to think some people give up their social life once they get married?

(79 Posts)
selectionboxoflife Mon 31-Dec-12 19:16:38

I'm not judging as I know circumstances change, especially when people have children.

But sometimes it feels like once someone is married they feel they don't have to go out anymore.

I hear lots of sneery comments about I don't like going out and getting drunk, it's a phase in my life that I'm over.

Me and a few friends still enjoy getting dressed up on a Saturday and going out for a few cocktails, not getting ridiculously drunk and falling over.

Some friends I've barely seen since they moved in with their partners and get married.

Some of them would need surgery to be separated from their partner, therefore if its a girls night they will more than likely refuse.

Or I hear, I'd rather have a take away and curl up on the sofa than go out.

And on that note, I'm off out for a meal.

But seriously aibu?

SantasHoHoHo Mon 31-Dec-12 19:18:59

YANBU. I have friends who have given up on their social life the minute they found a boyfriend let alone a husband.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Mon 31-Dec-12 19:21:03

It happened to us, but because:

We moved way out of town.
As soon as we moved we were TTC so not drinking.
We had DD within a year, no babysitters, I was breastfeeding.

Then we were out of the habit.

redlac Mon 31-Dec-12 19:22:28

I've always been anti social but being married and having DD gives me an excuse to be even more so.

I just can't be arsed most of the time

SleighbellsRingInYourLife Mon 31-Dec-12 19:23:48

Well in my case you are right.

I got pregnant with my first on my honeymoon, so my social life has been severely curtailed since.

Not because I don't enjoy going out and getting drunk. It's just much harder than it used to be.

I'm on my 3rd baby now and I'm getting better at eking out my own time away from the house.

But I'm way off my partying heyday standards.

What worries me is that by the time I can easily end up partying all night with little advance planning, I won't want to any more grin

selectionboxoflife Mon 31-Dec-12 19:24:27

But doesn't it make you feel sad redlac

I mean having a husband and a child is so fulfilling and wonderful.

But I look back on the memories I have with friends, and the memories to come and I feel blessed to have such great friends.

trikken Mon 31-Dec-12 19:24:50

for me its children not marriage that prevents me from having a social life as I did.

BrianButterfield Mon 31-Dec-12 19:25:51

You say it's "like they don't have to go out any more". Well, you know , they don't have to! It's an optional, supposedly fun activity, so why on earth would you do it if you didn't want to? Going out with single people is horrible sometimes if they're flirting and chatting guys up - you feel like a spare part.

ILoveSaladReallyIDo Mon 31-Dec-12 19:26:44

bawk at "girls night out", I never went on them anyway!, I just went out. What are you 12?

and going out got boring, it did coincide with getting married I suppose but it's nothting to do with being surgically attatched to my partner, we do lots of things apart, not "girls/boys nights out though" - pathetic childish concept they are!

HecatePropolos Mon 31-Dec-12 19:27:20

I used to go out and get pissed every weekend.

I have simply outgrown it.

It was a stage in my life that I don't feel I want to be at any more. Going out, getting rat arsed, picking up some random bloke.

Been there done that.

Now I rarely drink and when I do I rarely get drunk. I am nearly 40 years old. Even if you don't count my children and husband as reasons to not get pissed up every weekend - I just don't want to be staggering about any more, making a fool of myself. (as I used to do!!). It doesn't have the appeal it used to have when I was young and stupid grin now it just leaves me cold.

Utterlylostandneedtogo Mon 31-Dec-12 19:27:55

For me it's having no one to go out with. I feel awful that dp feels obligated to invite me out with his friends so its easier to stay in.

SayMama Mon 31-Dec-12 19:29:03

To be honest in a way you're right but for me I actually never ever enjoyed dressing up and going out on the town. It was always too loud and the drunks too intimidating. Getting married coincided with me realising I didn't have to pretend anymore.

So yes, I would rather stay in with a takeaway grin but no sneery-ness from me! Do what you enjoy!

redlac Mon 31-Dec-12 19:29:18

It doesn't make me feel sad no

I had a fantastic time going out when in my teens, twenties and early thirties and yes I do still enjoy the odd night out and lunch dates but if it was a toss up between figuring out something to wear, going out to for a meal and spending money I don't really have lining the pockets of some pub chain or chilling in my pjs, Chinese ordered and cheap rose wine with a film on the TV, the pjs and couch would win 99% of the time.

