to ask how much you spend on DCs christmas presents?

(407 Posts)
Splatt34 Sun 02-Dec-12 07:50:39

Just that really.

DD is 2 & have finally decided what to get her. Adds up to around £70 in total.

how about the rest of you?

altinkum Sun 02-Dec-12 07:53:10

Too much, but don't get into debt for it, but mine are into consoles, and expensive hobbies.

They are 6 and 3

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Sun 02-Dec-12 08:17:10

Im pregnant with DS2 who will be born on 21/12 and DS1s bday is mid Oct, and that has had some bearing on DS1s presents this year...
Last year i spent almost £200 on him, on nothing big as such but lots of
littler things and no clothes (as that felt "mean") but last year he had no clue about christmas and took days to open the gifts. Some of which he has only recently started to play with.

This year we've been much stricter with the budget, We've gotten him probably 20-25 gifts (including some clothes) plus a huge stocking, but its stuff he will love, probably still around £170-200 but I dont keep track blush, It was easier to buy for him this year and buy meaningfully as he actually has his own interests and asks for things. I still wanted to spoil him this year (on bday an christmas) as Next year with two birthdays and christmas, and maternity pay / possibly not returning to work, We dont know if we will be able to do christmas on the same scale.

DS2 will only be 4 days old so he has a photo album (riveting!) a bauble, a special soft bunny from DS1, and some clothes. Sounds mean and skewed I suppose but he has boxes full of toys, loads of clothes (both second hand and new) and we've bought the crib and travel system, so he hasn't been so hard done by.

My rule is really If I can afford it, I will get it, we dont get into huge debts over it.

foreverondiet Sun 02-Dec-12 08:22:37

My DC are 9, 6 and 2.

Will spend around £50 - £60 on older 2 each (one thing costing £30 plys pjs and then bits and pieces) and probably only £25 on the 2 year old, who isn't getting a big present as we already have too many toys etc in the house and he'll be excited by small presents.

My rules is: could afford more but don't believe in spending lots of money on young children as think too easy for children to not understand value of money. DD already has 3DS from 8th birthday. We have a wii as a family and also ipad and nexus tablet so not buying any more technology.

fuckwittery Sun 02-Dec-12 08:25:39

just totted up, DD1 has had £100 spent on "main presents", DD2 prob not quite as much, and there will probably be some other bits and pieces and the stockings, so £150-175 each. Affordable for us but I'm feeling guilty as next year will not be working and things will be different.....
Oh, and I am maintaining the pretence that the kindle fire is for me but in reality I know DD1 will be on it all the time!

fuckwittery Sun 02-Dec-12 08:26:24

i should say the girls don't have anything from family members on my side and I feel the need to make up for it!!

DualFuel Sun 02-Dec-12 08:28:38

Enough that we feel it will be a real treat for them to get something they wouldn't get any other time (ours don't get much through the year) but we always decide what our budget is and stick to it.
About £60 each this year, both preschoolers, could have spent more but they will love what we have bought so no need really.
There is little point comparing with others really because everyone is so different in their finances.

noisytoys Sun 02-Dec-12 08:30:18

This year I have spent £80 each on them but most of that was things bought in the sales last year. Even that is too much tat next year I will probably spend half of that

freddiefrog Sun 02-Dec-12 08:30:35

We spend around £150 each

£100 ish on their main presents from us (bike for DD2, kindle for DD1), then around £50 on a stocking from father Christmas (stuff like hair clips, lip gloss, pants, socks, colouring pencils, etc)

CheungFun Sun 02-Dec-12 08:32:35

We've just finished buying for DS (1 on Christmas Eve) and we've spent £50 on his birthday presents and £40 on his Christmas present and £40 on his Christmas stocking. Ouch! We have tried to buy things he will grow into as it needs to last him a year and also we have saved up for it and not used credit cards etc,

LtXmasEve Sun 02-Dec-12 08:34:40

£100 on DD, £100 cash to DSD (and a silly little stocking!)

RubberNeckerNicker Sun 02-Dec-12 08:42:30

I've spent £60 on each, but I've shopped carefully over the year so it's actual retail value is a lot more. TBH still feel it is an obscene amount and we have so many toys already. Have been a bit confused at some of the lists posted on here.

Emmielu Sun 02-Dec-12 08:43:09

DD gets £25 spent on her from nan and grandad. £15 from my sis and her family and £15 from my brother. Occassionally my nan and grandad will spend about a quid or 2 and get those little lindt bunnies that DD loves. Last year i blew out completely but then again i didnt have a house to pay for.

This year i have spent £10 each on my nieces. £2 on my brother (toblerone were on offer) my sister doesnt get a present from me because her birthday is the day after xmas. DD on main presents has had £80 spent on her. Stocking fillers will probably count to maximum £10. I tend not to want to spend loads of money at xmas on DD because a month later is her birthday and she wants a party.

Emmielu Sun 02-Dec-12 08:44:12

I know someone who has spent £250 so far on her DS. £150 per step child (2 of them) and £350 so far on her other half. Thats not included stocking fillers, family or friends. The thought of spending all that money makes me uneasy.

RubberNeckerNicker Sun 02-Dec-12 08:47:15

BTW I wasn't necessarily referring to peoples comments on this thread I'm confused about, but some of the other odd 'list' threads. They read to me like they are seeking some kind of validation?

MummyPig24 Sun 02-Dec-12 08:49:01

Money is tight this year so we are spending wisely. So far we have spent around £20 on each child with a few presents to go in their sacks, we will add to this and it will probably end up being around £40-£50 in total for their sack presents from Santa. They are getting a guinea pig each from us which are £15 each, luckily we have generous family who have donated a hutch, run and things they no longer need.

We tend to spend a little more at birthdays, probably around £100 on each child. Ds has not long had his birthday at the end of October. We have a big family so the children receive lots of lovely presents including clothes so I don't feel too bad that we can't afford much, and to be honest I'm sure the children don't notice.

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Sun 02-Dec-12 08:51:35

WRT other peoples spending, I personally wouldnt judge, and its one of the few things that pisses me off when people do judge. I dont think spending more means a better christmas OR a spoilt child, nor would I think that less spent would be a worse christmas.
DS has always gotten a lot, and part of that is related to mine and my partners upbringing and experience, this is probably also why DPs parents spoil us all also. As long as what you have bought feels right to you, then I think children will be happy.

To offset receiving such nice things, and to make space, each year we clear through all of DS' toyboxes, and any toys that he no longer needs we give to charity, or this year to his preschool. Again being 3 now, he is just starting to understand that idea too.

Outside of DCs and DP we tend to spend about £10 on each person, some more some less but mainly in the boots 3for2. Each person gets one gift, or in elderly relatives a gift for two between them.

doublemuvver Sun 02-Dec-12 09:06:44

My twins are almost 5 and we have bought them a second hand Nintendo DS off Ebay (with original box and in great condition! Result!) They cost approx £60 each and came with 7 games each. I have found a great stall on my local market where stocking fillers (books, pens, notebooks, games etc) range from 2p-£1. So all in all around £75 each. I reckon that's OK.

Shutupanddrive Sun 02-Dec-12 09:08:40

About £100 each, but it probably creeps up to more than this with all the bits and bobs along with their main presents

Canweputthetreeupyet Sun 02-Dec-12 09:12:43

They have probably had about 300 each but that does include a new outfit for xmas day, still got family to do and some more bits for dp.

TheReturnOfBridezilla Sun 02-Dec-12 09:13:17

I've gone way ott but I'm a Christmas fiend and love buying presents. I shop throughout the year.

CheungFun Sun 02-Dec-12 09:17:58

Just to add, DH and I have spent the amount we have as we have a tiny family and don't want DS to miss out...I could have easily spent £1,000's given half a chance!

happybubblebrain Sun 02-Dec-12 09:18:45

Far too much, but I only buy her things for Birthday and Christmas. I buy lots of special offers and look for good deals throughout the year and she gets a big pile of presents from me and a big pile from Father Christmas. I love Christmas.

cory Sun 02-Dec-12 09:19:39

Not above £50 each on own dc, but I'm also buying smaller tokens for nieces/nephews/brothers/parents/SILs and that does add up.

ENormaSnob Sun 02-Dec-12 09:21:46

150 to 200 per child.

Emmielu, you don't get your dsis a gift just because her birthday is the day after? confused

marleybrodie Sun 02-Dec-12 09:23:00

When they were under 2years very little.
Now 9 and 12 approx £300 each.
But we can afford it- and we don't spend much on them the rest of the year- if they want a computer game etc they have to save pocket money.
Even with a decent budget I still shop around for the best prices and deals.
The eldest hasn't come up with much of a list this year so we have agreed money not spend on gifts can go into their bank account and if they decide they want something later in the year they can use it.

bedmonster Sun 02-Dec-12 09:23:43

Probably £350 on each dd, 7 & 8 and &150 on ds 1. Sounds like a lot compared to some, to others it will be not a lot. None of it has been bought on credit, all paid for outright. No debts here.
I think you spend what you can afford.

soundevenfruity Sun 02-Dec-12 09:24:02

We are the only ones who give Xmas presents. My side doesn't give anything and DH's just token style ones so we tend to overcompensate for that. About £150 (if I can get a decent balancing bike cheaply on eBay).

akaemmafrost Sun 02-Dec-12 09:24:29

Loads but same as altinkum. I don't get into debt for it. Save up a few months beforehand and I don't spend much on myself at all. Clothes have to be falling off me before I buy new ones and when I do its always in the sales.

When it was just DD1 I could spend upto £300. However, now we have DD2 I've budgeted £130 max on them each and that is only because I can afford to at the moment. I wouldn't get into debt for it tho.

CheerMum Sun 02-Dec-12 09:30:08

We've spent about 850 on dd, but we haven't gone into debt and she is a lovely unspoilt girl. I plan a lot for Chrimbo and did almost all my shopping in October when Argos had a 3 for 2 so spent about 500 but got toys worth 750 ( I love a bargain)
She doesn't have a big extended family so this is all she'll be getting. Plus, she has had health problems all year so I wanted to indulge her a bit.
Merry Christmas everybody! smile

nappydaysagain Sun 02-Dec-12 09:31:30

I think we've probably spent £300 on DS1&2 (11&7) and £200 on DS3. We aren't particularly well off compares to some but DH and I save for Christmas each month throughout the year and its all been bought out right. I would really struggle to spend less than £100 as a new out Xbox game can be £30-£40. The oldest 2 are very appreciative off what they do get.

nappydaysagain Sun 02-Dec-12 09:32:41

of not off confused

pinkyp Sun 02-Dec-12 09:35:21

I spent about £120 on ds2 who is 2 next week so will get lots then for his birthday and £160 on ds1, ds1 is 5 and wanted a tv which is why his is slightly more.....

But everything I bought was on offer or in the sales so I know they have presents worth at least double what I spent smile

VestaCurry Sun 02-Dec-12 09:36:05

2 dc's. Around £70 each. No grandparents alive now, who were always generous. They have Aunts and Uncles who buy for them so by the time those gifts are factored in, we figure they have a very decent amount of presents under the tree. We just don't feel comfortable with spending more, not sure specifically why, probably lots of reasons along the lines of don't want to get too much into the whole rampant consumerism of the season etc.

MonsterBookOfTinsel Sun 02-Dec-12 09:42:31

About £100 on ds, 4 years. Wii, 2 games, Thomas tank take and play, imaginext castles, poundland colouring books.
About £150 on ds, 2 years, she has a bike,helmet, Mrs potato head, dolls house and poundland colouring books.
We do it onaking sure they have the same amount of presents, not amount.
The Wii was second hand off my sister for £30 grin

BegoniaBigtoes Sun 02-Dec-12 09:43:09

Prob £70 ish each, plus stockings. No "main" presents this year as there is nothing big they want, so we are getting a selection of smaller things, some they want, some surprises. Exciting as there will be more to open!

MonsterBookOfTinsel Sun 02-Dec-12 09:44:07

On making

MonsterBookOfTinsel Sun 02-Dec-12 09:45:15

My post is awful, of amount of money!

The dc were attacking each other grin

Psammead Sun 02-Dec-12 09:47:59

About 75 pounds, probably. DD (almost 3) is getting a magnetic fishing game, snakes and ladders, a puzzle, PJs and a big garage thing.

About another 25 on her advent calendar which I make myself.

So about 100, all told.

oneofthosedays Sun 02-Dec-12 09:49:54

We save all year for pressies and food for xmas. Have spent £200 each on DS and DD but that includes clothes, new bedding etc. Relatives, i buy for our parents and nephews/neices only and budget £30 per person. Dh and i don't tend to buy for each other apart from a token DVD or something as we really don't need anything and tend to mooch the new years sales for clothes/shoes etc. That leaves £50 for each Dc's birthday presents and £100 to spend on xmas food and booze.

plim Sun 02-Dec-12 09:51:24

About 200 on each of the older children and 80 on the toddler

LadyLetch Sun 02-Dec-12 09:59:39

I agree with Strawberries though that it is ridiculous to compare lists without seeing the bigger picture.

Who else buys for the child? If its just the parents, they're bound to spend a lot more than someone who has lots of family to do it for them.

What do you buy all year round - do you regularly see something in town and just give it to your child? Or do you put it away for Christmas? A parent who does the latter will naturally give more at Christmas, but they won't necessarily spend more over the course of the year.

What do you give for birthdays? If you spend more on birthdays you are likely to spend less at Christmas, or do you prefer to spend more at Christmas?

Finally, what's included in the presents? Purely toys or do you include practical stuff too? Things like pants, socks, vests etc soon add up in cost, but its not giving anything extra iyswim.

I probably spend about £200 each at Christmas, (I dare say more, I don't add it up!) but I fit into the latter group of most of those questions. I don't buy magazines or give gifts all year round (everything goes into the Christmas box), they don't get any big presents for their birthday (I pay for the party, and a few little bits) and they get all the essentials for Christmas. This year, I've spent about £30 each on underwear bits (pants, vests, socks, tights), £15 on new Wellies another £15 on a new outfit.... That's £60 gone, but I can't believe other people don't buy these things for their children - they just don't give them out at Christmas.

I probably fit into one of those parents who others would describe as giving an 'obsene' amount at Christmas, and my children do get one hell of a lot, but when I look around at those friends who often say the same my children don't actually own anymore, in fact I think they own far less tat, because I never just pick things up when I see them and give, I really think "will DD still like this at Christmas" and I think that actually cuts back on a lot of the tat! I honestly don't give any more, I just give differently.

oneofthosedays Sun 02-Dec-12 10:22:51

ladyletch I agree, generally year round dcs only get bought what they need with the odd cheap treat i.e £2 or less. If they want something they need to count up their spends and see if they have enough. For ours at xmas, family have never been one to go overboard and grandparents on both sides have 6 dgcs to buy for so our presents form the bulk of what they get.

For dd's birthday in Dec she wants an ipod touch, she has been told budget doesn't stretch to that and therefore has saved £50 to put towards along with our 50 and relatives are also giving money towards as well. It's harder as they get older as what they ask for gets more expensive and they want what they see friends getting.

PearlyWhites Sun 02-Dec-12 10:29:39

£150 for the two eldest dd age 14 and 8, £80 for dd age 23 months and
£20 for ds 4 months( he also has dd baby toys wrapped up)

CheerMum Sun 02-Dec-12 10:31:08

I buy gifts throughout the year, but I'm frivolous like that grin
But I never spend money we haven't got iyswim
I tell myself it's cos dd has health issues so they are little rewards for getting through the days, but I think, deep down, I just love shopping for her hehe
She'd be just as happy with a book token ( she gets that from tight arise Dh wink )

armani Sun 02-Dec-12 10:38:53

I haven't actually added it up yet, but don't set a budget. I tend to try and buy an equal amount of gifts for each dc and not worry about how much it costs as the dc don't understand that an iPod costs £150 and a barbie costs £10.
Dcs are 6, 3 and 2 and have about 10 presents each plus a stocking from Santa. They also have a new outfit for Christmas Day and new pjs for Christmas Eve. I haven't bought any tat and shopped wisely in the sales!
Dd 6 yo has -
iPod touch
Argos design a friend
Monster high dolls
Brave DVD, book and rag doll
Hello kitty art box

Ds age 3 has-
Elc rescue station (£56 bought in sale!)
Gotham city jail
Playmobil police van
Bat mobile

Dd age 2 yo has -
Elc cupcake pram set
Happy land boot (£16 in sale!)
Baby annabelle
Lala loopsy
Peppa pig playset

Plus they all have stockings from Santa!

3bunnies Sun 02-Dec-12 10:39:47

About 100 each, but they only get presents for birthdays + christmas, and don't have huge families. Again we don't go into debt for it.

bondigidum Sun 02-Dec-12 11:07:06

A lot. Way more than I should have done blush.

