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AIBU to be getting myself in such a mess over this (re loss of sentimental items)

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WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 10:37:09

2 days ago I lost/misplaced 3 rings, my engagement ring, my wedding ring and a ring passed onto me from my grandma that was made with my mums ashes.
I usually wear all 3 but due to health problems my fingers have been sore so have been taking them off indoors, I haven't been anywhere so they must be here somewhere.
I have pulled the whole place apart, my gran died earlier in the year and gave me the ashes ring, I feel terrible, I can't stop crying, I literally feel like I must be being punished, I am tired of bad stuff happening, I feel sick. Do I need to "get over it" I am going from rationally thinking they can't have disappeared to thinking they must have.
A lot has happened this year, my gran was diagnosed with cancer and had died within 6 weeks then I suffered a miscarriage, I felt like I was coming through the other side after a tough time and a long history of depression, now I feel a mess.

This has probably gone on far too long but even if noone reads it, it felt good to get it down, and thanks to anyone who does manage to read it.

Now back to searching!

delilahbelle Sat 08-Dec-12 10:38:47

Say a prayer to St Anthony?

Seriously, I know how awful it is when you lose things, I've got my fingers crossed they turn up soon. Could DH or DCs have moved them somewhere safe?

CollieEyeOfNewt Sat 08-Dec-12 10:39:28

Oh god. I hope you find them.

((((Hugs)))) even if we don't do that here

OrangeLily Sat 08-Dec-12 10:40:38

My mum did this a few years ago, took her over a year to find them but she did! Inside the lining of te sofa they were about to chuck out. I think they will eventually turn up!

LadyMargolotta Sat 08-Dec-12 10:41:20


Look between the pages of a cookery book. That's where the last mumsnetter found hers.

KenLeeeeeeeInnaSantaHat Sat 08-Dec-12 10:41:49

You poor thing sad I would be in pieces too, so I certainly don't think you just need to get over it. I hope they turn up soon.

ChippingInAWinterWonderland Sat 08-Dec-12 10:42:21

Of course you aren't being unreasonable getting so upset. I would be completely beside myself.

I'm sorry you have had such a horrible year, I hope the new year is much kinder to you x

However, to find them you need to calm down. As you say, you took them off at home and haven't been out since - they can't be far, but if you go around tearing up the house you will make it harder on yourself. Lay down, close your eyes and think about where you were when you took them off.

Have you asked your DH if he's picked them up and 'put them somewhere safe'?

I hope you find them soon.

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 10:44:41

Thanks ladies, I feel a bit pathetic now reading that through, there are worse things going on in the world.

DH has helped me look, he promised to spend another hour today when he gets home from work. DD was out when they went missing and DS 5 said "I'm definitely actually sure I don't know where your rings are mummy"

I seem to be looking in the same places over and over again, even going to search the wheelie bin again when DH gets home.

MrsMushroom Sat 08-Dec-12 10:44:59

Yanbu....why don't you go room by room and sytematically take each one apart. first look on top of things....then underneath and behind.....then inside....move furniture and lift edges of rugs. DH has this thing when we lose close your eyes...try to clear your mind of EVERYTHING....even the rings....and then you walk to them....your legs just take you there.

It;s amazing how many times things are found.

Floggingmolly Sat 08-Dec-12 10:45:32

You poor thing sad. I lost my wedding ring a couple of years ago, and it turned up under the sofa cushion weeks later.
Bizarre really, as it was a tight fit and I didn't intentionally take it off.
They're in the house somewhere.

HassledHasASledge Sat 08-Dec-12 10:46:02

I completely understand - I'm incredibly sentimental over items, especially certain things that belonged to my parents. It IS a big deal - of course you're upset. I really hope they show up soon.

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 10:47:42

Thanks for the responses by the way, DH said I need to relax but it's really hard, I have ME and find it hard to empty my mind anyway.
Anyway, thanks for the lovely words, I wrapped some presents the day I lost them, I'm tempted to unwrap them all just incase!

Floggingmolly Sat 08-Dec-12 10:48:28

Oh, I've just read your ds's comment! You know him best, but my brother, over 20 years ago hid my mum's engagement ring in his treasure box like a flaming magpie. He only owned up and returned it months later and he was 9 at the time hmm

Svrider Sat 08-Dec-12 10:49:20

I think with everything that's happened you NEED to cry
Don't try to stop it
Don't feel silly

Have a tea, and biscuits

When you are feeling calmer, try and recreate when you last had the rings

Stand in the same place
Did you pop them on top of the cabinet?
Are they in with washing, ready to go upstairs?
Did you pop then in a vase?