NinaHeart Mon 31-Dec-12 19:31:12

Maybe they got married for the primary reason of not having to go on "girls nights out" any more? I would.

utterly- that's how I feel. pregnancy and young babies got shot of friends I thought I had, and now when I try to make 'mum' friends (boak) they all seem to frown on alcohol, and pubs, and when I have gone out with some they want to talk about soaps, nursing a single drink and we are apparently too old to dance or have fun.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 31-Dec-12 19:34:52

Girls night's out are crap.

I have always hated them, but it is only since I've got married and old that I feel I can avoid them without censure.

Pascha Mon 31-Dec-12 19:36:18

I'm no less fond of going out for a drink and a dance with mates now than I ever was. Never did enjoy it much, my favourite bit was always getting home and sticking the kettle on and eating toast.

I like a good meal out but the rest of it leaves me cold really.

MissNJE Mon 31-Dec-12 19:36:41

YANBU.

I always managed to see my friends at least 2 times a week before I moved away for a year and when I came back both were in relationships. Since then I met them twice, in a year. All they can talk about is their partner etc.

HecatePropolos Mon 31-Dec-12 19:37:12

Oh, and wanted to say - you should never feel you "have" to go out, in the first place.

Pascha Mon 31-Dec-12 19:39:47

Takeaway and pjs? Yes please! With friends or DH or both. Nobody delivers out here though.

wordfactory Mon 31-Dec-12 19:42:54

OP I have not given up on a social life...however, no social life I want includes a Saturday night drinking cocktails with 'the girls'.

whistlestopcafe Mon 31-Dec-12 19:43:30

YABU.

Some of us are just not social creatures. If I had babysitters on tap and money to burn I would choose to stay home.

InNeedOfBrandy Mon 31-Dec-12 19:44:19

I don't like going clubbing, I used to honour in some well dodgey places but I never really enjoyed myself. I love dressing up and nattering in the pub all night or over a meal but getting rat arsed down town spending all my money and navigating through puke filled toilets have never really appealed.

I wish I had more friends that liked dressing up and going out for food instead of getting wasted down town, that's why I dont go out no more.

InNeedOfBrandy Mon 31-Dec-12 19:45:03

Used to go out not honour**

EvenBetter Mon 31-Dec-12 19:46:28

I love not going out anymore! I'm antisocial and was bored of sitting in bars by the time I was 20, living miles away from where my friends are and having a husband are the perfect excuse now! I'd rather slob out on the settee and drink my own booze.

ILoveSaladReallyIDo Mon 31-Dec-12 19:49:07

I think marriage is sort of coincidence

have friends who are still single who went off going out in town around the same time I did (when I DID get married), I love seeing them for coffee or food or meals in/out, or just going somewhere clean and not too noisy where you can have a good chat! they prefer early nights and good books too now.

IMO I'd have grown apart from the ones who are still doing the same thing we did in our 20s had I not have got married and had kids, I'd be like my single friends who I am still friends with - the ones who won't be heading out into the carnage of town either tonight!

tittytittyhanghang Mon 31-Dec-12 19:49:10

YANBU, but its probaby the children aspect rather than the partner, as in (a) getting a babysitter and (b) having to deal with them the morning after! Also im blaming age. I love a good girls night out but finding i just cant be bothered! Especially when its cold and raining! Plus theres also the money side, fine when i was young and had no real bills but now ive got kids and a house to deal with, the £50-£100 for a night out can always be spent on something else. OMFG im old before my time!

ArkadyRose Mon 31-Dec-12 19:49:46

I'm with wordfactory - Saturday night trawling bars drinking with "the girls" sounds like a very boring waste of an evening, not to mention money.

And if someone feels they've outgrown that phase of their life when they get married, then that's up to them. OP, YABU. You'll grow out of it yourself in time, so stop looking down on those who already have.

ChunkyTurkeywiththetrimmings Mon 31-Dec-12 19:53:06

I don't go out as much as I used to, but whether that's because I got married, which coincided with my pg with my first, or whether it happened before when I moved in with my (now) DH, I don't know.

I think the fact that most 'proper' nights out now require some sort of travel, as friends are dispersed further afield, which means at least 1 person has to drive, hence not drink, which is miserable when everyone else is, or you have to stay overnight, which becomes less & less appealing. Add the toddler that would make hangovers even more hellish & there's no longer any incentive to go out 'partying' into the wee small hours.

