to think its just a roast dinner

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mamamibbo Mon 26-Nov-12 23:39:56

my mum keeps going on about christmas dinner and how i wont be able to manage it by myself and she will help, do i need to borrow a gravy boat?

why would i need a gravy boat, i have a pyrex jug;-)

what makes it different to the roast dinners i make my family all the time?

we dont eat turkey, it will be lamb and beef and maybe a cola gammon.

GrumpyCynicalBastard Mon 26-Nov-12 23:41:41

She probably just wants to feel or be useful. Would it kill you to let her?

steppemum Mon 26-Nov-12 23:43:13

because if you can do it easily, then it suggests that what she did over all those years wasn't special!

I don't know what makes it different - but it is! At least I find it so.

Maybe it's because there are more elements to it in our house. Maybe it's because I do more fandangly versions of things. Veg that are normally steamed suddenly find themselves being sauteed with lardons. Three veg become five. One or two courses become four. The best dinner service, cutlery canteen and crystal come out. There are NAPKINS!!!!!! AND RINGS!!!!!

Or maybe it's the pre-dinner sherries I imbibe freely on this one day of the year grin.

None of these things would offer me any problems throughout the year - I'm a pretty good cook, but somehow, on Christmas Day, with everything all going on and every single thing needing to be "right" because it's just once a year - it is different.

And because it's different I'd say yes to the gravy boat if nothing else it means you have somewhere to put the gravy when you discover you used the pyrex jug for something else and it hasn't been washed up.

mamamibbo Mon 26-Nov-12 23:45:21

lol im nearly 30 and i have 4 children, its control freakery, trust me she's known for it

Alternatively - say yes to the gravy boat because the pyrex jug is SO much bigger than a sherry glass and will save you wasting precious cooking drinking time refilling your booze grin

apostropheuse Mon 26-Nov-12 23:49:27

YABU. You'll never manage it.

You don't have the correct equipment and you don't know that turkey isn't optional.

It's a no-brainer. Your mother absolutely must supervise or you'll be a laughing stock for the next twenty-five years.

It's that serious.

mamamibbo Mon 26-Nov-12 23:51:09

theres going to be me, my husband and 4 children, i doubt any of them will care, they'll be too busy with their presents... and dh will be putting them together.

My friend had a chinese one year - her mother had an apopleptic fit grin.

apostropheuse Mon 26-Nov-12 23:54:07

Oh and you're not even thirty yet? Nothing like drip feeding eh?

Hah! Well that's even more reason for you to be realistic here.

Your timings are going to be all out. Your trifle will be runny. You won't have enough food. The list goes on.

You will probably even resort to paper table covers.

I feel sorry for your family tbh.

mamamibbo Mon 26-Nov-12 23:54:17

hmmm... i like chinese...

steppemum Mon 26-Nov-12 23:56:40

coola - best christmas dinner every was pizza. I was overseas, and hadn't had a pizza for 6 months. We got together with some other ex-pats and decided pizza was what we really wanted. So my friends cooked it and we all pitched in.

it was truly amazing sigh

FlaminNoraImPregnantPanda Mon 26-Nov-12 23:59:55

Every year my mum throws a fit when she finds out I'm not doing sprouts. I hate sprouts. My husband hates sprouts. My daughter hates sprouts. Heck even the dog hates sprouts and he eats his own poo. "But it's traditional" Yeah, and so hanging, now give over.

louisianablue2000 Tue 27-Nov-12 00:02:20

I hate roast dinners. All the last minute stuff to do. And this year the ILs are coming. i won't be able to drink Bucks Fizz all day like i normally do. Not looking forward to it!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 27-Nov-12 00:02:50

YANBU! I have never seen the problem. Everything goes in one huge tray at carefully timed intervals. Its not exactly rocket science!

Cluffyfunt Tue 27-Nov-12 00:03:10

Lol, <passive agresive smile >

I really don't know what all the fuss is about!

It is just a normal roast with extras.

Starters (if you want them. They are not composlatry(sp?) ) can be made in advance and my friends actually cook the turkey on Xmass eve (!) and serve with hot gravy.