If this doesn't work first time, try and get on with your usual chores, and the place you've put them may just pop into your head

Be kind to yourself op, you do sound very down

cozietoesie Sat 08-Dec-12 10:49:40

Poor you. I know how it feels losing things like that, even temporarily. All the bad things in your life are focussed on the event.

My earnest recommendation would be to stop searching soon. If all three have gone missing, you've put them down somewhere and they're covered up with something so will reappear when you least expect it. All you should do is live/clean/tidy as normal but just be very sure to check things with a fine tooth comb before they're thrown out.

Best of luck with finding them.


WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 10:50:09

Floggingmollie hmmm better check DSs room just incase I think!

thebody Sat 08-Dec-12 10:50:58

Hugs hugs hugs... Yes unwrap those presents.

thebody Sat 08-Dec-12 10:52:46

Oh and yes check ds room.

ChippingInAWinterWonderland Sat 08-Dec-12 10:52:51

"I'm definitely actually sure I don't know where your rings are mummy"

There is your answer grin

I highly suspect a bit of 'Gee DS, where do you think my rings might hide if they wanted to trick me' type stuff will have them found very quickly.

cozietoesie Sat 08-Dec-12 10:53:10

Ah - I overlooked DS's comment. Sounds like he's fibbing wildly doesn't it?

I'd search his room as well. Especially look in the cabs of toy trucks or that sort of 'special place'.

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 10:55:10

Svrider you are right about the needing to cry, yesterday it all came out, plus DD (9) is not dealing with the death of her GGM well and she is still grieving hard, trying to be brave for her hasn't made things any easier.

Thanks for all ideas and suggestions, will be trying them all later.

Gloves or laundry, I always loose mine that way. It's horrible when you can't find so something, things like this drive me to the edge of my sanity. Hopefully though if you lost them inside, chances are they will be found. And for you to have lost all three at once, you may have taken them off without even realising, I do this ALOT!!

Really hope the turn up.

Iheartpasties Sat 08-Dec-12 10:58:06

fingers crossed for you

shinyrobot Sat 08-Dec-12 10:58:44

It is possible to somehow wrap a ring into a present, this happened to a friends sister many years ago, it was found in the wrapping paper afterwards. Do look in the gifts you have wrapped.

I can understand how distressed you must be at losing them, I'm sure they will be found though. I agree with pp, systematic is best. Look under appliances, around the edges of carpets, in the fridge cheese compartment (bitter experience!) inside laundry, pillowslips are a good for finding little things inside in our house, i have no idea why! Make up bags, have you done the obvious and checked your jewellery box? Toy boxes, lego sets?

I really hope you find then and here is another (((hug))) from me thanks

jojane Sat 08-Dec-12 10:59:28

I lost me weddin ring whilst wrapping presents a couple of years ago, definitely worth unwrapping even of it is a pain

VitoCorleone Sat 08-Dec-12 11:03:04

I hope you find your rings.

When my nana died my granda kept her wedding ring on a chain necklace, when he died i was given the ring. When i moved house i couldnt find it anywhere, i was absolutley distraught thinking it had been thrown out.

I found it 2 years later.

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 11:05:24

Will get DH to pull fridge out later, checked all washing plus machine/dryer, for them to all have got lost I MUST have put them somewhere! I've checked the Lego boxes, completely gone over the bathroom.
Going to sit down for an hour now and try not to worry about it, it's giving me a headache!

TheNebulousBoojum Sat 08-Dec-12 11:08:35

Have you thought about telling everyone, including your DS, that you have asked santa to bring your rings back as a present?
My money is on DS having collected them because they are so special. If he remembers where they are, then he can give them back. Unfortunately he may not remember. <voice of experience>
Mine used to bury stuff in the garden.

AlwaysWantingMore Sat 08-Dec-12 11:09:00

When I lost mine they were in the rubber seal of the washing machine - i'd slipped them into my pocket making the dinner and chucked on a load of laundry that night. I was distraught for days though!

I hope they turn up. If not, try not to be too sad. Possessions can be replaced, you still have photos and memories of those you love. If you really really can't find them, I would have a quick 'conversation' with your mum and gran in your head just to say 'I'm sorry I lost the ring but you know how much I loved you'. Otherwise I would be carrying around guilt at losing it, and they wouldn't want that for you. But I really do hope you find them soon.

Thumbwitch Sat 08-Dec-12 11:10:30

I would
a) unwrap the presents and check
b) really really grill DS and check his room - how old is he, btw? Only asking because DS1 managed to swallow DH's wedding ring earlier this year (apparently he was pretending it was a steak hmm) - he'd never swallowed a wrong thing before in his life, and when he's 4.5 he decides to start?!
If your rings have spiky bits on, I doubt he's managed it without feeling it (DS1 choked on a plain gold band but still managed to get it down - it came out 4 days later)
c) keep checking the same places over and over - I lost a set of keys a few weeks ago, kept going back to the shelf where I was sure they had been - and after the 4th return, managed to see them when I'd been missing them the first 3 times (God alone knows how!)

