mind the paleness, its the blemishes I have when I'm pale I don't like. When I have a bit of a tan my skins seems much nicer all round.

gimmecakeandcandy Tue 01-Jan-13 22:24:40

Yanbu. I am naturally olive but think the 'pale' look is beautiful! I think the fake tan look is not very attractive at all and always am a bit hmm at the sheer number of women who think it is attractive

HoHoHoNoYouDont Tue 01-Jan-13 22:25:30

Often guys at the office will say 'HoHoHo, you need to get on the sunbed/out in the sun/you look so pale, are you ill...' It goes on an on. When I tell them that's my natural tone and am happy this way they look confused

I think they're so used to all the fake women in the media that they forget what a real ski tone looks like!

HoHoHoNoYouDont Tue 01-Jan-13 22:25:47

* skin tone

PoppyWearer Tue 01-Jan-13 22:26:09

I'm very pale-skinned and it used to bother me, but not any more. Since turning 30 a lot of few years ago, having healthy skin has been my priority.

I tried a spray tan once and it looked dreadful.

I think it's something that matters more to people when they are younger, or if you have friends who care about that sort of thing it rubs off on you (not the fake tan, I mean caring about having a tan).

Also, if you have DCs or not. Who has time to sunbathe, or even sit still for more than 2 minutes, once you have DCs?

WorraLorraTurkey Tue 01-Jan-13 22:27:53

I'm fairly pale and I don't bother with fake tan or sunbeds

I can't say I like the really pale look though

I was thinking how odd whatsername from Girls Aloud looked the other night on TV (is it Nichola?) because she almost glows in the dark grin

Then again, I think orange people look odd too.

lightfairy Tue 01-Jan-13 22:27:59

I love being pale. Always have been, got to appreciate it as an adult. I have a constantly tanned and very wrinkly aunt. No thank you!

everlong Tue 01-Jan-13 22:28:06

I love pale. I think it's really can look beautiful.

Be pale and proud wink

LadyKinbote Tue 01-Jan-13 22:28:32

YANBU. I'm pale too and refuse to be made to feel I should change the colour of my skin!

Nuttyprofessor Tue 01-Jan-13 22:31:01

I have olive skin and look tanned all year, Italian DF. I hate sunbathing.

LuluMai Tue 01-Jan-13 22:31:46

I don't mind being pale cut but wish I had porcelain skin a la dita von teese instead of horrible brown blotches all over my face (aka freckles). Loathe them with a passion.

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Tue 01-Jan-13 22:33:01

I'm pale and love it, never fake tanned never intend to. Can't see the desire in being orange, a lot of money and effort

musicmadness Tue 01-Jan-13 22:37:39

I'm pale and I like it most of the time. I never use fake tan or sun beds but I do like how I look when I come back of holiday too. The only reason I find myself disliking my skin tone is because I have dark circles under my eyes at the best of times but at the worst it looks like I have two black eyes!

robbins Tue 01-Jan-13 22:38:53

Pale and interesting - sadly I tan really easily a little bit of sun and I have a tan line from my watch

I am a pale of skin and a redhead. I used to hate it but find that all those years of having to stay out of the sun are now paying dividends and I do not look my age.

HazeltheMcWitch Tue 01-Jan-13 22:40:03

I quite like being pale, but I don't really ever get my legs out, as they'd just be too blindingly white.

HazeltheMcWitch Tue 01-Jan-13 22:41:04

Well, I say white, they're more stilton-esque.

SnowWhiterThenWhite Tue 01-Jan-13 22:42:51

I'm very pale, I use fake tan on very rare occasions and tan very easily on holiday but I like being pale. I have dark hair so often get compared to Snow White (hence nick name). Hate being told I look ill/to pale/tired though.

RudolphiaRedNose Tue 01-Jan-13 22:43:44

Yes, I love it. I think quite a few make-up and nail polish colours actually look great with it, and if I much prefer experimenting with what works than trying to be tanned. Have never used a sunbed ever. I burn anyway so I've always tried to avoid too much sun and am delighted that now in my 40s I'm not very wrinkly.

