to ask you what you think about comments about our baby's name?

(119 Posts)
whichformat Thu 06-Dec-12 21:58:41

We have chosen to name our baby daughter Ellen after several members of my family. I've mentioned the name to a few people who I'm not likely to see again as a way of testing reaction and had several of lukewarm comments - or no comment at all! They clearly didn't hate the name or ridicule it but just seemed to be very non-plussed. Another woman described it as 'run of the mill'.

We have had some positive comments but the fact that we may be giving our DD a 'run of the mill' name has started to bother me. I'm beginning to think it may not be special enough for our precious bundle. I know it's a name that doesn't have the immediate wow factor like Anastacia or something but I think it's pretty. AIBU to call my daughter Ellen?

Lora1982 Thu 06-Dec-12 21:59:52

I really like it!

LynetteScavo Thu 06-Dec-12 22:00:22


Personally I think it's nice, but as you say, doesn't have a wow factor.

Don't tell people what you are calling your baby, just do it!

ventilatormum Thu 06-Dec-12 22:00:33

Coincidentally I am reading The Age of Innocence and Ellen Olenska is the wonderful main character in that, so for that reason, I think you are not BU and it is a beautiful name.

I like it too smile

CaptainVonTrapp Thu 06-Dec-12 22:01:38

YANBU. Call her what you like. You're the one who has to live with it (oh and her). You'll never please everyone anyway.

HenriettaTurkey Thu 06-Dec-12 22:01:54

I think it's beautiful & elegant.

Elin (Welsh) was on our short list.

SundaysGirl Thu 06-Dec-12 22:02:27

I think it's a lovely name. Just because some people seem to feel the need to think up ever increasingly outlandish names for their children does not mean you have to do the same!

LineRunnerWithBellsOn Thu 06-Dec-12 22:02:48

It is a fine name.

XBenedict Thu 06-Dec-12 22:03:26

Love it!

cerealqueen Thu 06-Dec-12 22:03:26

Its beautiful. Ignore them, people are so rude. Just say 'did you meant to be so rude' a MN fave to rude people.

Best not to tell people, as whatever name you have, somebody will pull a face or say 'really?' or say nothing and then you doubt. So just don't say.

SavoyCabbage Thu 06-Dec-12 22:04:11

YANBU and you should be calling your baby whatever you want to call her.

You should keep your baby names to yourself if you don't want reactions. When someone told me they were calling their baby Kiera I did the no reaction reaction as I didn't like it and I thought ...'really????' and I didn't know how to arrange my face.

people are probably lumping it in with all the Ella/Bella Ava/Eve names when they think it's a bit ordinary.

cardibach Thu 06-Dec-12 22:04:40

Why do names need a 'wow factor'? Those sort of names become ridiculous in the long run. Ellen is a very pretty name which will stand the test of time. It is lovely for a small child, but equally Great Aunt Ellen or Granny Ellen sound resonable. THere will also not be many of them in her class/school. I may be biased as I have a neice called Ellen.

Bella88 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:04:51

It's elegant and pretty. Ignore any cretin who says otherwise.

Tistheseasontobedramatic Thu 06-Dec-12 22:05:45

I know a lovely Ellen.

RoadrunnerMeepMeep Thu 06-Dec-12 22:06:13

In the past I had a beautiful friend named Ellen, so kind, bubbly and confident. I think it's a good name! Don't worry about what other people think, names mean different things to different people!

FridgeBenefits Thu 06-Dec-12 22:06:15

It's a lovely name.
Anyone who questions your choice of name for your child IBU.

pictish Thu 06-Dec-12 22:06:37

It's very nice indeed.
You like it because you 'get' it.
Some people have no imagination and don't.

RubbishCrackerPuller Thu 06-Dec-12 22:06:50

I love, love, love Ellen smile

NellyBluth Thu 06-Dec-12 22:07:15

It's a beautiful name. My grandmothers middle names were Ellen and May, I always quite fancied it for any future DDs.

Agree with cardibach, though, I personally prefer names that will stand the test of time rather than having an immediate 'wow' factor. Ellen is a great name for every age your daughter will be. And you can always abbreviate it if you want.

