About buying BIL underwear for Christmas

(46 Posts)
PurpleTinsel Tue 04-Dec-12 23:24:20

I had a chat with DSis on the phone today. During the conversation, I asked if she had any idea what BIL might like for Christmas. She said that BIL would like some underwear. I was a bit confused "Really???" but DSis insisted that this would be a good present. Even told me what size to get.

The more I think about this, the more uncomfortable I'm getting with the idea. It just seems a little too intimate.

WIBU to call DSis back tomorrow and tell her that I don't feel comfortable buying BIL underwear for Christmas? Or am I being a bit prudish here?

McChristmasPants2012 Tue 04-Dec-12 23:27:11

Yanbu I would be very worried if my sister bought DH some boxers

I think you are being a bit prudish tbh. Its no more intimate than buying socks.

jennywren123 Tue 04-Dec-12 23:28:58

YADNBU that is a bit ewwwww hmm

I would buy something else and if the topic comes up in conversation, just say one of the following -

Sorry, I'd forgotten I'd already brought him xyz

Sorry, people must have been panic buying, none left in M&S

Sorry, I would find it a bit weird buying underwear for BIL

PurpleTinsel Tue 04-Dec-12 23:40:37

Chris - surely it's a little bit more intimate than a pair of socks? Feet have no sexual connotations as far as I'm concerned (but maybe they do to everyone else?)

TuftyFinch Tue 04-Dec-12 23:42:56

Buy him a nice thong or some big Y fronts. She won't suggest it again.

If I had a BIL then his penis would have no sexual connotations to me either grin
Would you buy him trousers?

catus Tue 04-Dec-12 23:48:42

If your relationship with them is normal, they obviously think it's an ok present to ask for. What you do is up to you, but unless you are really, really, really bothered, I suggest you go to M&S and buy some nice quality underwear.
I don't think it is a big deal personally.

floweryblue Tue 04-Dec-12 23:49:23

Your DSIS is just getting familiar with her DPs undies and she doesn't l;ike what she she sees, so fresh ones that justify her getting rid of the old ones, seems a good idea to me x

TuftyFinch Tue 04-Dec-12 23:54:57

I wouldn't want my BIL buying my pants. I just wouldn't.

ravenAK Tue 04-Dec-12 23:55:52

We (collectively, me dh & the dc) bought BIL some Big Pants last year.

As expected, he immediately donned them - over trousers - & wore them all day. Dc thought it was hilarious.

But then, dh & I once had to practically carry each other out of Hallmark due to the hysterics engendered by buying BIL birthday socks embroidered with the name 'Ken' (BIL is called Ben), so we possibly already have an unhealthy relationship wrt to sniggering at poor BIL's underwear.

But no, I probably wouldn't buy BIL grundies as a proper present. Get him some nice socks!

ChippingInLovesAutumn Wed 05-Dec-12 00:06:59

Wouldn't bother me at all - it's not as though he's going to strip off and try them on is it grin

StuntGirl Wed 05-Dec-12 00:08:10

My DP days buy him extra small and say "Dsis told me this would be the right size" - she won't do it again!

marimama Wed 05-Dec-12 00:11:50

My brothers, dad and my DH got same underwear for christmas one year. Forget which one of them bought for the others, but they were tiny camouflage pants, and they put them on over trousers and still laugh about it now. Guess it depends on your family!! wink

Mostly on how you think your BIL will react to gift. Good lick shopping!

marimama Wed 05-Dec-12 00:13:05

Errr. Good LUck shopping. blush

Stonefield Wed 05-Dec-12 00:17:01

If I received underwear from SIL or anyone else other than my DP I would feel weird. Get him something else. It's not like getting socks, but then I reckon no one but my mother or my DP can buy me socks anyway.
Just sounds weird to me, can't she suggest something else?

TrazzleMISTLEtoes Wed 05-Dec-12 00:31:02

My MIL always bought me lacy pants for Christmas. When she died, my Aunt in law took over blush

OkayHazel Wed 05-Dec-12 00:58:54

If she has suggested it, it is okay.

It's not buying a man undies on a whim, it's his wife saying that he needs some and asking you to help.

Steer clear of man thongs though!

AdoraJingleBells Wed 05-Dec-12 02:31:04

YANBU, I wouldn't buy undies for a BIL, or a DB. Maybe get him a voucher from whichever store he likes his undies from. It's such a personal thing, IMO, that I just wouldn't feel comfortable.

SomersetONeil Wed 05-Dec-12 02:40:22

It was only a suggestion, not a command.

If you don't want to buy BIL undies, then don't. Just get him something else.

Am I missing something? Are either of them even going to notice, let alone mind if you decide to buy him something else?

HalloweenNameChange Wed 05-Dec-12 02:46:02

Just a multi pack from m&s or next right? not a big deal..wouldn't go picking special ones though. Get something xmasy.

honeytea Wed 05-Dec-12 02:52:50

I buy my brother funny underwear, ones with transformers or something we liked as kids on some years.

If you don't feel happy about it just buy some vouchers and give them to BIL.

catgirl1976geesealaying Wed 05-Dec-12 08:51:14

Wouldn't bother me at all

It's only some pants

It's not like you have to see him in them

I'm sure DSis has bought DH some boxers in the past

I don't think he boffed her in gratitude

SomersetONeil Wed 05-Dec-12 09:04:31

It's all this talk of calling DSis back and being 'prudish' that I don't get.

