Can i take a 8-10 week old baby to a concert?

(81 Posts)
angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 09:40:02

Please excuse the naivety of a first-time mum!

I am due on 12th April, and there is a concert i would kill to love to go to on 20th June. Obviously I do not know exactly when i'll give birth, but if she arrives between due date and two weeks over, she'll be between 8-10 weeks

My DH says we cannot take a baby that age to a concert. Is he right? I saw a baby at a Rugby match in a big stadium once, it was days old, and slept all through. Although a rock concert will be louder. I was thinking a sling and some ear muffs/hat?!

Am I stupid and idiotic BU?

Opinions of experienced mums appreciated. I hope to be EBF. My mum is close by and could babysit but I think she'll be too young to be away from me, and me from her smile

HairyGrotter Thu 13-Dec-12 09:40:53

What is the concert? I'll need to know that before I can possibly comment further grin

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 09:41:28

Should say we'll be seated, not in the mosh pit!

Would they even let us in? Would other concert goers hate me? grin

SirSugar Thu 13-Dec-12 09:41:44

Don't be silly; let your mum baby sit

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 09:42:07

Hi Hairy,

Bruce Springsteen!

She already dances when his songs are playing wink

HairyGrotter Thu 13-Dec-12 09:42:15

I wouldn't hate you for going with a baby, but then I'd be in the pit, opening that fucker right up!

You would need proper ear defenders. I wouldn't do it, because of concerns about her hearing.

MrsKeithRichards Thu 13-Dec-12 09:45:04

No and I'm one of those entitled people that take my baby anywhere but not to a stadium gig.

ArseBandit Thu 13-Dec-12 09:45:58

When my youngest was 5 weeks old I went to see Crosby Stills and Nash. However, it was one of those sit on the grass, picnic affairs with most people over the age of 40, and not really that loud. She slept in a sling the whole time, and barely anyone noticed I even had a baby with me. Not sure about a Springsteen concert though, might be a bit loud'?

KatAndKit Thu 13-Dec-12 09:48:23

No you can't go with a baby. Other people have paid to listen to the concert not listen to a baby.
A rugby match is different - the baby does not impede their view of the match in any way. And is also a daytime event for people of all ages not an evening event for adults.
Sorry but you can't do everything you want when you have a baby. If you hope to ebf then I would also say it is a bit too early. If you are seated then it is hard to get up and walk around with the sling on to settle the baby.

I took my baby to a beer festival at 9 weeks old in a sling and it was fine. But I think an event where the other people have paid to listen to something is different. And I would be surprised if the venue allowed it anyway.

SirSugar Thu 13-Dec-12 09:50:35

Average decibel level at rock concert is approx 115 decibels, to your baby this would be like a massive aeroplane taking off next to him/her - Don't even think about doing it

Personally no, I dont think you should take the baby.

I suspect once your pfb is here, you won't want to anyway smile

Rhinestone Thu 13-Dec-12 09:51:51

No you can't, use your common sense.

You'll damage your baby's hearing for a start. Plus totally unreasonable and selfish to other people. What if she screams all the way through?

scandy Thu 13-Dec-12 09:51:53

I have a 7 week old and I would not take him to a concert. Yes it would be too loud for him, and also he would likely cry throughout thus thoroughly spoiling the fun for everyone. I would however not have a problem with my mum or mother in law babysitting for the evening. That's depending on how you feed him though - if you are exclusively breastfeeding you will have to express enough to last him through the evening which may not be possible.

2rebecca Thu 13-Dec-12 09:52:38

No, it will be no fun for anyone, I agree the noise of a rock concert will ust make her wail. Either get a babysitter or give your ticket to a friend/ relative.

threesocksfullofchocs Thu 13-Dec-12 09:52:59

why would you want to?
poor baby

Please dont. Its too soon, for baby and you. Too loud. Too crowded.

Bruce was here last year. Im sure he will be back again next year!

I guarantee that when you have your baby in your arms you wont care about going anymore! smile

ChocolateCoins Thu 13-Dec-12 09:58:31

Are you actually crazy? confused

Poor baby. angry

bradywasmyfavouritewiseman Thu 13-Dec-12 09:59:35

To be honest OP. Sometimes, when you become a parent, wanting to do something isn't the priority.

this is a bad idea because of the potential damage to your babies ears, chance are baby won't keep ear muffs on and they won't do much sound protection. IF baby sleeps its all good, IF baby doesn't sleep you will end up with alot of pissed off people and probably need to leave, wasting your money and other peoples experience.

Babies are poratble and can go pretty much anywhere. But this is one of the places that is not best for your baby.