I wouldn't go 'out' out on NYE for love nor money, but that's always been my stance - DH/DC just give me a good excuse not to.

FestiveElement Mon 31-Dec-12 20:15:18

YANBU.

I have done this to a certain extent, and I've decided I want to get back to being more social.

I still go out with friends but DH and I had a lot of mutual friends before we got together, so we mainly tend to see them when we go out. I got lazy and just left it to DH to sort out our plans, as he's better than me at making arrangements. He also got quite close to one of my closest friends husbands, so the two of them would make plans, me and my friend are both quote laid back and would go along with whatever they arranged, and got out of the habit of sorting plans out for ourselves, especially as we still got to see each other. Around the same time, a couple of my other girl friends moved away, so arranging to meet up became more difficult and involves putting dates in the diary two or three months in advance.

So all in all, I feel very much like one of the people you are talking about, because I hardly ever go out without my DH anymore.

But it's going to change! That's what 2013's for!

YouOldTinsellySlag Mon 31-Dec-12 20:19:02

I'm married with kids. It's NYE and I am in pyjamas awaiting a take away. I seriously could not be happier.

I still value and see my dear friends but would rather see them for a conversation and some cake than a loud expensive night out. I'm 42 and it's just not my thing anymore. I think it's an age thing rather than a "I prefer my bloke to my mates" thing.

Please don't make me go back out there! I'm done!

E320 Mon 31-Dec-12 20:20:12

Perhaps people do not feel like going put and getting trashed after they marry because they have moved on. Let's face it, the "going out" thing happens so that you can find your "mate" and procreate, doesn't it?

Pantofino Mon 31-Dec-12 20:23:57

I love a good meal out with friends, but can't be doing with queuing and standing up all night on an evening out anymore. Everything has it time and place. I used to get WELL excited about NYE. Nowadays, I will be more than happy if I stay awake long enough for the fireworks...

RedToothbrush Mon 31-Dec-12 20:37:42

When you find a partner, you tend to also move in with/buy a house and all that goes with that. So in many cases it means you can't afford to go out like you did previously, even if you were arsed about doing it...

Main reason I don't go out much is, my friends live all over the show, so weekends away are more the order of the day. And they aren't cheap.

peaceandlovebunny Mon 31-Dec-12 20:44:14

why shouldn't they give up that kind of social life? they don't need it. they've sorted themselves out with a proper partner. it would be inefficient to continue going out.

InNeedOfBrandy Mon 31-Dec-12 20:49:57

I do see your point op, it's not good to put everything in your partner and not have a life outside that person. I don't have a partner so I can't even use that excuse for why I don't go out grin

3monkeys3 Mon 31-Dec-12 20:50:31

I have been with dh for 12 years now, and married for 6, we have 3 young dc. I go out very happily with friends, without him, now, but for years I couldn't bear to be apart from him! I think not socialising is a feature of a newish relationship and as the relationship matures you start to socialise again. That's my experience anyway.

Pantofino Mon 31-Dec-12 21:04:40

There is a BIG difference between not going out, and not going out on NYE. NYE tends to be busy/crowded/overpriced. It is hard to get a babysitter. We have just had Xmas and are most likely knackered/skint. That is entirely different to never going out because you can't leave your partner/children for five mins and different again from not going out because you just can't afford it.

StrawberryMojito Mon 31-Dec-12 21:20:33

Marriage coincided with having a baby for me, and it is definitely the baby that has ruined my social life as we have only one local family member to babysit. I suppose my DH could stay in whilst I go out (and that does happen infrequently) but to be honest between working and still having to get up during the night with DS, I'm always too knackered to really contemplate it. Add a reduction in wage due to going part time and quite often I'm too skint to spend money on taxis, drinks etc.
I happen to know that one of my friends has a bee in her bonnet about me not going out as much and to be honest, that really pisses me off as I once barely saw her for an entire year when she got a new boyfriend and I was single. It is only since I had DS that I reduced my nights out.

Adversecalendar Mon 31-Dec-12 21:34:43

I love seeing my friends but much prefer meeting for lunch or a coffee or cooking for people. The last time I went out drinking in the city, which was my birthday in the summer this year I got my bum grabbed, call me a straight laced old Puritan but I didn't like it.

