To think that having a tattoo of someone's name is... Not good

(102 Posts)
NotAChocolateRaisin Mon 31-Dec-12 20:41:18

Im in a grey area about names of the deceased or children's names but I personally would think it was tacky hideous not good if my mum had my name tattooed on her or if someone did after I died.

AIBU?

LalyRawr Mon 31-Dec-12 20:43:57

Yup, each to their own.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 31-Dec-12 20:45:05

It can be quite ghetto fabulous.

JustFabulous Mon 31-Dec-12 20:47:08

I have only had a coca cola but you seem to be contridicting yourself confused.

FeckOffCup Mon 31-Dec-12 20:47:29

YABU, I have my DD's name tattooed on me and don't really care who does or doesn't like it, I do and that's all that matters. I would never get a DH/DPs name tattooed but your children are forever, I know tattoos are seen as "common" by lots of MNers but I think they can be a lovely way to express things important to you if done well.

FobblyWoof Mon 31-Dec-12 20:50:25

I have DP's initial, but his is the same as a lot of my family members. I wouldn't get his name as you just never know.

I have no problems with DC names though. I personally don't like tattoos of DC's faces (or any other faces for that matter). But to each their own.

HorraceTheChristmasOtter Mon 31-Dec-12 20:52:47

DP has his dead brothers name tattooed over his heart. Its about a cm high and in a plain type, I hardly ever notice it, but when I do I think it's rather lovely. I don't usually like tattoos either, so YABU (unless it's in huge gothic style writing, then YADNBU).

SoleSource Mon 31-Dec-12 20:55:38

Rach to their own. I'mnot a can of tatts but might like a clourful cartoon character. Just a teeny one on me botty.

3monkeys3 Mon 31-Dec-12 20:56:51

I have a shit flower tattoo I had when I was 16 - I love iit as it symbolises my rebellious youth, even though it really is quite shit. I have thought about having my dcs' names tattooed subtly somewhere where they wouldn't really be seem, or something symbolic, like apples, which I craved like mad when pregnant. I am a middle class, slightly hippyish sort of person and not common, tacky or hideous. Tattoos and how they look is all very subjective.

SantasHoHoHo Mon 31-Dec-12 21:19:38

I really don't like tattoos but can understand why a parent would have a child's name tattooed whether alive or deceased. Deceased more so. Makes me cry a little thinking about it sad

SamuelWestsMistress Mon 31-Dec-12 22:58:10

But if someone had your name tattooed on them after you died you wouldn't know, for you would be dead!

TheHoneyDragonsDrunkInTheIvy Mon 31-Dec-12 23:01:01

If you see some ones name tattooed you don't know the persons relationship with the tattooed name.

So your post makes no sense. You either like or dislike name tattoos and cannot make exceptions, as you wouldn't know.

like Cheryl with 'Mrs Cole' or something tattooed on the back of her neck. Awkward.

SirBoobAlot Mon 31-Dec-12 23:11:05

Think children's names are different, but any other name is foolish. My dad used to know someone that had the name of each wife tattooed on his arm. Unfortunately, he was married about four times, and had to have the previous three changed into different designs confused

KittyFane1 Mon 31-Dec-12 23:15:14

Tattoos look hideous full stop IMO. YANBU OP!

soontobeburns Mon 31-Dec-12 23:33:36

Im with floobywolf I also have DPs initial but again its common and very small.

I hate tattoos on other people but I have 3 confused

So Yanbu but yabu too grin

soontobeburns Mon 31-Dec-12 23:34:00

Common initial not looking blush

Horsemad Mon 31-Dec-12 23:36:50

Vile horrible things.

Tattoos of deceased people's or parents/children's names are all good. After all, your relationship with the former can't change and your parents/children will always be your parents/children.

Tattoos of partner's names? Bloody stupid. It's just asking for the relationship to go tits up surely?

yousmell Tue 01-Jan-13 08:11:03

agree with murder.

