To think she was exaggerating

(93 Posts)
Bluebelleswood Thu 13-Dec-12 12:43:33

I've just had coffee,in Costa, with a friend and my friends friend. I have never met this person before.

On her arrival, she announced that she had a terrible migraine.

It didn't prevent her drinking a large, sweet christmas special coffee with whipped cream. She also described her symptoms at length, and was generally very voluble and animated.

As a migraine sufferer myself I find the only way I can cope with migraine is to go to bed in a very dark room.

Aibu to think that she was exaggerating.

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Thu 13-Dec-12 12:45:37

Why do you care hmm

ZeldaUpNorth Thu 13-Dec-12 12:45:59

I've only had 2 migraines in my life and both times i've had to lie down in a dark room, Dp, however, gets them regularly but still seems to be able to watch tv/play xbox. He just says his pain threshold is bigger than mine hmm

Bluebelleswood Thu 13-Dec-12 12:49:40

Did you mean to be so rude Strawberry?

I've been dying to say that to someone!


Anniegetyourgun Thu 13-Dec-12 12:52:49

I know, like the people who go out for the evening snuffling into a tissue and tell you they've got the 'flu.

MissCellania Thu 13-Dec-12 12:53:17

She had a bit of a headache added to a massive drama queen complex.

WinklyVersusTheZombies Thu 13-Dec-12 12:54:14

I've had 3 migraines, I've had to hide in the dark every time. I struggled to go to a friend's 30th birthday the day after one of them. There is no way I could have sat chatting in a coffee shop.

Jingleflobba Thu 13-Dec-12 12:54:18

I've only ever had one, and that was enough. DH is damn near paralysed by them sad

AnyaKnowIt Thu 13-Dec-12 12:57:47

I get mirgranes and could be able to sit in a coffee shop, my sight goes funny but could still see a screen.

Thistledew Thu 13-Dec-12 13:02:48

I get migraines. Sometimes I just have to go to sleep in a darkened room until it passes, but sometimes, if I manage to get enough painkillers into me before it develops properly, then I just get a dull ache and a general uncoordinated feeling. I find that having a caffeinated drink and sugary food helps with the symptoms as well. I do find it hard to concentrate and that I have to speak really carefully to avoid slurring my words. I feel really spaced out, but have no idea really how I appear to other people- perhaps I come across as being bubbly and chirpy because I am massively overcompensating.

juneybean Thu 13-Dec-12 13:05:01

I'd have been sick if I was in any way vertical with a migraine never mind quaffing caffeine (and I say that as someone who used to drink a lot of caffeine and could get withdrawal within hours!)

EldritchCleavage Thu 13-Dec-12 13:05:52

Symptoms vary. I get terrible sight disturbance and probably wouldn't be able to take the bright lights in a cafe. IF she was very chatty and 'up'-seeming it's unlikely that her migraine was that bad. But don't hold it against her-as she hadn't met you before, perhaps she was trying really hard not to put a damper on things, and overdid it a bit?

hygienequeen Thu 13-Dec-12 13:06:42

I thought i knew what a migraine was until i had one i.e it's not just a bad headache ... couldn't move, any light at all was blinding and struggled to not be sick, there's no way i could have left the house, luckily DH is very sympathetic and has been in the Country every time i've had one !

I have a friend who does similar " ooh i've a migraine now for FOUR days" and it does make me go hmm

WeWilsonAMerryChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 13:08:48

Bless, she had a bad headache with a touch of dramaitis. What she didn't have was a migraine. But if you've never had one, you'll never know what one is like.

I've had them since I was a child. I also get a lot of headaches.

If you've experienced both you can be in no doubt of the difference, migraines are completely debilitating whereas with a headache you can function.

My mother claims she gets migraines.... yet takes two paracetamol and goes on with her day. Unlike me who has to retreat to a dark room and lie very still to avoid vomiting with the pain.

I have friends that state they have a migraine on, love, you have a headache. If it was a real migraine the thought of the computer screen would make you wimper.

