to rant to you disruptive toddler in PG film ?

(67 Posts)
pippop1 Sat 29-Dec-12 01:19:31

I went to see Life of Pi in 3D my local cinema. The film started at 5.45pm and is rate PG which, according to the official website of cinema classification mean that the content is unlikely to disturb a child aged 8 or over.

There was a couple in the cinema with a child of about 4 and a younger one of I guess a little less than two. They sat to my left with an aisle between us. The younger DC (without 3D glasses) spent most of the film being shushed by the parents, not in a seat and walking about in front of the parents being passed around between them. Also there was constant rustling with bags of food to try and keep the child quiet.

The parents made no attempt to take this kid out. I found it v annoying and the film was beyond the understanding of a child of this age (espcially without the glasses - it's all fuzzy without them).

I'm not blaming the child at all but am I wrong to think the parents are crazy to take this little child to this film? It might be PG but it's hardly Disney.

Sorry, just need to moan as this outing cost DH and I over £21 and I felt anoyed the whole time!

I know, I know I should have complained to the staff but it was a tiny cinema, I would have had to go outside and then come back in and they'd know it was me!

MoetEtPantsOn Sat 29-Dec-12 01:24:57

I guess it cost them £21+ too and they didn't want to waste it. Bet they regretted their decision to go afterwards and won't do it again. Sounds exhausting for them.

I guess one option would have been to leave and ask to exchange tickets for a later show. If you hadn't already made lots of plans to be there (organised babysitter, booked dinner after etc).

They were silly to have taken her to the 3D version as well. No 1 year old is going to wear the glasses.

Damash12 Sat 29-Dec-12 01:38:16

Again thoughtless parents, ruined evening and waste of money. I don't get why people do this and have no consideration for others.

Startail Sat 29-Dec-12 01:43:07

Regardless of cert. surly life of Pi is an adult film.

Reading the plot, I'd be bored witless never mind a 4yo.

Bogeyface Sat 29-Dec-12 01:46:20

Tbh its the child I feel sorry for. You could walk out and go another time, but that poor little bugger is stuck with useless parents for the rest of its life. sad

YANBU

sixlostmonkeys Sat 29-Dec-12 01:46:41

Complaining would do no good. same happened to me once so I went out and told staff - they told me they had every right to be in there and nothing they could do (woman with baby and toddler noisily entertaining both throughout the film) I have no idea why the woman was there as she, baby nor toddler even looked at the screen.
I was told I could see a later screening, but honestly, who can spare a total of 6 hours? (which is what it would take)

NK493efc93X1277dd3d6d4 Sat 29-Dec-12 01:54:07

Typical that, it's always the disruptive ones that the staff are to scared to tell off!

HoneyMurcott Sat 29-Dec-12 05:30:28

Stupid, stupid parents. Asleep at the wheel parenting. YANBU. Really, they deserved to have a shit time in that film. Haven't they heard of baby-sitters? Hope they learn their lesson.

MaMattoo Sat 29-Dec-12 06:01:13

I am in two minds here. I don't see the point of bringing and boring a child at a movie they won't like or understand. But there might be another side to story you won't perhaps know? Easy to judge..

On the other hand I remember being the bored silent child walking up and down the cinema aisles as mum and family watched a film. I used to eat popcorn and watch people watching the film. Had no childcare I guess and for mum it was the only outing she had access to for a while. Don't know if others saw me as a pain or they shrugged acceptance of the situation without wanting to judge. The only thing that came out of my being bored in the cinema is that I don't really like watching films or TV as an adult either. So, yes, sitting on the fence for a bit..

Ellisisland Sat 29-Dec-12 06:06:09

I work in a cinema and this happens all the time and it drives all the staff at my cinema nuts. We get people coming in with kids to watch movies that finish at 3am and they are crying and exhausted but if the rating dictates that it is up to a parent whether their child sees the film there is nothing we can do. We can go in and say that they are being disruptive but in my experience I have always been told either to 'f&@k off' by the parents or they get the kid to calm down I leave and then 20 minutes later the child is crying again.

I would see the manager after and get your money back.

yousmell Sat 29-Dec-12 07:39:33

You should have told the staff.

Maybe they made the same mistake I did and thought it was a film about pies.