I also went out a lot when younger up until I had DS at 34.Having started going clubbing at 15 until 33, that is quite enough. Once I had DS I went out about once a quarter in the evening, this has gradually tailed off and this year I have been out drinking twice. Including the night of the groper who was an analytical chemist on a stag night and seemed perfectly nice just chatting until that grab. He knew I was married, he was married.

I stopped going out on NYE years ago though when they started charging people to go in to pubs.

SleighbellsRingInYourLife Mon 31-Dec-12 21:38:51

I love going out for dinner and drinks with my women friends.

I'm surprised people hate it so much.

yousmell Mon 31-Dec-12 22:45:20

yes i agree, it's babies and toddlers not husbands that prevent me from going out.

yousmell Mon 31-Dec-12 22:45:55

at night! Although actually I don't do too badly ow my youngest is 2.

Jamdoughnutfiend Mon 31-Dec-12 22:53:24

I enjoy going out for nice meals with my friends, catching up and having a laugh, but the idea of going to a noisy pub or to a club just fills me with horror. I am happy to have left that part of my life behind to be honest.

So YABU ( snuggles a bit more on the sofa and thanks her lucky stars he isn't out tonight)

KittyFane1 Mon 31-Dec-12 22:57:20

YABU. As another poster said, children keep some of us in, not DHs. I go out with friends in the day a lot. We've been out all day today with friends. Should I be sipping cocktails in a bar with the girls ( and their DHs) now because it's NYE? hmm I can't think of anything worse honestly. I have been there and done that and I've changed. Doesn't make me sad.

aselectionboxoflife Tue 01-Jan-13 01:17:07

I was using my night out as an example btw. Sorry some women on here were too thick to understand that.

I mean any night out with friends, or an afternoon coffee, or late lunch etc.

Some people seem to prefer it just to be them and their OH. Which i find incredibly sad and boring.

And having a girls night out is pathetic? All my friends including me are with someone, so yes sometimes it's nice to have a night out where it is just your friends. .

And Kitty you obviously didn't read my post I stated quite clearly that children change circumstances quite a lot. I also never defined having a social life as going out for cocktails with friends. YABU for not reading he OP properly. I also never said anyone was sad.

Go figure.

aselectionboxoflife Tue 01-Jan-13 01:18:13

And ps in case anyone else is too thick to understand my post, I mean going out in general.

Whether it be a lunch with friends, a coffee, girls night, cocktails, dinner.

Some are so anti-social they will do nothing.

Arthurfowlersallotment Tue 01-Jan-13 01:29:14

I'm too fucking tired these days.

Loquace Tue 01-Jan-13 01:32:02

But....I like being in with DH. He is my fave (adult) person ever.

Isn't that what you're supposed to do, spend your free time with the person/s you most want to spend said time with, doing what makes you happy ?

And who really wants an old fart like me hanging about ona night out, looking grumpily at her watch, wincing at the noise and wishing time would go quicker so she could home. Plus I don't drink since Chianti got me pregnant. So I'd be extra boring to have around on a drinky based night out.

My friends and and see each other in other contexts. Each others houses, coffee, going shopping etc. Some love going out, and more power to them, I'd kill for that kind of energy after 8pm. Some of us don't and would be no fun at all if arm twisted off our sofas.

Loquace Tue 01-Jan-13 01:33:56

oh hang on, it went from nights out to doing casual stuff in the day too.

Ok casual stuff in the day I do do. Work/life permitting.

aselectionboxoflife Tue 01-Jan-13 01:35:08

Never said a social life involved getting drunk Laquace

Read my above post.

Beaverfeaver Tue 01-Jan-13 01:36:11

I don't go clubbing all the time but love my nights out. Whether it be just girls or a big group of mates in general.

Got married 6 months ago and that hasn't changed.

However, friends who have moved in with their DP's or get married recebt have stopped coming out, or when they do they just stay for one drink and are home again by 9:30.

Doesn't bother me though. I wouldn't want to be surrounded by people who didn't want to be there.

I just know I need to make the most of it before babies come along and te hangovers are getting worse

aselectionboxoflife Tue 01-Jan-13 01:36:53

Never said a social life involved getting drunk Laquace

Read my above post.

Loquace Tue 01-Jan-13 01:44:18

Never said a social life involved getting drunk Laquace

Niether did I.

I said I'd be even worse to have around on a drinky night than I would be on the non drinky night previously described.

I allowed for all kinds of evening/night time social events.

Sandydunes Tue 01-Jan-13 08:35:33

As much as I used to love dancing and drinking til the small hours in my twenties, I just can't do it anymore.