LilyVonSchtupp Thu 06-Dec-12 22:07:34

Ellen Barkin is hardly run of the mill!

Ditto Ellen Burstyn, Ellen De Generes, Ellen Terry.

It's a lovely name, classic and strong. I don't like the trend to give baby girls stripper or princess names.

helpyourself Thu 06-Dec-12 22:07:40

It's lovely. People are rude!

ll31 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:08:25

Beautiful pretty and elegant name

AlwaysHoldingOnToStarbug Thu 06-Dec-12 22:08:33

People can be rude. It's a nice name, it's not one I'd choose, but that doesn't mean I think it's horrible.

i always say "What a nice name" whenever anyone mentions a name, because we all have different taste and I know for sure people don't like my kids names, but it's tough!

If you love it, and it has special meaning then use it and ignore other people.

LadySybilPussPolham Thu 06-Dec-12 22:08:35

It's a great name, but even if you'd chosen Pixie Bumfluff I would still smile and say "oh that's lovely" because anything else is just plain rude.

mumofthemonsters808 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:08:49

All that matters is whether you and your other half like the name, I would not give a damn what others think. Sometimes the simplest of names become unique because they have been overlooked by others.Personally it's not my cup of tea,but she's not my baby, but you must stand by your choice and ignore the comments what suits one does not suit another.

lurcherlover Thu 06-Dec-12 22:08:49

It's lovely. And Nell is a gorgeous nickname smile

FriendlyLadybird Thu 06-Dec-12 22:11:56

Should names have a wow factor?

Like so many things, once you know someone it's the person that comes to mind first, and the name is simply associated with them.

FWIW I think Ellen is a pretty name and I'm sure that your daughter, when she's born, will endow it with a wow factor by virtue of her own spectacular loveliness.

Kendodd Thu 06-Dec-12 22:12:05

I think it's fine.

I wanted to tell people what names we were thinking about before the baby was born because I think you get a more honest answer. I did this incase I liked a name everyone else hated. I did take other peoples views on board because I wouldn't want to have a name nobody liked.

JamieandtheMagiTorch Thu 06-Dec-12 22:12:34

I love it.

And agree that Nell is a nice nn.

nanny2012nanny Thu 06-Dec-12 22:13:41

Hooray this just made me smile a lot, I'm an Ellen,and I'm the only one I know!

To my nieces I'm aunty eddie, and my charges La la ,as they couldnt pronounce my name and my best friends smellen!!! Love it wouldnt change it for the world!!!

magimedi88 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:16:24

WTF does your child's name need a 'wow factor'????

Ellen is a lovely name and I am sure she is a beautiful bundle of joy for you!

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Thu 06-Dec-12 22:18:21

A fine name indeed.

Who needs the "wow" factor ? Does that mean a name like "Mercedes" or summat ?

Give a name your baby can grow into. Congratulations !

Ellen is a lovely name , classy and timeless .
It's very rude for people to make unkind comments .
Just say you're thinking maybe .. Waynetta , or Chardonnay and see the comments then .

whois Thu 06-Dec-12 22:19:10

I actually really like it. It's classy.

usualsuspect3 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:20:28

It's rude to make comments about any name.

Even ones with a wow factor.

PickledInAPearTree Thu 06-Dec-12 22:20:34

It's a lovely classic name. I really like it.

EugenesAxeChoppedDownANiceTree Thu 06-Dec-12 22:21:49

My niece is an Ellen. Why does a name have to be pizzazzy to be 'good enough' - I think it's beautiful. It certainly beats Anastasia.

I'm going to quote Sex and The City... I don't believe it. "Exactly - simple and classic." Her mates persuaded her to ditch the vintage satin suit for a Vivienne Westwood, and it all went tits up.

bootsycollins Thu 06-Dec-12 22:22:57

Lovely classic pretty name

twinklesparkles Thu 06-Dec-12 22:23:26

Its lovely smile

Also nice that its so personal to you smile

EugenesAxeChoppedDownANiceTree Thu 06-Dec-12 22:23:42

Oh good grief... I only read the OP and I've repeated everything the last batch of posters have said. At least we are all in agreement.

Cahoootz Thu 06-Dec-12 22:24:17

I think it is a lovely name grin.

