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to want to shout at people in the q in front of me......

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purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:17:33

for not sorting out their purse/money/card when theyve been stood in the q for ages? why faff & act suprised that you have to pay for your damn shopping? oh & have you got your co-op card? oh yes, hang on a minute..... forgot where you are lovey?! i have better things to do than watch you faff..........

Hopeforever Thu 29-Nov-12 19:19:59

And breathe

Convert Thu 29-Nov-12 19:20:04

YABU for not writing the word 'queue' properly.

scarletforya Thu 29-Nov-12 19:25:46


People like this baffle me. Dozy fucks.

WilsonFrickett Thu 29-Nov-12 19:30:17

And people at the cashpoint who take half an hour. What are they doing? And how can it take so long?

Always a q thread at this time if year. sad

Think yourslef lucky that you've actually still got a q.

I haven't had a q for ages, in fact have been in comparative peace, with no despondent q thoughts for ages, but someone always vomes along and reminds me of the good times.


You don't appreciate what you've got till it's gone.

Try to be less insensitive in future.


MsElleTow Thu 29-Nov-12 19:32:59


Do tell how I am supposed to manage to use 2 crutches and sort out my purse/money/card all at the same time! hmm

FFS it takes all of about 30 seconds! Are you really in that much of a rush?

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:34:38

drives me insane at the cashpoint as well - i mean really...... why not your mini statement elsewhere when other people are waiting? :-\

germyrabbit Thu 29-Nov-12 19:36:15

i will your my mini statement whenever i want grin

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:36:31

mrselle - not talking about disabled/elderly or people with young kids - thats awful - am talking about people like me - able bodied who just dont think about other people...

TidyDancer Thu 29-Nov-12 19:36:37


Some people do not feel safe getting items out of their bags until the last minute. Or they have a lot of DCs with them and need their hands free. Or any other reason.

I feel sorry for people who can't spare a few minutes just to make other people's lives a bit easier.

GroupieGirl Thu 29-Nov-12 19:37:43

Good point MsElle - and I thought handbag plus bolting toddler was bad enough!

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:37:53

read your even :-)

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Thu 29-Nov-12 19:38:50

Tonight I had to nip in to tesco for tampax bits, goes to free chechout but it isn't free, we are waiting for woman. Who comes barging past me with loads of wine in arms muttering apologies. Fair enough.
Then some big debate ensued about her club card points.. she says ' very sorry ' and rushes past me off to drinks aisle.

Comes back with a large bottle of Bells.

I even surprised myself tonight because when she turned to say ' awfully sorry ' I smiled and said ' it's absolutely fine ' and I've got pmt!

It must be the moon.

MsElleTow Thu 29-Nov-12 19:40:20

But why shouldn't people get their purse out to pay once they have packed their shopping? And who the hell decided when someone can and can't get their mini statement? Maybe they are checking that they have enough money in their account so their card won't be declined, thus holding up impatient people like you!

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:40:33

i work 60 hours a week, run a house, have kids & pregnant so every second counts.....

FreyaFridays Thu 29-Nov-12 19:43:43

What Not To Do In Town

Youtube's danisnotonfire, and his excellent reenactment of this moment at 0:50!

DudeIAmSoFuckingRock Thu 29-Nov-12 19:44:02

may come as a surprise to you but people dont exist to make life easier for you.

Dawndonna Thu 29-Nov-12 19:46:19

Able bodied people like my son. Who looks fine but is all the time filtering out the noise, the lights and various other bits of input so that he can triple check he has what he needs and hear what the cashier is saying to him? How would you know if there was anything wrong with the 17 year old lad infront of you? He's wearing a hoody and jeans, has a schoolbag, long hair, looks like any other teenager.
Slow down before you burn yourself out.

TidyDancer Thu 29-Nov-12 19:46:50

Totally agree Dude.

