to go and knock on my neighbours door...

(72 Posts)
Spuddybean Sun 30-Dec-12 19:28:40

and ask if they are coming round?

Saw neighbours last week and arranged for them to come over tonight for drinks and food. They said they'd be here between 6-7 and they haven't turned up.

I have done really nice food and got in some cava. i am sitting here in a dress and have done my make up and i feel like such a loser.

Jemma1111 Sun 30-Dec-12 19:30:43

I would pop round as they may have genuinely forgot. However, if they're not apologetic then I would be pissed off .

MarilynValentine Sun 30-Dec-12 19:31:16

Hmm rude of them!

I'd give it ten minutes then call. And I'd expect an apology for their tardiness.

ladyfirenze Sun 30-Dec-12 19:31:31

hold fire! wait till eight....

Spuddybean Sun 30-Dec-12 19:31:42

dp's gone round!

ladyfirenze Sun 30-Dec-12 19:32:07

and open the cava!

Wishfulmakeupping Sun 30-Dec-12 19:32:23

Yep agree wait till 8 Before saying anything

juniperdewdrop Sun 30-Dec-12 19:33:39

Have they been to yours before? This once happened to me. Except the other way round. Neighbours invited us and then weren't in? I wasn't keen to go so there was some relief. Very rude to be so late though.

trapclap Sun 30-Dec-12 19:36:05

What did they say?

Twinklestarstwinklestars Sun 30-Dec-12 19:38:45

Maybe they just run late?

Cuddlyrunner Sun 30-Dec-12 19:39:08

Waiting for an update!

MaryChristmaZEverybody Sun 30-Dec-12 19:40:53

So at least you get to enjoy a nice meal smile

crazynanna Sun 30-Dec-12 19:41:55

...and you can neck all the cava for yourself....wink

SledYuleCated Sun 30-Dec-12 19:42:23

Hoping the lack of update is a good sign!

BluelightsAndSirens Sun 30-Dec-12 19:45:29

Op would have been back having a rant by now so it looks like they forgot or assumed it was an open, pop over if you want type of invite.

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Sun 30-Dec-12 20:44:48

Still waiting for an update.....(taps foot impatiently)

Shutupanddrive Sun 30-Dec-12 20:45:41


FredFredGeorge Sun 30-Dec-12 20:47:42

I reckon they turned up and the OP is now too busy with the wife swapping cava to update us...

EuphemiaInExcelsis Sun 30-Dec-12 20:58:21

They've been kidnapped!

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 30-Dec-12 21:02:40

Soooo...assuming the neighbours did come round?

Iggly Sun 30-Dec-12 21:03:48

Nosy bump

ShipwreckedUnderTheTree Sun 30-Dec-12 21:08:10

Does she not realise we are all here and wondering??!

Jemma1111 Sun 30-Dec-12 21:10:32

I can't go to bed tonight unless I get an update wink

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Sun 30-Dec-12 21:11:24

Well, that's so bloody rude. A room full of nosy fuckers concerned mumsnetters abandoned!

shesariver Sun 30-Dec-12 21:11:37

Shamelessly being nosey

DecAndAnt Sun 30-Dec-12 21:13:19

I reckon they are there now, wonder why they were so late though ?

Maryz Sun 30-Dec-12 21:17:59

She really needs to get her priorities right doesn't she? I mean, who does she think she is fecking off for her cava and nice meal, and leaving us all to stew?


bonzo77 Sun 30-Dec-12 21:23:11


ArfAPandaTreacle Sun 30-Dec-12 21:24:53

I bet they mixed the days up.

Or they're dead? Hopefully not though.

Perhaps they thought you were swingers?

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Sun 30-Dec-12 21:25:35

Maybe she's gone round to neighbours house with the cava in her hand and bottled them in the face? Maybe she's sitting in a cell as we speak?

(I need to stop watching Tarantino films)..

ArfAPandaTreacle Sun 30-Dec-12 21:27:59

If the neighbours are there and they're getting into their swinging, presumably she'll be too tied up to post on here and reasurre us?

No news is good news?

Sparklingbrook Sun 30-Dec-12 21:29:03

shock The update had better be good. grin

ArfAPandaTreacle Sun 30-Dec-12 21:29:57

Yes, but perhaps save us from the finer details.

Jemma1111 Sun 30-Dec-12 21:39:25

Maybe they've put the bottle to a different use than just drinking it and its got stuck , so on the way to hospital maybe ? grin

Maryz Sun 30-Dec-12 21:39:54

Tied up?