I really hope you find them. If it's any consolation, my Mum made me a necklace with the initial of my first name, which I lost while in rented accommodation. Searched high and low for it - three house moves later, I found it in a bag of knitting.shock (Doesn't say much for my ability to finish off knitting...)

Good luck!

SpoonyFuckersWife Sat 08-Dec-12 11:11:30

I really hope you find them, op. it's horrible to miss something sentimental. They must be in the house somewhere, just keep that thought in mind,

Have you tried looking in handbag linings? My mum couldn't find her key once and turned the house upside down, turned out her handbag lining had a hole in it and it had slipped in there. Same as carrie in satc with her necklace smile

Montybojangles Sat 08-Dec-12 11:43:23

Hope you find them. Did a similar thing a while back and it turned up about 3 months later somehow in a sock at the bottom of the drawer.

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 11:47:11

Well after some of the suggestions here I checked inside the sofa (had to rip the bottom stuff a bit but never mind) and managed to cut 2 fingers and ripped one nail half off after catching it on something metal in the back of the sofa (ouch)
Have checked handbag.
Checked all kitchen drawers and fridge.
Presents under the tree (can't check the kids hidden presents until tonight).
Have spoken to DS and I'm 99% sure he hasn't touched them.
Looked inside the open doors on the kids Lego advent calendars.
Checked under all furniture.
Emptied Hoover bag.
Even just checked the branches of the tree.
Will keep looking though, it's good to hear some people do find things- even if it's a long time.

ZonkedOut Sat 08-Dec-12 11:52:04

A friend lost her engagement ring and found it months later, inside an umbrella she rarely used, but had happened to use that day. Some time later, she opened the umbrella and the ring fell out.

Good luck.

ISeeSmallPeople Sat 08-Dec-12 11:53:37

I found my rings under my handbag lining. Also in my coat lining.
I really must sew those small holes up

Next time you Hoover, put a thin pair of tights between the tubes. It will save you having to empty the bag.

MrsMushroom Sat 08-Dec-12 11:58:13

Go room by room....stick to one room at a time and imagne you're a police detective. Check inside hoover

SpoonyFuckersWife Sat 08-Dec-12 12:24:31

Pretend you're looking something else smile whenever I'm looking for something, another thing I was looking for yonks before turns up!

MrsWoodforTrees Sat 08-Dec-12 12:41:31

I've done the losing my engagement ring in the washing machine thing.

Also I lost a pair of earrings and was convinced I had thrown them out but they turned up a week later on a high shelf where I had put them so they wouldn't get lost.

Check bins & wastepaper baskets etc bofore bin day so that you know you haven't accidentally thrown them away , then if they are in the house you will find them .

Good luck - don't despair

Lilicat1013 Sat 08-Dec-12 12:44:54

They have to be there someone so it is only a matter of time before you find them. They will turn up somewhere, try not to worry.

RedHelenB Sat 08-Dec-12 12:47:07

Second checking the b8in carefully before the binmen come. Lift sofa up & shine a torch under it both on the floor & actually under the sofa as dd 's two phones got caought in the sofa that way.

SDTGisAChristmassyWolefGenius Sat 08-Dec-12 13:17:25

It sounds a bit 'woo', but it is supposed to help if you say out loud the thing you are looking for.

Also, if there is a possibility that your ds has hidden them, might it be worth offering a small reward for whoever 'finds' the rings - then, if he has hidden them, he can 'find' them.

YuleBritannia Sat 08-Dec-12 13:48:27

My DH lost his wedding ring. His fingers had become thinner so we think it came off that way. He also used to take it off to wash up and for his bath. That was about 5 years ago. We never found it. We looked in pockets, in gloves, under pillows, in bedside drawers, in U bends, everywhere. Might be in the garden for all we know.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Sat 08-Dec-12 13:52:15

I reckon your DS knows where your rings are. smile

YANBU for being upset, btw

scrablet Sat 08-Dec-12 14:42:15

My DH lost his wedding ring a few times. Once at the beach, he had been skimming stones and it vanished.sad faces all round but the North sea a bit big to search. A week or so later, I was turning out the 'baby' bag, and there it was tucked into a pocket, must have come off while he was grabbing a juice carton.