OP, just because you feel you have a busy life, it doesn't mean other people can't have different checkout routines. It's not up to you how things run.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:48:27

of course not but why not have your purse-loyality card to hand and not buried? it may be a lovely day out for you but the rest of us have other things to do - i always have my purse in my pocket & loyality card to hand - not left in my sodding car :-(

AnnaRack Thu 29-Nov-12 19:49:19

I always pack my shopping before paying. It soesn't take any longer, and it means there is space for the next person's shopping and it doesn't all get mixed up.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:50:06

im talking about ditherers not just people who are slow.

Dawndonna Thu 29-Nov-12 19:50:15

Purple. You are being mean and selfish. Sod off.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Thu 29-Nov-12 19:52:22

Woah OP.

No I would never have my purse in a pocket. Because I'm usually wearing something impractical without pockets for a kick off.. and how much longer can it really take to reach in a bag and get your purse? 5 seconds at most.

Chill Bill.

ilovesooty Thu 29-Nov-12 19:55:00

It sounds as though the OP is one step away from meltdown. If a few seconds lost from your day makes you so angry that can't possibly be healthy.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 19:55:15

but at the bottom of your bag? spending a few mins searching for purse - then money & then loyality card - someone left it on the car today but rather than get the points another day insisted on getting it from his car hence me leaving my lunch & running back to work with a rumblytum :-(

Some of us at this time of year can't actually open their purse without accidentally flinging the contents around due to frozen fingers. So sadly I have to have a surface to lean it on to keep things under control.

You sound very busy and stressed. What can you do to help make things easier for yourself?

ilovesooty Thu 29-Nov-12 19:56:51

Getting your stuff from the car and holding people up is another matter, but you didn't mention that in your OP. Drip feeding.

DudeIAmSoFuckingRock Thu 29-Nov-12 19:57:00

" it may be a lovely day out for you but the rest of us have other things to do - i always have my purse in my pocket & loyality card to hand "

bully for you. others dont and you cant make them thank fuck build a bridge and get over it. if this is really all you have to worry about you're doing alright.

DudeIAmSoFuckingRock Thu 29-Nov-12 19:58:48

tell me OP is there any area in your life where you think something you do might hold others up/be inconvenient for others for whatever reason? i'd be amazed if there isn't.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Thu 29-Nov-12 20:00:15

OP you need to chill. You sound stressed out.
It really wouldn't take someone 120 seconds to find a purse. It probably just feels like that because you're stressing out.

Have a bath like I'm doing now wink

IFartInYourGeneralDirection Thu 29-Nov-12 20:01:18

I don't ttake ot my cards before im ready to pay and i do banking at the machine weather theres a queue or not - its my turn i can do as i like I'm not rushing because some muppet can't wait their turngrin

I also work long hours, run a house and have kids care for two relitives very second counts but not enough to be sweating the small stuff

<dithers infront of op>

SantasLittleControlGeek Thu 29-Nov-12 20:01:26

purple be really grateful you can get into a queue at a real checkout. My local morrisons closes all the tills at about 6.30pm leaving only the self-service checkouts open, no matter how much shopping you are doing. All you can do then is stand, wait, huff, puff and shout loudly for assistance when the machine invariably decides that your bread doesn't weigh as it was expecting, and you need your age checking at 35+ years because you put a bottle of shandy in with your shopping. Then there's no space to put all your shopping so you put it in the trolley, at which point it complains about the weight again, it can't read your money off vouchers, your money gets stuck in the machine and the whole conjoined series of bags heads out of the door with you like some reception class paper chain.

I'd give anything for to be in a proper 'q' again!

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:01:31

all i wanted was some food but once again because of people who have nothing better to do or are lonely, hold others up by chatting to checkout (they really dont answer back as can see the hold up) or dont have anything to hand - not talking seconds here but say 5/8 mins per person & have 3/4 in front of you made me a very hungry person this arvo as no damn lunch :-(

Sparklingbrook Thu 29-Nov-12 20:02:35

You can't get your purse out first at the self service till. I have tried. Not enough hands.