ShipwreckedUnderTheTree Sun 30-Dec-12 21:45:05

It's not as though I haven't got anything better to do......

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Sun 30-Dec-12 21:46:16

Spuddy does Cava?

Delalakis Sun 30-Dec-12 22:35:51

Surely the party's over by now? What happened???????

Spuddybean Sun 30-Dec-12 22:56:26

Hello All. Sorry to keep you waiting...

Well DP went round and said 'would you like to come for a drink' (why he said that i don't know) and they were eating dinner confused and said 'yes, we'll be 5 min, just finishing dinner'. They looked a bit miffed at DP and didn't apologise. DP came home and told me and i said that's rude to eat dinner first etc.

Anyway, they arrived, didn't eat anything of course, and me and dp ate ours and were chatting. THEN in the conversation mrs neighbour said something about seeing us tomorrow and implied they would be over for dinner. I wasn't sure whether to be terribly english and cancel my new years plans so i could be polite and be here. BUT i said 'sorry, are you planning to come over tomo' and it emerged they thought the invite was for tomo and thought DP had basically summoned them over tonight at a moments notice and the plans were still on for tomo. It didn't occur to them the dates had been mixed up and today was Sunday.

Surely you would realise when DP turned up at your door and when they arrived and a buffet was laid out that we didn't want to see them 2 nights in a row and that isn't how we eat our dinner!

PenelopePisstop Sun 30-Dec-12 22:59:47

Sounds like a plot for a sitcom spuddy.

PenelopePisstop Sun 30-Dec-12 23:00:26

Are they called Terry and June? Or Margot and Jerry?

trapclap Sun 30-Dec-12 23:02:47


oh dear, that is quite awkward--they thought you invited them for new year!! so now will be new-year-planless?

FlibberdeGibbet Sun 30-Dec-12 23:07:21

Looking for the other neighbours invited us round for NYE, then they cancelled at the last minute.

BluelightsAndSirens Sun 30-Dec-12 23:07:31

So are they coming over again tomorrow?

Did you eat all of the food tonight?

FlibberdeGibbet Sun 30-Dec-12 23:09:26

We have been in a similar situation - moved house and invited our neighbours round for a drink at 5ish on Saturday - thought we could have a quick drinky then dinner. They never showed, so we eventually had our dinner at about 9, and lo and behold, they turned up then! All very bizarre! we've never had an invite back!

Spuddybean Sun 30-Dec-12 23:11:07

Yes, all very awkward! I seriously considered changing our plans just to stop the pain. But they just carried on talking about seeing us tomo like the thought of them getting it wrong never crossed their minds.

I said we invited you for sunday and they said 'is that not nye then?' ummm no. blush

HollaAtMeSanta Sun 30-Dec-12 23:13:38

I think I'll make a new year's resolution to lay out a full buffet for my dinner every night. I like the sound of that grin

apostropheuse Sun 30-Dec-12 23:17:51

I almost feel sorry for them - they must feel like right numpties grin

MrsMaggot Sun 30-Dec-12 23:19:40

I like hollas idea, buffets are the way forward!

Spuddybean Sun 30-Dec-12 23:23:18

but the sight of the buffet didn't make them click. i mean, who lays out posh crisps, nuts, homemade (note that - no iceland baileys pudding stuff here) sausage rolls and sweet potato wedges, 4 different cheeses, salads, fruit, dips etc for their dinner then marches round their neighbours house and 'invite' them in a rude we've been expecting you way?

Greensleeves Sun 30-Dec-12 23:27:18

May I just say RESPECT to you for not just crumbling and cancelling your YE plans! I probably would have done, I would have been scarlet and cringing, furious with myself after they had left, impotently raging at them (again, after they had left) and it would have taken me weeks to get over it!

How awful for you. Thank God it was their fault grin

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Sun 30-Dec-12 23:27:37

They are arseholes.

LOL This is so funny. I can imagine them rushing their tea down and being frog marched over you the OP's house to find her in her finery with a big spread on and them thinking she's lost her marbles.
They will turn up again NYE and expect even better grin

Maryz Sun 30-Dec-12 23:29:27

Oh dear. What are you doing tomorrow? Because if you are having a party you will have two extra guests, and if you are going out you had better tell them.