I have more, BRB

Don't despair, they will turn up...

seb1 Sat 08-Dec-12 15:13:34

I am always losing things (my DM would say "you would lose your head if it wasn't stuck on"). Grab yourself a cup of coffee, sit down and close you eyes and think about when you last saw them and try to think what you did afterwards sometimes when I do that I get a flashback moment usually when I have put them somewhere really stupid. Also try and stay calm (easier said than done I know) but I never find things when I am flapping and hyperventilating (like I normally do). HTH, they will turn up, probably somewhere you have already looked and you think you are losing your marbles grin

ChristmasSpiritEndorphins Sat 08-Dec-12 15:14:09

Have you checked all your pockets of anything you have worn recently? Coats, sweaters, jackets, bathrobe, aprons etc.? Beside hand lotion or in laundry room? In freezer? All purses or handbags?
My son thought his ring was in the deep freeze, but it was in a tool box, dh found it months afterwards.

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 08-Dec-12 15:17:31

Thanks so much everyone, haven't found them yet but you've all cheered me up a little.
Not going to look any more today, will try again tomorrow.
Not long after we married DH lost his ring 3 times, once in a bag of plaster and wallpaper, once he accidentally launched it down the high street on a night out and the last time it was in the garden, in a snowman.

Angelico Sat 08-Dec-12 15:21:05

Check the radiators or anywhere else your DCs might have 'posted' them. My SIL found her wedding ring inside one of those electric fan heater things - DD had pushed it in.

ViperInTheManger Sat 08-Dec-12 15:22:31

Don't give up hope. My DM lost her engagement, wedding and eternity rings many years ago, the house was searched from top to bottom and eventually an insurance claim made. Years later she was clearing out a wardrobe and found the rings inside a hat, she still has no idea how they got there.

quoteunquote Sat 08-Dec-12 15:28:22

Have you checked in all the cups and glasses? People often pop them in bowls or vases, near sinks.

MonaLotte Sat 08-Dec-12 15:31:49

I really hope you find them. They must be somewhere in the house :-(

gemdrop84 Sat 08-Dec-12 15:36:23

Yanbu, I'd be just as upset, I misplaced my engagement ring, looked everywhere and it eventually turned out dd had taken it from the sink and put it in her toy kitchen. Fingers crossed they will turn up for you x

quoteunquote Sat 08-Dec-12 15:37:05

A friend recently was having a clear out, she heaped lots of clothes, bags shoes and boots into the middle of the sitting room, as she was bagging it all up to go to the charity shop, she told her daughter off who was trying things on, daughter ignored her and stuck a pair of boots on, took them of and tipped them out,

there was a missing watch (very expensive) and lots of family jewellery, as she had been about to leave on holiday four years ago, she had slipped it into a boot at the back of her wardrobe, to hide it from burglars, and never found it again.

she was so close to losing it forever, naughty DD saved it all. they went through the rest of the items very carefully.

I'm very prone to putting things in "safe' place, go and sit where you were when you took them off, and slowly do the things you can remember doing next, it really helps.

highlandcoo Sat 08-Dec-12 15:38:48

My money's on DS too and I second the idea of offering a reward for whoever finds them. Making it very clear that you'll be so pleased - and not cross - with whoever can solve the mystery.

It's been known for rings and other small items to be posted down between floorboards and under skirting boards by small children. Do you have wooden floors?

Do hope they turn up.

scrablet Sat 08-Dec-12 15:39:45

We had an old fashioned cooker, where you lifted up the metal bit to clean the rings. Dh heard ring come off with a 'ching' and searched the kitchen, moving cooker/fridge/etc.
Yup you guessed it, when we (eventually[embarrassed]) cleaned oven, there it was, nestled happily on cooker top...

scrablet Sat 08-Dec-12 15:40:43

sorry, meant blush, not embarrassed...I'll get my coat...

Cahohohootz Sat 08-Dec-12 15:46:21

There are there somewhere....... <hopeful but realistic grin>

Be slow, thorough and methodical. <I know you already are...>

These are the times I may take rings off
-in the middle of the night.
-in the bathroom
-at the gym
-Putting on tights/trying on clothes
-doing crafts
-doing DIY

I would check all of my pockets (again) (and again) and all my bags (again) (and again).

Good luck. I lost an expensive necklace once. I knew I had put it somewhere for safekeeping but couldn't remember where. sad I looked and looked and looked. It was in a side pocket in a handbag that I had hung on a hanger in my young DD's cupboard. confused. I literally spent hours looking for it.

Earthymama Sat 08-Dec-12 16:01:17

I am notorious for losing things!!
Stop, empty your mind and try to be still.
If you believe in any higher being or a spirit life ask that Being or, perhaps, your mum to guide you.
You will find the rings when you aren't looking, as someone said ealier, 'Your legs will take you'

Your have my sympathy. I hate, hate , hate it when I do this, I have promised never to put anything in a safe place again!

