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to hate my husband being I'll.

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MrsJingleBells74 Tue 11-Dec-12 19:00:08

DH has a nasty cold & has been off work for 2 days. He just sits there with a pitiful look on his face, whimpers every time he moves & gets snarly if I ask him to do anything, but won't just go to bed. I also have a poorly toddler with a cold & diarrhoea & a very snuffly 11 week old who fed every 2 hours last night.

I'm tired & would quite like to run out the front door & not come back. hmm

MrsJingleBells74 Tue 11-Dec-12 19:04:47

And now I'm cross my phone changed ill to I'll angry

MoomieAndFreddie Tue 11-Dec-12 19:07:12

oh god dh had man flu last week

shall i tell you why they REFUSE to go to bed?? Its so you will feel more sorry for them if they are sat under your feet with a face like a smacked arse

yet, when we are ill, we just Get On With It.

Yama Netherlands Tue 11-Dec-12 19:09:04

I'm not particularly sympathetic to ill adults. Don't know why as I expect sympathy when I'm ill.

So, YANBU to not like your dh being ill. However, perhaps you should give him the choice of 'bed or help out'.

MrsJingleBells74 Tue 11-Dec-12 19:26:23

He's just said to me 'sorry I've suddenly come over all pathetic' I had to bite my tongue not to say 'what do you mean suddenly?'

'what do you mean suddenly?'

Oh, thou cruel and heartless woman.

MrsJingleBells74 Tue 11-Dec-12 19:35:15

I DID bite my tongue though & didn't say it, that would have been worse!

CailinDana Tue 11-Dec-12 19:37:20

The rule in my house is act normal or go to bed. Huffing, puffing, looking pathetic, pitiful sniffling etc are Absolutely Banned.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 11-Dec-12 19:40:37

YANBU! My lovely DP turns into a simpering toddler when ill. It drives me insane.

I was brought up in a family where we all took ourselves off to bed when ill and wanted to be left alone.

He was not. He has stated I'm more Angel of Death than Florence Nightingale. grin.

dondon33 Tue 11-Dec-12 19:41:01

YANBU - it drives you fecking insane.

'what do you mean suddenly?'

shock grin

KelleStarOfWonder Tue 11-Dec-12 19:43:29

DH was up in the middle of the night with D&V which seems to be food poisoning as me and DD have been ok [so far] so his last 'movement' was early this morning and he's been on the sofa watching shit on tv and winding up DD and then complaining ALL DAY.

I told him to go to bed upstairs as we do have a tv in our room [last watched the night I went into labour] and it would mean DD wouldn't be running into him every two seconds and pissing him off.

But no, that would mean I wouldn't hear his moaning and groaning and poor me. He's got a headache, but that could be from not drinking enough water, he wants a cup of tea and thinks I'm being mean not allowing him to have one, but won't drink the sodding water that I brought in for him.

Needless to say, spent the last 18 weeks puking pretty much everything I ate or drank with sodding MS, 21 weeks now and it seems to have passed. But, of course, I have no idea what it's like being sick like that. hmm

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 11-Dec-12 19:43:41

CailinDana are we related? That is exactly what my family are all like. It's an excellent rule.

IvantaOuiOui Tue 11-Dec-12 19:44:20

My husband sat on the sofa wrapped in a blanket all weekend, coughing and hacking and looking ill. Refused to take anything for it. I see lurgy as an excuse to take lots of drugs.

KelleStarOfWonder Tue 11-Dec-12 19:45:26

smile what do you mean suddenly. Agree about being Angel of Death.

TheAccidentalExhibitionist Tue 11-Dec-12 19:50:19

My DH has a broken leg. He lies on the sofa all day with a pitiful look on his face. Hes got man flu too now and it's feckin awful.

You should enjoy this. I don't know how they kept straight faces making it. I don't know if it would only be enjoyed by an Irish audience but here goes...
m.youtube.com/watch?v=6keUdzwFCHU

KittyFane1 Tue 11-Dec-12 21:10:48
freddiefrog Tue 11-Dec-12 21:16:11

I hate it when my DH is ill.

He's so competitive that I can't be ill in peace, he always has to have it worse; but he never just gets on with it, he spends his time hogging the couch, groaning and pulling sad faces.

If you're that ill, go to bloody bed, take some Night Nurse and stop with the sad faces!

MrsLyman Tue 11-Dec-12 21:17:53

My DH has also been ill, also not a fan, he got totally ignored yesterday as I looked after our 19 month old & 3 month old. I was then ill last night and he's spent all night and day being really attentive, feel like a bit of a cruel hearted bitch now.

Hopefully, they'll all be better soon.

seenbetterdays Tue 11-Dec-12 21:29:35

Mine s had a chest infection since last week. Says he can t eat as it makes him feel sick and is on the sofa. He whines and coughs and pulls faces and then tries standing up and then bends over holding his stomach and looks around to make sure people are looking. It s the most irritating performance and everything and anything I say will be taken the wrong way. He now hasn't eaten anything for more than two days and says how weak he feels. What the hell am I suppose to do with him?

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 11-Dec-12 21:35:05

I am so glad it's not just me and my upbringing (which was great obviously!) and it is him! I am not alone <smug smile>

seenbetterdays Tue 11-Dec-12 21:38:55

I wish I could show him this post but he definitely wouldn't see the funny side and would nt even realise he was one of these pathetic creatures. He considers himself to be tough!

MrsJingleBells74 Wed 12-Dec-12 02:48:55

Well karma's a bitch. I have a cracking headache, sore throat & can't seem to get warm, looks like I'm heading the same way.

