To lie to my child about what he's eating?

(48 Posts)

We've started weaning DS (6mo) which has coincided with us eating a bit too much crap, so we can't just give him what we're having. We ate donuts the other day and gave him a rice cracker with nut butter and told him it was a donut. Tonight we had pizza and gave him a rice cracker spread with cream cheese (told him it was pizza).

In our deceit, have we started him on the slippery slope to drug-addiction and/or are the baby-led weaning police going to 'ave me?


hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Tue 11-Dec-12 19:12:02

Why lie at all? Sorry just don't get this (unless it's some kind of joke which my sleep deprived brain is missing out on).

NatashaBee Tue 11-Dec-12 19:13:18

I wrap bits of cucumber up in sweet wrappers for DS. <evil mother>. I guess I'm sending him down the slippery slope too.

It's my own personal, sleep deprived attempt at humour, while I'm sitting here bored shitless trying to get said child asleep which will last for all of three hours.

OutragedFromLeeds Tue 11-Dec-12 19:19:06

If he understands you at 6 months get yourself over to gifted and talented he's obviously a genius.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Tue 11-Dec-12 19:19:57

Ah right, I was on nights last night and haven't slept yet since I got up at 8am yesterday morning as I'm back on an early shift tomorrow.

ChippingInAWinterWonderland Tue 11-Dec-12 19:23:02

When you get him off to sleep - go straight to bed, you are clearly severely sleep deprived.

You have no idea.

<Searches for underpants>
<Finds them securely fitted over top of head>
<Sobs into a basket of dirty washing>

gindrinker Tue 11-Dec-12 20:05:18

With lies like that he'll be ruined forever!
My parents failed to mention to me that coleslaw was raw cabbage and carrot (neither of which I'd eat normally) until I was 8 or 9...

CatPussRoastingOnAnOpenFire Tue 11-Dec-12 20:23:36

My son wouldn't eat gravy... But he would eat chicken sauce! hmm he's nearly 17 now. The other week I fed him fish cakes and told him they were just potato! <<evil>> apparently he is icthiophibic! hmm or maybe just allergic to real food!

My no3 son thinks a Cumberland is a small animal that lives on the hills of Cumbria (sort of like Haggis but English) and is used for delicious NOT PORK sausages. He won't eat pork or pork products at all - very long story.
If it was for religious/cultural reasons I wouldn't fib to him at all, and we do generally accommodate him, but he loves sausages <shrug>

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Tue 11-Dec-12 20:46:43

I didn't think they could have nutty butter till after their first birthday.

<misses the point entirely>

SarahStratton Tue 11-Dec-12 20:52:46

<joins kitty in the Completely Missed The Point corner>

I don't understand. He's 6 months, do you really think he understands what a pizza or a doughnut is? confused

And why? Why would you tell him that anyway?

upstart68 Tue 11-Dec-12 21:04:04

Mine went through a phase of refusing to eat any meat but chicken. So we gave her salmon and told her it was pink chicken. She loves it now. Hasn't done her any harm. She did say for a bit, i thought this was chicken. And we just said, no it's salmon. You like it don't you.

I think the wrapping cucumber in sweet wrappers is genius!

FredFredGeorge Tue 11-Dec-12 21:24:37

YABU for giving the poor kid rice crackers.

cricketballs Tue 11-Dec-12 21:38:37

my youngest DS thought every meal he ate was chicken - I think he started to get suspicious when he said that "this is fishy chicken mum; are you sure its chicken?"

If I hadn't had lied to him then there was no way he would have had a balanced diet - now, he will try anything wink

mrscrimbobash Tue 11-Dec-12 21:45:01

Lol @ fishy chicken.

If you can get them to eat things by any means necessary then it's a good thing grin

Just don't carry it on until he's 20 or he'll probably get bullied for his bizarre packed lunches.