AnnaLiza Thu 29-Nov-12 20:04:15

What about people who take ages at customer services queues and they go on and on and on about why they're pissed off and completely disregard every one else in the line after them?
So selfish!

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Thu 29-Nov-12 20:04:19

Ah now you're being mean. Some people have nobody but the chechout person to pass a few minutes with.

It might be any of us one day.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:05:33

btw i live in a small village so is a daily occurence - no-one seems to work or if they do limited hours. im used to the fast life in the city - god its gonna take a whileto get used to the snails pace.

Growlithe Thu 29-Nov-12 20:06:11

OP you should allow yourself enough time to buy your lunch. It's your own fault.

My mum gets very flustered (she's not old, or disabled) just suffers from anxiety and gets shaky hands when trying to hurry.
She waits until she has packed her bags to find her purse, as she will need both hands to open it anyay.

People tutting and bustling behind her make her much slower and jittery so people should not or I will sit on them

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:06:49

ifyg- you sound like a pleasure dithering just to piss people off.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Thu 29-Nov-12 20:07:01

Better get back to the city then love.

Sparklingbrook Thu 29-Nov-12 20:07:24

You may have to move back to the fast life in the city where nobody speaks to each other then? And take a packed lunch.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:08:44

growlithe - i have 3/4 hour for lunch - power walk to shop = 25 mins - choosing lunch 5 mins & then stuck in the q - deep joy

ilovesooty Thu 29-Nov-12 20:09:10

Try making your lunch and taking it to work with you then. If you were huffing and puffing behind me I'd be well pissed off.

Oh, and I have a full time job and I'm self employed, in case you thought I had endless time.

Sparklingbrook Thu 29-Nov-12 20:09:16

Packed lunch is the answer. Saves ££££s too.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:09:46

Bill Bryson writes very amusingly about this - people who act surprised that they have to pay and then instigate a lengthy search of three pockets and two different bags before locating their card/purse/money.

I don't think you are being particularly unreasonable actually. Other people in queues are exasperating.

ilovesooty Thu 29-Nov-12 20:10:08

3/4 hour for lunch? Luxury.

Pendeen Thu 29-Nov-12 20:10:08

At the petrol station today, I was filling my car and a local 'VIP' (imagine big, ld, very fat and tweedy landowner businessman type) drove in behind me, stopped, jumped out and stood watching me.

My car is a swine to put petrol in, the pump is forever stopping so you have to continually let go of the trigger and start again.

He started tapping his pocket, looking at his watch; glaring at me and sighing and sighing.

Of course, when I went in to pay there was a queue and then when it was my turn the cashier had to change the till roll!


When I finally came out he was red-faced and shouted "Come on my dear, some of us have better things to do than waste time waiting you know"

Made me see angry

I asked him "Oh, sorry are you in a hurry then?"

And when he of course said yes, I - to my shame - said "Tough!"

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:11:33

i dont huff & puff - im more ladylike than that hence posting on here rather than taking it out on others...... thats just rude.....where did i say i huff & puff??!!

ilovesooty Thu 29-Nov-12 20:14:10

Oh well, if you contain your feelings you're evidently even more likely to court serious health problems then. And I find it difficult to believe that the resentful vibes were completely unnoticeable...

You RBVU. How the hell can I pack my groceries and have my card/purse /money ready in my hand to pay???

Should I offer it from my frigging mouth? angry


Dawndonna Thu 29-Nov-12 20:14:39

Perhaps some of the understanding you have asked for on other threads here, would be appropriate in this situation, Purple

Growlithe Thu 29-Nov-12 20:16:14

5 minutes choosing lunch? Who's dithering now? grin

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Thu 29-Nov-12 20:16:20

Uh oh.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:16:30

a simple check of the location of purse would be enough.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:17:13

You can't be annoyed by anything anymore <mourns>

Having had someone attempt to snatch my purse from the shop conveyor belt, where i'd put it down to speed up packing because of some person huffing behind me in the queue, I thought sod it and will not be getting my purse out again when shopping until I've packed stuff.

