To think that parents who give their children unusual names are egotistical...

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Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 15:36:18

I live in an area where there are lots of children with unusual first names, one might say contemporary or ever preposterous. Names such a Lux, Brutus, Fire, Ace, Rudy. Most of these children are mild mannered and don't stand out in any particular way. I wonder if the name giving is more to show other parents the: "we are creative and middleclass and bit different". I feel that the parents havent given their children much consideration in later life. A man in his 50s called Brutus doesn't have the same appeal as a small boy. I guess that is why David Bowie's son changed his name from Zowie back to Duncan.

I think many of them were pissed off with being one of 3 Claires in their class at school and being known as Claire B throughout their childhood. Not that my DD has a name like that, but I think she is more likely to be one of 3 in her school with her name rather than one of 3 in her class.

noseynoonoo Sat 22-Dec-12 15:47:13

YANBU

FredFredGeorge Sat 22-Dec-12 15:47:31

If the individuals don't like their names they can change them. You're projecting a lot on what a current 50 year old may feel when in 50 years time it's likely to be completely different.

Why do you think it's "middle class" to give someone an unsual name.

IWipeArses Sat 22-Dec-12 15:47:38

I find this weird need to all have common, dull names a real shame. I was looking through the list of Presidents and Vice Presidents of the US on wiki the other day, as you do, and there were some amazing names, really unusual, yet distinguished.

There was a Saxon at college, doing music the other year, and he was a lovely boy, quiet, but a good one, talented and worked hard. Wasn't a burden to him. Much better than being Thomas 1, 2 or 3 imo.

InNeedOfBrandyButter Sat 22-Dec-12 15:49:36

I think it's really really nice not to have the same name as everybody else. My dc have slightly unusual names but nothing to make you raise an eyebrow, I do like that they are the only ones in the school not called Hugh, Charlie or Felix.

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 15:52:27

Yes FredFredGeorge, maybe it's not that middleclass, thinking about it's mainly the middle class kids with the traditional names and the ones who aren't with the stand out names...in the local school.

True IWipeArses, Barrack for example. I guess they are marmite names so you either love or hate them.

VelvetSpoon Sat 22-Dec-12 15:55:17

I have a very ordinary name, but with a very unusual spelling. My mum deliberately chose the spelling to make me stand out in life blush

My parents were not middle class at all.

LoopsInHoops Sat 22-Dec-12 15:59:54

I have a very unusual name, and I love it. Didn't so much as a child, but it has served me well. People remember me, and it suits my extroverted personality. My parents were not middle class btw.

My own kids have names that are familiar - people have heard of them, so not outlandish, but I'd hate to have the same name as other children in my class.

Ps. many of your examples don't seem unusual to me. Rudy is a lovely name.

maddening Sat 22-Dec-12 16:01:23

<hopes against hope that Velvetspoon is using her own name grin>

maddening Sat 22-Dec-12 16:02:01

Sorry misread blush

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 16:07:01

' we are creative and middle-class and a bit different '

And?

There's nothing wrong with any of those things.

And Rudy is perfectly wonderful I'll have you know smile

Duncan Jones (David Bowie's son) only ever had Zowie as a middle name, and actually used another middle name when he was younger (a "normal" one). Bowie was never his surname.

FWIW my DDs all have unusual names (not because we're middle class confused) but because we like those names. All of them work as they grow up as they are proper names, albeit unusual. Dh was one of 4 of his name in his class at primary school, and quickly adopted a nickname so that he wasn't just eg John B.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:10:19

I think that some names are egotistical: Maverick, anyone?

But the names you mention are mainly just failry uncommon - how uncommon depends where you live. For instance, i'm told Jack is a common name, but not here in my bit of inner London

I think the urge for your child to have an uncommon name is quite natural. Otoh, i have a very unusual name, not wacky or anything, and it does get a bit tiresome spelling it, explaining where it comes from and what it means.

My own particular bugbear is very childish or cute names that suit a baby or small child but imo, not an adult.

This is all very subjective and I would not wish to offend anyone by listing them.

Theicingontop Sat 22-Dec-12 16:10:58

Let's all call our children Jennifer and James so we don't come across as trying to be different. That would be awful.

Meglet Sat 22-Dec-12 16:11:06

YABU.

I was one of 4 'meglets' in my class. I hated it as teachers never knew who was who angry.

I refused to use any names in the top 100 for my dc's.

Wacky is better than common IME.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:11:25

Rudy is great

YouCanBe Sat 22-Dec-12 16:11:26

Rudy is a bit different to Fire!

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:15:07

Yy Fire and Ace are a bit silly, imo

nkf Sat 22-Dec-12 16:16:12

Rudy is great. Lux is a soap.

And there are stand out middle class names and stand out not so middle class names.

This is probably the least useful post I've ever made on MN. I think I shall go and eat cake.

badguider Sat 22-Dec-12 16:16:46

I am not a big fan of names that are in the dictionary as nouns or verbs. But I also think it's just practical to try to have a firstname that is unique within a social circle such as school class or extended family. Otherwise you end up living your life with your surname initial tacked onto your first name all the time sad

My name was really common where I am from when I was young, but thankfully isn't all that common in the rest of the UK so now i'm older and people of my age have moved and mixed more around the UK i only know a couple of others now.

nkf Sat 22-Dec-12 16:17:13

Highly amused to hear that Zowie became Duncan.

gordyslovesheep Sat 22-Dec-12 16:19:21

he was ALWAYS Duncan

nkf Sat 22-Dec-12 16:21:00

Ok. I thought the poster meant he'd been given two names and he chose the duller one.

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells Sat 22-Dec-12 16:21:14

My late single parent council flat friend and neighbour had a son called Rudy.
He must be about 25 now.
<old>

Shybairns Sat 22-Dec-12 16:22:17

I think there is a certain type of parent who strives to give their child the most unusual name they can think of, because they really want their child to stand out from the crowd and that is egotistical.

I am not one of those parents. I chose classic well used names. My children will have to work hard to stand out from the crowd. If indeed they want to. Life is hard enough without being cursed with a silly name.

However we can't generalise. I can think of examples from a number of different social backgrounds where children have been given unusual names.

And I am sure that these names that seem very new today won't be so unusual 50 years from now.

fedupofnamechanging Sat 22-Dec-12 16:22:52

I like Ace. Makes me think of Ace Mulholland. Also think Rudy is gorgeous.

Every other girl in my year group had my name - much as I like it, when it is so well used, you stop hearing its beauty and just hear that you are indistinguishable. I therefore gave my dd a more unusual name. Went more traditional for the boys , but that's because I truly loved all the names I chose.

I say there's nothing wrong with wanting your child's name to distinguish him from everybody else - that being the purpose of names!

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:23:04

Interesting, maybe having a usual name will make you want to stand out and maybe a far out one can make you want to hide. I know that most kids want to fit in and having an unusual one can make you stand out when perhaps you dont want to. I had an unusual name, not whacky, I was the only one with it in school and I would have preferred to have been a Kate than my name. Maybe it's a bit like red hair - you appreciate it more when you are older and have more confidence. I still want to he a Kate though and not my name!

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:23:42

Velvet

Is your name mostly spelled wrong? Does it get on your wick?

I do think parents need to think abit before using an unusual spelliing, or worse, making a spelling up

Sparklingbrook Sat 22-Dec-12 16:24:39

I am not keen on unusual names or weird spellings of normal names. The Reception class teachers must despair. I know there's a poor kid somewhere called Ulysses as I heard his teacher calling him. sad

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:25:21

I think having an unusal name can make people form an impression of you before they have met you.

Common names don't make people think you are boring, otoh

bealos Sat 22-Dec-12 16:26:12

We have some amazing possibly made-up names in my son's class. I don't think it's a middle class thing. We're talking: L'Zhaan, Rhia-Milan, Lagen, Chernae, etc.

I also know a few kids called things like Rocket and Tiger.

I was veto-ed called my ds1 'Dandelion' which I'm quite glad of now.

Narked Sat 22-Dec-12 16:26:14

If it makes them stand out like a giraffe at a penguin covention then it's unfair. You said 'I live in an area where there are lots of children with unusual first names.' If 'unusual' names are commonplace then what's the problem? Half the DC in their class will have 'unusual' names so they become very much usual and accepted.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:26:30

So having an unusual ( unheard-of) name for me made me choose names for my children that were not common, but not unheard of, and easy to spell

Sparklingbrook Sat 22-Dec-12 16:26:30

Some names are very cute for babies but totally unsuitable for a grown up person IYKWIM.

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:27:12

Maybe Rudy is the new Gary?

BitOfACyclePath Sat 22-Dec-12 16:27:52

I went for quite an unusual name for my daughter (7) It may become more popular now that there is someone in the charts with the same name (that I had never heard of before) but I hope not. She likes being the only one round here.

DecAndAnt Sat 22-Dec-12 16:28:13

I always think parents who have called their children boring names are.... well a bit boring really.

bealos Sat 22-Dec-12 16:28:32

jamie you are a woman after my own heart. Names that are not so well known, but are still really easy to spell are top of my list.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:28:32

Rudy is the new Alfie?

Sunnywithachanceofjinglebells Sat 22-Dec-12 16:28:45

YABU

I have an unusual name and I love it. My parents weren't remotely middle class or show-offy.

SantasENormaSnob Sat 22-Dec-12 16:28:47

It is definitely not a middle class thing round here.

Far from it.

Ephiny Sat 22-Dec-12 16:29:34

I have a very common name (especially for my generation) and I've always wished I had a more unusual one.

I think Lux and Rudy are great names, not keen on the others though.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:29:40

Dec

But you don't think the children are boring do you?

And that's my point. Parents should think about the first impression their child will be saddled with

Emandlu Sat 22-Dec-12 16:29:52

I have a very unusual name. I have never yet met another person with my name, though they are out there.

I have an unusual name because my parents both have incredibly commonplace names (like Ann and John but not those).

