Why Un Mumsnet hugs???

(47 Posts)
Clarabell78 Sun 30-Dec-12 14:30:11

Aren't you supposed to give hugs on here?? I don't understand!

Because mumsnet is a mean, nasty pit of vipers and to suggest otherwise is blasphemy!

Despite the fact that I've found the vast majority to be kind, lovely people. And the amount of un-mumsnetty hugs kind of makes them...mumsnetty grin

OneWellAndTrulyCrackeredMummy Sun 30-Dec-12 14:33:24


Hugs are classed in the same ways as using lol, sparkly tickers & 'like' buttons, very unmumsnetty & usually attributed to another parenting site.

Here we do not see the need for these, & post more simply & to the point smile

Fairylea Sun 30-Dec-12 14:34:19

Because netmums is FULL of hugs ...

So I've gathered mumsnet are too UN netmums to hug smile

DeafLeopard Sun 30-Dec-12 14:34:51

We are hard and can't be seen to show weakness by hugging and kissing and sparkly tickering, but sometimes, just sometimes, if someone is feeling really sad then the odd hug may slip out - just to show we are not total vipers.

SusieSausages Sun 30-Dec-12 14:35:28

Ah, first it's a hug, then before you know it you're addressing everyone as 'hun', talking about 'bubs' and 'hubby' and campaigning for sparkly tickers at the bottom of your posts.

We're all dead 'ard on 'ere, you see.

Seriously though, hugs don't bother me a bit.

((hugs OP))

usualsuspect3 Sun 30-Dec-12 14:36:34

I think sometimes a hug is appreciated.

I will give hugs if I feel they are warranted.

Clarabell78 Sun 30-Dec-12 14:36:45

Och what a lot of nonsense! :-)


TheFallenMadonna Sun 30-Dec-12 14:41:44

There is hugging all over the shop now. It makes me laugh when people say un MN hug, as hugging is completely MN, and has been for a while.

tittytittyhanghang Sun 30-Dec-12 14:43:19

yay i loves hugs ((hugs))

Chottie Sun 30-Dec-12 14:45:20

I'm a huggy person smile it's genetic wink

CuttedUpPear Sun 30-Dec-12 14:45:59

I couldn't agree more - I don't know why people feel the need to distance themselves from the site before offering a hug.
How silly.

I for one would gladly accept the MN brand of hugs with grace!

SusieSausages Sun 30-Dec-12 14:46:45

I just asked my three year old for a hug but he licked my nose and farted on my leg. sad

TheFallenMadonna Sun 30-Dec-12 14:47:45

There used to be fewer for sure.

Hence unMN like.

Back when it was all fields round here...

Fakebook Sun 30-Dec-12 14:48:38

I hate hugs, not just on here, but in real life too. I'm not a huggy person, unless I'm hugging my children or DH. I don't even hug my brothers and sister. I used to work with a girl who used to "paw" at my arm like a cat when talking to me sometimes. She used to also stroke my hair or give me shoulder rubs and hugs out of the blue. It's all very unnecessary and annoying.

Clarabell78 Sun 30-Dec-12 14:50:24

Wee shame for you Fakebook :-(

Susiesausages that's hilarious!

Iamsparklyknickers Sun 30-Dec-12 14:50:35

I've always pictured a mn hug happening as someone tells you exactly why your UR, kind of like that one good friend who tells you your arse looks enormous in jeans.

Kind of 'ah pet, it's a shame you're a hormonal mess, but no, you can't fling tins of tomatoes at people in asda because they sneezed over the apples. Pack it in'

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange Sun 30-Dec-12 15:10:32

FakeBook she would be buried under a patio if she worked with me. Along with the women I used to work with who used to sing, badly, in the office.

Mumsnet's more about giving a caring punch on the arm, but the odd hug doesn't go amiss if you really need one.

Viviennemary Sun 30-Dec-12 15:15:43

I think on some forums this luv ya Hun, Hugs, and frilly stuff is overdone. So that's why. (Thank goodness)

FrazzleRock Sun 30-Dec-12 15:20:23

Fakebook - I'm also very unhuggy in real life. I try to be more buggy but it feels so uncomfortable and false.
Twas the way I was raised so it's weird.

I hug my DS's all the time so hopefully they won't be quite so icy <hopeful>

OverlyYappyAlways Sun 30-Dec-12 15:20:51

I'm not a huggable person, I don't know where to put my arms and get all twitchy tbh, I do give do sympathy lines, I haven't moved onto hugging as yet.

FrazzleRock Sun 30-Dec-12 15:20:55

Huggy. Not buggy. I don't want bugs.

OverlyYappyAlways Sun 30-Dec-12 15:21:31

I'm fine with Dc just people! grin

ShowOfHands Sun 30-Dec-12 15:22:05

People never used to hug on here. It's all over the place now.