MrsKeithRichards Thu 13-Dec-12 10:00:33

Oh and yabu for waiting to see Bruce!

Rindercella Thu 13-Dec-12 10:02:09

I wouldn't personally. I probably wouldn't mind too much if I saw someone with a baby there although I might judge them smile

Leave your baby with your Mum. The baby will be a couple of months old by then and you could always express some milk if you are still ebf.

Good luck. Enjoy your baby and enjoy going to see The Boss (but not both together) grin

Rindercella Thu 13-Dec-12 10:04:44

Just remembered. I went to see Paul Weller at the Albert Hall when DD2 was about 2 months old. There is no way on earth I would have taken her. But I enjoyed it so much - it was great to get out for a few hours. By the time I got home though, my boobs were like Pamela Anderson's!

Tollund Thu 13-Dec-12 10:05:59

I was going to take my very clingy 4 month old to a Metallica gig. The venue were fine with babes in arms and I thought with ear protection it might be alright. Fortunately managed to get a babysitter and went without, thank god! It was the loudest (and most amazing) gig ever and there's no way he would have coped, it would have been mental. As it was we ended up having to leave early anyway and missed half the bloody encore because he just wouldn't settle for the sitter. Am not bitter or anything... wink

Viviennemary Thu 13-Dec-12 10:07:11

Oh no. Another baby glued to the hip person and nobody else's feelings taken into account. No you are not being reasonable. You are not being even remotely sensible.

TwitchyTail Thu 13-Dec-12 10:08:15

Personally I'd consider it an absolute no, because of the risk to the baby's hearing, never even mind the effect on other people. Concerts are ridiculously loud.

PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah Thu 13-Dec-12 10:08:25

Mine's 3.5 weeks old and there's no way i could stay awake through a gig - sleep is precious!

Many babies that age get colic and scream inconsolably all evening.

Breast feeding is hard work on a squishy sofa, let alone a hard chair.

Plus the risk of hearing damage and everything else the others have said.

tempnameswap Thu 13-Dec-12 10:11:57

No need to apologise OP - lots of things are confusing about having your first and try and ignore the people saying you are mad for asking.

I suspect when you have had her, you will feel differently and the answer will be obvious. They are fairly portable at stage but not IMHO to that sort of event. Much too loud and chaotic and you will probably spend the entire time either feeding her, jiggling her and/or worrying. You may or may not feel ready to leave her with someone, but it is hard to tell before the event.

FWIW I had all sorts of plans for the early weeks before I had dc1 - art courses, bread making, concerts.... When the maelstrom arrived, they fell by the wayside!

aufaniae Thu 13-Dec-12 10:13:14

Bruce Springsteen is amazing in concert! I've seen him three times smile

I would take a young baby to a concert if:

- it wasn't going to be incredibly loud
- I knew we could sit somewhere (at the back?) where we could make a quick exit if needs be. (If your baby hates it, s/he will make it known, and - forgetting the needs of the other concert goers for a minute, you won't want to see her/him suffer)
- it was somewhere I knew we could comfortably breastfeed (if that's what you intend to do)

None of these apply to a Bruce Springsteen concert, sorry! sad
You will get another chance to see him another time I imagine. It's not the end of the world.

But bringing your baby will most likely be a distaster for all concerned! And could easily damage his/her hearing.

At 8 days, many mums haven't even ventured out of the house to the shops yet. Having a baby with you brings up all sorts of logistical problems, it takes a bit of getting used to!

And unless you have a planned CS, your baby might only be a couple of days old by the concert, if s/he is overdue!

YouOldTinsellySlag Thu 13-Dec-12 10:13:15

No, don't do it.

I took my 9 week old to a cinema and the film was so loud his entire body vibrated. I took him out about two minutes later.

A Springsteen concert will be much louder. Not only will you need ear defenders, but I'm guessing you won't get full enjoyment out of it if you have a baby to concentrate on. Leave them with your Mum.

However, wait until he/she is born as you might not want to leave them at all!

But definitely don't take your baby to a loud gig.

aufaniae Thu 13-Dec-12 10:15:51

Ooh, the cinema! You can take babies to mum and baby screenings though!

Check out your local cinema. Mum and baby screenings are usually in the morning, they have the volume not so loud, the lights not completely out, and lots of other mums and babies who IME generally sleep or gurgle their way through the film!

Is your baby still little YouOldTinsellySlag? Mum and baby screening are the way forward!