Pet hate of mine, gives real sufferers a bad name. (or at least the collegue that uses migraine as code for hangover).

youarewinning Thu 13-Dec-12 13:17:01

Depends - I get an 'aura' feeling before a migraine sets in and feel spaced out and drunk with a funny firework feeling in my head, like being in a very bright room - well actually I feel as if I'm not totally there! Usually I can take painkillers straightaway and staved it off for a few hours. If I sleep before it settles in fully I can avoid the debilitating effects.

However sometimes they come on so fast and strong and I cannot do anything about it and am literally confined to bed unable to move or even lift my head. I've been known to be unable to close my eyes before when it's been that bad.

Luckily I have not had one for 18 months and actually not having one has made me realise how bad they were.

sleepyhead Thu 13-Dec-12 13:17:28

I get visual migraines, often with no pain. I could probably stand meeting people in a coffee shop with one but I'd be very distracted and much prefer to be still somewhere dark and quiet.

I wouldn't call my migraines "terrible" though. I consider myself very lucky that they're so mild.

WeWilsonAMerryChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 13:19:29

Mild hijack, does anyone else get speech confusion? It happened to me once (I've only ever had 5 migraines) and it scared the shit out of me not to mention DH who thought I was having a stroke

scandy Thu 13-Dec-12 13:22:09

Does it matter what she called it? Lots of people claim they have the flu, when clearly it's just a mild cold. It doesn't bother me what they call it, it's a non-issue, no?

Illgetmycoat Thu 13-Dec-12 13:23:18

Blimey, I wouldn't drink a coffee if I had a migraine. The one time I did it, the flashing lights and blind spots went completely bonkers.

Loie159 Thu 13-Dec-12 13:27:46

TBH Migraine can come in many different form. My whole family have them and I have been hospitalised with mine twice as they thought I had a stroke. However I have never ever had a headache with mine. I get familial hemerplegic migraine (SP???)- which essentially means it starts off with me feeling a bit wonky and drunk and very thirsty. Then it prgresses to me not being able to speak - apart from slurring and then I get numb down one side of my body. So in answer to your questions - it is possible that she doesnt get the headache part of migraine...... However everyone I know who has them - whether they have headaches or not cant really stand loud noises / bright places. And Im guessing if she did have one then she would have been the quietest person there - struggling to get through - not the loudest! But they can take many forms - not only the traditional headaches. I think she probably was drama'ing a bit!

badtime Thu 13-Dec-12 13:28:21

I sometimes get migraines without the headache, and even that is horrendous (still get nausea, weird light effects and photosensitivity, weird physical symptoms and a sore neck). It is possible to get the reverse, and have a migraine headache without the other stuff. It is more likely this person has never had a migraine, and thinks it is another word for a headache.

uberalice Thu 13-Dec-12 13:29:02

I get migraines with only mild symptoms. Not bad enough to have to lie down in a darkened room, but definitely not just a headache.

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Thu 13-Dec-12 13:34:30

Um I don't know it depends really.

I get migraines and I see a neurologist about it. First time I went I took at chart of all my days of migrianes blush where I'd "graded" the pain from 0 (no pain) to 4 (debilitating).

He found it really useful to identify the pattern but what was interesting was for me "3" was an almost migraine because it was the same type of pain but less intense than the "4" which was a migraine. From my description he said both were migraines just different intensities.

Some of my migraines, after medication, I can just about carry on with my day although I can't concentrate on difficult things (DH knows not to ask stupid questions on these days, like what do you want for tea wink) and I try to get through the most important things at work quickly and then back home to bed.

Other migraines I can't get out of bed.

However, with a migraine I wouldn't go out the house unless strictly necessary (like for work - at one point I had migraines weekly and didn't want to keep calling in sick, had far too much work to do). I don't define a trip to a coffee shop as necessary probably because I hate coffee

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Thu 13-Dec-12 13:38:58

What do you mean by speech confusion wewilson ?

I can find it hard to articulate, but I always thought it's because of the pain meaning I can't concentrate well and that I live abroad so am always speaking a foreign language (which is just that much harder with a splitting headache!)

I do often find that talking to DH I give up half-way through cos it's too much effort to articulate.