I don't hug. I prefer not to be touched tbh. If a colleague started pawing at me or rubbing parts of me, I'd do Unspeakable Things to them.

On MN you don't get a hug, you get a jab in the eye and an order to get a grip. This is as much a kindness as all that stroking, fawning crap people do. Well it used to be like that. The hugs are taking over.

ShowOfHands Sun 30-Dec-12 15:24:55

I married into a family of huggers. And kissers. And declarers. They say I love you all the blooming time. I can't say it back at all. I manage a fond "well done" and then back the fuck away.

fragola Sun 30-Dec-12 15:28:16

I've given a hug or two on here. Never really lived it down.

Iamsparklyknickers Sun 30-Dec-12 15:33:43

grin Well done!

<pisses knickers slightly>

usualsuspect3 Sun 30-Dec-12 15:34:38

Theres alway been sneaky hugs on MN for as long as I've been here.

OverlyYappyAlways Sun 30-Dec-12 15:43:21

My family know not to hit me with the love talk, they have moved onto dying talk now hmm, they know I don't like to be touch much! I blame it on my first pregnancy, someone touched my tummy! angry

amillionyears Sun 30-Dec-12 15:45:57

Hug hug hug

amillionyears Sun 30-Dec-12 15:47:58

As an aside, are the young people much more gushing than the middle aged generation all over the country or just in the area I live in [not saying where]

ArkadyRose Sun 30-Dec-12 15:48:01

Another non-hugger here. I've been known to slap away unwanted pawing hands on occasion. I just don't understand people who feel this bizarre urge to be touching all the time.

everlong Sun 30-Dec-12 15:48:28

You can do want you want OP.

I actually cringe when see the quote ' un mumsnetty hug ' hate it.

If you want to hug someone do it. I do. Couldn't give a toss if it's naff or not ((((((((( hugs ))))))))))) wink

usualsuspect3 Sun 30-Dec-12 15:49:53

My DS hugs all his friend all the time.

I think it's lovely.

VestaCurry Sun 30-Dec-12 15:50:58

When I returned to Mumsnet after not being on here for about 6 years, I was actually sad that ((hugs)) had become unmumsnetty (we used to hug a lot, didn't like sparkly tickertapey stuff but a good old hug was fine). And....I was truly shock and still am about the word 'cunt' being used everywhere. Honestly, it's awful, but I haven't left in a huff because of it grin.

Was there some sort of 'cunt' watershed in my absence and when was it?

usualsuspect3 Sun 30-Dec-12 15:50:58


OverlyYappyAlways Sun 30-Dec-12 15:56:59

Oh I love seeing my boys hug every night before bed, then hug me that's okay and makes all mushy and nice every night, after a day of fighting usually!

I need to be a bit more approachable tbh! hug wise...

everlong Sun 30-Dec-12 16:18:36

People try too hard on here.

Just be yourself. Not what you think you should be like.

Some people on here are posting from a dire, totally shit situation.
A hug from one of us might help them a bit. Knowing someone is arsed.

Lueji Sun 30-Dec-12 16:19:03

There are usually enough hugs on Relationships, for some reason. smile

Not so much on AIBU.

thegreylady Sun 30-Dec-12 17:46:31

What is a sparkly ticker please?
I dont do lols,huns or bubs but have been known to offer the occasional cyber hug though rarely on here-you never know when a vipeer will strike if you get touchy feely with it grin

everlong Sun 30-Dec-12 18:39:44

A sparkly ticker is a thing a the bottom of your page with your name on and maybe something saying ' lil bubz is 3 yrs 8 months 6 days etc ' or whatever in a cute bright cartoon thing..

SugaricePlumFairy Sun 30-Dec-12 19:18:42

What a load of fuckin shite!

I gave a mahoosive hug on another thread to someone who really needed it!

I hugged hard and I'm proud.

Bite me !!!!!!! grin

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Sun 30-Dec-12 19:19:48

Hugs are fine on the SN board. TBH, on a supportive board they are often needed. I never excuse them if I (((hug))).

everlong Sun 30-Dec-12 19:22:03

Yep the bereavement board is another one where hugs are welcome.

OneWellAndTrulyCrackeredMummy Mon 31-Dec-12 10:49:37

A sparkly ticker is an automated thing that appears if you have a signature (on other sites). Its usually a long line with a photo of child or cutesy drawing of child with wording along the lines of 'Little Man is 2 years, 4 months, 21 days, 8 hours, 7 minutes 3 seconds old'. There is usually glitter involved along with other dreadful 'so cute' drawings or animation & they are eye catching & hard to ignore!

AmberLeaf Mon 31-Dec-12 10:56:40

I don't mind hugs, I do feel a bit silly writing it down and even sillier writing 'unmumsnetty hug' though.

It's just a way to show you care, Not a sign of weakness!

I like real life hugs, but not from everyone you meet.


Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now