My kids have very normal names. Unfortunately my dd's name is very commonplace whereas my ds has a name which is ordinary but not used regularly. I had hoped to give my kids ordinary yet not overused names, but it didn't quite work that way.

FellatioNelson Sat 22-Dec-12 16:30:15

People were probably having this very conversation in 1960 about children called Claire and Wendy and Dawn and Barry and Jason and Grant.

They were probably saying 'what one earth is wrong with proper, normal names, like Norman and John and Brian and Beryl and Doreen and Margaret?

When was the last time you met and adult and said 'wow, that's a stupid/pretentious/made-up made up name, and it I can't take him seriously because of it.' It almost never happens, because by the time they are adults the name is if not ubiquitous, then at least familiar, and the names grow with the children.

The names Jodie and Hayley are completely commonplace now, but I bet they raised a few eyebrows back in the 60's and 70's with people like Jodie Foster and Hayley Mills. Before that they were virtually unheard of. And so it will be with some of the 'whacky' celeb names we hear now.

Mu1berryBush Sat 22-Dec-12 16:30:36

It depends on the names and the parents. I have a very normal name so if I'd gone for anything too outlandish it would have looked like I was trying to live vicariously through my kids and enjoy having an unusual name by proxy. So I avoided that.

I like names like Jane. Unusual, as in not used that much at the moment. To me now Jane would stand out.

nkf Sat 22-Dec-12 16:32:43

Jane is so unusual nowadays that it's almost exotic.

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:33:31

I guess there are pretentious names, made up names all sorts but I can't help feeling sorry for the boys called Orlando that I know. I guess theses could be as commonplace as Mark in the 70s? I know someone who insists on her son being called Theodore and not Theo I find that irritating but I find a lot of things irritating !

Narked Sat 22-Dec-12 16:33:34

Fellatio, when I met a Randy (because I am childish) and when I hear about the tennis player Mardy Fish (helps if you know Yorkshire slang)

trapclap Sat 22-Dec-12 16:33:39

I live in a multicultural area. My children don't have common English names and neither do most of her friends. Dd met my friends husband the other day, he is called 'Chris' - that's a funny name she said!

HelpOneAnother Sat 22-Dec-12 16:34:04

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bealos Sat 22-Dec-12 16:35:57

I can't help feeling sorry for the boys called Orlando that I know. I guess theses could be as commonplace as Mark in the 70s

Arlo seems to be really popular at the moment, for example...

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:36:14

Yes Sarah was very commonplace too and Nicola. I guess there are made up names which are different and might never catch on like Zoom and I kid you not he exists around here!

Narked Sat 22-Dec-12 16:38:47

And the baseball player Albert Pujols - which the American commentators pronounce Albert Poo-holes but don't find funny.

Sparklingbrook Sat 22-Dec-12 16:39:52

DH said he saw 'Tracey' on TV except it was spelt Treyc. confused

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:40:06

I met a Randy too! He had long hair and a droopy moustache! He came into our office to present some artwork and we had to stifle a giggle when someone mentioned his name.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:41:27

There's an R-marni round here.

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 16:42:12

I have loved having an unusual name. I've never met another one of me.

Not all unusual names are weird.

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 16:43:39

Come on then OP - tell us - are, or were, your DParents egotistical? Or did they just like that particular name and think you might like it too?

I've chosen fairly unusual names for my children, not made up, all of them are proper names if a bit old fashioned maybe.

I think people do it for all sorts of reasons. Part of mine is I feel I'm treading on people's toes if I use their child's name - like I'm trying to copy them, as if I've bought the same coat as them if you like.

It makes me feel awkward. Partly it's associations - if I knew 3 different Michaels growing up and didn't like any of them, I won't want to use it because it has an association with them.

I want to use a name I really like. And yes if it happens to belong to another child that's not a problem, but if it belongs to another child say in ds's class, or whose mum I've known for a long time, or my sister or cousin - then no, I won't use it.

It's not about being exclusive - it's about finding a little space in nameland of our own. It's not about being special either, or aspirational.
But also it isn't about being dull or having the same name as 100 other people born in the same place at the same time, just because it's fashionable.

And then again, I've always felt a bit weird, a bit like no one thinks I fit in, and so perhaps it is a bit about me in that sense - I feel a slightly more unusual name for my child reflects on who I am. And where he comes from.

I see it as a creative opportunity but also it has to fit - it has to come to you like when you're painting a picture or writing music or something - and then once it's come to you, it has to work in other respects - like remind you of someone famous you approve of, or have good associations in other ways.

I don't know, perhaps this is the most pseud piece of writing you have ever read but it's kind of how I see it and I hope it helps...if I called my next baby Alex, or Tom, or David, that wouldn't mean much to me. It'd be a name for the sake of a name...those names belong to other people, other children, not mine.

Fluffycloudland77 Sat 22-Dec-12 16:43:42

I have a friend who called their child Sidney.

It's a girl. sad

I also worked with a girl who was convinced Charlie is a girls name. She wouldnt have it that it was a boys name originally.

badguider Sat 22-Dec-12 16:43:50

I have so many Alison and Fionas in my phone it's a nightmare! Appearing in the top ten names in the previous three years will veto any name I think of for my offspring i'm afraid.

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 16:43:57

I have loved having an unusual name. I've never met another one of me.

Not all unusual names are weird.

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells Sat 22-Dec-12 16:44:06

One of my friends has a son called Ruaridh, up here in the Highlands it's not uncommon, in fact his great uncle had the same name.
I love the name, it was on my shortlist for my own ds, though we chose Fraser in the end.
Not particularly uncommon in Scotland, but practically non existent south of the border.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:44:16

I wonder if any of us on here with unusual names share the same name?

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 16:44:35

Oopsy.

BalloonSlayer Sat 22-Dec-12 16:44:57

Round where I live it's not what you'd call "the middle class" parents who give the "contemporary or even preposterous" names.

Narked I have a theory that all - ok then nearly all - professional golfers have, um, odd names. Davis Love III always makes me smirk, I loved Mardy Fish and Sean O'Hair nearly made me wet my pants.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:45:47

Sleds

I think you put it rather well.

I have an unusual name, as does my sister. It's a complete PITA and once I left home I adopted a shortened version of it as my name. It's still slightly unusual but people seem to cope with it.
My children all have top 100 names.
None of us are boring ;)

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 16:46:17

Btw I have a child called Peter. It's probably the most common name I could think of, to my mind, and one of the first I ever learned as I was growing up (from the ladybird books) but there are no others in his entire school.

I don't think it has cursed him exactly. And we know a couple more now, smaller than him and that doesn't bother me either. I just really liked it as a name.

RedToothbrush Sat 22-Dec-12 16:47:34

5 people out of 17 had the same name in my A Level art group.

Any Brats of mine will not be subjected to that.

BIL and SIL have named their first one of the top three names of the year. Poor kid. Not that I expected anything less.

Emandlu Sat 22-Dec-12 16:47:38

Wonders if everlong has the same name as me shock

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:48:15

Pooholes made me chuckle!

Sled I'm On - interesting Ive never thought of it like that - treading on peoples toes etc. My fathers mother died when I was born so I was given her harsh sounding name instead of a lovely girly traditional name my mother had lined up!

AmberSocks Sat 22-Dec-12 16:48:24

rudy isnt an unusual name btw.

i have a not unusual but not common name and loved it,iwasnt one of 5 lauras,kellys or rachels in my class

My 2 eldest have very popular names and my eldest is one of 2 Maxs in his class,my 2nd is a George and there are loads in his school.At the time when naming then i didnt even consider to check what was popular or not or even care about it,i liked those name and always have,so i used them.

I also have a Tabitha and an Ivor which although are quite classic arent that popular,again i used them because i liked them!

I just think as long as you like the name then go with it!

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 16:48:48

Peter is very much a name from my era, an thus as exotic now as all those Victorian names were a few years back.

I think names from the 40's to 60's will be the next big thing

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 16:48:57

Oh thanks Jamie! smile

DecAndAnt Sat 22-Dec-12 16:49:12

jamie yes i do think of the children as boring aswell. Boring parents = boring kids.

Crouchendmumoftwo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:50:52

My mother was going to call me Rufus if I was a boy she said, thank God Im a girl, I cannot bear that name. Reminds me of people with big gaped teeth and ruddy cheeks for some reason - like Pug of the Bash Street Kids. Rufus with a lisp too Rufush!

DecAndAnt Sat 22-Dec-12 16:50:53

sleds I definitely wouldn't class Peter as a very unusual name, far from it.

AmberSocks Sat 22-Dec-12 16:51:25

I have noticeda real difference between home ed names and school names.

Most ofmy sons friends names at school are jack,ben,jacob(about 20 jacobs) whereas in home ed group it was Zephr,Indigo,Hal,Ettienne,Orinoco.

The school my kids go to is in a middle class area with a mixture of middle and working class families,most of the home ed kids were V.uppermiddle class hippy types

!Nothing wrong with either,just pointing it out.

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 16:52:34

I wonder emandlu

wink I bet not though..

"I had an unusual name, not whacky, I was the only one with it in school and I would have preferred to have been a Kate than my name."

That's one experience. I was the opposite, I had a name that about 4 other girls in my year had. Annoyingly my mum considered giving me a much more unusual name, but got talked out of it. I've always wished I had that name instead.

I've seriously considered changing it over the years.

Should also say, my mum was the least egotistical person I know. She liked the unusual name because she thought it was lovely and it suited me. And it did. Luckily my mum decided that as she couldn't have that name she gave me a slightly more unusual spelling of my name instead, as a compromise.

DontmindifIdo Sat 22-Dec-12 16:53:36

I do think that as one of 4 of my name in my primary class, I'm drawn towards more underused - although not unusual names. I've had a few people mention that DS's name sounds like someone in their 30s, I guess a lot of "popular in the 70's/80's" names will be due a come back soon as Jamie said.