Atthewelles Thu 13-Dec-12 13:42:46

YANBU. Some people really like to exaggerate illnesses - headaches are 'migraines', head colds are ''flu', slight food intolerances are 'allergies'.

I remember having a pretty major operation and people who had had minor procedures telling me they 'knew just how I felt' when I was recovering. [hmmm]

Atthewelles Thu 13-Dec-12 13:45:41

Does it matter what she called it? Lots of people claim they have the flu, when clearly it's just a mild cold. It doesn't bother me what they call it, it's a non-issue, no? Quote

Well it does matter really as people going around giving the impression that you can go our for coffee when you have a migraine make it difficult for genuine sufferers to be taken seriously when they need time off work or to cancel important appointments.

WeWilsonAMerryChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 13:45:44

Deck I couldn't find my words. So I was trying to phone DP to bring some drugs home for me - had just had the 'aura' thing - but was telling him to go to the hospital instead of the chemist. So in my head I was saying 'chemist' but what was coming out was 'hospital'. And then when I was trying to say 'that's funny, why did I just say chemist?' I said something like 'me no know, go to medicine.' He was in the car and absolutely freaked. Mind you, so did I - I was aware that what was coming out of my mouth wasn't what I wanted to say but had no way of correcting it.

desertgirl Thu 13-Dec-12 13:48:13

I get what have been diagnosed as migraines, but I am very reluctant to refer to them as such because they are not that bad, and there seems to be a widely held belief that something is only a migraine if it makes you need to lie down in a dark room. Mine are just visual disturbances (zig zag lines, mostly), sometimes with mild nausea, followed by an unpleasant but not debilitating headache. The neurologist reckoned they are migraines though....

whois Thu 13-Dec-12 13:48:19


Why do you care

If people didn't care about random stuff and random people then AIBU would be very quiet wouldn't it?

OP YANBU. I can't stand people who have 'flu for every mild cold, migrane for every headache etc

FryOneFatChristmasTurkey Thu 13-Dec-12 13:48:50

I know some migraines don't involve headaches, although DP's do (along with the sickness, nausea, sensitivity to lights and sound, visual disturbances, needing a dark room, etc, but not the aura, oddly enough).

In any case, whatever type of migraine, I can't see a sufferer wanting to spend time in a coffee shop. Sounds a bit dramatic to me wink

HeathRobinson Thu 13-Dec-12 13:50:05

Wilson - I get speech confusion, when I have a really bad migraine.
Really weird.

WeWilsonAMerryChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 13:51:13

Heath we should both go for coffee next time grin we can be confused at each other.

FryOneFatChristmasTurkey Thu 13-Dec-12 13:51:35

desertgirl if the neurologist says they are migraines, I'd listen to him and not everyone else. After all, they don't all have medical qualifications do they?

Oh lordy. Is that my colleague Bluebelleswood?! If you're in Edinburgh, I'd strongly suspect it was.... Seriously - 8 day 'migraines' on a monthly basis, although she can go to cinema, etc. Also constant 'flu'. Crikey.

jinglebellyalltheway Thu 13-Dec-12 13:57:26

for me it would depend on the stage of the migrane, mine last ages, 2 days sometimes! at the beginning or end I could go to costa, in the middle I'm bed bound in a darkened room!

desertgirl Thu 13-Dec-12 14:05:58

FryOne, there are a lot of people on this thread suggesting I shouldn't call them that, though, aren't there? Usually just say I'm not feeling too good; covers a multitude of sins!

IWipeArses Thu 13-Dec-12 14:11:08

I get 'migraines' very rarely, I feel a bit odd and my sight goes funny. No pain at all. I'd rather sit in a coffee shop with funny eyes than at home by myself with funny eyes.

crypes Thu 13-Dec-12 14:14:48

In my opinion there are alot of people who have never experienced a migraine and Praps think a severe tension headache is the same and sometimes they are brought on by glaring lights or computer screen.But those who have had migraine know they are not tension headaches . I suddenly become very subdued with a migraine knowing the terror of it to come.