KittyFane1 Sat 29-Dec-12 08:05:41

There's not much you can do in these situations which is really annoying I know. I have left the cinema twice because of disruption. Once because of a crying baby no more than a few months old and oncebecause of a young lad who loudly repeated practically everything said by the characters in the film. On one occasion, we got our money back and on the other, we went into the next showing.

sleeplessinsuburbia Sat 29-Dec-12 08:40:16

I'd send an email and ask for a free ticket. I would have hated that.

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Sat 29-Dec-12 08:51:16

I'm struggling to find a reason why the kids would be there. Surely if a babysitter let them down they would just have one go and try and get a refund for the other ticket. But then by bringing the kids it added more money onto the outing.
Anyways its selfish. They might find their kids adorable, not everyone else will though.

LadyMargolotta Sat 29-Dec-12 08:55:06

Yanbu. There is no way I would take any of my children to see Life of Pi, and if we don't get a babysitter, then we just won't go.

Mrsrudolphduvall Sat 29-Dec-12 09:06:19

Another example of thoughtless, selfish parents who don't care about other people or their children.

gimmecakeandcandy Sat 29-Dec-12 09:09:24

They were out of order of course they were but why didn't you complain/tell the staff? You should have done, your wasted money becomes your fault if you don't do anything about it.

Yanbu

We had a terrified toddler shouting he didn't like this and was scared daddy and want to go home daddy.

All the time daddy was telling him to sshhhh because daddy wanted to watch kung fu panda two.

DowagersHump Sat 29-Dec-12 09:16:03

Judging by the messages here, complaining doesn't do any good.

What the hell is wrong with so many parents? This is the 5th thread I've read in the last few days where completely selfish parents have allowed their DC to ruin someone else's cinema/theatre experience. I find it absolutely staggering how many people a) seem to think it's acceptable and b) that someone it's the person who suffers fault if they don't complain (thus ruining their experience even more by having to walk out in the middle of the film/play and risking not getting anywhere).

JollyOldChristmas Sat 29-Dec-12 09:23:48

DH went to an 8:30pm showing of batman, which as a 15 IIRC and there was a 2 year old who spent most of the first hour crying before being removed by the parents.

HisstletoeAndWhine Sat 29-Dec-12 09:37:56

The cinemas could fix this overnight if they wanted to. Like pubs, there has to be some child-free time.

The Batman screening shooting highlighted how idiotic some parents are, and with tragic consequences for some.

I say we need to complain, demand our money back, every single time they let neglectful/lazy parents blight performances for others.

A mini mumsnet campaign perhaps. The only way these greedy businesses will change is if they are pushed into it.

milf90 Sat 29-Dec-12 09:43:04

This is why if I want to go to the cinema I get my mum to babysit??!

HardWorkerNotAFool Sat 29-Dec-12 09:49:03

"The Batman screening shooting highlighted how idiotic some parents are, and with tragic consequences for some."

That is a singularly idiotic, crass and tasteless comment if I ever saw one hmm

HisstletoeAndWhine Sat 29-Dec-12 13:15:26

Oh come on! It was a midnight screening! There were TONS of kids there that shouldn't have been, and for the sake of a thought or a babysitter, they were put in a tragic situation.

It was a shock to hear about the shooting, but total and utter incredulity came when it was clear that there were many little children and babies there. All cos Mommy/Daddy had to see the film on it's premiere?

The cinemas need to police their showings. The classifications are there for good reason, no underrage child should be in a 12/15/18 certificated for any reason.

Wallison Sat 29-Dec-12 13:22:04

I don't think it's reasonable to factor in a risk that taking a child to a film will result in them being shot, whatever time the film is on at.

Booblesonthetree Sat 29-Dec-12 13:43:11

YANBU, I wouldn't be happy either.
As an aside, DD is 7 and has been pestering to see it, she watches alot of the same films as her older brother (12), and behaves very well in the cinema, is it worth taking her? Plus is it actually any good? I don't particularly fancy it tbh but could be persuaded!