Do whatever you like.

Have a merry Xmas xx

apostropheuse Tue 27-Nov-12 00:03:10 don't have to actually eat the sprouts, they just have to be there, like a kind of special guest at the table.

I thought everyone knew that.

Actually, my family are really strange. They would KILL for sprouts. They even pop some into a bowl, cover them in clingfilm and microwave them. Even when it's not Christmas.

I think they're changelings.

FlaminNoraImPregnantPanda Tue 27-Nov-12 00:04:54

But their vileness contaminates the air itself and the paper starts peeling off the walls. sad

BegoniaBampot Tue 27-Nov-12 00:06:21

I had a soggy sandwich once for Christmas Dinner, wasn't even a fancy one.

apostropheuse Tue 27-Nov-12 00:07:56

I just had thoughts of the Vicar of Dibley stuffing the sprouts into her mouth at Christmas.

I wonder if you've seen that Flamingnora. grin

FlaminNoraImPregnantPanda Tue 27-Nov-12 00:08:50

Nah, I don't like horror films.

brighthair Tue 27-Nov-12 00:09:50

I will be having an Indian banquet with parents. No cooking, no mess, vast amounts of curry and alcohol. Perfect grin

amiwrongornot Tue 27-Nov-12 00:11:31

Dont know but my mum suggested a turkey crown instead of a turkey and I was horrified!

Monty27 Tue 27-Nov-12 00:11:54

I lurve sprouts.


funchum8am Tue 27-Nov-12 00:13:42

louisiana if you can't drink buck's fizz in the quantities you'd like, just have one or two but with Cointreau in....

Icelollycraving Tue 27-Nov-12 09:17:51

It's a fancier roast though isn't it? Personally I do a nice roast but I like all the extra bits on Christmas Day. My biggest concern is staying at my sisters who isn't a big drinker. I am used to lashing into the snowballs/mulled wine & champagne before breakfast a little earlier than usual.

That has to be some of the best christmas advice I have ever heard funchum, does that actually taste nice? I bet it would, like kir royale but orange. So doing that this year...

MissCellania Tue 27-Nov-12 09:48:45

If its just a normal roast dinner you aren't doing it right.

imnotmymum Tue 27-Nov-12 09:51:24

I totally agree. We make a roast every Sunday, no big deal. It is just a roast dinner.

cozietoesie Tue 27-Nov-12 09:52:55

Coola's right.

It's the morning/afternoon/all day pre-dinner sherries.


Mrsjay Tue 27-Nov-12 09:56:03

My mum dusts off her gravy boat every christmas and her little jug for cream i think it came fromt he ark but she still does it, yes it is a roast dinner but folk like to make the effort take her gravy boat say thanks mum and then put some gravy in it. my mum is a great cook (that is why we go to her) but she still gets herself in a tizz about a turkey dinner confused

Mrsjay Tue 27-Nov-12 09:58:36

My friend had a chinese one year - her mother had an apopleptic fit

my friend has an indian takeaway every year her mother doesn't speak toher christmas day grin and her DC are adults now she has never cooked a christmas dinner she says she is happier that way.

NaiceDude Tue 27-Nov-12 10:02:52

I am SURELY not the only one who's clip-clipped smartly into the dining room after being up since 5am, all heels, curls and pinny trying to play Domestic Christmas Goddess in front of entire audience of Christmas guests hiding the fact I've snarfed 6 Espresso Martinis and chirruped "who's for Fucks Bizz?"

Do what you want.

We only have a normal dinner, alright the beef is a bigger joint then I would normally. And shock horror I cook it christmas eve.

We don't do pudding as no one wants it, so don't bother.

D0oinMeCleanin Tue 27-Nov-12 10:05:40

At least she is only interfering. My mum has stolen Christmas from me shock

Every year since we moved into this house everyone has come here for Christmas tea and I get to feel like a really real grown-up.