FryOneFatChristmasTurkey Thu 13-Dec-12 14:15:03

Desertgirl The people on this thread are relating their own experiences. I looked into migraines after it became apparent that DP's were being reduced due to an AD he was prescribed.

There are a significant number of people who are diagnosed as having migraines but who do not get headaches. It is different to each person. You've been diagnosed as having migraines, so migraines you have smile

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange Thu 13-Dec-12 14:27:26

I get diagnosed migraines. They are horrible but variable. I could possibly go to a coffee shop sometimes. I could have tea because although caffeine can be a trigger it can also treat them. Would I be explaining my symptoms cheerily, probably not?

SantasNaughtySack Thu 13-Dec-12 14:32:27

I get visual migraines with no pain. I just go blind in my left eye and get pins and needles down the left side of my face and neck. They're unpleasant and make me feel a bit drunk, but I could manage coffee with friends without too much issue.

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Thu 13-Dec-12 14:34:38

Yes bluebell i did. Did YOU mean to hoik your judgy pants over something so utterly trivial?

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Thu 13-Dec-12 14:38:02

wewilson yup I muddle words up! I thought it was because of having to speak French but seems it's just another thing I can chalk up to the migraines (yay)

I've only ever met a handful of other people in RL with diagnosed migraines.

When other people say they've got a migraine I have loads of sympathy (obviously cos I suffer from them) and ask what meds they take etc. etc. I find it's helpful to chat with others to see what works for them. They then look at bit sheepish and say nothing, it's just a bit of a headache.

That does anoy me quite a bit actually, because it's one of the reasons I struggle into work as migraines are not seen as a real "illness" because every Tom, Dick and Harry says they have one when it's actually just a headache.

LRDtheFeministDude Thu 13-Dec-12 14:39:05

I get visual migraines too. I've been diagnosed so know that's what to call them, but I've had ordinary headaches that were way more painful.

She sounds pretty rude, though, to keep banging on about how she felt to someone she'd just met, it's boring. Mention it once to excuse why you're acting a bit oddly - fine. Yakking on - boring.

FryOneFatChristmasTurkey Thu 13-Dec-12 14:47:19

I don't get migraines. If I get a headache, then 99.9% of the time it'll be caused by either tension, or less often dehydration. I looked into migraines as DP, his mum, sister and sister's 3 (adult) kids all get them. So I wanted to keep an eye out in case it was in their family and our 2 DCs developed them.

Migraines often begin as vague stomach pains in children. Both DCs may be developing this sad they get unexplained stomach aches on occasion, and recently DD (aged 12) had a headache and complained of feeling dizzy with it. I'm really hoping it was a one-off as DP has suffered really badly with them.

scuzy Thu 13-Dec-12 14:50:10

anyone else picturing Katherine Tate's nan character where she roars in the clinic, one patient asks her to please keep it down she has a migraine, nan apologises profusely and when patient is called in to doc, nan turns around and says "headache! she's got fuckin headache! wara fuckin liberteeee"! love it.

WeWilsonAMerryChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 14:50:35

Deck, nope, it's the migraines grin. God they're evil!

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Thu 13-Dec-12 14:54:45

Yup migraines are fuckers.

The worst was when I was having weekly ones, then got pregnant so had to stop all medication. Severe morning sickness + migraines = horror.

I'm not looking forward to the next pregnancy : possible severe morning sickness + migraine + toddler = ....

Atthewelles Thu 13-Dec-12 15:03:11

Wow Strawberries Why all the aggression. Are we not allowed 'trivial' things on this forum??

FiercePanda Thu 13-Dec-12 15:09:21

I ended up in hospital having a lumbar puncture after my last migraine. Woke up screaming with an agonising headache, couldn't bear the light, I was vomiting, had a nosebleed(!). Trundled off to A&E, pumped full of morphine and given a CT scan, then admitted to a ward to have the lumbar puncture twelve hours after the onset of symptoms. The doctors had thought it was a bleed on my brain, but it was "just" a migraine, the most frightening, most painful experience of my life.

Your friend did not have a migraine, she had a sore head and a bad case of the OhWoeIsMe's. YANBU.