I lost my Grandmas engagement ring ( that I had inherited )

DD had it in her Pink Princess Plastic Dressing Table .

Keep your chin up , and keep looking .

GreatUncleEddie Sat 08-Dec-12 16:22:49

I never lose things. Ever. I am really methodical. I lost my engagement ring for five days at half term, was pretty sure it was in the house, couldn't find it anywhere. Emptied the Hoover, the bins, the washing machine filter, worried about the engineer who had been in the house. Five days. In the end I found it on the bedroom floor. Keep going!

ChippingInAWinterWonderland Sat 08-Dec-12 16:24:43

I still think DS holds the key to this mystery, I would definitely play a few 'where could I be' games or offer a reward for 'finding' them.

Other than that I would -

- Unwrap the kids presents tonight. Don't just peek in, totally unwrap them, flatten the paper, shake the toys etc

- Check your clothes you have been wearing again - I am shocking for popping things in my pocket absent mindedly.

- Ask DH & DD again - offer them a reward for finding them! I don't suppose there's any chance DD could be 'looking after them' for you? Either to actually keep them safe or if she's grieving as a bit of a security blanket?

- Look in shoes/slippers near your bed - they might have been knocked off.

- Fridge/larder/airing cupboard - you might have put them down to pick something else up.

- Has DS been out of the house since you last had them??

- Check any place they could have been 'posted' into/through.

Whatever you do, even if you go through it, don't put the rubbish/recycling out for collection until you have found them.

wonkylegs Sat 08-Dec-12 16:31:51

Once you find them (you WILL find them) make sure you always wear a necklace & when you need to take them off slip them on the chain & wear them round your neck. I have RA my fingers swell & contract so much that I actually have two wedding rings in different sizes, but this means I often take my eternity & engagement rings off too. This is the only way I haven't lost them.
Yours will be in the house somewhere which can't be as bad a search as my husband had when he lost his..... He took it off to as he was operating (he's an electrocardiologist) and put it in his scrubs pocket and after a long & frustrating procedure he forgot.... Unfortunately when he realised they'd already collected the scrubs and taken them to the laundry at the massive hospital he works at. He had to search through the majority of really vile hospital laundry bins until he found it. He was late home but hadn't dared phone and tell me why as he was worried he'd never find it. It cost a fortune because he has massive hands it was ordered specially, I would probably strangled him a little bit had I known.

MrsLyman Sat 08-Dec-12 16:39:22

I hope you find them OP. Like another poster I've also lost things in plain sight, sometimes the only way to find these things is to stop looking. Hopefully your DH and his fresh eyes will help.

TalkativeJim Sat 08-Dec-12 16:51:36

Oh you poor thing!

You aren't overreacting at all, I'd be distraught.

Can you borrow a metal detector to check sofa/bins etc.?

TalkativeJim Sat 08-Dec-12 16:54:49

What might be wise right now is to prioritise very detailed searches in items that will have to leave the house soon. Coats, bags, schoolbags- RANSACK these things before moving onto places which won't move elsewhere and possibly mean the rings get lost outside. Linings of bags, tangled in hats and scarves etc.

Think that might make you feel more in control.

Ciske Sat 08-Dec-12 16:58:38

I found our housekeys in the toy kitchen this week, after searching for ages for them. When I was out of options I thought in a final moment of desperation: 'if I was DD, where would I have put them' and voila!.... If you have one, check it. smile

Do you have a dressing gown with pockets? I find lots of lost items in there, usually after the dressing gown has been washed.

Oh you poor thing. I'm so sorry.

It's awful when you've lost something. All that searching and thinking you've gone mad. And so much worse when the items have sentimental value.

I always take my rings off when I walk the dogs. I've 'lost' them so many times! I tend to put them in a drawer under the tea towels or in the cupboard above the kettle. Other times I've popped them in the zipped pocket of a handbag or my purse if it's downstairs. Rings are so small too which doesn't help.

I know I'm probably trying to teach grandma to suck eggs here but have you checked every coat pocket and handbag? Where might you have taken them off? At bedtime? When you were about to do some washing up or get in the bath? If you can remember why you took them off and where then you can narrow down the search area.

I really hope you find them. Good luck.

MrsWoodforTrees Sat 08-Dec-12 17:14:42

I agree with seb1 who said Don't Panic.

Also look above eye level. Shelves , on top of books in bookcases , in those funny pots where things get put , all pockets . Do a fingertip room by room search.