This year, apparently, everyone is going to her house angry She thought that is what we always do hmm

When I objected on the grounds that I can control my dogs better than can theirs and that is why we started doing it at my house she said "Yes, but you have the puppy now. He is uncontrollable (she might have a point there to be fair) and anyway if you come to my house all the dogs will be with you and they won't bother anyone else" hmm

So not only has she stolen Christmas from me, I still have to spend the evening keeping dogs under control, only these ones aren't trained.

YABU btw. It if it's 'just' a roast, you're doing it wrong. Saying that my first ever Christmas dinner was a lot less stressful than I expected although it was two hours late blush

cozietoesie Tue 27-Nov-12 10:06:15

No sherry trifle even, wheredidiputit?

Ephiny Tue 27-Nov-12 10:09:41

I don't see why it's not just a roast dinner. You don't have to do any extra fancy stuff unless you want to.

(though tbf I've never cooked a roast dinner, so no idea how hard it is. But people do it every week, how bad can it be?)

I would totally have pizza for Christmas dinner if it was up to me. Maybe with sprouts on to make it festive? <bleurgh>


Or Christmas pudding or Christmas cake 'cos it's yucky.

I will have some Ice cream if the Dc want something

FateLovesTheFearless Tue 27-Nov-12 10:12:38

It's a roast dinner! And in my case, chicken stuffed with haggis dumped on a decorated table with the mandatory tea lights and crackers with crap toys inside. Job done. smile

D0oinMeCleanin Tue 27-Nov-12 10:13:57

You do have to have extras Ephiny, it is illegal not to. It is not Christmas without honeyed parsnips and those little sausages with bacon and a choice of homemade stuffings.

steppemum Tue 27-Nov-12 10:15:17

I do love the sprouts. So do my mum and dad, rest of my family are split. dh will eat them for the rest of the year because they are healthy, but refuses them on christmas day, because he should be allowed to eat just what he likes on that day grin

I am cooking the christmas dinner for the first time with my mum and dad as guests eeek! I cooked it for 13-20 people every year when lived overseas, but it was up to us what we had, and you couldn't get most stuff anyway and no-one else was expecting bread sauce or sprouts etc.

Now I am doing it setting up against my mums expectations. Only thing in my favour is that they have moved this year and no longer have an aga, so we can't have the whole 'it tastes better in the aga, it's easier in the aga' talk

Gooeyhead Tue 27-Nov-12 10:16:12

My mum said to my dad yesterday "oh I've ordered the turkey crown" I butted in with "crown? Crown? You mean you're not having a proper turkey, I can't believe you're not having a proper turkey" - I don't even like turkey I have beef on my Christmas dinner!!!! hmm

FredFredGeorge Tue 27-Nov-12 10:17:47

It is just a normal roast dinner, if it's not you're not doing your roast dinners right.

Mrsjay Tue 27-Nov-12 10:19:51

My mum goes a bit weirdy when she is doing dinner Mum do you need a hand her head spins and she says I CAN MANAGE. I then retreat with the wine bottle and sit down terrified

Ephiny Tue 27-Nov-12 10:21:05

I just think it's all horrible personally (don't eat meat and can take or leave the rest). The dogs love those bacon-wrapped sausages though.

D0oinMeCleanin Tue 27-Nov-12 10:22:23

No-one is allowed in my kitchen when I am doing Christmas dinner, MrsJay.

Which is a problem because you have to walk through the kitchen to get to the toilet. Everyone knows they have to go to the loo before I start or hold it until I finish, only dd2 is brave enough to venture to the loo while I am doing dinner, even the dogs know to stay away.

Anniegetyourgun Tue 27-Nov-12 10:23:00

But the reason why you need all those extras, little sausages in bacon, stuffing, three kinds of sauces... is to disguise the fact that TURKEY DOESN'T TASTE OF ANYTHING. If you use a decent meat it would have enough flavour not to need zillions of things stacked with it or poured over it. All you have to do is make extra large portions and serve it on fancy plates with a sprig of holly in the middle of the table and there y'go, it's as special as you like.

Am rolling about over the sprout aversion. DS1, aged 5 or so, used to call them "the dreaded sprouts" grin I like sprouts, as long as they're neither boiled to death or so raw you hurt your teeth on 'em, but you shouldn't have to have them just because, well, people do. It's your Christmas and the idea is to spoil yourselves rotten with a lovely dinner, not force down all sorts of good-for-you-but-disgusting things like the rest of the year. Parsnips though... parsnips are evil.