Putting aside the fact that it's men's undies - plastic-wrapped and multi-packed up - they really are pretty a-sexual. Surely a bit of a mountain being made out of a molehill. Buy them, don't buy them. No need for any angst.

TheShriekingHarpy Wed 05-Dec-12 09:06:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SomersetONeil Wed 05-Dec-12 09:09:03

A stunt/comedy codpiece might be pushing it too far... But standard gruts? Not so much...

GoldQuintessenceAndMyhrr Wed 05-Dec-12 09:09:30

Two monks were walking down a muddy road, where they met a beautiful young woman needing to cross, but the puddle was too big and deep. The elder monk offered to carry the woman across. Half an hour later the young monk said to the older one:
"Was it really wise to carry that young woman over the puddle?" to which the older of the two replies
"Young friend, you seem to still be carrying the young woman, I put her down a mile back when I had lifted her across the puddle"

In short: Dont worry about it. There is nothing sexual about it unless you make it so. If you were to come up with a better present yourself, go for. Would some Pjs or socks be better? Maybe go to tk max and buy him a set of Ted Baker cufflinks and tie? They are £9.99 so quite reasonable.

ENormaSnob Wed 05-Dec-12 09:14:33

It really wouldn't bother me tbh.

purplecrayon Wed 05-Dec-12 09:18:15

My db and sil are getting dh pants for Christmas grin

choceyes Wed 05-Dec-12 09:40:41

wouldn't bother me.

Love that story GoldQuintessenceAndMyhrr

Cezella Wed 05-Dec-12 09:41:44

I buy my brothers boxers nearly every year- I really don't think it's a big deal at all, especially seen as your sister suggested it

Fakebook Wed 05-Dec-12 09:46:28

I would never buy pants for an in-law. That's just strange. Socks or gloves and scarves are fine.

shewhowines Wed 05-Dec-12 09:49:08

Calvin Klines and those of that ilk are really appreciated by my young relatives. They are not cheap and wouldn't be bought for themselves so are asked for as presents.

Nothing sexual about xmas pants! We have a naice silver thong that does the rounds each year and always ends up in a different gentleman's present pile. You are honoured if you get it. Tis one of our traditions.

TimeyWimeyStuff Wed 05-Dec-12 09:52:58

Genuinely surprised at how prudish some people are about this. A pack of boxers is a standard gift for the men in our family. DH pretty much relies on my mum to update his supply each year. grin BIL might as well get something useful rather than yet more scarves/gloves/smellies etc.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Wed 05-Dec-12 09:59:55

I wouldn't choose to buy my BIL undies (it does feel odd to me) but I probably would if my sis suggested that's what he really needed. I'd get some fairly plain ones in the size your sis suggested.

mortimersraven Wed 05-Dec-12 09:59:55

I don't think he boffed her in gratitude

grin catgirl

PurpleTinsel Wed 05-Dec-12 18:56:09

See, it's just not normal for my family to give each other underwear as presents. Regardless of how useful it may be for men who don't want to go and buy their own.

And it's family tradition to take turns opening all presents in front of each other - we'll all be together on Boxing Day, and BIL will be expected to open my present with everyone watching. Although I can't imagine anyone other than DBro asking BIL to model them for us [hgrin]

At the minute, I'm debating whether to buy some sort of comedy pants and yell "DSis said that you wanted these!" at the critical moment, or whether to go for something entirely different. Like clothes shop vouchers or whisky. BIL likes whisky.

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly Wed 05-Dec-12 19:20:05

<shrug> seems like she's being practical to me.

He needs pants. You want to buy him something. Buy him pants.

No different to socks or a jumper, imo.

If you feel funny about it, give him a voucher and he can go buy the pants himself.

EggNogRules Wed 05-Dec-12 19:27:32

You are being prudish imho.

Designer undies are a fine present. Fundies (one pair for two people), candy g strings, Peter Stringfello leopard skin briefs less so

What type of undies? <mind boggles>

TidyDancer Wed 05-Dec-12 19:36:54

BIL bought me pants one year. I'm fairly certain I've bought them for him as well. But then tbf he's been my best friend since I was a teenager and this was before DP and I were together, so we do have an exceptionally close relationship for ILs.

I wouldn't be weird about it though, even if we weren't as close. It's just pants, isn't it?

FestiveFrollockingFrenzy Wed 05-Dec-12 19:46:16

I wouldn't buy underwear for a BIL smile

TheWalkingDead Wed 05-Dec-12 19:50:23

I have bought my BIL pants, and sometimes get to see them drying on an airer so I know he likes them enough to use them. It's not something that bothers me really, unless your DSis has requested you buy him spangly thongs? Because that would be weird.

By the way, I don't go looking for proof that BIL wears the pants, it's just he lives with us so I can't help but notice iyswim!

gordyslovesheep Wed 05-Dec-12 19:50:47

goodness people are odd - it's undercrackers not a butt plug grin

HormonalHousewife Wed 05-Dec-12 19:54:12

I wouldnt buy undies for anyone else except kids Male or female.

KenLeeeeeee Wed 05-Dec-12 20:47:54

Well I'D be majorly freaked if either of my BIL bought me knickers for Christmas, so I wouldn't do it for them either.

CSIJanner Wed 05-Dec-12 21:14:55

We must be weird as my family have no problems buying underwear for in laws. Maybe your sister is trying to get the other half out of pants she finds really unattractive. Just get him a set from Marksy or Beckham pants from H&M. If you really want to have fun, Sainsburys have some great "Where's Wally" pants :-)

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