Thistledew Thu 13-Dec-12 15:09:29

It is not at all unusual for women to get migraines every month. Almost always get one on the first day of my period - and as I know it is coming I get the painkillers in first so usually just have the spaced out feeling I described above. My friend gets them for about 7 days a month. She is currently under the care of a specialist to try and find a cure, as she simply can't take to a darkened room for a week each month or she would lose her job and her children would have to go into care.

EldritchCleavage Thu 13-Dec-12 15:10:16

Mine vary in intensity. At worst (thankfully rare) they mean 3 days in bed in the dark, not moving, on constant painkillers and unable to eat much. At best, they come on (just before my period) with severe visual disturbance, slight dizziness and nausea but not much pain. Provided I take Migraleve in time, then close my eyes and rest for up to an hour or so, I can stave these off. They're all migraines though and my GP told me to stop taking the pill because of them. Sadly the mild ones are getting more frequent.

FiercePanda Thu 13-Dec-12 15:11:12

As a disclaimer - I didn't know the symptoms (visual aura, pins and needles etc) could come on without the headache. Everyday's a school day on MN!

bamboobutton Thu 13-Dec-12 15:11:15


I get migraines, sometimes with aura sometimes without, once the flashing has gone i can usually manage to get up and about.

I once had one start about 20 minutes before i had to be at the church for my wedding, chugged down enough painkillers to stop the flashing but still managed to stagger down the aisle. Left the reception really early though.

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Thu 13-Dec-12 15:24:00

Oh bamboo on your wedding day? sad

That was my real fear because stress sets off my migraines.

Fortunately the whole thing went really smoothly (helped that we'd planned a very simple day so not much could go wrong IYSWIM) and I didn't get a migraine.

My mum wasnt so lucky though sad She got her first (and last) migraine - she was so stressed because she'd planned a lovely surprise for us and needed to get everyone onboard.

She was always sympathetic to my migraines but is doubly so now smile

youarewinning Thu 13-Dec-12 15:24:05

Just something! My GP said as I could 'cope' with the migraines using paracetamol, ibruforten, heat wrap on neck and cold flannel on head whilst collapsed on floor! she ddn't want to prescribe migraine pills as they can make you feel worse for days after and I can usually sleep mine off. However - she suggested taking motillium (domperidone) with the paracetamol/ ibruprofen as it gets it into the system quicker. So far doing this at first sign of aura has kept them at bay for 18 months and although I still get a banging head a few hours later I'm still able to walk and just get an early night.

Bluebelleswood Thu 13-Dec-12 15:44:34

You hit the nail on the head!

I would hate my colleagues to think that when I am absent from work with a migraine (maybe once a year) that the symptoms are so mild.

Strawberries I love you! You are such a cheeky tease, purposely missing the point. You have cheered me up no end.

ShamyFarrahCooper Thu 13-Dec-12 15:48:28

I've got a migraine today. Recently I've been getting aura migraines which is horrid. I lose my vision for 20 mins to flashing lights, zig lags and blurriness then on comes the worst pain I've ever had.
Today however, I managed to catch it in time with tablets so I've reduced the pain. I'm still a bit nauseous and still worked, just the pain is manageable. I still have a migraine (what is classed as a migraine) but have been managing my pain.

ShamyFarrahCooper Thu 13-Dec-12 15:55:59

Oh and mine onset mostly through a neck injury. I was prescribed amitriptyline a couple of years back after having all scans etc to make sure nothing sinister. I may need to get it again if this continues, although I'm trying sumatriptan which can be bought over the counter.

Not all things that CAN work on migraines WILL work for each person. The tongue melts did nothing for me.

TheCortanaThatStoleChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 15:59:39

"The worst was when I was having weekly ones, then got pregnant so had to stop all medication. Severe morning sickness + migraines = horror."

Deck, I know you're better now but I want to come hug you, stroke your head and say there there. You must be hard as nails! Only good thing about pregnancy for me was that the migraines stopped, HG kicked in but I wouldn't have made the full nine month suffering both. Mine are hormonal, once a month bang on the dot.