DC3 is nearly 4 months and I didn't really know what to get her at that age because soon enough she'll have grown into her siblings toys. I got her a few little bits and a couple of bigger things that were more necessity. Spent about £200 on her. Older two are both toddlers and share their toys and books as they're into same stuff. Probably spent about £300 on them both.

To me that isn't tooo bad but DH thinks i'm terrible. We don't really buy them things throughout the year though (I mean toys and such) so that is my justification. I do admire people who spend very little, I wish I could be more like that.

LaQueen Sun 02-Dec-12 11:08:09

DD1's main present this year is a compact video camera - £185 (but MIL is also contributing)

It's a lot to spend on a 9.5 year old, but we've have talked it through, and she already knows how to use basic video editing software - so we know she will get a lot of use out of it. We've explained that if Santa brings her a video camera, she won't get many other pressies - which she's happy with. So, she'll just get an outfit, a few books and then a stocking with sweets/little knick-knacks/sparkly hair-grips/toiletries in etc.

DD2's main present is a DS Lite 3D - £138.

Again, it's quite a lot, but she has played her original DS Lite to death. She'll also get an outfit, some books, a stocking with sweets/trinkets in (also probably need to put a couple of DS Lite 3D games in it) and then also a new Build A Bear.

They'll get pressies/money from 4 sets of Aunties & Uncles, too. And, also pressies from my Mum, some of their godparents, and from a couple of my best friends...

Every year, I think we've been quite frugal/sensible...every year I realise they get far too much hmm

McChristmasPants2012 Sun 02-Dec-12 11:09:24

what i can afford smile

LaQueen Sun 02-Dec-12 11:10:16

To add, we don't go into debt for pressies, and we don't tend to spend a lot on the DDs on a weekly basis. So at birthdays and Xmas we're fairly generous with them.

Splatt34 Sun 02-Dec-12 11:11:58

Well I'm glad I posted this. If nothing else it has made me think how much more I'll need to save when she's older!!

catgirl1976geesealaying Sun 02-Dec-12 11:12:28

DS is only one

I don't think we will get him anything really as he's just had his birthday and doesn't need anything

We will probably get him a token thing to unwrap and put some money on a savings account

I would be classed as spending an obscene amount too but I agree that it has to be seen in the context of earnings, what else they get and how you live life generally. I can't abide some of the judgy threads on here where little miss pious declares that her children get a knitted sock with a satsuma and are so delighted that they sing and dance all day.

I must feel guilty about it subconsciously though because I always donate the equal amount to charity at Christmas <channels pious behaviour to a whole new level>

<channels piousness to a whole new level>

lookingfoxy Sun 02-Dec-12 11:16:09

Far too much by reading what others spend on here!
Have spent £300 on ds (7) and still to buy new shoes/shirt for parties.
Will spend about £100 each on dp and my mum.
Neices and nephews £20 in a card.
I put £20 by every week throughout the year to pay for it all which is sometimes a struggle to find, I really love christmas and seeing ds's face when santa has been smile.
I don't really buy him anything apart from a kids magazine throughout the year, he saves up from the odd pounds that people give him if he wants anything.

Groovee Sun 02-Dec-12 11:17:59

We've spent £225 on both children including stocking fillers etc.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sun 02-Dec-12 11:21:55

2yo DS is getting a scooter and helmet from us this year and a WOW Ernie fire engine from his sister so about £90.

DD will be 7 weeks old. I've bought her a toy she can use when she's a few months older and a rattle from DS, so about £20.

DH and I both have large and generous extended families so we decided to keep things simple at home. Last year we hosted Christmas and DS was overwhelmed with all the presents he received. He ended up not opening our present to him until a few days later as we wanted him to open presents from relatives while they were there and he just wanted to play with them, which was fine.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sun 02-Dec-12 11:24:02

Oh, and both children are getting books from us too so the total is something like £150. It's amazing how much it all adds up to isn't it?

Arisbottle Sun 02-Dec-12 11:26:31

This year we have gone a bit mad, in part prompted by threads on here. Last night I gave in and bought an x box for the children to share. So about £50 each.

I may go utterly mad and put some books in their stockings so all in all £70 per child .

MsElleTow Sun 02-Dec-12 11:29:22

I have spent about £400 each on my boys (16&18 by Christmas) they are having a new iPod Nano, a couple of PS3 games, and clothes. So many clothes that I probably won't have to buy any more until they need a couple of pairs of shorts in the Summer. We don't buy things through the year normally (did this year, but that was a one off) so they appreciate what they get.

ZeldaUpNorth Sun 02-Dec-12 11:30:54

I've spent about £100 each on my 3. £10-15 each on most other family members, though usually buy my nan that little bit extra as she doeesn't have much money, but always manages to buy my kids something. (i tell her not to bother but she wants to)

freddiefrog Sun 02-Dec-12 11:31:21

We also save all year round for Christmas so we never get into debt over it

I suppose the spend depends how old your kids are and what they want/need

DD2 has outgrown her old bike and helmet so we've bought her a new one for Christmas, not much change from a hundred quid

DD1 asked for a kindle, we bought her the kindle fire when they were on offer on Amazon, then add a couple of board games, some books, maybe some clothes it soon adds up

Their stockings, we probably spend about £50 each, they get new knickers, socks, hair clips and little stocking-filler-type stuff like colouring pencils, fart putty, etc

When they were younger, a main present was around £25, but as they get older their presents increase in price in direct comparison to their decrease in size

Arisbottle Sun 02-Dec-12 11:34:38

DH has just said that the x box is for him as well, back down to about £60 per child!

MissCellania Sun 02-Dec-12 11:46:58

there are countless threads on this subject in the xmas topic.

5madthings Sun 02-Dec-12 11:47:48

I havent actually added it all up but quite a bit but with 5 children its not.going cheap!

we are getting a nexus 7 as a shared present.

Ds1 is getting a new mobile.

Ds2 is getting lego.and some science/physics kits.

Ds3 is getting lego.and crafty stuff and his bday is 23rd dec and he is getting rolletskates they were £55

Ds4 imaginext batman rangeand iron man costume and play doh.

Dd ben and holly stuff, fuzzy felts, happyland farm. Her bday is next weej and she us getying micro scooter, doll and pushchair.

They will.all get stockings and some little bits and pieces and shared presents of board games, lego games, games for the xbox (will buy some of those second hand)

And they will get plenty from relatives, who tend to spend £50-70 per child.

The older ones end up with less presents but what they get is more expensive and the little ones have less spent on the but they already have all their elder siblings stufc to play with.

Pochemuchka Sun 02-Dec-12 11:47:51

About £100 each so far but that includes a wooden play kitchen for the two of them to share (reduced from £150 to £80) and a bunch of accessories to go with it (food, washing machine, plates, kettle etc)

Will buy them some Christmas PJs and some pants/vests and DS needs a few more stocking pressies to even it out by number.

DC3 is expected to arrive over Christmas and I have bought a baby grow with a cuddly toy etc just in case!

Other two DC will also get a rag doll each from baby when they're born.

TBH the DC don't get many presents from family as we're a v small family. We don't tend to spend much at birthdays either (about £50 - usually on useful stuff with a couple of token toys) but we do buy stuff throughout the year when it's needed.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sun 02-Dec-12 11:58:52

wink aris

I don't think the amount spent or the number of presents matters as much as the way in which they are received. Some children will get a mountain of presents and be thrilled, others will get 1 present and act like brats.

LaQueen Sun 02-Dec-12 12:13:49

"I can't abide some of the judgy threads on here where little miss pious declares that her children get a knitted sock with a satsuma and are so delighted that they sing and dance all day"

This ^ ^ ^ ^ ...because of course...of course...that means you love your child much, much more...and they are a much happier, well rounded, more spiritually evolved child - than the child of some hapless, shallow, materialism-obsessed parent who has the temerity to spend more than £11.99 on them at Christmas hmm

Oh do fuck off.

Fifis25StottieCakes Sun 02-Dec-12 12:24:10

I have 3 so start in January, probably sounds a lot £200 each probably although im not sure i would need to add it all up, it's chucked behind the fridge for a year. I couldn't afford to just go out and buy. DD1 is hard as the other 2 are younger so i just buy any half price toys i see. DD1 changes her mind now so I put 2.50 in a jar behind the microwave with a lid i cant take off and have just put it towards a BB and a pauls botique bag on ebay because i wont pay for a new one. I also ebay like crazy, amazing what people buy. Last year i sold absolutely loads and raised about £250. If i take off what i sell on ebay against what i buy i wont spend £200 but there's probably about £200 worth of stuff there. I also shop at tesco all year and use my points to buy the xmas food shop. Last year i got £40 back

Theicingontop Sun 02-Dec-12 12:28:37

I've spent £150-ish. Most of that went on one big present though, a lovely wooden play kitchen. The rest were little things I got on sale.

SoWhatIfImWorkingClass Sun 02-Dec-12 12:29:34

DS will get in between £175.00 - £200.00 spent on him and DSD will get in between £175.00 - £200.00 spent on her. I still think this amount in very steep and £150.00 each sounds more like it with our household income. Next year DS2 will be here and 3 kids to buy for will mean a very expensive Christmas! They get tons off both sides of the famil anyway.

IfNotNowThenWhen Sun 02-Dec-12 12:42:16

I am spending £25 on ds. His aunties/uncles will give me £10 each towards extra stuff to put in the stocking. He is getting one thing he really wants so I think will be happy.
Would love to spend more, but cant. Although I don't think I would be spending £200, simply because ds is already deeply materialistic!

loopylou6 Sun 02-Dec-12 12:47:25

Maybe about 250 each (two DC) but we only spend about 50 on their birthdays and they don't get bought presents through the year.

CharlotteBronteSaurus Sun 02-Dec-12 12:51:04

dd1 is five - probably adds up to about £100 cash value including stocking, but we got her big present (lego stables) via Clubcard voucher exchange, so didn't pay anything.
dd2 is two, and we've spend around £60.

TBH I think if you add up the cost of every little chocolate orange and pack of crayons it's hard to do a stocking plus one present for less than £50.

AngelsWithSilverWings Sun 02-Dec-12 13:00:19

We usually aim for £100 each but this year DS 7 really wants an iPod touch and DD 4 wanted a lipstick , a princess umbrella and a dressing table!

So we have probably spent nearer £200 each with stocking fillers. We are cutting back in other areas of our Xmas spending though so it will all even out in the end!

IfNotNowThenWhen Sun 02-Dec-12 13:09:08

I dunno. I think that kids now get massive presents. That's great for them-hell I really want an ipod touch!
But I wonder what they are going to aspire to have when they get older if they have laptops and ipods and Xboxes at 7?
In my day (gimmer) we had get paper rounds and save up for big stuff like that.
(Sorry LaQueen. Somebody had to!)

Rudolphstolemycarrots Sun 02-Dec-12 13:12:14

I have three. Most years we spend abut 35 on each child. This year we are spending about 35 including stocking. We don't have much money and I don't really like how commercial Xmas is. Its consumerism gone crazy with retail making millions of pounds. We do have lots of relatives who clump their money together to buy one bigger item the kids might like - cheap bike or scooter

Rudolphstolemycarrots Sun 02-Dec-12 13:13:55

Most people I know spend quite a bit but thats up to them and it seems to work for them.

zukiecat Sun 02-Dec-12 13:15:28

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lljkk Sun 02-Dec-12 13:26:03

Main gift £40-£80, stockings £10-£30.

zeeboo Sun 02-Dec-12 13:53:08

In total agreement with LaQueen!! Also the poster further up who pointed out that all children get bought wellies and underwear, but some of us buy that in December and add it to the Christmas total.

My favourite posts this time of year are the "I've spent £30 on a board game and a goat through Oxfam so little Tarquin learns the real meaning of Christmas" and then casually drop into the post "but his grandparents are buying him an iPad mini and his uncle will get him a stunt scooter"
Bloody hell, if I had relatives like that then my kids would get just some nuts and a shiny new penny from their Father and I!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sun 02-Dec-12 13:58:33

My personal favourites are the ones taking their over-privileged, spoiled rotten DC to volunteer in a soup kitchen for the day. Nothing wrong with that per se but a bit eye-rollsome (OED 2014) when they go on and on about their virtuous choice and use it as a get-out-of-jail-free card for ignoring the poor and needy and living it up for the rest of the year.

nokidshere Sun 02-Dec-12 14:08:10

I have no idea because i haven't really added it up.

They give me a list, I get them what they want. I dont check if the value is the same as long as the number of pressies is roughly the same. Of course they dont get everything on their lists lol - I have told my eldest (14) that his Bugatti Vayron will have to wait for another year haha

I dont save up for it, I dont get into debt for it, I don't wiat for christmas and birthdays to buy stuff - its just christmas, and as long as they are happy then the value is immaterial. One of the boys really really really NEEDS a prop for a trick he wants to try out and its £5.99, he doesn't care what else he gets as long as he gets that smile

Arisbottle Sun 02-Dec-12 14:16:01

I agree slightlysuperior. We never really think about the cost of presents but we be never really spend a lot as it is not really our thing. Our Christmas has evolved into a day that isn't really about gifts . No great pious reason and no judgement on those who do it differently. I think there is a tendency to judge people like me who don't really do the present thing .

jester68 Sun 02-Dec-12 14:21:13

We don't have a budget as such. And we don't always spend the same, just like to let them have similar amounts of presents to open.

We will have spent no more than £300 between them. That includes all their presents, some clothes to wear over Christmas and their New pajamas, DVD and Christmas story book for Christmas eve.

We spend about £10 each on nieces and nephews (we have 12 between us) but sometimes less as get a lot of the 2 for £15 in Argos and parents of 3 of them asked for Pajamas which I got from Primark.

I have spent £60 on my partner and he has spent about the same on me.

For our parents and brothers/partners and partners sister/her partner -we have had a load of pictures done of the children which we will give them. And will buy some bottles of wine/toiletries/sweets etc to add to it.

NoBloodyMore Sun 02-Dec-12 14:33:00

About £250 each on the older 2 plus outfit, pjs etc and £100 on DS2 10 months.

I don't really look at the cost, just get them a similar number of presents I know they'll like.

They also get a lot of grandparents.

I work hard and do a bit of extra work over the year to pay Christmas and birthdays and feel no need to apologise for the amount I spend, same as I wouldn't judge anybody who spends a lot less but it's not something I'd ever do.

I also buy them things throughout the year too grin

PropertyNightmare Sun 02-Dec-12 14:51:59

About £300 each on on dc 1,2 and 3 and about £125 on baby dc4.
We always go in for Christmas in a big way. Dh and I both really enjoy the occasion. We don't ever spend more than we can afford, though.

mrsEbruce Sun 02-Dec-12 14:57:32

I often wonder what others spend. We thought our budget was average but fair at

DD 9 £600
DD 7 £600
DD 10 months £350

We dont get into debt for christmas and have the opinion that everyone has there own budget. We however enjoy there little faces opening there presents making every penny worth it.

Doingakatereddy Sun 02-Dec-12 15:04:04

£70 on DS (2.10) that covers main present (micro scooter) and stocking. Main change I've made this year is when relatives ask what he'd like fir Xmas I've been specific - e.g Lego, brio bridge etc.

He will get thoroughly spoilt, but he's a smashing little boy & we all can't help it.

we probably spend around 200-250 per child.

Bagofspiders Sun 02-Dec-12 15:30:10

Not much this year. [Sad] No more that £10 on DS. He's only 18 months, I plan on wrapping up some hand me downs and filling his stocking with pinecones and various things I've made.
We'll probably spend around £50-£70 on each of 3 DSC's. It will be less than in the past, hope they're not too disappointed sad

oohlaalaa Sun 02-Dec-12 15:44:22

Wow. You are all a lot richer than me. Unless its a big item and one off (ie bike), its £40 budget.

Flossiechops Sun 02-Dec-12 15:45:56

I think around £250-£350 for each of our 2 dc. I put away all year for christmas so can afford it. It is an awful lot of money but then I work hard and enjoy spending it on them. They don't get big presents like this all year round though. Plus I have ds birthday on the 27th so a very expensive time of year!

IfNotNowThenWhen Sun 02-Dec-12 15:46:55

Aargh. Sorry, I just can't get over that MrsEBruce spends £350 on a 10 month old baby!!
What does a baby even get that costs that much?
I just though that money was tight for most people, and that seems dead wasteful to me.
Sorry, really trying not to be judgemental. Failing.

mrsEbruce Sun 02-Dec-12 15:59:07

After reading this thread both myself and dh are shocked at how much weve spent too but i wont change it

she likes minnie and mickey mouse so she was bought

minnie pram
minnie car
singing minnie
micky remote car
micky blocks
iggle piggle
micky driving station
minni mobile
minnie phone

and to be fair 5 outfits and a jacket and shoes cost 150

So i dont see the waste but im very aware of how lucky they are

main presents for mine

are dd1 cabbage patch doll and bunk bed + scooter
ds web shooting spiderman thingy and lego sets
dd2 cabbage patch doll, doll high chair and my little pony train
dd3 dolls pram and doll
dd4 activity cube and rocking horse.

after that they just have a few smaller things and that gets to the budget.

