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to think i should go put sexy underwear on before sex with my husband?

(44 Posts)
Buddhagirl Thu 06-Dec-12 23:36:43

I don't go to the toilet and slip into something sexy and fix my hair and make up before sex.

Anyone else always do this? I'm becoming paranoid that its "what proper women do".

NagooHoHoHo Thu 06-Dec-12 23:39:26

You should be sexy and beautiful AT ALL TIMES you terrible slattern. It should be unnecesaary to make any adjustments to your attire or appearance. All that should be done before he gets in from his hard day at work.

DH doesn't care and neither do I. He hates kissing make up though.

Don't put lipstick on your Fanjo then.

<<helpful>>

SoleSource England Thu 06-Dec-12 23:41:54

Make him wear it. Hth.

grin

doyouwantfrieswiththat Thu 06-Dec-12 23:43:24

Is that after you've polished your children to perfection to greet their daddy and sat him down in a comfy chair with a nice glass of whiskey to ask about his trying day?

I do at least brush my teeth, it's only polite. I can't imagine where the magic went....

LRDtheFeministDude Thu 06-Dec-12 23:46:37

confused

No, I don't.

How would you work the timing? Would it not spoil the mood a tiny bit?

I've been known to check we've got condoms beforehand, if that helps you.

FaffTastic Thu 06-Dec-12 23:47:42

If I'm making a night of it then, yes, I sometimes do put stockings and sexy underwear on etc

If it's an impromptu quickie or shag before bed then no, my knickers don't tend to stay on long enough for it to be noticed what I'm wearing.

Buddhagirl Thu 06-Dec-12 23:48:29

Thank feck for that...I thought i was going crazy there for a bit.

I probably should stop wearing trackie bottoms most days im in the house. God ive only been married 5 months, paranoia much??

LRDtheFeministDude Thu 06-Dec-12 23:50:29

Wear what the fuck you like. Just probably best not to talk about it on the net in the small hours as some pervert who can't get it up will probably home in on it.

ravenAK Thu 06-Dec-12 23:50:48

I've been known to check I'm wearing laydeez pants, since apparently this is important in Keeping The Magic Alive.

Apparently a faded Motorhead t-shirt teamed with a pair of boxers he rejected from his own pants drawer some years ago does not = the siren he vaguely recalls marrying.

SHoHoHodan Thu 06-Dec-12 23:55:15

My DH appears to find trackie bottoms most alluring, I have to say.

Ditto fluffy dressing gowns worn with thick socks and mis-matched pyjamas, especially when worn while dancing to a delightful rendition of 'If you think I'm sexy'.

You could try adding that to your repertoire?

TenPercenter Thu 06-Dec-12 23:55:24

Does he primp about and put sexy undies on for you? If the answer is no, you have your own answer. My (d)p doesn't even bother to shower, which is probably why I reject his advances.

Witchety Thu 06-Dec-12 23:56:30

Sounds alright to me
raven !!

Themumsnotroastingonanopenfire Fri 07-Dec-12 00:01:09

DH is lucky if I remember to take my socks off first.

McChristmasPants2012 Fri 07-Dec-12 00:11:14

DH once bought me crotchless underwear sexy and easy access smile

whois Fri 07-Dec-12 00:27:21

Depends.

If I've come back from playing a match and showered anyway then I might change into some sexy undies for later. Wouldn't bother If we were just having a quickie before bed tho!

SinisterBuggyMonth Fri 07-Dec-12 01:15:00

DP (and several exPs) always say "whats the point of putting it on if it only ends up being taken off?"

I cant decide if this means I look better naked/i cant really carry sexy undies/my Ps are incredibly lazy about the removal of clothes!

DoingItOntheRoofTopWithSanta Fri 07-Dec-12 01:30:09

In a lingerie shop a few months ago that specialized in nursing bras... All were properly covered in ruffles an tarted up.. the woman informed me how proud she was to stock it all as it is very important that women can get back to their partners so the don't feel left out and the magic doesn't die etc confused

Didn't buy anything... was hoping for stretch cotton pop a boob out bras! Can't we ever just be us? Why don't men have to sneak out an put on sexy pants?

CordeliaChase Fri 07-Dec-12 01:51:18

I have to admit I like dressing up for my DH. We have at least one night a month of dressing up, and sex is getting back on track after two years of me fending him off haha!

AdoraJingleBells Fri 07-Dec-12 01:57:08

My underwear is always sexy. No, hang on - I've forgotten something. Ah yes, that's only in OH's dreams grin

misterwife Fri 07-Dec-12 02:02:55

What is this 'underwear' of which people speak?