AllSnowballsAndNoKnickers Tue 11-Dec-12 21:50:47

6 months? Just tell him it's air dried dodo in a cloud of wasabi mist by Heston Blumenthal. He'll believe that too!

hatgirl Tue 11-Dec-12 21:52:22

PomBearWithAnOFRS Genius and yet potentially highly embarrassing when his friends laugh at him for thinking there is an animal called a cumberland. Like my friends did to me for thinking that lightning was some kind of sentient being that could actively seek out small children and attack them. DM trying to reassure us told us as children that lightning could only get you if it saw you and I have a particularly vivid memory at the age of around 8 rugby tackling my sister to the floor when she nearly walked past our bedroom window during a thunderstorm. I always vowed to explain things properly to my children (ha, lets see how that works out!)

Schlock Tue 11-Dec-12 21:55:55

At six months I don't think either of my lovely children could sit up straight let alone know what they were eating so well done him! I'm pretty sure I did things like ignore ice cream vans when they were under a year old so I don't suppose telling a fib about doughnuts would have had any impact at all.

I was hiding behind the fridge door scoffing biscuits when they were 2/3 yrs old, look forward to that!

On the other hand, maybe hiding behind the fridge door eating biscuits is why my 15yr old is currently hating my from upstairs because I won't buy her an iPad for christmas.

My DS munched down 2 helpings of scampi (with half a gallon of ketchup) .I told him it was chicken nuggets.

<<i'll get ulcers on my tongue with the fibs>>

treesntrees Tue 11-Dec-12 22:07:16

my daughter told her semi-vegetarian five year old daughter that the chicken she served her was vegetarian because it only ate grain.

TheCortanaThatStoleChristmas Tue 11-Dec-12 22:08:58

Fed DS Octopus at Yo Sushi. Told him it was just a mash potato ball.

VerySmallSqueak Tue 11-Dec-12 22:13:12

If you did this when he's older he would,I expect,have the idea reinforced that doughnuts and pizza are nice food and healthy food isn't nice.

So I wouldn't let myself get into a habit of it while he's too young to understand.

OpheliaBumps Tue 11-Dec-12 23:10:03

I told DD that every meat item she ate was 'sausage' when she went through a stage where she would only eat sausage. Shepherds pie=sausage, chicken=sausage, beef stew=sausage etc

Mind you I learned from a true master (mistress?). After telling her I didn't eat chicken, my aunty presented me with 'oud en' which I wolfed down. Took her months to admit 'oud en' was in fact old hen, or chickengrin

CaliforniaSucksSnowballs Wed 12-Dec-12 02:16:31

I told my oldest that every meat was called Meat, and all sauces were gravy. He would eat anything so long as I called it meat and gravy.
With Dd we use Spanish names for things she has taken a dislike to, and then she suddenly likes them confused So meatballs have to be called Albondigas and she loves them, just don't let her see the pack in the freezer.

echt Wed 12-Dec-12 05:48:11

Back in the day, when on holiday in Spain, we told out the 2 years-old DD that crispy octopus legs were, in fact, chips.

She still loves sea food, and tucked in to raw oysters, clams etc. at 4.

Now she is older we have warned her off the octopuses in the rocks at the bottom of our road - they are blue-ringed, and can seriously inconvenience your health.grin

exoticfruits Wed 12-Dec-12 06:52:43

It will never work- DCs do as you do and not as you say. If you want your DC on a healthy diet you have to have one yourself. The only message that he will get is that doughnuts are nice food, something to aim for as soon as he is able to escape the rice cake regime and that rice cakes are not- otherwise you would be eating them.

Oblomov Wed 12-Dec-12 07:04:06

Why lie? Like Kitty, I just don't get it.

He's six months old. I was being risible (although not terribly effectively, obviously).

My mum used to tell me that green beans which she'd cut into strips with that gadget (I know there's a name for that, which has escaped me) was 'green spaghetti' because I was a spaghetti fiend. I can remember loathing them but forcing a look of enjoyment onto my face for fear that she'd stop giving me the white spaghetti if I admitted a dislike for the green version.

Chopsypie Wed 12-Dec-12 08:19:52

Just wait until hes two and you have to agree with him that everything is chicken nuggets.

I wouldnt care, except we very very rarely eat chicken nuggets!