I don't look white as a sheet because I'm quite rosy-cheeked, but the background colour is so pale that I've frequently had foundation salespersons stumped.

The only thing I'm not so sure about is super-white legs - I don't tend to get them out much especially as they're also quite chunky

soontobeburns Tue 01-Jan-13 22:44:41

Im rather pale. I dont love It but I would never use fake tan. I hate the orange patchy look.

I do sunbath for a few hours on hoilday but thats because I like reading a good book in the sun. But tan lines are awful!

memphis83 Tue 01-Jan-13 22:45:41

I like being pale apart from my legs as the are so pale they look blue in the cold but look blotchy and a bit like corned beef on a good day.
The most common reaction to announcing my engagement wasn't congrats but 'I take it you will have a spray tan on your wedding day!'

DamnBamboo Tue 01-Jan-13 22:46:30

I am very very pale. I am often told I look ill, which is frankly quite insulting because it isn't because I am ill (or that I look ill either) it's just that I'm pale and for some pale - sickly.

I avoid the sun as I am hyper-sensitive and suffer from This

although I am nearly 40 and have not one teensy wrinkle and often get mistaken for being a good ten years younger.

hazel I'm with you. My legs are a greyish colour. I'm a darker shade of pale (oooooh a Clapton ref) above waist but below defo greyish........

Backtobedlam Tue 01-Jan-13 22:48:40

My Aunty tells has always said that I'm not pale or pasty I have an 'English rose' look...I choose to believe that and stay natural instead of fake tanning.

DamnBamboo Tue 01-Jan-13 22:49:40

That is so rude memphis! I can't believe people said that to you

jessjessjess Tue 01-Jan-13 22:50:28

I'm pale and prefer to just work with what I have rather than fake tanning or sun beds. The absolute key thing is to find a good blusher - I love Benefits Dandelion.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 22:50:56

I'm pale. Have never tanned in my life (though I have burnt) nor have I fake tanned.

It really isn't me.

RudolphiaRedNose Tue 01-Jan-13 22:52:47

Totally agree jess! - Dandelion is the best.

YANBU. I don't mind real tan but hate fake and sunbed tan. I'd rather be pale but have a bit of sunshine to tan lightly once a year (with factor 50).

But I'm another one who often gets told I look ill, when I'm actually fine. Blusher helps and I quite like the China Doll face of white skin and pink cheeks.

im quite pale... i dont care what others say, i like it and im happy

although when im really ill i tend to look dead confused

I like having the natural colour that I get from being outdoors in summer as I'm not pale enough for it to be a feature, I'm just average with rosy cheeks. I've recently started a job where I work with 5 very nice but very 'girly' women who are all looking forward to their summer orangeness. I'm going to stick out like a sore thumb grin

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 22:56:08

I agree with that too!

Also,Benefits Coralista is nice for summer. Peachy rather than brick orange. It's such a shame they discontinued the Georgia blusher.

I was discussing foundations with a women working on a beauty counter once and she said " X is really light coverage,but you'd probably want Y to cover your freckles". Er no I wouldn't you rude bitch.

notengodinero Tue 01-Jan-13 22:56:17

I'm v pale and when people say "ooh, you look pale" I have to say "yes, this is the colour I'm meant to be --now bugger off--"!

I have dark hair that unfortunately I have to dye now as I've got loads of greys, and have a bed habit of dying it too dark as I love the contrast. I don't think I do myself any favours though!

I hate the colour of my legs, and very rarely have them on show as they are pretty much blue. But I can't be arsed with the faff of fake tans. I've used them before but they always went wrong for one reason or another.

My SIL is v pale but uses fake tan most of the time. When she got married, she, all her bridesmaids and my MIL had spray tans done. It's just so obvious that it's fake, and it rubbed off one her dress (I've seen that happen to a few friends too), and I thought it was quite sad that she couldn't just embrace her natural self.

xameliax Tue 01-Jan-13 23:00:13

Alisvolatpropiis that's so rude! I hope you didn't buy anything after that.