MrsKeithRichards Sat 29-Dec-12 14:59:21

Nice bit of arseholeishness on display there, dumb parents taking their kids to the cinema to get shot.

pippop1 Sat 29-Dec-12 17:50:46

Boobles, I think it had some rather scary moments for a 7 year old, a tiger eats a chunk out of the leg of a live zebra for instance. It's also quite "slow" in places so I think a 7 year old would find it both frightening and boring!

I do regret not complaining now and asking for some kind of refund. I guess I shouldn't have gone so early 5.45pm either, but from what others are saying that wouldn't have made any difference. There were two adults with this child so they could at least have taken it in turns to take her out. V selfish.

The next film I'm going to see is Quartet (when it comes out) and I doubt whether there will be any kids in it!

To be fair the trailer and posters make it look like a children's film but it's really much more of an adult one. My book club read the book a year or two ago and it never entered our heads that it could be a children's film! and I was surprised that it was marketed as such. I'd say it's suitable for non-scaredy kids of 10+

MikeOxardInTheSnow Sat 29-Dec-12 18:03:23

Not that you should have had to, but why on earth didn't you move to a seat further away from them?

maisiejoe123 Sun 30-Dec-12 14:25:24

I go to the cinema all of the time and I am constantly surprised how many people bring their children to totally unsuitable films and spoil it for the rest of us. And dont get me started on large families roaming the supermarkets en masse the weekend before Xmas with the kids running around, everyone getting narky and generally making things more difficult. Just what is it about taking your children everywhere! MY SIL insisted on being allowed into a restaurant (adults only) in a very posh hotel abroad because her 18 month old was sleeping. She asked the manager to go around to each table to ask if they objected or said she would!! They refused and she tells everyone now what a crxx hotel it is!

LuluMai Sun 30-Dec-12 14:44:17

I think under threes should be banned from the cinema completely, personally.

AmberSocks Sun 30-Dec-12 14:49:36

I think if anyone from any other country read anything on mumsnet they wouldnt dare come here,kids clearly arent welcome anywhere,espescially after 7pm!

Our big cinema has some dedicated over-18s screenings. Bliss.

Doshusallie Sun 30-Dec-12 14:55:58

Maisiejoe, families, even large families, are allowed to go to the supermarket. And their children are not expected to be sellotaped to the trolley. What a ridiculous observation.

LittleMissFantabulous Sun 30-Dec-12 15:01:05

Lulu I used to take my then two and six year olds to kids club screenings at the cinema. Showings designed for kids. Please don't over-generalise.

OttilieKnackered Sun 30-Dec-12 15:07:52

I think that's rather an exaggeration AmberSocks. Kids are welcome in most places, most of the time, but I see no problem with some events or locations being for adults (or children over a certain age) only.

Pizza hut in the middle of the day? Kids should be welcomed, if not prioritised.

An opera at 10pm? Not so much.

MrsMelons Sun 30-Dec-12 15:10:59

I have always taken my DCs to the cinema but only to appropriate things. I wouldn't say there is a need to ban under 3's at all but I think it is completely unfair or people to take children to unsuitable films and ruin it for everyone. I would expect them to behave well regardless of their age and if they couldn't I would take them out or not take them in the first place.

If DH and I take the DCs to our local cinema it can cost around £35 just for the tickets and I would be upset if the viewing was ruined by toddlers/babies crying.

I went to see Starlight Express (5pm matinee) at the theatre and there was a toddler sat next to me that ruined the whole show for me as cried, climbed up and down etc etc. They were way too young to be there and the parent did nothing to try to keep the child quiet. I had waited a long time to see the show as had missed it when on previous times due to various reasons.

I think there should no children allowed for the later (after 7 screenings) - just like you don't get children in pubs in the evening.

I would be really annoyed and would leave and get my money back if this happened to me.

I asked to be moved in the theatre a few weeks ago (very rare treat) as it was a proper play (plenty of swearing, adult themes even if it was a matinee) and ridiculously unsuitable for the 4 and 8 year old whining near me.

flow4 Sun 30-Dec-12 15:16:01

I'm surprised anyone goes to cinemas at all any more, tbh.

There's no way of knowing whether or not there was any kind of 'back story' to reasonably explain why that family might be at the cinema watching that film all together... But you can be fairly sure that it will have cost them £25+ to be there, which is such a large sum of money for most families with young children that even if they realised they'd made a dreadful mistake, they'd probably be reluctant to waste it and leave, especially if no-one seemed to mind...