At the weekends I am too tired from juggling work and children that all i want to do is relax, not be out until all hours. And my friends who don't have children are the same as well, so i think its an age thing (mid thirties) rather than a marriage thing.

I still enjoy a nice social life meeting friends for lunch, dinner, drinks, coffee..but am usually home by midnight at the latest.

Having a toddler who only started sleeping at night at 2.5 years, and a baby who is up twice during the night soon puts you off going out. Whats the point in staying out late and drinking when you know you are going to be exhausted the next day and still have to entertain and feed two children who show no mercy!

Loveweekends10 Tue 01-Jan-13 08:40:14

It's probably more the case that your friends have grown up. Your priorities change and you just start finding friends that witter on about how much fun it is to go out a bit dull.
It's life I'm afraid.

Sounds like your friends have grown up that's all. My DH doesn't much like lad's nights out either any more. Age catches up.

foreverondiet Tue 01-Jan-13 08:55:24

I don't really understand your AIBU... DH mainly go out now to friends parties or maybe cinema or dinner but much less often than before DC due to cost of babysitting. I go to PTA meetings on my own and DH is often not home from work until late making it hard for me to plan weekday evening outings. Also go to gym. Re: other sort of going out eg clubbing / drinking I never did that anyway. Besides isn't part of that about finDing a boyfriend or am I missing something? We were married for 6 years before DD was born so think that major pArt of reduced social life is the kids.

FundusCrispyPancake Tue 01-Jan-13 09:01:44

Perhaps some people actually like their DH shock

onyx72 Tue 01-Jan-13 09:03:34

Each to their own.
I have reached the grand old age of 40 and I can't imagine the thought of never going out again.
I'm a sociable person and sometimes I like having a reason to get dressed up and go out to dinner/drinks/ a party with DH and/or friends.
I'm not talking about staying out until dawn and getting hammered on WKD.
The prospect of sitting in with a takeaway and a bottle of wine has it's appeal - just not every weekend.

Megatron Tue 01-Jan-13 09:06:26

Well its kind of up to your friends isn't it. They have found something else they'd rather do, that's life sometimes. I promised myself when I was in my 20s that I would not be one of those middle aged women in a pink stetson staggering out of a club and vomming on the pavement. Now at 45 I still don't want to be. Take away and a film for me now, boring for some but good for us. smile

FrameyMcFrame Tue 01-Jan-13 09:07:52

I work full time and have 2 kids. I'm not having the energy for a social life too. It's sad but I can't afford the time/sleep.
Hopefully I will have more time in the future.

redlac Tue 01-Jan-13 09:10:14

selectionboxoflife aselectionboxoflife - same OP? A wee tip don't call MNers too thick to understand your post when you can't even remember your log in name

I understand your OP completely - I just don't feel the need to live like you do so shoot me

vjg13 Tue 01-Jan-13 09:12:19

YANBU, I know lots of people who never go out and I don't get it either. We have a babysitter once a week and make an effort to go out for a drink and a meal.

bleedingheart Tue 01-Jan-13 09:22:00

Some nightclubs do teen discos before official opening, say 7pm until 10pm. If they did a knackered thirty something disco along the same hours I'd be well up for it! I miss dancing (indie shoe gazing rather than raving) so much, I like current music etc but give me a night off childcare and I will still be shattered by ten and craving my bed!
I do see friends for coffee and the cinema and find great value in female friendship but things evolve don't they?

bleedingheart Tue 01-Jan-13 09:24:08

I didn't go clubbing to meet men but lots of people do and when they've found one they give up pretending that they enjoyed it!

whistlestopcafe Tue 01-Jan-13 09:25:34

I hardly socialised before I met dh so no change when I met him.

Dinosaurhunter Tue 01-Jan-13 09:25:56

Yanbu - I love socialising with my close friends I also enjoy going out as couples and of course spending time with my dh . I find it very Odd how some posters have said they have grown out of this - really ?

acceptableinthe80s Tue 01-Jan-13 09:29:19

YABU. How is someone saying they don't like going out and getting drunk anymore sneery? They're just being honest. You do know not everyone drinks right?
I recently forced myself to go out and it was just as bad as i remember, loads of drunk people talking crap, 20 minute wait on splash of alcohol, queue to get in, queue for the toilet etc. I'd rather be curled up on my sofa with a good movie any day and i will not apologize for that to anyone.
I know lots of people in their 40's still desperately trying to cling onto their youth and much as i try not judge and have a live and let live philosophy i do feel a bit sorry for them in a way.

jammin Tue 01-Jan-13 09:40:38

I used to get really excited about getting dressed up and going out to bars/clubs from the age of about 16 to 23. After that, I still went out but just casually to pubs/relaxed house parties/dinner/or to see a band etc. Nowadays, I couldn't think of anything worse than going out clubbing - the last couple of times I did, I remember loads of students and young (ie early 20s) people, and sleazy men trying to chat me up.