(There was a thread very recently where the poster was canvassing opinions on Ellen)

We choose classic names for our DC and had a few meh comments. confused

WorraLorraTurkey Thu 06-Dec-12 22:24:19

My favourite Aunt is called Ellen...though she's always been known as Nelly.

There's nothing wrong with run of the mill names

Not everyone has to be called Beyonce or Mooncup.

I live in Hartlepool, or "'Artlepool with an Aitch" grin and have friend named Ellen. Ever since we can remember, people have thought she was Helen, but pronounced in our accent, all Helens are Ellens.
That said, I like the name, and we almost called DD Ellen, but in the end went for Emily - her great grandmother's name, instead.
What matters is if you like it, and if it suits her. Don't worry about what other people say. It's elegant and classical and won't "date" your DD like some other names would (like Tracey and Sharon born in the late 60s/early 70s, and Kylie from the 90s etc)

purplecrayon Thu 06-Dec-12 22:26:40

Lovely name. Forget the nonsense people have been rude enough to give you. Says a lot about them. Nothing whatsoever wrong with the name, even if it isn't to these people's taste.

PizzaSlut Thu 06-Dec-12 22:26:55

Perfectly acceptable name, my DN has a deriviative of it.

My children are named common boring names without a wow factor. Really doesn't matter if you like it and it passes the dustman solicitor test.

blackeyedsusan Thu 06-Dec-12 22:27:30

I think it is a lovely, pretty name,

marriedinwhite Thu 06-Dec-12 22:29:09

I like it. Personally, I think names should be kept private until the baby arrives and it's a done deal. Except for closest friends of course. xx

icclebabyjesusheave Thu 06-Dec-12 22:29:27

Ellen is lovely and even better if it has meaning for you.

Stuff what anyone else says!

ReaderIMarriedHim Thu 06-Dec-12 22:30:17

My middle name is Ellen, and it's my niece's name too. I think it's lovely. And there's a lot to be said for giving a child a simple, classic name that they won't have to spend the rest of their life having to spell out for people.

I was thinking about Ellen today and how beautiful it is.

IneedAgoldenNickname Thu 06-Dec-12 22:30:49

I love it! Wasn't aware names needless wow factor confused in fact I'm glad my children have lovely normal classic names!

NannyEggn0gg Thu 06-Dec-12 22:32:04

Why do you care?
It's a name you like and has meaning for you. You are never going to please everyone and nor should you have to.

If you want it, have it. And if you're that bothered by everyone elses' opinions then I suggest you have a list and take votes.

RozziRaspberry Thu 06-Dec-12 22:32:18

Our neighbours have a toddler named Ellen and I personally think it is a lovely name.

festivelyfocussed Thu 06-Dec-12 22:33:30

Tell ppl that you've decided to bow to public pressure and change her name to haribo tangfastic!

peppapigpants Thu 06-Dec-12 22:34:17

Love it smile

AlwaysHoldingOnToStarbug Thu 06-Dec-12 22:34:20

What are wow factor names anyway?

To me all my kids names are wow factor names because I love them! I doubt everyone else feels the same way.

LilRosiesMum Thu 06-Dec-12 22:35:35

Yes its a great name and more importantly it has good meanings for you. I know lovely Ellens of all generations. And there is nothing odd about it... I always sigh inwardly when people give their children odd complicated difficult to spell names...

stifnstav Thu 06-Dec-12 22:39:56

If someone responded to a name with "Wow", that would not be good IMO!

Seabird72 Thu 06-Dec-12 22:41:54

It's a lovely name and one she won't be ashamed to have.

Shelfy Thu 06-Dec-12 22:43:53

I had a friend who was called Helen and she liked being called Elly which was rather sweet.Awwww .I expect Ellin would be abreviated to Elly or El if you live in Essex grin

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Thu 06-Dec-12 22:45:54

Ellen... "light" "torch" "bright"


I am a bit biased though smile

ToffeeCaramel Thu 06-Dec-12 22:50:48

to ask you what you think about comments about our baby's name?

I would welcome any honest comments when pregnant and considering a name, as I would be interested to know how it would be perceived by others.