Sparklingbrook Thu 29-Nov-12 20:18:59

Being annoyed is a pointless waste of energy really.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:19:03

crikey, some of you have real potty mouths dont you??!! im entitled to my own opinion & where has this twat asked people to have their purses in their hands ready??!! just know where they are??!! must be so unreasonable not wanting to q for half hour cause you are disorganised lol

Sparklingbrook Thu 29-Nov-12 20:20:17

But purple why do you buy your lunch every day? Why don't you take a packed lunch?

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:21:23

just know where your purse/wallet is so you can simply get it out & not have to spend an age searching followed by spending an age looking for your loyality card. oh dear........

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:23:36

because i like shop bought sarnies - no time to make them am & my sarnies are always soggy if i make them the night before - up & out the house by 6am :-) tips on non soggy sarnies would be good.....

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:23:43

waves to purpleraindance - I agree with you. Don't know where all the non annoyed people have come from tonight.

I expect none of them are ever annoyed by anything, ever

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:24:51

I think Dawndonna's comment was unnecessary too.

MyComplicatedLife Thu 29-Nov-12 20:26:03

Not everyone is as quick off the mark as you. There may be all sorts of reasons for the person being slow.

Dawndonna Thu 29-Nov-12 20:28:11

Which one? The one about my autistic son being perfectly able bodied but in a quiet but complete and utter panic at a checkout?

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:28:13

but a simple awareness of whereabouts your money is located should be a given really, as a courtesy to those behind you in the queue.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:28:15

yes, too much time on their hands...... :-)

harrietspy Thu 29-Nov-12 20:28:23

Really sorry it's got you so wound up, Purple. You asked for tip on non-soggy sarnies: don't take sarnies. Packet of oatcakes, some cut-up cheese. Or pitta bread and hummus in a pot.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:28:42

no, your trawl through the OP's posts and the dig about getting sympathy

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:29:11

sorry, understanding

Sparklingbrook Thu 29-Nov-12 20:29:35

Looks like you are paying the price for a non soggy sandwich in more ways than just ££ then. sad Don't blame you for not wanting to make them in the morning if you are out for 6am though what time do you get home? sad

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:29:57

I think it is down to politeness really. Do everything you can to speed things along for everybody else.

ilovesooty Thu 29-Nov-12 20:30:19

Or a loaf and a tin of baked beans or soup.

Dawndonna Thu 29-Nov-12 20:31:40

Just made a point, early on about other peole needing more time for various reasons. It was ignored. I get annoyed at people doing 20 on 60 mile an hour roads. That's because it's dangerous. I try to understand if people are lonely and want a quick hello at a checkout. Don't really give a damn what you think.

EllenParsons Thu 29-Nov-12 20:32:18

YABU to some extent. Yes it is annoying when people really take excessively long but I think there is a lot to be said for patience and just remaining calm.
I was at the Tesco self service till yesterday, normal speed, not super fast but not dawdling either, and a guy behind me barged up and started shouting at me "get out the fucking way" etc and all this - I was really shocked and it did upset me actually. I'm not saying this is what you are doing at all (I'm sure you're not!) but overly stressing about the time someone takes in the queues can lead to people getting aggressive like this arse who started shouting at me. People all just need to calm down!

Personally my purse is in my handbag and it takes 10 seconds to get and take the money out!!! I can never pack as fast as they can scan the shopping- almost but not quite!

Just out of interest how long do you take to pay if you have 10 items to pack?

Obviously if you've one item you CAN have the money ready!