With any luck you'll be back with an hilarious anecdote about where you put them ......

Much luck

zeno Sat 08-Dec-12 17:22:20

I found mine in amongst clean sheets in the laundry cupboard once. It had been missing for so long I was wearing a standin that had been made since the loss of the original. Don't give up hope.

Viviennemary Sat 08-Dec-12 17:22:48

I lost a ring and didn't notice it was gone from my finger for a bit as I had lost some weight. I had been out to a couple of places. After a week it still hadn't turned up despite search of whole house. Then I took some washing out the clothes basket and low and behold the ring fell out. I was amazed. Shows how much my basket gets totally emptied. So there is hope yet.

soverylucky Sat 08-Dec-12 17:28:55

I lost a very important brooch. I thought it was on the bench in the kitchen - not there. Looked everywhere, retraced my steps etc. Now I did say a prayer to st anthony and for some reason i felt the urge to look in the cats bed! This was on the other side of the kitchen and there it was - UNDER the cushion of the cat bed. I think it must of been flicked off the bench somehow, ended up on the cat bed and worked its way under the cushion.
YOU WILL FIND THEM! I really sympathise with you.

Lavenderhoney Sat 08-Dec-12 17:30:33

I hope you find them soon. My dd has been known to put things under her pillow. I like the metal dectector idea, and the reward one. I tell dd that a naughty fairy must have taken them and does she know.... Were you baking cakes and took them off, perhaps they are in your dry store cupboard, I put mine there. Can you write down a minute by minute account of your day when you lost them and then chek everywhere you went and everything you did?

I once lost my wedding earrings and found them 2 years later in my jewellery box, which I must have searched a hundred times.

Good luck.

soverylucky Sat 08-Dec-12 17:30:49

Does anyone remember the thread where someone thought the sky man had stolen her ring? She looked everywhere and thought he must have stolen it. Turned up under some drawers or something

or perhaps someone has mentioned this earlier in the thread. must remember to read thread before posting.

Sovery - I half remember. Similar thread where a MN thought that a plumber (I think. It may have been Sky) had taken her ring. She reported him and then she found it?

I half remember a similar thread* that should have read.

anonacfr Sat 08-Dec-12 19:50:20

I've been lurking all afternoon on this thread hoping for a happy update. I hope you find them soon, good luck!

maddening Sat 08-Dec-12 19:58:55

A diamond fell out of my ring - I had been out, to my sister's, I'm the car and everywhere in between. Ds was 20mths and I had been all over the house with him.

I didn't Hoover for a week and the day I had to Hoover I just spotted it there on the floor - had given up on it!

maddening Sat 08-Dec-12 20:01:38

Can you systematically do each room. Pull everything out and put it back carefully - even furniture. Take the chance to have a sort out smile

kitbit Sat 08-Dec-12 20:20:35

You will find them!

Safe places that you might have created.
Did you just pop them down somewhere or did you put them away completely?
Jewellery box.
Small tupperware.
In zip pocket of handbag, or in 'best'handbag as safer.
Inside duster.
Bedside table, flicked across the room when making the bed.
They will turn up!!

stella1w Sat 08-Dec-12 20:23:39

Down drains, ubends, get a metal detector? Check not hoovered up? I once lost my passport becauseit was on top of books on a bookshelf. In a pocket? In the oven?

Bedat10 Sat 08-Dec-12 20:37:08

A friend of mine lost a very special diamond earring at my house last year - we searched and searched and searched, hoovered, turned everything upside down looking for it. In the end we decided my toddler DS must have eaten it, but nothing sparkly appeared in his poo... Friend bought herself new earrings and I felt guilty...
MONTHS later I was emptying the washing machine and heard something tinkling in there, lo and behold it was the earring. Must have been caught up in something I washed obviously but no idea what. At least you know they are in the house, they will eventually turn up. Good luck! X

2monkeybums Sat 08-Dec-12 21:07:15

I lost my wedding ring and my watch on Monday. On Tuesday afternoon, after a whole day of frantically looking for them my Ds1 aged 2 told me my watch was under the sofa and he was right. On Weds I was still searching for my wedding ring when Ds1 told me very sweetly it was in the bin! and it was bin day that morning.

Keep looking, if you don't have any naughty little fingers about im sure you will find them.