Idlegirl83 Thu 13-Dec-12 10:17:12

I would say no, its not a good idea for poor baby and you also wont enjoy it as having your first baby completely knocks you for six (at least it did me) and youll be worrying about baby too much to properly enjoy yourself.

Far better to let your mum babysit and enjoy a few hours feeling like your pre-baby self again.

(but you are YANBU for asking - having a new baby is confusing stuff!)

ThreeWheelsGood Thu 13-Dec-12 10:17:36

I have a 7 week old - my first - and, noise issues aside, I really don't feel like going to a concert right now. Feeling sleep deprived, plus I'm breastfeeding so wouldn't want to worry about whether I'd be able to sit comfortably and do it there, let alone how best to transport the baby (she loves the pram but it's massive, we've tried a carrier with mixed success). Sadly you'll have to let this one pass, being mum takes priority!

YouOldTinsellySlag Thu 13-Dec-12 10:17:58

No he's 3 now, so he goes to kids showings with us.

The film I took him to was actually a kids matinee but was deafeningly loud so we sat in the lobby and had a coffee and a cuddle whilst DH and DS1 finished watching it.

AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow Thu 13-Dec-12 10:21:32

Ah bless ya, either leavt it with Mum,if old enough, or go next year! he won't stop touring til he drops, and like others have said, you probably won't even feel like it once the baby's actually here, but you're not mad for asking, that's what Mn is here for smile Good luck with the new baby

KittieCat Thu 13-Dec-12 10:23:06

We took DS to see Pulp in Hyde Park. He was about 7 months. I booked this before I had him and might not have done so otherwise. We bought ear defenders and he was fine and it was enjoyable all round.

All that said, I deffo wouldn't be happy taking a younger baby to an indoor gig.

No

A family Christmas concert maybe.

A loud concert were people have paid stupid prices to get in if your baby screams for two hours and which could damage babies hearing no.

And I say that as someone who has hearing loss as a result of concerts between age 11 and 18.

I blame Take That

mycatlikestwiglets Thu 13-Dec-12 10:31:42

You probably won't actually want to go once your PFB arrives, but there's no real issue with taking a baby to a concert provided you have ear defenders - you could speak to the venue about what they recommend because some people do take babies. DH was at the Jingle Bell ball in the O2 at the weekend and someone in his box had a small baby with them with ear defenders on. It wasn't a problem for any of them. That said, it's fairly common for very young babies to be unsettled in the evening and if you have one of those, the last thing you'll want is to go out.

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 10:35:08

A no then!

Thank you, that's very helpful. I'll give it a miss, as not sure how i'll feel about leaving her.

Good job i've already seen him once or four times and this actual set at IOW in May

Makes perfect sense, i wouldn't want to damage her hearing, and I'd take her out if he was screaming, so might miss it all anyway.

Thanks once again thanks

janey68 Thu 13-Dec-12 10:37:49

No I wouldnt, for all of the above mentioned reasons... Too loud, if your baby screams non stop (and you have no idea yet what your baby will be like- placid/ colicky/ whingy) then if I was sat next to you I would be seriously pissed off.
Where would you do nappy changes? What if you're not near toilet and changing facilities? < please don't come back and say youd be one of those entitled people who changes their baby anywhere because their baby's shit smells of roses..>

Basically, a stadium concert is a hugely expensive special event. People go Because they want that experience. I would either accept that you need to wait longer and see bruce a another time. Or decide to go, organise a babysitter and go without baby.

We went to a concert when dd1 was around 8 weeks- it had been booked before I was pg and I really wanted to go, so we got a babysitter and I spent several evenings expressing enough milk for her. As someone said upthread, I came home with a rock hard chest so it wasn't entirely comfortable but far better than trying to bring along a little baby and ending up risking missing parts of the concert because she was crying or needed changing.

We can forgive you your naivety as your baby hasn't arrived yet! But honestly- don't even think about seriously trying this.

janey68 Thu 13-Dec-12 10:38:43

X post there- glad you've seen sense!

FlatFacedArmy Thu 13-Dec-12 10:49:23

I went to Florence and the Machine in the O2 last week, when DS was 8 weeks old. We had booked it when I was pregnant, having tried and failed to get tickets to see her many times over the last two years.

I wasn't sure how I'd feel about leaving him, but my very oldest and closest friend had offered well in advance to babysit (I have no family nearby) and is great with babies. In the end, we only went for the main set, I was fine, and she sent me loads of picture messages mostly of DS asleep. She had come and spent a couple of afternoons with me and DS before starting a new job, and I was comfortable that he'd be fine with her. DS is also very sociable and a chilled out baby, so no worries on that score.