D0oinMeCleanin Wed 12-Dec-12 08:22:48

I did this with dd2 and was caught out by her when she requested that next time I need 'chicken' I send her older sister to buy it because the chicken I buy looked, smelled and tasted like mushrooms. She wasn't sure if I knew what chicken was and was quite concerned that the butcher was pulling a fast one on me grin

handsandknees Wed 12-Dec-12 09:24:08

OP, there will be a definite moment sometime quite soon when your DS suddenly realises that you have chocolate and he has a rice cracker. He will let you know that he knows. Loudly. After that you will forever more have to hide away to eat your chocolate, or give him a bit. Until then, I say continue to lie. We got 2yo DS to eat sprouts one Christmas by telling him they were "green meatballs". Only worked the one year though.

priscilla101 Wed 12-Dec-12 09:29:27

We told our son that the ice cream van only plays it's tune when it has run out of ice cream. He is 7 now and doesn't believe a word we say. Good job really, because we tell him all sorts of amusing fibs.....

After an initial lead balloon moment I'm furiously taking notes.

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Wed 12-Dec-12 16:48:59

I'm afraid I don't agree with lying to children-not even to try to dupe them into eating. What example is it giving to my daughter if I lie to her but expect her to tell the truth to me?

TheCortanaThatStoleChristmas Wed 12-Dec-12 16:53:33

Maybe that not everyone tells the truth all of the time Kitty?

Jins Wed 12-Dec-12 17:01:49

I still have to do this with DH. He won't eat stew but he loves casserole smile

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Wed 12-Dec-12 17:03:53

But I don't want her to be one of them, cortana

I also want her to be able to trust what I say. It's a big thing for me. I'm surprised that I seem to be in the minority though.

BlueberryHill Wed 12-Dec-12 17:17:05

I tell DS, 2 yo that it is 'pirate pasta', pirate hash', pirate meatballs - you get the idea. It seems to work.

Kitty - where do you stand on Father Christmas? I'm keeping that one going, for me it is part of the magic of Christmas when they are little.

Does anyone else eat sweets in party bags, for their own good? Or is it just me?

TheCortanaThatStoleChristmas Wed 12-Dec-12 17:20:23

I can see where you're coming from Kitty, I just think most of the little lies are just lighthearted ways of dealing with some of the tougher parts of parenting. "Yes, it's chicken" and having a wee giggle about it here.

Plus I think my DS gets more from his varied diet and adventurous attitude to food than he would from a parent who had never told a porky, ever.

There's a great thread somewhere with lies our parents told us. And it is looked back on with good humour and clearly didn't leave anyone with trust issues or lasting damage. MARTY MARTY MARTY!

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Wed 12-Dec-12 17:30:58

Thanks for understanding cortana .Marty? Do I need to read the thread?

Good question blueberry . I'll be honest with you, I will feel very uncomfortable lying to my daughter about anything but I don't want to rob her of the magic of Christmas. I imagine there will be other times I'll have to break my own rule but I want to choose my battles carefully.

BlueberryHill Wed 12-Dec-12 17:47:38

Kitty, the picking your battles bit is my motto.

Along with, its only a phase....

I understand what you mean, I can also see TheCortanas view, if that is what it takes to get a balanced diet, I'll do it.

TheCortanaThatStoleChristmas Wed 12-Dec-12 19:03:56

It is a wonderful thread Kitty good for a giggle regardless of your views on children and white lies and half truths.

That particular one refers to what a poster's Mother told her was the call of the Pinemartin. Apparently it was believed for quite a while!

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Wed 12-Dec-12 19:13:21

Exactly blueberry. grin

kittyandthegoldenfontanelles Wed 12-Dec-12 19:16:24

I must do a search then cortana! smile

Greensleeves Wed 12-Dec-12 19:27:23

I convinced ds1 that milk was "cream-flavoured milkshake". He believed it until he was about 6 and would drink gallon of the stuff.

redpanda13 Wed 12-Dec-12 22:24:53

My DD (6) tells me I make the "best spaghetti in the world". If only she knew I use wholewheat spaghetti and quorn mince. She also could'nt believe her luck that I made her beefburgers for dinner last week (yup veggie).
She used to eat such a wide variety of foods too. So while we get through this stage I will lie and grate vegetables into all the sauces and soups. It is either that or she gets scurvy.

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