Once i had already named a baby, I would consider negative comments to be quite rude.

Devora Thu 06-Dec-12 22:53:05

I like elegant and slightly understated - it's a good name.

Hobbitation Thu 06-Dec-12 22:53:23

It's very nice. It was my dad's mum's name (who I never knew) and I had it down as a middle name, and was one of the reasons behind my thinking for Eleanor (which is DD2's name). At the moment DD2 says she wants to be known as Ellen, so there you go.

Furoshika Thu 06-Dec-12 22:54:06

It's a lovely name.
I think before the name is attached to a real life baby, it probably is fair game, but opinions are opinions.
Once the baby's born and starts growing up, nobody cares really. (Novelty names excepted)

kilmuir Thu 06-Dec-12 22:55:34

yabu and ridiculous
you like it, go for it.

AlbertoFrog Thu 06-Dec-12 22:56:51

Had DS been a girl 2 years ago that was one of the names we had shortlisted. Still love it as much today as I did then.

Funnily enough the trendy names of 2 years ago (those with the wow factor I presume) sound pretty naff now.

Ellen is a beautiful name.

BikeRunSki Thu 06-Dec-12 22:58:49

One of my best friends has just called her baby daughter Ellen. I think it is a lovely name. It is not unusual, spelt as it sounds and everybody has heard of it. I like those qualities in a name (I grew up with an unusual name and hated it. It's very common now!). I've seen DD's name (Amy) described as "Meh" on here - which I think means much the same thing. I don't care, because there is a reason behind her name, which is special and meaningful to us - and that is why Ellen is special to you.

Pandemoniaa Fri 07-Dec-12 00:13:15

It's a lovely name. Both my aunt and great-grandmother were called Ellen and had I had a dd, I would have seriously considered using that name. It is hardly "run of the mill" either. But it is elegant and timeless.

heyannie Fri 07-Dec-12 00:16:50

I love it! Tell anyone who is negative to piss off, it's a lovely name, not too common, pretty, strong, feminine...

Viviennemary Fri 07-Dec-12 00:23:11

I think it's a very nice name.

Firawla Fri 07-Dec-12 00:27:35

I like it too! just ignore people, it's a good name, you like it, once your dd is born they will get used to her with the name and find it suits her - there's always someone who doesn't like a name so you have to ignore and just go with your own choice. i agree best not tell before hand as people try to put u off or make annoying comments.

It's not very commonly chosen so that makes it more interesting, i dont actually think its so "run of the mill"

NagooHoHoHo Fri 07-Dec-12 00:28:34

It's g

freddiefrog Fri 07-Dec-12 00:30:21

It's a lovely name.

You've chosen it because it has meaning and is special to you. Doesn't need to have a wow factor

MrsChestysGlitteryBaubles Fri 07-Dec-12 00:31:00

I'm very envy you have an Ellen, we wanted it for DD but its awful with our surname, so it's a middle name.

I LOVE it grin

NagooHoHoHo Fri 07-Dec-12 00:32:23

Lard fingers sorry blush aaa hhh what everyone else said grin

Rudolphstolemycarrots Fri 07-Dec-12 00:33:53

If nice enough. I'm loving Nell as a nick name though!

LDNmummy Fri 07-Dec-12 00:37:49

I think its lovely. I don't understand what kind of name you are supposed to give your DD for it to not be 'run of the mill' confused

Its about what the name means to you that makes it special.

Don't let it get you down. I remember being really against my DD's name as it was too popular (DH picked it). Now I feel very silly about having felt that way before and couldn't imagine calling her anything else.

Yes it is a common name, but she is the one and only her, that makes it special.

Doinmummy Fri 07-Dec-12 00:45:27

Oi pom . What makes you think Sharons and Traceys are from the 60's??

From Sharon (born 1964). grin

Gingerodgers Fri 07-Dec-12 00:56:23

I like the name, fwiw, we told my fil that we wanted to name our daughter flora, he laughed and said, yeh great, after the margarine, I said fuck you, your named after a penis!!!

Greensleeves Fri 07-Dec-12 00:59:25

I think if someone posted on MN asking "what do you think of this name" I would give an honest opinion.

