to think I have the perfect solution to the school hours/school run problem?

(55 Posts)
Tortoiseonthehalfshell Tue 01-Jan-13 12:15:54

Not really. I just want you to all pick holes in my Grand Plan, please, so I don't fall into any pitfalls. This is my first child to go to school, I have no idea what I'm in for. My apologies for the unlikeliness of bunfighting.

Right. So, somewhat unbelievably, DD1 is going to be of school age next year.

DD1 has a best friend, and over many many playdates her mum and I have also become very good friends. The friend is also starting the same school. The mum is a single parent, her DD is an only child and will stay that way. We live about a 2 minute drive/15 minute walk away from one another. She runs a shop another 5 minutes drive from my place; I work a fair way away but drop my car at a bus station 5 minutes past her place. So the map goes like this:
My bus station -- primary school -- her place -- my place -- her work with none of those distances being over 5 minutes drive.

So. She doesn't open till 10am, I work best doing early hours. So our plan is simple. I drop DD1 off at hers at 7am, fully uniformed and packed, she and best friend have breakfast together. Her mum does school drop off at 8.30, gets time to sort herself out before going to work even if morning is chaos. I pick up both girls and either take them to mine until she drives past and picks her up at just past 5pm, or drop hers at the shop - I have to go past there anyway to pick up DD2 from daycare. So I'm thinking, on days DD1 has an after school commitment, I'll drop off the friend with her mum, otherwise I'll just keep them both and feed them as needed.

Is this actually the world's best plan? Or is it just asking for trouble? Would it in fact turn out to be an enormous imposition to have someone else's child dropped off 3 or 4 mornings a week expecting breakfast? What have I missed?

DozyDuck Tue 01-Jan-13 12:18:43

I think as long as its 'even' then it's ok, but what about if one child/ mum is sick?

SavoyCabbage Tue 01-Jan-13 12:20:42

It's either pure brilliance or an utter nightmare.

I think you should set a date to review it, half term maybe, so you can both decide if it's working for you.

I think when there are moments when you are hating it, you have to remind yourselves of the money you are saving.

exexpat Tue 01-Jan-13 12:20:46

That sounds reasonably well balanced, but if you want to hear of any possible flaws - what happens when one of the children is ill? A lot of them seem to spend reception getting every bug going. Also, what if the girls have a falling-out or just drift apart, and don't want to spend several hours a day together in addition to spending the school dy together?

Iactuallydothinkso Tue 01-Jan-13 12:21:24

Ok, sounds great. In practise.....

What happens when the girls fall out? And they will. Probably with alarming regularity, particularly I have found in year 2!!!

Then what happens if one of them is sick? Will you still do the journey or let her down or take your sick child with you? Or you and the mum fall out? Or one of you is constantly late and this annoys the other? What if you end up doing more, will you be resentful? What is the other child hates your cooking or your child hates their breakfasts?

It's a minefield! Think long and hard about committing to something that could be very problematic. Clearly, I have the voice of experience!

MammaTJ Tue 01-Jan-13 12:21:33

You need to discuss what happens if either child or either parent is ill.

Also if the girls fall out, how will you both deal with it?

happyinherts Tue 01-Jan-13 12:22:15

Perfect in theory. There will be days when it won't go to plan so you need a Plan B in case of sickness and think of Inset Days.

Also bear in mind that's an awfully long day for a little one to be out and about if you're going to drop her off at 7am. She's going to get tired, irritable and annoying but if this is the only arrangement possible at the moment, so be it. Hope all works out successfully

No, a lot of people do it.

But you must have a plan b for sickness, emergencies etc. Especially as she is a single mum, it could be a lot of pressure if she isn't feeling well one morning.

Although by the sounds of it, you could probably go into work a little later in exceptional circumstances and work through lunch possibly?

mum11970 Tue 01-Jan-13 12:23:26

Lots of schools run a free breakfast club in the mornings, does your school have one? This would save you being reliant on anyone, as pp said could be brilliant or a disaster.

littleducks Tue 01-Jan-13 12:29:20

It depends on the relationship between the girls and the mums.

There will be days the other child will wind you up, and unlike your own kids you will actually wish you send her home!

Last year I dropped dd off at 8am (school starts) and my friend/dd's friends mum took her to school. There were things that niggled me, they ate chocolate cereal for example when dd was used to porridge/weetabix. Its hardly a big deal, but this little things do irritate after a while. Don't underestimate this.

