Do anyone elses parents try to out do them at Christmas?

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How old is your DD? My DPs add their presents to the pile of things that father christmas leaves in the night, so our DDs have no real idea who bought what as they think it all comes from father christmas...

Janeatthebarre Wed 28-Nov-12 11:37:59

Could all the presents not come from Santa? With maybe one being chosen from each pile to come from you and DGs?

LookMumNoHands Wed 28-Nov-12 11:38:04

I always say that my DD main present is from Father Christmas as that is who she is asking for it from. MIL bought the main present this year - not a problem, its from Father Christmas anyway and means I can spend our money getting her lots of little things.

Maybe instead of presents from grandma and mummy just lots and lots of presents from Santa?

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squeakytoy Wed 28-Nov-12 11:46:19

Kids are just happy to get the presents, they dont mind who got them!

Cosmostocupcakes Wed 28-Nov-12 11:57:48

Just be grateful that your mum you enough to "spoil" your DD - my parents are super generous to my ds and dd - also to my brother, sil, my husband and myself - I feel very lucky - its not a competition! Enjoy it! Why not save that money and get them small treats throughout the year! wink

shuffleballchange Wed 28-Nov-12 12:00:22

Oh for goodness sake, you are very lucky, some people don't have family to help bear the cost of Christmas. My two get lots of big expensive exciting presents from grandparents that we just couldn't afford, I buy them smaller gifts, often boring things like pjs and socks. As long as your children are happy, does it really matter?.....

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Teafairy Wed 28-Nov-12 12:07:59

cosmostocupcakes beat me to the money and get small treats through the year.

My DD's have 4 sets of Grandparents so there are plenty of presents. We have got them a few small things that no one else will think to get, because no one knows them like me and DH and then given the bigger list to the grandparents-which we've added to, as DD1 (2.5) only wanted cookie cutters and DD2(7 months) isn't at the wanting stage! The first year, when grandparents got more than we did, I found it a bit upsetting but then realised that DD1 didn't know or really care, she was just happy to have something to unwrap, and we used the money throughout the year for more day trips etc.

Also,just because they have got your DD everything off the list, doesn't mean she won't like your presents, sometimes the things you like best are the things you didn't know you wanted, IYSWIM, and a surprise is always fun. smile

CailinDana Wed 28-Nov-12 12:15:09

When she asks why the GPs are the ones who get what she wants just say "because they really like to do that and I don't want to stop them. If they didn't get them for you I would though. It's just nice for them to think that they can treat you, it makes them happy. You're a lucky girl to have so many people wanting to buy you presents."

starfishmummy Wed 28-Nov-12 12:21:07

MIL always goes overboard. (and not just at xmas). Luckily at xmas she gives us the bags of presents beforehand, and nothing is ever wrapped so we can have a look through before we give them to him and we might decide to hold some things back for later in the week. I'll also weed out anything that is really unsuitable - she has a habit of buying stuff that is way too young for him becuse "she" likes it!!

laurenamium Wed 28-Nov-12 12:22:25

My parents just bought and built DD a £900 summer house in the garden, I am grin about it and very very grateful! DD is their only grandchild and they adore her, they can spoil her all they like grin

I know they have got her some presents to unwrap too and in previous years I've felt a pressure to produce a similar present mountain, but this year I've spoken to my DM and explained that as a lone parent I just can't do it so we are going to combine all the presents so DD doesn't know which is off who, with a main present each from us. Could you have a chat and ask to make one pile and a main present each?

Merrin Wed 28-Nov-12 12:30:57

Dont put them in piles. Children never read the labels anyway!

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girlywhirly Wed 28-Nov-12 13:48:11

Do you think your parents are trying to make up for the fact that only you and they give DD gifts?

Do you do a stocking? Could you specify to your parents one large and four other presents from them and the same from you, labelled who they're from, and any other small things they buy go unlabelled into the stocking? They are just from you and GP's together. As long as you can stop your mum saying 'oh, that's from me' or 'that's from Grandad and me" as DD unwraps them!

No, my DS doesnt have any grandparents....I would love it he had someone trying to outdo me!

LaQueen Wed 28-Nov-12 13:54:12

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MamaBear17 Wed 28-Nov-12 18:50:02

I think you should talk to your parents again. I would find it annoying if I were you too. It is nice that they want to spoil her, but I think sometimes GPs need to take a back seat and let the parents have the limelight in their kids eyes for a while.

deste Wed 28-Nov-12 19:31:03

If I had grandchildren I would probably do the same but the reason I would do it is so that you could keep your money and buy something you need. I wouldn't think of it as a competition.

QuickLookBusy Wed 28-Nov-12 19:52:03

Gosh, so DD tells your parents what you are buying, then the next day they go and buy it? I'd be livid, it's just rude.

Don't tell them anything in future and dont tell DD. If they ask what you're getting her, say your not sure, or make something up! Only tell them when you've actually bought the present.

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Cosmostocupcakes Fri 30-Nov-12 14:49:47

Reading what you've responded I think the reason they are doing it is not to out do you but they think they are helping you so that financially you don't struggle/overspend/worry for the sake of one day - I know my parents do this (worry and spoil!)


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