DP and I still socialise, but perhaps only once every two weeks or so now. I think it's a good balance - while we do like snuggling up with a takeaway and film on the weekends, I've noticed if we go more than a couple of weeks without socialising with other people (which could be something as simple as works xmas do, or family coming to visit), then we get a bit bored. Mostly we socialise together because he is friends with my friends and vice versa, and I really like that actually. What we do would probably sound boring to you though - to a nice local pub for drinks, pub quiz, go out for dinner, have people round for dinner, play board games, play Lets Dance, watch a film etc.

SayMama Tue 01-Jan-13 09:50:17

Agreed redlac

I'm not sure which you are. I have friends who as soon as they get a boyfriend cease to exist as an individual and then others (myself included) whose social life has got better!! After 2 kids I have a reason to go out and party!!!! I love letting my hair down with friends grin

myfirstkitchen Tue 01-Jan-13 11:32:26

Outgrown it.
Still enjoy gin and wine with friends though and still have a busy social life and lots of friends.

Partied a lot when I was younger so got it out of my system.

I also remember being in my teens/20s (and early 30s) and having a good laugh at the 'sad old bags' out on the razz! Who wants to be the oldest rocker in town? No thanks!

And girls nights out - eeewwwwww

adeucalione Tue 01-Jan-13 11:36:40

OP, I know you have since clarified that you meant any type of socialising, but your OP does specifically refer to those friends of yours who make sneery remarks about not wanting to go out and get drunk, and those who aren't interested in a girls' night out anymore.

In which case I don't think you can call people thick if they misunderstood.

In fact, your subsequent posts don't make you sound very nice and I expect your former friends are doing plenty of socialising, but just not telling you about it.

Megatron Tue 01-Jan-13 12:09:46

I don't really get the AIBU either here. People change. Maybe the OPs friends have moved on to enjoy other things and the OP hasn't. Either is fine, it's up to you what you do just as it is up to your friends what they enjoy.

PackItInNow Tue 01-Jan-13 16:00:53

Why do you feel the need to call posters 'Too thick to understand your post'?

"Me and a few friends still enjoy getting dressed up on a Saturday and going out for a few cocktails, not getting ridiculously drunk and falling over". This is what you quoted in your OP (and I C&P'd it from the opening post, so you can't say you didn't say that) and it specifically states about Saturday and cocktails. So correct me if I'm wrong, but where in your full OP does it say about going out in general and not just on a Saturday?

The posters on this thread aren't too thick to understand you post, you didn't make it clear enough to them what you were implying.

You also quote "But sometimes it feels like once someone is married they feel they don't have to go out anymore". They have commitments now and they also change as time goes on, so NO they don't have to go out anymore if they don't feel like it, and whatever reason they have is their business and no-one elses.

YouOldTinsellySlag Tue 01-Jan-13 16:33:38

Well said PackitIn.

The OP implies that it's marriage that stops people socialising and going out, but in fact, in my case it's the fact that after looking after two small children all day I am exhausted and the thought of going out to queue in noisy places when I just need relaxation and peace and quiet is just really unattractive to me. It's also relevant that since having babies my tolerance for alcohol is dreadful and getting drunk wipes me out for nearly two days. I don't have two spare days anymore to be hungover so I just don't like getting drunk.

I have usually spent at least 12 hours a day trying to keep two short people happy so by the time that's done, I don't feel like pleasing anyone but myself.

I still see my friends but we are scattered all over the country so we tend to meet in the day, say for Sunday lunch.

Luckily most of my friends feel the same as me so they are a lot more tolerant and understanding than the OP is being!

OkayHazel Tue 01-Jan-13 16:39:04

I'm 20 and single and would still rather have a takeaway in my pjs.

OkayHazel Tue 01-Jan-13 16:40:30

Though that is probably the New Years hangover talking.

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