My friend has booked the dates of her holiday just so she can attend a wedding when she come home with a tan.

At least it'll be a natural tan but ... it wouldn't even have occurred to me.

sashh Tue 01-Jan-13 23:12:01

Another pale one here. I wish I didn't have the freckles but hey.

What was / is Kelly Osborne thinking? Of course the money.

5dcsandallthelittlesantahats Tue 01-Jan-13 23:14:14

I am very pale (red hair and freckles) I have never used fake tan because I think I would look pretty silly plus I just dont care my skin colour is what it is and I am happy with that.

5dcsandallthelittlesantahats Tue 01-Jan-13 23:15:09

Oh I have never had a tan in the sun I go red and then back to white grin.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 23:15:24

No I didn't and I told her straight that 1) I did not want to cover my freckles,they are not a physical affliction and 2) if she ever wanted sales commission she might want to try not being incredibly rude.

My poor Dad stood there with a face just like this shock

nooka Tue 01-Jan-13 23:18:24

Another 'pale and interesting' person here. I don't tan (or wear make up) so it's my permanent look. I get a nice collection of freckles in the summer though smile

I always had lots of friends in the summer because compared with me everyone was tanned grin. Like others the only thing I'm not so keen on is my almost glow in the dark legs. I did have a fake tan done once (massaged in) but managed to get some reaction with sun cream and went horribly blotchy so never tried gain!

I was a goth for a while as a teenager, largely because I didn't have to do anything (I've quite dark brown hair, so I'm naturally a bit Snow Whitish)

ds has the same colouring and it makes it very easy to tell when he is really under the weather because he looks almost bleached.

Callycat Tue 01-Jan-13 23:19:17

high-fives Alis I love my freckles! Also, I've found that the chaps often like freckle-faces smile

mummydarkling Tue 01-Jan-13 23:20:30

I love being pale, although I hate that my blushes are so noticeable. I do conform to social pressure and use leg make up in the summer. I have a fake tanned sister and although she is the younger I am mistaken for the little sister at 42, very satisfying and we synthesise vitamin D better than other people grin

xameliax Tue 01-Jan-13 23:21:32

Oh I wish I'd seen her reaction Alisvolatpropiis

- I hate the expression "pale and interesting" it's so demeaning.

whathasthecatdonenow Tue 01-Jan-13 23:26:11

I'm so pale I'm practically see through. I wear a light foundation so I don't look dead, or like my passport photo, but there is one woman at work who fake tans to the colour of strong builder's tea. She insists that I am ill all of the time - to the extent of telling my line manager that I must be seriously ill and putting on a 'brave face' by not telling anyone. I think she is just deluded about what how pale some people can be, because of her fake tan obsession.

Spuddybean Tue 01-Jan-13 23:42:38

i am very pale and altho i look nice with a tan it takes ages to get one and fades very quickly. SO is a waste of a holiday to lay in the sun for 14 days solid.

I do like my freckles in the summer tho.

(i have repeated this on MN before) I often get comments about it as my hair is so naturally dark and once i was repeatedly asked in a salon (one of those ones where all the women are orange with bleached hair and those funny white tipped square nails) if i wanted to use the sunbed or have a spray tan. i kept refusing and the hairdresser got annoyed and snapped 'we are just trying to make you look less witchy' i replied 'where i'm from it is quite normal to have hair darker than our face'!

I also got the presumption from everyone that i would have a spray tan for my wedding.

ChristmasNamechangeBridezilla Tue 01-Jan-13 23:45:24

I'm very dark haired and olive skinned so pale isn't a good look for me. I'm to understand I look washed out and/or ill if someone tells me I'm pale.

On English-rose type complexions it can look lovely though.

Arthurfowlersallotment Tue 01-Jan-13 23:51:13

I've always thought the people who colour their skin orange and bleach the fuck out of their hair are trying to detract attention from the fact they're actually quite minging.

I've got red hair, freckles and I don't tan and I've never had a problem getting men. grin but I have had lots of negative comments, (such as being called Casper) of which I give not a flying fuck.