MrsDeVere Sun 02-Dec-12 16:10:33

Mine get a ton of stuff. I have no idea how much I spend because I don't plan. I just buy whatever is on offer and they will like.

I a one of those awful people who post photos of the pile under covering the tree on FB too.

Because it amuses me, not so show off because there isn't much there worth over £20.

Christmas is a very difficult time of year so I buy to distract myself. I never buy on credit though and I never pay full RRP.

I think people worry far too much about this sort of thing. Going nuts at Christmas is not a sign that children are being bought up to be materialistic anymore than children getting a few things is means they are unloved.

I have been on parenting forums for about 7 years now. These threads always pop up and they very rarely end without a lot of upset and rage.

Sometimes they are only started to wind people up. I don't think this one has been though. I doubt it will stop it going bauble shaped before long though grin

5madthings Sun 02-Dec-12 16:14:38

it depends on what your children like tho diesnt it? my boys like lego and its not cheap!

lego vampire castle £60 the lego monster range car to go with ut £20. then a lego lighthouse and seaside house, £30 each.

happlyland fir dd the bus was£20 and the farm and some extra animals £25

the imaginext stuff for ds4 has cost £80? For the batcave and the batmobile and some little accesories.

Some bits have been cheaper ie hama beads, playdoh, jigsaws etc but it adds up easily!

Ie science kits there are three we are getting for ds2 one is a tenner, one is fiftern pounds and one is £20. So they arent big or extravagant presents but it all adds up!

MrsDeVere Sun 02-Dec-12 16:25:23

Argos are doing half price on lego ATM.

Get on that website!

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Sun 02-Dec-12 16:25:39

I also post pics on FB, not to show off but as its a remote way to store my pics. I dont give a flying fook if people think I'm wasteful or my kids are spoilt.

DoIgetastickerforthat Sun 02-Dec-12 16:27:45

About £200 on DS1&2 and about £80 on DS3. All of mine have birthdays just after the New Year and only get 1 present each from us and often nothing from anyone else, (except my parents), plus DH's family don't celebrate Christmas so they only get presents from my side.

Because of this I don't mind spending a bit more at Christmas, I save throughout the year so no debt, I shop around for offers and only buy stuff that I know they would like.

Bagofspiders Sun 02-Dec-12 16:28:50

No 5madthings it doesn't depend on what your kids like, it depends on how much spare money you have.

mrsEbruce Sun 02-Dec-12 16:32:35

Hold my hands up on the FB pics too most of our friends do this plus im proud of what i provide for my girls

christmas shouldnt be about putting people down over large or smaller bugets they have no reflection on parenting or childrens being brats or not at the end of the day every child will have a smile on there faces and thats what its about

5madthings Sun 02-Dec-12 16:33:41

We dont have loads, with five kids we put money aside over the year and pick things uo in sales. Dp and i are often given money for our bdays etc which we put towards xmas. We occassuonally usr a credit card on 0% interest and pay it off in the three mths after xmad.

Bagofspiders Sun 02-Dec-12 16:39:22

Sorry 5madthings looking back at my last post it did look a bit bitter, I didn't mean it to be. I'm just feeling a bit sad that I can't get more for DS and DSC's this year.

5madthings Sun 02-Dec-12 16:41:16

But obviously budget is the main issue. I just wonder what yoi do.if your children want bigger items, a bike etc. Certainly a they get older it gets more expensive.

Re ioads, consoles etc. Last year we git an xbox but ut was a joint family gift fir all to share. This year we will get a nexus 7 again for everyone to share. I cant and woukdnt buy them a games console ech or a tablet each etc.

My lot get a lot if joint presents and share.

5madthings Sun 02-Dec-12 16:43:24

bagof its hard we had years like that when ds1 and ds2 were little as we were students. We are lucky rhat on one side of tge family they are the only grandchiksren with a grandma who spoils them and my parents have always been very generous as well.

5madthings Sun 02-Dec-12 16:48:39

bagof how old are yours other than ds? Only i have a pile of hot wheels track free to a good homr. Still have yhe boxes for some of it. Pm me xx

aPirateInaPearTree Sun 02-Dec-12 16:50:41

i have prob spent about £150 for everything. that's a sack of stuff from Father Christmas, and stuff under the tree from mum.

IfNotNowThenWhen Sun 02-Dec-12 16:50:58

That makes sense 5mad. I was from a big family, and we always got a lot of stuff to share too.
I prolly could spend about £100 on ds if I had it, but for a baby I would get them a tambourine from the pound shop and a cardboard box!
But I am also one of those people that would NEVER spend a lot of dosh on a wedding either. I would rather have a holiday, or a car!

Scoobyblue Sun 02-Dec-12 16:55:14

I spend abt £50 on a "main" present - this year dd1 aged 12 wants a bag from Jack Wills and ds2 aged 7 wants a camera. Then they get a stocking which contains some sweets, some cheap little surprises and then things which they need and I would have bought them anyway if it wasn't Xmas (new pjs, socks, t-shirt etc).

aPirateInaPearTree Sun 02-Dec-12 16:56:52

dd is ten, no dad about, little family. i listen to what she wants, and have been picking up the bits via ebay etc over the last few months. mainly books, figures and a few clothes, and interest.

she has had good xmas's, and thankfully has had all the biggish things now. ie Wii and such.

BegoniaBampot Sun 02-Dec-12 16:59:07

Depends, I don't have a set amount or budget. This year it will probably be about 150-200 each. things like Kindle, football strips and sports equip are all individually quite expensive but it's all stuff they will need and will use and I'd probably have just bout anyway so might as well make use of Christmas as the excuse to get them.

stillsmarting Sun 02-Dec-12 17:03:54

Just in case anyone is reading this and feeling they can't keep up we have given the two eldest DCs and DiL 25 pounds each and will do the same for DC3 who is the only one still at home. We have spent 25 to 30 pounds each on the DGC.

aamia Sun 02-Dec-12 17:09:19

Not much. DS will only be three months old. His grandad got him the one thing he will actually appreciate most - an extra month of maternity leave for me so I can stay off till he is four and a half months old.

Downandoutnumbered Sun 02-Dec-12 17:10:52

Have spent £130 this year as we wanted to buy DS an Islabike Rothan (he is 2 and I think about ready for his first bike). Wouldn't normally spend that much though, and we never spend that kind of money on each other or anyone else! Last year I think we spent about £20, and he liked the wrapping paper and ribbons much better than the presents.

Bagofspiders Sun 02-Dec-12 17:13:56

Thank you so much for the offer 5madthing, it's so nice of you and it's really touched me. [Grin] The big ones are teenagers so too old though. That's what Christmas is all about. smile
They'll be fine, they have lots of things and they fully understand our situation.

thekidsrule Sun 02-Dec-12 17:14:42

3x boys £300 ish each

also taking them away over christmas for 4 days

so this year christmas will cost approx £2,500

all paid for no debt,single parent,no kids dad about so i make up for lack of that side regarding christmas

COCKadoodledooo Sun 02-Dec-12 18:07:04

£50 on ds1 (main, stocking and new pjs), ds2 so far just has new pyjamas but will probably have a similar/slightly smaller amount spent on him. We've been massively skint this year so Christmas is being entirely funded by flogging stuff on ebay.

LadyLetch Sun 02-Dec-12 18:12:29

I have to say that I do disagree with ifnotnow about having to buy children bigger and bigger presents every year. Surely that is down to how you raise them? My children have both got iPods (even my 6 year old) but that doesn't mean they expect a bigger present this year - they've been taught that it doesn't work that way, sometimes they'll get a bigger present, but certainly not every year, and they have to almost take turns over who gets a bigger present (ie only one of them will, but then we'd even it out the next year).

For example:
3 years ago my DD wanted and got an iPod. (Second hand about £75 with speakers)
2 years ago my DD wanted and got a hamster (about £7 plus cage at £30)
Last year my DD wanted and got a beam (shared present with sister but this cost £150)
This year DD wants (and will get) a silver ring. The one she's chosen is £5.99 in Argos.

It's your assumption that if you buy a bigger present when they're little, you have to keep beating it - to get bigger and bette each year, but to me thinking like that is madness. Christmas is not a competition. I just buy my DDs what they want, when they would like it. I certainly wouldn't get more each year for the sake of it.

nokidshere Sun 02-Dec-12 18:20:49

Bagof I have never bought my children new items when it comes to bikes and electronics stuff. They always get second hand really cheap or freecycle. I don;t actually mind paying the money if I have it but I really begrudge paying lots of money for things that they will have grown out of or lost interest in after 6 months.

I have found some ace bargains this year. I am a childminder and have bought presents for all 10 children I mind and have spent no more than a fiver each! Each present I bought is worth at least £20 and I definitly wouldn;t have paid that for them. The Entertainer has some fab bargains and sale stuff and I shop around all the itme for the cheapest version of something.

My son wants a superdry Jacket which is a reasonable request in itself, but they are over £100 and, whilst I dont mind spending that on an adult, there is no way I am paying that for a child who is still growing - I found one in new condition on ebay for £30 - he wont care where it comes from, he will just be pleased to get one.

Fifis25StottieCakes Sun 02-Dec-12 18:39:18

I got a fab Pauls Botique bag on ebay for a fraction of buying in the shop, i was a bit worried as i still paid £30 for it but when it came it was as described. I sold the old DS's on Ebay which they never play with. I also got a great deal on ballerina baby born from an ebay shop. Ebays good for stocking fillers if you hunt about for shops with free delivery. Ive also had stuff from China for next to nothing for their stockings. Jewellery shop i found was very cheap. wasn't expecting much for what i paid but the stuff that came was fab.

laptopdancer Sun 02-Dec-12 18:44:23

It just bloody well adds up. I only have a few things so far and have tried to budget but am sure Im at the £100 now. It was the ds game and lego that pulled it all up. For my son, there are no other gifts as we dont have any other family so Im not so bothered but do like to shop wise....bit annoyed at how much stuff is at the moment

laptopdancer Sun 02-Dec-12 18:46:59

Oh and we dont do the "main" present thing either...just a group of medium gifts.

Theicingontop Sun 02-Dec-12 18:47:46

It's going to be very different next year in our house. OH has essentially cancelled Christmas and moved it to New Year because he has more time off then. And everything related to Christmas will be a quarter of the price

MamaBear17 Sun 02-Dec-12 18:49:15

I have spent about £70 on my dd this year. She is one. I seem to have got a lot for my money too, she has about 6 parcels to open. The grandparents have both gone completely ott with presents so I figured 'Santa' wouldnt have too. I have also decided that if she gets a stupid amount of gifts I shall put some upstairs to bring out throughout the year rather than give them her all at once.

notwoo Sun 02-Dec-12 19:21:49

Probably about £100 per child including stocking and new outfit.

I don't really like the 'pile of presents' mentality that a lot of people seem to have. I think it can over face children and also encourages parents to either spend too much or waste money on cheap crap to bulk up the pile.

Ours have a decent stocking from FC and a couple of other presents from us plus presents from close family and it still seems like an obscene amount of gifts.

But each to their own.

Gillyweed001 Sun 02-Dec-12 19:28:02

DS will be 3 months old at Christmas. We are going to buy him a few bits (using tesco vouchers!). probably about £20 odd quid.

floatyjosmum Sun 02-Dec-12 19:37:59

Mine are prob on the £300 mark each but at 8 and 12 the presents are getting smaller but more expensive. Also dd needs a new bike which was about 180, ds wanted Lego and 2 boxes were nearly the same price.

Have to say though nobody buys from my side and dh is an only child so only 1 set of grandparents!

Next Xmas we will have an 8 month old but won't get as much as the other two in money!

I also don't buy all year round so Xmas and bdays are the only chance they get for new things

littlestressy Sun 02-Dec-12 20:01:27

My DS is 1 this December, we got him two presents at the village Christmas sale yesterday; a grand total of £1.00!! Lovely toys though. I'll probably get him a book aswell so birthday and Christmas will probably total about £10.00.

MarianneM Sun 02-Dec-12 20:26:36

Ha ha!

I found DD1 (age 4) an old vintage doll's pram from an antique/bric a brac shop for £5 - will restore it myself and that will be her only present from us.

DD2 (age 2) - got her a £15 porcelain toy teaset from John Lewis. That's it.

They will both get more presents from grandparents etc, although I have set a strict limit of 1 present per child from grandparents.

Fifis25StottieCakes Sun 02-Dec-12 20:38:57

Laptop why dont you get an R4/R4I card for ds, illegal i know but £30ish on FB for 35 games. The games are very expensive.

Bumblequeen Sun 02-Dec-12 20:47:44

About £40 on dd (4).

Princess play dress
Jewellery box
2 DVD's

Each year I agree to spend more on dd the following Christmas but we literally spend all we earn each month on just keeping our heads above water.

Some of you truly go to town! Where do you store all their gifts especially if they are large?

FionaJT Sun 02-Dec-12 20:56:16

About £50 (dd is nearly 8). £30 on main present, this year a secondhand DSi (which is also from my Mum and my Gran to get enough cash together), and about £20 on stocking presents (including pants & other useful items). Could afford a bit more, but honestly think it is unnecessary, she has so much stuff, especially as dd's birthday is early January. I'd rather spend the money on trips to the panto/nice days out over the holidays etc.

YoHoHoAndABottleOfSherry Sun 02-Dec-12 21:07:25

Just added it all up now - about £100 on 5 yr old - roughly £12 on Playmobil advent calendar, £25 on present from us, £40 on stocking, £10 on pantomime ticket, £10 on present from her sister to her.

Similar for 1 year old, spent less on her present from us (£10) but slightly more on her stocking <seduced by expensive White Company pyjamas emoticon>.

Of course, we have also bought panto tickets for ourselves, which we wouldn't have got if we weren't taking the DC, so suppose we are actually spending another £50 on that <gulp>

nocakeformeplease Sun 02-Dec-12 21:11:15

About £80 on DS 3.10 and about £45 on DD who will be 8 months at Christmas.

This excludes new outfits, pj's etc though. And DS seems to get quite a few bits during the year so doesn't do badly.

I can see how it gets a lot more expensive though as they get older but am shock though at the poster spending £350 on a 10 month old.

nocakeformeplease Sun 02-Dec-12 21:23:32

No idea why I wrote though three times in that post!

ThePathanKhansWitch Sun 02-Dec-12 21:23:45

So far i,ve bought a wooden castle, brand new a bargain off ebay about £50
Big bundle of papo figures to with it, second hand also off ebay, about £45.
Shopping list and crazy chefs, also a bingo game, about £20 from amazon.
Brave dvd and i need to get some music, one of my brothers has bought her a cd player.
Will buy some bits and bobs for a stocking.
My family are very generous, i hate to be dictatorial with family but i have asked them not to go mad, it was her birthday a few weeks ago, so it can get a bit much.
My mum has bought her clothes and junior scrabble.
Tbf all she has asked for is a torch to go with the metal detector she got for her birthdaygrin.
I see redhouse have free del before 5th dec, buying books for nieces/nephews so will get her a few books.
Dh family are muslim and tend to buy her for eid, so i think she does more than well all in all.Hope you all have a lovely xmas when it gets here.

mrsEbruce Sun 02-Dec-12 21:33:47

*nocakeforme it was easily enough done we bought what we felt was sufficient and what we could afford though after reading this thread dh has rained it in for her birthday in febuary. We actually thought what we spent was average lol

fluffypillow Sun 02-Dec-12 21:36:53

We've got 2 boys, 15yrs and 10yrs, and a girl who is nearly 2yrs.

we've spent about £250 each on them for under the tree, and £75 each for their stockings.