I had all 3 of her kids of three weeks while she was abroad in return and do pick up and run to an activity when she hasn't a car at home.

This year we have changed arrangements a bit, I pick up her dd once a week from school. She is on my emergency list and my first port of call if I get delayed (I work/she is a SAHM).

dixiechick1975 Tue 01-Jan-13 12:29:46

It may work for a short while but what will happen when the children start doing lots of different after school activities or want a friend home for tea.

7am is also a very early start, your daughter would need to be up 6am ish. She may wake up early now but school can be very tiring.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Tue 01-Jan-13 12:31:34

Savoy, it's not the money of OSH care, really, it's that it'd just be nice to avoid it in the early years, and also DD1 has at least one after-school-hours class now that she wants to keep up and OSH means she'd not get to it.

Plan B - my husband has a pretty flexible job, so no reason he couldn't just do the school run and get to work late/come home late if need be. We just can't do that every day. I do realise we're lucky, we've both taken massive pay cuts to ensure flexible family friendly jobs though.

Is the morning run much more horrific than the afternoon? Does this look fair (we have same amount of hours of childcare) but will actually be a nightmare? I worry about DD1 turning up in the morning and making it impossible for the other mum to wrestle hers into uniform/bag/etc.

Happyinherts, surely this arrangement - over at a friend's place, with whom she has been close since they were two - is better than paid care, though? What do you suggest, that I cease work?

my mum did something like this with my best friend and I through the first few years of primary. I'm sure we did fall out sometimes, and we certainly grew apart as we got older, but it worked well. for me as an only child, it exposed me a bit to what having a sibling might be like. when I moved schools at 7, we set up similar arrangements with my new best friend. that worked so well we went on holiday with each others family for years.

ds1 has started school this year, and whilst he's only had half a day off after a playground accident, at one point over half his class were off. so do work out now what your backup will be in case of sickness.

CaptChaos Tue 01-Jan-13 12:33:49

Could be fab, could be the world's worst, plus what happens in school holidays, half terms etc?

littleducks Tue 01-Jan-13 12:35:42

I find the afternoon school run worse, kids are tired (and starving hmm) occassionally really grumpy if they have had a bad day and not really in the mood for company, traffic is worse.

But then I have never done morning with an extra child under normal routines, its different with houseguests.

happyinherts Tue 01-Jan-13 12:38:11

Tortoise - huh? Are you confusing my post with someone else's? Of course your arrangement is better than paid care, I just meant bear in mind that it's a long term and your daughter gets up early and will get tired and irritable in that it won't all be plain sailing. I wished you good luck with it - I wasn't knocking it.

WipsGlitter Tue 01-Jan-13 12:38:46

Personally I can imagine nothing worse than another child in my home at breakfast time. It's hard enough chivvying my child let alone another one! as someone else said you will be getting up very early to get there for 7. But if you can make it work fair enough.

Oh and dont pay attention to school run nightmare bollocks. Its only a car journey not crossing the Alps!

Think it sounds like a good idea, and you do have back up arrangement in place. IMO, mornings I find easier, as there is a set routine and a deadline to get out of the house, so the children just get on with it. After school - and I do this for a child in my DS class- can be harder work, as they are more likely to be tired and fall out etc. only thing is if your friend is always feeding your child, and her child is not being fed/ fed as often may be a bit unbalanced, but otherwise I think sounds good.

FleeBee Tue 01-Jan-13 13:00:52

My oldest DC started at the same school as my neighbour's DS so I offered to take her son & my child instead of him going to breakfast club. It's only been 1 term & there has been a few awkward moments, I do feel our friendship has changed. Sometimes I wish I hadn't offered.
However you are helping each other so more balanced than my situation. Good luck

Joiningthegang Tue 01-Jan-13 13:16:37

Sounds brilliant to me! Do have plan b just in case! Why not agree to do it for a trial term with no expectations on either side and if it works well just keep going?

Soumds ideal, and you sound lovely x

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Tue 01-Jan-13 13:23:07

Sorry, happy - I think I was reading you as "it's a long day" meaning I shouldn't subject my child to being away from me for that long. Apologies. Really, these girls have been best friends since they were two, and both of them see each other's mother as a surrogate family member, so being at her house is hopefully the next best thing to being at mine.