TheSloppelganger Tue 01-Jan-13 08:20:35

I like tasteful tattoos, some tattoos can be gorgeous - I have some tats myself which I hope fall into the tasteful category.

But I personally don't really like name tattoos, and tend to think they are often just a bit tacky looking.

But if people want to have their child's name tattooed on their body then that is their business, and I'm certainly not going to say anything rude to them - or about them. Each to their own and all that.

But when a girl I used to work with had her boyfriend's name tattooed across the top of her left boob in twirly inch high letters I confess I had to cut eyeholes in my judgy pants I'd pulled them up so high and then took bets on how long it would last now she'd done that.

catinsantasboots Tue 01-Jan-13 08:29:13

DH has a really shit faded heart with his name and the name of his girlfriend when he was 17.

It's just under another heart with Mum and Dad in it. gringringrin

They are soooo bad that I quite like them. They are sort of vintage naval chic - better than all the crap Celtic ones you see.

They are part of his story and part of him. We laugh about it.

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Tue 01-Jan-13 09:14:23

I have tattoos of my children's names,including my little angel who was stillborn. My children mean more to me than anything and I see their name on my skin as beautiful. It also means my angel is never forgotten and that she will always be part of our family.

CaptChaos Tue 01-Jan-13 09:19:09

I know that you say 'What?' instead of 'Pardon?'. We use napkins and go to the loo, and I have my DS's names tattooed on me. I rather like them. Each to their own smile

ithaka Tue 01-Jan-13 09:22:54

I have a big colourful tattoo, which includes my dead son's name. My husband has a matching one. I don't give a damn what anyone thinks of them.

I know some people judge I have had the odd stupid comment. This is helpful in identifying idiots that are best avoided.

blonderthanred Tue 01-Jan-13 09:26:44

Did anyone see the programme Addicted to Tattoos? It was one of the most brilliant things I have ever seen. The guy with a massive scorpion across one side of his face to cover his exgf's name who was having a second scorpion tattooed to cover... the subsequent exgf's name. Amazing.

And as for the Miley Cyrus guy... words fail me.

MrsWolowitz Tue 01-Jan-13 09:27:18

YABU and snobby.

I don't have any names but I have lots of tattoos and each one of them symbolises a significant event of time in my life.

I really don't give a monkeys who likes them as long as I do as its my skin and my memories.

Same with the name tattoos or tattoos of dead loved ones names. Who are you to say how people should or shouldn't grieve?

HeffalumpsAndWoozles Tue 01-Jan-13 09:38:12

Oh gosh blonder the Miley Cyrus guy was truly something else wasn't he!

I love tattoos, have a couple (hopefully tasteful!) ones myself and will be getting both my DD's names done in the near future. DH has my name and DDs' on one arm, a full Polynesian sleeve on the other and is saving up for a back piece. The artwork is fantastic. Neither DH or I could give a shiny shit what anyone else things of our tats, each to their own I say and you can't judge others because you don't know the story behind what made them get what they have.

IsawFoofyShmoofingSantaClaus Tue 01-Jan-13 09:39:55

Yabu

I don't like them
I wouldn't have one
I give not a tiny shiny one what others do.
Unless you ask you will never know their reasons. (although that would be rude)

(should my mother decide to tattoo my name on her after my demise I won't care. I'll be dead. )

My dp is a tattoo artist and cover up of ex lovers name is very popular, he advises against it but children/ family are a little different.

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 10:00:42

Tattoos are vile. Take the short cut and just have 'I am a chav' on your forehead.

I have the names of my children tattooed on me. It doesn't bother me what other people think. They are not big and I think they are tasteful.

A bit dramatic there HintofBream, but I'm not going to complain about tattoos as let's face it it puts a roof over my family's head and food in my children's mouth as well pays for all the bills grin

MrsWolowitz Tue 01-Jan-13 10:09:42

Hintofbeam you know what they say, only chavs say chav.