The boys gifts are expensive, but small, so we tend to spend more on extras. I have spent this much on DDs gifts as I like her to have plenty of toys to 'grow into' throughout the year and I can't resist pink sparkly, glittery stuff after having two boys

We don't spend what we can't afford, and we love to spoil the kids at christmas smile

FunnysInLaJardin Sun 02-Dec-12 21:38:33

we will spend about £100 on each child. We have 2 DC. We will also spend about £100 each on each other

dinkybinky Sun 02-Dec-12 21:40:57

Twins ... mac books
DD..... I phone 5
DS..... I phone 5

Fluffy1234 Sun 02-Dec-12 21:44:06

Ds1 is grown up and works full time so about £150
Ds2 £450 age 15

Ds3 £450 age 12
We haven't spent this amount before but ds3 has had a really rough year and been diagnosed with epilepsy and his brothers have been so kind and supportive. We are not getting into debt and they don't get presents from anyone else.

bubby64 Sun 02-Dec-12 21:50:01

I have had to spend more this yr as my 2 are both 12 and started High School, and they both wanted laptops!! Although I have got them reconditioned ones, they are still costing me £130 each, I have got them a few smellies and little bits for their stockings (about £10 total) and a pair of trainers each very much reduced in sports direct (£15), which they need anyway, as they have outgrown their last pair. Last year I got away with only spending about £40 each on them, and, TBH they have not had a lot for their birthday (today) as they understood I would be spending more on christmas presents. If I had had my Christmas club money earlier, it would have been the other way round, more on birthday, less on Christmas, like last year, but the way finances have worked out this year, it has had to be like this.

bellechristmas Sun 02-Dec-12 21:50:06

£100 each and not gone into debt.

Marzipanface Sun 02-Dec-12 21:50:22

I posted on another thread about this. It's a popular topic! My DD is 2 turning three straight after Christmas. We have spent roughly £25. My family never spent a huge amount at Christmas, we mainly went for quantity. Birthdays were always the big ticket presents.

I have cheated a little as some of the presents were bought earlier in the year and have been stashed away and I can't remember the price. We could spend more if we wanted but don't think it's necessary at this age, plus we are trying to save cash at the moment.

Big bundle of craft/card and glue etc...
A lovely wooden ride on train for pennies via ebay
Some toys from the nearest poundshop
Electric toothbrush that she can decorate with stickers and fancy glittery toothpaste
A money box
A variety of books from The Book People.

She will also get presents from other family members but I have told them not to go mad. She will be happy with a packet of felt pens!

She will also have a stocking with bubbles, crayons and sweeties.

MegBusset Sun 02-Dec-12 22:00:39

About £100 each on mine, including stockings. No "big" presents this year so just a good selection of smaller bits (not tat though), the most expensive present was £17.50. The pile of stuff will probably look much bigger than the budget!

MegBusset Sun 02-Dec-12 22:01:51

Also mine get hardly anything from other family - just a small gift or two from GPs.

nocakeformeplease Sun 02-Dec-12 22:07:34

It wasn't meant as a criticism mrsEbruce. Its just that I'm really struggling to find things that I think DD would really want or need at this age. Mind you, that's partly because we still have so many baby toys from DS and also because her favourite 'toy' at the moment seems to be a packet of baby wipes!

apostropheuse Sun 02-Dec-12 22:14:15

I'm amazed at how little some people on here actually spend at Christmas. Truthfully I don't know anyone in RL who spends so little.

apostropheuse Sun 02-Dec-12 22:15:42

Sorry posted too soon. My four had around £250 each spent on them in the late eighties/early nineties. Their friends at school would have got much the same.

BabyGiraffes Sun 02-Dec-12 22:46:21

I've spent less than 80 pounds on presents for both dd1 (5) and dd2 (2) and that money came from their grandma, so effectively I have not spent any money at all on Christmas presents blush. We've never bought big presents and they don't expect it. Lots of little presents are much more fun to unwrap. Dh and I get each other presents with a guide price of about 20 pounds. We've done expensive presents in the past but no longer feel the need to push the boat out. If we do it is something for both or all of us. This year we are going away for a week over Christmas (which is another reason why I haven't bought too much this year because Santa is going to have trouble hiding it in the boot of the car)

VillaEphrussi Sun 02-Dec-12 22:54:27

About £30 each and they're 2 and 4. The GPs spend a bit more and I prefer them not to get used to too much 'stuff'. It's the Christmas tree and lights and decorations and the Christmassy events which they get excited about.

About £55 on DS1 (2.2) and £30 on DS2 (8 months). Plus maybe a couple of books each from the Book People, so another £6 between them.

DH has had a go at me for spoiling them, but I don't think it's that much actually. It's 2 things for DS2 and 3 for DS1, including a Trunki that I would have got him anyway as we're going away.

I buy DS1 books and art stuff as and when during the year, but toys only really come at Christmas and birthdays.

We spend about £20 each on nieces and nephews.

Bumblequeen Sun 02-Dec-12 23:41:13

Apostropheuse - what do you feel is a reasonable amount?

You were in a very fortunate position to have spent £1k on your dc's gifts that many years ago. At that time, my mother's take home per month was less than that!

As a teenager (early 90's) we had very little in terms of nice clothes, gadgets but we coped. I came to terms with the fact that my peers/friends were better off. They had computer games, £80 trainers, name brand clothes, travelled abroad.

greencheddar Mon 03-Dec-12 00:05:13

My dd's are 5 and 6 and they have had about £250 spent on them each. Their iPods were £139 though shock we have never spent this much on them before but last year was totally shit and we are very fortunate to be in a much better position this year so we can treat them. Dd1 also has a birthday in December and I have gone slightly mental when it came to buying presents.

Fifis25StottieCakes Mon 03-Dec-12 00:05:47

When we were brought up we had very little but at christmas we always got a big pile each in the 80's, we all got one big toy then a pile of little ones. DP got a lot less than me and is gobsmaked at the piles i give mine although i dont just go out and buy it in one, i do it over a the full year starting in January. Maybe you just do it how your parents done it. Stuff like trainers and branded clothes we got at xmas and that was that for the year although friends just seemed to get them when the next brand of trainers were in fashion. Its the same with my parents now. They get a massive xmas bag filled with stuff my mam has bought all year. Nothing expensive but smellies and art stuff. Ske keeps the 3 bags in the cupboard, wraps it and keeps it there till xmas

I guess everyone has their own xmas and do things differently, neithers the right way it's just people have different views on how much they spend etc

Last year the dcs got £200 each - with a mix of gifts and cash being given to them.

This year they're getting £30 cash each, with other family members also buying them small gifts. It's all we can afford, and they're aware of this.

I know a lot of other people in similar situations - who talk about how their dcs will get such and such an amount, but confess in private that they are just saying it to put a brave face on things, and that in reality they are hard up.

Fifis25StottieCakes Mon 03-Dec-12 01:20:45

a couple of years ago i got myself into debt when i wasn't working for xmas. I had nothing put away as we had been on holiday and i had saved for that instead, at the beginning of dec i opened a very and a littlewoods account in desperation to get them their normal amount and got everything on credit, missed a few payments and got hammered with interest. I would never do that again and i should have just gave them what i could get them for that year.

Morloth Mon 03-Dec-12 06:34:47

All up probably about $500 each this year (kids are 8 and 2.5).

This includes a whooping great trampoline though which I have been meaning to buy for a couple of years and also new helmets and some clothes, music books for DS and some snorkelling equipment for the summer.

So yes, quite a lot of money, we don't however buy any toys or anything like that through the year and there is just one present for birthdays.

noviceoftheday Mon 03-Dec-12 07:09:17

About 150 on dd (3) and 75 on ds (1). They will be inundated with presents from grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends - eg Pil have spent about 250 on each child on some great presents for them. I would much rather they have lovely memories of great presents from Santa, grandparents, great aunts and uncles so I have worked around them so they get all the kudos!

EugenesAxeChoppedDownANiceTree Mon 03-Dec-12 07:24:54

I've bought a big 'main' present for DS (2.10) that costs a lot, but I will spend less on a birthday gift; around £30-£50 mark.

With stocking DS' total probably comes to about £160. DD is only 1 and I've spent about £60-£70. I don't really know.

winterhill Mon 03-Dec-12 07:29:59

A maximum of £500 on each.

Bumblequeen Mon 03-Dec-12 07:46:26

Novice of the day- your children are blessed. Dd only receives gifts from us, dm and dsis and they are fairly small items.

Even on birthdays dd only received lots of presents when she had a birthday party. The previous years it was only immediate family and one friend who bought a gift.

As a child I received many more gifts at Christmas than dd. Dm struggled but did not pay bills in December to fund our gifts - naughty! We pay bills and live off the remainder whereas dm spent on us first then got into trouble.

IsabelleRinging Mon 03-Dec-12 07:59:58

We have always spent about £150-£250 on dd. In the past she has had big presents like a kitchen, a bike, dolls house etc which cost around £100 alone. Struggling this year though to think of things she likes which are not too babyish (she is 7). This year she has large Lego set, some books, 2 games, a Monster High doll, a card making set, and some little stocking fillers (smarties, etc).
I feel she is too young yet for Laptops and Iphones which she would like.

If you spend £600-£900 on small children what on earth do you find to get?

Most of my friends seem to spend similar amounts to us.

TandB Mon 03-Dec-12 08:12:41

We try not to go mad, mainly because we had a Christmas a few years ago where some family members got massively carried away and bought vast amounts for each other and their new baby. When the presents were piled up it looked a little obscene, to be honest, and I don't usually get all pious about other people's spending. They also brought huge amounts of extra food and sweets and biscuits. Everyone said afterwards that they had felt a bit sick at the waste, and there was a conscious, mutual decision not to have such ostentatious expenditure again.

DS1 was 6 months at his first Christmas and he got the Vtech walker and some cheap bits and pieces in a stocking - probably a maximum of £40-50. His grandparents probably spent about £30 on him and his aunts spent about £20 each. My father, who we very rarely see, always sends about £50 and we buy something out of it and put the rest in his account.

His second and third Christmases he got a balance bike and an innotab and then some bits and pieces - probably about £80 - £90 in total.

This year he is getting a proper bike from us, so he will have a bit more spent on him this year, and he has some Toy Story toys from ebay from the rest of the family. DS2 isn't going to have much spent on him at all because he will be 11 months and not really into anything particular. He has also inherited all the stuff that DS1 has ever been given so isn't exactly short of toys. He will probably have a max of £30 spent on him from us.

I don't think there is anything wrong with spending more money if you can afford it, but just buying piles of stuff for the sake of it does make me a bit uncomfortable. I can still remember that insane pile of presents spreading across the floor from that Christmas and people actually losing interest in present opening because it went on for so long, and about three out every four presents were for these two family members, so we just had a couple of hours of sitting watching them open parcel after parcel and occasionally coming across something for someone else to open!

TandB Mon 03-Dec-12 08:13:40

Oh, and stockings are always done from Poundland or Poundstretcher!

Bumblequeen Mon 03-Dec-12 08:19:40

Isabelle I too wonder what people spend £600-900 on per child.

I do not spend that on myself in a year!

melika Mon 03-Dec-12 08:28:16

My DS wants a cricket bat that cost £300 and that is all he wants, what do I do?

It's easy to spend even when you really shouldn't especially when xbox games are at least £45 a go.

I think when they are little it is easier, when they get older in their teens, they really want named items and expensive console games.

winterhill Mon 03-Dec-12 08:30:58

Those asking what the children whose parents spend £500+ get, well in our case it can be snowboards and equipment, bikes, a decent mountain bike can cost £1000+.
We are cutting back this year and have set a budget of £500 per child. One of them wants a computer gaming chair, another one has asked if he can have the money towards a TAG Heuer watch if he put £500 towards it with his Christmas and Birthday money.

Morloth Mon 03-Dec-12 08:35:56

Yeah if you are a sporty/travelling family then the equipment can get pricey, no point buying the equipment and buying christmas presents though. Might as well make the stuff they need the presents.

We bought DS1 a pretty great mountain bike last year because we go mountain biking. I have recently started diving again and DS1 wants to come with me a lot and snorkel, so a decent snorkelling set. Little heads grow so they need new helmets most years.

Want to be in the band? No worries, some music sheets/books for Christmas then.

Very few toys under our tree.

melika Mon 03-Dec-12 08:36:20

Winterhill, that's more like it! I could never get away with spending £50.

That would be one xbox game and a stocking! Thanks for your honesty.

winterhill Mon 03-Dec-12 08:44:51

I never discuss in RL how much I spend, especially at work.

If I was to say the real amount people tut and say that the children are spoiled or that you are showing off etc.
If I was to understate it I would be tight!! I have heard conversations with other staff in the past to know it is a minefield!

The thing is my mum and dad spent a lot on us when we were kids and could afford to do so. I can (at the moment) afford to spend a lot on mine so I do. I wouldn't go in debt or make my bank balance uncomfortable or anything.
The one thing that I learned from when the kids were small was not to buy tat or novelty presents as stocking fillers. I may as well just put the cash straight into the bin!

tjah04 Mon 03-Dec-12 08:47:13

4 x DC's about £400 - £500 each for the 2 girls and £250 - £300 for the boys.

We do not have a big family to help out and we do not buy bits throughout the year so this includes bedding, coats, PJ's, etc.

Big spends this year have been Laptop for DD2 (£300 and kobo vok for DD1 £159 and a few designer bits for DD1 £190 and blackberry for DD1, games consoles for the boys)

When they were younger it was more like £150 each max.

melika Mon 03-Dec-12 08:49:59

Yes, yes, I agree, I say to them around this time to write that letter to Santa and it must only be 5 items. No more. And...that is exactly what they get or the nearest equivalent. They are 13 and 18 now!

melika Mon 03-Dec-12 08:52:11

Last year it was iphone 4 and blackberry bold, phones were free but I pay the contract! So some presents are paid for throughout the year. (Tescos, very reasonable)

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 08:59:54

£600 doesnt stretch far these days i dont know how i would do it on less never mind under £100??

We give our oldest dds 9 and 7 a list to write and there budgets £500 then £100 worth of surprises but they do choose some clothing and footwear but even these add up dd9 wanted doc martins there 90!! There pile of presents isnt obcene they just choose decent quality things

to all the mums doing good piles for under 100 hats off to you all you must have a seacret the rest of us dont know about

melika Mon 03-Dec-12 09:18:37

Hear, hear, MrsEbruce, I can imagine a few disappointed little faces too.

When I was a teen, I remember saying at school I got a fiver for Christmas and a stocking, I was being honest! Most of my friends said they had clothes and £50,back in the late 70's. They were lying little toads and it really made me feel bad. I was, that disappointed little face, but there was no option, we were poor.

Today, I do my very best to have happy faces at Christmas without going into debt.

BabyGiraffes Mon 03-Dec-12 09:43:07

Melika no disappointed faces here I can assure you even after spending less than £80 for two

MissCellania Mon 03-Dec-12 09:48:54

If you have disappointed faces after you give them their presents, you haven't taught them the point of christmas very well.

cantspel Mon 03-Dec-12 10:04:12

christmas can be done quite cheaply if you have little ones but if you have teens then it is really hard to keep the cost down. An xbox game alone is over £40, cloths and trainers are man sized and so more expensive. You cant fill a stocking from poundland unless you have girls who like hair, nail and smelly stuff. Boys are even harder as even a can of lynx is over £2.
My budget was £250 per teen but i have gone over and i still have a few bits i need to get.

noviceoftheday Mon 03-Dec-12 10:19:42

bumble, yes the dcs are very blessed. I didn't have grandparents in my life growing up so to have them, all the extended family and to be so loved by them is truly a blessing. The mounds of presents is a bonus! Last year they got much that I had to take half away as it was overwhelming! It means they have had lots of presents during the year. But of course the rellies never seem to see them without some little gift coming back home with us. It's nice to give them the pleasure of being able to spoil the dcs. However, dh and I keeping say to each other behind closed doors "who the hell are these people as this is sooo not what they were like 30 years ago!". They all claim amnesia grin

Hobbitation Mon 03-Dec-12 10:26:08

I will have spent £200 altogether on both of them as got them each a Maxi Micro Scooter and a onesie. I don't always spend that much but I think the scooters will last a long time and be well used.

kaz1119 Mon 03-Dec-12 10:29:15

i am just shock about the amount some of you are able to spent.

will spent about £10 on each child (we pay £££ for childcare, DC1 has complex SN - not much help available on the NHS and most therapy therefore self funded - doesn't leave a lot money for pressies sad ). nothing for DH or myself and will just try to spent some nice time together with the DC.

Fifis25StottieCakes Mon 03-Dec-12 10:31:31

I have 3 brother's and im pleased i have 3 dd's. I agree boy's cost much more than girls to buy for.

If anyones got stuff to buy still i started off at toys r us, put the same stuff in the basket at argos then got the same stuff cheaper at woolworths online plus a flicker free. Obviously it depends on what you want and whats on offer but woolworths is deffo worth a look. Also pay cash not on account

Bumpsadaisie Mon 03-Dec-12 10:32:29

We have spent £200 on an Islabike for DD (3.5). It's a lot but they have good resell value and it can be handed down to DS (1). And I don't mind paying money for a quality thing like that which will get lots of use and get DD out in the fresh air exercising, and help get her learn a new skill (riding a pedal bike) I.e. it seems like a "wholesome" kind of present.

Other than that I have budgeted to spend £30 on each of them.