But! Good point that it might mean getting up earlier than otherwise needed. I genuinely hadn't registered that, because at the moment I'm dropping her off at nursery at 7.30 in order to get to work on time, so in my mind this is an improvement.

I'm cheered by the fact that some of you think mornings worse, and some of you think afternoons. Chances are we'll come out fair, then.

To be honest, for her the alternative would be: switch to another primary, not as good, that's close enough to her shop that she can close it for fifteen minutes and go collect her daughter, who then sits in the back room with a DVD for a couple of hours. Or paid care. My alternative is to switch out with my husband so one works early, one works late and we have hardly any time awake together; we have an hour's commute each way, each, so it would mean me leaving home at 7am and him getting home at 7-8pm. It's doable, but this arrangement would have to be pretty awful to be worse for all of us, you know?

DeWe Tue 01-Jan-13 15:50:41

Several things come to mind:
Firstly, apologies if I may have missed it, but has the other mother expressed any desire to share transport? If she hasn't then coming in with a formulized plan may be really offputting for her. I would say unless she's said "you sort out the details" then I'd go for sitting down and discuss anyway. I'm not sure from the way you've written whether this is a joint plan or you thinking it will work out this way.
Secondly: In my experience girls who spend a lot of time outside school together end up getting a bit of a sister relationship. That means sibling quarrels. When I've done more pickings up etc. of one particular child the children have often (after a while) got on worse in a lot of ways.
Thirdly: I would hate for a child to be dropped off at 7am. I get up at 7am with my oldest, who leaves the house at 7:45, my other two don't get up till 7:45, which is plenty of time to get ready. But adding another child makes it much more hectic as well.
Fourthly: You say "if my child does afterschool club I'll just drop her to her mum." I would feel very awkward about relying on someone who had to do an extra journey, rather than just pick up with their daughter. What if her daughter wants to do an afterschool club too?
And lastly. You need to work out sick times. Your dd is ill, her dd is ill, either of you are ill... can work out to quite a few days. You need to know where you are so you don't get the "oh heck what do I do panic!" Also you need to be aware there may be days where they finish early-like the end of term.

You asked for holes, and these are what I can see. It may work brilliantly. It may not once you try. I would make sure you have an exit plan that you can both use, either a review time, or some other way that the arrangement can come to a natural end without resentment.

tiggytape Tue 01-Jan-13 16:12:19

You'll have to try it and see.
The obvious pitfalls are sick days and after school clubs or playdates.
If your DD makes a new best friend at school, are you going to still take her DD home whilst your DD goes elsewhere for tea?
If her DD is off school with chickenpox for a week what will you do about school drop offs?

Then there's unknowns like resentments if she turns out to be a terrible timekeeper and drops both girls off late everyday despite your own DD being at her house by 7am. Or if your DD is fussy about breakfast and the other mum doesn't force her to have some so sends her to school hungry?

it will probably be fine but you'd still need a back-up for some days.

werewolvesdidit Tue 01-Jan-13 16:13:19

I think you should offer to pay your friend for it.

maddening Tue 01-Jan-13 17:09:30

If your child is sick it causes fewer problems than if she or her dd was sick. For you iy would mean going to work late at short notice whereas she would have the whole day to sort out childcare or she could pop out for 5 mins to pick up her dd and take her back to the shop.

She also doesn't have to vary any journeys whereas you might drop her dd at hers. You get a little more flexibility.

So all in all it's very fair - you both benefit in different ways but you require more backup than she does.

Hassled Tue 01-Jan-13 17:13:56

The theory is great but I agree absolutely that you agree a date on which you review it (Oct half term?) and talk openly about the potential issues - of which the main one will be what if the girls fall out? They are notorious faller-outers at that age. What if your DD turns out to Little Miss Popular and gets loads of playdate invites after school, while friend's DD doesn't (or vice versa)?

maddening Tue 01-Jan-13 17:17:52

Ps my dad is a dentist and from when I was 8 (oldest child) we had a lounge upstairs with a tv and sofa and desks to do homework and drawing so came there after school, mum worked there too and gave us a snack and then we alk went home at 5. So she has less need for this arrangement than you do but it is nover for her dd to go to yours than hang at the shop. Maybe on the days you havr her dd you give her dd dinner?

I think you need to always be conscious that your friend might get tired of the arrangements before she tells you - so keep an eye out and be proactive in addressing this before it did any damage to yout friendship. Additionally if the girls stopped getting on what with fickle relationships.