PrincessScrumpy Thu 13-Dec-12 16:03:39

I once lost vision in a part of my eye. Felt fine but was scary. I went to an emergency opticians app who laughed and said it was a migraine and I might get headache later. My head was fuzzy that evening but not like other migraines i've had so I guess everyone is different. Most people who us the m word mean bad head ache.

ShamyFarrahCooper Thu 13-Dec-12 16:05:41

I don't know about that. I only know of two other people who get migraines, or even say they have them. Everyone else says headache.

complexnumber Thu 13-Dec-12 16:17:50

It fucks me off when people think their migraine is the only proper way to have a migraine. Our whole family on both sides gets them and we are all different. I wouldn't dream of thinking I knew what someone was suffering from better than they did.

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Thu 13-Dec-12 16:23:37

Aw Cortana that is so nice thank you thanks

It was awful but the migraines did stop at 5 months (neurologist had said 3 months but hey, guess I was unlucky) and fortunately didn't come back straight away after the birth (again the neurologist predicted wrongly!).

I don't get as many now (more like every 3-4 weeks), but am still BF so can't take any strong medication. Am hoping that when I stop BF they won't come back as badly as before <fingers crossed>

I did refuse to go back onto the pill though just in case so that might have helped (although stopping the pill before has never helped).

My aunt suffers terribly and apparently what worked for her was going through the menopause shock

Enfyshedd Thu 13-Dec-12 16:30:45

DP gets visual migraines when he's run down - he can't take any painkillers to help because he's really sensitive to meds and trips out even on one paracetamol.

I get "normal" migraines, normally when I'm run down (lot less often since I left ExP) - "normal" symptoms for me are a pain like a jack hammer slowly moving across my skull and feeling as if I'm really drunk (only time I've come close to that feeling was after an hour of gas & air during labour). Extreme symptoms have included half of my face feeling numb and pins & needles down my arm. I've even woken up in the middle of the night with the pain. I've tried Imigram but I didn't like the sleepy side effect, so I usually knock back a couple of co-codamol, put on a relaxing cd and try to get some sleep. Once I feel safe enough to leave the house without falling over, I go for a walk for some fresh air but will find a friend just in case I feel like keeling over - before now, that's meant that I've sat in a shop for an afternoon and helped deal with customers, but at least I've felt safe.

Don't think I would have gone for a large sweet coffee though...

Jojobells1986 Thu 13-Dec-12 16:39:15

I used to get them maybe every other month. It never occurred to me that they might be hormonal but now that I think about it I did often get them at around AF time. I've only had one or two since becoming pg with DC1 who's 14 months now! Weird!

I used to feel really pathetic that I'd have to go to bed as soon as I felt one coming on, even if I didn't feel too bad at that moment. I learnt very quickly that it wouldn't get too bad if I could get to sleep before the headache kicked in - once it did there was no chance of sleeping it off! The only time I remember deliberately not going to bed was on exam day at uni. I ended up in the campus health centre because my friends escorted me there making sure I could get a letter to excuse me & then had to get myself home. I just vaguely remember wandering along the road with the world flickering like the effect they use on TV when someone's been drugged in a club! No memory of getting home but thankfully I woke up in my bed when my friend came to check on me about 4 hours later! confused

StinkyWicket Thu 13-Dec-12 16:41:34

I was so concerned that my really bad headaches (they are undiagnosed as migraines but I think I may have to speak with a doc about them - basically headaches so bad I can't function or speak properly and often just have to lie in a cool dark room whimpering to myself) would get worse during pregnancy, but actually they disappeared for a while.

During my second pregnancy I did have a never-ending headache which paracetamol could keep at bay, it was linked to anaemia.

OP, I might be judgy but it would annoy me too! A friend I work with - she's lovely - but she insists she has a migraine sometimes. It's never enough for her to even take any painkillers for it.

I've just googled it, and all definitions (ok, probably not all, but the first four or 5 definitions at least) define it as '..a chronic disorder characterized by recurrent moderate to severe headaches often in association with a number of autonomic nervous system symptoms'. I didn't know you could get them without the headache part.