They have two sets of grandparents, one set of great-grandparents, one great-uncle and great-aunt, one great-great-aunt, four godparents (each), 7 cousins, 8 aunts and uncles, all of whom buy them presents. So I reckon £30 is plenty.

I consider DDs bike out of the equation really as that is an investment for both of them (and us, as we want to go cycling!) and we just happen to be buying it at this time of year.

Bumblequeen Mon 03-Dec-12 10:33:23

MrsEbruce Your comment regarding the fact that you have no idea how people spend less than £500 let alone £100 comes across as very smug.

You have the disposal income so are able to indulge. Others have it and choose not to and the remainder do not have it- unless they are willing to go into mortgage /rent arrears/use credit cards/rob a bank.

Hopefully you will never be in a situation where you only have £50-100 to spend on each child like some of us. angry

Hobbitation Mon 03-Dec-12 10:35:53

I used to have a (much) bigger disposable income but still didn't spend more than £100 on each child, just not necessary.

oohlaalaa Mon 03-Dec-12 10:37:38

No disappointed faces at £40 each. smile If there is something specific that they need, or have been wanting for ages, then we will push the boat out.

They share a laptop and desktop, with mum and dad. I really don't see that they need a iPad or games consoles or their own laptop. They have lots of hobbies, and are always busy.

If I had £600 to spend, then I'd probably spend £60 each, and put £540 in their savings accounts, for university or buying car/house.

MrsDeVere Mon 03-Dec-12 10:41:09

These thread always go this way.
Who cares, really?

No-one should feel bad for spending a small amount and no-one should have to justify spending a lot.

I think the 'disappointed faces' comment was out of order though. What a horrible thing to say when so many families are struggling to manage the basics.

winterhill Mon 03-Dec-12 10:43:03

Hobbittation It mightn't be necessary for you to spend £600 but please don't speak for others.

Ragwort Mon 03-Dec-12 10:43:32

apostropheuse - I was about to post the opposite to you - I don't know anyone in RL who spends these huge sums of money on Christmas.

The 'value' of my DS's presents is about £100 but the majority (mobile phone) was bought with Tesco points grin. This his first ever technological gadget at age 11 grin.

I am clearly in the pious camp as I am frankly amazed that people spend so much on presents - and have the space to store it (hmm at the comments 'we donate old toys to charity shops' - if you are buying such huge volume of new stuff every year then last year's gifts aren't really that 'old' are they? grin). We could if we wanted to spend considerably more on our DS (only child, we have a very comfortable life style) but just think it is totally OTT.

Still, each to their own and all that, Happy Christmas to all smile

Ragwort Mon 03-Dec-12 10:50:09

Something that worries me (and why I can't keep away from this subject grin) is that clearly some people do get into a lot of debt in trying to buy more and more expensive presents for their children and see it as a huge disappointment if they can't treat their children. There are so many threads on MN about how people struggle, it seems very sad to me that it is almost seen as the 'norm' so spend such excessive sums on presents.

I help with various projects for people on very low incomes and it is sad to see people going with food and heat but still saying proudly 'I've bought X for my children' - when you know X costs £££££s sad.

nocakeformeplease Mon 03-Dec-12 10:54:33

I agree with hobbittation- I couldn't care less what other people spend on Christmas presents (or anything else for that matter). We could afford more for the DC but at the moment there really isn't that much they want or need. I also accept it gets more expensive as they get older - but of course it isn't necessary for anyone to spend £600.

And as for the disappointed little faces comment - that has to be one of the most stupid and insensitive things I've read on here in a while.

oohlaalaa Mon 03-Dec-12 10:54:57

Ragwort - yes, I was thinking the same. I don't think any of our friends spend over £100 on Christmas, many considerably less. Unless it is a one off, such as ipod, bike etc.

Apostropheuse - I can only assume your children all went to private school, and must have mixed in very different circles to me, as I was born in 1982, and mum and dad would never have spent £250 on us, I think it was closer to £25 each. I don't recall it being an issue growing up. We never went without.

MrsDeVere Mon 03-Dec-12 10:56:48

ragwort it is because parents want to treat their children if they struggle all year. There is nothing new about it. Years ago it was all about the food. Families would exist on one proper meal a day and put money aside all year for the Christmas Feast. Christmas clubs have been going for years and years.

Now its more about the toys and gadgets.

I think its easier for those who are comfortable year round to be laid back about Christmas.

I never get into debt and I share your concern about those that do but Christmas brings a lot of pressure and it is an opportunity to spend without 'guilt' in a way you cannot the rest of the year.

It is why catalogues charge such huge interest and why their toys are always marked up (well they used to be when I used them).

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 10:57:50

Im not wanting or trying to sound smug at all sorry to appear so im sorry that you dont have more to spend but because i choose to spend what i want and people judge for it i havent judged anyone on here i said i wouldnt be able to buy what my dds want on a smaller buget. Each to there own i do not get into debt for it so why im i having to justify it. Myself and dh thought what we were run of the mill budgets before reading this clearly not..... I also believe every childs happy on the day no matter there budget!!

Badvocsanta Mon 03-Dec-12 11:04:58

Sad little faces?
That was a really shitty comment.
I spend a fair bit on my dc but I know that they would be just as happy with half of what they get.
They have 2 sets of GPS and aunts and uncles who all buy for them too.
It's lovely but they enjoy all the other (and imo the most important) parts of Xmas too...the tree, church, carol services, panto baking etc...the gifts are a bonus.

oohlaalaa Mon 03-Dec-12 11:10:17

mrsEbruce - sorry, I don't mean to judge. I think it's just shock that £600 is spent per child at Christmas, as this is a lot of money to DH and I. After household (inc food) bills, car expenses, and one holiday a year, we have a disposable income of about £300 a month, for a family of four, this includes clothes, gadgets, furniture/ curtains and all activites/meals out. Furnitures a random one to include, but any non-maintenance improvements to our house, come out of the £300 a month budget.

I could never imagine having our children, give us a list of christmas items, with a total cost of £600 each. Their expectations, are the level that we can afford, if this makes sense. It would make sense, that your DCs expectations, are adjusted, to what you can afford.

winterhill Mon 03-Dec-12 11:11:08

Well tbh I would rather spend £600, £700 or whatever on the Christmas present, which I have said earlier is usually a piece of kit such as a mountain bike or snowboard or whatever and call it a Christmas Present than buy a Christmas Present and then have to buy a mountain bike later in the year.

All the stuff such a mountain bikes and snowboards are things we do as a family - We snowboard abroad once a year and go to Scotland as many times as we can in the winter months, We mountain bike all year round.
So it makes sense spending the money and calling it a present. It saves me money in the long term.

When I couldn't afford these things I cut my cloth to suit and spent what I could without being silly and going in debt.
I really don't give two hoots what people spend or don't. I have never asked anyone and only disclossed here as it is anonymous chat.

salemsparklys Mon 03-Dec-12 11:13:43

No idea as I dont add it all up, DD1 mainly wanted money, clothes and make up, DD2 asked for a Kindle fire, 3DS games etc, DS is only 18 mths but we got him Happyland stuff, chalk board etc.
Prob around £300 each on the girls and £150 on DS?

oohlaalaa Mon 03-Dec-12 11:22:41

winterhill - my children are younger than yours, but my parents bought my brother a mountain bike one year, when he was about 16. It was second-hand, and would have been £1,000 new. If they could have afforded new, they'd have bought new, but fortunately DB understood. I understand when it's a big item. I remember having a piano for Christmas, which I understand cost £700 in 1990, but my parents worked on the principle that it would have a resale value, if I give up, and took the money from their savings. I still have it in our hallway now, and it was worth every penny.

I don't mind spending a lot for big items, just not tat, as I'd rather put the money in a savings account.

Bumblequeen Mon 03-Dec-12 11:28:12

MrsEbruce You are free to spend whatever you like on your dc's.

No one tried to make you feel guilty.

I referred to your comment at not understanding how people spend so little - very cruel considering some families are losing their home, sttigging to put cood on the table, being made redundant etc.

Your budget may be run of the mill in the circles you move in. I am sure there are many who spend thousands and it is the norm for them.

Lancelottie Mon 03-Dec-12 11:28:20

It's going to add up to about £600 between them this year, but: DS1 needs bedroom furniture and clothes, DS2 needs school dancewear, and DD has a coat included in that lot.

Their 'gifty' presents are quite small and boring-looking compared with the giftwrapped or will be eventually necessities

BabyGiraffes Mon 03-Dec-12 11:29:10

Talking of expectations... I guess it is easier when the children are younger. My 5 year old dreams of having a hello kitty camera (and will get it, cost me all of 9 pounds using vouchers - when she is older and still interested she can have a proper good quality digital camera, but not at 5). My 2 year old wants a 'rainy deer' and a mr potato head (which cost me 6 pounds; haven't located the rainy deer yet). I would honestly struggle to buy stuff for them at this age and hit £600 unless I bought a bunk bed (which would still be to share).

winterhill Mon 03-Dec-12 11:30:05

My three current bikes (2 road and 1 mountain bike) are both 2nd hand.
The mountain bike was £1,100 S/H and one of the road bikes was £1000. Bloody fantastic bikes!! I'm off on the road one this afternoon.

Completely off subject but ohlala made me think about my bikes!

HaudYerWheeshtFannyBaws Mon 03-Dec-12 11:56:02

I have spent £300 on my 5 year old DS. He doesn't get toys the rest of the year except maybe some toy cars from Sainsburys. I haven't got into debt either. My sister, however, has spent £300 each and I know that she has got into debt with it. She said she doesn't want them to feel left out and to keep up with their friends.

BegoniaBampot Mon 03-Dec-12 12:15:15

I was going to say what do you spend 500 or 600 quid per child on but if it's big expensive pieces of sports equipment for older children or clothes then that makes sense to do it at Christmas. I feel guilty spending sometimes up to 200 per child and we aren't on a budget as I know others out there are spending a lot less. Imagine as they get older thou what with sports and wanting more expensive clothing we spend a lot more. We are also away on holiday for Christmas so don't know if that sort of counts too.

Preferthedogtothekids Mon 03-Dec-12 12:27:45

I have two teenagers and now spend about £200 each, £150 for a main present and £50 on pyjamas and little gifts - this year is more expensive as they are both in adult sizes now!

When they were younger it was often shared gifts, the PS2 and the Wii were shared, their ipods were bought a joint gifts from us and the Grandparents. I don't think we are excessive.

What I do find slightly disturbing is what people buy for younger children. When mine were below 10 they didn't get electronic stuff, it was activity based or imaginary toys - toys that don't cost lots of money or are particularly breakable. Ipods for 5 year olds? Really?

IsabelleRinging Mon 03-Dec-12 12:34:24

I don't think anyone needs to justify what they spend, you should be able to give your children whatever you feel appropriate. If your kids are used to having lots then there will be 'disappointed faces' on Christmas day if they got a lot less. I wouldn't be able to get dd much for £50, toys are so expensive! The lego set alone was £60! and it looks like nothing.

melika Mon 03-Dec-12 12:42:16

Well that's ok if you have both sets of GPS and lots of relatives but I haven't and that's why I don't want sad little faces.

BegoniaBampot Mon 03-Dec-12 12:53:33

Well that's true, our families all live far away and usually just send money so no 'presents' under the tree from them to make it look better. I sometimes use their money to buy what they kids want, wrap it up myself and label it from auntie or uncle so and so. Makes me feel less guilty about spending a ridiculous amount and spoiling them and they get some more presents to open up. Problem is they probably might just enjoy getting the money and deciding themselves.

IfNotNowThenWhen Mon 03-Dec-12 12:57:15

Lady letch-I didn't really mean that children would expect bigger and better presents every year, just that there seems to be an expectation that they will get really expensive presents in general.
I suppose I grew up without much, so things like (the equivalent of) ipods and such would have been things that only older children would have got, with part time jobs, and much saving!
It's lovely for kids to get these kinds of gifts, and I am sure the ones who do are not spoiled and awful, but maybe there is something to be said for not always getting expensive stuff really easily?
That's what I meant by "what will they aspire to?"
I myself aspire to having a MacBook, but will have to work a damn sight harder to afford one for myself!
Also, where I live there are quite a lot of well off families, and I find it a bit sad that children who will definitely not get laptops, bikes, and X boxes (are they the thing still?-no idea!) will feel out of place. And people do get into debt to get their kids things that "all" the other kids are getting.

Emmielu Mon 03-Dec-12 13:36:03

ENormaSnob my sister is 26, she'd rather have a birthday present than a xmas present. She stopped her xmas list when she turned 20.

SantaJaxx Mon 03-Dec-12 14:28:24

In previous years we spent around £200 each on the kids. This year though we're on the dole, so we've spent £60 each on them. It's a bit shite TBH but we've already told them that Santa is skint this year because Daddy isn't working. I don't understand the logic behind that, but apparently they do as they didn't question it. grin They're 20, 9 and 6.

for my 2 daughters aged 3 and one

we spent £200 on year old
and £150 on 1 year old i dont tend to pick an amount to spend tbh its just what was choosen i also get the girls a new dress every year so another £50 their but obviousley thats not a presant

jen127 Mon 03-Dec-12 15:21:11

We have only 1 DS(10) and a small family on either side. His presents consist of new trainers and sportswear which I know will be worn through out the year and he has asked for a dart board and an ipad( which was bought in the US) which I have said if he does get it is a shared family present We have always told him that Mum and Dad have to give Santa a dig out with the financials so that everyone can get presents grin.
He will be delighted with whatever he gets! Usually the cheapest tackiest present's are always the winner, as an only child and the youngest by 20 years in the family he just wants to have fun with his pals!

Lancelottie Mon 03-Dec-12 15:26:32

A dress ins't a present?? Don't tell DD...

SaraBellumHertz Mon 03-Dec-12 15:35:50

DD1 (7) about £250, although she doesn't really have a main present - there is very little she wants and it is her birthday between now and Christmas.

DS1 (6) about double - he wanted an iPad mini and some quite specific Lego sets.

DD2 (20mths) about £50. I mean she's a baby, what on earth could I buy her?!

I've still go a bit more shopping to do - they get quite a lot of "practical" gifts, craft supplies, PJ's, toiletries, basically stuff I'd buy anyway and I try and ensure their piles look about the same size.

It's crazy really blush

Jojobells1986 Mon 03-Dec-12 15:38:45

Less than £9, including postage. DS turned 1 in Oct & had loads of presents so doesn't really need anything extra. We got him a Spot DVD in Welsh to help me teach him! We're expecting DC2 next June so we've got to save up for that & at 14 months he's not going to care! grin

autumnlights12 Mon 03-Dec-12 15:40:44

way too much. I buy loads. The stocking alone is about 50 quid each. Probably 200 quid each. At least. I know. They are ruined.
(but I can't help it, I love making their Christmas amazing)

ShamyFarrahCooper Mon 03-Dec-12 16:27:36

DS is 5 and I reckon we've spent around £200.

£50 each on main present plus a stocking (which this year may be less full than previous years). It suits us as a family and, although I sometimes feel a bit guilty when I hear how much my DCs friends get, I think that it's enough tbh. We do have a large family who will buy as well, but no-one goes too mad, most presents will cost between £5 and £10, with grandparents spending up to £25.

natation Mon 03-Dec-12 17:23:34

IT averages £50 per child, 4 of them together, plus maybe a few stocking fillers. If one of our children needed a bicycle, we wouldn't buy that for Christmas and that would be more than £50 unless I found a bargain second hand bike. We don't include clothes either, unless it's something like a football shirt - eldest got a £40 Arsenal shirt as his birthday present for example. IF you added up our income together, it would put us a little bit into the 40% tax bracket. Even if we earned more though, I would hope we would still keep to the same budget.

natation Mon 03-Dec-12 17:27:22

BTW, just as example, our 7 year old asked for 3 things for St Nicolas (well that's when we give the presents on 6th December), mean me St Nicolas will bring just one of these presents. Wouldn't dream of getting everything the kids asked for, unless under £50 of course!

Monet is right this year so we're cutting back, about €120 each.

Sounds a lot but we don't buy them anything aside from xmas/birthdays and we have very little family.

Each set of grandparents spends €30 on each child but other than that they have no one buying for then.

lovestotravel Mon 03-Dec-12 17:32:05

We normally spend around £1000 on our DD but we are fortunate that this sum is easily afforded (less than 1/3 of a months disposable income) and she is very, very grateful for what she gets. DD is very aware that she is a lucky girl and that not everyone gets the same. If I felt she was spoilt or expected presents then we would do things differently - I think we are lucky that she has such a kind and generous nature. DH and I do not get presents for each other at Christmas - we stopped years ago as we just didn't know what to get each other- we do go away as a family every Christmas for a few nights so we count tha as our present to each other.