2kidsintow Tue 01-Jan-13 17:20:09

Could you drop your DD off at 8 instead of 7 and still get your work done and away in time for school pick up?

An extra hour in bed is a big deal for a little one. And it will give your friend time to wake and get hers up and ready before yours is added to the mix.
It also gives them a bit less time together, which can mean that they enjoy their time more.

Mornings are no better or worse than evenings. They can be as grumpy in the morning because they are tired as they can be after a busy day at work.

nannynick Tue 01-Jan-13 17:20:32

Sounds to me that it could work out. It seems to be quite a balanced arrangement.

Do Not have any form of payment involved, that complicates things and will tie you up in legal hassles such as Childcare Act 2006 (if in England) other legislation in other countries.
Keep it as simple as you can and as something you are doing to help each other out of friendship.

oldpeculiar Tue 01-Jan-13 19:32:42

What time do you pick up DD2 from daycare, and when you do that, what time do you get back home?
If you were taking her back to yours everynight , giving her tea then it would sound equal, but you are talking about dropping her at her mum's some days and then maybe dropping her off at the shop when you get your Dc from daycare.I don't know really.Haveing a child arriving at 7 am every morning would be a huge imposition for me, but maybe she is more of a morning person

lovelyladuree Tue 01-Jan-13 19:33:15

It will end in tears. Yours, probably.

UniS Tue 01-Jan-13 20:33:39

Th morning bit CAN work, but needs reviewing regularly as to weather it is working now. I have had a friend drop her 2 off at mine at 7.15 2 days a week for half a term, I have dropped my 1 at hers at equally unpleasant time of morning on different days... but its been short term not for years and years.

PenguinBear Tue 01-Jan-13 21:14:10

As long as your friend is happy with it, sounds like a good plan smile

SavoyCabbage Tue 01-Jan-13 21:16:56

If you have other alternatives (OSH, DH) then perhaps you could do these on a couple of the days so it's not every day that you are relying on each other.

Murtette Tue 01-Jan-13 23:42:57

Being very practical - if your DD is dropped off in her school uniform at 7am, will it still be clean when she's dropped off or will there be breakfast all down it?
Other possible problems (from when I used to have a similar childcare arrangement as a child rather than something I've experienced as a parent) - what happens if one of the children settles really quickly into school & loves it and the other doesn't? What happens if, after drop off, your DD realises she's forgotten something? If its an item of clothing, will you expect your friend to provide something? What if its spellings she's only just remembered she's supposed to know? Or money? And are you supposed to do any homework type stuff with the other child after school? A more modern problem - what will your DD do whilst the other child is getting dressed, cleaning teeth etc? Watch TV, possibly making it harder for the other mother to get her daughter ready as that girl wants to watch TV too?
I'm often pondering this as may end up doing something similar when DD starts school the following Sept.

UniS Wed 02-Jan-13 09:17:18

when we had 2 extras here in the morning... they would arrive having had their breakfast and were expected to get on with something ( duplo/ trains track/ jigsaws etc) in living room while I got DS breakfasted, teeth cleaned. DS would join them while I made his pack lunch then all got shoes on etc at 8.20 for walk to school.

I set ground rules about staying down stairs and shoes off. We have no TV so that wasn't an option.

janey68 Wed 02-Jan-13 09:37:21

Those expressing shock horror at a schoolchild being dropped at 7 in the morning are missing the point that with working parents, that child is well used to being dropped at nursery or a childminder early. Until my children started school I dropped them at nursery at 7.30, and now they're school age we have a similar arrangement with a cm who then takes them to school and does the pick up later. It's all perfectly normal and as long as children have a secure routine and enough rest they'll be fine.

I think this sounds like a good arrangement as its reciprocal. Childcare is an interesting topic on MN because many people see nothing wrong with using extended family as a free childminding service, yet are ready to pick holes in a perfectly sensible arrangment like this. The bottom line is: you both need some form of out of school care so you both benefit.

I think a review after a term is sensible though, just to iron out any issues which might emerge such as after school clubs etc

sashh Wed 02-Jan-13 09:44:05

How long does your dd take to get washed and dressed? 7 am seems an early drop of for me.