That aside, you sound delightful hmm

RiddoTheRedNosedReindeer Tue 01-Jan-13 10:10:12

I wouldn't have one but what other people do is up to them.

I do know someone who had her partners name in inch high letters across her back and then they split up.

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 10:13:20

Thanks Mrs W, I certainly am.
Strawberry, if people are daft enough to want them, good luck to your DP.

MrsWolowitz Tue 01-Jan-13 10:15:38

I was just thinking if all the words you could have on your head ^Hint* but I guess there wouldn't be much point as nobody would see it as your judgey pants are pulled up far too high.

You may want to get out more and broaden your mind and opinions. Just a thought.

NumericalMum Tue 01-Jan-13 10:20:02

I have never seen a tattoo I didn't think looked awful, but I guess I don't have to look at any on a daily basis so of someone else wants one then good for them. I might lock my DC away if she ever mentions getting one though! I don't know any people IRL who had tattoos when they were teenagers who don't regret them.

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 10:20:14

Mrs W, having worked in a prison for six years, I saw more than enough tattoos to turn me completely off them for life. To me they are irrevocably a sign of low life losers.

He doesn't need luck thank you very much, the tattoo industry is very lucrative and my do is talented. Nor is it daft or for chavs, his customer pool includes barristers, police officers, servicemen/ women, pensioners (oldest was 83), professional fighters, people from all walks of life. I very much agree you need to broaden your narrow mind or at least educate yourself about an industry you obviously know little about.

MrsWolowitz Tue 01-Jan-13 10:22:44

Like I said, you might want to think about get out more and broadening your mind then.

Dp not do damn you autocorrect!!!

skullcandy Tue 01-Jan-13 10:30:39

DH has his kids and mom's names incorporated into the design of one of his tatts, its done quite tastefully as they're part of the design, the tattoo being of something that normally has writing or decoration on.

sleepsforwimps2010 Tue 01-Jan-13 10:33:14

kids names ok
partners names never!
but my friend has her own name tattoed on her wrist.....
not sure what thats all about!

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 10:36:58

MrsW, if broadening my mind means agreeing with you, I'll leave it, thank you.

blonderthanred Tue 01-Jan-13 10:37:52

I never thought I'd have a tattoo but when my dog died last year I got his little paw print tattooed on my arm from a photo. I'm 36 and quite posh. Times have changed and all sorts of people have tattoos these days. It's as silly as saying people called Daisy can't be barristers (as I've seen on baby names thread).

Quite like the idea of getting my son's name in Times New Roman or typewriter font.

HappyJazzy Tue 01-Jan-13 10:46:31

YABU! Have you ever lost someone you loved? It hurts like hell and for some people a tattoo like that helps them with their grief. I don't have a memory tattoo, but I will never remove my ear piercings which my brother did to me in a moment of madness and having them in keeps him that little but closer to my heart.

MrsWolowitz Tue 01-Jan-13 10:55:22

No *Hint broadening your mind doesn't mean that you have agree with me. Its just means that you give consideration to others perspectives and also to stop being so rediculously judgemental. "Low lives", "daft", "chav" are horrid assumptions and make you sound...well..like a twat.

I actually feel a bit sorry for you if you go through life judging so harshly and assuming the worst about people. It must be a very exhausting way to live.

crookedcrock Tue 01-Jan-13 10:58:50

Yanbu....at all.

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 11:12:57

Really, MrsW? I think I can survive quite happily without your feeling sorry for me. Or judging me for that matter.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 11:16:47

SirBoob my uncle had to do that after his marriage to his first wife ended. He loves my aunt (his second wife) dearly but has never had her name tattooed on him. Learnt his lesson the first time! grin

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 11:19:56

Hinto

Tattoos are not a sign of low life losers hmm

It's not 1950 anymore. Thousands of people have them. Many are absolutely beautiful.

