to be fed up of people commenting on how DS isn't walking yet...

(60 Posts)
lola88 Tue 04-Dec-12 21:11:16

...because he's only just turned 10mo, he crawled quite early at 7mo and is good on his feet but he's just not ready to let go i just let him go at his own pace but people seem dissapointed that he's not running marathons!

If one more person tells me i should be trying to make him let go and walk i will be forced to scream 10 MONTHS in their face until they get it.

Cantheyreportme Tue 04-Dec-12 21:15:27

oh my LO is ten months and has just started crawling, I'm not expecting her to walk for a while either.

they are forgetting he's still early, v early as he has crawled so early.

just sa plainly he will way when he is ready and to before.

nocake Tue 04-Dec-12 21:15:37

Is he big for his age? DD is tiny so we constantly had people saying they were surprised to see such a young baby walking... she walked at 14 months!

KnittingChristmas Tue 04-Dec-12 21:16:33

DS2 crawled at 5 1/2 mths and didn't walk til 14 mths shock! Just ignore them smile.

BionicEmu Tue 04-Dec-12 21:17:08

YANBU! Jeez, I thought you were going to say he was nearly 2 years old or similar.

He's 10 months old, not even a year yet. I applaud your ability to resist screaming in people's faces!

featherbag Tue 04-Dec-12 21:17:46

DS didn't crawl until the day before his 1st birthday, he's now 14mo and cruising around the furniture but totally uninterested in walking when crawling gets him where he needs to be fast enough!

McChristmasPants2012 Tue 04-Dec-12 21:18:01

i thought you was going to say 18 months+ he is still a baby

littlewhitebag Tue 04-Dec-12 21:19:46

My youngest DD didn't walk until 15 months. She will be age 15 years soon and i find she walks, runs, plays hockey and golf and dances - all just fine! Just ignore these silly people!

10 months? my ds wasn't even crawling at that age, didn't walk until he was almost 15 months- i'd laugh at them to be honest (while gritting my teeth & screaming inside)

Pontouf Tue 04-Dec-12 21:20:49

My son didn't crawl till he was 11 months (well not forward anyway!) and didn't walk till he was 15 months. They do it when they're ready and ten months is still so young. Ignore ignore ignore smile

BabylonElf Tue 04-Dec-12 21:22:05

Ds is 7 months off and only just rolling over.

Dd1 walked on her first birthday, but dd2 not until she was 16 months - just another example of how every baby is different smile

LDNmummy Tue 04-Dec-12 21:22:32

Oh yes I hate this!

DD is 14 months and only started trying to walk at 12 months.

DH and I both walked at 7 months but I had no expectations for DD as every child is different.

The worst comment was DH's father asking us if we had taken her to the GP or a specialist and that maybe we should as all of his kids had walked at 7 months. DH was angry for about a week!

Just yesterday and today DD seems to have decided she prefers walking more than crawling. It has been a gradual transition and not something where she has just gotten up one day and started walking.

Just ignore them, its sad the way some people think rearing children is a competitive sport.

EarnestDullard Tue 04-Dec-12 21:23:25

YANBU, 10 months would be very early to be walking.

DD was crawling by 6mo but didn't walk till about 15mo. I've heard it said that early crawlers are often late walkers, as they can get around fine by crawling so don't need to start walking. That could be rubbish though grin

imustbepatient Tue 04-Dec-12 21:28:25

YANBU at all! DD1 crawled at 8.5 months and walked at 15 months having shown no interest in it until not long before that. But because she was that little bit older she sussed it very quickly and went from tentative walking to haring round the place at great speed within a couple of weeks!

All the toddlers in my NCT group walked at completely different ages but now (aged 2) you couldn't tell who walked first vs who walked last. Tell any rude people to sod off!

PowerPants Tue 04-Dec-12 22:10:26

Mine is 15 months and not walking and yes I am very very very sick of it.

My daughter never crawled only bum shuffled and didn't walk until she was 18 months!

Ignore x

AndABigBirdInaPearTree Tue 04-Dec-12 22:13:50

DS1 didn't walk until 15 months. He has been an elite level athlete. Let it be water off a duck's back.

Theicingontop Tue 04-Dec-12 22:14:23

YADNBU. My son wasn't even crawling at 10mo. Tell them to mind their own business!