Mrsjay Tue 27-Nov-12 10:24:07

Which is a problem because you have to walk through the kitchen to get to the toilet. Everyone knows they have to go to the loo before I start or hold it until I finish, only dd2 is brave enough to venture to the loo while I am doing dinner, even the dogs know to stay away.

you sound a scary lady grin

ByTheWay1 Tue 27-Nov-12 10:24:50

sauages in bacon you can buy cheaply in Lidl/Tesco frozen and ready for the oven

Veg you buy in little bags ready for microwave steaming

and paxo is the only true stuffing

peel some spuds day before...

buy a microwave pud + M+S lushhhhhhhh custard in a pot or a chocolate trifle

On day put meat in oven, with stuffing and sausages, put spuds on to boil a bit, then roast when meat is done and resting, get packets of veg ready in microwave - toss in butter, put in bottom of oven , make gravy, get jar of cranberry sauce out of fridge - pig out...

An easier roast dinner than normal for us because we buy most of it done "because it's Christmas"

Chandon Tue 27-Nov-12 10:25:21

Dude, I have so been there, with that casual Christmas Goddess thing.

Then I lost the plot a bit when PIL's dog who may not be told off as he is a sensitive dog, started stealing bites of my resting turkey.

I asked DH to control the dog, and PIL got into a strop and said:" ah, Chandon, you do not really like dogs do you?"

And after dinner PIL let the dog lick his plate ( my Wedgwood!...faints)

So OP, if you are doing a no nonsense roast with nasty bisto gravy in a pyrex jug, go for it! Much better than my faffing around drunk, tripping over that dog again, and wondering who I am doing it for, really.

This year I am going to be far far away on a tropical island!

cozietoesie Tue 27-Nov-12 10:25:58

I think you need to start a new tradition then, wheredidiputit. My family only eat the first two courses in order to justify getting at the sherry trifle! (And there's nothing better than raiding the fridge in the early hours of Boxing Day for sherry trifle remains.)


itsatrap Tue 27-Nov-12 10:26:21

We are breaking tradition this year and having Christmas Eve dinner, nice way to start the festive period,and no cooking on the day, plus dcs are too full of sweets and too busy with their new toys to want to sit down for an hour and eat!

D0oinMeCleanin Tue 27-Nov-12 10:27:40

Well it's perfect for me because then if anything goes wrong or is not timed right I can blame everyone else for not helping grin

Dd1 got into trouble last year because she answered the door and let the foster greyhound out while I was doing the gravy. I had to abandon the gravy to go and fetch the dog back shock

Ephiny Tue 27-Nov-12 10:27:44

Yes even BearDog will lick the gravy off the sprouts and leave them. And he has a very broad definition of 'food'.

Anniegetyourgun Tue 27-Nov-12 10:27:47

Ooh, ByTheWay1, I think you're going to get torn to shreds for that. Apparently it doesn't count as Christmas dinner unless you've suffered.

lottiegarbanzo Tue 27-Nov-12 10:28:15

You are going to place a Pyrex jug upon your dining table?!

Christmas Eve day is still associated with the smell of silver polish in my mind (as is the taste of said polish with the memory of first course consommé).

Slipping standards amongst you youngsters I say!

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Mrsjay Tue 27-Nov-12 10:31:56

Yes even BearDog will lick the gravy off the sprouts and leave them. And he has a very broad definition of 'food'

talking about dogs and food i read that dogs could gnaw on carrots so I got newdog carrots he licked it spat it out and looked as if to say what is this where is my shoes i normally chew

Maryz Tue 27-Nov-12 10:33:56


I insist on cooking the dinner, that way I can refuse to do the washing up.

valiumredhead Tue 27-Nov-12 10:35:59

It's just a roast dinner, you are right. No idea why people get into such a flap about it. Unless you can't cook - then it probably seems hard.