My friend is a tattoo artist, her designs are gorgeous. I know lots of people with tattoos,I wouldn't describe any as "low life's" or "losers".

I appreciate your experience may have coloured your views a bit but really...try and be a little less narrow minded?

mysterymeg Tue 01-Jan-13 11:23:36

Oh dear! I've just found out I'm a low life loser! I'd better resign from my job immediately. I'm sure my clients would not want tax advice from someone as chavvy as me if they knew about the butterfly on my hip for the child I lost.

Thank you for showing me the error of my ways.

I love most tattoos, they truly can be works of art. The only ones I do get a bit hmm about are partner's names - as several posters have said you just never know what's going to happen. Personally I wouldn't ever have anyone's name tattooed on me but that's just my preference.

Hint your posts make you sound like a very ignorant, judgmental and unpleasant individual. I hope you're merely posting for effect rather than because you actually hold those ridiculous views (low lifes? Chavs? Don't be so silly).

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 11:51:14

Puddlejumper, I can see that some tattoos are very cleverly done, but I would not say that makes them works of art. Most seem to involve loads of navy blue ink, which I think is very unattractive. Discreet tattoos for private viewing are no problem for me, but so many times when, for example, we are on a beach, and a lovely young girl walks past decked in patterns, I just think 'how could do that to yourself? '

I am not the only one prejudiced; there are plenty of people in the public eye who keep their tattoos well covered up as they know what others will think.

Nevertheless, my mind is becoming slightly broader, as having read about blonderthanred's paw print, I am staring thoughtfully at my cat.

Tattoos are vile. Take the short cut and just have 'I am a chav' on your forehead.

grin I'd love to see you say this to my face in front of some of the chavs I went to school with. We'd have a good laugh.

I have three tats I love. Logos or symbols of John Lennon, Kate Bush and Toulouse Lautrec, three figures who mean something to me. You going to tell me I've destroyed myself like my mum did? That I look disgusting? Funnily enough she presents as very civilised and polite usually too.

MoomieAndFreddie Tue 01-Jan-13 12:11:35

i have my dc names tattooed on me

i want dh's name too blush

giraffesCantGoFirstFooting Tue 01-Jan-13 12:15:11

I have the whole alphabet tattooed on me, and just display the initials of the current partner I am with, the rest of the letters I cover up with skin coloured plasters from the pound shop. It is really excellent value for money and means I can change partners every week without worrying!

Marvellous idea giraffes! grin

Hint when I said that tattoos can be art I was thinking of ones like this, this or this.

Arf at giraffes grin

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Tue 01-Jan-13 12:41:55

giraffes grin like your style

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Tue 01-Jan-13 12:42:55

I think Hint has humour in his/her posts... grin

Come off it, there are plenty of posters on this very thread who proudly flash their grey judgey pants for a multitude of reasons. Anything one personally doesn't like or approve of is something that they feel quite entitled to be censurious about. Perhaps tattoos just don't fall into their chav 'not vair nice person' category.

Horses for courses but unless you never judge a thing in your life, you can't critcise somebody else for railing against something you're fond of. That's sheer hypocrisy.

I don't personally like tattoos, not any, not anywhere, and wouldn't have one. It's the permanence I don't like, which is probably the whole reason why some people have them. I don't comment on anybody's designs, they mean nothing to me, but I do inwardly wince at the pain that some of them must have gone through having necks, backs of knees, ankles, inside wrists, inked... shock

everlong Tue 01-Jan-13 12:44:47

I wouldn't have a tattoo of my child's name, not even my dead child. But I understand why people do fgs. If it helps them in any good for them.

skullcandy Tue 01-Jan-13 12:45:22

I love tattoos, I have a few and they can be a fabulous work of art and expression of individuality. That being said, I don't think writing has any place in tattoos. You can never read it without staring at the person, it's usually done in stupid illegible script, and it's not art, it's writing. If you want to remember a lost person, get an image that represents them. And I absolutely don't understand why would just get your healthy living children listed down your arm or back. Are you worried you'll forget their names/birthdays? It's crap like that that gives tattoos a bad name, IMO.