Xmaspuddingsaga Wed 02-Jan-13 09:47:53

OP I think you need to commit to ferrying your friends dd about to afterschool clubs etc even if your dd is doing something else. Otherwise it's not fair as you will be dropping dd off regard less. I would also like to ask where is your DH in this ? What time does he leave ? Could he not help out and drop your dd a little later ? 7am does seem early to me.

Lonecatwithkitten Wed 02-Jan-13 09:47:59

I think it is a good arrangement in principal, though there is one area that could lead to resentment. The other mum is providing breakfast though from what I can see you are no providing a meal. I could see the fact that she has a cost and you don't could begin to grate over time.
You can't pay her, but you could provide your DD's breakfast item maybe buying cereal every other week and milk to even it up.
As others say the girl's could grow apart my DD has two friends who she was close to at nursery from 6 months old at about 6 years old they began to get less enthusiastic about each other. They like to see each other occasionally now, but not daily.

MrsMushroom Wed 02-Jan-13 09:52:29

I would hesitate to use the term "best friends" when you're talking about 3/4 year olds. They play together because you and her Mum get on...when they are in a class with 15 other litte girls, things can change so fast you wouldn't believe it.

Be aware that they may get "new best friends" and also sick of the routine....but you have to do what's best for you at the moment.

Xmaspuddingsaga Wed 02-Jan-13 09:56:44

I would worry less about the girls not getting on so well. We have school runs with a variety of other parents, they are not the children's best friends but they get on well enough. I think this is really a non issue.

janey68 Wed 02-Jan-13 09:59:49

Yes that's a good point about the meal issue. Are you going to pr

janey68 Wed 02-Jan-13 10:01:25

Oops! Are you going to provide an after school snack which would even things up a bit more? Otherwise I agree that you should contribute towards the milk, cereal etc. it all adds up over time

quoteunquote Wed 02-Jan-13 10:54:30

OP, we have always had an arrangement a bit like yours, either we have children here early(earlier than your drop off) in the morning, or ours get dropped at another friends,

Just work out what your back up plan is if someone is ill/car breaks down, it happens a lot.

and make sure that all bags are fully packed the night before and clothes laid out, my children have always had to do this, when they come in from school, before any leisure activities tale place, then nothing can get forgotten in the mornings(that always messes up plans)

when children arrive here, we always put their bags/ instruments/ and coats straight in the car, so they cannot get forgotten in the hand over, I make sure the children get very good at doing their own check list.

beanandspud Wed 02-Jan-13 11:13:39

In theory it looks like a great arrangement as long as you have planned it together and the other mum is equally enthusiastic. You do need to agree to formally review it though and be prepared to make alternative arrangements.

However, thinking through the worst case scenario...

You arrive at friend's house at 7am. Other child has slept in and is running late. Mum and friend are still in pyjamas, your DD starts on her breakfast and spills coco pops down her uniform. Friend's mum now needs to try to find a clean top except that the washing's not up to date (planning to put a load on after the school run). DD's friend won't sit at the table because "she's not my friend any more". Television goes on because it is still only 7:45am, neither child wants to be dragged away from the TV when it is time to leave. Mum gets a bit cross that the girls (now best friends again) are messing around. DD has taken off school shoes and can't find them. Also remembers that they were supposed to bring in something beginning with 'ST' for the phonics lesson. Mad scramble for things beginning with ST (or was is SH?). Just as they all leave the house it starts to pour with rain.

Finally get to school, one of the girls rushes in, the other suddenly doesn't feel very well and doesn't want to go to school.

After school DC1 has been invited to tea with new best friend, DC2 hasn't been invited and goes home alone but is really upset about it. Your DD tells you that she was shouted at this morning by friend's mum and you don't know how to broach the subject without ruining the friendship. You no longer see your friend at weekends or holidays because you see so much of both children during the week...

<<wakes up in cold sweat>>

For all of those reasons I would try to be as self-sufficient as possible and maybe share the school run a couple of days a week or cover emergencies.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Wed 02-Jan-13 11:54:17

Blimey, lots to think about. I love you lot, thank you!

To answer some questions (sorry about delay in responding, I'm in Australia so it was my bedtime partway through the replies last night):

Breakfast/meals fairness: I'll chip in for breakfast cost or bring a box of cereal around once a week. But I'm assuming that I'm feeding her DD at least a substantial snack; she'll pick her up around 5.15pm, so before dinner, but they'll be starving when they get home from school, right? So I'll do them beans on toast or whatever.