But anyone who sneers/pulls a face/fails to say "Oh how lovely" to an actual baby who has been named is an asshole <gavel>

thetrackisback Fri 07-Dec-12 01:10:56

I like it it's lovely! But I think Mercedes is much nicer! <actual name of a child at nursery!>

TapirAroundTheChristmasTree Fri 07-Dec-12 01:34:07

It's lovely! (and very similar to my RL name so I am biased)

misterwife Fri 07-Dec-12 01:46:24

At least you're not calling her Primula or Anaesthesia or Gorgonzola or something else horrific. And Ellen DeGeneres is a role model for anyone!

aurynne Fri 07-Dec-12 04:05:08

"I'm beginning to think it may not be special enough for our precious bundle."

Erm... really? Perhaps it is because your precious bundle is only special for you and her dad. Other people will not jump at its specialness because... well, because it is just NOT special.

Names don't make people special. It's the other way around. Your daughter will make her name be a special one if she one day does something special.

SchnappsDamnYou Fri 07-Dec-12 04:08:36

I wanted my child to have a solid, well loved classic name. He can provide the wow factorsmile

AltinkumATEalltheTurkey Fri 07-Dec-12 04:09:34

If ds2 was a girl, he was being called Nancy or Esme.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Fri 07-Dec-12 04:24:59

dont ever sound out on names in advance. I made that error with DC1

Said to DM "If it's a girl, she will be Robyn"
DM said "Oh.........well if you like it....."

So, basically she ruined Robyn for me. Fortunately DC1 was a boy, but i'd learned my lesson by then, so just called from the hospital and said "You have a grandson, called X," when of course, the only thing they can really say is "Oh, how lovely".

Subsequently had a DD but had gone off Robyn by then, so maybe DM was right after all (not that I'll ever admit that to her grin)

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Fri 07-Dec-12 04:26:51

I wanted my child to have a solid, well loved classic name. He can provide the wow factor

Exactly- No-one ever says "John Lennon- talented guy but very run of the mill name."

twizzlestix Fri 07-Dec-12 04:47:40

It's lovely but then I used it for my DD smile have recieved nothing but positive comments by the way.

twizzlestix Fri 07-Dec-12 04:49:04

It means sunshine if that helps

A name is just a name until the person attached to it becomes the names ifywim. The good names, the naughty names, the high achieving names it's all developed with time

ibizagirl Fri 07-Dec-12 05:43:54

I like it and it's my Nan's middle name with that spelling, although when booking her in for something with middle name needed, it always comes back as Helen!

BrevilleTron Fri 07-Dec-12 05:55:11

It's a beautiful name.
My cousin has just had a baby Ellen
Years ago we had a pact that we would name our daughters after each other. My cousin has a lovely first name so I named DD after her but I am SO glad she didn't call her DD after me as Ellen really really suits her DD!
Well done great name!

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly Fri 07-Dec-12 06:00:17

There's nothing wrong with it and it is meaningful to you.

It doesn't matter what other people think. don't let that stop you using a name that means something to you.

Fairylea Fri 07-Dec-12 06:18:12

My mum's name is Ellen.

I like it but everyone calls my mum ellie which she hates so worth bearing than in mind !

Fakebook Fri 07-Dec-12 08:52:31

To me, wow factor would be naming my child Princess Kenisha Lanisha Beyonce.

Names don't need a wow factor. They need to be pretty and suit the baby. Ignore them.

KnitFastDieWarm Fri 07-Dec-12 09:10:34

Ellen is a pretty name smile ignore, ignore, smile and nod!
Why do people imagine you want their opinion on this kind of thing??

Cezella Fri 07-Dec-12 09:26:13

Ellen is my middle name and for what it's worth I Love it. And I think other people must like it too because I often get called First Name Ellen rather than just First Name

VictorAndBarry Fri 07-Dec-12 09:27:55

I think it is elegant, without fuss and timeless. Perfect, in fact.

seeker Fri 07-Dec-12 09:30:07

It's lovely.

Why on earth should a name have the "wow" factor?

specialsubject Fri 07-Dec-12 09:32:08

meets all the criteria for a name: easy to pronounce, easy to spell, common enough that everyone has heard of it but not so common that there will be fifteen in her class. If shortened will be 'Ellie' which is also nice.