LadyFlumpalot Thu 13-Dec-12 17:01:17

I've had a few. Only one (touch wood) with debilitating pain. The first one was aura only and I was so scared, I thought I was losing my sight.

I tend to get a blind spot then flashy lines, usually just in one eye. Then comes dizziness, nausea and I start slurring my speech. Then I get the headache. Usually it's bearable, but once - oh my... I seriously thought I was dying.

MyLittleAprilSunshine Thu 13-Dec-12 17:05:23

I have suffered with migraines on and off since hitting puberty and you can tell the difference from a normal headache which I do get as well (I go quiet, my head hurts a bit and sometimes feel slightly nauseous) and having a migraine (I need to be in the dark, quite a cool room, with pretty much no light and no sound snad I could easily vomit, I also feel dizzy).

I couldn't sit and smile and make jokes in a coffee shop, but perhaps she's just great at hiding it.

jinglebellyalltheway Thu 13-Dec-12 17:13:54

"I get visual migraines with no pain. I just go blind in my left eye and get pins and needles down the left side of my face and neck. They're unpleasant and make me feel a bit drunk, but I could manage coffee with friends without too much issue"

mine are just like that on day one, my sight goes in one eye but no pain, and I never get any verbal disturbances at any point although during day 2 in bed I don't want to talk

but when its the visual stuff I am otherwise fine. I can hold a conversation and other than driving do most things

I do think that people are compeditive about their migraines though

jinglebellyalltheway Thu 13-Dec-12 17:16:02

TMI oh and at some point before the one eyed blindness stage, I'll sometimes just out of the blue bring back up my lunch totally undigested - no stomach juices in it at all

there can be so many different stages to a migrane other than the severe headache bit

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Thu 13-Dec-12 17:20:46

My mum and dad get terrible flu ... Uh no it's a cold?

Someone at work does the migraines thing, but she can sit there, in artificial light, on a pc, eating and talking, that's a headache ... Not a migraine!

jinglebellyalltheway Thu 13-Dec-12 17:22:52

QOD I can finish my shift at work in the early stages of my migranes. In the later stages I would actually shoot my own head off to make it stop if I had a gun and cannot do anything but dark room

but I can and have finished work first

slatternlymother Thu 13-Dec-12 17:25:04

Strawberries I love you! You are such a cheeky tease, purposely missing the point. You have cheered me up no end

grin and I love YOU op!

YANBU btw. I don't suffer, but DH gets them about once a year. He can barely speak more than a few words at a time, at a whisper. It frightens me every time, I get scared and think he's going to die or something sad

Fakebook Thu 13-Dec-12 17:40:08

Yanbu. When I get migraines I feel sick, my left eye feels like its about to pop out and no paracetamol or ibuprofen touches it. I have to just lay very very still in the dark with a pillow fluffed up under my neck to get a bit of relief. It starts normally during the night and I wake up with it and it stays all day. The worse time it happened about 2 years ago I vomited twice and fainted whilst trying to get up the stairs.

I hate people trying to pass off a minor headache as a migraine. Arseholes.

FryOneFatChristmasTurkey Fri 14-Dec-12 09:06:06

There's an anti depressant, Amytriptyline, that has been shown to reduce the number and severity of migraines. DP is on this one and it is working for him.

Fakebook migraines do not always involve headaches, but I agree that people with ordinary headaches should not call them migraines.

cory Fri 14-Dec-12 09:17:32

Dd sometimes goes through a stage in her migraines (before she is sick and helpless) when she is completely hyper, in a very unhealthy way, but I imagine to people who don't know her she could come across as bright and chatty.

Later on, she gets speech confusion (as in being unable to remember any words at all) and excruciating pain.

Also worth remembering that some people react to pain and fear by bubbly chattiness. I do, it's a way of keeping yourself under control. I had 40 minutes surgery last year and the local anaesthetic didn't take, so felt every twinge: I somehow got into my head that it was my job to make cheerful conversation with the doctor throughout so she wouldn't get too tired.

neverputasockinatoaster Fri 14-Dec-12 11:23:35

My mum gets migraines - hers make her feel sick and she feels like she needs to poke out her own eye.