My grandmother does this!. She goes on and on about how I need a plan to cook for that many people (10 max) I dare not tell her that since I cook for 7 everyday and regularly for 10 anyway it doesnt really worry at all, I probably dont need a step by step plan. I sort of see why It worries her as she only really ever cooked christmas dinner for 3 but I like that she gets so excited so I join in.

I let her explain ...every... single ...year about the best way to make roast potatoes it like a family tradition now! She also likes colour schemes for the "christmas table" so every year this is the subject of many phone calls from her, I dont mind she is alone now and in sheltered accom so I hope the whole thing gives her a little joy!

eragon Tue 27-Nov-12 10:37:38

its NOT just a roast dinner!

the turkey is brought from the butcher, and I prep it considerably before it goes in oven. baste it carefully.
make sage and onion stuffing / chestnut stuffing / bread sauce from scratch.
I cook the potatos and pasnips in goose fat, and make gravy from giblet stock, there is NO way this is a normal sunday roast at all!

valiumredhead Tue 27-Nov-12 10:39:17

Sounds like a normal roast dinner to me eragon

D0oinMeCleanin Tue 27-Nov-12 10:39:32

I can cook. I actually don't find Christmas dinner that hard, I just need for everyone to stay out of the kitchen so they can't see me singing along to my ipod whilst sipping the spare bottle of Asti no-one else knows about. They need to think it's really, really hard work and worship me for the rest of day because of how good to them I am doing all that hard work in the kitchen grin

EIizaDay Tue 27-Nov-12 10:41:31

We go on holiday to get away from all this! Usually manage to have a pizza or a curry. Mmmmm

Icelollycraving Tue 27-Nov-12 10:42:32

Oh & Buck's Fizz with disarrano is dh drink of choice at Christmas big girls blouse

eragon Tue 27-Nov-12 10:46:24

valiumredhead, you eat like that every sunday?


p.s do have help with turkey as its about 25-28lbs and is heavy to get out of the oven. also use about 2 packs of butter, fresh sage and lots of streaky bacon.

For me it is different. I do extras that I don't normally/always do (pigs in blanket and roast potatoes).

For me I will be trying to cook it while the kids ate.trying to.get me to unpackage and set up and show them how to play random stuff.

We will at a dressed table with wine (adults) and schloer (kids).

The kids probably won't eat much cos they will be stuffed from sweets and chocolate but I will let them off.

Often but not always there will be extra guests increasing quantities, finding places to sit, some wanting to take over and do it their way or insist you do it but there way or there precious loved ones will 'never eat it' when in reality they love it/dont notice the difference.

I will be half drunk by the time it is served.

So it is different...but you can negate the pressure by having all veg prepped and in saucepans the night before. Pigs in blankets, rosaries etc. Trayed up the night before. A list of what time to put everything in oven/turn on etc. The day before (this last point is critical because of afforementioned wine).

So it is different but easily manageable.

valiumredhead Tue 27-Nov-12 10:53:05

eragon not every Sunday because we don't have a roast every Sunday but when we do I do the full works.

ChaoticismyLife Tue 27-Nov-12 10:54:25

I haven't had a roast dinner at christmas in years.

I do like the idea of a chinese though grin Pity there's no chance around here on christmas day sad

MildredIsMyAlterEgo Tue 27-Nov-12 11:04:24

I accidentally cooked my turkey upside down on Xmas eve one year I was pissed and shouldn't have been anywhere near an oven tbh after the initial shock and grin the next morning we were pleasantly surprised at how beautifully tender it was!

Spent Christmas in Poland last year - their dinner is wrong wrong wrong (buffet with lots of fish dishes, rollmop herrings, poppy seeds in everything, flaki (tripe soup shock ) washed down with tea which tastes like old socks. No wonder they drink lots of vodka.

imnotmymum Tue 27-Nov-12 11:55:42

Do people not have honeyed parsnips, pigs in blankets etc on a normal roast dinner. And nice crockery? Table is decorated of course but every Sunday our roast is special.

bradywasmyfavouriteking Tue 27-Nov-12 12:10:07

It IS just a roast dinner. Maybe a little bit fancier.