FestiveElement Sun 30-Dec-12 15:33:10

YANBU

Unfortunately it seems that there are lots of parents around that think its ok for them to allow their children to distract others in cinemas.

LadyMargolotta Sun 30-Dec-12 21:00:47

Having posted early on this thread, I can hardly believe the irony of my own experience of watching Life of Pi at the cinema this evening.

Just me and dh, leaving my three children with family babysitters. 22 pounds to watch the film including the 3d glasses.

And a baby in the cinema cried, and then screamed, from the beginning of the film.

It is a very atmospheric film and from the first wails of this poor baby, the film was near enough spoilt.

There was several exaperated tuts and shushes from the audience but I took the advice from this thread, and went out to complain.

It took me several minutes to find someone to complain to. I politely pointed out that I had not paid 22pounds and organised a babysitter to listen to a baby ruin the film. I said the if they didn't do something about the baby, I would want a refund and compensation.

The manager asked the parent and baby to leave, which they did. The baby was screaming at this point, and had been crying on and off for about 40 minutes.

Maybe I should have complained earlier but I was hoping that the baby would just fall asleep.

FreudiansSlipper Sun 30-Dec-12 21:15:49

holidays many are at a lost end what to do with excited and bored children it's a 545 showing of a pg film with a tig i would expect children the be there

and how stupid and nasty to bring up the shootings in the states he could have gone to any showing and done the same has the recent news not told you that ffs

FreudiansSlipper Sun 30-Dec-12 21:17:23

Film with a tiger in ...

stupid autocorrect

LadyMargolotta Sun 30-Dec-12 21:17:45

The cinema is the last place I would take bored and excitable children. Let alone a baby.

LadyMargolotta Sun 30-Dec-12 21:22:41

The film may be PG but the recommendation is 8 years.

Do you really think a screaming baby will be enjoying the film? Do you really think cinema is an appropiate place for a screaming baby or a running toddler? Do you really think anyone enjoys the film with a screaming baby in the cinema?

FreudiansSlipper Sun 30-Dec-12 21:23:14

it's also school holidays you really would not expect children to be in a cinema at this time

8pm showing I doubt many would be there but 545 why not I would not go at that time as I am sure children would be there and do not expect children to be able to sit through a film without making some noise

FreudiansSlipper Sun 30-Dec-12 21:24:41

I was replying to the op, toddler and child

not to your post

LadyMargolotta Sun 30-Dec-12 21:26:37

No I do not expect children to sit through a film like this - which is why I had the consideration to organise a babysitter.

I did not go to the cinema for 4 years when I didn't have a babysitter available.

Fortunately the management agreed with me and the people were asked to leave, but nearly have the film was ruined, and I missed several minutes finding someone to complain to.

FreudiansSlipper Sun 30-Dec-12 21:32:21

you are talking about a screaming baby not fidgety young children

maybe you should have taken advantage of going to the eary showings have been a few times no one seems bothered by fidgety and talkative children as they know they are going to be there

LadyMargolotta Sun 30-Dec-12 21:36:33

FS - if you know anything about the film, you would know that it is not suitable for small children. I am not selfish enough to take my children to the cinema and make them watch a film that I know they would not appreciate or enjoy.

In fact I had already taken my 7 and 8 year old to the cinema this morning ( the fou year old would not have sat through it) to see a children's animation.

I was just hoping to enjoy an adult film without listening to a baby crying. Especially paying 22 pounds for the privilage.

FreudiansSlipper Sun 30-Dec-12 21:45:35

yes I do know the story wasted my time reading the book

it's an adventure story the posters make it look inviting for children a tiger on a boat maybe it should be a 12

simplesusan Sun 30-Dec-12 21:51:39

There are some stupid people out there.
I always give them the hard stare, then the pointed look.
Next my dh has been known to approach the trouble makers and tell them to shut the fuck up. Or words to that effect.

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Sun 30-Dec-12 22:32:05

My DD is 4yo and has not been to the cinema yet as I know she would get bored and be disruptive. It's just common sense...

A few years ago I went to London to see The Sound Of Music, paid a fortune for the tickets and had a young child kicking my seat for half of it because she was bored.