Just my opinion though, I'm aware that many people hate all tattoos and think as little of mine as I do of other people's.

ClaudiaWinklepants Tue 01-Jan-13 12:54:35

Please don't flame me, why is Willy Wonka in that link?! I mean I get the message but why him? grin

skullcandy Tue 01-Jan-13 14:00:45

the picture of him is a meme a lot of people use on fb/imgur/etc for sarcastic comments.

EmmaBemma Tue 01-Jan-13 14:11:12

I love tattoos. i wouldn't personally have any script on me but it doesn't bother me if other people do! life would be very dull if we were all the same, as i increasingly find myself saying these days.

ComposHat Tue 01-Jan-13 14:48:13

Not for me... but can't get worked up about other people having them in the manner hint seems to. It doesn't carry any negative conotations as far as I am concerned as it is widespread.

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 15:31:05

Skullcandy, are those meant to be examples of high life?

Thanks, Lyingwitch, and yes I am a her not a him.

for courses but unless you never judge a thing in your life, you can't critcise somebody else for railing against something you're fond of

But no one's doing that, they're countering Hint's claim that everyone with tattoos is unsavoury in one form or another with the contradiction that people who like tattoos come from all walks of life, probably lots of them respectable (whatever you take that to mean). Not the same as wanting everyone to think the same at all!

ClaudiaWinklepants Tue 01-Jan-13 16:00:20

Thanks SkullCandy, I see now!

Well, I quite like the idea of people thinking I'm unsavoury in some way, when I'm such a vanilla person in all other aspects of my live - middle aged, middle class, post-grad education etc. I know many people in my profession who you could address as Dr Chav if everyone who has a tattoo is a chav. And with a bit of luck and a following wind I will be joining them at some point.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Tue 01-Jan-13 16:40:19

I'm definitely unsavoury, I just don't have a tattoo, don't drink or smoke either... blush... but I wear Boden, don't always remember knickers, don't ring home when I should and do a whole heap of other dreadful things that I won't bore you with. Those are my hell-raising credentials and 'angelic and perfection-afflicted persons' and I will never be friends... grin

skullcandy Tue 01-Jan-13 17:12:45

im sure the surgeon that saves your life loves being called a lowlife chav.

Do you routintely check if your medical practioners, firemen, ambulance first responders, policemen, lawyers, teachers...etc have tatts first?

HintofBream Tue 01-Jan-13 23:02:30

Actually Skullcandy, I have never met a surgeon, or a consultant of any sort, or a GP sporting a visible tattoo. Funny that. I wonder why.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 23:13:00

Hint you will in the future. You will also meet solicitors with visible tattoos. And teachers. Dentists.

They're exceedingly popular with people around my age. Who are entering such careers.

ImperialSantaKnickers Tue 01-Jan-13 23:25:14

I wouldn't feel comfortable with the judgement of a professional I was consulting if I could see the tail end of a piece of body art creeping out of her/his collar, sleeve etc - I'd be thinking 'why did this person allow this to be done?', not focussing on what they're telling me.

Have no issues with body art that's only visible with casual/beach clothing.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 23:28:02

Imperial really? If you were sitting in an office discussing say,getting a divorce,the biggest issue would be tattoo? Interesting.

ravenAK Tue 01-Jan-13 23:37:47

I know tattooed teachers, GPs, surgeons, solicitors, accountants, company directors...

Always seems peculiar when people who dislike tattoos proudly proclaim that they find them terribly distracting on other people.

You'd just vaguely note 'oh look, my consultant has Tweetie Pie tattooed on her wrist. Nice shoes, though' surely, rather than gawking at it. Very odd.