If you have had a very common name and been one of several with it, having other people with exactly the same first, middle and surname on your uni course, and then also born on the same date so not even able to distinguish that way (sigh) then you know common names just leads to your DCs being known by a nickname, not the name you pick.

Also on the 'odd' names front, I know a man called Randy Sessions.

AmberSocks Sat 22-Dec-12 16:54:06

I love the name Peter,very cute and classic and carries well all the way through life

HelpOneAnother Sat 22-Dec-12 16:55:00

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JenaiMathis Sat 22-Dec-12 16:55:09

Fluffy why the sad ? I know two female Sids (well, Cyds). I fail to see the problem tbh. My own son has a name that can be used for both boys and girls - it's more common these days for girls but it really, really hasn't caused any problems.

Another little girl I know voluntarily (as in it was entirely her own idea) to change her name when she started school and discovered she was one of four Evies.

YABU OP. There's nothing wrong with James or Harry or Olivia or Evie or whatever name is popular where you are, but nor is there anything wrong with something a little less commonplace. The only no-nos in my book would be something like Fuckwit, and I've yet to meet anyone named that (although I've called plenty of people fuckwit in my time grin ).

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 22-Dec-12 16:55:10

I have one of the normal names pointed out on this thread, in the 70's it was considered very strange. My dc's have just names because as far as I'm concerned a name is just a name.

Unfortunately 3 of my dc's have the same names as several other kids in there school class ( when they were at school) but two of these went through school being called mr xyz as opposed to first names. The others have not yet had school friends with the same names.

But they are all still just names that were carefully considered for each child just the same as every other parent does.

LilyVonSchtupp Sat 22-Dec-12 16:56:25

I recently heard of a baby Sarah and met a little boy Robert. I was stunned. I like Mary and would be confident any future DD of that name would stand out.

DS has a real proper non-made up name with a proper reason for giving it him (family related) but it's still something like 700th in popularity. I don't know if that makes me 'egotistical' hmm

I think, as social media grows, people will benefit from having an unusual name as it is easier to find them on LinkedIn etc. I am one of about 10 people with my name (surname is more unusual than first name).

BalloonSlayer Sat 22-Dec-12 16:56:48

Orinoco? Seriously?

Was he/she named after the river, or the Womble?

Emandlu Sat 22-Dec-12 16:57:00

grin I bet not too everlong

I would love to meet another person with my name though!

LtXmasEve Sat 22-Dec-12 16:57:02

<<can hardly type through crying laughing>>

OP, my brother gave his daughter an unusual name. She is the ONLY person with that name in the UK. My brother, his DP and his children are about as far removed from 'Middle Class' as it is possible to be! God, if he was still alive I'd be beating a path to the phone to tell him grin grin grin

Thank you for giving me such a laugh on a miserable rainy afternoon grin

BOFingSanta Sat 22-Dec-12 16:57:31

I love the name Maverick. You just know though, that he will end up being an accountant.

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 16:57:43

Exactly, DecandAnt. It's not. But among his school friends, it's almost unheard of.

People do sometimes think, ooh, pretentious, you just want to be different, etc. But I wish they didn't.

My point was, it wasn't fashionable when I used it for him, nor was it madly odd, but I just liked it and didn't know anyone else who had used it for a baby.

Ds2 has a far more unusual name, I sometimes regret that as again people look at me like I'm trying too hard. And ds3's name is going to sound super odd to most people but I don't care any more...it's the only one left that I like!

LoopsInHoops Sat 22-Dec-12 16:58:33

Also wondering if my unusual name is someone else's on here.

I'll start. 4 letters.

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 17:01:24

Hmm. I have an unusual one too but I know there's at least one other on here with it, from a thread a few years ago.

My parents aren't any particular class - mum found it in the births column in the Telegraph, it obviously belonged to some rather posh baby, but that wasn't why she used it. She said she just liked it.

7 letters! smile It stood me in awful stead at our rough primary school...piss ripped out of me constantly.

Boggler Sat 22-Dec-12 17:01:30

When I was a child all I wanted was to be called Julie like everyone else hmm

MrsFlibble Sat 22-Dec-12 17:02:36

I gave my daughter the name of 2 tv characters, i've also Known a, Bliss, Boden, Eden, Lavinia, to name a few.

Also i actually like, Odin for a boy. weird.

Ps I also know of a Rudy.

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 17:02:40

I wanted to be called Sarah! Sarah in my class had long brown hair and was perfect, and everyone liked her sad

KittyFane1 Sat 22-Dec-12 17:03:02

Names like the one's in your OP belong to the offspring of look at us, aren't we cool, successful, trendy... middle class parents AND the offspring of common as muck other folk. I personally think some names sound ridiculous.

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 17:04:22

I do think it's nice to give your child a name you feel they can own, and one that excites you. Not just 'Oh let's just call him ....' because you can't think of anything else.

But not everyone really cares, it is after all just a name.

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 17:04:32

<<links arms with emandlu as we have speshul names>> grin

sweetkitty Sat 22-Dec-12 17:05:07

I know three little baby boys John, Raymond and Brian, named after their Dads, I think that's egotistical giving your son your name. He will be forever known as Little John.

In our family there were 3 generations of for example John Smith, they were known as Old John, big John and wee John, wee John is over 40 and 6 foot but s still wee John. Wee Johns DW said there was no way there would be another John, in the end they had 2 DDs smile

When the mothers were asked their bwbies' names they almost apologised "it's after his Dad" give the boy his own name.

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 17:06:45

Pissing laughing at whoever said was orrinoco (sp) named after the river or a womble!!

JenaiMathis Sat 22-Dec-12 17:07:40

In my pregnancy-induced madness I genuinely considered Skywalker as a middle name. Having said that I sometimes wish we'd used it. It's cool and it transpired that ds was hugely into Star Wars (although not so much these days).

His father vetoed Ruby and Lola (I love the song) as names had
ds been a girl, for sounding like strippers' stage names. Now they're two-a-penny.

MrsFlibble Sat 22-Dec-12 17:08:54

SweetKitty The name thing also runs in my family too,

Example:
Grandfather: Christopher John Smith
Dad: Michael Christopher John Smith
Brother: Christopher John Smith

Its stops after my brother, as my Dad dont deserver the honour.

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 17:09:13

Skywalker is COOL!

StuntGirl Sat 22-Dec-12 17:10:08

I know several female Sidneys, its not that odd or uncommon hmm

MrsFlibble Sat 22-Dec-12 17:10:26

Leia Skywalker, thats cool and possibly the name a Star Wars geek would pick.

JenaiMathis Sat 22-Dec-12 17:12:07

Thing is I'm not a Star Wars geek at all! I like it but I'm not obsessed, not remotely.

vladthedisorganised Sat 22-Dec-12 17:12:26

Personally I like the idea of a 'flexible' name. I had a very old-fashioned name growing up (not quite Bunty but it's everywhere in Enid Blyton novels) and it wasn't really 'me'; but I could fudge it a bit to make it something that was more my style. Hardly anyone knows my 'real' name (or DH's) these days.
DD has a name that can be played about with, so what she's known as now might be completely different to the way she uses her name later.

Not quite sure what you can do with Brutus, but maybe his friends will just call him Smeghead as a teenager grin.

IneedAsockamnesty Sat 22-Dec-12 17:12:30

Does anybody else have a list of about 8 possibilities but wait to see the baby before final pick?

JenaiMathis Sat 22-Dec-12 17:12:58

and I think I meant ten-a-penny upthread, didn't I. thick face

5madthings Sat 22-Dec-12 17:16:17

I have a Rudi, its a fab name.

I also have a Theodore, my theo is 13 and is always the only one in his age group.but its def got more popular over recent years, as has ds2's name.

The name we chose for dd was used less rhan 30times in the year she was born and has stayed at about that figure but i am seeing it mentioned more on baby threads so maybe dp and i have a lnack.of choosing names that then become popular!

We wanted a name that wasnt massively popular but not outlandish, our rudi was maybe going to be a rufus but he def is a rudi!

We get complimented on our childrens names (apart from by mil!) and they all like their names.

I wouldnt say we were middle class! we chose names we liked and we seem to have a 'type' of names that we agreed on. if it was up to mil my children would be called things like gordon, duncan and patrick. Nothing wrong with those names but they are not my taste.

AmberSocks Sat 22-Dec-12 17:17:27

it was after the river i think,she seems to serious to name him after a womble.she called him orin for short which i think sounds nice.

5madthings Sat 22-Dec-12 17:17:28

socking we always had a list if a dozen names and never chose until we saw the baby infact ds2, ds4 and dd were a fortnight old befire they had a name.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:18:31

Everlong, Emandlu

Me too!

sweetkitty Sat 22-Dec-12 17:19:01

I do know a Leia (not Skywalker) yes after Star Wars

Emandlu Sat 22-Dec-12 17:19:18

Links arms with everlong and starts singing....



.... suddenly realises that I've probably had too much Christmas wine and stops.

Sleds My name has 7 letters too...

sweetkitty Sat 22-Dec-12 17:20:53

According to mumsnet my DC are

Boring
Reminds them of genitals
Chavvy
Mega common (only know one other)

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:20:54

MrsFlibble

I have the same name as my mum, grandmother, great grandmother

Less common in girls

But i'm glad I din't have a girl because I'm not sure I would have wanted to use it and not using it would cause a hoo- ha

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:21:36

My name has 7 letters!

queenrachel Sat 22-Dec-12 17:24:21

I love the name Lux.

I first read it in the book Virgin Suicides.

There's nothing wrong with having a different name.

AmberSocks Sat 22-Dec-12 17:25:08

this has made me go over to baby names now,i love baby names,is it just me who hears a nice name and makes mental notes for future bambinos?

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:25:27

Sleds

Does it end in a?