YANBU.

flow4 Sun 30-Dec-12 22:37:17

Actually, I think I'm with Freudians here. It's the school hols, it was an afternoon showing, and it's a PG - and I've just watched the trailer and reckon that based on that (rather than the book) the film looks great for four year-olds - not just tigers, but loads of other wild animals, including those old favourites, meerkat and dolphins!

I'm not at all surprised there were children there OP... And though I do sympathise (because it's really frustrating to have a film disrupted, any time) I reckon the parents might also have felt miffed and misled.

Onezerozero Sun 30-Dec-12 22:39:18

Why would anyone take a baby? Cinemas are so loud!

MrsKeithRichards Sun 30-Dec-12 23:32:49

I've taken my 6m old to the cinema about five times now, he hasn't cried once. I would leave instantly.

I've taken him with my older ds to kids films.

Madeyemoodysmum Sun 30-Dec-12 23:56:52

Yanbu! I hate this. I was considering taking 7 yo animal lover dd to life of pi but after asking advise on here I have decided not to, as it is too mature from what others on here have said. I was not considering taking younger ds under any circumstances. I know he would be bored.

Just got back from the hobbit baby sitter at home, and I insisted dh and I went to a late show as I did not want my night spoilt by little kids brought in by parents that think a 12a is appropriate for a 4 yo.

I feel cinemas/film people of late have there ratings stupidly low I assume to bring in more money but it puts me of going as so any parents seem to think its ok to take little kids to adult themed films. The women in black is a 12a for crying out loud, would give a child nightmares for weeks! A mumsnet campaign would be most welcome.

maisiejoe123 Wed 02-Jan-13 16:17:13

Madey, you are so right! Why do some stupid parents take their 4-5 yr olds to a film marked a 12! So many times I have sat around kids who are clearly out of the depth in films that are so wrong for them. I saw Batman a few months ago and I was sitting next to a 5 year old who was clearly terrified. he asked his mother a couple of times if they could go and she said no......

Softlysoftly Wed 02-Jan-13 16:24:12

We were in The Hobbit on Sunday with 2 women, a squeaky baby and 2 boys about 3 or 4. Totally in appropriate viewing.

Didn't disrupt our viewing tbh but I admit I was a bit judgemental especially as I heard one of them crying in a scary bit.

maisiejoe123 Wed 02-Jan-13 16:32:41

I have noticed as well that a 18 when I was growing up is now a 15 so please parents dont take a 5 year old to a film marked a 12.

Nancy66 Wed 02-Jan-13 16:35:49

they're just thoughtless twats. Plenty of them about though.

Time and time again I read, on MN, how people seem to think it's perfectly acceptable to take babies and toddlers to the cinema and theatre and fuck everyone else.

Wallison Wed 02-Jan-13 18:11:06

I have a friend who does this (takes her kids to the theatre/cinema and not to films/plays aimed at children either). When I asked her how on earth she gets them not to talk, she says she always takes along a big bag of food. So, not only restless kids, but loads of rustling and passing things around to boot. Lovely.

MoetEtPantsOn Thu 03-Jan-13 05:55:48

I am just back from seeing this film and agree that the trailer made it look much more 4 year old friendly. I am very surprised that the family with the small kids made it through. I nearly didn't. Without the 3D I definitely wouldn't have lasted until the end.

Does anyone really just go by the certificate though? Don't you do some research before taking DCs to any movie? Maybe mine are scaredy cats but I always read reviews/ watch trailers/ check with friends.

I stand by my original post that I bet the offending parents wont take the kids to a what was actually an adult movie again!

misterwife Thu 03-Jan-13 06:14:37

Absolutely unacceptable to take a kid between the age of 1 and 2 to see the Life of Pi, unless there were extenuating circumstances of some kind. Inconsiderate to both the kid and the other cinema users.

ripsishere Thu 03-Jan-13 06:44:44

DD asked me to take her to see it based on the posters alone. I've read the book and decided she wouldn't like it.

pippop1 Thu 03-Jan-13 13:10:49

Unless DD's age is in double figures you are right ripsishere. It's really for adults and older children.

Their marketing of this film is so misleading.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now