MavisG Thu 29-Nov-12 20:34:39

Use lots of butter to waterproof bread, don't have salad in the butty, have it on the side.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:35:01

The OP wasn't really talking about the talking was she, rather people who can't be arsed to have their money ready as a basic courtesy to those waiting behind.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:38:04

when doing my big shop i always ensure i know my purse/vouchers/car park ticket (to get refund) & money off vouchers are rather than the checkout girl asking me & then me dither looking for them.

thanks for the support to the non potty mouths & lunch suggestions..... oat cajes are sounding yum :-)

Sparklingbrook Thu 29-Nov-12 20:38:59

I thought it was the rules to take a stinky fish microwave dinner into work and stink the place out these days? grin

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:41:15

oh yuck sb - being veggie fish is a big hate of mine but when working in a huge office one has to use a nose peg as not their fault i find fish disgusting lol :-)

Dawndonna Thu 29-Nov-12 20:42:21

am talking about people like me - able bodied who just dont think about other people...
As I said, how does she know?

MyComplicatedLife Thu 29-Nov-12 20:43:44

Purple - YABU and you know it. But really, other posters are missing the point!

HumphreyCobbler Thu 29-Nov-12 20:45:23

well she doesn't always know. But as she doesn't shout "Get your fucking purse out shit bag" when she is in the queue I think that probably no one in the flesh gets offended.

Sorry to talk about you in the third person OP

usualsuspect3 Thu 29-Nov-12 20:46:14

Ditherers annoy me too.

They stand in the bus queue for ages, then fiddle about looking for their purses when it's time for them to pay.

mathanxiety Thu 29-Nov-12 20:48:44

Always a bad idea to go shopping on an empty stomach.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 20:50:46

of course i dont shout-scream-huff-puff at the ditherers.... i use a forum to sound off on & maybe am bu but to be called nasty names simply shows the class of a small % of mnusers - being called a twat has made me pmsl as far as im aware is twats are very useful..

please keep the insults coming as making me smile.... ;-)

psychomum5 Thu 29-Nov-12 20:57:14

"must be so unreasonable not wanting to q for half hour cause you are disorganised"

Oh the irony. If you were more organised then you would not need to go to the shop during the busiest part of the day, and then be annoyed by people who might want to natter, or make sure their shopping is packed before they pay. Maybe find an extra five mins in the morning to buy your lovely shop bought sandwich then??

And speaking from a checkout lady POV, it is nice to be able to chat to the customers who might see only my face in the day, as everyone else is too busy, or understands that some people don;t want their money and purse to hand as they want to pack first, or just might have other hidden issues that hold them up.

If I want to rush I go to the self serve tills now.

well, I try. They are even more evil than any ditherer or rushed person.

That said, if you just have one sandwich, I would ask nicely to queue jump. Rarely do people mind, and I (I don;t work on checkouts anymore) never minded when sat there on the checkouts.

If I have a massive shop I sometimes even let people queue jump if they have less than, say, three items. They are, TBH, the ones normally in a rush.

usualsuspect3 Thu 29-Nov-12 20:57:31

I've been known to huff grin

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 21:03:57

crikey, could you imagine the posts on here if i asked to queue jump - really. of course i feel for people who delib take their time as their lonely & just want to chat but why not pop to one side & let others go in front so you can have a guilt free chat without holding others up. but im more talking about ditheres who dont know where they are let alone where their purses are. im disorganised as im rarely at home working 60 hours a week + daily clubs not getting home til 8pm so sorry i like to cook dinner & then enjoy an hour of tv/reading before bed rather than making 6 rounds of sarnies - dc have money for lunch as well :-)

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 21:05:09

no self service tills in my village :-\

psychomum5 Thu 29-Nov-12 21:09:59

so you have five children too, and pregnant with another, Yes??

and you work many hours?

and they do many clubs??

that was once me, and believe me, i never went to the shops at lunch time. I made those lunches for my children, and for me, and bloody well chilled out for the 45min lunch break. T'was LOVELY grin

I also admit to queue jumping. But yes, you might get lynched if you asked here wink

psychomum5 Thu 29-Nov-12 21:12:21

now I am a SAHM, due to a child with an immune deficiency and so has much time off school, making it unfair on my employer to constantly need time off.

I can dither if I want. I often do. Normally as my brian is always fuzzled by thinking about each of the childrens after school needs and everything else.