LtXmasEve Sat 22-Dec-12 17:26:30

Yasni is pretty good if you are interested in names. I've just discovered that the name 'Jane' ranks at number 37 in the most common first names, The name Ace is at number 2301, Rudy at 1790 and my nieces name is 2964 !

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:26:55

Amber

I am interested in names, but no more babies so just have fantasy ones...

Asa for a boy

Lyra for a girl , or Anita

< runs away>

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 17:28:17

Yes Jamie! Does yours start with an S?

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 17:33:27

confused

My name has 7 letters too.. maybe our names aren't so speshul after all em and Jamie shock

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:33:44

Nope grin

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:34:38

Long names sound posher. I had posgh thrown at me as an insult at Primary school

Emandlu Sat 22-Dec-12 17:35:36

Mine ends in an a too.

But doesn't start with an s.

confused whatever can you mean everlong? Of course we have speshul names. wink

SledsImOn Sat 22-Dec-12 17:39:22

Well I'm not entirely surprised. Sledana isn't very common grin

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:41:10

I was going to be called Jamie if I was a boy, hence the name.

exoticfruits Sat 22-Dec-12 17:43:32

It really makes me laugh when someone who thinks they were being different finds their DC in the same class as someone of the same name!

Catsu Sat 22-Dec-12 17:44:46

Sweet kitty do you have a child named Fanny??

I was one of 4 with my name in just my class of 30 at school. I hated it, wanted to be called sunny like one of the girls at school as it was so unusual :-)

I've named my 3 children classic but not too common names (although failed in that totally with dc1 as the name got v v common very soon after!!

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:46:06

Exotic

There are 3 Rosas in one class at my school. Lovely name, I wouldn't expect it to be that common. It goes to show that many of us are just subject to the same influences and make similar choices even if we think we are being original

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 17:47:18

Ds 2 s name got very common a couple of years after he was born. Darn it

carabos Sat 22-Dec-12 17:59:50

fellatio asked if any unusually named adults experience any negative comments. I have an unusual name and was once introduced to someone who laughed and said "what a silly name, have you made that up?" Aside from that I have never had any outright comments, but when the doctors' or dentists' receptionists call my name out the old ladies other patients often nudge each other and do the confused face. grin.

BOFingSanta Sat 22-Dec-12 18:13:58

Jamie, do you move in lefty circles? When I attended Marxism in London a few years ago, every other child seemed to be called Rosa or Leon grin.

Doctors expect an old man when they call my DS2's name- its becoming more popular now though.

I'm a traditionalist with names- DC's have more Old English names.

babyfirefly1980 Sat 22-Dec-12 18:40:21

I have never met anyone with my name...a couple of characters on tv have had my name but I've never met anyone in real life with the same name.

My Dc's have unusual names..not madly outlandish though.

pictish Sat 22-Dec-12 18:43:51

We have a 5 yr old Rudy. Suits him!
I'm not egotistical, but think whatever you please...I don't mind.

Theicingontop Sat 22-Dec-12 18:44:22

I don't know anybody with my name, though it's very popular in the US. Same goes for OH, people assume he's italian though his family's Guyanese. And people always think we named our son after a popular serial killer on TV hmm

I went through school with 5 'DSM' and was rather irritating. So DH & I chose to give names that are not within the top 100 and are very rarely heard around this part of the country.

HairyGrotter Sat 22-Dec-12 18:58:13

My DD has an unusual name, she stands out because of her personality more than her name. Her name suits her personality, it 'fits' and makes sense. It's a very old name (Roman), it was popular in the Victorian era too, so yada yada yada.

BUT I can kinda see where you're coming from, some are just too fucking out there, especially the made up ones

HairyGrotter Sat 22-Dec-12 19:00:23

Mind you, I stand out too, so DD and I are like peas in a pod, she just had a far more awesome name than I smile

GrendelsMum Sat 22-Dec-12 19:04:31

There was a point at which I worked very closely with 2 other colleagues - all of us with extremely unusual names.

The thing we all agreed was that you get used to answering to other names - or indeed, words that aren't your name but are vaguely like your name.

On the plus side, anyone can find anything you've ever done via Google. On the down side, anyone can find anything you've ever done via Google, photos of you, videos of you, random comments you've posted, emails you sent 10 years ago, etc etc etc.

You have to be very careful about what you put on the web, and try to keep it under control and professional.

JingleBellaTheGymnast Sat 22-Dec-12 19:05:57

Love Rudy/Rudi but OH vetoed it. Wish I were brave enough for Lux.

MrsDeVere Sat 22-Dec-12 19:13:30

WTF is preposterous about the name Rudy?

Soz to disappoint OP but I am neither trendy nor middle class.

All my children have slightly unusual names and I chose them because I liked them.

AIBU to think that people who start threads about names that they think are attention seeking, are egotistical?

I mean, who made you the Queen of Names (or something) ?

MrsDeVere Sat 22-Dec-12 19:15:20

theicing my OH's family is Guyanese. His mum was very adventurous when it came to names. My OH sounds like he comes from the landed gentry. (he doesn't) grin

BOFingSanta Sat 22-Dec-12 19:22:22

I called both mine Rudy. As in RudyToodyInTheNudey whenever they ran round naked weeing on my carpets. Happy days.

MrsDeVere Sat 22-Dec-12 19:26:09

My Rudy is known by all manner of names.

Rudylious and Rudymental are my favs grin

ouryve Sat 22-Dec-12 19:26:12

I have one of those names that is neither common nor unusual and have usually been the only one in my class with it - except when I was in middle school and there were 3 of us in one maths class!

The boys have names which aren't extremely common, but oddly enough became more popular in subsequent years. We have a very common surname, though, so tried to avoid anything that was in the top 30 at the time!

This is how NOT rare Rudy is as a name, btw:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIoHSu5v1Mo

oldraver Sat 22-Dec-12 19:28:09

I did notice when I used to post on a Mums Forum where we all had babies in the same month that those that chose unusual names did seem to go on and on about the names allll the blumming time

FrazzleRock Sat 22-Dec-12 19:37:27

My name was unusual for my generation when I was a child. I was always the only one. It was a "Granny name" and I hated it.
It's now very popular, probably in the top 20 girls names (I'd guess) and I rather like it.

My two DS's have, what are perceived to be, extremely common names but there isn't another one of them in their entire primary school.
Most odd!

DoctorAnge Sat 22-Dec-12 19:41:33

Evie is definately the Sarah of the naughties ...

gimmecakeandcandy Sat 22-Dec-12 19:47:18

I used to know a couple who had a child called Boo - and even though I think it doesn't matter what you call your kids (within reason of course) as long as you like it, this mum was a real anal, controlling type who seemed determined to hot house the poor little mite into someone better than anyone else... She would even control the poor kid's portions [hmmm] to a strict level. Everyone I know who knows the mum or who have met her even in passing at birthday parties etc thinks she is quite anal and insecure in her demeanour - the child has a strict time for everything and the mum delights in her unusual name.... I can just see her child rebelling against her mother's strict code of conduct one day...

pigletmania Sat 22-Dec-12 19:59:42

Yanbu at all, some names re plain stupid and the people that name their child silly names have no sense

AmberSocks Sat 22-Dec-12 20:15:13

my neighbour has two kids called rocco and florence,which sound pretentious but actually her husband is italian and they are family names.

Mu1berryBush Sat 22-Dec-12 20:36:13

I can just imagine boo's mum.

sweetkitty Sat 22-Dec-12 20:40:53

Catsu - ha ha no not fanny, at the risk of totally outing myself her name is Talia, we got some comments when she was born but I totally love her name and it really suits her as she is a very unusual child.

I have a double barrelled concoction of 2 70s names and I hate my name. It gets pronounced wrong (why it's common names) spelled wrong, some online forms don't recognise hyphens, some people can't cope with hyphens fullstop, some people have even been quite rude to my face about it. sad

JamieandtheMagiTorch Sat 22-Dec-12 20:41:18

BOF

never mind my circles, it's the whole borough that's lefty grin

everlong Sat 22-Dec-12 20:41:28

Rocco and Florence are perfectly fine imo. Lovely even.

Bingdweller Sat 22-Dec-12 20:46:50

Bitofacyclepath I think our daughters may have the same name....! I was going for the unusual but not outlandish then boom, all over the bloody charts lol.

Of 26 born in the whole of Scotland in 2010, one of them is in my DDs nursery and will be in the same school year. Her mum and I just put it down to good taste wink

RudolphiaRedNose Sat 22-Dec-12 20:51:45

Hmm well DP and I are middle class, creative and a bit different. Not because we try to be deliberately. We just are a bit arty-farty and intellectual. We can't help it any more than someone very conventional and scared of standing out can help it.

We gave our DC unusual names because they have a lot of meaning for us, and yes because we want our children to value individuality and originality and know that their names were chosen specially for them, not just so as to fit in and not rock the boat. If they hate them, they have more common middle names and shortenings/variants they can switch to, or if they wanted to change their names that would be for them to decide. But I myself would love to have a really unusual name, so it's possible they might too.

When I hear of yet another baby being called the same name as 10 other kids round here already have I think oh FFS yaaaaaawwwwwwnn, you boring twats!

mumofthemonsters808 Sat 22-Dec-12 20:59:09

Both my children have unusual names, we are a working class couple and the names were chosen because we liked them and disliked run of the mill names.I think you either love or loathe modern names and it is simply down to individual choice.One of the Mum's at school told me her new baby was called John,now I did not realise anyone choose this name anymore but obviously her and her husband liked it.

DizzyHoneyBee Sat 22-Dec-12 21:04:57

Having worked in a class where 10 children shared the same 3 names, I am all for variety and if that means unusual names then so be it smile

pigletmania Sat 22-Dec-12 21:07:54

I am thinking of names such as Neon, Zelda, fifi, Trixi, Adolf. Rococo and Florence sound nice.

marriedandwreathedinholly Sat 22-Dec-12 21:18:54

I have an awfully posh classical Greek name in rl. Yuk. I yearned to be a Susan or a Jane or a Sarah or a Helen. Just everyone had a comment. I grew into it as an adult and it's not so bad now. Wouldn't have done anything to mean to the dc though.