VodIsGod Mon 03-Dec-12 17:34:43

We have budgeted £60 for each of our 3DSs (7,4&2) which includes stocking presents and something from us. Although to be honest I don't think we'll end up spending that on our youngest...

Dededum Mon 03-Dec-12 17:39:45

Both Ds1 and Ds2 are getting laptops. Most money we have ever spent on them, but got the laptops in the States and they won't be getting much else from Santa!

natation Mon 03-Dec-12 17:49:29

Am I just some soppy liberal? I am really flabbergasted at the amounts some people spend. I just don't understand this link between massive amounts of money spent and "happy faces". Even if I had £1000 to spend each on the children, and yes I guess I could spend that if I really wanted too on our income, I would be thinking at the same time of the inequalities in the world that some children in the world on Christmas day will be just hoping for a daily meal. It's extremely hard not to judge here.

woolleybear Mon 03-Dec-12 18:04:09

Varies here, not so much this year as what dd 6 asked for only came to about £30 so a few surprises and stocking presents its probably about £60-70. Last year was much more, not because we could afford more, the opposite is true, but she wanted a playmobil house and furniture and we ended up spending nearly £200. She doesn't see the value change though, just that she has got what she wants.

lovestotravel Mon 03-Dec-12 18:10:43

Natation- I honestly don't feel guilty about spending a very small % of our annual disposable income on our DD at Christmas - we give regularly and generously to local charities throughout the year including the salvation army Christmas appeal (hich far exceeds what we spend on DD). We are fortunate to have a good income and do feel that comes with responsibility to help others (which we do) but surely how we spend our disposable income is our business?

BegoniaBampot Mon 03-Dec-12 18:13:55

Lovestotravel- curious, what are you buying her and how old is she? I would struggle to spend a thousand each on my children though they do get stuff through the year if they need it.

Badvocsanta Mon 03-Dec-12 18:18:24

We also give to charity on a monthly basis throughout the year, although we don't earn ££££ I have never liked the idea that charity is only for Xmas.
I also do voluntary work too which is always much busier at Xmas time.
I really dont get what all the angst is about personally.
If you want to spend £2000 then do so. If you want to make gifts from dust and hairspray then do so.
When I was growing up (I am one of 3 siblings) we never had much for Xmas but we loved it. Church services, nice food, a small gift and lots of trashy tv and party games.
Back in the 1970s it would have been pretty hard to spend £100 in a child IMO but very very easy now...DVDs, a cd, a book, console game and a stocking and that's almost £100..
Despite all the gifts my dc will get this year I know that their favourite will probably be a £3 gift I bought as an afterthought smile

lovestotravel Mon 03-Dec-12 18:20:40

She's 11 Begonia - this years presents include new ski's and ski boots as she has grown so much since our last ski trip ( we go away go away on 27th December). Her main present is a smart tv for her room - the rest is clothes, shoes, music etc.

HairyGrotter Mon 03-Dec-12 18:21:31

DD is 4, I have spent about £86 on her pressies, including stocking fillers. She gets one main present, and the rest are just odds and sods. I budget up to £100. I don't like going up to £100 as I think it's too much, but I like having a budget to stick too

catgirl1976geesealaying Mon 03-Dec-12 18:24:06

I do think it's tacky to spend a lot on children at Christmas. I'm not a worthy tangerine and wooden-hoop merchant, but still. I just can't help it. It just seems a bit brash. Sorry.

winterhill Mon 03-Dec-12 18:27:26

So Catgirl do you think it is tacky for me to buy the kids sports equipment (Ice hockey gear comes in at around £500, Snowboarding wear another couple of hundred, guns for shouting another £500) as a present or should I buy them something cheap and cheerful and THEN spend money on our hobbies

dinkybinky Mon 03-Dec-12 18:31:34

I do think it's tacky to spend a lot on children at Christmas

Why? If they need something I make them wait until Christmas. I prefer that they look forward to something rather than just going out and buying a Mac book for no reason.

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 18:37:20

I trully struggle that spoiling your children at christmas with lots of presents is tacky!!

Its a magical time for children they only have one childhood thats over with in the blink of an eye

i do agree that we all have a budget that suits each individual family and this makes no one a worse/better parent.

Sadly this thread has lead to some green eyed comments aswell as some put down comments i dont see why tbh!!

BegoniaBampot Mon 03-Dec-12 18:45:48

No I can see if your kids need expensive equipment for say sports or want a tv for their room then it makes sense to give it for Christmas or you would just be spending the money through the year anyway. And especially if they are older and start getting to more hobbies/sports or say musical instruments. We tend to lump in stuff they need as well rather than just buying it as an extra through the year though we end up doing that as well.

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catgirl1976geesealaying Mon 03-Dec-12 18:56:25

If they want / need something that is expensive then fair enough, but when you get people boasting that they spent a grand on loads of random stuff I think it takes away from what Christmas is about and is a bit tacky.

I don't do TVs in bedrooms either but I'm a grinch smile.

lovestotravel Mon 03-Dec-12 18:56:39

I don't get the tacky thing but I think it all depends on what is normal to you - I had lunch on Friday with a bunch of girls from work and we were discussing Christmas and we all spend around the same, granted we are all in similar job and income brackets. Our friends are all in similar circumstances financially to us ( well similar incomes, I don't know the ins and outs of their outgoings of course) so what we spend is normal in our experience.

catgirl1976geesealaying Mon 03-Dec-12 19:11:45

It's not a question of income

I could spend that much. I just don't think it's what Christmas is about or a good message for a child

If you are talking about what you earn and how much you spend over lunch and know the incomes of your friends, I can understand why perhaps wouldn't agree with the tacky comment

lovestotravel Mon 03-Dec-12 19:19:32

Catgirl - we didn't and don't discuss income (does anyone actually do that anyway?) but we are all in senior roles within the same company so it's not a stretch to know that we are all earning similar amounts. It's not unusual to talk about what christmas shopping has been done and still to do - especially as our children are similar ages and were swapping ideas.
I've been called many things in my life but never tacky grin
I am comfortable with how we celebrate Christmas and know that our DD will have a lovely time surrounded by people who love her dearly - surely that's what matters rather than judging how other people choose to celebrate?

hoodoo12345 Mon 03-Dec-12 19:19:43

DC, 6, 9 and 12.
£900 between the three of them.

catgirl1976geesealaying Mon 03-Dec-12 19:23:44

Catgirl - we didn't and don't discuss income (does anyone actually do that anyway?)

Erm....your initial post said

"We normally spend around £1000 on our DD but we are fortunate that this sum is easily afforded (less than 1/3 of a months disposable income)"

Which is, I am afraid a) discussing income b) really tacky and c) gratuitous.

lovestotravel Mon 03-Dec-12 19:41:34

Just to be clear my original post said we were discussing Christmas and that we all spend roughly the same ( I came to this conclusion from the presents my friends are buying their children) - no mention of discussing incomes.

I mentioned on the thread earlier that what we spend is affordable to us as these threads turn into a bun fight and talk of people getting into debt.

I have obviously touched a nerve which was not the intention - I think these threads are interesting as they give an insight into how other families do things. We only what goes on within our own circle of friends and families - and it is widely similar so I had no idea it was so unusual.

I was speaking to DH about this ( he says, incidentally, that I don't have a tacky bone in my body grin) and he says he wouldn't change a thing - we both grew up with absolutely nothing and for both of us Christmas ( and everything else) was a complete non event - we love to make a big fuss of it all and while we can afford it we will continue to do so.

Wishing you a happy Christmas smile

FloralWellies Mon 03-Dec-12 19:43:07

Probably about £100 on 2 year old DS.
Have spent £50 on a micro scooter which i think he will get a lot of use from. Have also bought some 2nd hand in the night garden bits on Ebay and by the time he gets some new clothes will easily be £100

catgirl1976geesealaying Mon 03-Dec-12 19:47:04

Happy Christmas to you too

Ignore me. It just makes my teeth itch when people open their posts by divulging how much money they have when other posters are clearly struggling to put food on the table. I find it distasteful but that's my issue not yours.

I hope you have a lovely day smile Please ignore my grinching

nocakeformeplease Mon 03-Dec-12 20:36:07

It has nothing to do with green eye mrsEBruce - and its a bit patronising to suggest people are jealous of you just because they disagree with you.

We could afford to spend more on the DC but for various reasons choose not to. My issue is not how much you or anyone else spends on their children, it is absolutely none of my business.

What irritates me is the insinuation that its impossible to 'do' Christmas on a smaller budget and even worse that the kids will have a crap xmas if they don't get hundreds of pounds worth of presents.

I can 100% guarantee you there will be no disappointed little faces in this house on Christmas Day smile

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mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 20:42:41

There are geen eye comments on this thread in gereral not at me i never said that i have never tried to make anyone jelous thats not my style.

Yes all children wake up happy no matter whats spent

my god i google this subject yest out of curiosity found mumsnet and joined. I thought our budget was run of the mill clearly not im not trying to be harsh saying i would struggle with smaller buget believe me if i could give them what i wanted with that amout id be a happy mummy i think bugets may be reconsidered next year

sorry if i came across otherwise

morethanpotatoprints Mon 03-Dec-12 20:55:28

I have spent about £650 - £700 on 3 dc including ds1 aged 21, because I can remember so many years when we were skint.
I think you do what you can, when you can. I never bother what others do its up to them.
I do agree that dc are happy with whatever FC or family members buy for them. Sometimes the cheapest gift is the one they love.
I would also never get in debt for xmas.

TreadOnTheCracks Mon 03-Dec-12 21:00:57

I almost dare not add it up...

Probably £100 on main presents and £50 on stocking fillers. Dobuy them through the year though.

nocakeformeplease Mon 03-Dec-12 21:24:38

Nah I'm sorry mrsEBruce - it was the other silly post that really pissed me off, not yours.

Hope you all have a great Christmas smile

We are all much more materialistic than we like to think we are. Some of the figures here are just.....unbelievable. Why would you even spent over £10 on a baby?

CryBaby2305 Mon 03-Dec-12 22:11:20

Aww there's some pretty mean comments about 'disappointed sad looking faces' on here. Christmas really isn't about the amount you spend on them. I remember one year we had just moved house, my maternity pay had just ended and things were tight, really tight. DS1 was delighted with his £40 worth of toys from ebay and the pound shop. Never once did he say he was disappointed or look sad. He was ecstatic with all the toys we had managed to get him and was very grateful.

Now money has settled down and we are much more financially secure we spend around £200 on each of our DS's plus about £50 on DS2's birthday which is Christmas Eve. Most of our money goes on presents for others and food for Christmas Eve party and Christmas dinner etc. We like to have people round and make them welcome! I love Christmas BUT I am very aware that we could spend a lot lot less and the children would be just as delighted and excited.

ThisIsMummyPig Mon 03-Dec-12 22:12:47

DD1 (4) about £100 including clothes and stocking
DD2 (2) about £70

I e-bay to buy most things, as they have no idea what's new and what's second hand. However, a couple of weeks ago I had a look through the pile, counted 14 things for DD1, 12 things for DD2 (including stocking stuff, minus chocolate and satsuma) and had a panic that it was all clothes and useful stuff. Therefore DD1 is now getting an innotab, and DD2 is getting some Thomas stuff.

I could spend more, but won't. DD1 has a birthday in January, so she may get a new scooter then, which would be another £100. If she doesn't want a scooter she will only get a couple of bits as she is having a party.

I hardly give them anything from September onwards.

BooksandaCuppa Mon 03-Dec-12 22:15:08

On ds (12) about £60-70. Mostly books, a board game, sweets and new pyjamas. We can afford a lot more (since the thread has now gone along these lines) but he doesn't really want or need anything. He will get an Xbox game from gps and maybe money from other gps if they can't think of anything. It's a funny age for boys, I think, where they don't really want anything. Most we've ever spent is £100 as, for eg, the year he got his Xbox it was from us and both sets of gps.

ThisIsMummyPig Mon 03-Dec-12 22:16:12

On the sad little faces point though, my parents were skint when I was young. I remember being about 8, and still believing. I wanted a My Little Pony stables and all the horses.

I got one measly horse, and it wasn't the one I wanted.

I wanted a 'Baggy Bag' and I got one in mustard.

I got a paint by number of a horse, and looked at the pictures on the back and wished I had the cat one.

I was in bed with my parents, and I burst into tears saying ' I though Father Christmas was supposed to know what you want'.

When I look back it must have broken my mothers heart, and I feel ashamed, but I can remember what it was like to be a child who didn't get anything they wanted.

It has nothing to do with lifestyles and incomes- a kid is a kid. We're all born equal, right? So how can it be more reasonable to spend £1k on a child than it is to spend £20 on the same child?
I'm either confused and happy to be put right or equally happy to be thought of as insufferably judgemental on this point (since that seems to be the standard retort on MN whether relevant or not......).

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 22:24:33

Can i ask why its unbelievable to spend over £10 on a baby for christmas when its costs a hell of a lot more a week for nappies etc for them? Im just curious to this im not looking to get into one of the so many slatting matches already on this thread?

I just think that £10 is a LOT of money really. You could go into the charity shop I worked in and get loads of stuff, far more than a baby who'd be more interested in the wrapping would ever need to have happy memories of Christmas, we priced stuff really cheaply. Babies don't know what other babies are getting, they don't take stock of how much they get, it's possibly the only few years they are simply not going to care, their expectations are why would you raise them so high?

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 22:32:13

I guess its my own need to give them too much. I cant say no lol. Tbh i thought we never spent that much on her now slightly embarressed and dh has cut her birthday in feb as clearly were going mental lol

Oh, and I was mostly talking about the £100+ on older children being shocking to me to be honest (not talking about expensive sports equipment- more X boxes, fancy phones, tech in general, loads of "stocking fillers").

What happened to getting a few specially chosen presents- I see threads all the time here, "what would do 13 year olds want for their birthday?"- it's just buying for the sake of it.

MrsDeVere Mon 03-Dec-12 22:33:40

But you could spend £10 on a toy that your baby would play with for two years.
I have toys that belonged to my DD. Her little brothers play with them and she would be 21 in January!

You are right that a baby will not know the difference if they get something or nothing but its not necessarily true that spending the money is a waste.

My DC's do not need any of the stuff they get. They like it but the dont need it. They would be happy with a fraction of it but I get a lot of pleasure from buying it all.
As a grown up I only get a couple of modest christmas presents and that is fine by me. My big pressie is getting all the stuff for the kids.

MrsDeVere Mon 03-Dec-12 22:37:03

I think its a bit odd that people don't mind ££££ on sports equipment but DO mind about £££££ being spent on less 'worthy' stuff.

Expensive sports equipment would be a waste of money for my DCs. Its not like we are likely to go ski-ing anytime soon.
No adventure holidays for us.

I cant stand computer consoles either but I dont see them as worse value than a mountain bike or kayak.

BooksandaCuppa Mon 03-Dec-12 22:37:30

My thoughts, exactly, quirrel. Ds doesn't want or need anything. You can only play with one thing at a time. Growing up, if you wanted a 'big' present in my family (eg stereo or something) you had to have it from all the relatives (even if it could have been afforded just from parents) and you definitely wouldn't get something that big every year (some things would be from all relatives and for bday/xmas together).

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 22:37:40

Im afraid i enjoy the shopping, wrapping and filling the living room on christmas eve i guess it was done for me now we do it for them my dc are very lucky and do appreciate there gifts wich makes it worth while there smiles on the mornings my hubbys fav thing ever i guess we match that with what we spend

DualFuel Mon 03-Dec-12 22:39:23

Crikey, I spent a lot more than £10 on my eldest for her first Christmas, probably more like £50 but it was well within my budget and I bought some lovely toys that were played with for the next 18 months or so and then by my second as well so it was hardly a waste of money.

I'm a big believer in spending what you want, within reason and within your budget. What everyone else spends is their own business.

Bumblequeen Mon 03-Dec-12 22:39:52

Thisismummypig I remember receiving lots of gifts at Christmas but not all year round. There were a number of toys I did not have:
Care bears
Cabbage patch dolls
The computer game with a joy stick (played it at a friend's house)

We did not have a family holiday (not even in the UK) until my sibling and I were adults. I recall friends at primary school flying to Canada, America, Malta in the holidays. I actually had a happy childhood and lots of fun. You cannot miss what you never had. I could not imagine a holiday as I had never had one.

Even at secondary school I did not have Oilily, Naf Naf, Kickers etc. My mum simply could not afford it so I never asked. To a certain extent I did not feel 'as good' as my peers but there were other issues I faced.

When children start school there is a lot more pressure as their friends will discuss their birthday/Christmas gifts. At present dd is still at preschool and happy with dolls, costume jewellery and princess dresses.

natation Mon 03-Dec-12 22:40:52

Not everyone spends £10+ a week on nappies. But what has that got to do with Christmas presents?