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 21:16:28

4 dc, 1 dh who is self emp so works even longer hours than me + pregnant. maybe im just jealous of how much spare time some people seem to have..... my lack of sleep maybe spent with ones head on ones desk power napping lol but dont want to end up a heffer hence power walking to shops..... :-)

SisterSally Thu 29-Nov-12 21:17:03

Haha i love the ones who check the receipt in the doorway. Grr!

purpleraindance Thu 29-Nov-12 21:19:09

or the reciept at the checkout :-D

DudeIAmSoFuckingRock Thu 29-Nov-12 21:21:36

take your sarnie ingredients with you to work in tupperware (other brands are available) and a coolbag and make your snadwich at work.

Viviennemary Thu 29-Nov-12 21:23:01

I totally hate queues in supermarkets. I run up and down looking for the shortest one, but have to take into consideration how full the baskets are , how much has already been unloaded, how quick the cashier looks, how likely they are to have to ring the bell for assistance. That always happens to the person in front of me. Even worse than the ones searching for their card are the ones at the end of it all, who have to put everything back in their purse, zip up the purse zip up their handbag, put on their gloves and so on and so on. Grrrr!!

scurryfunge Thu 29-Nov-12 21:28:37

I get privately annoyed at the ditherers but in the grand scheme of things it does not really matter.

psychomum5 Thu 29-Nov-12 21:30:35

well congratulations on baby #5. He or she will be the sweetest thing until he/she hits 18mths.

Mine was at least grin

Do you ever notice how the shortest queue always ends up being the slowest.

now THAT rankles me!

psychomum5 Thu 29-Nov-12 21:33:01

my DH is self employed too....also stupid hours, and when I was pregnant was working away. Oh the fun we had then hmm

Hopeforever Thu 29-Nov-12 23:09:27

I used to want 5 kids and a full time job, but I'm the one with 2 kids and unable to have more or work due to illness. I look fully healthy but may well dither at the check out as my brain is on go slow by the time I've made it round the shop.

Don't worry, I'll stick to Internet shopping so I don't dither at the village shop any more. Sadly I'll be lonely, but I won't be bothering anyone any more.

Perhaps you could use your time at the check out counting your blessings

You have a job
Your DH is also working
You have kids
You have the money to buy lunch
You are capable of power walking
You know where your purse, ticket, keys and brain are

And breathe

purpleraindance Fri 30-Nov-12 09:23:39

i have mh problems such as anxiety & panic attacks & would panic if i kept a queue waiting. ive also had major back surgery but still class myself as able bodied as no need for crutches (anymore) or a wheelchair.

how much time does it take to make sure you know where your purse/loyality conversation? :-)

Alligatorpie Fri 30-Nov-12 10:08:50


You know you have to pay when it is your turn at the cashier, surely you could be prepared for it, not get that surprised look on your face and then start digging around in your bag. Fine, you don't want to get your money out until the last minute, but at least know where it is.

It drives me mental too.

purpleraindance Fri 30-Nov-12 10:17:06

thanks alli :-) thats what i mean & then to look shocked when asked for your loyality card & then check/read your reciept with a huge queue behind you is frustrating. i check my reciept by moving to one side &any problems will wait for the person to finish being served & ask. your in a queue, you have plenty of time to sort yourself out.

Janeatthebarre Fri 30-Nov-12 10:25:01

YANBU. Most people manage to get through the checkout without causing unnecessary hold ups, so why do some people have to stand around waiting until everything has been checked through before starting to pack their bags, waiting until all the bags have been packed before rooting for their laser card etc etc etc
Yes, obviously there are situations where someone has a disability. But I don't think the OP is talking about those situations. Some people are just completely unaware of the queue behind them and the people they are holding up. You see it on buses as well. Someone who has been standing waiting at the stop for ten minutes waits until they get on the bus to start rummaging around looking for their purse. Really annoying.