DS's class and mates are largely: Will, Tom, Fred, Matthew, Mark, Ed, Alex, Henry/Harry, Theo, George, James, etc.

DD's class and mates are largely: Chloe, Francesca, Lucia, Hannah, Lou Lou, Imogen, Alice, Phoebe, Helena, Xanthe.

DS is nearly 18, DD 14.5. Nothing that unusual there. They are both at indy schools.

Lovecat Sat 22-Dec-12 21:36:50

We gave DD an Irish name - I was holding out for Niambh or Roisin (or Sinead at a pinch), but DH insisted on one that could be easily pronounced by non-Irish speakers so we compromised and gave her the name she's got. Funnily enough my cousins have all done the same, we were all born/brought up in England but our ancestry is Irish so we've all 'reverted' so to speak...

I and DH are the sixties equivalent of Jack and Chloe, so we both wanted something that not every other child in the class would be called. As we ended up living in a very multicultural part of London, DD is unique in her name despite it being relatively commonplace elsewhere.

My job brings me into contact with lots of children, covering a relatively deprived borough of East London. The middle class enclaves tend towards the 'granny/grandad' names - Edith, Nancy, Alfred, Wilfred etc. The not-so-middle-class areas delight in names that often have to be read aloud to understand what they are, because from the spelling it's not always obvious - the TreyC mentioned above being a mild example. And then there are the very religious families whose children are called things like Pious, Blessing, Praise, Mighty Leader (I kid you not) and suchlike. I like a bit of difference, personally smile

Perriwinkle Sat 22-Dec-12 21:49:30

The rule is never discuss religion or politics isn't it? Well, I think names could quite properly be added to that list too.

CaptainNancy Sat 22-Dec-12 21:59:34

I have to chortle at 'Rudy' being put in the same category as 'Orinoco'!

sleds - do you have 5 children? Are you who I'm thinking you are?

NothingIsAsBadAsItSeems Sat 22-Dec-12 22:03:25

I like Annika for if we have a DD which I think is a fairly unusual name and I like Nathan shortened to Nate if we have another boy, just got to convince DH. DS has a fairly common name but the shortening is slightly more unusual smile

I know several people called Rory both young and old not sure if it's commonly used but it's a nice name and suits them perfectly. I was one of four children with the same name in my year group. Couldn't even do something like Nothing P as we all had P as the start of our surnames = Very frustrating

giveitago Sat 22-Dec-12 22:10:16

Well, I'm from a mixed background and my parents decided to give me very ordinary names from their backgrounds . I grew in the 70 and 80 and felt my name was horribly old fashioned then - I yearned to be called Kate or Debbie.One of my middle names is really bonkers. But its mine.

My dh from Italy and he has a very unusual surname so I insisted our ds be called something that could be uttered easily in english and italian and ds has ended up with a name which (to me) conjures up the idea of a 1980s accountant.So he has a very staid first name with a very fun surname.

But we're happy.

I think his 'very ordinary name' is what makes him cool in a school full of kids who's parents are desperately trying to 'stand out'. A bit like it's so hip now to be in your 40's without a tatoo or non ear piercing.

threesypeesy Sat 22-Dec-12 23:02:22

We gave our 3DDs unusual names and they love them, we love them and we get lots of comments on how nice there names are.

I cant think of anything worse than calling the a run of the mill name.

gimmecakeandcandy Sat 22-Dec-12 23:09:27

*Mu1berrybush... You would imagine right. She is one of the most dislikable people I have ever met!

Back2Two Sat 22-Dec-12 23:14:27

I wouldn't want a really nothing-y name for my child but I most certainly wouldn't trawl through books, references etc to seek out a name for the purpose of it being original and "different".

A family near me has named all their children in this way. The names do not suit each other either (the siblings names seem sort of disconnected from each other as they're all so "different")

I also dislke it when people take tonks to "come up with" the name. To me this does give the feeling it's more about the parents than the child.

I chose names that had meaning for us as a family and that suited my babies when we first met them. They're unlikely to have another person with the same name in their class but it's possible.

The problem with these "different" names is when they just become so popular (like Rudy/Rudi is now) They really quickly become mainstream and kind of end up seeming even less original than if they were just called Peter.

Back2Two Sat 22-Dec-12 23:15:17

*tonks? grin YONKS I meant!

StackOverflow Sat 22-Dec-12 23:30:54

I have quite an unusual name - but it's more Araminta or Phryne unusual than Ace or Lilypad unusual IYSWIM. Hated it as a child but love it now.

I do tend to get asked about my name when I first meet people. It's actually something I like because I'm not exactly good at conversations with strangers and it helps me get started. I also appreciate that I've never had to be sarah12345@company.com anywhere I've ever worked. When people refer to me by name, nobody ever asks "which Stack?" Since my surname is also quite rare, I'm in fact quite certain that I'm the only Stack Overflow in the world.

To me, my name is a bit like a bespoke suit: it's pretty unique but in a good way. I suppose I'd mind a lot more if I were called something along the lines of Uneeqe, Renesmee or Cheyenne, though.

My sister, by contrast, has a very traditional name. Think "Elizabeth" or "Anne". She feels pretty indifferent about it now.

And, yes, my parents are middle class and sort of creative.

BalthierBunansa Sat 22-Dec-12 23:32:52

Lets be honest, there are unique names, and then there are unique names grin

BalthierBunansa Sat 22-Dec-12 23:35:26

marriedandwreathedinholly I love how you complain that you have a classical Greek name and then wish to be called Helen grin

FirmlyInTheClosetAsImAMonster Sat 22-Dec-12 23:40:58

Oh yeah, lets all follow the crowd and name our kids Emily and Jack and Ben. Not that there's anything wrong with these names, but if someone finds a name they really like that is a bit unusual, why the hell not? People shouldn't be criticized for not being mindless sheep. Likewise, if someone really likes the name Emily, why shouldnt they go for it? It's about their preference not what other people think. They're the ones that will use the name the most often.

crouchendmum1 Sat 22-Dec-12 23:47:12

Some people before you meet them you cringe at the name and then you forget it and see them for the person they are and the name becomes insignificant.

I often say "wow what amazing names/name" when their parent tells me their terribly individualistic name for their very plain child! I heard an OTT one yesterday and had to ask what it was again as it sounded like a cartoon character and I was actually in shock and horrified and to hide it I went totally over the top about what an incredible name it was. I wonder how often that happens...

People saying Im arty and creative and want my children to stand out seem about egotistical to me, what is wrong about fitting in and for you child to want to fit in, or not as the case may be. What gives you the right to burden as in many cases you child with such a huge name to live up to just because you want to be perceived as a creative individual.

Some kids fit those names well and will grow into them and be delighted but often the names says more about the parents mental state!

I suppose the world is a more interesting place for is eh Jesus, Oprah etc, but hearing someone shout Bertie in the park to a little unassuming boy and not a dog or Willow tho a heaving great bulk of a girl does stop me in my tracks!

Bunnyjo Sat 22-Dec-12 23:55:16

marriedandwreathedinholly - You complain that you have a classical Greek name and wish to be called Helen? Hilarious! I am half Greek and many of my family are called Helen, or subtle variants of; Elena, Eleni, Helena...

DD has a relatively popular name - DH and I both loved it and we didn't google and realise that it was in the top bloody 10 of names for the last zillion years! So, unfortunately, there is another 2 in her tiny school of 60 something. With the benefit of hindsight (and google) with DS, we went for something a little less obvious, but not terribly unusual.

The children have to grow up with these names and you have to imagine them in a professional capacity - I cannot imagine an Angel (there was one in DD's nursery) or a Zion (a friend of a friend's DS is called that) being taken very seriously... Maybe that's just me though gets splinters from fence sitting

BalthierBunansa Sat 22-Dec-12 23:56:02

Bunnyjo Got there before you grin

Bunnyjo Sun 23-Dec-12 00:05:47

Haha Balthier, I hadn't refreshed the screen to see your comment when I posted. I was just in stitches at the irony grin

Nancy66 Sun 23-Dec-12 00:12:13

There are twins near me called Rudy and Rufus - i think it sounds cool.

Bogeyface Sun 23-Dec-12 00:25:09

In our local paper a few years back was announced the birth of Leroy and Elroy.

So they look the same, share the same birthday, will probably be dressed the same and have "matching" names?!

usualsuspect3 Sun 23-Dec-12 00:31:59

Leroy and Elroy are not unusual names, not where I live anyway.

Bogeyface Sun 23-Dec-12 00:35:46

They are not unusual where I live either, but I wouldnt give them to identical twins!

The only difference between them is transposing the first 2 letters of their first names!

Alwaysasking Sun 23-Dec-12 01:01:43

I agree op, hate it when parents strive to call their child the most original name just to make them stand out - I am not saying all parents of dc with unusual names do this but many do.

I chose my ds' (fairly common) name because I love the name. I'd liked it for ages, before it became popular, I wasn't going to not call him it just because it's popular. I also liked the name Eli, so that's his middle name - didn't not call him that just because it's unusual, but preferred his first name. IMO you should just call your kid the name you like most regardless of how 'common'/unusual it is, you can't pre-empt what your dc will think of it as they grow up based on your experience of your own name.

scottishmummy Sun 23-Dec-12 01:04:44

yes it's a def mc trend,parents think they are hip cool,chose out there obvious name
say the name,pause as if youre supposed to gasp to affirm the parental hipness
if it's such a great name introduce yourself socially as lux,yes call me lux

usualsuspect3 Sun 23-Dec-12 01:07:29

No-one likes their name anyway.