AndABigBirdInaPearTree Tue 04-Dec-12 22:14:38

Besides, they get into more trouble when they start to walk and then run. DS2 learned to run within a week of starting to walk.

thebody Tue 04-Dec-12 22:14:51

WHAT!!!!!! My third child never crawled. She bum shuffled till 18 months and then walked across the room.

Who is telling you this?? What utter crap.

My 4,, ds I walked at 10 months, ds2 walked at 15 months. Dd3 18 months, dd4 13 months.

Ignore and laugh.

HildaOgden Tue 04-Dec-12 22:15:26

Do they know he's only ten months,does he look older?

Ignore them.

another bum shuffler who didn't walk til 21 months. Thing is, she's tiny for her age and I'd get " she looks too little to be walking!" I'd be going, but she's 2 next month! Can't win, I think!

AllYoursJingleBellbooshka Tue 04-Dec-12 22:21:54

God I dread having all this again when DC2 comes along.

Just chuckle, roll your eyes and say "Don't be so silly, he's only 10 months! you twat "

Whatdoiknowanyway Tue 04-Dec-12 22:23:13

My DD crawled and walked earlyish.(6 and 10 months). Which was kind of an embarrassment as our really good friends had a daughter 8 months older who just shuffled on her bottom for a long time so it was really noticeable when our baby started crawling and walking first.
However. Their DD stood for the first time on our DDs 1st birthday. By the end of the next week she was practically running. Theywere then pretty much level pegging all through their childhood. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Babies all develop at different rates.

PS 20 years on the two girls are still very good friends.

I love it when people say stuff like this - like it is actually possible to make a baby walk!

Just shake your head and laugh. Or ask them.how they think you could make ds walk any sooner.

AlwaysHoldingOnToStarbug Tue 04-Dec-12 22:25:45

DS1 started crawling and cruising at 7 months. He was really good on his feet while holding on to something or someone, but as soon as he let go would crawl. He started walking at 16 months. How are you supposed to make them walk?

10 months is really young! (Well, it is to me, my 5 ranged from 13 - 21 months.)

ISeeThreadPeople Tue 04-Dec-12 22:27:30

DS walked at 9 months and was running by 10 months. I had people telling me to stop him to prevent bow legs.

You can't win.

canuck43 Tue 04-Dec-12 22:30:18

Silly people, he'll walk when he's ready, he's got another 80 or so years to be on his feet.

lola88 Tue 04-Dec-12 22:54:15

He is a big baby but the people who have mentioned it all know his age they just seem to assume that because he can crawl he should be moving on to walking he can do a funny sort of run with a push along toy so they say if he does that he should walk but it's not that he physically can't walk it's that he's not ready to let go he's not found that confidance yet and no wonder he's still so little

LDNmummy Tue 04-Dec-12 23:35:06

That is exactly my DD's problem OP.

She very obviously doesn't feel confident to let go and walk without support. She can walk perfectly well just holding one of my fingers without me even supporting her weight.

She has even walked across the room when watching TV to get closer to it and then stopped as soon as she realises what she is doing. She seems to panic and then freeze before deciding whether to get down and crawl or call for me to pick her up. I didn't even know babies had this kind of fear of walking unaided till she started behaving this way.

The last couple of days she just seems to have forgotten her fears and walks -very slowly- around the living room.

lola88 Wed 05-Dec-12 10:33:47

I think it's quite common LDN people are telling me to just let him go or he will never walk on his own but he's obviously scared so i just let him lead me i don't want to make it worse by pulling his support away!

Katiepoes Wed 05-Dec-12 10:43:13

My daughter walked on her knees until 20 months, she would only walk on her feet if we held her hand. At 20 months she let go but it took until about 22 before she was really comfortable. She's now 30 months and is giving me heart-attacks as she's become a bolter - they all find their own pace.

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 05-Dec-12 10:47:13

10 months is quite young to walk isn't it? Lots of babies walk young but it's not so much the norm that not walking at that age is eyebrow raising is it?

I don't know how you bite your tongue OP. He's 10 months old not 10 years old. I'm sure he'll walk soon enough,when he's ready smile

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Wed 05-Dec-12 11:16:45

Ten months is still little to walk unaided, what sort of people are saying this to you? I'd have thought most people that had had babies would have more knowledge, these people sound like they know next to nothing about babies, therefore their opinion has no value.