If she doesn't take her meds when she feels one comimg on she is wiped out for about 3 days. However, if she takes her pills - Zomig I think they are called, as soon as she gets 'that' feeling then she is left with a headache and can function normally. Paracetemol etc don't touch hers as her stomach shuts down.

I've had one. I wanted to hide in a darkened room and not see anyone or anything.

ShamyFarrahCooper Fri 14-Dec-12 11:29:02

QOD that's really unfair. We can't all just take off from work when we get a migraine. I've had 3 this week. I NEED to work. It's about managing the pain, doing what works.
People suffer all sorts of illnesses and go about their jobs/lives. It's not always possible to just take to bed.

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Fri 14-Dec-12 16:08:47

I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about her and how she calls every headache a migraine and also about how my mum and dad call every cold "the flu"

I was joining in on a thread, its not directed at you, calm down.

SamuelWestsMistress Fri 14-Dec-12 16:21:04

I've suffered from silent migraines in the past. No pain at all just funny vision for about twenty minutes. No way would that stop me enjoying a fancy coffee if I'd been looking forward to it!

tunnocksteacake Fri 14-Dec-12 16:27:46

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SledYuleCated Fri 14-Dec-12 16:30:50

Sounds like my old housemate. I had flu and had just about managed to shuffle from my bed to the loo, had to stop for a rest on the settee on the way back. He came through and announced he had it too, but was going to go and play cricket because exercise is good for you when your ill.

Yes, when you have a cold angry

Crinkle77 Fri 14-Dec-12 16:43:42

If she did have a migraine surely caffeine would be the last thing you would drink?

riverboat Fri 14-Dec-12 17:40:12

Until quite recently I thought migraine was just a word for a really bad headache. Until I met a regular migraine suffererer and realised that it is something else completely. So maybe your friend's friend is just confused re the terminology, like I was.

kerala Fri 14-Dec-12 17:59:05

Oh its like the flu thing - "I had flu yesterday but feel fine today" you didnt have flu then did you you muppet. I had proper flu I actually thought I was going to die blush I couldnt move for a week getting to the loo was a huge effort and it took about a month until I felt normal again.

jinglebellyalltheway Fri 14-Dec-12 18:06:22

I've read that if its early enough in the migrane, caffine can actually help, its regular caffine that makes them worse?

and QOD when I was first diagnosed with migranes it had nothing to do with headaches at all.. it was through going to the eye A&E because my eye wasn't working... which I went to at the end of my shift at work.. which I'd finished in artificial light! Migranes do all kinds of things to different parts of your body, maybe your arm, maybe your eye, maybe your digestive system (can stop peristalsis) etc. its not always a photosensitive headache for everyone

kiwigirl42 Fri 14-Dec-12 18:06:27

I get 4 to 7 days of migraine per week - its destroyed my life. I've had to give up work and are virtually house bound. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I spend up to 6 days in bed with just one migraine sometimes, unable to lie down due to pain, then might have one day off recovering before the next one kicks in. I have anti sickness injections to use at home if I can't stop vomiting and have to take morphine the pain is so horrific. Its been 5 yrs now since my migraines went from monthly to almost daily. The saddest thing is that DS (13) can't remember me being well sad
I've tried almost every drug/ complementary therapy etc available and have had heart surgery among other things - on menopause inducing injections prior to hysterectomy to see if that helps now.
Saying that, I'm quite happy in myself! I'm used to my 'new life' and don't look further than tomorrow. I have my family, my pets and generally keep on top of things.

Migraine is not just a headache.

kerala Fri 14-Dec-12 18:07:41

That sounds dreadful you poor thing.

kiwigirl42 Fri 14-Dec-12 18:31:59

My main issue is boredom! Thank goodness for podcasts and my ipad (and my wonderful DH who does everything a lot of the time and never makes me feel guilty)

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Sat 15-Dec-12 15:45:18

I do know what a migraine is sigh ... I was stating about yawn woman at work who roll eyes says every head ache is a migraine.

I'm not implying that people who have migraines blah blah blah

I do "suffer" purely optical migraines myself, which thankfully don't even lead to a headache ... Just visual disturbance ...

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