Janeatthebarre Fri 30-Nov-12 10:30:07

By the way OP I think some of the comments and worst case scenarios being presented on here to make you look U are way OTT.

purpleraindance Fri 30-Nov-12 10:37:47

thanks so much jane :-):-):-):-)

badfurday Fri 30-Nov-12 10:46:32

Im with you Purple. Its fecking annoying, yes if they are disabled, have kids etc I can understand, but if its a perfectly able bodied person they should be suprised when they get asked to pay and not have their sodding purse ready! Im aware of the person behind me and try and be as quick as possible. Another annoying thing is waiting for people to finish putting their purse etc in their hand bag afterwards - walk away from the checkout area and do this, thats what I always do so as not to slow down the line.

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin Fri 30-Nov-12 10:49:46

OP have to say you have drip fed a lot.

You need to make your life as stress free as possible.

Take your lunch to work and go for a walk after you've eaten it.

Janeatthebarre Fri 30-Nov-12 10:52:28

Wasn't there a funny thread on here recently about OPs coming up with mad scenarios in order to be able to chant YABU. I can't find it or remember the title but otherwise would provide a link.

Janeatthebarre Fri 30-Nov-12 10:53:22

Sorry, not OPs. It was the responders coming up with the mad scenarios.

MonkeyRisotto Mon 03-Dec-12 09:38:27

I'm with you OP, is it so difficult to get your cards out of your purse into a pocket, while you wait for the previous person to go through?

I think some of the YABU replies must be from people who are recognising their selfishness and are trying to deflect.

Put 'em all in Room 101 with those folks that selfishly block a junction in a queue of traffic cos they're only thinking about themselves rather than those around them.

Montybojangles Mon 03-Dec-12 10:17:16

You don't live near Chelmsford do you by any chance OP? When I moved to the village my neighbour advised me to take a book and a big pinch of patience with me when I ventured to the coop.
Like you I work long hours, and the often none working card machine, plus the fact they often have only 1 person in the tills can drive me nuts, but not the people in the queue.
Please remember that while you may be living a hectic life with lots of family/public interaction, for some of the elderly/lonely people shopping there that might be their only chance to have a little chat with someone that day. Give them a break, or drive to the next town/bigger supermarket to do the self serve thing.

MonkeyRisotto Mon 03-Dec-12 11:13:41

I was also a bit hmm a few months back when I came to the self service checkout at our local (enormous) Tescos, which only had 4 self service checkouts at the time, 2 of which were broken, there was quite a queue and I realised that at one of them was someone with a full, large trolley. I mean, really?!

AlienRefluxLooksLikeSnow Mon 03-Dec-12 11:43:07

I feel your pain purple I do. But you know what the answer is? Slow the fuck down, leave much more time than you think you need, then you will be having a nice day out too, and time for a chat, a laugh, time to be kind to others, who may only get their human interaction from the sodding check out, honestly, don't rush so much, it will transform your life, and blood pressure, it's not good for the baby, to be so stressed out.

Sokmonsta Thu 06-Dec-12 07:57:28

I've pondered this a lot lately. In my experience, cashier puts stuff through, I pay then have to pack while cashier starts pushing next customer's stuff through.

My conclusion? Yabu. I will pack my things then get my purse and loyalty cards out to pay. Tough shit if that holds you up for all of a few seconds. Far better that than trying to pack at the same time as someone else's shopping comes towards me.

Groovee Thu 06-Dec-12 08:04:54

Its the ones who push to the front of the bus queue to get on the bus then yank out their money and count out £1.40 in change instead of having it ready. We don't have all day to wait on you being disorganised when there is a huge queue waiting on the bus with their passes and money ready!

VodkaJelly Thu 06-Dec-12 08:39:06

I went to the cashpoint the other day. I drove into the carpark, and on passing the cash machines saw that there was a woman at one and a couple at the other one.

I parked my car (some distance away), walked up to the cashpoint as the couple were finishing, used the cashpoint, walked the distance back to my car and as I was getting in the woman who was there using the first cashpoint had finally finished - what the hell was she doing????

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