I was scared I'd get flamed so thanks all for being nice smile

I just're always educating and kids are always observing, even if you don't want them to! Everyone loves making presents and seeing people's faces light up, it's not some really great personal quality that only certain very unselfish people have. I mean face it, would Christmas be the same if you were the only one getting presents? Not really.
I also love the idea of a child treasuring the few things they do get so much and bonding with them and having brilliant memories of that Christmas book or that Christmas hamster. How do you treasure a DS Lite? Why would you want a child to treasure a DS Lite?

Good point though MrsDeVere. I guess we have a bit of a blind spot where sports and things are concerned. Specially since I'm Dutch and so this means that bikes are necessities, not presents wink a blind spot I don't mind having

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 22:45:48

Well nappies, wipes baby food. Why would i spend less on her christmas than her weekly essentials?

You seen to swipe at everything im writting i get it you dont agree with any of my opinions

^ well, probably just because the goals are different. One is a need, the other is pleasure. It's obvious that your baby's going to be worse off if they don't get their essentials. But they won't be worse off if they get a small amount of things for Christmas- just so they don't feel left out (if that's even pssible for the tinies) and you don't set a precedent which'll do no one any favours.

mrsEbruce Mon 03-Dec-12 22:51:04

^wasnt meaning you swiping

im open minded i can see everyones point of view for what it is each to there own i say

PickledInAPearTree Mon 03-Dec-12 22:55:09

I bought ds presents last year when he was 9 months old all things which he will use and has used. Clothes a few toys etc.

Don't see how it's a waste of money he'd have needed them anyway. Why not wrap the things up and let him open them?

He might not remember it but he enjoyed it.

BeaWheesht Mon 03-Dec-12 22:57:57

I'm not sure especially because ds has his birthday just before Christmas and I don't really decide what present is for birthday or Christmas until I start wrapping. The kids both get more for Christmas than birthday though.

They also get quite big presents (£50+) from grandparents on both sides and then about £25 worth from each aunt (3) plus ds has all his birthday stuff.

I don't buy much really throughout the year though and we don't have expensive holidays or hobbies.

ThisIsMummyPig Mon 03-Dec-12 22:59:31

Bumblequeen - I also never had care bears or cabbage patch dolls, or computer things. We had one week camping in the uk. I didn't get any pocket money until I got a job.

The thing is I thought that Father Christmas was magic, and could get me whatever I wanted. If I had known he was my parents I wouldn't have asked.

I am on record as asking for a yoghurt one year. An old lady gave one to my dad for me, but he sat on it on the way home!

I'm more upset by my reaction now. But by the same token I wouldn't want my kids to feel like that while they still believe

EricNorthmansFangBanger Mon 03-Dec-12 23:04:53

So far we've only spent £15 on DD1 (almost 5) and £20 on DD2 (17 months). My parents have given us £150 in vouchers to use on presents for DH & I, but we will most likely use them to buy Christmas presents for DDs as we are skint. DD1 hasn't really asked for anything so trying to pick things out for her. DD2 we're thinking of getting one of those HippyChick Moover Wooden Dolls pram's.

My parents are outdoing us again this year and spending around £200 on each DD. Last year they bought DD1 an iPad 2. I've told them that one present for each DD is enough but they persist in buying too much. DDs are very lucky in this respect but it makes both DH and I feel inadequate and they're buying more stuff that we can't really fit into our house.

BooksandaCuppa Mon 03-Dec-12 23:07:55

An ipad last year for a not yet four year old??? Did I read that correctly????

PickledInAPearTree Mon 03-Dec-12 23:11:09

I'd have kept that I pad for me grin

Books are you new on MN grin this is practically par for the course!

MrsDeVere Mon 03-Dec-12 23:14:16

My DS would treasure a DS lite.
He would worship it.

It would bring him great pleasure and make our live a bit easier.
He has ASD and LDs.
He isnt going to nipping out with his mates to the cinema any time soon.

Like I say, i hate bloody computer games but that is because I find them boring.

Not everyone enjoys outdoor pursuits or sport or craft or if they do they like to do other stuff too.

It really is up to others how they waste their money. I have met consistantly over indulged children who have grown up to be delightful young adults. Young adults with expensive tastes but delightful none the less.

I know kids who have been bought up to value the important things and to be unmaterialistic who have grown up to spend most of their time in pursuit of cash, drugs and shiny stuff whilst doing as little as possible to earn the money to buy it.

AND the other way round. Spoilt kids who turn into unhappy, discontented adults and unindulged kids who grow up to be laid back and unconcerned about money.

You never know what your kids are going to do, you can only try your best.

BooksandaCuppa Mon 03-Dec-12 23:15:01

Not really and in rl I've been shocked but I haven't heard of an ipad for a three year old here or there before...

BooksandaCuppa Mon 03-Dec-12 23:16:03

Hear hear MrsDeVere.

TellMeLater Mon 03-Dec-12 23:19:45

Normally we spend around £150 each, this year a bit more for a big gift thy needed.

Yeah, but there's also a pattern which is more well known than the "unspoilt kid=despite this, horrible adult" one. I don't know why you wouldn't do all you could do get on the right side of it......

BegoniaBampot Mon 03-Dec-12 23:25:11

I would like to see Christmas less commercialised and less money spent on possesions. It does depress me a bit the way it's all gotten out of hand, especially for those who are stuggling - Christmas must be a nightmare especially when they read threads like this. my kids don't even believe in God or Jesus or unfortunately even Santa any more (even the 7 yr old is so cynical) but will still get some expensive presents. Still will overspend though even if we can afford it, caught up in not disappointing the kids and the peer pressure or having to keep up to a degree with what's the norm and expected.

MrsDeVere Mon 03-Dec-12 23:30:20

I am not sure that is true.
We are much more than a product of our Christmases.

losingtrust Mon 03-Dec-12 23:39:45

I have spent about £70 on each including stocking fillers (8 and 12) but they know we are going on two foreign holidays this year and will also get pressies from their Dad and their grandparents. Actually they have not really asked for much.

CanonFodder Mon 03-Dec-12 23:54:01

I always tell myself it'll be £100 each, but it usually ends up at about £150, though my DGIL sends us £100 as a family usually midyear and this is put aside for xmas oressies for the kids. I had all their presents by the end of October this year so i spread the cost, and ususally buy smaller things as part of the weekly food shop which helps me get the extra little things without hitting our budget too hard. They have both got clothes too this year. One outfit for DD (8) and two for ds (2) as he has hardly anything chosen by me and not handed on by friends. I also spend roughly £50 on their joint Xmas eve elf basket, which includes new pjs for each of them, a DVD, a new christmas book each, popcorn, chocolate for hot choc, and some lovely bath things for that night.

In addition my DM usually spends in the region of £75 on each of them, an aunt spends about £20 each and my mil will send us some money which helps go towards their out of school activities during the year. My DDad gets them a present each too.

They very, very rarely get presens outside of Christmas and birthdays, DD saves pocket money if there is anything she wants. (With the exception of books, I'll always buy any of those she fancies.) I feel this amount is right for us. Fits our budget and they don't have so many things that they get blasé. I would never in a million years go into debt for them. If we are poorer next year, they'll just get less, but tbh so far they are very good about Xmas and actually ask for very little.

CanonFodder Tue 04-Dec-12 00:00:04

'As a grown up I only get a couple of modest christmas presents and that is fine by me. My big pressie is getting all the stuff for the kids.'

Absolutely with you there MrsDeVere! DH and I have spent £30 on one another this year, and that was more than we intended. My kids will be kids for such a short space of time, and I love and remember so well the excitement at a pile of presents under the tree. To me that's what gives Christmas it's buzz, re living that feeling through them.

EricNorthmansFangBanger Tue 04-Dec-12 00:03:05

I didn't say I was happy about her getting the iPad. I had told them more than once to not get her it. In fact, we were trying to get her a leap pad ourselves as her Christmas present so that ballsed that up. She was 3 weeks away from turning 4, so yes she was still 3. She was very very grateful to get it and she has taken great care of it. By no means is she spoilt, that was pretty much her main present and it wasn't even from us.

GoodKingWenSOLOslas Tue 04-Dec-12 00:23:04

I have bought Ds a few books so far and Dd a pair of second hand inline skates from the Church bazaar.
Having just found out that I'm nearly a grand over drawn (and as yet, I have no idea how!), I doubt they'll be getting very much else at all sad but they will just have to accept it.

Morloth Tue 04-Dec-12 00:35:07

I am getting a ceiling fan this year and a hose reel. I know what they are because I chose which ones I wanted.

Very excited!

I did not mean to imply that sports/travelling stuff was more worthy, just that we were going to buy those things anyway, so they might as well double up as pressies.

bluecarrot Tue 04-Dec-12 00:41:18

So far, £27. And it's her birthday in a few days. That totalled £14 ( pjs and slippers) Almost all of it is stuff she needs, but a slightly "better" ( in her eyes) version- moshi toothpaste/bodywash instead of the regular stuff, character pjs instead of non branded ones- that sort of thing. I think it'll be her last year of believing ( she is 10 in 2 days) so I pushed the boat out and spent £3 on zhu zhu pet things she KNOWS I wouldn't buy for her even if they were a penny each. ;) tbh, if they weren't £3 she wouldn't have got them... Wishing I'd stocked up to sell on now!

However, we are getting a family PC.. Not that that's taken away from her birthday/christmad budget, she just doesn't really need anything else... Advent is lots of Christmas /winter themed activities. Most are free and most expensive is £5 budget x 2 days one to to buy shopping for the local food bank, and the other for the giving tree. I wouldn't add those though as we do it anyway...

DP and I are going away for a night for our anniversary in jan and that's a joint anniversary/Xmas gift to eachother as we want to upgrade to somewhere a bit fancier ( than premier inn ;) )

natation Tue 04-Dec-12 06:57:15

Comparing Christmas with weekly essentials is just silly. I spend far more on weekly essentials than on the children at Christmas - food per head in the family is around €40 a week, over a year that's €2000. They have to eat, so I buy it (btw they didn't have to wear €10 of nappies or wipes per week, there are cheaper options too!) So I spend far less on Christmas than the essentials of food, I cannot see what is wrong with that.

Badvocsanta Tue 04-Dec-12 07:15:06

I have spent about £150 on each of my ds's. eldest is 9 youngets is 4 so very different gifts.
It's a lot of money, no question. Well, it's a lot for us! smile
When I think about what I have got them, most gifts were £10 or under with about 5 over £20.
Got ds2 a skarloey engine from ebay for 99p! He will love it. Also got him a paper plane book which he will also love. Pils have got him a tablet pc (cheap one) which I dont have an issue with. It's their money. My parents have got him some octonauts stuff.
Ds1 has got books, DVDs, ps3 games, pirate role play toys, nerf gun...pils have got him an iPod shuffle and remote control plane...again, they can afford it so that's fine. I think my parents have got him some pirate stuff smile
Oh, and I have got them bath bombs for their stocking. They love bath bombs!
My kids dont get pocket money thhoughout the year, ds1 doesnt eat sweets or choc so for me Xmas is about treats and special things.
Things they would never get at any other time.
I am happy with what I have bought.
It's a shame that people feel compelled/obliged to buy things for the sake of it.
It's not a competition.
I am also sorry for those who are struggling ATM. My parents never had much money when I was growing up. And yet my childhood xmas's were magical. I loved them. Church, lots of food, party games, being together...I know it sounds twee, but Xmas is about so much more than gifts.
Happy Xmas everyone x

BieneMaja Tue 04-Dec-12 07:16:13

The majority of DDs presents are 2nd hand so I have probably got more for my money than it seems. But I have spent around £90 all in on her. She is 6.

It's hard as her birthday is in November so she just got most of what she "wanted" so there is nothing she is desperately hoping for. I spent at least £50 of it on books....

Badvocsanta Tue 04-Dec-12 07:18:15

Bienemaja...I spend a lot on books too smile
Ds1 is just becoming a more confident reader and ds2 will be starting school next year so I have gone a bit mad on the book people website!

MrsDeVere Tue 04-Dec-12 07:25:14

Actually Christmas is all about the gifts. For me
It's the only thing that gets me thought it.
A shame, but there you go.

Badvocsanta Tue 04-Dec-12 07:28:06

Mrsdv smile
Not gin?

Badvocsanta Tue 04-Dec-12 07:28:57

Wouldn't bother me if I didn't get anything tbh.
But I am odd smile

MrsDeVere Tue 04-Dec-12 07:30:37

Smirnoff Ice <common>

monkeyfarm Tue 04-Dec-12 07:33:28

For children christmas means presents whether we like it or not.
My parents were the let's not make her all materialistic type etc and I had some crap christmases with hardly any presents resulting in a confused little girl who could not understand why she didn't get what her friends got from santa and guess what? now I'm an adult I am quite a materialistic person who likes to have nice things around them.
My girls will have about £300 each apart from the baby who will have about £100 as she is too young to understand and they will have a lovely christmas.

Kelly281 Tue 04-Dec-12 07:42:06

My DD (14mo) this year has now had around £300 spent on her. I've been doing it all online over 2/3 months, and its not til you write it all down that you realise quite how much you've spent.

It is a a lot, but she does love toys and plays with them all the time so I know she'll enjoy it.

I work hard for my earnings, and I most enjoy spending them on DD, I don't see the problem with that. I don't believe she'll end up spoiled, as she'll see when shes older how hard I work for our families earnings, and that we sometimes have to save for the things we want or need.

notwoo Tue 04-Dec-12 07:43:44

I still don't get why the quantity of presents is so important to some people and why if they get children a physically small present (iPhone etc) they feel compelled to bulk out with other gifts to look more impressive.

Surely by the time a child is old enough for small expensive things then they are old enough to appreciate that that is more than enough for their parents to shell out for.

Stockings were/are the best bit for me-so magical to wake up and find that father christmas had been.

Badvocsanta Tue 04-Dec-12 07:52:59

Mrsdv...I LOVE Smirnoff ice!
When I was a kid our old neighbour used to come runs for a drink - this was like 10am on Xmas morning! smile - and she would have a snowball (?) and mum wkd let me have the last but of her babycham smile
Oh yeah....we were proper classy smile
<ponders what happened to babycham....>

Badvocsanta Tue 04-Dec-12 07:53:57

Kelly...that's true. I started in sept and got a few things every does add up doesn't it!?

mrsEbruce Tue 04-Dec-12 08:15:44

Natation. I was using it as an example why to me£10 for our 10 month old isa tiny amount actually regreting writing our spends on this thread for our 3dd yes to some we spent alot but its isnt to us why should i be made to feel bad for it i would never make anyone feel bad. I love to buy the children stuff at christmas aswell as birthdays and all year round infact people have taken things to far with slatting others who gives a hoot what anyone spendsdoes it really effect one anothers lifes?? I think not!!

natation Tue 04-Dec-12 08:26:34

Unfortunately yes those who spend huge amounts DO affect those who cannot afford to do so. Put yourself in the place of someone who would struggle to afford £10 of presents on a 10 month old.

mrsEbruce Tue 04-Dec-12 08:31:39

Yes the wouldnt be a nice position to be in i agree but in not and i have said i genuinly thought we were average. Were not well off by anyones standereds i myself am a full time mum we save fron jan to aug/sept to provide what we do and are extreamly proud of it. Who knows maybe one year we wont be as lucky.

Bumblequeen Tue 04-Dec-12 08:36:23

Mrsdevere Christmas is most certainly not all about gifts. Perhaps you feel this way but you cannot speak for everyone.

People spend what they choose to. Buying your dc £500 worth of gifts does not mean they are more loved than parents who spend far less.

The number of times I have heard parents boast that their children have everything and they are the envy of their friends at school.

"dc's dad buys her whatever she wants, she is so spoilt. Everytime a new pair of trainers hit the shops her dad has to get her a pair. What can I do?"

"Dc is going on two expensive school trips- we will not have her missing out"

BegoniaBampot Tue 04-Dec-12 08:40:14

Did you really think that was average? Not having a go, just surprised. I feel a bit guilty spending perhaps up to 200 per child and we can afford more easily but feel our kids are already privileged enough. We do spend a lot on through the year on holidays, expensive sports and eating out and if they need something they get it.

mrsEbruce Tue 04-Dec-12 08:46:31

Yes we thought what was spent was run of the mill im shocked its not but also at how you get jumped on for it

we also spend all year round on wee treats, outfits, tripsand eating out but i also see this as the norm i suppose its my ignorence to think others dont.

Bumblequeen Tue 04-Dec-12 09:00:58

Mrsebruce What a privileged life you live. You are able to spend £500 on each child and still live comfortably all year round. Your life is not the norm to a large percentage of people- believe me.