Pictureperfect Sat 08-Dec-12 23:20:14

Anyone would be upset. Did you take them off in the house? Have you thrown anything away? I would start with re-going through any rubbish and try and get someone else to so you are 100% sure that they aren't in anything leaving the house, that should mean they are somewhere in the house. I've heard of the occasional story of rings being washed down a sink but seems unlikely 3 would disappear down so I'm sure they will turn up. I agree with suggestions of unwrapping all gifts wrapped up for starters and if you have a bag/box of ribbons or scraps of wrapping paper try that. My nan died this year, shortly before she died she lost her engagement and wedding ring in hospital, the wedding ring was found hiding on the floor but engagement one wasn't (obviously much more likely to be lost in a hosp than at home), she got married young and I was sad that they had lasted all those many decades only to be lost at the end

Thumbwitch Sun 09-Dec-12 00:04:39

My DH has lost his wedding ring 3 times:
the first time after moving some plants from his brother's house to ours, I was sure it must have come off when he was planting the big fern. He wasn't convinced but eventually agreed to get a metal detector, as his brother was selling his house and we needed to check his garden before the sale completed - it was in our garden, about half way down the roots of the big fern he'd planted;
the second time he eventually found it on the floor of his office;
and the third time was when DS swallowed it, as mentioned above.

I think his luck has run out on finding it again though - so hopefully he won't lose it again!

I am sure you'll find yours again though. smile

BinksToEnlightenment Sun 09-Dec-12 00:16:28

I lost a ring inside a pair of gloves. It had ended up tucked inside when I peeled the glove off.

maddening Sun 09-Dec-12 00:17:29

In cups or wine glasses in a cupboard?

starfishmummy Sun 09-Dec-12 01:02:45

Agreeing with the metal detector.
I have seen some in toys r us and they will be open on Sunday - not sure how good they are!

camrywagon Sun 09-Dec-12 03:12:10

When we were kids my mum threw her engagement window out of the window in a fit of pique during an argument with my dad. Spent days looking for it before presuming a magpie had done away with it...ten years later the gardener found it in a bush - the branch had grown through it.
They WILL turn up! ( I second a quick prayer to St Anthony)

ChristmasFayrePhyllis Sun 09-Dec-12 04:05:27

You poor thing. I get like this when I lose precious things - all weepy and exhausted. You will find them, but I've asked St Anthony to speed things up for you.

cheekybaubles Sun 09-Dec-12 05:11:07

I love your mn name. Hope you have found them? Do you have wood flooring?

sufferingfromcraft Sun 09-Dec-12 06:02:13

Yanbu, I once found a ring I hadn't realised I had lost blush. I also have m.e. hence the name, which might explain it.
I would make sure you check the filter on the washing machine if you have used it, the other thing I would suggest is to get someone independant in, because when I'm looking for things I think I won't check certain places because "I wouldn't have put it there" Good luck!

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sun 09-Dec-12 08:34:14

Will definitely be following these suggestions. Had to stop searching yesterday as it all got a bit much.
What I do know is I wasn't wearing them when I lost them and they are definitely lost in the house. No bins have been emptied, recycling has been checked and I checked one bag in particular in the household waste but will be going through the whole lot today.
We have laminate or tiles all through the house so not lost in the floor.
My cousin has said I can borrow his metal detector, although for searching inside the house I don't know whether it will be any help.

I know for definite that it isn't in the bathroom, so that's one room ruled out, just the rest of the house to go, I really hope I can come back to this thread soon and say I've found them somewhere really obvious.

SamsGoldilocks Sun 09-Dec-12 08:39:35

Have you checked where you keep wrapping paper/presents?

Fingers crossed they turn up very soon x

cheekybaubles Sun 09-Dec-12 09:35:02

Good one goldilocks

WineGless Sun 09-Dec-12 09:39:10

Saying a prayer to St Anthony for you and sending positive vibes

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sun 09-Dec-12 11:02:33

I have some FANTASTIC news, I found them! They were in amongst a bag of food leftovers in the wheelie bin, I had to sort through manky beans, garlic bread and spaghetti and they were in the bottom of the bag, I am so happy I shed a little tear.

I had looked through 1 bag in the bin that had the leftover scraps of sticky tape and wrapping paper but did not even think to look amongst the food. I think i must have picked up loads if things at once which all needed to go in different places and put the ring in the wrong one.

The only problem now though is they stink of garlic, I've tried washing them and can't get rid of it.

Thank you for all the ideas and kind words, made me not feel so much of a drama queen.

Fab news, erm the smell well a metal spoon under water is meant get rid of it on your hands?

Oh that's fantastic news! Really really pleased for you - that's made my day! grin

Re the smell: Soak them in a lukewarm solution of water and washing up liquid and then gently scrub them with a soft toothbrush. Make sure the plug's in the sink just in case you loosen any stones. Then buff to a shine with a dry towel. My father was a jeweller and that's the way he cleaned rings.