Which is why we are having a meze instead. Greek food all over the place, people allowed to take as long as they want.

Can't wait. Although I don't cook any of it, that's dhs job. smile

PatriciaHolm Tue 27-Nov-12 12:16:47

It is just a blinged up roast.

I don't routinely cook a roast for 17 people though...

fuzzpig Tue 27-Nov-12 12:19:22

It's just a roast with loads of extras... pigs in blankets, yorkies, stuffing, apple sauce, cranberry sauce, more types of veg... YUM

no sprouts though. and no xmas pud or mince pies or xmas cake either - don't like any of them. eton mess perhaps smile

Can't wait! We aren't actually having that on xmas day though, it'll be on a different day.

dinkystinky Tue 27-Nov-12 12:24:40

DH used to say it was just a roast dinner until he was charged with making it last year -now he swears he'll never make it again (he messed up timings, killed the potatoes and murdered an unsuspecting xmas pudding - rest of it was lovely though). I think he forgot to factor in the whole opening presents part...

valiumredhead Tue 27-Nov-12 12:28:52

Mildred my mum taught me to cook a turkey or a chicken upside down for the first 40 mins, and then flip back over ( or not in your case!) so the juices run down into the breast.

cozietoesie Tue 27-Nov-12 12:29:21

It's sounding to me as if most of AIBU is half cut by Xmas afternoon!


ChaoticismyLife Tue 27-Nov-12 12:41:39

It's sounding to me as if most of AIBU is half cut by Xmas afternoon!

I thought that was the law winkgrin

Tis the law Chaotic. Breakfast in my house is bucks fixx at christmas ( not for the DC of course)

bucks fixx???

i made a new drink up grin

ChaoticismyLife Tue 27-Nov-12 12:48:32


missmalteser Tue 27-Nov-12 14:06:47

So.. Whats wrong with turkey crown? I CANNOT fit a full turkey in my new oven this year so it's either that or turkey twizzlers!

steppemum Tue 27-Nov-12 14:39:40

we used to always go to my mums for christmas.
After years of christmas dinner stress, she hit on a plan
When each person arrives on christmas eve they are handed a cuo of tea/gin and tonic depending on time, then asked which job they would like.

So we arrived on christmas eve and sat around drinking, listening to carols and preparing sprouts, peeling potatoes etc.

My dad insists on making chestnut stuffing FROM SCRATCH every year. His prefered time to do this is about 9pm on christmas eve when mum wants him to be packing presents. So we end up peeling hot chestnuts and burning our hands.

Mind you there was the christmas when he knocked down the wall between the kitchen and the dining room on christmas eve.

That became the standard for last minute prep in our house.

cozietoesie Tue 27-Nov-12 14:42:10

....when he knocked down the wall between the kitchen and the dining room on christmas eve......

I'm surprised they're still married! (If they are.)

Turkey crown loads better than whole turkey. Less waste if it is a small family. I just get a boned and rolled turkey breast. Even less than a crown and so much easier to carve and there is only me and 3 dcs. Having said that we are relegated to chicken this year as I'm the only one that likes turkey and we have invited my mum. The kids are eccstatic at my dm is coming as it means they don't have to put up with turkey.

It's a roast dinner with extras (although beef/pork roast here, no turkey).

As long as people stay out of the kitchen while I cook, they are alllowed back to clear up while I sit down afterwards..grin

Usually works fine.

EuroShagmore Tue 27-Nov-12 15:00:09

My mum always used to get her knickers in a twist about cooking Xmas dinner. Mr Euro says it is just a roast dinner. So they have been coming to us ever since I moved in with him! It works for everyone.

Nancy66 Tue 27-Nov-12 15:04:49

I have to make DP 'guard' my mum otherwise she sneaks into the kitchen and turns the oven up as she thinks all meat needs to be cooked at the hottest temperature possible for at least 10 hours.

Maryz Tue 27-Nov-12 15:20:21

But if you only have a turkey crown, what do you feed teenage boys with? Mine get a drumstick each and it keeps them quiet for ages.

And you need the thighs for the turkey curry/risotto/sandwiches/soup, don't you?