MrsMaggot Sun 30-Dec-12 23:29:43

Blimey if that's what's on offer Im moving to your street and angling for an invite, its pound shop specials round here Hehe

the neighbours sound so daft Im starting to wonder if i don't already live in your street!

trapclap Sun 30-Dec-12 23:32:07

no! they are not arseholes free just a bit spacey maybe grin
I bet they are feeling like idiots when they get home, and what has happened dawns on them!!

roastednut Sun 30-Dec-12 23:33:00

I would've done exactly as Greensleeves says, absolutely fecking furious, once they'd gone grin

Spuddybean Sun 30-Dec-12 23:43:02

It was touch and go Greensleeves. I found my mind racing and thinking of ways i could break into their house and change their clocks so we could have a full party at 3pm and then go out to our actual nye party!

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Mon 31-Dec-12 00:04:31

So you never told them they got their days mixed up?!?!

Spuddybean Mon 31-Dec-12 00:09:57

yes, i said we invited you for sunday and today is sunday, i joked and said don't turn up tomorrow, because we wont be here - unless you want to look after the baby!

thank fuck they mentioned it tho. can you imagine if they turned up when we were just leaving. or worse - after we'd gone out. they'd think we were total bastards!

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Mon 31-Dec-12 08:42:35

I hope they apologised to you. They sounded really thick to be honest.

Spuddybean Mon 31-Dec-12 09:12:40

I've been musing about this all night.

No they never apologised and they never acknowledged it was a mix up by them really. They kept saying is was a shame we were cancelling NYE, despite it clearly being a figment of their imagination. They also said they knew we said Sunday but presumed we meant NYE. But then even DP going round and seeing the 'buffet' didn't make them think we had actually, really really, meant Sunday. They kept blundering on. You'd have thought the moment DP turned up at the door they'd think 'oh shit, it was Sunday they meant'. Or that you would clarify when the invitation was given.

At the end, when they left, they made out the drinks were really impromptu and we had cancelled tomo, and the buffet had been our dinner confused All very bizarre. They are Spanish so maybe they thought that was our version of tapas <clutches straws>

MsVestibule Mon 31-Dec-12 09:40:37

spuddy do you really want to be friends with people who accept that they got the wrong day, but still try and blame you for it? It would be different if they said "We're so sorry, you went to so much effort", which I think is what most people would say!

EuroShagmore Mon 31-Dec-12 10:02:35

Oh how terribly awkward!

It easy to get days mixed up at this time of year if you are not working. I have to really think about what day/date it is! But it's not excusable to keep blaming you for their mistake!

Kinora Mon 31-Dec-12 10:23:42

How embarrassing. Will definitely be watching this thread later to see what happens.

atthewelles Mon 31-Dec-12 10:24:02

They sound a bit daft. The knew you had invited you for Sunday but assumed you meant NYE and then just assumed you also decided to invite them in for a last minute buffet on Sunday as well.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Mon 31-Dec-12 11:10:46

How very peculiar. Wish i had a buffet tea every night grin

BluelightsAndSirens Mon 31-Dec-12 14:13:33

You will be talked about now, always to be known as the weird neighbours who cancelled nye dinner all because it wasn't a Sunday.

And your weird Sunday dinner habits will be whispered about out side Waitrose.

ShipwreckedAndComatose Mon 31-Dec-12 14:23:52

grin at blue!

Spuddybean Mon 31-Dec-12 18:25:19

Ha! Blue - yes i expect we will.

I am just getting ready to go out and half expecting to open the front door to leave and have them conga-ing past me with party hats on!

I really do feel as tho i've wandered into a sitcom where everyone has got the wrong end of the stick with 'hilarious' consequences. I'm sure i've done nothing to have caused it yet i am going over every conversation to see how it could have been misconstrued.

Oh well Happy New Year everyone. smile

RubyrooUK Mon 31-Dec-12 18:34:25

Hahaha. This made me think of my own neighbours. Last night they had an impressive firework display from 11:30-12am which woke up 2 year old DS in a terror.

I saw neighbour on street today and we said hi. I said "oh we heard your fireworks last night - did you have a party?" (Just being nosy.)

She said yes, we decided to have it last night because we didn't want to miss going out for NYE dinner tonight with friends but we still wanted the countdown and fireworks.

I said in a confused way "but it wasn't really the countdown though, was it? As it's not actually till tonight."

She looked at me like I was mad. We could easily have had your mix up, Spuddy.

vintageviolets Mon 31-Dec-12 18:49:15

grin at them congering past your window sticking their fingers up & shouting "she does weird tapas on a Sunday"

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