Don't matter what it is.

scottishmummy Sun 23-Dec-12 01:22:28

if name doesn't matter and your nonplussed introduce self as fanny
socially say to folk,hey call me fanny,everyone calls me fanny
see how names don't matter I. that case

My DS is James, apparently common as muck in some places but not as common as Alfie, Archie and Lexi down our way! Obviously my son will stand out regardless of his name as he has his mother's good looking (and modest) genes grin

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 04:05:41

I don't think James is ever 'as common as muck' in any place, but it is very common, as in popular; some may say over-used, but I don't think anyone would say James is 'common' in any other sense, would they? confused

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 04:06:25

sm are you drunk?wink

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 04:10:53

I don't mind my name. It's alright - don't' love it, don't hate it.

It's a fairly typical 60's name but not one that was ever overused to the point of ubiquity. I have never had another one in my class, or in my immediate circle of friends, but I have known, or known of a few others.

I would have hated to be a Julie/Karen/Sharon/Lisa/Debbie/Tracy. Not that they were awful names, but there were just so many of them.

Fellatio, I am a Julie! And obviously not common...but very over-used!!! grin

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 04:29:27

I KNEW someone was going to come and say that! blush No offence, but ykwim. grin

I'm not that high maintenance to get offended! lol. You do realise you need to say what your first name is now though. Just out of politeness! Or are you are Julie too!!! (come on, nothing's gonna happen...)

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 04:45:02

I don't understand why Rudy is on the OP's list. It is a proper, real name and always has been. It is just having a resurgence of popularity right now, that is all. I don't see how that makes the parent 'egotistical'. confused

nooka Sun 23-Dec-12 04:58:28

I love my very unusual (but not unique) name. It does make me very identifiable though, which can be good or bad. I like not having to use my surname though smile

dh's name was the No1 in the year he was born and at university there seemed to be hordes of them. We aimed for something in between the two when naming our children, although ds's name totally exploded in popularity a year or two later.

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 05:11:37

My son is 13 and he is still one of only three people in the world as far as I can see, on Facebook with that name.

You could be forgiven for thinking then, that his name must be 'weird'. It is not weird at all - just very, very unusual. So far anyway, although I suspect there area few babies and toddlers knocking around with his name now.

The same thing happened with my DS2's middle name. Very very unusual for years (he's 17) and suddenly as common as muck. grin

There's no point everyone boasting about their "unusual", "one-in-a-million" my names a bit "non committal"....ooooo I'll give myself away if I post...just SAY what it is or just don't bloody mention it?........... sheesh...

<nosey>

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 06:04:40

I would never say my or my sons or DH's names on here.

We are far too easy to 'out'.

We live abroad, and I talk about the specific place all the time, and some of us have very uncommon names, so I'd give myself a way in an instant.

FellatioNelson Sun 23-Dec-12 06:04:54

away

I'm outed anyway so I don't care. My children's names range from ultra common (Olivia) to fairly unusual (Xavier, though that seems to be getting quite popular at least on MN). I have 5 dc btw.

It's annoying IMO if your child is one of three of the same name in a class but OTOH it's not great for your child if he introduces himself and people say 'What?' Also annoying if people constantly mispronounce a name.

<bland>

SledsImOn Sun 23-Dec-12 06:48:58

CaptainNancy - Nooo, I definitely haven't got five children!!! smile

It occurs to me reading this that it's so not about what you call them. I would never, ever announce their names with 'pride' or wait for an amazed response. I'm more likely to be apologetic and say 'well it's a bit odd but' or 'we sometimes regret it!'

It's just about whether I like the name and it feels right. Not showing off.

but there are parents who genuinely seem to believe their child is special - I don't think mine are, well not to anyone but me, and my family of course - yes they are great but so is every other child in their class. They're ALL unusual and unique and special.

I really would never want to make them 'stand out' either. Really I wouldn't. I want them to have friends, and to be happier than I have ever managed to be, and to be accepted.
There are a lot of unusual names in their classes and tbh I think a lot of parents do want to choose something that won't be replicated too often by other parents, well at least not among their school friends.

Some people have chosen lovely classic names that they clearly just love, and other people have chosen something more leftfield that they also love. But loving the names seems to be the strongest reason for choosing them, whether they are Zahra or Alfie-Jay.

It's part of the fun of having a baby, to choose something you just really like....like you choose what colour to paint your walls, or what type of coat to wear. There's nothing wrong with it.

SledsImOn Sun 23-Dec-12 06:50:34

P4B, I love the name Beatrice - we had one at primary school, it was considered very 'out there' and so was her family tbh! But ds has one in his class and I am hearing it more and every time I hear it I think 'hooray!' because it's such a beautiful name and deserves to be used.

I've no girls but if i did it'd be on the list smile

Aww, thanks Sleds. My youngest is Beatrice and she's just been diagnosed with cancer.

<inappropriate >
<slinks back to children's health thread>

RooneyMara Sun 23-Dec-12 07:18:00

Not inappropriate at all and I am so, so sorry. It must be all you can think of at the moment.

Take care x

RooneyMara Sun 23-Dec-12 07:19:52

sorry just name changed!

Snog Sun 23-Dec-12 08:01:09

I picked an unusual name for my dd which 13 years on is now in the top 10. If I had known that would happen I would have picked a different name. At leastt she is always the only one in her year with that name as we were a bit ahead of trend.
Friends have an Ava which again has gone from unusual to very popular.
You never can tell

lollilou Sun 23-Dec-12 08:08:00

I wanted to call my dd Hepzeba or failing that Delilah smile. Got vetoed on both though.

MrsDeVere Sun 23-Dec-12 08:10:39

I love Hepzibah and Delilah.
And Bethsheba

MrsDeVere Sun 23-Dec-12 08:14:07

People tend to name their children because they like the names.
Lots of leaping to conclusions about Hoxton Hipsters feverishly trying to come up with the grooviest name.

EnjoyResponsibly Sun 23-Dec-12 08:21:34

P4B, I've just thrown up a little prayer for your DD.

5dcsandallthelittlesantahats Sun 23-Dec-12 08:33:43

I don't even know what an unusual name is anymore! In my children's school I know two destinys and a merlin and yet when people heard I had called my youngest Rosemary they commented on what an unusual name it was.

EuroShagmore Sun 23-Dec-12 08:33:59

I was one of 5 [myname]'s in a class of 30 at school. I hated it (not least because when I wasn't paying attention and the teacher asked a question and then said [name?] I never knew if she was expecting an answer from me).

If I have children I would want to try to avoid a common name. There are no guarantee though. My mum picked something that was unusual at the time but became common very quickly.

marriedandwreathedinholly Sun 23-Dec-12 08:36:07

Perhaps I should have said I have a classical Greek and very unusual and hard to spell and pronounce name and would much have preferred a name like Helen then.

everlong Sun 23-Dec-12 08:42:51

I named my first son Oliver James 25 years ago and had a few hmm about his name! Although one was from wicked stepmother so I should have ignored that.

If I was naming my crew again I would be much braver.

CheerfulYank Sun 23-Dec-12 08:43:11

I know three Mavericks...oddly, two of them have the middle name Thomas. Also, I know a blended family who, when they had a child together, put everyone's initials together to make his name. It's...quite different.

DizzyHoneyBee Sun 23-Dec-12 08:43:14

P4B, praying for your DD. Lovely name too BTW.
Horrible time of year for it, just found out the same re my father. It shouldn't happen to children though. Hugs.

DizzyHoneyBee Sun 23-Dec-12 08:44:37

About 5 years ago my DS was at a group with a boy called Aubrey and his older brother Marmaduke.

tethersjinglebellend Sun 23-Dec-12 08:45:28

I live in a place like the OP (just near Hoxton, in fact wink) where you can't walk through the playground without treading on a Hercules; yet I still managed to make people do that fixed grin horror thing when I tell them DD2's name <proud>.

It's Shirley.

MrsDeVere Sun 23-Dec-12 08:52:01

dizzy my OH is called one of those names.
Quite an experience for him growing up in 79s London with a moniker like that.
And then joining the army..... grin

LynetteScavo Sun 23-Dec-12 08:54:38

I love names like Aubrey and Marmaduke, and other "brave" names.

I wanted to call DS1 Amadeus, but DH was having none of it.

There was an Amadeus two years below DS1 in Junior school - So I wouldn't have looked so original then, would I!

I also loved, loved Milo, but DH said no. There was a Milo in his reception class, and there are three in his year at high school.

He has a top ten, "classic" name, on DH's insistence. We rarely meet other boys with the same name. I guess it depends on the circles you mix in and the schools you choose.

TheUKGrinchImGluhweinkeller Sun 23-Dec-12 08:57:11

An unusual name that is actually a name is absolutely fine and doesn't say anything negative to me. Calling your child a word that isn't a name (unless you are from a cultural background where this is the norm) is when it's all about the parents trying to make a statement and not really thinking about the child growing through all the phases of their future lives bearing the name IMO. I always think children given a noun or adjective for a name will grow up to be the direct opposite of the name smile

TheUKGrinchImGluhweinkeller Sun 23-Dec-12 08:59:43

I know a 17 year old Adonis - and we live in a part of rural Germany where unusual or non German names are very unusual - poor lad is skinny and has very bad acne, but he has lovely manners and is liked by both his peers and other adults - he seems to get away with his name despite not really living up to it!

FlojoHoHoHo Sun 23-Dec-12 09:06:24

There are some great names in my DCs class. I don't think its so much of a class thing than the multicultural world we now live in.

5dcsandallthelittlesantahats Sun 23-Dec-12 09:19:58

Lynette - Aubrey is in my family for about 5 generations (thats how far i managed to get the tree back not sure before then!). My dad has it in his name and I really thought about calling one of my dds aubrianna (i actually love the name) to carry it on - but didnt.

theodorakisses Sun 23-Dec-12 09:25:36

I hated being Greek when I was growing up in a village. I used to tell my parents I wanted to be adopted by Eileen across the road, live with her and her family in their council house and change my name to Sarah. I hated my name but I am just in the process of changing it back after using my husband's name for 15 years. It does define you in some way, I'm not sure how important it is but I think it does have an effect.

theodorakisses Sun 23-Dec-12 09:26:07

Aubrianna is lovely btw

enjoy, dizzy, big thanks.