Since the law says the only meat you can eat between December 25th and New Year's Eve is variations of turkey.

Teafairy Tue 27-Nov-12 15:44:41

I would love to do Xmas at ours, but tradition dictates we go to my Mums and it's not worth falling out over, so it'll be at theirs, on the plus mess to clean up and no fight in the supermarket for the last sprouts! smile

In fact because DH and I both have parents who have divorced and remarried we don't have to bother with food for the whole Xmas period becuase there are so many visits to make...Christmas Eve at one in-laws, having full Xmas lunch, Christmas day at my Mums, Boxing day at other in-laws and another full lunch and then the next day, long walk with most of the family and lunch at the pub. Works for us!

zukiecat Tue 27-Nov-12 16:16:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SugarplumMary Tue 27-Nov-12 16:33:14

Mine and DH grew up far apart geographically but we both have childhood memoirs of our parents always rowing about cooking Christmas dinner - plus they'd spend the whole morning ignoring us to do the arguing and the cooking.

Same parents are horrified we don’t cook a turkey – we’ve had everything else duck, goose, pork, beef, 3 bird roast, quail. We don’t really like turkey.

We also get frozen honey glazed parsnips and frozen goose fat roast potatoes and any other short cuts we see. Deserts like trifle and Christmas pudding are eaten at a cold buffet tea following my family tradition.

We spend the day enjoying TV, drinking and playing with the DC. I’m sure the DC will survive the trauma of not having a turkey. So I don't get the drama around it.

missmalteser Tue 27-Nov-12 20:07:17

Ah no-one we have for dinner is usually that fussed on the brown meat so if that's the only difference I'll give the crown a try!

Gumby Tue 27-Nov-12 20:16:57

One year I told my mid fifties colleagues I was cooking aunt bessies roasties

There was stunned silence!

steppemum Tue 27-Nov-12 21:23:30

cozie toes
they will celebrate their 50th next year!
Bit typical of them actually, I don't really remember that mum minded, she put everything in the fridge and went and wrapped presents. The oven and fridge were on the wall that remained. The next morning she just put the turkey in the oven and it became a family legend.
To be fair they were renovating an old house and the whole houese was a thinly disguised building site, and the long term plan was to loose the wall. He went to extend the table on Christmas eve and he couldn't because there wasn't enough room, so he took the wall down so we could all sit down for lunch!!

steppemum Tue 27-Nov-12 21:24:31

well, when I say she didn't mind, she wasn't exactly overjoyed about it1

marriedinwhite Tue 27-Nov-12 22:03:36

It's just a roast dinner. But you do need the gravy boat. Pyrex jug on the table with gravy in. Eeow.

SrirachaGirl Tue 27-Nov-12 22:13:50

I started getting the first of the Christmas Paranoia e-mails from DM today. I was reflecting on my feelings of irritation about this while walking the dogs this afternoon and I have realized that I am sometimes purposefully blasé /lackadaisical about very important festive details (ie; Pyrex jugs instead of gravy boats) because she gets into such a tizzy about everything. And because I know it will wind her up.

I have concluded that I am a BAD PERSON.

Freshbloodletticia Tue 27-Nov-12 22:14:59

Well it is just a roast dinner, but blinged up with nicer table settings. We all think turkey is tasteless and American so have had pork or goose for years and years. Nowadays I cook a large goose and a cock pheasant (for some white breast meat). It only needs 2 hours roasting. We have chestnut stuffing and sausagemeat stuffing, devils on horseback, roast spuds and panas (parsnips), sprouts and carrots. It means we don't have endless leftovers as well.
My lot will only eat xmas pud if it is home-made, i.e with lots of fruit, no nuts or peel and not black and burnt tasting. We always douse it with brandy and light it.
The best bit is sitting in the kitchen on Christmas Eve afternoon, listening to the Carol Service on Radio 4 from Kings and drinking sherry doing the prep, so that all we have to do on the day is put stuff in the oven at the right time.
My favourite is Boxing Day, when DH buggers off shooting and we have a girls' afternoon, DM, me, DDs 1&2 with a really old film, choccies and Baileys.

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