Who has most to lose: Actually, this came about because she was worrying about how to deal with after school. She can't close the shop for long enough to go pick her DD up and bring her back; she's a sole operator, and allowing for the school run traffic jam nightmare it's a half hour realistically. But she's perfectly happy for her DD to be IN the shop, to the point where she was considering a nearer, but inferior, primary school just so she could dash down the road and collect her. I don't mind at all if I keep her DD for the afternoon or drop her, really; just thought that her DD wouldn't want to be sitting there with my younger daughter watching DD1 prance around in a tutu. But this definitely represents an advantage to her, because in a pinch I can coordinate with DH but she is on her own. Her other option was to pay a babysitter to do pickup and sit with her DD for an hour or two in the afternoon.

Not sure about her after school clubs. I can drop her at anything that doesn't require me to stay, but I can't see DD1 and 2 (who'll be 2 years old) sitting there waiting while she does somersaults. If DD1 wants to do the same club as her, great! Otherwise, hmm.

7am - I suppose I was thinking that they do have a bit of a sister relationship, so if mine stumbles into hers half awake, it's no different from being at my house - and she's used to going to nursery at 7.30. But actually, there is no reason at all that DH can't do drop off at more like 7.30, 8am, it's only me that needs to be at work super early (I have an hour's commute, so it does need to be 7 for me to get in early).

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Wed 02-Jan-13 11:56:23

beanandspud, your post is a leeeeetle bit chilling.

I wouldn't do this. In only four months of doing the school run I've seen a few friends fall out already over arrangements like these, and the friendships chop and change so fast - my son was 'best' friends with another boy from preschool (they both started age 2) and sadly they just don't get on since starting school - hopefully that will change but the thought of them having to spend each morning/afternoon together would be hell.

Treaclesmart Wed 02-Jan-13 13:30:46

I take my friend's little boy to school twice a week. It's OK but it is a bit of a hassle, I have to be more organised and make sure I'm dressed and have packed lunches done before he gets here as he's quite hard work. I wouldn't want to do it every day.
Would rather have him in the morning than the afternoon though! I think having an another child around after school every day would be difficult because they're often grotty when they come home, and it's hard enough trying to persuade them to do homework when there are no distractions. It's worth a try doing this and it's kind of you to help your friend but i'm not sure that it helps you much if your husband is around and could work later.

Clary Wed 02-Jan-13 13:42:01

I agree with whoever said best friends or not is not a problem - we have had various school run arrangements over the years and sometimes they were with children who the DC weren't friendly with at all really.

For example, DH used to have a situation with a mum of a girl in DS2's year whom we had known for years but DS2 not actually that keen on .... they walked to school togerher and if needed she wd drop her dd here early, or DH vice versa with DS2 - AFAIK (and bear in mind I was never here!) it was all OK.

I think any of these arrangements have to be reviewed and if they are not working, changed. As I say, we have had a range of arrangements in the past 9 years of working parents/kids at school, from walking bus, breakfast club, after school club, mate picks them up, gran drops in, I start early, DH starts late, meet a friend en route etc.

The most important thing is to have emergency back ups. Even now, with DS2 9yo so fairly independent, I have 4-5 numbers I can text if it all falls apart. grin

Before he started school we could barely keep DS1 in bed past 6am. Now he is in Reception we have to wake him at 7.30 or be late. The difference in intensity and fatigue is astonishing.

If I were the friend I wouldn't agree. Mornings are absolute bedlam even though at pre-school they weren't. It's all the bloody bags I think. Also school shoes run off and hide overnight...

oldpeculiar Wed 02-Jan-13 13:49:15

IME these sorts of arrangement seem to breed resentment.I'm not sure why that should be the case, but it does seem so.

Arcticwaffle Wed 02-Jan-13 14:00:49

We've done this sort of shared school run and before/after school care for years. It works beautifully most of the time. All the parents save loads of money they'd otherwise spend on childcare, and the children have had before and after school clubs as an occasional treat rather than something they've been to day in day out.
We also do it for holidays and inset days. And for emergency childcare/sick days.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Wed 02-Jan-13 14:24:19

I can hear what people are saying about problems that can arise but to be honest it's got to be worth a try. It will save quite a lot of money for both of you and will give the children a home environment to relax in before and after school. I'd jump at the chance. The fact that your DH could do the morning school run as a back up is a huge plus I'd say as it takes a lot of the worry out smile

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