BreconBeBuggered Wed 02-Jan-13 00:03:04

YANBU. I once tried fake tan on the blue legs. I might as well have bathed them in Bisto gravy; it would have been equally convincing and alluring. I'm not blessed with summer freckles, so I do get comments about being an anaemic sickly vegetarian.
I give blood regularly and have the iron levels of a tiger <unofficial data>

Artemis206 Wed 02-Jan-13 00:03:37

I'm pale, dark haired and have freckles and very happy about it. I do get fed up when well meaning colleagues tell me how pale I am. It's my natural skin tone - honest!

YANBU, I love having pale skin. So jealous of Dita Von Teese's perfect porcelain skin.

Cathycomehome Wed 02-Jan-13 00:18:07

I'm sick of my pasty white skin. Both of my children and my partner are olive-y. I have the skin of a Victorian consumptive.

apostropheuse Wed 02-Jan-13 00:21:12

I'm pale too, I really don't care one way or the other what colour I am. It's how I was born and how I am meant to be. I have dark hair and if I'm exposed to the sun I do get freckles. I also have rather a lot of small moles on my arms, which contrast nicely with my pale skin! grin

Sunbathing would bore me to death. In fact if I go abroad at all I wear factor 30 minimum, wear a hat, cover my shoulders, and stay in the shade to read if at all possible. I would rather be my natural pale self than risk skin cancer. Also, if I don't wear a hat I get sunburn on my scalp, which isn't pleasant at all. I tend to burn rather than tan.

I absoluely hate fake tans as I hate the you've been tangoed look.

In the past I got so sunburnt that I couldn't bend my knees or elbows the pain was so bad and my nose was like a belisha beacon. Never again!

Beaverfeaver Wed 02-Jan-13 00:47:50

I like it when I am pale and like it when I am tanned (naturally).

However, I think being pale only suits someone with either dark brown hair or red hair.

Don't know why, just my personal opinion I guess

halcyondays Wed 02-Jan-13 00:54:43

I am pale and never tan even if I've been in the sun, althoughI don't tend to get told that I look pale or ill. I am happy with it and rarely bother with fake tan. I don't get why some people seem to be obsessed with it and think they can't be seen without it.

ChristmasNamechangeBridezilla Wed 02-Jan-13 00:58:16

Fake tan definitely doesn't work on pale skin. Even light ones are obvious.

My DH has a friend whose partner is a very pretty woman who tries to disguise her red hair and pale skin with black hair dye and fake tan. She would look a lot better if she just embraced her colouring IMO.

MaggieMayRose Wed 02-Jan-13 01:19:33

I have a friend with red hair and freckles.

She likes to be really tanned, and dyed her hair both blonde and dark.

Thankfully she's gone back to her natural colour, which looks gorgeous on her.

Red hair is so beautiful and as a natural hair colour quite rare too. If I had it I'd never want to dye my hair.

misterwife Wed 02-Jan-13 01:20:13

Spray tans and sunbed tans look horrible. Horrible, horrible, horrible!

blackeyedsusan Wed 02-Jan-13 01:51:42

my mission in life is to make everyone else look tanned. grin

tanning is a sign of skin damage (if not you natural colour.) my mum has had several skin cancers removed so I am really careful about not exposing skin to the sun in summer. (april to september.) my legs are wwhite, but they never come out anyay. it is either too cold for them to be out and hideous mottled blue and purple... or too sunny for them to be out and me applying layers of cream.

I'm dark haired and pale, I had a sprey tan for my sisters wedding (so did everyone else) and I thought it looked awful

I am so pale, I'm pretty much translucent. It suits me though. I have tried fake tan once, I looked completely ridiculous. A tan looks amazing on people who tan naturally (like one of my friends, who gets a gorgeous bronze tan by merely looking at the sun), but on me, nah. Though when I was 12, I was staying with a cousin in a very hot country, and on the last day of my stay, a friend of hers said 'oh Shadows, you have a great tan'. 'Really??' says I, all excited. He then continues 'yup, you are not blue anymore, you're just white now". grin

MammaTJ Wed 02-Jan-13 02:49:38

I am a ginga and will always be more pale than anyone else because I try to protect my skin.

drfayray Wed 02-Jan-13 02:55:14

My skin has been described as liquid chocolate. Take a look at my pic.
Everyone is beautiful whether they are pale or dark.
I don't understand the need to look orange !