Feminine Wed 05-Dec-12 11:21:58

LDN 7 months?

I have never heard of a baby walking that early! shock

Both you and your DH? That is unusual smile

DowntonNappy Wed 05-Dec-12 11:24:44

10 months!

My dd didn't walk until a month before she turned two years old.

She was a bum shuffler and didn't crawl.

So much pressure on babies these days.

OhTheConfusion Wed 05-Dec-12 11:25:47

Powerpants, are you me? DD is 15mth this week and not walking either. blush

Ciske Wed 05-Dec-12 11:26:32

Walking and crawling are the most visible steps in a baby's development and therefore the ones people always comment on when they want to have baby talk. Nobody ever asks if it isn't about time baby learned to smack two blocks together, or learn the pinch grasp, yet these are also important steps in their physical development.

When I get queries about what my kids can and can't do, I normally say I let them learn at their own pace, but if they still can't talk/walk/use the potty at 18 years, I'll make a GP's appointment. That normally ends the conversation. smile

soverylucky Wed 05-Dec-12 11:29:18

Dd was 26 months (will probably out myself with that statement as she seemed to be so late ) She has shown no long term problems for being lazy (as that is what she was according to the physiotherapist)

lola88 Wed 05-Dec-12 11:29:53

it's family and people at the mother and toddlers group i think it's because he's been crawling for ages it seems like he should be walking but they forget that early crawling doesn't mean early anything else.

I have pointed out to the few who have said he's physically able i should let him go that they are physically able to jump out a plane but it doesn't mean they will do it. It's driving me mad it's almost like sympathy telling me he will get there in the end when he's only at the start of the average timescale for walking.

Hopeagainsthope Wed 05-Dec-12 11:30:15

They are just trying to engage you in polite conversation. Find something else to talk about if it bugs you.

DoTheStrand Wed 05-Dec-12 12:33:51

DS2 is 10 months and has only just started bum shuffling (though my god he's fast). He can't pull himself up yet (my excuse is he is too fat to hold up his own weight).

DS1 just went round in circles on his tummy until 10.5 months and didn't walk confidently til 15 months. I would have thought 10 months for walking was v early.

SantaWearsGreen Wed 05-Dec-12 12:51:37

TEN MONTHS?! Its rare that babies walk that young isn't it?! Normal age is anything between 12 and 18 months ime.

Mine were 15 and 16 months before they walked. By 14 months there were a few people asking them when they would walk but only because DS took his first steps at 12 months walking between DH and I but then just never bothered again, and DD was quick to do everything else but didn't want to walk at all.

We get this all of the time with DS and his speech. He's 2.9 and says a handful of words. Maybe I should feel more concerned but I just don't. All kids go at their own rates. Einstein didn't talk til he was four! Ds has a tshirt saying Einstein was a late talker lol.

Ten months is really young though.. I don't really understand that. Just smile and ignore. Everyone likes to have an opinion but that is all it is- an opinion, nothing in the grand scheme of things.

GladbagsGold Wed 05-Dec-12 12:54:47

Tell them you've asked him to wait until his first birthday (you can scream FIRST as loud as you like of course, to make the point)

EldritchCleavage Wed 05-Dec-12 13:02:03

Oh, this is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo tiresoome!

DS didn't walk until he was 19 months. Complete strangers would ask me why he wasn't walking. (i) I don't know; (ii) tactless question, what if there were some disability or developmental issue we were very worried over and didn't want to talk about; (iii) you don't really care, as you don't actually know any of us, so why are you asking?

DS had his walker wrenched off him in the park by a younger child who was walking. His mother was smugly apologetic and did the whole, 'Oh dear, he isn't walking?' routine. She stopped being smug when her DS wandered back within reach and my DS got him in a Vulcan Death grip. See, his legs were a bit slow but his upper body strength was a marvel.

2monkeybums Wed 05-Dec-12 13:31:48

Ds2 is 14 months and no where near walking.

planestrainsautomobiles Wed 05-Dec-12 14:09:05

Both mine crawled around 6 months and walked around 14 1/2 months. Most of their friends started walking at the same time - I think walking before 12 months is not as common as people think!

vj32 Wed 05-Dec-12 14:12:22

I have similar but with talking/social interaction because DS is big and confident on his feet people assume he is older. He's 18months but not really talking yet, communicates by noises and gestures but few distinct words.