She is named for family members, and it means 'light'. What's not to like?

Harper Seven? Blue Ivy? angry

valiumredhead Fri 07-Dec-12 09:34:16

When we told dh's aunt what we planned to name ds, she laughed and said 'Oh my God, as if you could name a child that!' then back peddled when we realised we were serious grin

Ellen is a lovely name smile

ChasedByBees Fri 07-Dec-12 09:37:21

After reading this thread, if there's ever a DD2, I want to call her Elin (DD1 has a welsh name). Ellen is lovely.

socharlotte Fri 07-Dec-12 09:43:26

I don't think children will necessarily thank you for saddling giving them a name with wow factor!
There is no such thing as a good name or not, if everyone liked the same name everybody would call their baby the same thing which would be a tad confusing!!

WandaDoff Fri 07-Dec-12 09:47:36

I think its lovely smile

It was on our shortlist for DD & it was my Gran's name.

fedupofnamechanging Fri 07-Dec-12 10:15:12

I think it is lovely too. Elegant and timeless and very pretty.

Remember that not everyone is going to like what you like - it doesn't mean that you are wrong and they are right. I wonder what the children of the critics are called. Chances are you wouldn't be overly keen on their names, because clearly your tastes are different.

MrsAceRimmer Fri 07-Dec-12 10:55:45

Ellen is a lovely name, I wouldn't choose it as it doesn't go with our surname.
I got so sick of people offering opinions on the names we chose, that I started making ridiculous ones up (Tallulah Pepsi bumsqueak anyone?)
The names we chose are reasonably uncommon in Scotland, but always make the English top 10, usually top 5 so not particularly out there.

whichformat Fri 07-Dec-12 11:50:20

Thanks for your lovely supportive replies everyone. They've given me back the confidence to use the name I love - I really was expecting a mixed bag of comments but nearly all of them have been positive.

As pictish said, perhaps it's a name that you either 'get' or you don't.

Nothing wrong with it....It's a lovely name. My friends daughter is Ellen and she gets called Ellie smile

goldenlula Fri 07-Dec-12 12:07:50

Ellen was my maternal nan's middle name and is mine and my dd's middle name. It is a very pretty name in my opinion. Have never thought a name needs 'the wow factor', infact I didn't know a name could because unless you make up a name or go for something ultra rare, most people will have heard most names at some point in their lives.

My mum is Ellen, its never been shortened apart from by my dad who calls her Ellie belly hmm

One of the least run of the mill people I know is called Ellen. :-)

EldritchCleavage Fri 07-Dec-12 12:34:18

One woman's 'run of the mill' is another woman's 'classic'. I think Ellen is a classic name.

And the current trend for often ludicrously unusual names is a fad, which means a lot of the names used will date horribly, and be just as generation-specific as Margaret, or Sheila, or Sally sound now.

squoosh Fri 07-Dec-12 12:36:58

I'm a bit confused. What did you expect everyone to say, 'oh wow that's the mose beautiful name I've ever heard'?. There is no name in the world that would illicit universally positive comments.

Why do you care that people's reactions were only 'lukewarm'? From what you've said 99% of people have been polite about the name even if you feel they don't actually like it.

Where's the problem?

squoosh Fri 07-Dec-12 12:38:24

'perhaps it's a name that you either 'get' or you don't'

This is the case with ALL names.

quickdowntonson Fri 07-Dec-12 13:05:44

How rude some people can be! I think Ellen is a lovely name, and I agree with SybilPuss, you can call your child whatever you damn well like. My DD best friend of 11 years is called Ellen, and she's a great girl. Don't listen to this sort of rubbish.

monkeymamma Fri 07-Dec-12 13:19:49

I think it's lovely. But there is no one name that everyone will love. Otherwise we wouldn't need all these different names! If YOU love it and it feels right, that name is the name if your little one, and stuff what anyone else thinks.

I didn't want to be 'put off' our chosen name so kept it between dh and I until ds was born. I think a few people close to us are less than keen, or were at first. But after a while the name is intrinsically linked with your dc, and no one would dream of commenting on it.

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