"Always seems peculiar when people who dislike tattoos proudly proclaim that they find them terribly distracting on other people. "

Suggests the issue might be more with the viewer than the viewee wink I do also wonder whether they find other visual things far to distracting? Would they stop listening if someone had vivid ginger hair? What about a spot? Or a birthmark?

MrsKeithRichards Wed 02-Jan-13 00:04:53

Tattoos are fine. I love mine, even the ones done as a teen.

Names are meh. Not for me. But not everything is for everyone.

Being a judgey jerk? Less cool.

Ambi Wed 02-Jan-13 00:08:26

I remember meeting someone in the pub with my name tattooed across his back in giant gothic letters, it was pretty freaky.

lunar1 Wed 02-Jan-13 00:18:41

I have a small cartoon that reminds me of my first husband, always makes me smile no matter how tacky it is. It takes me back to that time in my life for a moment.

ImperialSantaKnickers Wed 02-Jan-13 00:19:34

MurderOfGoths no-one chooses to have vivid ginger hair, a spot or a birthmark!

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 02-Jan-13 00:21:41

Imperial lots of women dye their hair varying shades of ginger!

How rude to imply that nobody would choose to be a red head! I would myself if I could afford the upkeep.

ComposHat Wed 02-Jan-13 00:21:55

I wouldn't feel comfortable with the judgement of a professional I was consulting if I could see the tail end of a piece of body art creeping out of her/his collar, sleeve etc - I'd be thinking 'why did this person allow this to be done?', not focussing on what they're telling me

Interesting and probably says a great deal about you. It marks you out as pretty shallow.

I bet you wouldn't extend this judgement to say, builders, plumbers or taxi drivers, whose professional services and competence you would need to trust is just as crucial as any of the occupations you have mentioned.

Your attitude reeks of class prejudice and petty snobbery. Tattoos okay for the proles but not for the likes if us. For what it is worth I know teachers, University lecturers and a solicitor with visible tattoos. All of whom seem to perform their jobs perfectly competently

If a surgeon was giving me a life saving operation I couldn't care if he had 'composhat smells of ass' tattooed on his forehead.

ImperialSantaKnickers Wed 02-Jan-13 00:25:50

And Alis yes actually, if I was paying someone a lot of money for a professional service I'd expect them not to have the lack of judgement to have had an intrusive tattoo extending so far up their neck or down their wrist that normal business clothing no longer covers it. I would be wondering if that lack of judgement extended into their professional life. If I had a personal recommendation that would probably negate the impression, but if it was a person I'd been allocated randomly - say a junior doctor - it would definitely be a factor in how I felt about them and how I valued their advice.

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 02-Jan-13 00:26:42

That says quite a lot about you Imperial.

ImperialSantaKnickers Wed 02-Jan-13 00:30:09

Are some of you lot having a go at me because HintOfBream has gone to bed? It was MurderOfGoths who started the ginger hair thing on this thread! Clearly too late at night to expect a civil conversation on here anymore.

My DH was really ill in 2009, he almost died. A year later, I decided to have a bracelet tattoo on my right wrist to mark the fact that he was still around. Rather than names or even initials I decided to have the symbols for our star signs. I am not a believer of horoscopes, but they do provide convenient symbols for my purpose.

BRAG KLAXON: On December 1st, I had my GamesMaker tattoo finished on my left upper arm. 2012 was an epic year for this reason, and although I got lots of souvenirs, I wanted something that couldn't get lost in my tip of a house!!!!

expatinscotland Wed 02-Jan-13 00:30:55

You think it's a grey area? That someone would like to have a memorial to their dead child on them?

Yeah, YABVU.

Our nine-year-old daughter died last July, and DH is saving to have her portrait tattooed on his shoulder.

And you know what, our child isn't around anymore to think anything is tacky or hideous. Instead, she's a hole in the ground.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Wed 02-Jan-13 00:32:37

No, it really doesn't, Alis. People make judgements on appearance all the time and I don't believe anybody who says they don't. They may not say anything but they will form whatever impression they form. Fact of life, like it or don't.