MrRected Wed 02-Jan-13 03:33:24

Two words.

Skin Cancer.

In the words of the Australian Cancer Council: Tanning = Skin Cells in Trauma.

And it's entirely possible to get skin cancer in Europe too...

CaptChaos Wed 02-Jan-13 05:13:50

I am very pale skinned, with very dark brown hair. I never expose my legs to the sun, as they are so white they are reflective and people are blinded by the glare! It takes me so long to get any sort of colour in the summer that I don't bother anymore.

I had a spray tan once, and it just made me look slightly grubby, but then what passes for a natural tan on me also just makes me looks slightly grubby!

One positive is that no one ever guesses how old I am, it was also fab when I was a goth when younger. On the negative side, occasionally I grow an extra head on my chin, no matter what skincare regime I use, and the contrast between pale skin and huge angry red spot means that everyone talks to it instead of me! sad

FlimFlamMerrilyOnHigh Wed 02-Jan-13 05:55:42

You should live in Japan or Korea, they completely idolise pale skin and spend a fortune on skin whitening creams. Japanese women would never never sunbathe, it's considered lower class to be tanned (as it was in Europe 100 years ago). A Japanese friend told me that Japanese women with babies in buggies have special long gloves that go up to their elbows so that they don't get their forearms tanned while walking about outdoors pushing the buggy.

vvviola Wed 02-Jan-13 06:22:04

I gave in briefly to the pressure to get a fake tan for my wedding, got a test done on my legs and it made me look like I had some weird tropical disease. I was very glad to be able to use it as an excuse not to get it done for the wedding. Still had a stand up row with one of my bridesmaids about it though.

I do tan, but gradually and slowly and it's more a case of my freckles joining up than a real tan grin

At the moment I look like two halves of different people. My legs are still so white they look blue (friends have joked they need sun glasses to look at me!), but my arms are tanned from doing the school run etc. I look pretty daft in shorts (summer here)

I don't mind being pale, but I wish it was a bit more even!

ohfunnyhoneyface Wed 02-Jan-13 06:32:03

I tan very quickly with olive skin- pale on me DOES mean ill! But I think pale is beautiful and love my DP's white freckly skin and his sister's gorgeous milk white skin. I really don't mind what colour our baby is- though a life time of panicking about shade and sunburn doesn't appeal that much!! His dad burns in the shade!

DozyDuck Wed 02-Jan-13 07:50:55

I'm see through grin
With black hair and bright blue eyes.

I only get positive comments about it.

YANBU

sashh Wed 02-Jan-13 07:57:21

Just remembered, I got extra massage time in Bali. The lady on the beach was so fascinated by my 'beautiful white skin'.

jaggythistle Wed 02-Jan-13 08:07:09

i like getting a wee bit of sun in the summer, but also don't do deliberate sunbathing.

i tried a fake tan moisturiser thing once and it smelled awful! it did help me work out why my workmates smell funny sometimes though. grin

i don't mind being pale, although when i get tired it makes my dark circles round my eyes look worse. smile

FolkElf Wed 02-Jan-13 08:54:07

I'm also very pale. I've got freckles which makes my face appear less so - I'm not covered in them and they're quite pale but enough to be noticeable. The rest of me like a slightly squishy porcelain doll!

I think that all natural skin tones/colours are beautiful but I don't like the fake tan look and just don't get what people find attractive about it at all.

DozyDuck envy that's my favourite combo.

Mrsrudolphduvall Wed 02-Jan-13 08:55:13

I am very pale with dark hair and eyes.
I get rosacea in the summer and sunshine triggers it, so no sunbathing for me.

I have never had a decent spray tan so don't bother any more.