Thumbwitch Sun 09-Dec-12 11:08:34

Lemon juice might get rid of the smell; if not, rub neat fairy liquid onto the dry rings, rub it in really well, and use an old toothbrush (or similar) on it to really get into all the fittings and crannies. Then rinse.

Hurrah for finding them and well done for braving the bin bags!

Tiredmumno1 Sun 09-Dec-12 11:09:20

Great news grin really pleased for you

cheekybaubles Sun 09-Dec-12 11:09:39

It's a Christmas miracle! grin

CollieEyeOfNewt Sun 09-Dec-12 11:11:02

So glad you found them.

Bicarb of soda neutralises smells. Make up a paste and daub it on, leave for a bit and rinse off - carefully, you don't want them going down the sink now!

DameFannyGallopsBEHINDyou Sun 09-Dec-12 11:11:12

Rinse them in lemon juice if the stones aren't porous? Coffee also could be good?

And well done grin

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sun 09-Dec-12 11:11:18

Thanks oldbat will try that later. For now I just want to wear them, (don't know if I dare take them off again) and I can handle the smell for a little while.

Floggingmolly Sun 09-Dec-12 11:11:50

Oh brilliant!! smile

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sun 09-Dec-12 11:14:16

Will try all these, thanks so much. smile

LadyMargolotta Sun 09-Dec-12 11:26:24


sudaname Sun 09-Dec-12 11:31:02

Ask your Gran - it works for me.

l once lost a ring that l had bought myself from my brothers money he left me.

l was very upset too and l said to him out loud 'Please,tell me where it is and l will never lose it again'. Seconds later l looked where l had already looked several times and there it was and it glinted in the sun as l picked it up. l said 'thank you DBrosname'

Different l know but l was once on holiday in Ireland and tried to find my grans grave in a huge cemetary and put flowers on it.
I hadnt been for years but was convinced l would just walk to it straight away but l had somehow remembered it wrongly and l was looking in the wrong section completely.

Again l said out loud to my Gran 'Gran where are you , please, tell me where you are' . Nothing sad so as l turned to walk out of the cemetary and put the flowers on an unmarked grave, l went over on my boot heel and as l straightened up found myself looking straight at her name (on the opposite side to where l had been looking). smile

Yay I'm so pleased for you

sudaname Sun 09-Dec-12 11:38:19

Ooooh fantastic - sorry xposts. So pleased for you, it is a horrible sick feeling when you lose something that connects you to someone you've lost. Look after them now and look after yourself, take this as a sign that things can and will get better for you and someone is looking out for you (have got your dear gran in the frame as the most likely grin).


SpoonyFuckersWife Sun 09-Dec-12 11:40:07

Excellent news!!

Lemon always gets rid of garlic smell, I use it on my hands after handling garlic. No amount of soap works compared,

KatieSantaPawskitty Sun 09-Dec-12 11:54:28

So glad you found them, I completely understand your anguish.

I'm a bugger for losing things. Once a necklace I'd lost and given up on turned up in a curtain.

Top tip for future reference: turn off all the lights and shine a torch, it's great for locating shiny lost things. Only if they're not in a bin bag! smile

Lavenderhoney Sun 09-Dec-12 12:47:25

Very good newssmile

CaHoHoHootz Sun 09-Dec-12 12:56:38

Yay! I am so pleased for you.

Now you need one or two of these and, maybe one of these

conantg Sun 09-Dec-12 13:12:02

Hurray! so happy for you smile

OnwardBound Sun 09-Dec-12 13:39:34

Great news!

It's so horrible to lose something so precious.

So pleased you've found them!

anonacfr Sun 09-Dec-12 15:13:51

YAY! You must be so relieved!!!!

helpyourself Sun 09-Dec-12 15:20:00

Great news. So happy!

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Sun 09-Dec-12 15:23:28

Ah I'm glad you've found them.

diddl Sun 09-Dec-12 15:27:47


shinyrobot Sun 09-Dec-12 15:53:25

That must be such a relief, I'm so pleased for you gringringrin

So pleased to hear you found them, was so hoping you would. grin

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sun 09-Dec-12 18:48:03

Thanks everyone. The garlic smell seems to have gone now (but I have washed up 3 times and had a shower and washed DDs hair so think that helped).

MonaLotte Sun 09-Dec-12 18:55:52

I'm so glad you found them! :-)

jteee Mon 10-Dec-12 00:42:25

Try the sink and shower waste pipes too - they often have some secrets in their U bend...

TalkativeJim Mon 10-Dec-12 01:55:55

Brilliant news OP!!! grin

ChippingInAWinterWonderland Mon 10-Dec-12 02:42:52

Brilliant news grin

Thank god you looked so thoroughly in the bin!!

<Sorry WTWOSjnr!!>

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