I wouldn't have left him with anyone I didn't trust as much. I wouldn't have left him if he'd been a colicky or fractious baby. I wouldn't have left him if he wouldn't take a bottle. And I had a great time and danced for the first time in months.

Buy the tickets, see how it goes. You'll know around the 6-7 week mark if you're going to be able to leave the baby or not, which is enough time to resell the tickets online.

FlatFacedArmy Thu 13-Dec-12 10:52:59

Oh - forgot to mention there is no way I would have taken DS with me to the concert. Concerts are not for babies. Noise, crowds, people drinking alcohol - it's in no way a safe environment for a baby

We took DS to a wedding and I freaked out when my husband took him on the dance floor as it was way too loud in there for a baby (DH's hearing isn't great so he wouldn't have noticed, but I personally found it really uncomfortably loud), so I took him out and went to chat in the hotel bar instead.

Nancy66 Thu 13-Dec-12 10:55:39

No. I think a wee baby would find it very stressful. Even strapped to mum.

Springsteen will be brilliant though. He really gives his all in a performance. Remember seeing him at Glastonbury and he was so fired up and sweaty that he had steam coming off him....Phwoar.

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 10:56:05

Great advice FFA and others, thanks.

Congrats to those with new babies and thanks for the good luck wishes.

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 10:57:41

Yup, he rocks Nancy.

Up there with Hairy opening that fucker up wink

He gives his all, I can never quite believe he's the same age as my Dad!

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells Thu 13-Dec-12 11:00:36

Going off track for a second, where and when is Bruce coming, and is he playing Glasgow?

Yanbu to think about it.

Thing is, when the time for the concert comes round, you won't want to go. You will be too tired and it will seem too stressful and you def won't enjoy it if you leave the baby. You will be protective of your baby and unlikely to want to expose them to the noise!

I'd save yourself the stress and wait til he comes back next time. There will be a next time for Bruce but your baby won't ever be so small and needy again!

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 11:07:30

Wembley, Glasgow Hamden (?sp) park, and Coventry Ricoh.

So yes to Glasgow! My friend took my tickets saw him in Glasgow a few years back, she said it was fab.

Tickets on sale now - enjoy!

I've seen him in Manchester, London and IOW before And so will get over myself this time

He has so many songs I have never seen the same set twice

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 11:09:20

Oh, 18th June for Glasgow Ladybeagle

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells Thu 13-Dec-12 11:10:34

Ooh thanks angel.thanks
I'd love to see him live.

yahnyinlondon Thu 13-Dec-12 11:15:53

I took DD to the athletics at the Paralympics when she was about 5-6 weeks old. She was in a sling and mostly slept but she was overwhelmed by the crowd noises at some points as it was incredibly loud, if it was at a concert, it would be continuously at that sort of volume anvd probably quite distressing.

There was only one changing room / disabled loo near us and nowhere to sit outside the venue. I ended up feeding her in my seat, thankfully we had an exit seat so I had some extra space and could also get out easily if I needed to.

I'd say get the tickets, express plenty of milk and enjoy a few hours to yourself. You will probably be feeling closer to normal and it is good to have a timeout.

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 11:25:58

Thanks yahnyinlondon

I don't work for Bruce or ticketmaster BTW blush

BatCave Thu 13-Dec-12 11:39:05

I've got a 10 week old and I wouldn't do it. I also wouldn't want to leave him to go either, in my eyes he is too little to be left but that's just me. I have friends who would be happy to leave baby with GPs and that's ok too. You'll get another chance, if I'm honest all I want to do of an evening at the moment is sleep.

MrsMuddyPuddles Thu 13-Dec-12 12:16:32

You go, have DH stay home with the baby grin

angeltattoo Thu 13-Dec-12 12:23:56

He has suggested that MMP, he is brave while baby is not yet out wink

Myrtlesdoll Fri 15-Mar-13 09:33:25

This is very narrowminded!

Myrtlesdoll Fri 15-Mar-13 09:40:42

Sorry my previous post posted before i finished!!

It is very narrow minded to say that you cant take baby to the concert and its rude saying @angeltattoo is being selfish.

Our culture is so up the left that it makes people think they have to separate their lives into different boxes and never let those areas cross paths. Why shouldnt she go to a concert with HER baby! So many cultures incorperate their children into every ares of their lives....they wear them 24/7 sleep with them and the children grow up with a sense of family and belonging - so what if baby cries.....if people were more used to having babies and family around them this wouldnt be an issue.

I think its amazing to be able to make your children part of your life full time and not section them off into part time areas.