FolkElf Wed 02-Jan-13 08:55:59

vvviola sunglasses needed for my legs too! The glare from them in the sunshine...!

CharlotteBronteSaurus Wed 02-Jan-13 08:59:57

i am very pale, with blonde hair
i am fine with it, although i do need a spot of blusher to avoid looking totally washed out and under the weather.
have never had a spray tan or real tan. i did experiment with fake tanning my legs, but didn't like it.

HairyGrotter Wed 02-Jan-13 09:01:58

I'm pale, however, I tan like a mofo when the sun is out! I like having a bit of colour during the summer, but only when it is naturally caught.

TheProvincialLady Wed 02-Jan-13 09:10:19

I am pale but blusher makes me more English Rose than vampire. I like it - I would much, much rather be pale than orange. A light real suntan can look nice, but most people in this country think that glowing sunburn is a good look, or failing that then actual orange. Orange FFS!

ipswichwitch Wed 02-Jan-13 09:12:48

i've got dark blonde hair and am pale - my legs are so white they're almost translucent! I do tan eventually on holiday, but generally only when i have enough freckles to join up and form some sort of tan.
it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I've had the usual "oh you look ill" comments, but i'd rather be pale than smell of fake tan (which makes me feel queasy)

Whatdoiknowanyway Wed 02-Jan-13 09:13:28

I'm very pale with white hair. Never bothered me but I was amused when in south of France on holiday a couple of years ago. We went for a walk on our first evening and a couple of old ladies sitting on a bench actually stopped their conversation and watched openmouthed as we walked past - fascinated by my blue/white legs.

Nicola Roberts from Girls Aloud looks so much better now she has embraced the pale.....and launched her own make up range.
It is hard not to be influenced by peer pressure to go a bit orange though isn't it?
I have dabbled with fake tans.....my last ever spray was about 6 years ago when my hand were the colour of conkers blushand I had a fetching floral stencil effect down below due to wearing my own lacy g string shock (always use their paper pants folks!)
I also agree with other comments that the "normal" look (ESP amount teenage girls and Jack wills sales assistants) is orange, hideous false lashes and yes, those horrid white tipped fake nails! I wish these women would realise that they look so much better without all of that crap.

everlong Wed 02-Jan-13 09:58:19

I'm pale in winter but my skin goes brown in the sun.

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perceptionInaPearTree Wed 02-Jan-13 10:02:20

I'm pale here, too - quite happy to look white tbh. So YANBU. I've had professional fake tans various times and they are a real pain to maintain and also I don't like the smell.

My friend told me I was very pale a while ago! I've always been the tanned one from holidays, so I was kinda surprised, but I guess I lose it quickly. He said when he first met me he thought I was Scandinavian, which I've never heard before.....I have lightish hair (when it's er, clean) but dark eyelashes/brows.
Had spots for so long that I really don't care about my skin anymore- and have noticed that loads of older teens actually have little wrinkles here and there- I have no interest in a "skincare regime" beyond soap and water, and definitely not fake tan.

BunFagFreddie Tue 15-Jan-13 08:24:53

I'm pale and it's never bothered me.

Eliza22 Tue 15-Jan-13 09:18:44

I'm fair. Pale was pretty in my twenties, thirties and even forties (though I did, at that time, start to use the St Tropez weekly for my gym sessions). Now, I'm 50 and sadly, though I still have good skin, pale means washed out and rather drab.

I need colour "about" me. And that's fine by me.

I'm assuming you're young? Enjoy your paleness now. You may find as you mature, that a little colour helps along the way! smile

digerd Tue 15-Jan-13 11:51:08

When younger, I loved being naturally tanned. Not only how it looked but the tingling and glow I felt from the sun-tan.
When I was 40, I had a black melanoma on one arm, which was caught just in time before it was to start spreading. That scared me.
I did try fake tan on my legs, but was a disaster. So didn't bother again.
I met an 83 year-old and her 65 year-old friend on holiday, and both sunbathed all day long. Neither had a wrinkle or line on the face or body.

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