RooneyMara Sun 23-Dec-12 09:59:43

Tethers, I am glad you clarified as I remember when she was born and I couldn't work out if you had really called her that or were being silly!

It's a very sweet name and all due respect for using something so unusual. smile

I too got uncomfortable silences when I told people ds2's name. I was so embarrassed...I didn't realise people would dislike it so much.

I don't care with ds3, I absolutely love it, whatever anyone thinks.

RooneyMara Sun 23-Dec-12 10:01:01

(hope that didn't sound all wrong...I don't mean it's a silly name. It's lovely smile)

Befevered Sun 23-Dec-12 10:18:26

Oh, and here I stumble upon one if my pet peeves. I think I'm less irritated by the unusual names than I am about the weird spellings. I remember being berated for spelling a child's name Derek when it was actually "Derryck". WTF love. You live in Dublin, working class family in a working class traditional area and you get pissy at ME for assuming you hadn't saddled your kid with a regular name but with ridiculous spelling.

I have enough faith that my children will be unique in their own right. I don't need to force them to stand out by giving them odd names. And as we can all remember, there is nothing worse than standing out from the crowd when you're a kid. I don't know any kids who don't want to just be like everyone else.

Crouchendmumoftwo Sun 23-Dec-12 11:03:15

Befevered very funny - Derek is almost out there now!

Agree, kids really dont want to stand out and be picked on for being different. Vivienne Westwood and Malcolm MacLaren, perhaps one of the most eccentric and creative couples in the UK for their time and they called their son...Joe they didnt need to prove anything. I have given my kids simple names that I love that are easy to spell and understand and are lovely and warm. I wouldnt want to burden them with anything to show that I am creative and different. They have surnames that they will have to always spell out like I did which I found and find a huge pain in the ass. I have given them longer more flouncy middles names which they can call upon if they want to be a bit more out there.

It does make the world a more interesting place though the Brooklyns, Londons, Tytus's and Blazes of the world and we cant all the the same.

difficultpickle Sun 23-Dec-12 11:08:03

Ds has a very common name according to the Times name list, usually top 3. However he has always been the only one with his name in his year (and the only one in the entire nursery when he was younger). I chose it because I liked the name and didn't think about the fact that there could be loads of others with the same name. He doesn't need an usual name to stand out, that is what his personality is for.

NameGotLostInCyberspace Sun 23-Dec-12 11:08:05

Very unusual name here. Parents working class and not egotistical at all.
My 2 DC have unusual names too (non-english names). I hope they grow up to like having names that are different.
I have always been comfortable with my name being unusual. smile

Mu1berryBush Sun 23-Dec-12 11:20:06

I can't believe Jane is number 37. I've never met a child called Jane, or heard of a child called Jane.

Mu1berryBush Sun 23-Dec-12 11:23:24

/the adonis example is extreme but for me, i'd have been conscious that perhaps my children might seem ordinary to everybody but their parents, and that far from highlighting what's special about them, a very unusual name might have contrasted with their 'ordinariness' (to other people that is). Obviously nobody ever thinks their own children are just ordinary!

Crouchendmumoftwo Sun 23-Dec-12 11:39:03

I know a local boy with an outlandish name which I cant say as it is so unique. Whenever it is mentioned people go WHAAAAAT and laugh. It really is that weird. Unfortunately said boy is vastly overweight and plain. In a way the name brightens him up and gives him a bit a magic.

RooneyMara Sun 23-Dec-12 11:48:10

I wonder if they include middle names - that's the only way I can imagine Jane being that popular.

I always find it very sad when parents laugh at a child for having a 'special' name and somehow 'failing' to live up to it. Not saying you're laughing at him OP but some would...in the same way people laugh at parents having chosen something they think is unique and then finding it isn't.

I can't see the funny side, really. I feel sorry for them if that happens, but I can't really understand people wanting or expecting a unique name anyway.
It's not going to happen however unusual it is. And there's no point.

Not being one of five in a class - fair enough. Being different to EVERY other child in the city/country/world = nope.

RooneyMara Sun 23-Dec-12 11:50:03

'Obviously nobody ever thinks their own children are just ordinary!'

Mine are! I hope...how can people think their children are better than all the other children? It makes no sense at all. They are just children - albeit with lovely and different personalities. But all are equal in my mind.

Piemother Sun 23-Dec-12 11:58:03

Yabu. My dc have unusual names which are c meaningful and special to me.
I also have less common name though it does feature in soaps and its always a glam brassy type wink
Anyway the names grow on you. I was perplexed with dc1 best friends name but I got used to it. I can't imagine them being called james!

LalyRawr Sun 23-Dec-12 12:01:05

Ha, my name is made up! I am literally the only person in the world with my name.

...which means I constantly have to tell people how to spell/pronounce it.

Bunbaker Sun 23-Dec-12 12:15:31

"I think many of them were pissed off with being one of 3 Claires in their class at school and being known as Claire B throughout their childhood."

That is exactly the reason my mum gave my sister and me unusual names. They aren't what I consider "try too hard", cool and trendy names, but just unusual. Mine is Russian and sister's is Hebrew.

I have an uncommon name - it's Mari - I'm outing myself. It's far more common in Scotland, although spelt differently. I usually have to tell people how to pronounce it if they see it on paper first.

Usually people think i'm called Marie and that I'm trying to be different by spelling it 'Mari' !!

LynetteScavo Sun 23-Dec-12 12:32:09

RooneyMara- You haven't met my DC. They are indeed quite special. wink Which is why they can handle top 100 names.

Brugmansia Sun 23-Dec-12 12:33:45

We're currently deciding on names for soon to be born DC1. The names we like are unusual but still real names. Finding names we both can agree on has been difficult and it's ended up that the current number 1 option is the most unusual.

Being an unusual name does to an extent reflect me and DP, but not because of us deliberately trying to find something different. It's our taste and reflects some of what drew us to each other as a couple

Having thought about it I'm happy the names we're considering wouldn't be a burden for the child. My residual worries are more related to the judgmental comments you hear such as the OP. Thinking about these things though I've found a little judgmental voice in my head getting louder every time I hear of another baby called a very boring popular name, in silent retaliation.

LynetteScavo Sun 23-Dec-12 12:35:22

And my family have the ability to chose way out names, which twenty years later are in the top ten or twenty. Maybe we are just ahead of our time, but it's annoying to grow up with what's considered an unusual name, only for it to be really dull when you're an adult.

CuriousMama Sun 23-Dec-12 12:36:39

Dss have unusual names. Mainly as I'm too lazy to write surnames in clothing wink

They're not awful names though. And are used by others just not commonly. They're the only ones in their comp with those names though.

LynetteScavo Sun 23-Dec-12 13:29:38

CuriousMama, nobody thinks their own child has an awful name! grin

DontYouJingleMyChristingle Sun 23-Dec-12 14:36:05

YABU

Both my children have very unusual names, but then they are names from another culture given to them to reflect their diverse cultural heritage. Their surname is common in the UK, but they have it because some of their ancestors were owned by slave masters with that name. I do not think it is egotistical to give them a name that although unusual in this country gives them a link to their true ancestry.

We live in a country where mixed heritage children are becoming more common and therefore names unusual in our culture will be used.

foreverondiet Sun 23-Dec-12 14:39:41

I agree with other posters about advantages of having unique name in class.

DD has 3 Jonathans and DS has 2 Joshuas in his class.

Big difference though between something like Rudy and Lux or Ace. Rudy is clearly a name just a little unusual don't think Lux or Ace sound like names.

KitchenandJumble Sun 23-Dec-12 17:54:06

I do roll my eyes at people who say (or imply) that they are just so unusual and creative that they simply must give their children outlandish names. The celebrity-style Moxie Crimefighter or Pilot Inspektor type of names are just ridiculous, IMO. There is a couple in the US who have become rather well known as interior designers, they have a TV show, are written up in magazines a lot, etc. All their kids have slightly wacky names (e.g., Major and Bellamy), but at least most of them sound like actual names. But they saddled one child with the name Five. Their fifth child, evidently. How very clever and original. hmm Poor kid.

I have a slightly unusual name. It was not at all popular when I was born, though it gained in popularity in the subsequent years. Many people mispronounce it and almost invariably misspell it. I spent my entire childhood repeating my name over and over. It was quite tiresome. I've never liked my name and I would change it if I weren't too lazy.

So personally, I'm in favor of any name that prompts only a response of, "Oh, nice to meet you, [Name]." I'd cross off my list any name that people habitually respond to by saying, "What? What?"

IslaValargeone Sun 23-Dec-12 18:01:49

I have a dc with one of the names you mention, although unlike the children you know, my dc does stand out, is utterly fabulous and once met, never forgotten.
Am I egotistical? don't know, don't give a shit.

FryOneFatChristmasTurkey Sun 23-Dec-12 18:21:17

DD shares the same name as another girl in her form. in a form of about 20 children, there are:

2 Harriets
2 Laurens
2 Megans
2 Bens

So surnames/initials often needed to keep up with her day....grin

KitchenandJumble Sun 23-Dec-12 18:22:39

I'm assuming you're kidding, Isla?

Spuddybean Sun 23-Dec-12 18:27:27

i have an unusual name but i have a working class dad who loves greek mythology.

We have given ds an unusual long name, because we like the name and it can be abbreviated to a nice 1 syllable nn - as can mine.

I like the idea of having a 'Sunday best' name and an every day name. Like having a parlour for special occasions smile

IslaValargeone Sun 23-Dec-12 19:37:43

Kidding about which particular bit kitchen?