I really don't like the trend on MN of making sweeping aggressive statements like, "That says a lot about you". It doesn't.

ravenAK Wed 02-Jan-13 01:27:51

Well no, it doesn't say a lot about you if you make judgments based on someone's visible tattoo.

It says you're a bit narrow minded, that's all. You might be perfectly lovely in every other respect.

But it is a peculiar & unfounded prejudice that apparently mildly but noticeably affects your ability to interact sensibly with other people, whereas having ink injected into one's dermis has absolutely no recorded ill effects whatsoever on the recipient's social skills.

"MurderOfGoths no-one chooses to have vivid ginger hair, a spot or a birthmark!"

So you are only distracted to the point where you can't listen if someone has chosen to have a certain visual feature? Are you always this easily distracted?

i have DH's name on my wrist, & a memorial tattoo a bit above that for my dad. will be getting the DC's names soon.

personally, i don't give a shit whether the doctor, nurse, consultant, lawyer, council official, funeral director, midwife, shop assistant, hairdresser, bus driver, dentist, vet,teacher, whatever has tattoo's, piercings, body mods, green/pink/blue hair, as long as they do their job properly who gives a fuck what they do with themselves*

hygiene is the only thing i'd freak about- dirty/ smelly people i wouldn't want to interact with

also, expatinscotland , i followed your/ giraffes threads on here, i'm a "fan" of your beautiful daughters fb page, & i just wanted to say- your DH'S tattoo will be beautiful, meaningful & as far from tacky as you can get.

i have no comprehension of the pain you & DH & the rest of your family are going through, but i hope 2013's a better year for you & i'm sending love your way xxx

FellatioNelson Wed 02-Jan-13 04:38:58

This seems to be a bit of a craze at the moment doesn't it? Gradually adding the names of every child you ever had, every family member who ever died, every date that is important in your life, etc, usually accompanied by a sentimental strap line, so your body ends up like a walking photo album/commemorative plate.

I don't like it personally, but then I internalize personal stuff and prefer to keep it in my head. Which is quite an old fashioned habit, but my feelings for people are no less valid for that. People are much more into ostentatious expression these days. Each to their own, but I am fairly anti-tattoo anyway. I have seen very, very few that I think look attractive and will stand the test of time, but lists of names down the length of someone arm don't really do it for me.

FellatioNelson Wed 02-Jan-13 04:42:00

Although I can completely understand why, in the case of a deceased child there is an urge to do it. It's just that if your body starts reading like the Yellow Pages/your family tree it can devalue that a bit.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Wed 02-Jan-13 10:00:46

For me? Every word Fellatio has said is how I feel on this subject. I personally don't like them for any reason.

The difficulty, it seems, is that you can't post your own opinion on a subject without offending somebody else who holds a different opinion and can't seem to take in that it's just a difference of a opinion and not a personal condemnation of what they're doing/saying.

I couldn't care less what other people do as long as it doesn't affect or impact me. Some people like tattoos, some don't. Have them if you want to, inscribe your whole body with them, some will like them, some won't. Have the courage of your own convictions and not mind what other people think, it's your body and nobody else has to like it.

EmmaBemma Wed 02-Jan-13 10:52:49

"Have the courage of your own convictions and not mind what other people think, it's your body."

I have tattoos so we're coming at this from different angles but I agree with every word. Getting my first tattoo was instructive in exactly this way - I hadn't realised how much weight I gave other people's opinions and was unprepared for how worried I was about what people would think. In a funny sort of way I think it has made me braver!

SarahWarahWoo Wed 02-Jan-13 11:42:48

I am not a fan but would consider name of a deceased loved one, a small one like Horace's OH. I still giggle at my friend Mark being upset that his new girlfriend (now wife of 20 years) had "Steve" tattooed boldly on her breast!

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