People assume he is 2+ and try and talk to him. He generally smiles, waves or looks puzzled and says "quack quack".

rainbow2000 Wed 05-Dec-12 15:30:42

My 18 month ds is still not walking by himself.He walks around the furniture just wont venture on his own yet.

SugaricePlumFairy Wed 05-Dec-12 15:36:48

Ignore them, they're daft.

DS2 never crawled, just pulled himself up and started lurching and wobbling walking. It was a nightmare and we couldn't leave him ever until he was steady, I then had some idiots saying ' well you do know that if they don't crawl it will impair their ability to learn to read!! shock wtf!

DS1 walked at 14 months after being a crawler.

Ignore them!

CMOTDibbler Wed 05-Dec-12 15:51:43

My ds didn't crawl till the week before he was one, walked at 14 months. But had started cruising at 10 months. Of course, once he did walk, he ran, and hasn't stopped since.

And I never crawled, and have the highest reading speed of anyone I have ever met.

snowtunesgirl Wed 05-Dec-12 20:17:29

I'm finding this thread reasurring as DD is now a year old but only pulls herself up onto her knees. She does commando crawling as well and her fine motor skills are great.

I actually started another thread on this a little while ago as I was a bit worried. But it seems as though she's just a talker as opposed to a walker and her brain is concentrating on that at the mo.

DiddyDragon crawled at 5mo & walked at 9mo.
DiddyCakes crawled at 9mo & walked at 15mo.

Proves nothing - they're both normal.

Tell them to feck off. smile

amothersplaceisinthewrong Wed 05-Dec-12 21:05:17

My Ds crawled at six months, walked at 10 months, climbed everywher at 10.5 months and drove us mad. Didn't talk until he was about 2 and a half!

DD crawled at 10 months, walked at 16 months, but spoke at 12 months

You just can't win. My DS walked very early and people told me to stop him, that he'd 'go bow-legged' that he'd 'damage his legs', 'oh you shouldn't let him walk like that at his age, he's not strong enough to bear his own weight, it'll bend his bones'. I don't know what they wanted me to do... Rugby tackle maybe? grin

So if it was the other way round, you'd still be in the wrong. And your DS isn't even late - ten months is still early!

lola88 Wed 05-Dec-12 21:41:21

snowtunesgirl all kids are so different DS may be good physically but he never bloody sleeps they are just the same as adults they have somethings they are better at or like better so thats what they do.

I know my friend with the 18mo non walker was frantic insisting there was something wrong because her DS1 walked at 13mo but the doctors kept telling her he will walk and they won't look into it until he's 2 even then it might just be they are not ready yet.

Tell them to keep their judgey arses out of your business.
To walk at 10m is classed as early, if he walks that early great, if he doesn't it does not matter one bit as it isn't a milestone he has to reach just yet.
My dd1, dd2 & dd3 all walked at 14m and dd4 at 23m.
People made me worry so much that dd4 wasn't walking, when is was none of their business!

It's not a race, it's a shame that some judgey pantie people make it into one.
Childhood shouldn't be rushed!

PropertyNightmare Wed 05-Dec-12 21:47:31

Yanbu. 10 months is really early to walk. These people are idiots to badger you. Ignore them!

Bunnyjo Wed 05-Dec-12 21:55:56

Ignore them!

DD walked at 10.5mth - she has always been more 'accident prone' than most, constantly bashing into things and spatially very unaware.

DS walked at 14mth - now, at 18mth, he already seems much more sturdy and stable, when upwardly mobile, than his bigger sister.

DD is always bumping into DS and it's HER than ends up falling over!

bedmonster Wed 05-Dec-12 22:45:38

This makes me grin so much! My DS was running around by 10 months <proud> but still can't say anything other than 'bah' - not mum, not dad at 13 months hmm.
My friend has a DD 15 months and she sits (not mobile in any way, not even a bum shuffle!) and reels off a list of about 10 recognisable words.
We both find it fascinating that they are both so good at their own thing, and that they are learning skills all the time. It's also really lovely to see them developing in different ways.
YANBU, they all do it at some point, it's not a race.

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