I have been advised on this forum to save each month for Christmas. A bit difficult when you have little disposable cash. When dc needs a coat/pair of shoes do O refuse to buy them and instead put money in Christmas fund?

It is either one or the other.

TellMeLater Tue 04-Dec-12 09:10:49

For us Christmas is all about gifts, food, alcohol and cheesy films, oh and dh would say Dr Who......and when I was a kid it was also about wearing a new outfit and being forced to go to church. grin

Sparrows12 Tue 04-Dec-12 09:15:00

The bore is the whole"matching" thing. My children have acutely sensitive antennae for perceived unfairness but it all does work out in the round. This year, I really want to buy my youngest (13) a retro robertson digital radio - I love it - the racing green one (it's not for me, honestly). But it is £155 and I just can't justify a gratuitous matching expensive present for my other daughter, as there is nothing she really needs. Also, whilst I think the retro radio is just fab, there is no way she will get £155 worth of enjoyment out of it as it will be permanently tuned to radio 1. At least I will get a nice clear radio 4 signal when I'm picking up the dirty clothes on her bedroom floor...

thekidsrule Tue 04-Dec-12 09:42:44

crikey i cant believe how some people mind what others spend on their dc's at christmas

everybody has different income / outgoings /people will decide for themselves

as i said earlier im a single parent on benefit of 3

will spend 300 each on them and am taking them away for four days over christmas so all in all it will cost me £2/2500 in all

no debt all paid for

i save every week from january

dont have the expense of a car

my morgage is paid of

am a miser at home sometimes

bargain hunt all the time eg,my phone is 4yrs old,i love cooking so keeps cost down

so christmas i do spoil them and also their is no dad about and no his side of the family so yes i suppose i do make up for that

but i dont get into debt or harm anybody

why jump on somebody elses choice it's beyond me

Babycarmen Tue 04-Dec-12 09:45:53

Far too much, DD1 is getting about £200, maybe just over. She is 5.
DD2 will only be 10mo so shes getting maybe £40-£50 (mostly clothes that she needs anyway) plus some of DD1s old baby toys wrapped up! Its her birthday in Feb so she will get some new toys then too.

thekidsrule Tue 04-Dec-12 09:53:38

and thank god for the big spenders

the economy needs it grin

melika Tue 04-Dec-12 10:00:40

You can get Babycham (big bottles) Cherry B, and snowball in Iceland! Seen it yesterday, for the benefit of previous poster.

JugglingWithPossibilities Tue 04-Dec-12 10:00:41

A big games table for them to share and other bits will be between £50 and £100 each in total I'd estimate. Birthdays too we tend to get them something from each of us but around £50-£100 in total, plus up to £100 for a party. We spend more on experiences (parties) than things (presents) I think. Like to get presents that will be well played with - games gadgets have been quite a popular choice especially with DS.
At Christmas I get something little for all my nephews and nieces too - or at least the ones I'll be seeing. Up to £20 for each of those I guess.

oohlaalaa Tue 04-Dec-12 10:55:24

The only comment that's irritated me on this thread is this one:

Well that's ok if you have both sets of GPS and lots of relatives but I haven't and that's why I don't want sad little faces

Our children get £40 gifts from us, and gifts from GP aunts/uncles totalling about £100. My parents always buys clothes, and practical presents. DH parents usually buy books or board games.

There are no sad little faces in our house. I appreciate we're lucky, having the grandparents contribute, but I dislike the assumption that cheap presents equates to sad faces.

I grew up, with parents who did not spend much on Christmas presents, and it was fine. I was always happy with the presents we were given. I never went without, and was always loved. I understood that they could not afford expensive gifts. I don't remember ever being sad, they were creative with what they did buy us. I don't like this keeping up with the Jones, and rampant commercialisation.

Madmog Tue 04-Dec-12 10:58:50

Last year we spent £150, but that's the most we've ever spent. This year I would guess it's going to be around £70.

melika Tue 04-Dec-12 11:03:28

People who have lots of relatives who give their kids presents can afford to skimp on Santas presents but for the ones who don't they have to make up the shortfall. I guess some people are lucky to have a perfect family. Just tell me what you can get for £40 each child for the record?

Madmog Tue 04-Dec-12 11:11:29

Just been going over the replies since posting. I think presents are important to children, but they probably don't realise all the other things going on around Christmas make it as well: for us Xmas Eve Nativity and drinks with friends, seeing family, hubby having time off, food treats for us. My daughter wants a couple of console games, but in reality she doesn't need the extras we're going to buy.

My daughter is 11 year and surprised me a couple of weeks ago. Granny can't come Christmas Day this year, so she was adamant she wasn't opening her presents until Boxing Day as it wouldn't be Christmas without seeing someone else. Luckily my sister-in-law has just come to the rescue and we are going there for a few hours Xmas Day.

Badvocsanta Tue 04-Dec-12 11:14:58

Sigh....will have to go to Iceland now to get some babycham! smile

Offred Tue 04-Dec-12 11:15:56

£100 max on each child. If they want some electronic thing they have to wait for it to fall low enough for that. Oldest this year has had £89 (7 - wii), next one £91(6 - bike), twins £45 (3 - ride on police car) and £25 (hop n cuddle bunny) but they have each got something they will really, really like so I don't really see it important that we spend more on the twins to make it "even".

oohlaalaa Tue 04-Dec-12 11:28:59

melika - if you are struggling, you have no option but to skimp on presents. The priority is getting the mortgage paid, and food on table. DC still get lots of days out with mum and dad, even if it's the beach or local park/ woodland walk, rather than zoo.

We have young children, and £40 is not a problem. My DD1, loved her second hand play den last year. It's just a case of looking for offers, and sometimes buying second hand. DVD's, arts and crafts stuff, flower press, junior gardener mini greenhouse /propagator kit, scooter, playmobil farm, books, activity table, childrens chalkboard, second hand swing for garden....

I have no experience buying for teenagers, and might have to increase budget to £60. I don't see that they will need designer labels or status symbols though. I'm sure they'll survive childhood without an iPad.

I'm not against going crazy now and again, if they really really wanted a Kindle Fire, I'd save up to get it, just not every year. We have stretched our budget for bigger items, such as a bike already, but it's not an every year expense.

melika Tue 04-Dec-12 11:32:56

We have lost 3 very close family members in 3 years, believe me you do what ever you can to bridge the gap. Yes I have teens, who haven't got ipads but had free phones on contract last year, which cost me £45 a month for the two. So can you see £40 would not cover 1 month.

santaNdeer Tue 04-Dec-12 11:45:58

DD is 14 months old, we've really struggled with what to get her tbh. It adds up to <£50 not because we don't have the money but just because I don't think she needs tonnes of expensive presents, it would be too overwhelming for her I think. She will be happy with baubles off the tree and playing with wrapping paper.

We'll put money (probably £50) in her bank account as well and then she can buy what she likes in years to come!

thekidsrule Tue 04-Dec-12 12:38:15

I have no experience buying for teenagers, and might have to increase budget to £60. I don't see that they will need designer labels or status symbols though. I'm sure they'll survive childhood without an iPad.

i have 2 teens and funnily one is geting an ipad,i used to think along your lines and 3years ago would never of spent £40 on a xbox game now i have teenagers my whole life plan on teenagers has flown out the window grin

along with my bank balance

its a fact of life that teenagers will want what their friends haveand think it is very easy to say "when i have teens etc they wont have the latest etc etc" but the reality is very different when this happens imo smile

anothercuppaplease Tue 04-Dec-12 12:42:47

I use Christmas as an excuse to get them things they need, plus a couple of actual toy presents, and my parents give them £30 each and we take them to the shop so they can choose something they want, usually a piece of plastic army stuff they play with for a while.

This year they will get:
- Snow boots
- Pyjamas
- Slippers
- A couple of jumpers
- new bumper seats for the car (!!)
- Battleship (can't wait to play that one)
- a couple of educational games and puzzles
- New teddies
- one new DVD to watch over Christmas (Brave)
- New Karate outfits and gloves

Some of these, parents would just buy throughout the year (My MIL thought it was very funny That I'd get them new car seats as a christmas present) same with pjs and slippers. They need new one but it will wait until Christmas.
And that's it. Don't know how much it comes to.

thekidsrule Tue 04-Dec-12 12:47:13


agree one of mine needs a new pairs of vans £50 ffs for canvas shoes shock

but hes getting them for christmas so dont mind getting them at all

im sure he will cotton on one day that i would of had to get them anyway

kiwi999 Tue 04-Dec-12 12:57:20

We have done all presents for 2 children for £40 total (Pillow Pet, Skip Hop baby toy, sweets, and books) and they will both be delighted (eldest even said "but I don't need anything Mummy"). I would rather save the money not spent on loads of gifts when they don't need them to help towards education or something that will really help them out in the world when they are older. Guess I am lucky that they seem to be in agreement with this ethos already smile.

EIizaDay Tue 04-Dec-12 12:59:08

We are very fortunate financially however we still don't spend more than fifty - sixty pounds per child. This is done under pressure too as I do find xmas completely over the top and tacky these days.

I truly cannot understand parents spending hundreds of pounds on a child and I do wonder what value of money that child will grow up with.

Frontpaw Tue 04-Dec-12 13:00:14

Far too much! He did need a new bike though and it's just him...

Too much if I am honest but he is an only child, we have a tiny family so more or less the only presents he gets are from us.

This year we have bought him an xbox which is expensive in itself so he will just get a few small bit and pieces so he has other stuff to unwrap too.

Frontpaw Tue 04-Dec-12 13:11:18

Same here - sadly some of my siblings think birthday and christmas is optional (a bit annoying when I used to send a fortune n their kids when I was a broke student).

melika Tue 04-Dec-12 15:01:31

conclusion is,you can get away with small amount of money when they are young but not when they get to their teen years. End of.

SaraBellumHertz Tue 04-Dec-12 15:31:10

I'm with msdevere for, I think, similar reasons: for me it's all about the pressies.

Partly because I didn't have a great childhood but at Christmas there was always a stack of gifts and it felt truly magical even if my mither stopped speakibg to me for some imagined slight by about 11am but mostly because when the kids in DD's class were asked what their Christmas wish was hers was that her brother was still alive.

So yes we are unashamedly over the top and full on and I want nothing more than for just one day their little world to be filled with happiness and laughter and to hell with it....stuff! If that makes me tacky ( and the idea is slightly ridiculous) then frankly I couldn't care less.

Merry Christmas smile

mindosa Tue 04-Dec-12 15:47:50

Probably about 130 for DD1 and 90 for DD 2 for toys.
PJ's for both about 30
Outfits for both about 130

KinkyDoritoWithJingleBellsOn Tue 04-Dec-12 16:01:23

Sara I think many of us do this. I'm very lucky that DD is still here, but the past couple of years have been such a challenge and I did go crazy last Christmas with the presents. And you know what, sod it. Until someone has walked a mile in my shoes, I defy them to judge me. I cannot take her cancer away, but I can certainly buy her things to cheer her up. I think there is a sense of empowerment in doing that - it is something that I can do in the face of so much horror. I am so sorry for your loss, and I am, as always, thinking of MrsDevere thanks.

Although I do it myself, I don't think it's that fair to compare to "what happened in our day". I was brought up in quite a difficult financial situation, but my mum and dad saved massively throughout the year and we got one "big" present and a few little things and realistically they probably spent (I'm guessing here) the equivalent of maybe £100 on me and my brother.

The big difference though was that we got barely anything else, and I do mean that, throughout the year. I often buy mine this and that throughout the year. Worse for me as my birthday is at Christmas too so I had to wait all year.

My mum died on Christmas day when I was 15 and I hated Christmas for many years after that. In recent years, especially having DC's myself, I've done a massive u turn on that and probably go over the top at Christmas, making magical memories. But that's not just in buying loads of stuff, it's the doing family stuff and baking and all that kind of thing too.

MrsDeVere Tue 04-Dec-12 16:14:49

bumblequeenMrsdevere Christmas is most certainly not all about gifts. Perhaps you feel this way but you cannot speak for everyone'

Yes sweetie, which is why I said 'for me'. I can't imagine how I could have been clearer about that unless I wrote it FOR ME
But I suspect you didn't really read my post or any of the others did you?

Too tempting to leap on the first sentence with self righteous glee and a big old dollop of self pity sad

I used to go to church, I used to do the christingle, nativity, not all about the money - deal.

Now I keep my head down, buy a bunch of stuff off the internet, cover my house in lights and tinsel and just through fucking Christmas the best I can.

Just the same as I do Valentines ,Halloween, Birthdays and Easter and every other 'special' day of the year.

I am sorry if it pains you that there are people out there like me but there you have it. Perhaps use a little imagination to work out why some of us do whatever it takes to get through the 'festive season'.

JugglingWithPossibilities Tue 04-Dec-12 17:24:36

Thanks to Sara, Kinky, and MrsDeVere for helping us understand a little bit more.
As Kinky says it's so easy to judge without walking even a few steps in someone else's shoes.
Obviously people should do whatever brings them and their families some happiness through these cold winter months ... for many that's some nice treats, presents for the children, and good food, as well as the free stuff I also enjoy like Christmas music on the radio, and the lights on other people's houses smile - even a bit of story and meaning whether that's singing some carols at church, watching A Christmas Carol on Christmas Eve, or watching Polar Express with DS
As my DD said on her loop of the paper-chain on the Christmas tree in church when we were visiting the other day
"God bless us everyone" thanks

RainbowSpiral Tue 04-Dec-12 17:50:35

I actually don't add up and compare spending on my two boys, but I reckon I spend about £200 on each which includes a fairly exciting stocking. This year ds1, 11 is desperate for an overpriced technical lego set so that will be the main thing he gets whereas ds2 will have lots of parcels. Not sure how that will go down on Christmas day, but I have tried to explain to ds1.

I asked ds2 what he wanted and he said a DS game and when I asked for more ideas he said "Mummy you chose lovely presents so just pick something you know I will like." Ahhhh, sweet.

When my kids were tiny I only spent about £20, so its changed due to what they enjoy.

MrsDeVere Tue 04-Dec-12 17:55:56

kinky I think of you and your family often, with a smile because your DD is still here but with sadness too because you have had to all suffer so much.

I hope you have a great Christmas. I hope everyone does. smile

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord Tue 04-Dec-12 19:04:28

I'm not saying the amount because I have just added it all up and it is obscene.

I didn't realise how much I'd bought for him.

I am terrible for trying to buy back the bad things that have happened ie he has a shit dad who doesn't bother, I've beat cancer this year too so I feel I'm kind of celebrating with him.

curlimum Tue 04-Dec-12 19:14:25

i hadn't added it all up till now, but im surprised to find that i have only spent about 30 pounds on dd (3). ds (6 months ) won't be getting anything as he doesn't know any different, so we might as well save our money for later! we never did Christmas presents when i was a child, so anything feels extravagant to me . i love having the tree, advent calendar etc and try to involve dd in fun Christmassy crafts. we don't have a lot of money and i am dreadfully stingy, but i like to think we can make up for it with low cost fun and plenty of love and attention --and sweets--we have lots of family members who will give small but nice gifts so all in all she should be quite chuffed.

JugglingWithPossibilities Tue 04-Dec-12 19:15:10

Celebrate Incognito !
And feel no shame smile

Pagwatch Tue 04-Dec-12 19:29:37

These threads always puzzle me because how much we each spend is affected by so many things.
I spend more than I should but less than I can afford. The amount varies massively per child.
Tbh I get a bit sad at the po faced 'I m not buying my teenagers gizmos' stuff.
I would love DS2 to want an iPad or something instead of being eternally stuck on Disney toys.

ThePathanKhansWitch Tue 04-Dec-12 20:03:48

Christmas comes with massive expectations, but for some it really is a hard time of year.
Sarabellum Your daughters comment, i have a massive lump in throat.Bless her, the little darling.
MrsDv,Pag, summed it up really.
I,m also saddened at some of the po gob comments.
Wishing you all a peaceful Christmas.

<can,t wait to get to Iceland for Snowball>

KinkyDoritoWithJingleBellsOn Tue 04-Dec-12 20:07:53

Pagwatch Try these beauties out for size. This is what my DD loves above all gadgetry: Father Christmas is a little scared of putting them in his sack. I'd love her to want a mobile phone, or an ipod. But no, I get to do bidding wars on Ebay for rare scary dolls. confused

MrsDeVere thanks thanks thanks as always smile.

BreastmilkDoesAFestiveLatte Tue 04-Dec-12 20:13:12

Agree with Pagwatch... these threads aren't always fair or kind.

But seeing as you asked... I'd budgeted £25 per child and seem to have spent around £75ish. Some branches of the family don't do Christmas at all, and I've got 14 other kiddies to buy for... so all a bit of an exercise in not causing offence...

Pagwatch Tue 04-Dec-12 20:29:07