StuntGirl Wed 12-Dec-12 07:56:46

Plonk yourself on the sofa, sniffle loudly and make weak groaning/or coughing noises every once in a while, just to remind him you're really ill. Oh and demand cups of tea on tap, and dominate the tv all day grin

In fairness this isn't just a man thing, I know some equally pathetic women!

ohchristmastree Wed 12-Dec-12 08:06:25

Leave the bastard! But only until he's over it. My Dp is exactly the same. He can stretch 'flu' out for weeks angry

CailinDana Wed 12-Dec-12 08:16:27

The really annoying thing is, if I'm sick, DH is very good but if I don't complain constantly about how sick I am he assumes I'm better angry. In his mind unless you're doubled over every time you cough (yes, he does this, I should film it and mortify the life out of the eejit), moaning, groaning, sniffling etc then you're fine. I might feel horrible but I just get on with it, I don't see the point in sitting on the couch playing a plague victim from Horrible Histories, but then of course I get no extra help/sympathy! Can't win.

soontobeburns Wed 12-Dec-12 10:45:15

My Dp is the opposite and it pisses me off. He did his back in a few years ago after being hit by a car but everytime it gets sore or he has a cold etc. He carries on as normal. I only know something's wrong when he has 5 mins to moan. Even then I still have to force him to take it easy and let me cook dinner or make the tea. I'm always complaining he doesn't moan enough.

On the other hand I get man flu and he's my servant lol. We are the complete opposite of most lol.

sue52 Wed 12-Dec-12 12:10:05

DH's ill is always worse than my ill. He is incapable of doing anything when he has the sniffles and regresses into childhood. It Irritates me no end.

DoubleMum Wed 12-Dec-12 12:17:45

My DH can be like this when ill. On the other hand when I could barely walk across the room for months before I had knee replacements, and after both surgeries, he did absolutely everything for me and the children with far more patience than I have ever shown. Therefore he is now forgiven for the rest of his life.

chocolateistheenemy Wed 12-Dec-12 12:19:39

The most recent pitiful slapped-arse-face performance from DH was when he went on a course and ate a CHICKEN LOLLIPOP. Which he described as mushy . I could do nothing right. Too much sympathy, too little sympathy, squash instead of water, not enough food to keep a whippet alive, overfeeding in order to aggrevate the tender stomach...
I gave up and took the DCs to Prezzo and left him to it

forcedinsomnia Wed 12-Dec-12 12:26:06

My DH is a blithering idiot when he is ill. He does go to bed though....and doesn't move. Until he is pretty much 100% well. Even when we were all ill together....I was the one looking after DS. hmm

He is getting a cough atm and I throw him daggers everytime he coughs (louder than a sonic boom btw!!!) because it would be me who gets up to DS if/when he wakes. Hey ho. I married him knowing he wa a wuss....so probably shouldn't moan. wink Good job I love him eh??

Viviennemary Wed 12-Dec-12 12:32:13

My DH is the same if he gets a really bad cold or flu systems. Every few minutes it's groan groan I feel awful. I can't breathe. I can't swallow. It drives me mad.

GreatCongas Wed 12-Dec-12 12:50:37

I don't like the if you're that I'll go to need thing.
I would dearly love to but I have three children at home and the place falls apart if I don't at least so some stuff.
I do feel bloody awful at the moment though and I've run out of balsam tissues and my nose is ted raw which means ill have a sore scabby nose for Christmas hmm
I'm rarely ill though so I feel entitled
To whinge

GreatCongas Wed 12-Dec-12 12:51:16

Go to bed not need

forcedinsomnia Wed 12-Dec-12 13:01:17

Would you Adam'n'Eve it.....dh just text to say he is feeling rough!!! sad I might stay at work for a few days.

MrsJingleBells74 Thu 13-Dec-12 19:28:06

I feel very guilty now as I've been struck down with the same thing & have barely been able to get out of bed for the past few days.

Theicingontop Thu 13-Dec-12 19:40:39

I always promise myself the next time I'm ill I'm going to milk the fuck out of it, but I never manage it, I get bored and get on with things angry

Last time OH caught a cold he was 'weak' for weeks after.

"Oh I would hang the washing on the line, but you know, I still don't feel 100% after that flu." with a deadly serious face.

GordonsAlive Thu 13-Dec-12 19:44:54

I'm recovering from pneumonia, going by DP's past performances on colds, I've got weeks of malingering ahead of me grin

PrincessScrumpy Thu 13-Dec-12 20:58:07

I expect dh to give me sympathy if i'm ill but have very little for dh... Usually he gets ill while i'm still recovering, he gets time off work and rest, I still have to care for dc 4yo and 15mo twins.

McChristmasPants2012 Thu 13-Dec-12 21:03:36

I become a nurse when DH is ill, so when I am ill I can remind him smile

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LadyofWinterfell Thu 13-Dec-12 21:25:29

DH has a wierd unspecific virus at the moment, stomach pains, cold, hot, shivery, wrapped in a fleece blanket on the sofa...

Oh, and he says his balls feel huge. hmm

faulkernegger Thu 13-Dec-12 22:45:30

Why do they moan and groan? My DP sighs all the time if he's under the weather - I've started counting (just for my own amusement). And I refuse to listen to stories about his symptoms ( I really don't need or want to know about the colour of his phlegm). If he's that ill, he can go to bed, if not, take drugs and he'll feel better anyway! I have been blessed with a strong, healthy body, and rarely get ill myself - hurrah. smile

CaliforniaSucksSnowballs Thu 13-Dec-12 23:18:54

I found Dh is all pathetic with flu or a bad cold, but when he was seriously ill and needed to rest and get better he wouldn't stay still, he was at deaths door and managed to drag himself to work using a walking cane and fixed my car with his hands shaking so bad I had to hold them. It's like they are in denial when it's serious and use man flu for a bit of rest and relaxation.

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