CheerfulYank Sun 23-Dec-12 19:47:57

Kitchen this article is an interesting look at how all of the Novogratz kiddos got their names. smile

They're certainly not for me...I have a Sam, and the one due in May will probably end up being a Sophie or a Jack, but I think they're nice and fit their family well.

MrsDeVere Sun 23-Dec-12 19:48:51

Why should isla be kidding? confused
It is entirely possible her dc is fabulous. As a mother it's perfectly reasonable she should believe this to be so.

Nice to hear people big up their children just for being them.

I am sure he or she is delightful.
As are my dcs and their preposterous names grin

IslaValargeone Sun 23-Dec-12 19:51:19

Way to go MrsDeVere!

lisad123 Sun 23-Dec-12 19:55:30

I have a boring name but once on MN someone posted they always wanted to be called "Lisa"! smile
DDs have unusual names, dd1 alot more so than dd2. She suits her name but many family members didn't like it when we named her. We still get comments now.
I'm not egotistical but I hate boring names, and didn't want DDs to be the 4th child with same name in their class.

KitchenandJumble Sun 23-Dec-12 19:56:20

Oh, I don't know. Of course it's lovely if someone thinks her child is fabulous. Most parents do, don't they? But to seriously say something like "My child is utterly fabulous and once met, never forgotten" struck me as a bit. . . well. . . lacking in perspective?

But I didn't mean anything horrible. No need to go on the attack. I'm full of the Xmas spirit. Peace on earth, goodwill, all that. smile

Revelsarethebest Sun 23-Dec-12 20:03:50

My daughter has an unusual first name, there are afew of them around but its unheard of to some people.

I named her something unusual as i wanted her to have a name that made her unique, were no one else in her class at school would have that name.

Smeggnog Sun 23-Dec-12 20:08:49

Just wanted to add my vote for Rudy being a great name.

DD's have 'boring' names. Just as well really, our surname is bloody weird! It's enough that they'll have to spell that out everyday for goodness knows how long, I think.

CheerfulYank Sun 23-Dec-12 20:18:43

My surname is the same as "journalist" who thinks she's just gawjus. And my son's name is the male counterpart to hers. Sigh.

auntevil Sun 23-Dec-12 20:20:48

We have an unusual surname. A commonly used name to go with it would look quite ridiculous.
I remember a girl in our street that was called Cleopatra Smith - I remember then thinking what an odd combo.
We didn't go weird and wacky, just delved back a generation or so and picked family names that seemed to go with the surname. They fit well together, and can, if wanted, be shortened.
No-one has ever said to my DCs that their names are pretentious and middle class. Sometimes people say that they are unusual and where do they come from. When we explain that they are family names, most people say how nice and that they like how old fashioned names have come back.

MrsDeVere Sun 23-Dec-12 20:28:20

No attack from me smile
I was being genuine, not snarky.

I am not pfb about my kids and they are expected to have manners and take their turn etc,
But I think they are utterly fabulous. I really do.

Nothing wrong with that.

threesypeesy Sun 23-Dec-12 20:38:10

After reading all this thread and posting.... Im now wanting to know everyones unusual names lol

IslaValargeone Sun 23-Dec-12 20:39:01

Kitchen, the Op made a point of saying that the children given the names she mentioned 'don't stand out in any particular way'
I was merely making the point that my dc does, why does that make me lack perspective?
Many people have something about them, charisma? a certain je ne sais quoi.
They often become great leaders, thinkers, great actors...whatever? and people who knew them before they achieved success, are often say that there was always something about them even in childhood.
Somebody had to be their mother, why can't I be?
I know it's not the done thing to big up your own child, but what the hell, I stand by what I said about my dc being fabulous!
Xmas spirit back atcha! grin

IslaValargeone Sun 23-Dec-12 20:42:53

I realise I have probably illustrated the egotistical element of OP by the bucket load grin

KitchenandJumble Sun 23-Dec-12 20:54:49

Pax to all. No offense intended on my part, and of course I have no doubt that nearly everyone thinks their own children are fabulous. That's as it should be. As long as parents aren't raising their children to think they are God's gift to humanity and everyone else must bow down before their superiority, I'm all in favour of a bit of parental partiality.

BTW, Mrs.DeVere, I just wanted to say that I generally really enjoy your posts. Happy holidays! smile

MrsBramStoker Sun 23-Dec-12 23:04:48

Agree 100 per cent

WhereMyMilk Sun 23-Dec-12 23:31:14

Hen

WhereMyMilk Sun 23-Dec-12 23:33:43

WTF!

Did not post that!

When we named DD, just named her as loved the name, it suited her and hadn't heard it much at that time. Since then it has become vvv common popular. In some ways, I do wish I'd picked something else, however, it is still a lovely name, and it does suit her...

LtXmasEve Mon 24-Dec-12 05:40:42

I think I confused people smile. WWW.yasni.co.uk shows the number of people currently living in UK with a certain name.

So when I said 'Jane' ranks as number 37, I didn't mean just babies, I mean including all the 40 and 50 year old Janes (I know a lot of Janes, so it was the first name that came to mind).

I think they use census statistics, and they seem to count under 18s also (can't be sure but I used a couple of very unusual children's names (again, people I know and they showed up)

Mu1berryBush Mon 24-Dec-12 06:07:58

ah right, I get it. So there are a lot of Janes out there but none of htem young.

TheUKGrinchImGluhweinkeller Mon 24-Dec-12 06:33:59

I guess the thing is the name shouldn't be the most striking thing about the child (never forgetting the child is going to be a potentially awkward, self concious teen and an adult in search of a job/ who has to introduce him or herself to clients at work one day).

No matter how fabulous you might think your own child is, there is no earthly way you can know ahead of time that your newborn is going to have the kind of personality allows them to be remembered for themselves as a person rather than that little mousy boy called LoneWolf or the shy, awkward little girl called Phoenix-Isis wink

LtXmasEve Mon 24-Dec-12 06:58:41

'Suiting' a name is a whole different thread though. I like unusual names, but vetoed one of my favourite names for DD, because it was unlikely it would 'fit' with her IYSWIM.

ie, I know a 'Bonnie' who was the most sullen child I'd ever met, and has turned into a really straight laced and grumpy adult. Or the 'Ebony' with white blonde hair grin

My neice with the wacky name is quite shy, but the name still suits her. Maybe because it doesn't bring any expectations to the table, it's just a name?

kirrinIsland Mon 24-Dec-12 07:07:09

There were 7 other girls in my year with my name - and it wasn't even the most popular name!
Thing is, my Mum hadn't heard of any others when she chose it and so thought it was quite unusual. It wasn't until we got to school age that it became clear she'd chosen one of the most popular names of that time.
I think that must happen a lot as names come into fashion.

I hated being so "ordinary" and wanted slightly more unusual, but not outlandish, names for my children. But DD1 is now 2 and I'm starting to suspect I've done just what my Mum did! Time will tell.......

Coralanne Mon 24-Dec-12 07:17:25

When my DD was born 28 years ago we gave her a name we liked. Didn't even know or care if it was popular or not.

Whenever my DM was asked what her new grandaughter's name was she said

"I can't remember but it's some kind of weed that lives at the bottom of the ssea"

Bonsoir Mon 24-Dec-12 09:57:05

I like unusual names. Providing they are attractive and spelled well.

MrsDeVere Mon 24-Dec-12 10:14:21

kitchen no offense taken at all smile
And thank you very much. You have a lovely Christmas too grin

TheShriekingHarpy Mon 24-Dec-12 10:37:27

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LucieMay Mon 24-Dec-12 12:10:51

My son has an unusual name in the sense that there are not many other people called his name, but it is a "proper" name- it is an old fashioned nickname used as his full name. It's easy to spell and easy to pronounce and everyone knows it despite its lack of use. We have a long winded foreign surname so I wouldn't have inflicted him with a difficult forename too, however, the thought of him being another David/Josh/Jacob is awful! I like that he is the only one with his name at his school, he's a special little chap and I don't want him to just fade into the background. And no, I'm not remotely middle class! Very common!

complexnumber Mon 24-Dec-12 12:54:43

Top 5 Boys names 1904:
WILLIAM
JOHN
GEORGE
THOMAS
ARTHUR

Top 5 Boys names 1994
THOMAS
JAMES
JACK
DANIEL
MATTHEW

Top 5 Girls names 1904
MARY
FLORENCE
DORIS
EDITH
DOROTHY

Top 5 Girls names 1994
REBECCA
LAUREN
JESSICA
CHARLOTTE
HANNAH

Sorry if this has already been posted.

Loads of interesting stuff on names within the UK has been published upon the Office of National Statistics:
baby names 2011

FellatioNelson Mon 24-Dec-12 13:23:59

I do roll my eyes at people who say (or imply) that they are just so unusual and creative that they simply must give their children outlandish names.

Does anyone actually say this? confused I don't think so. I think they just choose something they think sounds beautiful and that they don't already know one of, and pick it.

It's everyone else that assumes they do it because they are so unusual and creative that they simply must.

OHforDUCKSchristmasCake Mon 24-Dec-12 14:06:08

I have children with 'out there' middle names. One of them isnt even a name, its an object. One of them has a very popular first name, the other DC has a rare name but its becoming more and more popular.

Someone I know put on their fb last night that the middle name they chose for their unborn son is Will.iam (as in Black Eyed Peas, not a typo). I cringed, chuckled and judged all at the same time. Then DP chastised me and quite rightly reminded me what Id gived as our childrens middle names.

Come on then ducks! I wanna here your childs outlandish middle names!! <nosey as fuck> Why boast about them (unless you want someone to ask...ooo here I am <twirls, bows then falls arse over tit>

Spill!

hear

misterwife Sun 06-Jan-13 07:01:01

I have a stupid name, which I hate. I said to my DM that we were thinking of calling our DD Vita. She said 'No! She'll get lots of stick at school'. I gave my hypocrite DM shrift, of the very short type.

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