It's good to wear sexy stuff if it makes you feel good/makes you and your DP feel like you're making a night of it, but realistically, men don't care and just want to get to the fleshy bit. I do realise I could have put that better...

monsterchild Fri 07-Dec-12 02:33:16

My Dh prefers me nekkid. So taking off whatever I'm wearing is part of the foreplay. Unless it's really cold, then we have snowbunny sex, exposing as little as possible, as quickly as possible!

i am on my first weekend away with DH in 8 years!!!!

I have brought matching underwear. This is what narks DH most, the mismatched undies.

And yes to answer the question he DOES wear sexy undies for me, a nice fresh white pair of tight Calvins....mmmmm mmmh!

No......I have some gorgeous knicks that I bought to seduce DH with but what a waste of money. God knows what I am saving them for but really what is the point?? They aint interested in our knickers, they just want to get to whats underneath em grin. I reckon if I did put them on, they would be off in about, oooh, ten seconds smile

catgirl1976geesealaying Fri 07-Dec-12 15:02:12

I do if it's a "special" night

Otherwise faded Motorhead t-shirt and greying pants it is

Doesn't seem to bother DH

strumpetpumpkin Fri 07-Dec-12 15:08:03

i love dressing up for him. I dont do it all the time, but I do quite often. I quite like a little bit of roleplay here and there and mood setting, and have different things i will wear. He loves it and appreciates it, although hes quite happy if I dont too. Hes just as keen if im in my pyjamas, but its for both of us, not just for him. I feel extra sexy if i dress up a bit

catgirl1976geesealaying Fri 07-Dec-12 15:10:46

I do remember buy a "Little red riding hood" outfit from Leg Avenue once, slinked into the bedroom and husked "My what a big..........."

DH fell on the floor crying with laughter blush

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:15:42

Cat girl are you me?

I sometimes even wear his boxers to bed!

In all honesty it matters not a fuck what I wear he rips it all off!

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:17:38

I did put him off his stride one night when I had a nice matching set on. He complemented it and I said 'thanks, your mum bought me then, she's got the same set'.

Apparently that's not what he wanted to hear!

catgirl1976geesealaying Fri 07-Dec-12 15:18:31

grin that's brilliant about the mum pants

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:19:30

Them not then!

SantaWearsGreen Fri 07-Dec-12 15:20:33

I tried this a few times and they were just ripped off so I thought what the hell is the point? Given up, stick with nakedness now.

mrskeithrichards Fri 07-Dec-12 15:24:06

I think some men do appreciate the wrapping, others don't!

Flossiechops Fri 07-Dec-12 16:40:38

No way, if dh is lucky enough to his wicked way with me then he has to take me as he finds me shock

SantaisBarredfromhavingStella Fri 07-Dec-12 17:02:28

Sometimes yes as dh does like sexy undies/outfits & don't mind them myself wink, not just for a quickie though grin

It takes about 30 seconds to put on a pair of sexy undies. A person who thinks that is too much effort frankly doesn't deserve to get any.

Not4turning Sat 08-Dec-12 01:58:00

When we think of the effort we put in in the beginning, it does seem a bit cuntish to have hair round yer tits, wiry ones on yer chin and a growth that would see sigourney weaver worrying about her lot having problems?!

strumpetpumpkin Sat 08-Dec-12 07:49:20

I think its women feeling like they've got a prize that any man should be elated to receive if she should be generous enough to give it. doesn't sound like they get much out of it themself, if the idea of any preparation is a hassle.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 08-Dec-12 08:02:12

Mrskeith grin

yuletopian99 Sat 08-Dec-12 08:06:18

I wear what i think looks nice/sexy/matching every day, mostly because if i don't i feel like what 's the point making an effort with your other clothes if you don't look good the whole way through the layers? This is rather to satisfy my strange ideas than a man though, and have caused much amusement to other female friends in the past...

Having had an ex-p who didn't care or notice my underwear though and(more in a lack of sex drive way than a rip-it-off way,) i must say i prefer that dh does comment favourably.

Also would be interested in the lesbian view on this, as if i was with an other woman I'd definitely prefer her to wear nice things. Maybe women are more aesthetically minded?

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Sat 08-Dec-12 09:31:59

I wear a white bra with white knickers every day. I have one black and wine corset which would just about fit but is in no way flattering.

MerryChristmasEverybody Sat 08-Dec-12 09:33:59

I don't live with my DP, I stay at his (parents) house Friday & Saturday nights most weeks. On a Friday I'll wear matching underwear, a thong maybe, don't bother with make up never have done and after travelling 2 hours by public transport my hair is a mess despite making it look nice before I leave my house. Come Saturday, sometimes I'll wear a thong, most times I don't bother.

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