Do what you think is best @angeltattoo trust your instincts you are the mother in this situation not these negetive people!

DinglebertWangledack Fri 15-Mar-13 10:08:45

Because she'd be doing her baby harm if she did not take the appropriate precautions, Myrtle. No idea why someone can't babysit..?

pinkyredrose Fri 15-Mar-13 11:24:11

Sorry but it I've paid to go to a concert then I want to be able to listen to it, not someones screaming kid.

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 15-Mar-13 11:29:54

I think Op decided against way back in December.
A bit of a zombie thread really.

pinkyredrose Fri 15-Mar-13 11:31:43

Ah yeah, it is!

alisunshine29 Fri 15-Mar-13 12:12:40

Too loud for baby. I took baby to many places when she was tiny (theatre, comedy show etc) but concerts are just too loud.

Snoopingforsoup Fri 15-Mar-13 14:31:08

Don't do it.
Babies at outdoor festivals with sound protection is fine.
Indoor venues, no way. Not until they're at school at least..
Just don't do it. Get a babysitter.
Don't want to out myself but worked in the music industry for years. Crowds, queues, no baby change and lots of pissed up people. Gigs are not places for newborns.

DublinMammy Fri 15-Mar-13 14:44:47

Don't bring him or her, leave with your mum and a stash of expressed milk, express just before you go so you don't leak and have a fab night!!! It's too noisy for a baby and more fun for you to leap wildly about solo. Good to have something like that to look forward to.

LadyPessaryPam Fri 15-Mar-13 15:04:15

Think it might be too loud for the tiny baby ears, I wouldn't risk it.

pigletmania Fri 15-Mar-13 16:31:44

I wouldn't it's not really the place for a young baby, te sound will be cranked up to deathening proportions

Nanny0gg Fri 15-Mar-13 17:16:13

The OP said she wasn't going to on the 13th December last year!!

At least read the OP's posts, even if you don't read anyone else's!!

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 15-Mar-13 17:19:56

I know Nanny.
Another case of RTFT.

I do wonder if Myrtle has ever been to a big indoor concert? hmm

trinity0097 Fri 15-Mar-13 19:19:18

No-one ever sits in seating areas, you would end up standing for the whole time. Don't do it, either use a sitter or don't go.

chubbychipmonk Fri 15-Mar-13 19:23:02

Are you being serious??

Why in Gods name would you take a baby to a concert?! Get a babysitter or don't go. . . Like someone else said, your life changes when you have a babysitter, you can't just take them with you everywhere you go.. . Supermarket - yes, nightclubs & concerts - no!!

I took DD to a concert when she was 5 weeks old.

However, this was one of the National Trust open air classical concerts, music was lovely and not excessively loud. Plenty of seating (our own), food, drink, etc and we weren't near the speakers. It was great, and DD was perfectly fine (only woke up when she roused for a feed during the interval, perfect timing grin).

Doting Daddy (DP) held her all evening, and even the fireworks didn't wake her up.

But I wouldn't have taken her to a stadium concert.

Oooops, just noticed it's an old thread. blush

WhatsTheBuzz Fri 15-Mar-13 19:45:02

see
it's an old thread and would never take a born baby to a gig but as
they are indeed so loud, I don't think anyone's 'screaming kid' would be
an issue.

appletarts Fri 15-Mar-13 21:19:53

Uhmm bit silly don't you think? You're in for a bit of a shock if you think a baby is so portable and handy that you can take him to a concert. I wouldn't mind betting you don't even go on your own when baby comes, you'll be knackered and if breastfeeding won't be able to anyway. Life does change when you have a baby, well ought to anyway.

appletarts Fri 15-Mar-13 21:23:03

Jeez what's this old bit of thread doing hanging about!

LadyApricot Fri 15-Mar-13 21:29:27

Ear defenders, lots of milk. She'll be fine!

BonaDrag Fri 15-Mar-13 21:37:14

This is a few months old now...

Aside from the obvious- it would be too loud for a baby and not a suitable environment... OP, you may not want to go. It depends. Some women are raring to go a week after child birth, others it takes at least 12 weeks before they can think of going out for an evening. I would also suggest you may not enjoy yourself and may be too knackered.

Look, Bruce isn't retiring as far as I'm aware, he will tour again.

Xmasbaby11 Fri 15-Mar-13 21:44:59

Absolutely not.

Nanny0gg Fri 15-Mar-13 22:42:28

DEAR GOD!! PLEASE READ THE THREAD! THE OP'S ALREADY SAID (3 MONTHS AGO) THAT SHE'S NOT GOING TO GO!!

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